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Discipline Your Thoughts: Train Your Brain to Focus and Achieve More · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Life is not fair, and that is the reality.
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  Speaker 2: Disease and accidents don't care if their victim is a
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  Speaker 2: good person.
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  Speaker 1: They have no reason, no justification, and no mercy and
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  Speaker 1: you cannot stop it. So what do you do.
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  Speaker 3: Life's not easy, It is not don't try to make
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  Speaker 3: it that way.
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  Speaker 4: Life's not fair. It never was, it isn't now, and
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  Speaker 4: it won't ever be.
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  Speaker 5: Keep going because there's people that don't want to see
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  Speaker 5: you succeed. Keep going because you want to prove those
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  Speaker 5: people wrong. You want to knock the naysayers down. You
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  Speaker 5: want to make them your footstool. I'm telling you to
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  Speaker 5: keep going when you face opposition. I'm telling you to
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  Speaker 5: keep going when you face adversity.
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  Speaker 6: People always ask me, like there's some magical response, how
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  Speaker 6: did you go from just coming from Liberty City selected
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  Speaker 6: up one of the top five speakers in the world.
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  Speaker 1: I was willing to work.
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  Speaker 6: Most people are not willing to do that because I
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  Speaker 6: was moving.
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  Speaker 4: I want you to write this out, keep it moving.
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  Speaker 4: One of the things.
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  Speaker 6: That you don't want to do is become comfortable with
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  Speaker 6: where you are. When you know in your heart of
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  Speaker 6: heart you can have more and you can do more,
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  Speaker 6: and there's a life.
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  Speaker 1: For you beyond survival. And I just fell that I
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  Speaker 1: could do more.
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  Speaker 2: I say, step up, be the one who people look
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  Speaker 2: to absorb the impact and the negativity no matter what
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  Speaker 2: is happening, no matter how hard the fight is, as
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  Speaker 2: long as you keep fighting, as you win, only surrender
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  Speaker 2: his defeat, only quitting, is the end this fight.
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  Speaker 4: Haul Sometimes you're gonna just said, you just don't have
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  Speaker 4: it anymore. You must reach your neck with your possibilities.
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  Speaker 1: It's time for us to rise.
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  Speaker 4: Again, the filed. You to rise up.
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  Speaker 1: And it's time for you to make that person up.
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  Speaker 6: It's time for you to start riding so that you
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  Speaker 6: can make it happened.
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  Speaker 3: Put that a lot wid on you.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm telling you rightness is here.
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  Speaker 2: You can be and do whatever you want and nobody
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  Speaker 2: can stop you.
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  Speaker 4: Nobody can stop you but you.
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  Speaker 3: M Dostoevsky said that in Notes from the Underground, the
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  Speaker 3: Great Great Book, and you know he said, I love this.
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  Speaker 3: It was an early critic crit criticism of the notion
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  Speaker 3: of a political utopia. He said, look, if you gave
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  Speaker 3: people everything they wanted, they had nothing to eat but
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  Speaker 3: cake and nothing to do but sit in warm pools
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  Speaker 3: and busy themselves with the continuation of the species. That
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  Speaker 3: was his lines that the first thing they would do,
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  Speaker 3: well maybe after the first week, was like go kind
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  Speaker 3: of half insane and smash everything up just so that
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  Speaker 3: something that they didn't expect would happen, so that they'd
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  Speaker 3: have something interesting to do. And it's so right, because
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  Speaker 3: you know, the utopia notion that if you just had
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  Speaker 3: all the material stuff you wanted that you'd you'd be, well,
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  Speaker 3: what would you be what would you do? Would you
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  Speaker 3: just sit in the couch and watch TV? I mean
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  Speaker 3: you'd be I don't know why, you'd be cutting yourself
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  Speaker 3: just for entertainment and no time flat, you know, And
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  Speaker 3: that's the sort of thing that people do. So we're
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  Speaker 3: not adapted for security and utopia. We're adapted for a
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  Speaker 3: certain amount of security, because you know, we are vulnerable,
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  Speaker 3: but most we want to have one foot out where
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  Speaker 3: we don't know what the hell is going on, because
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  Speaker 3: that's where you're alert and alive and tense and with it.
