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Game Episode: What’s Really Going On Here? with Dr. Mandy Diamond · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

• 0:00
  A
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  woman
• 0:00
  says
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  she
• 0:01
  just
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  can't
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  focus
• 0:02
  anymore.
• 0:03
  She
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  starts,
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  you
• 0:04
  know,
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  starting
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  everything,
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  finishing
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  nothing.
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  But
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  she's
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  also
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  somehow
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  busier
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  than
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  ever.
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  Ever
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  busier
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  than
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  ever.
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  So
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  what's
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  really
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  going
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  on?
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  That
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  is
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  ADHD
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  best
• 0:17
  description.
• 0:19
  She's
• 0:19
  more
• 0:20
  on
• 0:20
  edge
• 0:20
  than
• 0:21
  she
• 0:21
  used
• 0:21
  to
• 0:21
  be.
• 0:22
  Snappy,
• 0:22
  overstimulated,
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  and
• 0:24
  then
• 0:24
  immediately
• 0:25
  feels
• 0:25
  bad
• 0:25
  about
• 0:26
  it.
• 0:26
  A
• 0:27
  perimenopause.
• 0:29
  Like
• 0:30
  your
• 0:31
  brain
• 0:31
  is
• 0:31
  short
• 0:32
  circuiting
• 0:32
  and
• 0:32
  your
• 0:33
  body
• 0:33
  is
• 0:33
  betraying
• 0:34
  you.
• 0:34
  Like,
• 0:34
  there
• 0:35
  are
• 0:35
  so
• 0:35
  many
• 0:35
  times
• 0:35
  I
• 0:36
  have
• 0:36
  literally
• 0:36
  said
• 0:36
  that.
• 0:37
  Like,
• 0:37
  who
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  am
• 0:38
  I
• 0:38
  right
• 0:38
  now?
• 0:39
  Where,
• 0:40
  where
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  did
• 0:40
  that
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  come
• 0:41
  from?
• 0:41
  Like,
• 0:42
  that
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  is
• 0:42
  so
• 0:42
  not
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  me.
• 0:44
  You're
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  burnt
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  out,
• 0:45
  you're
• 0:46
  exhausted,
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  and
• 0:47
  so
• 0:47
  it's
• 0:48
  easier
• 0:48
  to
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  put
• 0:49
  these
• 0:49
  things
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  off
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  for
• 0:50
  later.
• 0:51
  She's
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  like
• 0:52
  trying
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  to
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  cope
• 0:53
  by
• 0:54
  staying
• 0:54
  in
• 0:54
  a
• 0:54
  level
• 0:55
  of
• 0:55
  denial.
• 1:00
  Before
• 1:01
  we
• 1:01
  end
• 1:01
  every
• 1:02
  the
• 1:02
  iconic
• 1:02
  midlife
• 1:03
  episode,
• 1:03
  we
• 1:03
  like
• 1:04
  to
• 1:04
  play
• 1:04
  a
• 1:04
  game
• 1:05
  if
• 1:05
  you
• 1:05
  are
• 1:05
  up
• 1:06
  for
• 1:06
  it.
• 1:06
  Yes.
• 1:07
  All
• 1:07
  right.
• 1:08
  Okay.
• 1:10
  So
• 1:10
  this
• 1:10
  game
• 1:11
  is
• 1:11
  called
• 1:12
  let's
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  Be
• 1:13
  Honest
• 1:13
  for
• 1:14
  a
• 1:14
  Second.
• 1:15
  So
• 1:16
  what
• 1:16
  I'm
• 1:16
  going
• 1:16
  to
• 1:17
  do
• 1:17
  is
• 1:17
  I'm
• 1:17
  going
• 1:17
  to
• 1:17
  throw
• 1:17
  out
• 1:17
  a
• 1:18
  few
• 1:18
  scenarios
• 1:19
  to
• 1:19
  you.
• 1:20
  So.
• 1:20
  So
• 1:20
  they
• 1:20
  might
• 1:21
  feel
• 1:21
  a
• 1:21
  little
• 1:21
  normal
• 1:22
  on
• 1:22
  the
• 1:22
  surface,
• 1:22
  but
• 1:23
  I
• 1:23
  want
• 1:23
  you
• 1:23
  to
• 1:23
  tell
• 1:23
  me
• 1:24
  what
• 1:24
  is
• 1:24
  exactly
• 1:25
  going
• 1:26
  on.
• 1:27
  Here
• 1:27
  we
• 1:28
  go.
• 1:28
  A
• 1:29
  woman
• 1:29
  says
• 1:30
  she
• 1:30
  just
• 1:30
  can't
• 1:31
  focus
• 1:31
  anymore.
• 1:32
  She
• 1:32
  starts,
• 1:33
  you
• 1:33
  know,
• 1:33
  starting
• 1:34
  everything,
• 1:34
  finishing
• 1:35
  nothing.
• 1:36
  But
• 1:36
  she's
• 1:36
  also
• 1:37
  somehow
• 1:37
  busier
• 1:38
  than
• 1:38
  ever.
• 1:39
  Ever
• 1:39
  Busier
• 1:40
  than
• 1:40
  ever.
• 1:41
  So
• 1:41
  what's
• 1:42
  really
• 1:42
  going
• 1:42
  on?
• 1:43
  ADHD.
• 1:46
  Straight
• 1:46
  away,
• 1:47
  like
• 1:47
  you
• 1:47
  can
• 1:47
  tell.
• 1:47
  Right
• 1:48
  off
• 1:48
  the
• 1:48
  bat,
• 1:48
  away,
• 1:49
  like
• 1:50
  adhd.
• 1:51
  Everything
• 1:52
  that
• 1:52
  you
• 1:52
  said,
• 1:53
  that
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  is
• 1:53
  the
• 1:53
  first
• 1:54
  thing
• 1:54
  that
• 1:54
  would
• 1:54
  pop
• 1:55
  into
• 1:55
  my
• 1:55
  head.
