Latest / The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast / S4 #8 Janner Plus One
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- 0:00Speaker 1: On on Okay, this is the Benn and Ashley I
- 0:05Speaker 1: Almost Famous podcast with our radio. Hey guys, it's Ashley.
- 0:10Speaker 1: Ben's not here today because he's in Honduras doing really
- 0:13Speaker 1: good things with his life. Um. I have very special
- 0:17Speaker 1: guests Jade and Tayner Tolbert here in studio with me. Yea, hello, Hello.
- 0:24Speaker 1: It's so funny because Jade and Tanner a like probably
- 0:27Speaker 1: my better friends from the franchise, and when I have
- 0:30Speaker 1: to interview them, it makes me feel weird because like,
- 0:32Speaker 1: I'm doing it for you guys, but I already know
- 0:34Speaker 1: the answers to everything. So let's start with that. You guys,
- 0:39Speaker 1: update us on your life. How baby Emmy is? She
- 0:42Speaker 1: just turned six months? Six months? And then you guys
- 0:47Speaker 1: just celebrate your two year anniversary? Man, two years? Look
- 0:50Speaker 1: at how much is Jears married? Or two years years
- 0:53Speaker 1: married married? I forget? How you guys met? I'm so sorry, Paradise.
- 0:57Speaker 1: How could you forget? There's a lot of Come on,
- 1:01Speaker 1: it was love at first sight? Was it? Yeah? We
- 1:05Speaker 1: kind of had like the opposite story of Ashley and
- 1:07Speaker 1: Jared actually on that season. Yeah, yes, I had love
- 1:10Speaker 1: at first sight and he did not. How is it
- 1:15Speaker 1: the opposite. Well we ended up together, sad. Okay, how
- 1:23Speaker 1: did you like walk down the stairs or what happened? Yeah,
- 1:26Speaker 1: Jade was the first one down the stairs and I
- 1:28Speaker 1: was fourth or fifth something like that. Yeah. I obviously
- 1:31Speaker 1: liked her going into the show, but I didn't think
- 1:33Speaker 1: she would like me. So I just showed up for
- 1:35Speaker 1: the why didn't speeches and the and the drinks and
- 1:37Speaker 1: the good time, and you know, one day later we
- 1:40Speaker 1: actually liked each other in the rest of the history.
- 1:42Speaker 1: So Jane was on with Chris souls, But who were
- 1:44Speaker 1: you on with? I was on Caitlin's. They came from
- 1:48Speaker 1: the two best seasons. It was the Bachelor heyday. If
- 1:52Speaker 1: I may say something myself, we like we might be
- 1:55Speaker 1: And did you both make it to hometowns? No? I didn't.
- 1:58Speaker 1: I'm not cool enough for hometowns. Jade? Did I got
- 2:00Speaker 1: like sevenths or so in my season? Yeah? No, I
- 2:03Speaker 1: made it to hometowns, but I got dumbed. You know.
- 2:05Speaker 1: It's also funny the parallels Bete Jared, Like, I was
- 2:08Speaker 1: seventh on my season and he was fourth on his. Yeah, weird,
- 2:12Speaker 1: want to switch a RU parallel universe? Okay, So tell
- 2:17Speaker 1: us about life with Emmy. And I know that Tanner
- 2:20Speaker 1: is a little bit sad that he doesn't get as
- 2:22Speaker 1: much attention anymore. What other dynamics have changed? Yeah, the
- 2:27Speaker 1: baby steals all the attention. So I used to get like,
- 2:29Speaker 1: you know, backrubs, head rubs, you know, she'd want to
- 2:32Speaker 1: cuddle with me, things like that. Now it's just nothing.
- 2:34Speaker 1: Tanner loves being touched. That's like a thing. He is
- 2:37Speaker 1: the baby, so now he's like having to compete for
- 2:39Speaker 1: my attention. But and he's like, babies are so needy.
- 2:44Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, Tanner, their babies. Wait, wait, I think
- 2:47Speaker 1: we need to address this. Seems like this could be
- 2:49Speaker 1: an issue. Oh, it's not an issue. It could be
- 2:52Speaker 1: need to put more effort in. And do you need
- 2:54Speaker 1: to be less needy? You know, I'll let you say that,
- 2:56Speaker 1: but I might shake my head and up and down.
- 2:58Speaker 1: I'll let's stick into it. Are you is he too needy?
- 3:01Speaker 1: Or are you not giving him enough? It's both. He
- 3:04Speaker 1: is so needy. He loves affection. But it's like he's
- 3:08Speaker 1: a taker. He's like a little animal. He's like a
- 3:12Speaker 1: little puppy. Yeah, I mean he needs that like nurturance,
- 3:15Speaker 1: even as a grown man, and but now I have
- 3:18Speaker 1: this baby that constantly needs me, and so I don't
- 3:21Speaker 1: even have time for him. I don't even have time
- 3:23Speaker 1: by myself. And so when he's like I want a
- 3:25Speaker 1: background background, I'm like me too. I am always impressed
- 3:29Speaker 1: by the fact that you still have makeup on the
- 3:30Speaker 1: most of your inst the stories, I'm like, how does
- 3:32Speaker 1: she do this, because even when I have a day
- 3:35Speaker 1: quote off, I don't want to have makeup on. No,
- 3:38Speaker 1: that's just because I'm doing stories. Wasn't there some kind
- 3:42Speaker 1: of drama? What? Yeah? There was, like I saught in
- 3:45Speaker 1: People magazine their marriage Well, no breastfeeding. Yeah, you tell
- 3:50Speaker 1: tell the story because people listening don't know to tell
- 3:53Speaker 1: the story. I don't know. So it's for that third
- 3:56Speaker 1: love bra And so I took a picture of me
- 3:59Speaker 1: after I was breastfeeding with Emerson and she was snuggled
- 4:02Speaker 1: up to me in the bed and people were telling me,
- 4:04Speaker 1: like I got some message that was like, you're not
- 4:06Speaker 1: depicting real life. You're putting too much pressure on women
- 4:09Speaker 1: to look this way when they have baby, And I
- 4:11Speaker 1: was like, that is b s. You can't be beautiful
- 4:15Speaker 1: sexy mom. Apparently not. No, you can't take care of
- 4:19Speaker 1: yourself and look good for your man without getting crap
- 4:23Speaker 1: for it. That's so messed up. I just feel like
- 4:25Speaker 1: it should be either way. Like, if you don't want
- 4:27Speaker 1: to wear makeup, then great for you. If you want
- 4:28Speaker 1: to wear a makeup, great for you. But like you know,
- 4:31Speaker 1: you put yourself out on social media, people are gonna
- 4:33Speaker 1: say anything about you, but I totally address them because
- 4:37Speaker 1: I was like, listen, this is my real life, this
- 4:39Speaker 1: is I have such I have just as heart of
- 4:42Speaker 1: a time as any other mom out there. And what's
- 4:45Speaker 1: wrong with putting a beautiful picture on my Instagram with
- 4:47Speaker 1: me and my baby in this moment? That's nuts? Tanner?
- 4:49Speaker 1: What do you think? I'm all for the makeup's let's
- 4:52Speaker 1: do it, okay. I want to talk to go back
- 4:56Speaker 1: to your your love languages, because it seems like maybe
- 4:58Speaker 1: you guys do have a different into love languages. What
- 5:01Speaker 1: are yours? Mine have totally changed. So it used to
- 5:05Speaker 1: be affection, but now I think mine is physical touch. Yeah,
- 5:08Speaker 1: I used to be physical touch, and so now I
- 5:10Speaker 1: think mine is quality time and access service. I feel
- 5:14Speaker 1: like acts of services becomes that every time a girl
- 5:16Speaker 1: gets married and has a kid, especially with the baby.
- 5:19Speaker 1: I'm like, if you want to show that you love me,
- 5:21Speaker 1: please go do this with the baby right now. So
- 5:23Speaker 1: I'm going to have a moment to breathe, Tanner, what
- 5:26Speaker 1: are yours? I still want physical touch, right, nothing's changed.
- 5:30Speaker 1: You get to love languages. I want to be touched twice.
- 5:36Speaker 1: That seems easy enough. Like I don't want to harp
- 5:39Speaker 1: on it, but like that seems like you're not asking
- 5:41Speaker 1: for that much. Give me what I'm asking for, giving
- 5:44Speaker 1: what I need. I think he shouldn't have to ask,
- 5:46Speaker 1: But then I think she shouldn't have to ask for
- 5:49Speaker 1: like things she needs. It's getting easier because Emmerson is
- 5:52Speaker 1: now six months so she's less needy. But like those
- 5:55Speaker 1: first couple of months when I'm up every hour and
- 5:57Speaker 1: a half feeding my baby and hours of it at
- 6:00Speaker 1: a time, and then he's like asking me for something,
- 6:02Speaker 1: I'm like, wait a second, Like you know you need
- 6:05Speaker 1: to like just give me a couple of months and
- 6:07Speaker 1: let me figure out the mommy thing. And then we're
- 6:10Speaker 1: kind of we're getting It gets easier the first we're
- 6:13Speaker 1: circling that. Right, if this is your biggest issue, you
- 6:16Speaker 1: guys are good. But I'm just saying I think everybody
- 6:19Speaker 1: needs to work at it. Oh for sure. I see
- 6:20Speaker 1: this just over and over and over again, and I
- 6:23Speaker 1: do feel the guilt, like the mom guilt, the wife guilt.
- 6:26Speaker 1: Like I do feel bad because like I want to
- 6:28Speaker 1: be able to take my mom hat off and be
- 6:30Speaker 1: and be the wife, and so I do struggle with it.
- 6:33Speaker 1: It's it's it's an interesting dynamic. But we we do work.
- 6:36Speaker 1: We try and our works like a regular job. Right,
- 6:40Speaker 1: you have like a nine to five. I think we
- 6:41Speaker 1: all love the fact that Tanner has kept his nine
- 6:44Speaker 1: to five. Um, financially you definitely don't have to, but
- 6:47Speaker 1: I love the fact that you love having a schedule
- 6:49Speaker 1: and you love to like hold a position down. Tell
- 6:52Speaker 1: everybody about all you do us. I'll make it quick then.
- 6:57Speaker 1: Um yeah, I didn't know like you can make money
- 6:59Speaker 1: from social media when I got back from the show,
- 7:01Speaker 1: so I just went back to work like the next day. Um,
- 7:03Speaker 1: but I'm a GM at a Honda dealership back home.