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  Speaker 3: And and you know, I think I believe this, and
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  Speaker 3: I believe it actually has something to do with the
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  Speaker 3: hemispheric structure of the physiology of your brain. Is because
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  Speaker 3: the right hemisphere looks roughly adapted to what you don't know,
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  Speaker 3: and the left hemisphere, and this is a very this
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  Speaker 3: is an oversimplification, but a useful one, is adapted to
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  Speaker 3: the world that you do know, and the right place
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  Speaker 3: for you to be is halfway between them, because that
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  Speaker 3: you can tell that. That's what's so cool, and this
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  Speaker 3: tells you that this is actually reality that's manifesting itself
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  Speaker 3: to you. You know, that sense of active engagement you
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  Speaker 3: have in the world when things are working well for you,
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  Speaker 3: you know where you're where you should be at the
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  Speaker 3: right time. You're alert and on top of things and engaged,
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  Speaker 3: and you don't have much of a sense of time,
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  Speaker 3: and the sense of the tragedy of life sort of recedes.
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  Speaker 3: And that's when you're That's when you've got one foot
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  Speaker 3: where it's where it's secure, and one foot out in
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  Speaker 3: the unknown, and your brain signals to you that you're
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  Speaker 3: in the right place by making what you're doing meaningful,
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  Speaker 3: and that sense of meaning is actually a neurophysiological signal.
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  Speaker 3: But you've got the forces of the cosmos property balanced
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  Speaker 3: in your being at that moment, and that's why it
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  Speaker 3: feels so good and now, well, what else could it
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  Speaker 3: possibly be. I mean, you know, our brain is capable
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  Speaker 3: of looking beyond our vision.
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  Speaker 4: That's what it's for.
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  Speaker 3: And that sense of engagement, there's no reason to assume
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  Speaker 3: that that's anything but a real signal, and you can
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  Speaker 3: reduce it. You could say, well, the problem with being
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  Speaker 3: where you know only is that you don't know everything,
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  Speaker 3: and that's going to be a problem in the future.
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  Speaker 3: And the problem with being where you know nothing is
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  Speaker 3: that's just too much man Like, you know, you go
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  Speaker 3: into panic mode and because anything can happen there and
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  Speaker 3: you can't handle it. So you've got to mediate between
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  Speaker 3: those two things. You want to be secure enough so
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  Speaker 3: that your physiology isn't revving out of control, and you
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  Speaker 3: want to be out there in the unknown enough so
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  Speaker 3: that you keep updating yourself constantly, constantly, constantly. And that's
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  Speaker 3: that's the place where information flow is maximized. And you
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  Speaker 3: know that because that's where you are when you're having
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  Speaker 3: a really interesting conversation with someone, or you're gripped by
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  Speaker 3: a book, or you're.
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  Speaker 4: Really into a movie, or maybe.
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  Speaker 3: Something that you do as a you know, apart from
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  Speaker 3: your work, or maybe even in your work, you're into it,
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  Speaker 3: and that's because you are in the right place at
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  Speaker 3: the right time, and your whole nervous system is signaling
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  Speaker 3: that to you. And I would say that's the sort
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  Speaker 3: of place that you should be all the time with.
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  Speaker 3: Of course you can't be, because no one's perfect, but
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  Speaker 3: it's that's that's the recreation of paradise on Earth. It's
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  Speaker 3: something like it because you are in the right place
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  Speaker 3: at the right time when that is happening.
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  Speaker 7: I think people's relationship with time. We talk about relationships
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  Speaker 7: with humans. Has your relationship with your kids, how your
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  Speaker 7: relationship with your wife, you know, your dad or your parents,
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  Speaker 7: but we never talk about a relationship with money and
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  Speaker 7: time and the relation your relationship with time is such
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  Speaker 7: a key component of your life because when you get
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  Speaker 7: caught in a routine, time goes so quickly. When you
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  Speaker 7: understand that there are maybe only twenty eight summers left
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  Speaker 7: and if you want to truly you know, get as
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  Speaker 7: much out of experientially, out of life, it just creates
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  Speaker 7: a tremendous amount of urgency. So and the fear goes
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  Speaker 7: away because you're like shit, man, nobody on the planet,
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  Speaker 7: like everybody, no one's going to be here in one
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  Speaker 7: hundred years? Do I care what he thinks that? Like,
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  Speaker 7: he's not even We're not going to be here in
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  Speaker 7: a hundred years, So why would't I take the chance?