• 1:56
  Like
• 1:57
  overwhelmed,
• 1:59
  like
• 1:59
  just
• 2:00
  that
• 2:00
  is
• 2:01
  ADHD
• 2:03
  best
• 2:03
  description.
• 2:05
  Like,
• 2:06
  that
• 2:06
  you
• 2:06
  could
• 2:06
  come
• 2:07
  up
• 2:07
  with
• 2:07
  with
• 2:07
  a
• 2:08
  midlife,
• 2:08
  like,
• 2:09
  woman.
• 2:10
  Okay.
• 2:10
  In
• 2:10
  a
• 2:10
  nutshell.
• 2:11
  Nailed
• 2:12
  it.
• 2:12
  Okay.
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  Number
• 2:15
  two,
• 2:15
  she's
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  successful,
• 2:16
  disciplined,
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  shows
• 2:17
  up
• 2:17
  for
• 2:18
  everyone.
• 2:18
  And
• 2:18
  then
• 2:19
  every
• 2:19
  night
• 2:19
  is
• 2:19
  like,
• 2:20
  don't
• 2:20
  talk
• 2:21
  to
• 2:21
  me,
• 2:21
  I
• 2:21
  need
• 2:22
  my
• 2:22
  wine.
• 2:23
  What
• 2:23
  is
• 2:23
  really
• 2:23
  going
• 2:24
  on?
• 2:25
  That
• 2:25
  would
• 2:25
  be
• 2:25
  me
• 2:26
  minus
• 2:26
  the
• 2:26
  wine.
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  Totally.
• 2:29
  Like
• 2:30
  a
• 2:30
  no
• 2:30
  talk
• 2:30
  zone
• 2:31
  after
• 2:31
  work.
• 2:32
  Yeah.
• 2:33
  Like,
• 2:35
  like
• 2:35
  you're
• 2:35
  overly
• 2:36
  stimulated.
• 2:37
  Like
• 2:38
  you
• 2:38
  have
• 2:38
  been.
• 2:39
  You've
• 2:39
  given
• 2:40
  everything
• 2:40
  that
• 2:41
  you
• 2:41
  have
• 2:42
  to
• 2:42
  give
• 2:43
  to
• 2:43
  work,
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  others,
• 2:45
  to
• 2:45
  the
• 2:46
  household
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  or
• 2:47
  the
• 2:47
  kids.
• 2:48
  And
• 2:48
  at
• 2:49
  the
• 2:49
  end
• 2:49
  of
• 2:49
  the
• 2:49
  day,
• 2:49
  you
• 2:49
  are
• 2:50
  overwhelmed
• 2:51
  and
• 2:51
  you
• 2:51
  are
• 2:51
  just
• 2:52
  overly
• 2:52
  stimulated
• 2:53
  and
• 2:53
  tapped
• 2:54
  out.
• 2:54
  You
• 2:54
  are
• 2:55
  on
• 2:55
  empty.
• 2:56
  Yes.
• 2:56
  Overstimulation
• 2:57
  is
• 2:58
  a
• 2:58
  real
• 2:58
  thing.
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  Like
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  absolutely
• 3:01
  100%.
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  Especially
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  if
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  you've
• 3:03
  got
• 3:03
  like
• 3:04
  kids
• 3:04
  running
• 3:04
  around.
• 3:04
  They're
• 3:05
  like
• 3:05
  grabbing
• 3:06
  you,
• 3:06
  touching
• 3:06
  you.
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  Like
• 3:07
  the
• 3:07
  husband,
• 3:08
  the
• 3:08
  partner,
• 3:09
  you
• 3:09
  know,
• 3:09
  it's
• 3:09
  whole
• 3:10
  thing.
• 3:10
  Yeah.
• 3:11
  Like
• 3:11
  you
• 3:12
  don't
• 3:12
  want
• 3:12
  anyone
• 3:13
  touching
• 3:14
  you,
• 3:14
  talking
• 3:15
  to
• 3:15
  you.
• 3:16
  Like
• 3:16
  you
• 3:17
  are.
• 3:17
  You're
• 3:17
  just
• 3:18
  done.
• 3:18
  You're
• 3:18
  tapped
• 3:19
  out.
• 3:19
  Just
• 3:20
  want
• 3:20
  quiet
• 3:21
  and
• 3:21
  alone
• 3:22
  time.
• 3:23
  Yes.
• 3:23
  Oh,
• 3:23
  my
• 3:24
  God.
• 3:24
  I
• 3:24
  value
• 3:24
  my
• 3:24
  quiet
• 3:25
  and
• 3:25
  alone
• 3:25
  time
• 3:26
  so
• 3:26
  much
• 3:26
  more
• 3:26
  now.
• 3:27
  Yes.
• 3:28
  Right.
• 3:29
  Absolutely.
• 3:30
  I
• 3:30
  love
• 3:30
  it.
• 3:31
  Yes.
• 3:31
  A
• 3:31
  non
• 3:32
  negotiable.
• 3:33
  She's
• 3:34
  more
• 3:34
  on
• 3:35
  edge
• 3:35
  than
• 3:35
  she
• 3:35
  used
• 3:36
  to
• 3:36
  be.
• 3:36
  Snappy,
• 3:37
  overstimulated,
• 3:38
  and
• 3:38
  then
• 3:39
  immediately
• 3:39
  feels
• 3:40
  bad
• 3:40
  about
• 3:40
  it.
• 3:41
  What
• 3:41
  is
• 3:41
  really
• 3:42
  going
• 3:42
  on?
• 3:43
  Perimenopause,
• 3:45
  like,
• 3:47
  totally
• 3:48
  to
• 3:48
  the
• 3:49
  t.
• 3:50
  Menopause.
• 3:51
  Like,
• 3:51
  you
• 3:52
  are
• 3:53
  just,
• 3:54
  like,
• 3:54
  your
• 3:54
  brain
• 3:55
  is
• 3:55
  short
• 3:55
  circuiting
• 3:56
  and
• 3:56
  your
• 3:56
  body
• 3:57
  is
• 3:57
  betraying
• 3:57
  you.