- 7:06Speaker 1: All the free car five pilots I want you to know. Oh,
- 7:10Speaker 1: the new one, Yes, I highly recommend. It's a game
- 7:14Speaker 1: changer on the whole car Amy has that. I didn't
- 7:17Speaker 1: think i'd like it but I love it. Had five pilots. Yeah,
- 7:23Speaker 1: five pilots. That's a variety in your life. But where
- 7:26Speaker 1: do you guys live, Like somewhere weird, right weird? Kansas City,
- 7:31Speaker 1: Kansas City, Kansas, or Kansas City, Missouri. We're on the
- 7:33Speaker 1: Kansas side, but it's I mean it's right there, so
- 7:36Speaker 1: it's really the border. Had no idea. Yeah, our house,
- 7:38Speaker 1: we're like a quarter mile from Missouri. So your house
- 7:41Speaker 1: is a new Janner manner as we like to call
- 7:43Speaker 1: it in Bachelor Nation, and it's gorgeous. You guys are
- 7:46Speaker 1: building a barn right now, and then the horse gets
- 7:50Speaker 1: to live with you, so then you're going to have
- 7:51Speaker 1: two dogs, a baby, and a horse. All of those
- 7:54Speaker 1: are my responsibilities. So I have a question when he
- 7:59Speaker 1: gets them from work, do you just here's the baby?
- 8:02Speaker 1: She tries to. Yeah, that's like my biggest pet peeve
- 8:04Speaker 1: because when I get home that yeah, when I but
- 8:08Speaker 1: when I get home anymore used to. I get home,
- 8:12Speaker 1: I just want to sit down and like mentally relax
- 8:14Speaker 1: for twenty minutes. And She's like, I've been helding the
- 8:16Speaker 1: baby all day, hold her and then I'm just like,
- 8:18Speaker 1: I do not want to do that. As want. Like
- 8:20Speaker 1: that's the thing I think guys don't understand, Like I'm
- 8:23Speaker 1: I want to have that mental like relaxation too. It's
- 8:28Speaker 1: just as much of a job to stay home with
- 8:30Speaker 1: a baby. Totally agree, totally agree. But you're so if
- 8:33Speaker 1: you're each working a job all day, then how do
- 8:35Speaker 1: you decide who works? Maybe switch off every other day,
- 8:38Speaker 1: like on Monday's, here's the baby on Tuesday's. Yeah, I
- 8:42Speaker 1: don't know. It seems so simple to me, and I'm
- 8:44Speaker 1: not married and I don't have any kids, But like,
- 8:46Speaker 1: he can't simple. You can't give me any crap though,
- 8:49Speaker 1: because you change one diaper day and that's like your duty.
- 8:53Speaker 1: I take care of all the rest. Is it one
- 8:55Speaker 1: dirty diaper a day? Or is it one p diper? Really? Oh?
- 9:00Speaker 1: I would save it for the poopy diaper at night.
- 9:02Speaker 1: I feel like she does. I get an absurd amount
- 9:04Speaker 1: of poopy ones. I feel like she waits to tell
- 9:06Speaker 1: me until she knows they're really bad, so weird. I'd
- 9:11Speaker 1: just going off my nine pound dog, um whoop poops
- 9:15Speaker 1: like twice a day. How much does a baby poop
- 9:17Speaker 1: twice a day? Okay, at the beginning stage, it felt
- 9:20Speaker 1: like more maybe in the beginning stage because they don't
- 9:24Speaker 1: have as much sphincter control. Can I say that, I
- 9:27Speaker 1: don't know if you could say anything. I learned something
- 9:31Speaker 1: from you guys that apparently your kids poop doesn't smell
- 9:34Speaker 1: as bad. It doesn't until you start feeding the baby food,
- 9:38Speaker 1: and then it starts the st We just started that
- 9:40Speaker 1: couple weeks ago, so now it's been stinking. It's so
- 9:43Speaker 1: bad in a different texture. When we were in Saint
- 9:45Speaker 1: Lucia like a month ago, they showed me what a
- 9:48Speaker 1: dirty diaper looked like. Um from like bress milk, and
- 9:51Speaker 1: it was like pretty clear and very shockingly not like poop.
- 9:56Speaker 1: It's yellow, it's supposed to be yellow. Interesting, and then
- 9:59Speaker 1: it changes real quick and looks like a bean burrito. Okay, Um,
- 10:04Speaker 1: moving on. I loved this story that you told him.
- 10:07Speaker 1: I don't get a podcast about when you were giving
- 10:10Speaker 1: birth and Tanner was eating a big mac. Can you
- 10:13Speaker 1: like regale us just shortly? I wanted to talk about
- 10:19Speaker 1: just like the dynamic of the like six hours that
- 10:21Speaker 1: you were giving birth, because I just find it's so
- 10:24Speaker 1: funny how Tanner, If you guys don't know, Tanner always
- 10:26Speaker 1: has like a glimmer in his eye, like he's always
- 10:28Speaker 1: up to something and he's always smiling, which is right now,
- 10:33Speaker 1: which is just like the best face to imagine watching
- 10:37Speaker 1: his wife give birth. Yeah, So we got to the hospital.
- 10:40Speaker 1: The baby was a month earlier, so we were not prepared.
- 10:42Speaker 1: My mom met us there and Jade was like contracting
- 10:45Speaker 1: or whatever in the in the tub. At the hospital,
- 10:48Speaker 1: my mom brought breakfast because it was early in the morning.
- 10:50Speaker 1: We didn't get a chance to stop. It's not like
- 10:52Speaker 1: I'm going to stop at the drive through all of
- 10:53Speaker 1: my wife's giving, you know, giving birth to a child.
- 10:57Speaker 1: But I was hungry. Um, So I just started eating
- 10:59Speaker 1: and often in the room and like Jade's over there,
- 11:02Speaker 1: like like it wasn't just like I was at the
- 11:06Speaker 1: start of my labor, like I was in the thick
- 11:08Speaker 1: of it, you know, and you get sick from all
- 11:11Speaker 1: the hormones because your body is preparing you to shoot
- 11:14Speaker 1: this child out of you. And so I was. I
- 11:17Speaker 1: had already thrown up twice. And he brought in this
- 11:20Speaker 1: McMuffin and it was the most intense, disgusting smell I'd
- 11:23Speaker 1: ever smelled, and he was eating it right by my face,
- 11:26Speaker 1: and he was like taunting you with it too. Oh yeah.
- 11:29Speaker 1: So I looked at him and I was so mad,
- 11:30Speaker 1: and I was like, are you going to eat that
- 11:32Speaker 1: right now? And he just started laughing and I was like, no,
- 11:36Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep it light. You had no pain
- 11:38Speaker 1: meds too, no pain meds, So can you imagine my situation? Anger?
- 11:44Speaker 1: Just outrageous anger. Um. Then there was the fact that
- 11:49Speaker 1: she came out really really quickly, and you did it
- 11:52Speaker 1: in an interesting manner. Tell people about how you did
- 11:54Speaker 1: give birth. Well, I labored in a tub and then
- 11:59Speaker 1: you got on your knees, yeah, somebody. So I had
- 12:01Speaker 1: a midwife and she wanted me to deliver like still
- 12:04Speaker 1: on a bed. So I got on the bed kind
- 12:07Speaker 1: of like on my hands and knees, and then you know,
- 12:09Speaker 1: when the bed angles back, it's not all the way
- 12:11Speaker 1: down the hospital beds. I just kind of leaned over
- 12:13Speaker 1: my arms over it and just kind of pushed her
- 12:16Speaker 1: out in a backwards squad, which I feel seems easier.
- 12:21Speaker 1: And I just wanted to put that out there because
- 12:23Speaker 1: I think a lot of girls don't know that you
- 12:24Speaker 1: can deliver like that. But if you want to know,
- 12:26Speaker 1: all the rest of those dirty details. They're on our
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- 12:56Speaker 1: was one person like a cozy bed and the other
- 12:57Speaker 1: one like the firm bed. I like firm. Yeah, we're
- 13:00Speaker 1: both on the firm side. Yeah, well, good for you.
- 13:02Speaker 1: You guys are compatible. Um, it's the perfect bed for couples,
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- 13:19Speaker 1: stay sleeping comfortably through the night. Wait, you guys, this
- 13:23Speaker 1: is insane. They even have an adjustment for snoring? Does
- 13:27Speaker 1: your bed do that? There you go, Tanner, You're the
- 13:31Speaker 1: only snored when you were PEG. I know, but I
- 13:34Speaker 1: feel like Tanner actually has a snoring issue, doesn't it.
- 13:36Speaker 1: He does, so he snores when he lays on his back,
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- 14:06Speaker 1: that the almost famous podcast sent you. Okay, guys, um,
- 14:10Speaker 1: you watched The Bachelor last night. I know this because
- 14:12Speaker 1: you were over my house for it. I know that
- 14:14Speaker 1: we talked through most of it, but I still think
- 14:16Speaker 1: we've caught enough to talk about it right now. Whose
- 14:20Speaker 1: hometown stood out to you guys as being the best
- 14:24Speaker 1: mm hmm. I had to pick the best hometown, I
- 14:26Speaker 1: would probably say Becca Becca. Oh, definitely. Becca's family seemed
- 14:31Speaker 1: the most relatable, the most comforting, and uh the only
- 14:35Speaker 1: weird part about it was that Becca's sister decided not
- 14:38Speaker 1: to show up. She said that she had work that
- 14:41Speaker 1: she didn't want to be on camera. I think there
- 14:44Speaker 1: was like some rumor that she wasn't supportive of Becca
- 14:46Speaker 1: being on the show. So that's just interesting to either
- 14:48Speaker 1: of you guys. Well, Tanner, your parents weren't part of Hometowns,
- 14:52Speaker 1: But Jay, did your parents have an issue being on Hometowns?
