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Special Bonus Episode: Dr. Jenn Mann from 'Couples Therapy' focusing on love and romance! What we are doing right and wrong? · Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

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  Speaker 1: Advice Shot. Hello, Hello, welcome to the Naughty but Night Show.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Rob Shooter, your hosts. We're gonna have a special
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  Speaker 1: edition of the show today, a bonus edition. We don't
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  Speaker 1: normally do shows over the weekend, but they're getting so
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  Speaker 1: many people listening, we've got a very special one for
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  Speaker 1: you today. We've got a really brilliant guest, someone I've
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  Speaker 1: liked for a long time, Dr jen Man. You might
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  Speaker 1: know Dr Jen Mann from Couples Therapy or one of
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  Speaker 1: her wonderful books. Hey, you welcome to the show. Doc Well,
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  Speaker 1: thank you so much for having me. We're really excited
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  Speaker 1: about it's a love and romance. This is a celebrity show.
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  Speaker 1: We talked about lots of celebrities, but love and Romance
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  Speaker 1: is sort of part of that tour. And so we've
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  Speaker 1: got a ton of questions, some audience questions, some questions
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  Speaker 1: from me. So let's jump in. It's a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of party. Is a patient here, Dr Jen I know
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  Speaker 1: it sounds a little but that's how we do. What
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  Speaker 1: time is all? We say together, it's tea time? What
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  Speaker 1: time is it? Dr Jenn It's time you very much? So,
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  Speaker 1: how did allays begin for you? How did you get
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  Speaker 1: the gig on couples therapy. I think that's where most
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  Speaker 1: people will know you from. Um, most people know me
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  Speaker 1: from couples therapy. It kind of goes back a long
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  Speaker 1: way and um, but really kind of My career as
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  Speaker 1: a therapist started in in undergrad. I was a journalism major.
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  Speaker 1: I did a story about rape on college campus and yes,
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  Speaker 1: and I became really obsessed with the topic, and I
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  Speaker 1: volunteered to work for the Los Angeles Commission on Assaults
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  Speaker 1: against Women as a rape and Domestic Violence counselor. As
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  Speaker 1: soon as I started doing the therapy work, I realized
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  Speaker 1: I found my calling. I started grad school. While I
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  Speaker 1: was in grad school, in one of my is on
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  Speaker 1: eating disorders, my teacher was going to be on TV
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  Speaker 1: and she said, Hey, you're very outspoken. Would you come
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  Speaker 1: and talk about recovery issues? So I went, and I realized,
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  Speaker 1: instead of sitting in my office and helping one person,
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  Speaker 1: I could potentially help millions, And so it really became
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  Speaker 1: an interest in mine. I started doing show after show,
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  Speaker 1: and one day I get a call from none other
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  Speaker 1: than Harvey Levin. Yes, exactly that light when you picked
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  Speaker 1: up the phone, did you think I've done something wrong.
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  Speaker 1: And it was before it was before TNZ. It was
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  Speaker 1: it was long before t n Z. And Harvey called
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  Speaker 1: me and said, Hey, I'm doing this show called We
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  Speaker 1: Need Professional Help. We've cast a two therapists. We would
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  Speaker 1: love to audition you. I've seen you on TV. I
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  Speaker 1: really like your work, coming and and do it auditions.
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  Speaker 1: So I said, yeah, sure, So I came in. Long
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  Speaker 1: story short, I did this crazy audition, which is a
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  Speaker 1: whole other was crazy. Did you wear something crazy? What
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  Speaker 1: did you put on an accident door? No? It was
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  Speaker 1: nuts because the premise of the show was that, uh,
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  Speaker 1: two people who are having conflict in their life would
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  Speaker 1: come in and talk to a panel of therapist. At
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  Speaker 1: the end of the show, the therapists would tell you,
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  Speaker 1: like she, did you stay together or break up? And
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  Speaker 1: they would get some money that would either go towards
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  Speaker 1: like the divorce and or the move out for therapy exactly. So,
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  Speaker 1: the couple that came in was a woman who was
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  Speaker 1: an identical twin and her fiance. What happened was that
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  Speaker 1: the two of them were into some fun, kinky sacks.
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  Speaker 1: One day he gets a call from her and she says,
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  Speaker 1: meet me at such and such a motel. There's a
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  Speaker 1: key waiting for you. I'm going to blindfold you. We're
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  Speaker 1: going to have what fabulous. So he's all in and
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  Speaker 1: they've done things like this before he comes to the hotel,
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  Speaker 1: the rooms ark, she gets blindfolded, they have crazy sex.