• 3:58
  Like,
• 3:58
  that
• 3:59
  is
• 3:59
  like,
• 3:59
  we're
• 4:00
  in
• 4:00
  a
• 4:00
  lot.
• 4:01
  It's
• 4:01
  like
• 4:01
  that
• 4:02
  rage,
• 4:03
  that
• 4:03
  irritability,
• 4:04
  it
• 4:05
  comes
• 4:05
  out
• 4:05
  of
• 4:05
  nowhere
• 4:06
  and
• 4:06
  you're
• 4:07
  like,
• 4:07
  oh,
• 4:07
  my
• 4:07
  God,
• 4:08
  where
• 4:08
  did
• 4:08
  that.
• 4:09
  I'm
• 4:09
  like,
• 4:09
  who
• 4:09
  am
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  right
• 4:10
  now?
• 4:11
  Like,
• 4:11
  there
• 4:11
  are
• 4:11
  so
• 4:11
  many
• 4:12
  times
• 4:12
  I
• 4:12
  have
• 4:12
  literally
• 4:13
  said
• 4:13
  that.
• 4:13
  Like,
• 4:13
  who
• 4:14
  am
• 4:14
  I
• 4:14
  right
• 4:14
  now?
• 4:15
  Where.
• 4:16
  Where
• 4:16
  did
• 4:17
  that
• 4:17
  come
• 4:17
  from?
• 4:18
  Like,
• 4:18
  that
• 4:18
  is
• 4:19
  so
• 4:19
  not
• 4:19
  me.
• 4:20
  And
• 4:20
  then
• 4:20
  you
• 4:20
  feel
• 4:21
  guilty
• 4:21
  because
• 4:22
  there's
• 4:22
  this
• 4:22
  part
• 4:22
  of,
• 4:23
  like.
• 4:24
  Like,
• 4:24
  yeah,
• 4:25
  sorry,
• 4:26
  like,
• 4:29
  happened
• 4:29
  there,
• 4:29
  but
• 4:30
  you,
• 4:30
  like,
• 4:30
  poke
• 4:31
  the
• 4:31
  bear.
• 4:32
  Just
• 4:32
  saying
• 4:33
  good
• 4:33
  morning.
• 4:34
  I.
• 4:34
  I
• 4:35
  don't
• 4:35
  know.
• 4:36
  Like,
• 4:36
  yeah,
• 4:37
  yeah.
• 4:38
  No,
• 4:38
  I
• 4:38
  think,
• 4:38
  like,
• 4:38
  the
• 4:39
  husbands
• 4:39
  and
• 4:39
  the
• 4:39
  partners
• 4:40
  need
• 4:40
  their
• 4:40
  own
• 4:40
  support
• 4:41
  group
• 4:41
  because
• 4:41
  it's.
• 4:42
  It's
• 4:42
  tricky
• 4:43
  for
• 4:43
  them.
• 4:43
  You
• 4:44
  know,
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  feel
• 4:44
  like
• 4:45
  they.
• 4:45
  They
• 4:45
  also
• 4:46
  step
• 4:46
  into
• 4:46
  it
• 4:47
  sometimes,
• 4:47
  and
• 4:47
  then
• 4:48
  they're
• 4:48
  like,
• 4:48
  oh,
• 4:48
  my
• 4:49
  God,
• 4:49
  what
• 4:49
  did
• 4:49
  I
• 4:49
  get
• 4:50
  myself
• 4:50
  into?
• 4:51
  Yeah.
• 4:51
  And
• 4:52
  then
• 4:52
  if
• 4:52
  they
• 4:52
  make
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  comment
• 4:53
  of,
• 4:53
  like,
• 4:53
  what's
• 4:53
  going
• 4:54
  on
• 4:54
  with
• 4:54
  you?
• 4:54
  You're
• 4:55
  acting
• 4:55
  crazy.
• 4:56
  I'm
• 4:56
  like,
• 4:57
  like,
• 4:58
  you're
• 4:58
  gonna
• 4:58
  be
• 4:59
  the.
• 4:59
  On
• 4:59
  the
• 4:59
  next
• 5:00
  episode
• 5:00
  of
• 5:00
  Dateline
• 5:01
  if
• 5:01
  you
• 5:01
  say
• 5:02
  that.
• 5:02
  Like,
• 5:03
  totally.
• 5:05
  Like,
• 5:05
  I
• 5:05
  would
• 5:06
  reel
• 5:06
  that
• 5:06
  back
• 5:07
  in.
• 5:07
  Like,
• 5:09
  totally.
• 5:10
  You
• 5:10
  know,
• 5:10
  it's
• 5:10
  funny.
• 5:11
  I've
• 5:11
  caught
• 5:11
  my
• 5:11
  husband
• 5:12
  walking
• 5:12
  backwards
• 5:13
  out
• 5:13
  of
• 5:13
  a
• 5:13
  room.
• 5:13
  If
• 5:14
  he
• 5:14
  thinks
• 5:14
  that
• 5:14
  I'm
• 5:15
  not
• 5:15
  in
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  best
• 5:16
  place,
• 5:16
  he
• 5:17
  will,
• 5:17
  like,
• 5:17
  tiptoe
• 5:18
  silently
• 5:18
  back
• 5:18
  out
• 5:19
  of
• 5:19
  the
• 5:19
  room
• 5:19
  because
• 5:19
  he's
• 5:19
  like,
• 5:19
  I'm
• 5:20
  not
• 5:20
  even
• 5:20
  getting
• 5:20
  into
• 5:20
  that.
• 5:22
  Mine
• 5:23
  has
• 5:24
  too.
• 5:27
  I'm
• 5:27
  like,
• 5:28
  yes,
• 5:28
  you
• 5:29
  should
• 5:29
  do
• 5:30
  that
• 5:30
  right
• 5:30
  now.
• 5:31
  Yes,
• 5:31
  yes,
• 5:31
  that
• 5:32
  would
• 5:32
  be
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  most
• 5:32
  prudent
• 5:33
  decision
• 5:33
  for
• 5:34
  you.