- 14:55Speaker 1: My parents didn't have an issue. It's just my family
- 14:58Speaker 1: is pretty quiet and I they're like very camera shy,
- 15:01Speaker 1: so I think they were terrified, but they didn't have
- 15:04Speaker 1: an issue, and they, like my mom is the one
- 15:06Speaker 1: that encouraged me to go on the show, so I
- 15:08Speaker 1: had their support. Okay, Yeah, that's nice. Was your hometown
- 15:12Speaker 1: awkward like Lauren B's then? Um, yeah, it was more
- 15:15Speaker 1: like Lauren By's. Yeah, I would say so. I feel
- 15:19Speaker 1: like when we think of Jade's hometown, I only even
- 15:21Speaker 1: I don't think about that. I'm not true, but I
- 15:25Speaker 1: also don't want to bring that out. Um okay, So
- 15:28Speaker 1: Lauren B's hometown definitely one of the more awkwards we
- 15:33Speaker 1: Lauren B's hometown is definitely one of the more awkward
- 15:34Speaker 1: ones we've seen in a while. Um, she seems quiet
- 15:38Speaker 1: just like her family. We know where she gets that
- 15:40Speaker 1: silence from. Now. Um, just a very serious family. A
- 15:46Speaker 1: military family, and Alrea knew exactly what to say to
- 15:50Speaker 1: get her dad on his side, which was like back
- 15:54Speaker 1: when I was racing regularly, I took a trip to
- 15:57Speaker 1: visit the troops and he had that story just up
- 16:01Speaker 1: yeah in his bocket. I have to be honest, is
- 16:05Speaker 1: it like super impressive? Like do troops really care to
- 16:08Speaker 1: go see race car drivers of like a D level?
- 16:12Speaker 1: Is that really harsh? But like I don't know that anybody,
- 16:15Speaker 1: like any of the soldiers were really excited to meet
- 16:17Speaker 1: alrelyons what you're saying, Yeah, like because normally they go
- 16:21Speaker 1: for entertainment, you know, like comedians will go or musicians
- 16:25Speaker 1: will go right, um, like Fergie went one time like anthem,
- 16:34Speaker 1: uh so funny. But yeah, so are one over Lauren's dad?
- 16:39Speaker 1: And I think that was his real goal because I
- 16:40Speaker 1: think that from my perspective, Lauren is the front runner
- 16:44Speaker 1: right now for sure. Yeah, I would agree. You can
- 16:46Speaker 1: tell that he likes her the most. Yeah, he said
- 16:49Speaker 1: has he said he's falling in love with all four women?
- 16:54Speaker 1: Typical bachelor? How is that okay? Just because you say
- 16:58Speaker 1: the word falling in front of it all sudden, Yeah,
- 17:01Speaker 1: it means like you're in the process, but you're not
- 17:03Speaker 1: actually in left. He said he was falling deeply in
- 17:05Speaker 1: love with Lauren b which is keyword that she to
- 17:08Speaker 1: me is front runner Um Laurence and had something interesting
- 17:12Speaker 1: to say. She said that next week, if you get
- 17:15Speaker 1: Lauren through this Rose ceremony, she'll be going to a
- 17:18Speaker 1: fantasy suit with you, and uh, you can't. She was
- 17:22Speaker 1: kind of warning him not to sleep with Lauren along
- 17:25Speaker 1: with two other girls. What do you guys think about that?
- 17:28Speaker 1: I get where she's coming from. You don't want to
- 17:30Speaker 1: see your family member just you know, it's just weird
- 17:33Speaker 1: to have your family talking about your sex life period
- 17:36Speaker 1: like that. How awkward is that to have them say
- 17:38Speaker 1: that to the person that you're shut up? Grandma? It
- 17:42Speaker 1: is so awkward. I mean, well, my parents have had
- 17:45Speaker 1: to hear about it for the past three years on TV.
- 17:47Speaker 1: Would we never have those conversations outside of TV? Um,
- 17:52Speaker 1: Lauren and my parents. I'm saying Lauren because she's sitting
- 17:54Speaker 1: right next to us. Um, they never had a sex
- 17:58Speaker 1: talk with us. We never learned from mom and dad.
- 18:01Speaker 1: My mom like cringe and she had to give me
- 18:02Speaker 1: a period talk. Do you think that's why you have
- 18:06Speaker 1: held out stop now, because Lauren's here and she was
- 18:11Speaker 1: she didn't have that problem. So I'm going to go
- 18:13Speaker 1: ahead and say the sex talk was not the reason
- 18:15Speaker 1: I've held out. Let's see what other hometowns we have
- 18:18Speaker 1: to talk about. Um, Tia Tia? So Tanner has a
- 18:24Speaker 1: theory that Tia is more concerned about being the Bachelorette
- 18:27Speaker 1: than she was about winning are heart right? Like, don't
- 18:30Speaker 1: don't get me wrong. I think Tia would probably be
- 18:32Speaker 1: the best bachelorette for TV. I'd be more interested in
- 18:35Speaker 1: watching her than any of the other girls. Well, I
- 18:38Speaker 1: think she's all season long, I been auditioning for it.
- 18:42Speaker 1: I feel like she's just done whenever the producers wanted
- 18:44Speaker 1: to do. I think she's had her little, you know,
- 18:47Speaker 1: speeches lined up. I think she knows what she's trying
- 18:49Speaker 1: to do and she's having She has a Raven handbook
- 18:54Speaker 1: to follow as well. Yeah, I'm sure Raven gave her
- 18:56Speaker 1: the step by step on what to expect and how
- 18:59Speaker 1: to get points and how do you how do you
- 19:02Speaker 1: think that Raven is going to feel if like the
- 19:04Speaker 1: girl that she helps signed up for the show becomes
- 19:07Speaker 1: the Bachelorette. Don't you think Raven's fine because she's all happy.
- 19:09Speaker 1: I mean, she says seemed very happy in love. Oh yeah,
- 19:12Speaker 1: and then all they'll just post pictures together on Instagram
- 19:15Speaker 1: and they'll just share their followings and they'll be all happy.
- 19:18Speaker 1: All right, Jade with the correct answer. Now we have
- 19:22Speaker 1: to talk about the taxi duringy date with you guys. Okay,
- 19:28Speaker 1: why am I like not completely disgusted by this? Maybe
- 19:31Speaker 1: it's just because I've been I know, it's so weird
- 19:33Speaker 1: because I'm an animal lover, and I would never want
- 19:35Speaker 1: to stuff a lot what's on a live animal? I'd
- 19:38Speaker 1: never want to stuff an animal? Blat animal was so gross? Wait, okay,
- 19:42Speaker 1: I obviously need to watch it again. I was doing
- 19:45Speaker 1: my makeup while watching Rats. Oh okay, well I'm going
- 19:51Speaker 1: to have to watch it. How do you get into
- 19:52Speaker 1: Taxed for me? Is this like a joke that this
- 19:54Speaker 1: show just ran with or she genuinely No? I think
- 19:57Speaker 1: she's genuinely into this. Would you ever presu of your
- 20:00Speaker 1: dog and pit perform like would you like stuffed Pippa
- 20:02Speaker 1: so you can see her? Okay? All I know is
- 20:04Speaker 1: that we watched the Jeffrey Dahmer movie the other day
- 20:07Speaker 1: and that's all I could think about. He used to
- 20:10Speaker 1: stuff his guys or his victim. He used to look
- 20:12Speaker 1: at the inside of animals. No way, Wow, Okay, so
- 20:16Speaker 1: that is a little creepy. What's interesting to me is
- 20:19Speaker 1: already seems like the guy that wants a poised girl
- 20:21Speaker 1: who like wears heels during the day and it's just like,
- 20:25Speaker 1: you know, delivers fresh muffins to guess, you know. But
- 20:28Speaker 1: Kendall has the side of her that's like you think.
- 20:30Speaker 1: So I feel like she's like the weird tax to
- 20:32Speaker 1: the girl at sometimes and then she's like super sophisticated
- 20:35Speaker 1: and smart and like well spoken that other she has
- 20:37Speaker 1: well spoken. Oh, she enunciates like no one else like
- 20:41Speaker 1: I wish I could enunciate like Kendall and just be
- 20:44Speaker 1: able to calmly express my feelings like she does. I
- 20:47Speaker 1: kind of like Kendall. My no, no, no, I like
- 20:50Speaker 1: Kendall too, for sure. I just think it's funny that
- 20:52Speaker 1: she stayed around this long because man oh man, when
- 20:56Speaker 1: she was eating crickets or caterpillars or whatever on that
- 20:58Speaker 1: hip dick hype a height like date, I would have
- 21:05Speaker 1: never thought she'd get this far. I find I'm going
- 21:09Speaker 1: on a limb here. The four of them are all
- 21:12Speaker 1: a little bit. I don't know. I watched it and
- 21:17Speaker 1: then tried to remember Becca's date and I can remember
- 21:20Speaker 1: nothing of it. No, See, I like Becca's date. She
- 21:23Speaker 1: was the girl who wins my superlative of one I
- 21:25Speaker 1: most like to hang out with. What happened on this
- 21:27Speaker 1: last night? You think she seems born? I think she
- 21:30Speaker 1: seems like a nice girls girl, Like I think I
- 21:32Speaker 1: could like chat with her about like my celebrity crushes.
- 21:35Speaker 1: And they happened on her hometown, like I cannot remember,
- 21:38Speaker 1: And I just watched Uncle Gary talked about how her
- 21:41Speaker 1: dad's no longer around and how they've been the guard
- 21:44Speaker 1: dogs of Becca's heart. And then their mom was there
- 21:48Speaker 1: and she was concerned about Becca leaving Minnesota because she's
- 21:52Speaker 1: gonna miss her, and she moved to Scottsdale. And then
- 21:55Speaker 1: there was the whole fact that her sister wasn't there.
- 21:59Speaker 1: And are the moms given a script? Because something is
- 22:01Speaker 1: bizarre that every single parent says, Well, if I trust
- 22:07Speaker 1: my daughter and if this is what my daughter wants,
- 22:10Speaker 1: then I'm going to support her. Like if I were
- 22:12Speaker 1: the parent, I'd be like, this is that bleep crazy.
- 22:16Speaker 1: What are you talking about? You just met her and
- 22:19Speaker 1: you're dating four people at the same time. Like, I'm
- 22:21Speaker 1: fine if they want to do it, but why does
- 22:23Speaker 1: not one parent say what a normal parent would say.
- 22:26Speaker 1: I agree, I'm tired of the canned answers. Yeah, I'm tired.
- 22:30Speaker 1: I want I want like a villain bachelor or bachelor
- 22:32Speaker 1: at next, someone that just speaks what they really and
- 22:35Speaker 1: a parent that goes I'm sorry, bro, but that was
- 22:40Speaker 1: that was JoJo's brothers and they came across really poorly.