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  Speaker 7: And it's just I don't know. It's just so I
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  Speaker 7: stopped writing it because I'm so aware of it. There's
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  Speaker 7: not a day that goes by when my head hits
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  Speaker 7: the pillow where I don't say to myself, like, you know,
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  Speaker 7: did I maximize the day? And am I am? And
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  Speaker 7: you know? Am I aware of my mortality? And it
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  Speaker 7: might sound depressing, but it's it's not for me. It's
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  Speaker 7: it's thrilling.
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  Speaker 1: It's thrilling.
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  Speaker 8: You have to make that decision for yourself. You have
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  Speaker 8: to decide, I'm going to pursue that path which is
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  Speaker 8: going to be really really hard and difficult and take many,
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  Speaker 8: many years and be a great sacrifice, or am I
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  Speaker 8: going to pursue being a great employee? Now, if you
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  Speaker 8: want to be a great employee, you got to remember something.
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  Speaker 8: You're hired to help someone else achieve their goals, which
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  Speaker 8: is cool.
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  Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with it.
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  Speaker 8: But if you don't understand that, you are not going
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  Speaker 8: to be a good employee. So you have a boss
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  Speaker 8: and they say, here's our goal for the quarter. You're
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  Speaker 8: going to help me get there. You work like hell
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  Speaker 8: to make sure that they achieve that goal. You're part
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  Speaker 8: of that team. That's very important, and.
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  Speaker 1: Then you keep moving up the ladder.
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  Speaker 8: And the great thing about that is if you're a
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  Speaker 8: good employee, you can also do very well. It's not
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  Speaker 8: the same as being an entrepreneur. You're never going to
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  Speaker 8: probably make as much money as you could have had
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  Speaker 8: you started the company, is my point. But you'll get
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  Speaker 8: the saturdays off, the Sundays hanging out, go to the
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  Speaker 8: soccer games with the kids, have a more balanced life.
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  Speaker 8: There is no balance in entrepreneurship.
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  Speaker 9: We talked about love and how to have love in
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  Speaker 9: a relationship, and one of the complaints that I hear,
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  Speaker 9: one of the issues that I hear in people's lives
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  Speaker 9: is that they don't feel loved, they don't experience being loved.
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  Speaker 4: They're not loved, and.
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  Speaker 9: They're then left with this kind of tail chasing exercise, okay,
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  Speaker 9: where they're on the lookout to love themselves first.
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  Speaker 4: I first must love myself, which is a.
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  Speaker 9: That that statement alone is very insular. It kind of
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  Speaker 9: turns you in the way all right, So which goes
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  Speaker 9: against the grain of love as an expression. All right,
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  Speaker 9: So love is an expression, but I have to love
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  Speaker 9: myself first. It doesn't quite add up. And you got
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  Speaker 9: to again, you got to check this out for yourself.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 9: So what we got to in my conversation with the
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  Speaker 9: client was the they themselves could see when they're being loved.
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  Speaker 9: That is, when someone in the life says I love you,
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  Speaker 9: that they experienced love and right away in the moment,
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  Speaker 9: it seems like I'm experiencing.
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  Speaker 4: You giving me love.
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  Speaker 9: If you look again, if you actually inspect again, you'll
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  Speaker 9: see in the moment that they said I love you,
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  Speaker 9: what you were actually present to.
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  Speaker 4: Was your own love for them.
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  Speaker 9: Now, if you again look in your life, you'll find
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  Speaker 9: those occasions when people have said I love you and
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  Speaker 9: you didn't experience anything. In fact, for some of you,
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  Speaker 9: if you've had issues with certain people in your life
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  Speaker 9: and they say I love you, you often experience resentment
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  Speaker 9: or upset or you know, you might not always say it,
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  Speaker 9: you'll experience it. That is, you can't experience that communication,
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  Speaker 9: You can't experience their love for you because you are
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  Speaker 9: not in the presence of your love for that person. Now,
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  Speaker 9: what does that tell you, Well, it tells you that
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  Speaker 9: love is a generated phenomenon. That is, it's something I'm doing.
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  Speaker 9: It also tells me that love is not an outside
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  Speaker 9: end phenomenon, but rather it's the other way around. It's
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  Speaker 9: inside out. That is, I have to be in the
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  Speaker 9: presence of my love for you to receive your love.
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  Speaker 4: So I want you to try it out this way.
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  Speaker 9: I want you to try out for yourself being in
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  Speaker 9: the presence of that is, getting yourself connected to your
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  Speaker 9: love for people, the people in your life, and especially
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  Speaker 9: in those moments when they say I love you. I
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  Speaker 9: want you to be present to it, like be there
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  Speaker 9: in the moment with it.