• 5:35
  That's
• 5:36
  for
• 5:36
  you
• 5:36
  and
• 5:37
  for
• 5:37
  me
• 5:37
  right
• 5:38
  now.
• 5:38
  Totally.
• 5:39
  Totally.
• 5:41
  The
• 5:41
  next
• 5:42
  one
• 5:42
  is,
• 5:42
  she's
• 5:43
  exhausted
• 5:43
  all
• 5:44
  day,
• 5:44
  but
• 5:44
  the
• 5:44
  second
• 5:45
  she
• 5:45
  finally
• 5:45
  sits
• 5:46
  down
• 5:46
  to
• 5:46
  relax,
• 5:46
  her
• 5:47
  brain's
• 5:47
  like,
• 5:48
  now
• 5:48
  we
• 5:48
  spiral.
• 5:49
  What
• 5:49
  is
• 5:50
  really
• 5:50
  going
• 5:50
  on?
• 5:51
  Anxiety.
• 5:52
  Like,
• 5:53
  you've
• 5:53
  been
• 5:53
  so
• 5:53
  distracted
• 5:55
  all
• 5:55
  day
• 5:56
  by
• 5:56
  everything
• 5:57
  on
• 5:57
  the
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  do
• 5:58
  list
• 5:58
  or
• 5:58
  whatever.
• 5:59
  So
• 5:59
  anxiety
• 6:00
  has,
• 6:00
  like,
• 6:01
  kind
• 6:01
  of
• 6:01
  been
• 6:01
  on
• 6:01
  pause.
• 6:02
  You've
• 6:03
  been
• 6:03
  so
• 6:03
  busy.
• 6:04
  There's
• 6:04
  all,
• 6:05
  like,
• 6:06
  the
• 6:06
  daily
• 6:06
  distractions.
• 6:07
  And
• 6:07
  then
• 6:07
  at
• 6:08
  the
• 6:08
  end
• 6:08
  of
• 6:08
  the
• 6:08
  night
• 6:08
  when
• 6:09
  things
• 6:09
  calm
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  kind
• 6:10
  of
• 6:10
  quiet,
• 6:11
  then
• 6:12
  anxiety
• 6:12
  hits
• 6:13
  play,
• 6:14
  and
• 6:14
  it's
• 6:14
  like,
• 6:15
  that
• 6:15
  Part
• 6:15
  of.
• 6:15
  There's
• 6:16
  not
• 6:16
  all
• 6:16
  the
• 6:16
  distractions.
• 6:17
  And
• 6:18
  so
• 6:18
  then
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  brain's
• 6:19
  like,
• 6:19
  oh,
• 6:19
  now's
• 6:20
  the
• 6:20
  time.
• 6:20
  Let's
• 6:21
  go
• 6:21
  through
• 6:21
  all
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  what
• 6:22
  ifs
• 6:22
  and
• 6:23
  what
• 6:23
  do
• 6:23
  we
• 6:23
  need
• 6:23
  to
• 6:23
  do?
• 6:24
  And
• 6:24
  think
• 6:24
  about
• 6:24
  this
• 6:25
  and
• 6:25
  think
• 6:25
  about
• 6:25
  this.
• 6:26
  So
• 6:26
  that's
• 6:27
  anxiety.
• 6:28
  Interesting.
• 6:29
  Okay.
• 6:30
  Yeah.
• 6:30
  Because
• 6:30
  it
• 6:30
  does
• 6:30
  seem
• 6:31
  to
• 6:31
  rear
• 6:31
  its
• 6:31
  head
• 6:31
  more
• 6:32
  at
• 6:32
  night,
• 6:32
  I
• 6:33
  find.
• 6:33
  Or
• 6:33
  when
• 6:34
  you're
• 6:34
  about
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  go
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  sleep.
• 6:35
  Oh,
• 6:35
  yeah.
• 6:36
  About
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  go
• 6:36
  to
• 6:37
  sleep
• 6:37
  is
• 6:37
  like,
• 6:38
  then
• 6:39
  it's
• 6:40
  really
• 6:40
  goes
• 6:41
  where
• 6:41
  it's
• 6:42
  like,
• 6:42
  okay,
• 6:43
  let's
• 6:43
  go
• 6:43
  through
• 6:43
  everything
• 6:44
  and
• 6:45
  about
• 6:45
  this
• 6:45
  and
• 6:45
  think
• 6:46
  about
• 6:46
  this
• 6:46
  and
• 6:46
  kind
• 6:47
  of
• 6:47
  do
• 6:47
  this
• 6:47
  and
• 6:48
  what
• 6:48
  about
• 6:48
  this
• 6:49
  and.
• 6:49
  Or
• 6:49
  the
• 6:50
  3am
• 6:51
  when
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  wake
• 6:51
  up
• 6:52
  and
• 6:52
  then
• 6:53
  the
• 6:53
  brain
• 6:53
  turns
• 6:53
  on.
• 6:54
  You're
• 6:54
  like,
• 6:55
  no,
• 6:56
  now
• 6:56
  it's
• 6:57
  not
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  time.
• 6:57
  We
• 6:58
  don't
• 6:58
  need
• 6:58
  to
• 6:59
  think
• 6:59
  about
• 6:59
  all
• 7:00
  this.
• 7:00
  But
• 7:00
  yeah,
• 7:01
  that's.
• 7:02
  That's
• 7:02
  anxiety.
• 7:03
  Oh
• 7:03
  my.
• 7:04
  So
• 7:04
  what.
• 7:04
  What
• 7:04
  should
• 7:04
  somebody
• 7:05
  do
• 7:05
  if
• 7:05
  they're
• 7:05
  experiencing
• 7:06
  a
• 7:06
  moment
• 7:06
  like
• 7:07
  that,
• 7:07
  let's
• 7:07
  say
• 7:07
  at
• 7:07
  3am
• 7:08
  Is
• 7:08
  there
• 7:09
  a
• 7:09
  way
• 7:09
  to
• 7:09
  like,
• 7:09
  kind
• 7:09
  of
• 7:09
  talk
• 7:10
  yourself
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  your
• 7:10
  head,
• 7:11
  like
• 7:11
  off.