- 22:45Speaker 1: But I guess it wasn't real. Yeah, every parent giving
- 22:50Speaker 1: the same answer was weird. We'll wait a second. We
- 22:52Speaker 1: have two people here who knew each other for only
- 22:55Speaker 1: twenty something days by the time that they got engaged,
- 22:57Speaker 1: And I want to know what your parents said. I
- 22:59Speaker 1: mean they thought we were crazy, right, And I'm fine
- 23:02Speaker 1: that you did it and it's working out, but like
- 23:04Speaker 1: a parent should still be like or a sister, like
- 23:07Speaker 1: what the hell are you talking about? Like he's going
- 23:10Speaker 1: to someone else's house tomorrow to make out with that
- 23:14Speaker 1: well speaking in the same weird basket of what is
- 23:18Speaker 1: in that weird like Walmart basket? Oh my god, it's
- 23:22Speaker 1: so funny. Who brings a picnic basket anywhere in life
- 23:25Speaker 1: other than the Bachelor. They're always packing a picnic basket,
- 23:29Speaker 1: and then it always comes to the hometowns. It's so bizarre.
- 23:32Speaker 1: It obviously has a bottle of wine in there and flowers,
- 23:34Speaker 1: but it's like, yeah, I brought us the same bottle
- 23:36Speaker 1: of wine and flowers to the other girl's house, which
- 23:38Speaker 1: is almost as gross, which is almost really uncomfortable, Like
- 23:41Speaker 1: don't even bring a gift? Do you think you washed
- 23:44Speaker 1: the glasses? Uh? The one concern that kept coming up,
- 23:50Speaker 1: especially with lauren Bees family, she's just Lauren now Lauren's
- 23:54Speaker 1: family was are you saying the same things to us
- 23:59Speaker 1: as you're saying to the other parents you're visiting this week? Yes,
- 24:02Speaker 1: it feels that way. It feels like he said the
- 24:07Speaker 1: same thing to everyone. My mom texted us and she
- 24:10Speaker 1: was like, he's leading everyone on, And I guess don't
- 24:13Speaker 1: they all at this point lead them on? Yeah? For sure,
- 24:16Speaker 1: But it's not even this episode. Al He's been saying
- 24:18Speaker 1: like the same ten phrases all season. He's like, I
- 24:20Speaker 1: love that, I love that about you, you know what
- 24:22Speaker 1: I mean? He says the same thing over and over
- 24:25Speaker 1: and over. Yeah, and then swallows their face. Right, He's
- 24:28Speaker 1: a cool dude, and I get it, like he's sort
- 24:30Speaker 1: of in this weird predicament. But I do think, like
- 24:33Speaker 1: just lay it out there and they're like, I don't
- 24:35Speaker 1: know what I'm doing it. The funny thing about Ari
- 24:39Speaker 1: is that I've now met him in person three times, um,
- 24:43Speaker 1: including the time that we interviewed him via phone here,
- 24:46Speaker 1: and I love to make fun of him, I really do.
- 24:48Speaker 1: I love to pokefon on him during the week during
- 24:50Speaker 1: my recaps. But then whenever I see him, I'm like,
- 24:52Speaker 1: you're so nice and you're very handsome, and then all
- 24:56Speaker 1: of a sudden, I'm back to critiquing you on the show.
- 24:58Speaker 1: I guess it's just like what you do when you're watching.
- 25:01Speaker 1: It's so easy. But yeah, being a fan of the show, yeah,
- 25:07Speaker 1: you gotta earn your stripes a little bit. You have
- 25:08Speaker 1: to go through all the all the critiques because everyone
- 25:11Speaker 1: gets it. Yeah, I mean I still get you can't
- 25:14Speaker 1: handle it then, and like Caitlin got it more than anyone,
- 25:18Speaker 1: And look at her now. She's just like laughing all
- 25:20Speaker 1: the way to the bank and like still in love
- 25:22Speaker 1: and like whatever. So it doesn't matter, Jade. Let's talk
- 25:26Speaker 1: a little fashion. Um, we didn't like any of those
- 25:29Speaker 1: road ceremony dresses last night. They were all kind of
- 25:32Speaker 1: prompt They just like, I mean, I don't want to say, like,
- 25:34Speaker 1: go buy expensive dresses, but they just looked kind of cheap.
- 25:37Speaker 1: You know. I don't know, I'd like, thank you get
- 25:39Speaker 1: to that point in this season you're like, oh, whoops,
- 25:41Speaker 1: ran out of dresses. Now I have to do the
- 25:43Speaker 1: bottom of my suitcase. That happened to me though, when
- 25:46Speaker 1: we got engaged, I ran out of dresses and I
- 25:48Speaker 1: had to wear this really awful orange dress that I
- 25:51Speaker 1: got from Danta. You wore that as your engagement dress
- 25:54Speaker 1: was one that you got from the hotel. Because because
- 25:58Speaker 1: other the other girls that were left too, I had
- 26:01Speaker 1: the handlers go ask if they let me borrow address,
- 26:03Speaker 1: and nobody would let me borrow a dress. No way.
- 26:06Speaker 1: Who was left at that point, Samantha Samantha, Samantha wouldn't
- 26:11Speaker 1: let you borrow a dress. They just wouldn't. I mean,
- 26:14Speaker 1: they just won't let me. I was like, does anyone
- 26:15Speaker 1: have any leftover addresses I can wear? And nobody would
- 26:18Speaker 1: let me. Maybe I would have really reworn something really
- 26:21Speaker 1: weird because like, who cares yea interesting? Um? Well, you know,
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- 27:51Speaker 1: all the time. Okay, before we jump into reader emails,
- 27:55Speaker 1: which is one of Ben and my favorite segments, we
- 27:57Speaker 1: need to take a little Bachelor in our games. My
- 27:59Speaker 1: plan is to do a season long, you know to
- 28:02Speaker 1: four episode season recap on Thursday with a couple of
- 28:06Speaker 1: my Bachelor in Bachelor Winner games alums. Um, but I
- 28:11Speaker 1: need to know what you guys are thinking about the
- 28:13Speaker 1: season so far. Who's your favorite Besides me, I've actually
- 28:18Speaker 1: really enjoyed the show. Maybe it's just because it's when
- 28:20Speaker 1: it brought the fresh air from the Bachelor's season. Um,
- 28:23Speaker 1: but it's it's been good. We love Yuki. We all
- 28:25Speaker 1: love Yuki. Yuki is the best let me tell you,
- 28:28Speaker 1: the girl knew like three expressions going into this season Okay, yay,
- 28:34Speaker 1: I love you and Dean give me Rose. And it
- 28:38Speaker 1: was the cutest thing ever. She's I want to shrink
- 28:42Speaker 1: her and put her in my pocket. I know, I
- 28:43Speaker 1: want to be friends that there too, just from watching
- 28:45Speaker 1: her for like fifteen minutes on the screen, I know, yeah,
- 28:49Speaker 1: But it was amazing the amount of English she picked
- 28:51Speaker 1: up over a week. And we were like joking the
- 28:53Speaker 1: entire time, like this girl is probably in her interviews
- 28:57Speaker 1: speaking fluent English and being like I'm willing everyone. Yeah,
- 29:01Speaker 1: I know. We always joked about when she walked to
- 29:05Speaker 1: the car, like her exit, I can say that right
- 29:08Speaker 1: when she was walking into the car, we were like
- 29:11Speaker 1: joking that she was gonna be like Sea later suckers
- 29:13Speaker 1: something like that. But my favorite part was when Claire
- 29:17Speaker 1: was talking to the German guy and he was just
- 29:19Speaker 1: giving her major Oh god, it's okay, it's okay. He
- 29:25Speaker 1: I think he reminds me so much of so much
- 29:27Speaker 1: of him. He's Sean Low and Wan Pablo together, Oh
- 29:31Speaker 1: my gosh. Yes. And then he's like, we had an
- 29:33Speaker 1: appointment for the jacuzzi, and I could just it's totally
- 29:36Speaker 1: wan Poo over again. It's like she's drawn to him
- 29:39Speaker 1: because of some sort of traumatic past. She always talks
- 29:42Speaker 1: about the passion. She's like, I want something passionate, so
- 29:45Speaker 1: she kee she keeps picking the bad boy who she
- 29:47Speaker 1: has that like, yeah, that traumatic something that creates the passion.
- 29:51Speaker 1: Because ben Wah was just like the nice dude who
- 29:54Speaker 1: just wanted to give her the world, and she was like,
- 29:56Speaker 1: we're just friends. That was a friendly kiss, Like what
- 30:00Speaker 1: I know, there's I don't think there's no is there
- 30:02Speaker 1: any such thing as a friendly kiss on the lips?
- 30:06Speaker 1: Kiss me Amy kisses all our guy kisser like it's
- 30:10Speaker 1: not all certain. Yeah, the ones that you actually do
- 30:14Speaker 1: want to make out with, you peck on the lips. Yeah,
- 30:16Speaker 1: but that's a peck. It's like it's like a peck. Okay, well,
- 30:20Speaker 1: just because some people are lip kissers and you're like
- 30:22Speaker 1: close and it's just like but it doesn't mean anything. Yeah,
- 30:25Speaker 1: I mean I'm not going to do it to some
- 30:27Speaker 1: like not hot dude, married dude. Yeah really all the
- 30:33Speaker 1: Easton just looked up and he was like, kiss these people,
- 30:36Speaker 1: But I lip kiss Bennett all the time. I don't
- 30:38Speaker 1: know Bennett is our executive producer. Um is Bennett's wife? Okay,
- 30:42Speaker 1: with that, she's probably there want to kiss? No, no, no,
- 30:48Speaker 1: that would be a little yeah, it's gonna be in
- 30:49Speaker 1: less than three seconds or something. You know. It's just like, yeah, Well,
- 30:53Speaker 1: I have to say shout out to Bennett for really
- 30:56Speaker 1: creating Jeff. I always lip kiss him. That's because he
- 30:59Speaker 1: sometimes want to make that. Jeff, First of all, I
- 31:02Speaker 1: only want to make up with one person, and if
- 31:04Speaker 1: he didn't like the lip kissing, I wouldn't lip kiss.
- 31:06Speaker 1: But like whatever, Okay, Well, shout out to Bennett, who
- 31:09Speaker 1: actually created the most comfortable bachelor environment. He really wanted
- 31:12Speaker 1: everybody to succeed. Um, it was awesome to see an
- 31:16Speaker 1: executive producer who just wanted to see love and not drama.
- 31:21Speaker 1: Where was he when I was on Chrystal season? Yeah?
