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Season 5 Ep 2: You’re Not Choosing Wrong… You’re Choosing From Who You Think You Are | Break Toxic Relationship Patterns & Heal Your Identity in Christ · Welcome to The Vineyard Podcast with Montoya Williams

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Vineyard Podcast, where her identity in Christ becomes the foundation for a healthy Christ center relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Antoya, and I welcome you here to the Vineyard Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if this is your first time, we first begin by inviting God into the conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, Lord, thank you for this assignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Lord, thank you for every heart that you have led here today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lord, I ask that you anoint my voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I ask that you align our hearts to hear what needs to be heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is in Jesus' name I ask and pray.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hi love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Last episode we talked about identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh goodness.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about from Princess to Queen.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about from Prince to King.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it was good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should definitely check that out.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have not already, that's season five, episode one, which is the rebrand of this podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: But today I want to talk about something that I feel is necessary to be discussed, and that's patterns.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times we actually experience repeated patterns in relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Repeated patterns.
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  SPEAKER_00: So one thing I love about what God is doing in this season of the vineyard is we are calling things as they are, and we are leaning into the truth of what they are in the vineyard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's those repeated unhealthy patterns that we sometimes choose to ignore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those repeated unhealthy patterns that we choose to make an excuse for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the awareness that we must acknowledge.
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  SPEAKER_00: And oh my goodness.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we are in that space, we feel unseen, which automatically attracts us to men who don't see us.
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  SPEAKER_00: We feel unworthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where that overproving your worth comes in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we don't feel worthy enough to just stand in that worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: To stand in that fearfully, wonderfully made woman who has worth that's above rubies.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can say it all day.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can even fake it all day.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's not until you sincerely receive that in your heart and your mind and believe it to be who you are that you can walk in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're just continuously settling for less than you desire and you deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: You attract what you tolerate.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you tolerate what you believe you deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I believe you're tired.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe you are now aware, and I believe that you're tired.
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  SPEAKER_00: This isn't about men.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is about your identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you heal your identity, your patterns, they can't repeat.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you step into Christ, you stop chasing love.
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  SPEAKER_00: You recognize love for what it is because you gather that discerning spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: You stop proving your worth because you walk in that fearfully and wonderfully made woman that you were created to be, and you know that your worth is above rubies.
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  SPEAKER_00: You stop settling for less than your worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, love, I asked you this question.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you when no one is choosing you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: That version of you is choosing everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the question I asked you to ask yourself today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you when no one is choosing you?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need another relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need a new identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until that shift, nothing else changes.
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  SPEAKER_00: The identity is tied to the relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in the next episode, we go deeper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now that you see your patterns, next we break it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So follow this podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't miss what's about to shift your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, I don't want to hold you any longer, but I encourage you to stay anchored in Christ and covered in love, and we will definitely chat again soon.