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  Speaker 1: The blindfold is taken off and he looked and it
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  Speaker 1: is her twin sister. Yeah, that started your time. We
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  Speaker 1: should we should find these twins and send them a
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  Speaker 1: But the crazy that even crazier thing was that their
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  Speaker 1: conflict was that the woman who he was going to
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  Speaker 1: marry wanted to invite her twin sister to the wedding.
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  Speaker 1: We did not want her understand that good grief. So
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  Speaker 1: this makes couples therapy look actually quite easy. Compared to that,
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  Speaker 1: it was far more jerry than couples. I have a
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  Speaker 1: bit of a serious question. Please don't be offended by it,
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  Speaker 1: But sometimes doctors on TV get a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: a bad rap. What do you think about that? Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I see therapists recently on the Real Housewives, and it
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  Speaker 1: didn't feel quite genuine enough. Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: I do? I do um. Look, I'm not defended at all.
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  Speaker 1: I hear it all the time. I think that there
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  Speaker 1: are a lot of therapists who are on TV for
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  Speaker 1: the wrong reason, or who quite frankly, aren't doing a
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  Speaker 1: really great job. Sometimes people are not qualified, Sometimes they
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  Speaker 1: don't realize the seriousness of the issues. Sometimes they're pandering
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  Speaker 1: to the camera. You know. One of the things that
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  Speaker 1: I think has made a couples therapy incredibly special, and
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  Speaker 1: I think the audience really picks up on it, is
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  Speaker 1: that it's real. When I came in an audition for
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  Speaker 1: the show, the executive producer Damien Sullivan said to me
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  Speaker 1: and the creator, he said, the therapy is of the
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  Speaker 1: utmost important. I will never interrupt you, and I will
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  Speaker 1: always put the therapy first. And there were times, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there were times where other people came on set, executives
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  Speaker 1: and the people said like, hey, if interruptor put in
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  Speaker 1: your piece, I never warrant your piece. And he always said, no,
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  Speaker 1: you let her do her thing because that is what
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  Speaker 1: will help heal these people and ultimately will make for
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  Speaker 1: the best team, the best He was absolutely so. Before
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  Speaker 1: we jump into some relationship questions and some celebrity questions,
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  Speaker 1: I've got a point out to I'm such a fan
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  Speaker 1: of your mom and dance. There's such superstar. Your daddy
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  Speaker 1: is very mad and your mommy Cynthia. Now, if you've
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  Speaker 1: seen the musical God, if you've seen the music all beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: your mommy and daddy are in the musical. What was
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  Speaker 1: that like growing up with them? Well, you know, look,
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  Speaker 1: I think that the growing up in a creative household
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  Speaker 1: where my parents are songwriters, where we had we had
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  Speaker 1: singers coming in and out and create a people coming
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  Speaker 1: in out of the house. It made doing therapy with
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  Speaker 1: celebrities their second nature. And you know, my father, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know until I was already a therapist. I was
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  Speaker 1: actually named after my father's first therapist, Dr John Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So I came from a very therapy oriented household that
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  Speaker 1: was very aware of these things and about that with
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  Speaker 1: a lot of motions. Nobody yes, you know, and you
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  Speaker 1: know it didn't. The first time DMX walked into the
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  Speaker 1: room for therapy, I had never met him. To be honest,
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  Speaker 1: I hadn't even heard of him. I'm more of an
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  Speaker 1: I grew up with R and B wrapped, and I
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  Speaker 1: had heard all these things about him, and I was like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I hope I can help this guy. And he walked
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  Speaker 1: into the room, and there was a sense of familiarity
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  Speaker 1: to me, having grown up in the music business and
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  Speaker 1: recording studios, that as soon as you walked in the room,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, you're my peeps. I get you, like,
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  Speaker 1: I can't help you. Remember girl coming walking home and
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  Speaker 1: seeing sort of Carol King sitting in your living room.
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  Speaker 1: Carol King is like an aunt to me. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: she's like she's family to me, and she's really one
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  Speaker 1: of the warmest, most wonderful people you could ever ask for.