- 31:24Speaker 1: I know, well with Chris Soul season. He was Chris's
- 31:27Speaker 1: main producer, so we didn't get to know him then.
- 31:30Speaker 1: So it's been really nice for me to do this
- 31:32Speaker 1: experience with him. Um, you guys looking forward to seeing
- 31:37Speaker 1: me fall down a mountain today. I'm a little disappointed
- 31:40Speaker 1: in your skills. You're disappointed my skills I thought you'd
- 31:43Speaker 1: like that. I was a train wreck water. Don't you
- 31:46Speaker 1: remember her in Paradise and the way? I mean, what
- 31:48Speaker 1: are you expecting? I feel like all the guys are
- 31:52Speaker 1: all the American guys are terrible at everything. No, Ben
- 31:55Speaker 1: and Dean you'll see tonight kill kis skiing. Yeah. Ben
- 32:00Speaker 1: couldn't even walk on the ice. No. I know, Ben
- 32:04Speaker 1: in that suit is so uncomfortable to see. But he's
- 32:07Speaker 1: not afraid he'll show his junk in that suit. He
- 32:10Speaker 1: didn't have any shame. There were some other guys walking
- 32:13Speaker 1: around with their you know, their hands over their junk.
- 32:16Speaker 1: Not Ben. No, no shrinkage. There's that rumor about Ben. Oh,
- 32:21Speaker 1: there is that rumor. I'm glad you brought that up.
- 32:23Speaker 1: I haven't. Oh, it was. It was widespread rumor. It's
- 32:27Speaker 1: a wide spread ribs and he's quite well endowed. Jade
- 32:29Speaker 1: is nodding. We've all heard this, adding it's like a rumor.
- 32:35Speaker 1: David Spade weirdly has the same rumor about him, which
- 32:38Speaker 1: David Spade I would understand, but everyone says it is no. Well,
- 32:41Speaker 1: David Spade has that slag where it's like he's not
- 32:44Speaker 1: that attractive, but like he's sexy because he's funny, he's
- 32:47Speaker 1: has a great personality and apparently he's packing. Yeah, but
- 32:51Speaker 1: David Spade is cute. Come on, no, he is cute.
- 32:54Speaker 1: Laura Lauren likes David sits very sexy. Would you friendly
- 32:58Speaker 1: kiss him or more than a friendly? Oh you friendly kissed? Course? Yes,
- 33:03Speaker 1: he's like. Yes. What I love about David Spade is
- 33:06Speaker 1: he drives a land cruiser older than my parents land cruiser.
- 33:09Speaker 1: It's likeser ten million dollar house. Yeah. Maybe, Okay, there's
- 33:18Speaker 1: something else about Paradise that I wanted to talk to
- 33:20Speaker 1: you guys about, but now I forget. Oh but when
- 33:23Speaker 1: they were on Paradise, Yeah, did you get married there?
- 33:25Speaker 1: I don't. It's also they got married in real life
- 33:29Speaker 1: on TV. Yeah, in real life, which is yeah, oh
- 33:35Speaker 1: that that Bachelor. Did you think it was weird that
- 33:39Speaker 1: there are people at your wedding you've never met. Yes,
- 33:41Speaker 1: let's talk about that. Like, so let's talk about that.
- 33:44Speaker 1: I wouldn't want strangers at my wedding. You know when
- 33:47Speaker 1: we talked to producers about that, but they were kind
- 33:49Speaker 1: of like, this is the list, Like, but is it
- 33:50Speaker 1: only because it was a twentieth anniversary specially. I think
- 33:54Speaker 1: they still get some say they pretty much said, hey,
- 33:56Speaker 1: you each get to pick like a third of the
- 33:58Speaker 1: guest list, and then we'll pick the other. Well about
- 34:00Speaker 1: Carly and Evans because there was far more intimate. Who
- 34:02Speaker 1: was that yours? You've never met? Like Justri and Ryan? Yeah,
- 34:05Speaker 1: tons of the couples, sons like sounds like the older
- 34:07Speaker 1: couples like yeah, Paul sheered up comedian Why friends of
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- 34:21Speaker 1: say hi to you? He thought it's a wedding gift.
- 34:26Speaker 1: It's on our coffee table. Really, Yeah, you can't buy me.
- 34:29Speaker 1: You gotta you know, you gotta talk to me. You
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- 36:44Speaker 1: well we all agree on this. Um this girl. Ali
- 36:48Speaker 1: huge fan of Becca and I know you are too,
- 36:50Speaker 1: but let's be honest. Short hair, short hair Becca, But
- 36:54Speaker 1: be honest. She has she really, but to be honest,
- 36:57Speaker 1: she's been getting on my nerves the past few episodes.
- 37:00Speaker 1: I think she really started to show her younger age,
- 37:03Speaker 1: especially the way that she and Crystal interacted compared to
- 37:06Speaker 1: the way that Kendall dealt with her situation with Crystal.
- 37:10Speaker 1: My husband even made a comment tonight that Becca just
- 37:13Speaker 1: makes it seem like it's a game to be one.
- 37:16Speaker 1: I was not sorry to see her go home last week.
- 37:19Speaker 1: Am I the only one having these feelings about Becca?
- 37:21Speaker 1: Love the show? Love you both, Ali? Did you ever
- 37:24Speaker 1: watch her insta story that I told you? Yeah, but
- 37:26Speaker 1: I talked to her yesterday and FaceTime I was doing that.
- 37:28Speaker 1: I liked it because I had sister acne, so I
- 37:31Speaker 1: like totally understand when she's coming. Okay, let me just
- 37:35Speaker 1: say as like a random what I experienced. So I'm
- 37:39Speaker 1: like clicking on her insta story, which shame me for
- 37:42Speaker 1: that because I'm embarrassed enough that I did that. And
- 37:45Speaker 1: she's aggressively like being mad at people. Know, but I
- 37:48Speaker 1: get at the same, I guess, and so have you
- 37:52Speaker 1: ever had acne issues? Yeah? Of course really bad. That's
- 37:56Speaker 1: like being mad at somebody who's just trying to be nice, Like,
- 38:00Speaker 1: guess what, shut up. So here's what she did. So
- 38:03Speaker 1: she goes on her Instagram story whatever it's called, and
- 38:06Speaker 1: she's like, does anybody have a holistic dermatologist or whatever
- 38:10Speaker 1: she was asking for. So then then so I'm like whatever,
- 38:13Speaker 1: Then you click on the next one, and she's like
- 38:16Speaker 1: freaking out because people are like trying to offer suggestions
- 38:20Speaker 1: like proactive or bioclarity or like whatever it is, and
- 38:24Speaker 1: she's like pissed about it, and she's like, I'm sorry
- 38:28Speaker 1: to be pissed, but please do not offer suggestions you
- 38:31Speaker 1: don't understand. And it's just like girl. She's had stories
- 38:36Speaker 1: before in the past where she complains about how people
- 38:39Speaker 1: would try to give her acne advice when people who
- 38:42Speaker 1: don't suffer from horrible acne the way that she does.
- 38:45Speaker 1: She's been on accutane three times. They just don't understand
- 38:48Speaker 1: the pain that it is to go through that. And
- 38:51Speaker 1: I have gone through that, and like I couldn't leave
- 38:54Speaker 1: the house whatever I was mad. I have to defend
- 39:00Speaker 1: her in this instance, just because I used to have
- 39:02Speaker 1: friends be like Ashley, maybe you should stop using all
- 39:05Speaker 1: like the prescription things you've been put on, and you
- 39:08Speaker 1: should you see to fill or something more gentle, or
- 39:11Speaker 1: maybe you should just like stop cleansing in general, like
- 39:14Speaker 1: I don't even wash my face. I'm like, you don't
- 39:17Speaker 1: understand what I'm you did you ask them for advice
- 39:22Speaker 1: because okay, okay, so and also calm down, I don't
- 39:28Speaker 1: have patience for this, like really and truly there is
- 39:33Speaker 1: actual stuff in the world, or like people have real problems,
- 39:37Speaker 1: Like I'm fine with her asking for the holistic doctor.
- 39:40Speaker 1: That's fine, but don't don't delete those d m s
- 39:44Speaker 1: or whatever you kids call it stop. Okay really, I
- 39:48Speaker 1: was like you fired. You can really you can really
- 39:52Speaker 1: turn me off with your weird tweets and you're like
- 39:54Speaker 1: instagrams because I liked her fine, and now I'm like boodbye,
- 39:59Speaker 1: Like you're yeah, that's gray. You don't yell at people
- 40:02Speaker 1: that you put on a public forum like you put
- 40:05Speaker 1: it on your Instagram asking for help. So these nice
- 40:08Speaker 1: people are trying to be nice. That's like that sweet
- 40:10Speaker 1: Jennifer Garner being mad when she's which she wasn't, because
- 40:14Speaker 1: Jennifer Garner is awesome. She wanted to like Girl Scout
- 40:18Speaker 1: cookies and then she got like overwhelmed by how many
- 40:21Speaker 1: people wanted Girls Scout cookie but she wasn't mad. She
- 40:24Speaker 1: was like, thank you so much for wanting the Girl
- 40:26Speaker 1: Scout cookies. Okay, yeah, so um in context, um, Jennifer
- 40:29Speaker 1: Garner said, my daughter is selling girls Cot cookies. If
- 40:32Speaker 1: you guys want some, like DM me? Is that what
- 40:34Speaker 1: she said? Oh? I don't know, something like they. I
- 40:36Speaker 1: don't know who knows. It's beside the point. My thing is,
- 40:39Speaker 1: I'm sure re Becca's nice. Save your emails, save your
- 40:42Speaker 1: mean whatever. That Reddit thread I don't need it. But
- 40:46Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if she asked for help and then
- 40:50Speaker 1: people are trying to be super nice to her, like
- 40:52Speaker 1: just be appreciative. You don't have to yell at them
- 40:54Speaker 1: because they told you, like to try avocado mask. I
- 40:59Speaker 1: don't know the story or I miss it, you missed it, Okay,
- 41:03Speaker 1: Well it is funny. I ended up actually face having
- 41:06Speaker 1: back about these issues yesterday. But I mean, yeah, sure
- 41:09Speaker 1: the approach could have been a little more gentle, but
- 41:11Speaker 1: what is her like, why is she so mad at people?