• 7:11
  Off
• 7:12
  that
• 7:12
  cliff?
• 7:13
  Absolutely.
• 7:14
  And
• 7:14
  keep
• 7:15
  like
• 7:15
  a
• 7:16
  pad
• 7:16
  of
• 7:16
  paper
• 7:17
  and
• 7:17
  a
• 7:17
  pencil
• 7:18
  next
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  bed?
• 7:19
  There's
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  part
• 7:20
  of
• 7:20
  being
• 7:20
  able
• 7:21
  to
• 7:21
  say,
• 7:21
  like,
• 7:21
  if
• 7:22
  there's
• 7:22
  a
• 7:22
  few
• 7:22
  thoughts
• 7:23
  that
• 7:23
  just
• 7:23
  kind
• 7:23
  of
• 7:23
  keep
• 7:23
  going,
• 7:24
  you
• 7:24
  know
• 7:24
  what?
• 7:24
  I'm
• 7:24
  going
• 7:24
  to
• 7:25
  write
• 7:25
  them
• 7:25
  down
• 7:26
  because
• 7:27
  I
• 7:27
  can't
• 7:27
  solve
• 7:27
  them
• 7:28
  right
• 7:28
  now.
• 7:28
  I'll
• 7:29
  tackle
• 7:29
  this
• 7:29
  in
• 7:29
  the
• 7:30
  morning.
• 7:30
  And
• 7:31
  it's
• 7:31
  almost
• 7:31
  like
• 7:31
  same
• 7:32
  where
• 7:32
  if
• 7:32
  you're
• 7:33
  going
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  grocery
• 7:34
  store
• 7:34
  and
• 7:35
  you
• 7:35
  don't
• 7:36
  make
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  list,
• 7:36
  but
• 7:37
  it's
• 7:37
  in
• 7:37
  your
• 7:37
  head,
• 7:37
  you're
• 7:37
  going
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  keep
• 7:38
  repeating
• 7:38
  it
• 7:39
  over
• 7:39
  and
• 7:39
  over,
• 7:39
  like,
• 7:39
  oh,
• 7:40
  I'm
• 7:40
  supposed
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  get
• 7:40
  apples,
• 7:41
  oranges,
• 7:41
  bananas,
• 7:42
  da
• 7:42
  da
• 7:42
  da
• 7:42
  da
• 7:42
  d.
• 7:43
  Or
• 7:43
  you
• 7:44
  write
• 7:44
  it
• 7:44
  down.
• 7:44
  You
• 7:45
  don't
• 7:45
  think
• 7:45
  about
• 7:45
  it
• 7:45
  again
• 7:46
  because
• 7:46
  it's
• 7:46
  on
• 7:46
  paper.
• 7:47
  You
• 7:47
  don't
• 7:48
  need
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  go
• 7:48
  back
• 7:48
  over
• 7:49
  it
• 7:49
  in
• 7:49
  your
• 7:49
  head.
• 7:50
  So
• 7:50
  one
• 7:50
  of
• 7:50
  those
• 7:50
  things
• 7:51
  is
• 7:51
  like,
• 7:51
  whatever's
• 7:52
  popping
• 7:52
  in
• 7:52
  at
• 7:53
  3am
• 7:53
  you
• 7:54
  write
• 7:54
  it
• 7:54
  down
• 7:54
  and
• 7:55
  then
• 7:55
  calm
• 7:55
  yourself.
• 7:56
  Now
• 7:56
  is
• 7:56
  not
• 7:57
  the
• 7:57
  time
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  think
• 7:58
  about
• 7:58
  this.
• 7:58
  There's
• 7:59
  nothing
• 7:59
  I
• 7:59
  can
• 7:59
  do
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  solve
• 8:00
  it.
• 8:01
  It's
• 8:01
  3am
• 8:02
  I
• 8:03
  need
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  be
• 8:03
  able
• 8:03
  to
• 8:04
  calm
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  go
• 8:04
  back
• 8:04
  to
• 8:05
  sleep.
• 8:05
  I've
• 8:06
  got
• 8:06
  it
• 8:06
  over
• 8:06
  here
• 8:07
  and
• 8:07
  I'll
• 8:07
  handle
• 8:07
  it
• 8:08
  in
• 8:08
  the
• 8:08
  morning.
• 8:09
  You're
• 8:09
  almost
• 8:09
  like
• 8:09
  compartmentalizing
• 8:10
  it.
• 8:11
  Right?
• 8:11
  Like
• 8:11
  kind
• 8:11
  of
• 8:11
  putting
• 8:12
  it
• 8:12
  over
• 8:12
  there.
• 8:14
  That's
• 8:15
  a
• 8:15
  great
• 8:15
  technique.
• 8:16
  Okay.
• 8:17
  She's
• 8:17
  incredibly
• 8:18
  competent
• 8:18
  at
• 8:18
  work,
• 8:19
  and
• 8:19
  then
• 8:19
  in
• 8:19
  her
• 8:19
  personal
• 8:20
  life,
• 8:20
  it's
• 8:21
  just
• 8:21
  chaos.
• 8:22
  What
• 8:22
  is
• 8:22
  going
• 8:22
  on?
• 8:23
  That
• 8:23
  could
• 8:24
  be
• 8:24
  a
• 8:24
  little
• 8:24
  bit
• 8:24
  of
• 8:24
  perimenopause,
• 8:25
  ADHD
• 8:26
  and
• 8:27
  anxiety.
• 8:28
  The
• 8:28
  three
• 8:29
  fur
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  three
• 8:30
  fur.
• 8:31
  And
• 8:31
  it's
• 8:32
  the
• 8:32
  part
• 8:32
  of,
• 8:33
  like,
• 8:33
  being
• 8:34
  a
• 8:34
  woman,
• 8:35
  you
• 8:35
  know,
• 8:35
  it's
• 8:36
  that
• 8:36
  kind
• 8:36
  of
• 8:36
  part
• 8:37
  of.
