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Modest Girlfriends · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Do your mamas
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  Speaker 1: do men have the right to demand their girlfriends dressed
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  Speaker 1: modestly in public?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's.
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  Speaker 3: Mama, mama, she said, and joining us now our American
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  Speaker 3: mama Terry Nederville.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So there was this, Uh, I think this was
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  Speaker 1: an article. Man, I don't remember what I saw. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: I saw it. Well, you know what, there was a
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  Speaker 1: It was a former spokesperson for the White House. He
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  Speaker 1: was on a show and he said, guys, here's a
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  Speaker 1: guaranteed way to find out if the woman you're dating
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  Speaker 1: is going to be a good match or not. If
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  Speaker 1: you're dating a girl, tell her, hey, I want you
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  Speaker 1: to dress more modestly when we're out in public because
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  Speaker 1: you're my girlfriend. And if she says no, then dumper.
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  Speaker 1: So do men have the right to tell their girlfriends
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  Speaker 1: how to dress?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, they have the right to give their opinion,
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  Speaker 2: you know. But I think that there are so many
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  Speaker 2: different ways that he can handle this. He really likes
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  Speaker 2: the girl. First of all, if you ask somebody out,
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  Speaker 2: don't you kind of already know how they dress?
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  Speaker 1: How they dress? I mean, certainly their Instagram profile will
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  Speaker 1: probably try.
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  Speaker 2: Yah, you can go and do a little digging. And
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  Speaker 2: but the way he said, what was his name, Charles something,
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  Speaker 2: But anyway, he was saying that let them loose. If
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  Speaker 2: they're not going to abide by your wishes, cut them loose,
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  Speaker 2: which to him, I would say, exactly, good riddance. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: if you're going to cut them loose because they've said
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  Speaker 2: I like the way I dress and I'm not going
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  Speaker 2: to change, then fine, it's not compatible. It's not a match.
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  Speaker 1: Here was my problem with it. Biblically, he has no
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  Speaker 1: right to demand that right because he hasn't gotten down
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  Speaker 1: on his knee, he hasn't pulled out a ring, he
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  Speaker 1: hasn't said, hey, let's get married. So for him to
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  Speaker 1: expect just to demand something of the Bible doesn't tell
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  Speaker 1: women you have to obey all men, right, right, So
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  Speaker 1: unless you've at least gone through, unless you've actually taken
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  Speaker 1: some steps to say, all right, here's where I am,
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  Speaker 1: unless you've put all your cards on the table, why
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  Speaker 1: do you think you have the right to tell some
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  Speaker 1: other human beings that's how they can point how they live.
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  Speaker 2: Because if Kevin, if my husband has an opinion about something,
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  Speaker 2: that will matter to.
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  Speaker 1: Me, right, because he's your husband.
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  Speaker 2: Right, we'll talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: But if I were to say, hey, Terry, you'd be like, okay, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, go pound sand.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't matter now.
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  Speaker 2: Really and truly it's there's also a way so if
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  Speaker 2: somebody is dating somebody and they're like, gosh, they you know,
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  Speaker 2: because there's a difference between dressing sexy and dressing slutty,
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  Speaker 2: and if he feels like it's the latter, there are
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  Speaker 2: ways so when she dresses nice, he can say there's
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  Speaker 2: nothing sexier to me when I see you walk in
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  Speaker 2: with that you know, adorable sun dress or whatever, right,
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  Speaker 2: because I am of the mindset that the sexiest women
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  Speaker 2: that walk into a room, they're covered, they're covered, and
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  Speaker 2: they wear their outfit well. But there's an air, there's
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  Speaker 2: a confidence about certain women when they walk into a room, right,
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  Speaker 2: and they just just ooze like classy sexiness. If I
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  Speaker 2: can say, let's.
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  Speaker 1: Be careful because because if you're oozing, that may not
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  Speaker 1: be that may not be the right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's perfect, But it would be like saying, like,
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  Speaker 2: here's something I will say to Kevin. You know, if
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  Speaker 2: we're driving down the road and I see a man.
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  Speaker 2: This guy his gut out, he's mowing the yard, shirt naked,
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  Speaker 2: has his gut sticking out. I might say, oh, I
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  Speaker 2: hate that. I don't like it when when men over
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  Speaker 2: a certain age do that. That's kind of given him
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  Speaker 2: the hint there's ways to do this. But the way
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  Speaker 2: this was resented, Yeah, I thought that's not going to
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  Speaker 2: go overwell with a lot of women.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's a great way to stay single.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a great way to say.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, if you're trying to stay single, I think
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  Speaker 1: that's that's a great way. Now there is this. This
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  Speaker 1: is such a thing as going Okay, if I don't
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  Speaker 1: want a girlfriend who is dressing a certain way, then
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  Speaker 1: don't ask someone who dresses that way out.
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  Speaker 2: That's the whole point is, don't you already know where
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  Speaker 2: you're getting? And let's say that that did attract him
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  Speaker 2: in the beginning. Yeah, and now all of a sudden
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  Speaker 2: they're dating and he's jealous because she walks in with
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  Speaker 2: that same attire and is getting attention from.
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  Speaker 1: The other the other guys.
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  Speaker 3: Look.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, my husband's of a different mindset. He doesn't mind
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  Speaker 2: that if if other men's lookin me attractive. He doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mind that. He's never if anything, I like flowy stuff,
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  Speaker 2: and he'll say, fine, you know, find stuff that are
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  Speaker 2: more fitting. But I like the flowy sundress. I don't
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  Speaker 2: care about that. And like I said before, when you
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  Speaker 2: exude confidence, that is so much more. But if you're
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  Speaker 2: on a day and it's a new day and he says, hey,
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  Speaker 2: you might be somebody that I'm a potential mate for me,
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  Speaker 2: and the only problem is I don't like the way
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  Speaker 2: you dress. Yeah, that is such a clear sign for
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  Speaker 2: me to I'm out out, I'm out.
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  Speaker 1: But here's here's part of the I think the other
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  Speaker 1: asked me. You mentioned Kevin. So you and Kevin have
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  Speaker 1: been married for thirty thirty years. It's not like Kevin's going, Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I got a lot of competition right, right, Like he
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  Speaker 1: knows where you guys stand from a relationship standpoint. And
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  Speaker 1: so if you guys walk into a room and there
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  Speaker 1: are a whole bunch of guys that look at you,
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  Speaker 1: Kevin's going to be like, sucks to be all you guys.
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  Speaker 2: Right, But you know what I mean. But if I
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  Speaker 2: was one that would walk in there dress letting you know,
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  Speaker 2: you know, side boobs or under boobs or had Daisy
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  Speaker 2: Duke shorts. That would be a problem for him. I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't do that. I mean, that's not even my style,
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  Speaker 2: but that that would be a problem he would because
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  Speaker 2: it would.
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  Speaker 3: Look like that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking for that attention.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, you know, I mean I get that point too.
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  Speaker 1: and click on the ass the Mama's button. Terry Nediville,
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  Speaker 1: thank you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you,