- 41:14Speaker 1: Because it is frustrating when people are trying to give
- 41:17Speaker 1: you advice and you're like, if you don't think I
- 41:19Speaker 1: haven't been to the dermatologist and tried everything like that. Okay,
- 41:23Speaker 1: you don't know. Someone I care about a lot is
- 41:25Speaker 1: sick right now and I just suggested ad villain sleep.
- 41:28Speaker 1: I'm sure he wants to punch me in the face
- 41:30Speaker 1: because he's like, does captain obvious for the ad villain sleep?
- 41:34Speaker 1: But guess what, like I care about him, so I'm
- 41:37Speaker 1: trying to be like that's true whenever and whenever guy
- 41:40Speaker 1: says like I don't feel well, I'm like, we'll just
- 41:42Speaker 1: orange shoes, lots of sleep, and um get some chicken noodle, Like,
- 41:46Speaker 1: why do I say that? Right? Because you're nice? Because
- 41:49Speaker 1: and you're trying, Like because I'm sad. I'm actually super sad.
- 41:53Speaker 1: He's sick. So what am I supposed to write? Like?
- 41:56Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Like? I So that's
- 41:59Speaker 1: how I else about the like her aggressiveness at me.
- 42:04Speaker 1: So you don't like her anymore? Okay, Well back to
- 42:07Speaker 1: the email from Ali. What do you guys think about
- 42:12Speaker 1: Becca m and has your opinion of her change over
- 42:14Speaker 1: the past few weeks after seeing what went down between
- 42:18Speaker 1: her and Tia and her and Crystal. Well, now I
- 42:20Speaker 1: hate her. I used to I used to like Becca
- 42:24Speaker 1: before this. Um No, but she was actually one of
- 42:26Speaker 1: my favorites on the show. I felt when she kept
- 42:28Speaker 1: it real and she keeps it so real and raw.
- 42:31Speaker 1: I like, I was defending her on Twitter for the
- 42:33Speaker 1: age thing because so many people were coming at her.
- 42:36Speaker 1: And then when I found out she got off the
- 42:38Speaker 1: show and didn't call her mom missing and I was like,
- 42:42Speaker 1: oh my god, no, I can't defend you. Well, so
- 42:45Speaker 1: I was at Women Tell All at the taping last Tuesday. Wow,
- 42:48Speaker 1: I can't believe it's been a week. I can't really
- 42:50Speaker 1: tell you much, but I can tell you this. She
- 42:52Speaker 1: did call her mom to explain the whole story and
- 42:56Speaker 1: the fact that she didn't have service up at the
- 42:57Speaker 1: weed farm. Um, but yeah, she really, she really put
- 43:00Speaker 1: that story out there. And another really juicy thing that
- 43:03Speaker 1: I got from women tell all um regarding Becca is
- 43:06Speaker 1: the way that she took down Crystal and Tia. So
- 43:10Speaker 1: guys look forward to that on Sunday this week. Alright, guys,
- 43:15Speaker 1: Unfortunately Jane Tanner have to go. They have other things
- 43:17Speaker 1: to attend to, including a baby who I think is
- 43:20Speaker 1: getting fussy. Back there, I took up all their time
- 43:22Speaker 1: with my rant about short Yeah we could have done
- 43:26Speaker 1: it alone. Name. Okay, So, Jade, you look great post
- 43:31Speaker 1: post baby body. I do not know what the heck
- 43:34Speaker 1: you've done, because I think you look prettier now than
- 43:36Speaker 1: you ever have and you look fitter. Oh my gosh,
- 43:39Speaker 1: that's so nice. But no, I mean I saw you
- 43:41Speaker 1: in a bathing suit like a month ago, but I
- 43:44Speaker 1: can't fit into my old jean stone. Really well, you
- 43:47Speaker 1: look great, and Tannery, you look great too. Um. I
- 43:50Speaker 1: know that you gained some sympathy weight when Jade was pregnant.
- 43:54Speaker 1: You gained how many pounds. That's insane. Every time Jade
- 43:58Speaker 1: eight when she's like craving, like, oh that looks good,
- 44:01Speaker 1: I'll have that too, And I put on like twenty pounds.
- 44:03Speaker 1: I went from Yeah, he just kind of pick the
- 44:06Speaker 1: liberty and I didn't eating. He would just participate. That's fun. Yeah.
- 44:10Speaker 1: I didn't notice though, because I don't like step on
- 44:12Speaker 1: the scale daily nothing. But did you notice Jan Yeah,
- 44:16Speaker 1: I mean, I mean little dad bought little little chubs.
- 44:19Speaker 1: He just got kind of like that tire, you know
- 44:20Speaker 1: what I mean around the waist. Yeah, that's fair tire. Yeah.
- 44:24Speaker 1: So anyways, we started neutrous system or I started neutro
- 44:26Speaker 1: system like day after Christmas. I lost sixteen of those
- 44:29Speaker 1: pounds back in like six weeks. So what that's impressive
- 44:34Speaker 1: trying to get rid of the dad bod. You know
- 44:35Speaker 1: how much working I don't have you done on top
- 44:37Speaker 1: of that? Very little? Actually? Wow, neutrol system for men
- 44:41Speaker 1: killing it that's awesome. Well what is it just tells
- 44:44Speaker 1: you what to eat? Yeah, it's like all pre planned stuff.
- 44:47Speaker 1: There's a full menu, but you can pick like shakes, snacks, meals,
- 44:51Speaker 1: whatever whatever you need. And did they have a certain
- 44:53Speaker 1: one for men and a certain one for women. There's
- 44:55Speaker 1: certain Yeah, there's some you know, unisex foods we'll call them,
- 44:58Speaker 1: but there's any of it. Jin No, I steal his
- 45:01Speaker 1: stuff all the time. I love the bars and the
- 45:03Speaker 1: shakes are good, or anything else that he's really had,
- 45:06Speaker 1: I haven't done. But he takes all that to work
- 45:07Speaker 1: so awesome. Well, that makes packing his You pack his lunch.
- 45:12Speaker 1: I would, but the man's weird about it. Really, it's
- 45:16Speaker 1: because it's too it's sitting in the bag too long,
- 45:18Speaker 1: because it's not a hot meal. Oh I need a
- 45:20Speaker 1: hot meal to Tanner and I have like a lot
- 45:22Speaker 1: of the same quarks. He doesn't like staying in a
- 45:26Speaker 1: hotel or living in a place that is more than
- 45:29Speaker 1: ten years old. Yeah, he also well this I don't
- 45:33Speaker 1: agree with. But this is just a Tanner cork that
- 45:35Speaker 1: I love. Um, he doesn't eat anything that's not a
- 45:38Speaker 1: chain restaurant because your theory is if it was good,
- 45:41Speaker 1: there'd be more than one. And thirdly, we we consider
- 45:48Speaker 1: actual meal hot food. Yeah, you need nothing cold that's leftovers. Oh,
- 45:54Speaker 1: no leftovers. God, he is difficult. Oh my gosh, that's
- 45:58Speaker 1: a that's a lot of women. Let's talk about them. Okay, alright, guys, well,
- 46:01Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining me and making this
- 46:04Speaker 1: podcast without Ben as easy as it could be. I
- 46:06Speaker 1: love you guys so much, my friends. Fine, all right,
- 46:12Speaker 1: well now Jane Tannery on Amy, you want to talk
- 46:15Speaker 1: about skin and acne again? Absolutely well. I know that
- 46:21Speaker 1: Becca doesn't want any advice as far as topicals to use,
- 46:25Speaker 1: but we do love bioclarity. Many people say it works.
- 46:30Speaker 1: People do like just open your mind, take a breath, shorthaired, Becca,
- 46:34Speaker 1: and like let people help you. It would be mad
- 46:37Speaker 1: when they'd help you. Alright, guys, um, it is time
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- 46:45Speaker 1: my sister is sitting next to me, who doesn't wash
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- 48:16Speaker 1: Enter our code famous. Al Right, we have a couple
- 48:19Speaker 1: of more Bachelor emails. This one is about hometown dates.
- 48:23Speaker 1: It's from Janessa Janessa, Hey, Ashley. Without it being with
- 48:31Speaker 1: it being the hometown episode, I was hoping you could
- 48:33Speaker 1: give us the behind the scenes details on hometowns. I
- 48:36Speaker 1: probably cannot because I never went to hometowns. But at
- 48:40Speaker 1: what point to the families know their daughter or son
- 48:43Speaker 1: is coming home for the hometowns and how many days
- 48:45Speaker 1: do they have to prepare? Also, is it usually their
- 48:49Speaker 1: parents actual home or is it staged? And finally, is
- 48:53Speaker 1: it really the first time that the family gets to
- 48:55Speaker 1: see their son or daughter when they're walking in the
- 48:57Speaker 1: door with the bachelor of the Bachelor or does the
- 48:59Speaker 1: contestant get to day home with his or her family
- 49:01Speaker 1: while they are there for their hometown date. Sorry for
- 49:04Speaker 1: the loads of questions, Just so intrigued on how your
- 49:06Speaker 1: hometowns really work. Thinks Benn Ashley. I love your podcast.
- 49:10Speaker 1: Also enjoyed seeing you guys on my TV again for
- 49:12Speaker 1: the Winter Games. Nothing of the best for both of you.
- 49:16Speaker 1: Love your fan in Nashville, Tennessee. Originally from Warsaw, Indiana,
- 49:21Speaker 1: shout out to Ben. All Right, you guys. I didn't
- 49:24Speaker 1: think I was gonna be able to answer this question,
- 49:26Speaker 1: but I totally am because very oddly, at the week
- 49:30Speaker 1: that I was elimited, I was eliminated a week six
- 49:32Speaker 1: of airing um where there was I got elimited where
- 49:35Speaker 1: there was nine to six girls. So the next week
- 49:37Speaker 1: there was six girls left. Um. This is actually the
- 49:42Speaker 1: week that they start preparing for hometowns. So I was
- 49:45Speaker 1: brought into a room and asked UM for contact info
- 49:49Speaker 1: and of my family and what I'd want to do
- 49:53Speaker 1: and what we want to eat, and it was just
- 49:55Speaker 1: like so crazy. I was like, oh, I'm sure my
- 49:57Speaker 1: parents will order from this Italian restaurant and and I'm
- 50:00Speaker 1: sure that I'll go to Great Falls Falls because um,
- 50:03Speaker 1: and in my town in Virginia, Great Falls, Virginia, it's
- 50:07Speaker 1: named after their waterfalls. So that's where I was going
- 50:10Speaker 1: to bring Chris souls. UM. So I guess the parents
- 50:14Speaker 1: probably have about ten days to prepare. No, you are
- 50:18Speaker 1: not allowed to stay with your family. Yes. The first
- 50:21Speaker 1: time and only time your parents are your parents and
- 50:24Speaker 1: family are going to see you during that hometown date
- 50:27Speaker 1: is while the cameras are there filming you and the Bachelor,
- 50:30Speaker 1: Like I could never just say, uh, can I get
- 50:35Speaker 1: an extra hour with my family to debrief on what
- 50:38Speaker 1: they actually think of him? Like, you wouldn't get that,
- 50:40Speaker 1: and it's probably what you crave the very most. Um,
- 50:44Speaker 1: And is it actually the parents home or is it stage?