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  Speaker 1: Why are you doing this, jan Why are you working
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  Speaker 1: so hard? You must be so rich. Well, my parents are,
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  Speaker 1: and well they are very generous people. It's always been
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  Speaker 1: very important to me to have my own career, my
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  Speaker 1: own identity. You know. I kind of grew up a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people would say to me like, oh, you're
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  Speaker 1: very man and since the wild daughter, and I didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to be Barry Man and since the a wild staughter,
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  Speaker 1: I want to have my own identity. I was an
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  Speaker 1: elite level gymnast as on the national team for five years,
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  Speaker 1: performed in the eighty four Olympics. I went on to
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  Speaker 1: have my own career and that was really important to
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna listen to this podcast. They're so famous, famous people,
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  Speaker 1: and I hope they're like a jingle for the show. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: let's get into some some dating questions. What are the
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  Speaker 1: biggest mistakes people make when they're dating? That's a question
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  Speaker 1: with God. What are some of the biggest mistakes actual dating,
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  Speaker 1: like the early stage, probably the biggest. The biggest mistake
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  Speaker 1: people make is to not see what's in front of them.
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  Speaker 1: That in the first three dates typically are people are
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  Speaker 1: at their most honest. And I can't tell you how
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  Speaker 1: many people I have seen in my practice, even how
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  Speaker 1: many girlfriends have been on date and the guy says,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm really not commitment oriented, or oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know I've got a sex addiction, or you know
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  Speaker 1: I smoke weed all the time, and I you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm that you know that job. You know, well, I'm
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of always employed. But if you can pay
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  Speaker 1: for dinner, and people tell you who they are. But
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  Speaker 1: sometimes because of the chemistry, sometimes because we're just feeling it.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just you know that they're something about them
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  Speaker 1: feeds into our unconscious and our history, and we don't
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  Speaker 1: want to see what's in front of us. So, really,
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  Speaker 1: the number one mistake in the early stages is ignoring
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  Speaker 1: the warning signals, ignoring the red flax. Listen I as
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  Speaker 1: a gossip columnist, as celebrity column ist here, the most
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  Speaker 1: important thing celebrities say to me is the very first thing,
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  Speaker 1: in the very last. The middle's rubbish, but they always
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  Speaker 1: drop a bombshell before they leave. That's what they tell me.
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  Speaker 1: That happened an affair with Brad Petza or something. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: what total the first last? What's that about? Jim? Well,
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  Speaker 1: you know, we call that in my business, dropping a bomb,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a It's very common as a therapist that like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: we have this session. I'm walking someone to the door
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  Speaker 1: and then they say, oh, and by the way, my
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  Speaker 1: uncle molested me. See you next week. I'm like, whoa,
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  Speaker 1: what don't just happened? Like? And I think sometimes people
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  Speaker 1: do that because in therapy they're not necessarily ready to
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  Speaker 1: process it, but they can't hold it any longer. And
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  Speaker 1: I suspect with you, you have such a great way
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  Speaker 1: about you. You're very easy to talk to, and I
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  Speaker 1: think that people probably let their guard down, like he's
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  Speaker 1: oh he's a gossip columnist. Oh, I gotta keep my
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  Speaker 1: guard up. But after spending enough time charming, I'm sure
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  Speaker 1: they're just like, oh, I can't take it any longer.
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  Speaker 1: This is another good question. This is a really good question.
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  Speaker 1: A lots of my single girlfriends and my girlfriends asked this.
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  Speaker 1: How do you meet a good person? What are we doing?
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  Speaker 1: Should we be on the apps? Should we try to
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  Speaker 1: go to bars? Obviously it's different at the moment, But
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  Speaker 1: when we come back, how do we meet somebody who
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  Speaker 1: we like that has similar interests? What advice? Sure? Well,
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  Speaker 1: I believe that we should think of dating like a pie,
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  Speaker 1: and each slice of the pie should represent a different
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  Speaker 1: method of meeting people. Yes, absolutely be on the app,
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  Speaker 1: but don't only be on the app. Also tell your friends,
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  Speaker 1: tell your parents friends, Hey, i'd really like to meet someone.
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  Speaker 1: I'm really open to a setup. Here are three qualities
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  Speaker 1: that I'm looking for and a person. If you know
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  Speaker 1: anyone like this, please let me know. I think that
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  Speaker 1: you should be getting involved in organizations that have to
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  Speaker 1: do with things that you care about. If you are
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  Speaker 1: into politics, support a candidate, go and volunte here if
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  Speaker 1: you you know. Obviously, right now we can't do anything
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  Speaker 1: in person. Running club get into I like the theater,
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  Speaker 1: so I met a lot of my friends and Bruce,
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  Speaker 1: my husband in the theater. So do think exactly that
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  Speaker 1: you find people who have similar interests? Oh, this is
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  Speaker 1: a quite a naughty question for this show. We're trying
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  Speaker 1: to love that. It makes me blush talking about sex,
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  Speaker 1: and which is should you have sex on the first date? Doctor?