• 8:37
  At
• 8:37
  work,
• 8:38
  you
• 8:38
  are
• 8:38
  in
• 8:39
  your
• 8:39
  routine,
• 8:39
  you're
• 8:40
  organized,
• 8:41
  you've
• 8:41
  got
• 8:42
  everything.
• 8:42
  And
• 8:43
  then
• 8:43
  over
• 8:43
  here,
• 8:44
  you're
• 8:44
  burnt
• 8:44
  out,
• 8:45
  you're
• 8:46
  exhausted.
• 8:47
  And
• 8:47
  so
• 8:47
  it's
• 8:48
  easier
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  put
• 8:49
  these
• 8:49
  things
• 8:49
  off
• 8:50
  for
• 8:50
  later
• 8:51
  because
• 8:51
  this
• 8:52
  work
• 8:52
  piece,
• 8:52
  you
• 8:53
  can't.
• 8:53
  Like
• 8:54
  that
• 8:54
  is.
• 8:55
  You
• 8:55
  have
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  do
• 8:56
  that.
• 8:56
  And
• 8:56
  this
• 8:57
  over
• 8:57
  here,
• 8:57
  you're
• 8:58
  just
• 8:58
  kind
• 8:58
  of
• 8:58
  so
• 8:58
  overwhelmed.
• 8:59
  You're
• 8:59
  like,
• 8:59
  I'll
• 9:00
  handle
• 9:00
  it
• 9:00
  later.
• 9:01
  Ah,
• 9:02
  okay.
• 9:02
  Gosh,
• 9:03
  that's
• 9:03
  like
• 9:03
  when
• 9:03
  you
• 9:04
  really
• 9:04
  win
• 9:04
  the
• 9:04
  lottery,
• 9:04
  huh?
• 9:06
  When
• 9:06
  you
• 9:06
  get
• 9:06
  all
• 9:06
  three.
• 9:08
  Exactly.
• 9:10
  Okay.
• 9:11
  She
• 9:11
  says
• 9:11
  she's
• 9:12
  unwinding
• 9:12
  at
• 9:12
  night,
• 9:13
  but
• 9:13
  if
• 9:13
  she's
• 9:13
  honest,
• 9:14
  she's
• 9:14
  also
• 9:14
  avoiding
• 9:15
  a
• 9:15
  few
• 9:15
  things.
• 9:16
  She
• 9:16
  probably
• 9:16
  doesn't
• 9:17
  want
• 9:17
  to
• 9:17
  look
• 9:17
  at
• 9:18
  what's
• 9:18
  really
• 9:18
  going
• 9:18
  on.
• 9:19
  She's
• 9:20
  like,
• 9:20
  trying
• 9:21
  to
• 9:21
  cope
• 9:21
  by
• 9:22
  staying
• 9:22
  in
• 9:22
  a
• 9:23
  level
• 9:23
  of
• 9:23
  denial.
• 9:26
  Is
• 9:26
  that
• 9:26
  like
• 9:26
  avoidance?
• 9:28
  Sort
• 9:28
  of.
• 9:29
  Okay.
• 9:29
  Yeah.
• 9:30
  It's
• 9:30
  like
• 9:31
  you're
• 9:31
  avoiding
• 9:33
  what's
• 9:34
  there.
• 9:34
  You're
• 9:34
  denying
• 9:35
  kind
• 9:35
  of
• 9:36
  what's
• 9:36
  there,
• 9:37
  because
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  reality
• 9:39
  of
• 9:39
  looking
• 9:39
  at
• 9:39
  it,
• 9:40
  it
• 9:40
  can
• 9:40
  feel
• 9:40
  like
• 9:41
  it's
• 9:41
  too
• 9:41
  much
• 9:42
  or
• 9:42
  you
• 9:42
  can
• 9:42
  feel
• 9:43
  helpless
• 9:43
  or
• 9:43
  just
• 9:44
  stuck.
• 9:45
  And
• 9:45
  so
• 9:45
  it's
• 9:46
  like,
• 9:46
  I
• 9:46
  am
• 9:46
  just
• 9:46
  going
• 9:46
  to
• 9:47
  avoid
• 9:47
  this.
• 9:47
  I'm
• 9:48
  going
• 9:48
  to
• 9:48
  deny
• 9:48
  it.
• 9:48
  I'm
• 9:49
  going
• 9:49
  to
• 9:49
  kind
• 9:49
  of
• 9:49
  pretend
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  it's
• 9:50
  not
• 9:50
  there
• 9:50
  because
• 9:51
  I'm
• 9:51
  not
• 9:51
  ready
• 9:52
  to
• 9:53
  actually
• 9:53
  deal
• 9:54
  with
• 9:54
  that
• 9:54
  or.
• 9:55
  Or
• 9:55
  have
• 9:55
  to
• 9:55
  figure
• 9:56
  out
• 9:56
  coping
• 9:57
  skills
• 9:57
  and
• 9:57
  working
• 9:58
  through
• 9:58
  it.
• 9:59
  Mm.
• 10:00
  Okay.
• 10:00
  Okay.
• 10:02
  She.
• 10:02
  Okay,
• 10:03
  here
• 10:03
  she
• 10:03
  is.
• 10:04
  Here
• 10:04
  she
• 10:04
  is.
• 10:05
  She
• 10:05
  is
• 10:06
  doing
• 10:06
  all
• 10:06
  the
• 10:07
  right
• 10:07
  things,
• 10:08
  working
• 10:08
  out,
• 10:08
  eating
• 10:09
  well,
• 10:09
  showing
• 10:09
  up.
• 10:10
  And
• 10:10
  still
• 10:11
  feels
• 10:11
  kind
• 10:11
  of
• 10:11
  flat.
• 10:12
  What's
• 10:12
  really
• 10:13
  going
• 10:13
  on?
• 10:13
  Bit
• 10:14
  of
• 10:14
  depression,
• 10:16
  like
• 10:16
  the
• 10:17
  peace.