- 50:46Speaker 1: I do believe it depends on the person. M Amanda
- 50:50Speaker 1: Stanton used a friend's house, so I think it just
- 50:54Speaker 1: depends on if you want your house on camera, where
- 50:57Speaker 1: your parents live, and um, what's best for filming. I
- 51:01Speaker 1: have a weird question. I feel this this time. A
- 51:02Speaker 1: couple of times this season more than ever. Contestants I
- 51:06Speaker 1: don't know what you call them have made reference to
- 51:08Speaker 1: talking to their families. Have you noticed that? Yeah, Like
- 51:12Speaker 1: I think short haired Becca did it once and then
- 51:15Speaker 1: obviously the girl whose grandma died got to talk to
- 51:18Speaker 1: her family. But I feel like short haired beccas that's
- 51:20Speaker 1: something this is my sister, and it was because she
- 51:26Speaker 1: needed to let her mom know where she was or something.
- 51:28Speaker 1: That was the only reason I thought, because that was
- 51:30Speaker 1: that was afterwards. Yeah, so I'm still confused as to
- 51:33Speaker 1: get a one phone call. Okay, so this is interesting.
- 51:35Speaker 1: During the filming of Winter Games. I think that's okay
- 51:37Speaker 1: if I say this. Um, I got to call Lauren
- 51:40Speaker 1: a couple of times, but that's because she was on
- 51:42Speaker 1: Bachelor in Paradise with me, like she already is part
- 51:44Speaker 1: of my storyline. And um, when I was on the Bachelor,
- 51:49Speaker 1: I was there for twenty eight days, I believe. And
- 51:52Speaker 1: I did get to call my parents for I'm not
- 51:54Speaker 1: even joking you sixty seconds. It was my dad's birthday,
- 51:58Speaker 1: which also happens to a pair and anniversary. So let
- 52:01Speaker 1: me call and just say that really quickly. Um. But no,
- 52:04Speaker 1: they're as far as regular communication goes with contestants, they
- 52:09Speaker 1: really don't get to call anyone. So I'm unless there's
- 52:13Speaker 1: a kid at home, and then if you have a
- 52:16Speaker 1: son or daughter, then normally you're able to call them
- 52:19Speaker 1: like every other day and usually they face time him. Um,
- 52:21Speaker 1: but some kind of emergency. Rebecca, she said, I was
- 52:24Speaker 1: talking to my mom or my dad about Becka k
- 52:28Speaker 1: or Becca m Becca yeah, short haired back, shortback. She
- 52:31Speaker 1: was talking to Ari and she said, I was talking
- 52:32Speaker 1: to my mom the other day and she said this,
- 52:35Speaker 1: don't you think that maybe like the other day is
- 52:36Speaker 1: like maybe, but it definitely made me feel like she
- 52:38Speaker 1: had just called and you got the same vibe. Yeah,
- 52:41Speaker 1: she was like, I just let my mom know that
- 52:43Speaker 1: I really like you. I'm pulling this out of my ask.
- 52:45Speaker 1: It was something like that. Yeah, okay, well very interesting.
- 52:49Speaker 1: Maybe it was like some kind of emergency or something.
- 52:50Speaker 1: If anyone listening remembers exactly the episode and then we
- 52:54Speaker 1: could like make a phone call to try and figure
- 52:55Speaker 1: out what was going on. Yeah, email us at Benn
- 52:57Speaker 1: and Ashley at iHeartMedia dot com. Alright, moving on to
- 53:01Speaker 1: a question about one on ones. This is from Megan,
- 53:05Speaker 1: hey Ben and Ashley. Before I begin, I just want
- 53:07Speaker 1: to say that I love you both and I'm so
- 53:09Speaker 1: excited to see you both on the Winter Games. I'm
- 53:11Speaker 1: truly rooting for both of you. Getting to my question,
- 53:14Speaker 1: I have been wondering about something that happens during one
- 53:16Speaker 1: on one days when they transition from the day portion
- 53:19Speaker 1: to the night portion. Where do they usually go for dinner?
- 53:23Speaker 1: The couple changes outfits, and then they split up for
- 53:25Speaker 1: a while, and then they get ready again and then
- 53:27Speaker 1: they meet up. How much time it's spent in between
- 53:30Speaker 1: those transitions. This is a great, fantastic question, um, Being
- 53:35Speaker 1: that I've only been on one on ones on the
- 53:38Speaker 1: on Bachelor in Paradise and Bachelor Winter Games. Um depends
- 53:43Speaker 1: on the location. If your daytime portion is far away
- 53:48Speaker 1: from your nighttime portion, you're probably going to take separate
- 53:50Speaker 1: cars there, and then you're gonna probably have like two
- 53:53Speaker 1: hotel rooms where you both get ready freshen up, and
- 53:58Speaker 1: then they'll get room service for you. It's not like
- 54:00Speaker 1: an area you don't like go out to dinner in
- 54:02Speaker 1: that time. But if you are on a Bachelor one
- 54:05Speaker 1: on one day, I'm going to guess you're at least
- 54:08Speaker 1: separated for two solid hours between the night and the
- 54:12Speaker 1: daytime portion of the date, which is kind of nice
- 54:14Speaker 1: because you get to gather your thoughts, you get to
- 54:17Speaker 1: freshen yourself up, and you can just like, yeah, I
- 54:21Speaker 1: just take a break from like all the pressure of
- 54:23Speaker 1: carrying a conversation on TV. Yeah. So, but then it
- 54:28Speaker 1: depends because normally on a Bachelor in Paradise date or
- 54:32Speaker 1: a Winter Games date, you still get breaks. You may
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- 56:47Speaker 1: the relationship questions, and my sister is gonna help me
- 56:49Speaker 1: out on this because you know, I'm like kind of
- 56:51Speaker 1: new to relationships, so I need help giving advice I
- 56:55Speaker 1: probably shouldn't be. You know, nothing's really I want to
- 56:57Speaker 1: hear your advice and I'll fix it. Really okay, um
- 57:02Speaker 1: oh I think I like this one. He won't make
- 57:05Speaker 1: a move. That is the title of this letter on
- 57:08Speaker 1: this Yeah, that's because they usually don't want to make
- 57:10Speaker 1: a move. So Natalia, he probably doesn't want to make
- 57:14Speaker 1: a move. But I haven't read your story yet, so
- 57:16Speaker 1: here we go. I met this guy at worked two
- 57:17Speaker 1: years ago. We met because we are both We both
- 57:20Speaker 1: worked from a nonprofit that builds houses for extremely poor
- 57:24Speaker 1: families in Mexico and we provide education for their kiddos.
- 57:28Speaker 1: I am a social worker for the nonprofit and he
- 57:30Speaker 1: is the main contractor we use for these builds. The
- 57:33Speaker 1: connection was instant when we first met, but he was
- 57:36Speaker 1: engaged at the time and I was dating someone, so
- 57:39Speaker 1: we just left it there. Flash forward to last year.
- 57:42Speaker 1: We were both single and we have built a strong
- 57:44Speaker 1: friendship since then, but there is still always flirting. I
- 57:49Speaker 1: live in San Diego, he lives in Mexico. It's three
- 57:51Speaker 1: hours apart. He travels all the time here to spend
- 57:55Speaker 1: time with me, my friends, and my family. The chemistry
- 57:58Speaker 1: between us is undeniable, and everybody around us can tell.
- 58:01Speaker 1: He always comes to events that are important for me
- 58:04Speaker 1: and supports me in every possible way. With my career.
- 58:07Speaker 1: We went to a concert once last May May two seventeen,
- 58:11Speaker 1: and we kissed once, and it was an extremely passionate kiss.
- 58:15Speaker 1: We have never done anything physical before or after that.
- 58:19Speaker 1: So my questions are this, Should I risk our friendship
- 58:22Speaker 1: that we have and go to the next level or
- 58:24Speaker 1: just stay front with him. I feel like I'll regret
- 58:26Speaker 1: it if I don't take a chance with him, But
- 58:27Speaker 1: I also don't want to risk this amazing friendship we have.
- 58:31Speaker 1: Why hasn't he made a move either, I'm so confused.
- 58:34Speaker 1: I gave him plenty of green lights and science to
- 58:36Speaker 1: show that I'm interested in having something more. He's thirty,
- 58:39Speaker 1: I'm twenty five. Natalia. Okay, well, I I've been in
- 58:44Speaker 1: the situation before. I would recommend using alcohol in this situation.
- 58:48Speaker 1: I'm assuming that that concert wasn't That's what I'm saying,
- 58:52Speaker 1: that that's the only time they made out. I think
- 58:54Speaker 1: there was alcohol. I would just ask him to go
- 58:56Speaker 1: wine tasting or something. Oh, that's actually a great advice.
- 59:00Speaker 1: Other concert at work concert? Yeah, do you think that
- 59:03Speaker 1: he likes I think he likes her. Yeah, he wouldn't
- 59:06Speaker 1: be doing all this effort. Maybe he's nervous, like I
- 59:09Speaker 1: want to know is he straight? Do you ever? I
- 59:13Speaker 1: always have my red flag, like the work thing, like
- 59:17Speaker 1: what if they fall apart and then he doesn't get
- 59:19Speaker 1: to be the contract. Maybe that's why he's keeping himself
- 59:21Speaker 1: under could be totally, could be. I always wonder, like
- 59:25Speaker 1: the harm the friendship thing. I want to harm the friendship?
- 59:27Speaker 1: Do you believe in that? Like you have enough friends
- 59:29Speaker 1: you're trying to I always want to make out and
- 59:32Speaker 1: see what he says, like or do it kind of
- 59:35Speaker 1: with a little hint of jokey nous, but like seriousness.