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  Speaker 1: J Jens a doctor? So this is medical advice everybody. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So well, here's the thing. The problem with having sex
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  Speaker 1: on the first date is that typically, and this is
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  Speaker 1: usually little more women than men, but it can be
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  Speaker 1: men as well, and same thing with same sex couples.
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  Speaker 1: That typically what happens if the sex is really good,
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  Speaker 1: we bond, We connect all of a sudden, someone who's
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  Speaker 1: not a really great appropriate partner could seem like the
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  Speaker 1: person we want to mate for life with. So I
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  Speaker 1: think that the problem is not about the sex or
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  Speaker 1: the judgment about the sex. The problem is that we
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  Speaker 1: tend to lose our clarity when it comes to assessing
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  Speaker 1: a partner. That said, I also think that when it's
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  Speaker 1: really meant to be, when two people are really right
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  Speaker 1: for each other, that's not going to mess it up
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  Speaker 1: and look in the show beautiful. You see that my
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  Speaker 1: mom has SE's with my dad on their first writing
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  Speaker 1: date and here they are, you know, almost sixty years later.
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  Speaker 1: What was that like watching that show? Was it wild
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  Speaker 1: for you sitting there? It was pretty wild? It was.
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  Speaker 1: It was really wild to see two people portray my
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  Speaker 1: parents and capture their essence so well. Did a good job.
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  Speaker 1: But I loved it. I would say that of it
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  Speaker 1: or more was true. And they really did capture the
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  Speaker 1: essence of my path, which was cool. This is a
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  Speaker 1: good question for our friend Sheila. Can you ever trust
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  Speaker 1: a cheetah again? And Oh that's a tough one, isn't it.
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  Speaker 1: Can you trust somebody that cheated on you? It's a
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  Speaker 1: great question and the answer is a little complicated. Somebody
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  Speaker 1: this is a big christ much for me. So here's
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  Speaker 1: the thing. If someone has a chronic pattern of cheating,
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  Speaker 1: then it's probably not going to change. If someone has
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  Speaker 1: screwed up one time, well maybe all that with the
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  Speaker 1: caveat and I talked about this a lot in my book,
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  Speaker 1: The Relationship Fix. That one of the biggest mistakes that
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  Speaker 1: people tend to make with this And I get these
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  Speaker 1: calls on the radio all the time, where someone calls
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  Speaker 1: and said, my girlfriend and my boyfriend, my wife, my husband,
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  Speaker 1: whoever it is, cheated and they came to me crying
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  Speaker 1: and said they're so sorry they did it, and I
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  Speaker 1: took them back and now I think they're cheating again.
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  Speaker 1: Like I can't understand this and what I The first
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  Speaker 1: question I always ask is, well, what was it that
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  Speaker 1: they told you that indicated that something was going to
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  Speaker 1: be different? What what behavior? What action did they take
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  Speaker 1: to ensure that it wouldn't happen again? And inevitably, the
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  Speaker 1: answer is always nothing. They cried, they said they were solid.
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  Speaker 1: That's not enough. That is not But I'm never going
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  Speaker 1: to be friends with them ever again, or I'm not
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  Speaker 1: going out with that terrible influence. So I've cut off
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  Speaker 1: pizza from my life. Blah blah blah exactly. I've gotten
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  Speaker 1: into therapy. I really looked at why I've sabotaged this relationship,
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  Speaker 1: and I've got myself into therapy to really make sure
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  Speaker 1: that I never do that again. I I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: be totally transparent with my social media. You have every passport.
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  Speaker 1: If you want me off Facebook, I will do that.