• 10:17
  And
• 10:17
  that's
• 10:18
  kind
• 10:18
  of
• 10:19
  part
• 10:19
  of
• 10:19
  that
• 10:19
  whole,
• 10:20
  like,
• 10:20
  midlife
• 10:22
  perimenopause
• 10:23
  nonsense
• 10:24
  of
• 10:25
  like,
• 10:26
  doing
• 10:27
  everything
• 10:27
  that
• 10:28
  you're
• 10:28
  supposed
• 10:28
  to
• 10:29
  do
• 10:29
  and
• 10:30
  everything
• 10:30
  that
• 10:30
  they
• 10:31
  tell
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  to
• 10:31
  do.
• 10:32
  Eat
• 10:32
  right,
• 10:32
  exercise,
• 10:33
  self
• 10:33
  care,
• 10:34
  blah,
• 10:34
  blah.
• 10:34
  But
• 10:35
  there's
• 10:35
  this
• 10:35
  piece
• 10:36
  where
• 10:36
  it
• 10:36
  should
• 10:36
  just
• 10:37
  kind
• 10:37
  of
• 10:37
  blow
• 10:39
  like
• 10:39
  a
• 10:40
  sadness.
• 10:40
  Like
• 10:41
  just
• 10:41
  this
• 10:41
  low
• 10:42
  level
• 10:43
  kind
• 10:43
  of
• 10:43
  sadness.
• 10:44
  That's
• 10:45
  depression.
• 10:46
  So
• 10:47
  how
• 10:47
  do
• 10:47
  you
• 10:47
  treat
• 10:47
  something
• 10:48
  like
• 10:48
  that
• 10:48
  in
• 10:49
  midlife?
• 10:49
  Is
• 10:49
  it
• 10:49
  with
• 10:50
  medication
• 10:51
  or
• 10:52
  with
• 10:52
  therapy?
• 10:52
  I'm
• 10:53
  sure.
• 10:53
  But
• 10:53
  what.
• 10:54
  Are
• 10:54
  there
• 10:54
  any
• 10:54
  other
• 10:54
  solutions
• 10:55
  for
• 10:55
  women?
• 10:56
  Supplements,
• 10:58
  medication,
• 10:59
  having
• 11:00
  someone
• 11:00
  to
• 11:01
  talk
• 11:01
  to?
• 11:01
  Therapy
• 11:02
  is
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  best
• 11:03
  because
• 11:03
  a
• 11:03
  lot
• 11:03
  of
• 11:03
  times
• 11:04
  it's
• 11:04
  really
• 11:04
  looking
• 11:05
  at
• 11:05
  how
• 11:06
  much
• 11:06
  of
• 11:06
  this
• 11:06
  is
• 11:07
  like,
• 11:07
  you're
• 11:08
  emotionally
• 11:09
  tapped
• 11:09
  out,
• 11:10
  you're
• 11:11
  kind
• 11:11
  of
• 11:11
  burnt
• 11:12
  out,
• 11:13
  or
• 11:13
  there's
• 11:14
  other
• 11:14
  issues
• 11:15
  that
• 11:15
  you
• 11:15
  have
• 11:16
  avoided
• 11:17
  for
• 11:17
  so
• 11:17
  long
• 11:19
  that
• 11:19
  you
• 11:20
  can
• 11:20
  no
• 11:20
  longer
• 11:20
  avoid
• 11:21
  because
• 11:21
  it's.
• 11:22
  They're
• 11:22
  there
• 11:22
  and
• 11:23
  it's
• 11:23
  causing
• 11:24
  this
• 11:24
  Just
• 11:24
  like
• 11:25
  low
• 11:26
  level
• 11:27
  pure
• 11:28
  sadness
• 11:29
  where
• 11:30
  things
• 11:30
  just
• 11:30
  don't
• 11:31
  feel
• 11:32
  exactly
• 11:33
  right.
• 11:34
  And
• 11:34
  it's
• 11:34
  usually
• 11:35
  a
• 11:35
  couple
• 11:35
  things
• 11:36
  that
• 11:36
  you
• 11:36
  kind
• 11:36
  of
• 11:36
  need
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  change
• 11:37
  and
• 11:37
  you
• 11:38
  need
• 11:38
  to
• 11:38
  face
• 11:39
  and
• 11:39
  you
• 11:39
  need
• 11:39
  to
• 11:40
  work
• 11:40
  through.
• 11:40
  And
• 11:41
  so
• 11:41
  therapy
• 11:41
  is
• 11:42
  the
• 11:42
  best
• 11:42
  option
• 11:43
  for
• 11:43
  that.
• 11:44
  Huge
• 11:44
  fan
• 11:44
  of
• 11:45
  therapy.
• 11:45
  I
• 11:45
  mean,
• 11:45
  it's,
• 11:46
  it
• 11:46
  really
• 11:47
  does
• 11:47
  change
• 11:47
  your
• 11:48
  outlook.
• 11:48
  It
• 11:49
  changes.
• 11:49
  It's
• 11:49
  just,
• 11:50
  for
• 11:50
  me,
• 11:50
  it's
• 11:51
  done
• 11:51
  a
• 11:51
  lot
• 11:51
  of
• 11:51
  positive.
• 11:52
  So
• 11:52
  it
• 11:53
  is
• 11:53
  a
• 11:53
  great
• 11:53
  thing.
• 11:54
  So,
• 11:55
  you
• 11:55
  know,
• 11:55
  if
• 11:55
  you
• 11:55
  feel
• 11:56
  like
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  need
• 11:56
  to
• 11:57
  everybody
• 11:57
  who's
• 11:57
  out
• 11:58
  there
• 11:58
  listening,
• 11:58
  you
• 11:59
  know,
• 11:59
  find
• 11:59
  a
• 11:59
  good
• 12:00
  therapist,
• 12:00
  find
• 12:00
  a
• 12:00
  good
• 12:01
  psychologist.
