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Children or Soulmate? · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mama's. Dear mama's,
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  Speaker 1: what's better marrying it young and having kids with someone
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  Speaker 1: who's not your soulmate, or marrying your soulmate later and
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  Speaker 1: not having kids.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama's Terry Netteville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burlison. You know, I'm not sure I am in
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  Speaker 1: qualified in any way, shape or form to answer this
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  Speaker 1: question because I married my soulmate young and we had kids,
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  Speaker 1: So I get that whole thing. Yeah, and I can't go.
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  Speaker 1: You know, if you can marry your soulmate young, do that.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I did. It was good.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, do it. I'm looking right at her. She's our producer,
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  Speaker 3: she's our director.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not just saying that because I know you.
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  Speaker 3: Said that since I've known you, and you're very People
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  Speaker 3: that do that are very, very lucky. Oh yeah, And
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  Speaker 3: I okay, So I've submit this because I wanted. It's
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  Speaker 3: a really great question. Summer and I were on the
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  Speaker 3: phone one morning, my daughter, Summer, and she was sad
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  Speaker 3: that one of my friends was getting a divorce two children,
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  Speaker 3: and she was sad about it. And she was worried
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  Speaker 3: about her and she's and I said, you know what,
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  Speaker 3: she's okay. Honestly, some are for a lot that it's
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  Speaker 3: been hard for their whole married life. It's she didn't
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  Speaker 3: marry her soulmate, and she just knew that it was
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  Speaker 3: the right time. They were dating, at the right time,
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  Speaker 3: she was ready to have children. They had children and
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  Speaker 3: then and she said, well, that's interesting because then her
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  Speaker 3: sister married someone later in life at forty her soulmate.
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  Speaker 3: They travel, they do everything together, but she never had
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  Speaker 3: children because she was so older getting married. Right, So
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  Speaker 3: I said, but she's so happy because she's got her
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  Speaker 3: nieces and nephews and she loves that she gets to
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  Speaker 3: spend the rest of her life with her soulmate. And
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  Speaker 3: so as you were talking, I said, I said, that's
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  Speaker 3: really that's a really interesting question. And to ask people like,
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  Speaker 3: if you had the choice, would you marry somebody because
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  Speaker 3: it's the right time and you love them, and you
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  Speaker 3: know you can love them for the rest of your
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  Speaker 3: life and never look at anyone else and have a
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  Speaker 3: family or wait, no children, but you have the love
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  Speaker 3: of your life, your soulmate, no children.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it was funny because I asked the question to
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  Speaker 4: four different couples that I know separately. All of the
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  Speaker 4: women said my children, they without even a thought. All
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  Speaker 4: of the men said wife, right, my soulmate right. And
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  Speaker 4: one of my friends he said, she is everything to me.
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  Speaker 4: My kids will grow up, they will move on, but
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  Speaker 4: my remaining life will be with her. So marrying my
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  Speaker 4: soulmate is so much more important to me than having children. Yes,
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  Speaker 4: and that's how you feel.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's actually it's actually biblical in that when you
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  Speaker 1: get married, you make a covenant man to woman. You
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  Speaker 1: do not make a covenant to your children. Your children
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  Speaker 1: are going to go off and make a covenance to
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  Speaker 1: someone else, right, And your children are to leave their
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  Speaker 1: mother and father so that they can cleave to someone else. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: Well that means that whoever you're cleaving to, you need
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  Speaker 1: to be good with them, because your children are going
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  Speaker 1: to leave you because they're supposed to. And so yeah,
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  Speaker 1: from a biblical standpoint, you need to make sure that
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  Speaker 1: the person that you're with is the person you're with. Now,
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  Speaker 1: people go, okay, soulmate not soulmate. All this. I think
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  Speaker 1: there's also an argument to be made that even if
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  Speaker 1: maybe you're not soulmates to begin with that. If you
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  Speaker 1: approach marriage the right way, you become that.
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  Speaker 3: I think a lot of people do that.
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  Speaker 4: Well, there's a lot of arranged marriages, you know, where
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  Speaker 4: that very thing happens.
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  Speaker 1: So how are you treating this person who you thought
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  Speaker 1: was your soulmate orre you're this person who's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: with you forever? How are you treating them? You know,
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  Speaker 1: I get off on some of this advice to younger
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  Speaker 1: people here. I know this is the mama segment. Whatever
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  Speaker 1: I talk about. You know, women will think about the
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  Speaker 1: man that they want to marry. Oh, I want this
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  Speaker 1: kind of thing. They'll write a little of this. I
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  Speaker 1: want this, I want that, what this? This the kind
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  Speaker 1: of man that I want. I want a man that's
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  Speaker 1: upright AND's got a job, and boy's got to be handsome,
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  Speaker 1: and I want strong forearms, all.
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  Speaker 2: All right?
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  Speaker 1: And then I go, okay, great, what are you doing
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  Speaker 1: to become the type of person that man wants to marry?
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  Speaker 1: And same for guys. Guys. I want a woman who's,
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  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, he's got to be a knockout. I
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  Speaker 1: want a woman who's great with raising kids. I want
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  Speaker 1: a woman who's smart and she thinks sound funny. Okay, great,
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  Speaker 1: what are you doing to be worth that woman?
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  Speaker 3: It reminds me of there's a woman that said on
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  Speaker 3: a podcast it was before Charlie dying. They were talking
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  Speaker 3: about how you know, wow, how can you attract a
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  Speaker 3: Charlie Kirk? How can you attract someone like that? And
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  Speaker 3: the other person said, you have to be in Erica Kirk. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: and that is that's the truth of it.
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  Speaker 1: That's the truth of it.
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  Speaker 3: And I think that you're so right about You know,
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  Speaker 3: a lot of people in their late twenties, it's who
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  Speaker 3: they're dating and dating three or four years you think, oh,
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  Speaker 3: this has to be mine, got to be a person,
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  Speaker 3: and it can be. I think you're very lucky if
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  Speaker 3: you get to be with your soulmate, y'all raise your
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  Speaker 3: children together. And but it's love, is uh. It's such
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  Speaker 3: a great thing because you can you can choose to
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  Speaker 3: be with someone in love them with every fiver of
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  Speaker 3: your being. And but it is interesting to me the
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  Speaker 3: different dynamic between what women say and what women what
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  Speaker 3: men say when asked that question. Very interesting to me
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  Speaker 3: because women are more inclined to want children because they
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  Speaker 3: have that innate.
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  Speaker 1: Get yeah, but women, you need to understand your kids
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  Speaker 1: are supposed to leave you, your husband's not right. You
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  Speaker 1: need to be planning your life that way. If you
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  Speaker 1: Brothers and thank you so much, Thank you,