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  Speaker 1: What about if you said I'm going to buy the
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  Speaker 1: relationship fix. What about if you said that? Jen? I
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  Speaker 1: thought the relationship the relationship the relationship fix R and
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  Speaker 1: six up guide to from a communication connection intim see
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  Speaker 1: it solves all relationship problems for the question to be
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  Speaker 1: careful of the answer, considering how I make my living here, Jen,
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  Speaker 1: should you kiss and tell? I say absolutely, you should
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  Speaker 1: tell me? But should you only you? You should kiss
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  Speaker 1: and tell you all the time? You should tell, you
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  Speaker 1: should be told every detail of everybody should like what
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  Speaker 1: do you think about it? And I think that in
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  Speaker 1: order for sex between two people, you know, if we're
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  Speaker 1: not talking like a one night stand, but between two
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  Speaker 1: people to be really great, there has to be a
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  Speaker 1: level of trust and a lover or vulnerability. And you know,
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  Speaker 1: one of the things I talk about a lot. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's funny with the Relationship Fixed, there are six chapters,
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  Speaker 1: the last chapters about sex, and that's the chapter that
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  Speaker 1: everybody always wants to ask me about. And the thing
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  Speaker 1: about sex that people don't talk about that's really important
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  Speaker 1: and you I'm sure no, there's more than anyone with
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  Speaker 1: the secrets that you hear it. I know, I know
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  Speaker 1: I won't go I won't go to talking don't worry.
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  Speaker 1: Is that really great sex is not always politically correct.
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  Speaker 1: People say and do things and make sounds that aren't
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  Speaker 1: things that they want other people to know about. So
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  Speaker 1: in order for sex between two people to be great,
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  Speaker 1: both people have to know what happens in these four
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  Speaker 1: walls or wherever you are swinging off that chandelier the trappies.
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  Speaker 1: What happens between us stays between part of having great
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  Speaker 1: sex exactly, sh I loved your parents, but I think
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  Speaker 1: I love you more. You're Dr j How many books
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  Speaker 1: is this that you're on? So this is not your first?
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  Speaker 1: You're You're quite the author. Harry Potter. I've written two
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: parenting books, uh The Easy Guy to Raising Happy Company
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  Speaker 1: Kids and super Baby Twelve Ways to give you a
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: child a head start in the first three years, and then,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: of course The Relationship fixs Dr jensix scept Guide to
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Improving Communication, connection and Intimacy and you will love this.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I wrote a children's book with my mother, SimPE A
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Wild All Rock and Babies. Did you get along? Are
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: you a better collaborator than your father? What did mom say?
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  Speaker 1: My parents are amazing collaborators. It has definitely been ups
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: and downs for them of collaboration. But my mom and
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I wrote that book well feeding my daughters who had
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: very severe reflux and college, and we would be feeding
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: them and we would say, you know, like, oh my god,
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: what do we do before these babies. Then we would say,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: oh my god, there's such rock star. And then we
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  Speaker 1: wrote this book called Rock and Babies, and it's all
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  Speaker 1: about kind of you would appreciate it because it's about
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  Speaker 1: babies as celebrities. It's kind of like, you know, looking
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  Speaker 1: at baby says like, oh, you know, rocking babies have
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  Speaker 1: paparazzi and parents I taking pictures for the baby. So
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  Speaker 1: it was just kind of a metaphor. We were all
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  Speaker 1: checking out. Do you have a celebrity crush? Dr Jen
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  Speaker 1: come on my celebrity crushes. Eric Schiffer my my long
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  Speaker 1: term partner. You probably have seen him on TV a lot.
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  Speaker 1: He's a very handsome man. We've been to we've been
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  Speaker 1: together for seven years. He's we're not marrying, but whoever,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I mean, sometimes I were wearing it happened
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  Speaker 1: to only fit that finger, um, but he is just
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  Speaker 1: the sexiest. If you did get married, yes, wedding song
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  Speaker 1: b would it be one of your mom and dad.
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  Speaker 1: So would it be one of the competitors and I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't do that? Are you kidding me? No? I guess what.
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  Speaker 1: It would have to be one of my parents. But
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  Speaker 1: the thing is a lot of my parents are kind
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  Speaker 1: of break up tarn't you you wantn't love and feeling
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  Speaker 1: come again? Yeah? That It's like people that get married
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  Speaker 1: to the greatest love of all, they don't listen to
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  Speaker 1: the lyrics. It's about the bomb. I mean that wouldn't work,
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  Speaker 1: say Eric. You was such a delight. Thank you for
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: making time to do this. Everybody. Check out Dr Jen's
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  Speaker 1: new book, Relationship Fixed. We were going to gossip about celebrities,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: but you were much, much, much too interesting and hopefully
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: we answered some of your questions about your own love
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: and romance in your life. Once again, thank you, Dr Jenn,
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  Speaker 1: We say the word nice together. Okay, and remember all together. Now,
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: if you're going to be naughty. You've got to be nice.
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  Speaker 1: Take it off. It's not even nice with bro