• 12:02
  Like,
• 12:02
  find
• 12:03
  somebody
• 12:03
  to
• 12:03
  talk
• 12:03
  to,
• 12:04
  because
• 12:04
  it
• 12:04
  can
• 12:04
  really
• 12:04
  be
• 12:05
  so
• 12:05
  cathartic.
• 12:06
  And
• 12:06
  I
• 12:06
  don't
• 12:06
  think
• 12:06
  any
• 12:07
  of
• 12:07
  us
• 12:07
  are
• 12:07
  100%
• 12:08
  fine.
• 12:09
  Like,
• 12:09
  there's
• 12:09
  something
• 12:10
  going
• 12:10
  on
• 12:10
  with
• 12:10
  everyone.
• 12:11
  Yeah,
• 12:12
  absolutely.
• 12:13
  There's
• 12:14
  something
• 12:14
  going
• 12:14
  on
• 12:15
  with
• 12:15
  everyone.
• 12:16
  And
• 12:16
  especially
• 12:17
  if
• 12:17
  you
• 12:17
  are
• 12:18
  a
• 12:18
  woman
• 12:18
  and
• 12:19
  you're
• 12:19
  in
• 12:19
  midlife,
• 12:21
  like,
• 12:21
  and
• 12:21
  you're
• 12:22
  saying
• 12:22
  nothing's
• 12:22
  going
• 12:23
  wrong,
• 12:23
  well,
• 12:25
  you're
• 12:25
  fully
• 12:26
  in
• 12:26
  denial.
• 12:29
  There's
• 12:29
  no
• 12:30
  way
• 12:30
  that
• 12:30
  things
• 12:31
  are
• 12:31
  perfect.
• 12:32
  Like,
• 12:33
  that's
• 12:33
  just
• 12:33
  the
• 12:34
  piece.
• 12:34
  There's
• 12:34
  something
• 12:35
  going
• 12:35
  on
• 12:35
  with
• 12:36
  everyone.
• 12:36
  And
• 12:36
  being
• 12:37
  able
• 12:37
  to
• 12:37
  have
• 12:37
  the
• 12:38
  one
• 12:38
  person,
• 12:39
  your
• 12:39
  psychologist,
• 12:40
  therapist,
• 12:40
  that
• 12:40
  you
• 12:40
  can
• 12:41
  go
• 12:41
  into,
• 12:41
  be
• 12:42
  brutally
• 12:42
  honest
• 12:43
  with,
• 12:44
  where
• 12:44
  there's
• 12:44
  not
• 12:44
  going
• 12:44
  to
• 12:44
  be
• 12:45
  any
• 12:45
  judgment,
• 12:46
  no
• 12:46
  bias,
• 12:46
  and
• 12:47
  it's
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  one
• 12:47
  person
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  can
• 12:48
  tell
• 12:48
  everything
• 12:49
  to
• 12:50
  that
• 12:50
  is
• 12:50
  going
• 12:50
  to
• 12:51
  really
• 12:51
  help
• 12:51
  you
• 12:52
  walk
• 12:52
  through
• 12:53
  all
• 12:53
  those,
• 12:53
  like,
• 12:53
  roadblocks
• 12:54
  or
• 12:55
  hurdles
• 12:55
  that
• 12:56
  are
• 12:56
  kind
• 12:56
  of
• 12:56
  there
• 12:56
  that
• 12:57
  you
• 12:57
  actually
• 12:57
  need
• 12:57
  to
• 12:58
  deal
• 12:58
  with.
• 12:58
  And
• 12:58
  that
• 12:59
  can
• 12:59
  give
• 12:59
  you
• 12:59
  the
• 12:59
  coping
• 13:00
  skills
• 13:00
  and
• 13:01
  tools
• 13:01
  to
• 13:01
  fight
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  depression,
• 13:02
  anxiety,
• 13:03
  adhd,
• 13:04
  to
• 13:05
  kind
• 13:05
  of
• 13:06
  get
• 13:06
  you
• 13:06
  where
• 13:06
  you're
• 13:07
  not
• 13:07
  emotionally
• 13:07
  tapped
• 13:08
  out
• 13:08
  and
• 13:08
  you're
• 13:09
  kind
• 13:09
  of
• 13:09
  ready
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  live
• 13:10
  your
• 13:11
  iconic
• 13:11
  self.
• 13:12
  That's
• 13:13
  the
• 13:13
  key.
• 13:14
  That
• 13:14
  is
• 13:14
  the
• 13:14
  key.
• 13:15
  So,
• 13:16
  Mandy,
• 13:17
  it
• 13:17
  has
• 13:17
  been
• 13:17
  so
• 13:17
  amazing
• 13:18
  chatting
• 13:18
  with
• 13:18
  you.
• 13:19
  I
• 13:20
  want
• 13:20
  to
• 13:20
  let
• 13:20
  our
• 13:20
  listeners
• 13:21
  know
• 13:21
  where
• 13:22
  they
• 13:22
  can
• 13:22
  find
• 13:22
  you.
• 13:23
  So
• 13:23
  if
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  could
• 13:23
  tell
• 13:24
  them,
• 13:24
  that
• 13:24
  would
• 13:24
  be
• 13:24
  great.
• 13:25
  You
• 13:25
  can
• 13:25
  find
• 13:26
  me
• 13:26
  on
• 13:26
  Instagram
• 13:27
  Dr.
• 13:28
  Mandy
• 13:28
  Diamond.
• 13:29
  You
• 13:29
  can
• 13:30
  also
• 13:30
  find
• 13:31
  me
• 13:31
  through
• 13:32
  my
• 13:32
  private
• 13:32
  practice,
• 13:33
  which
• 13:33
  is
• 13:33
  the
• 13:33
  Neal
• 13:34
  Diamond
• 13:35
  Group,
• 13:35
  and
• 13:36
  reach
• 13:37
  out
• 13:38
  and
• 13:38
  I'm
• 13:38
  here
• 13:39
  for
• 13:39
  you.
• 13:39
  Your
• 13:40
  DMs
• 13:40
  are
• 13:40
  open,
• 13:40
  right?
• 13:41
  DMs
• 13:42
  are
• 13:42
  open.