- 59:38Speaker 1: That's always been my thing. It's like I've always crave
- 59:41Speaker 1: to ask, Hey, you want to make out? Did I
- 59:43Speaker 1: never do it? Then I'm just like yeah, I find
- 59:46Speaker 1: also that the thing that she said, I've given a
- 59:49Speaker 1: lot of green lights. I have learned this with guys.
- 59:52Speaker 1: You think you're giving some serious green lights, They don't
- 59:56Speaker 1: know anything anything. They they are so oblivious because I've
- 1:00:02Speaker 1: literally said things and think that I am being so obvious,
- 1:00:05Speaker 1: so obvious, so obvious. And then I'm like get like,
- 1:00:09Speaker 1: you know, I'll hear something or he'll say something and
- 1:00:11Speaker 1: I'm like wait, seriously, Like I thought I was being
- 1:00:15Speaker 1: so obvious even on Winter Games. Kevin was like, I
- 1:00:19Speaker 1: didn't think that you were into me at all, which
- 1:00:21Speaker 1: is why I asked Bibby, like, you didn't give me
- 1:00:23Speaker 1: any signs. I'm like, I looked at you with like
- 1:00:26Speaker 1: direct and pretty at you, and I went over and
- 1:00:30Speaker 1: I said, Hi, Like, what else do you need? You
- 1:00:31Speaker 1: don't look a guy. You're dodging eyes, you're looking away.
- 1:00:34Speaker 1: You know, if you're looking at me and you're not
- 1:00:36Speaker 1: like disconnecting, then you literally have to be like I
- 1:00:39Speaker 1: like you, will you please call me because I want
- 1:00:42Speaker 1: to talk to you on the phone. Like, if you
- 1:00:44Speaker 1: don't do that, they don't get it. As a guy,
- 1:00:49Speaker 1: guys are extremely afraid of rejection. There is they're so
- 1:00:53Speaker 1: afraid of being turned away when they lean in for
- 1:00:55Speaker 1: a kiss or something. You're right, they're oblivious to what
- 1:00:57Speaker 1: you're doing because there's a one present chance you'll saying know,
- 1:01:00Speaker 1: they won't go any further. I know, and especially with
- 1:01:02Speaker 1: a friendship. Whether he's probably like, oh, she just likes
- 1:01:05Speaker 1: me as a friend. You know, that was just a
- 1:01:07Speaker 1: drunken make out and I probably she probably didn't like that.
- 1:01:12Speaker 1: Men alright, moving on. This is from Jen my relationship
- 1:01:17Speaker 1: of seven years just ended about a week ago. I
- 1:01:20Speaker 1: lived with him for two years. He was seen as
- 1:01:23Speaker 1: another child to my parents. My entire family was obsessed
- 1:01:27Speaker 1: with him, and we are a package deal for a
- 1:01:30Speaker 1: very long time. We were best friends for three years
- 1:01:33Speaker 1: before I said yes to going on a date with him.
- 1:01:35Speaker 1: We were so good for almost our whole relationship. We
- 1:01:39Speaker 1: were connected in a way that I can't even put
- 1:01:40Speaker 1: into words. My love for him knows no limits. However,
- 1:01:44Speaker 1: about five months ago, things started to change. This is horrifying,
- 1:01:48Speaker 1: you know, just saying that he stopped coming home at night,
- 1:01:50Speaker 1: he stopped listening to me, and things got really bad.
- 1:01:53Speaker 1: I found out that he cheated several times. It was
- 1:01:56Speaker 1: a nightmare. However, due to our his street in our
- 1:02:00Speaker 1: living situation, I chose to stick with him through this
- 1:02:02Speaker 1: time where it seemed like he was just losing himself.
- 1:02:06Speaker 1: We're both in our twenties and I'm the only woman
- 1:02:09Speaker 1: he's ever been with, so I did do my best
- 1:02:11Speaker 1: to be as understanding as I could. Unfortunately, though, things
- 1:02:15Speaker 1: got only worse and I decided to leave out of
- 1:02:19Speaker 1: respect for myself. My question for you guys is, even
- 1:02:22Speaker 1: though I chose to leave, I'm really struggling. I can't
- 1:02:26Speaker 1: stop crying, I can't stop thinking about all the good
- 1:02:28Speaker 1: we had, and I can't help but feel as though
- 1:02:30Speaker 1: I wasn't good enough. The hardest part of it all
- 1:02:34Speaker 1: is that it seems that he is perfectly fine. He
- 1:02:37Speaker 1: honestly seems like he is so much happier now, and
- 1:02:40Speaker 1: that makes me question everything about the last seven years.
- 1:02:43Speaker 1: Everyone keeps telling me to focus on me, but it
- 1:02:45Speaker 1: seems impossible these days. I'm still madly in love with him,
- 1:02:48Speaker 1: even though I should probably hate him. At this point,
- 1:02:51Speaker 1: we have been small talking. He reaches out to me
- 1:02:53Speaker 1: every now and then. Should I let this continue? I
- 1:02:56Speaker 1: don't want to burn bridges since he was my best
- 1:02:58Speaker 1: friend for ten years. I don't don't know what is
- 1:03:00Speaker 1: wrong or what is right at this point. If any
- 1:03:02Speaker 1: of you have any insight, let me know what I
- 1:03:05Speaker 1: should do. Jin in Massachusetts. First of all, it's only
- 1:03:09Speaker 1: been a week. Oh yeah, Amy, way to bring back
- 1:03:13Speaker 1: at the beginning of it. It ended a week ago,
- 1:03:16Speaker 1: and he's been happier ever since a week ago. Guys
- 1:03:19Speaker 1: grieve later on girls grieve first. So he will come
- 1:03:23Speaker 1: back in like three months and she will be perfectly
- 1:03:26Speaker 1: He's really feeling, and she doesn't really know yet what
- 1:03:29Speaker 1: she's really feeling because it's only been a week, Like,
- 1:03:32Speaker 1: you gotta give it a lot longer. Yeah, and I'm
- 1:03:35Speaker 1: sure he will come back eventually, so she needs to
- 1:03:38Speaker 1: cut ties forget him off social media. Lauren is so
- 1:03:42Speaker 1: good at stuff like this because when Lauren says she's
- 1:03:44Speaker 1: not going to text the guy first, she doesn't text
- 1:03:46Speaker 1: the guy first, and then the guy always comes back.
- 1:03:51Speaker 1: To larn You've never had an instance where the guy
- 1:03:53Speaker 1: hasn't well, you haven't really had an instance, but the
- 1:03:55Speaker 1: guy hasn't come back. Don't think about him, don't text him.
- 1:03:58Speaker 1: That's the best way to heal. So, Jen, I know
- 1:04:01Speaker 1: that you wrote a long email, but that is simple
- 1:04:03Speaker 1: advice that I do think is going to work for you.
- 1:04:05Speaker 1: It will never work. You know, he cheated on you.
- 1:04:07Speaker 1: I really don't know. You don't think it's ever going
- 1:04:09Speaker 1: to work again. Sorry, but he will contact her, Yeah,
- 1:04:12Speaker 1: he'll contact you, but then you want her back, You
- 1:04:14Speaker 1: want her yourr back. But she will always be concerned,
- 1:04:18Speaker 1: and Jen, you should always be concerned that it could
- 1:04:20Speaker 1: happen again. Right, Yeah, sorry, Jen, I don't know she
- 1:04:25Speaker 1: could get past all that. But right now. The focus
- 1:04:28Speaker 1: just needs to be like, breathe her best. We don't
- 1:04:32Speaker 1: know that you're young, give him time, you can get
- 1:04:35Speaker 1: past the all kinds of things. She's just right now.
- 1:04:38Speaker 1: She needs to just sort of I kind of wish
- 1:04:40Speaker 1: I knew their ages, because if they're like best friends
- 1:04:42Speaker 1: from fourteen to twenty four, that's different than being best
- 1:04:45Speaker 1: friends from two. I don't think she's old, so she
- 1:04:49Speaker 1: needs to just give it a month and then see
- 1:04:51Speaker 1: how she's feeling. Right, all right, One more email before
- 1:04:55Speaker 1: we go. This is from Brittany. Hey, Ashley and Ben. Actually,
- 1:04:58Speaker 1: I love getting to know through this podcast. Seeing you
- 1:05:01Speaker 1: in a completely different light from your previous seasons has
- 1:05:04Speaker 1: been so fun. Thank you so much. That is such
- 1:05:06Speaker 1: a compliment. I am now a fan of yours as well.
- 1:05:10Speaker 1: I love that. By the way, I absolutely love The
- 1:05:12Speaker 1: Greatest Showman. I mean it was like high school musical
- 1:05:15Speaker 1: on steroids. Yes, it was sensory candy. Two questions for y'all,
- 1:05:20Speaker 1: who is your best friend from the Bachelor family. Obviously
- 1:05:23Speaker 1: you get close to so many people in the franchise,
- 1:05:25Speaker 1: but if you had to choose one, who would it be?
- 1:05:27Speaker 1: When watching The Bachelor of the bachelorette during your time
- 1:05:31Speaker 1: on the fun daytime part of the date and then
- 1:05:34Speaker 1: the fancier part of the date. What happens in between
- 1:05:36Speaker 1: the two? Well, Brittany, I already answered that question today.
- 1:05:39Speaker 1: How crazy is that? Um? Thanks for being a light
- 1:05:42Speaker 1: and keep bringing smiles to me week after week. Keep
- 1:05:45Speaker 1: it up. Thanks, Brittany, Well Britney. My closest friends in
- 1:05:50Speaker 1: the Bachelor family. That would be ben Becca, who I
- 1:05:55Speaker 1: would say even if she wasn't standing in front of me.
- 1:05:57Speaker 1: Jade Tanner and Jared the asked for one, Ashley, you
- 1:06:01Speaker 1: can't and Deine. Those are my that's my elite. So
- 1:06:06Speaker 1: no offense. Everybody who's not in there, but you, guys,
- 1:06:08Speaker 1: I do. I love you the very most. All Right, Well, guys,
- 1:06:13Speaker 1: it is it was just me today. So signing off,
- 1:06:17Speaker 1: this is this has been no you say, I've been
- 1:06:19Speaker 1: Ashley signing off, This has been Ashley. I've been Ashley.
- 1:06:23Speaker 1: I've been Ashley. Goodbye. Followed the Benn and Ashley I
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