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Does The Narcissist's Family Know About Them? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're gonna be talking about does the narcissist family
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  know who they really are or what they are doing to people,
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  including you? Do they really know or are they
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  in the dark? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  So boom, welcome back folks. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Yeah, yo, the narcissist family
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  do do though. There's the people that share
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  the same last name are share the same blood as this toxic
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  narcissistic person. Do they have any idea who they
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  are? Do they have any idea of what
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  they are doing to other people? Before we hop deep into today's
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  episode? Y'all, if you want to contact
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  me, find more information about me and my coaching, my courses,
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  my support groups, you can find everything and I mean everything
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  at mentalillness.net. Mental illness.net is going to
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  be scrolling across the bottom of the screen here and there.
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  Y'all make sure you check that out and hit that subscribe
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  button as well. But y'all narcissistic people,
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  Toxic people like like to kind of keep a low profile most time.
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  What inside the relationship or not.
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  They like to keep a low profile with people who don't know who
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  they are, right? They want to keep their
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  reputation intact, like whatever that looks like to them.
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  They want to keep their reputation intact.
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  They want to keep their reputation like they they want
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  to keep a pristine reputation. They want people to see them how
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  they want people to see them. They want people to see the good
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  in them and not the bad stuff that they might have been doing
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  or the bad stuff they might actually still be doing, or
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  whatever the case may be, right? They want people to look at them
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  like they are good people. So a lot of times people ask me
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  like Lee, does the narcissist family know?
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  I know other people can be other people can be tricked by the
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  narcissist, right? The public, the Co workers, the
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  people at church, whatever it is, right?
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  Other people can be tricked by a narcissist.
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  What about the family? What about the origin story?
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  What about the the the where they came from?
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  Do the people that know them in real life, the people that grew
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  up around and the people that raised them, do they know who
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  they really are and answer that question out?
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  It's going to be, it depends sometimes, right?
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  They don't. Sometimes the person that is the
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  the narcissist family, toxic person's family has no idea who
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  they really are outside the house, right?
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  They know who they are. They know pretty much.
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  They could have been a good student, they could have been,
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  could have a lot of friends and whatnot.
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  They could have a good reputation with their family as
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  well, right? So the family only knows them
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  for how they see them inside the house, not how they are at
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  school, not how they are at church or whatever they or not
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  how they are in relationship. They only see them as the person
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  that they raised and took care of for as a as a child, right?
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  So they don't know. They might not know.
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  I'm not This is not for everybody.
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  Y'all. There's gonna be a different
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  part of this video. I say yes, they absolutely do
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  know. But there are some that are
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  oblivious to it, right? There's some that just don't
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  know what the narcissistic person is doing out within a
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  different relationship dynamic outside of the scope of the
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  family. Some of them could absolutely be
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  confused and have no earthly idea who the hell that you are
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  dealing with. They only know.
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  I only know Lee's a good boy. Like my family would tell people
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  I'm a good person. They would just always say Lee's
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  good. Lee's funny.
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  He's this, he's there. He's going to school.
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  He died out there. He died out of that.
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  Yeah. He they know me for that.
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  They don't know how I am with my girlfriends or my wife or
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  whoever they whoever that that is right.
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  Your narcissistic partner or ex might not know who they are as a
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  husband, as a wife, as a boyfriend or girlfriend, as a
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  fiance, as a parent. They have no idea.
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  They just oblivious to it. They just don't know like they
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  don't. And some of them, let's be real,
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  don't care to know. They only care how they perceive
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  within the household. They only care is that sometimes
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  you have a narcissistic parent, right?
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  Narcissistic parents could possibly raise a narcissistic
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  child. And so sometimes you get into
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  this space where they absolutely have no idea what the hell is
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  going on with their parents, with their kids.
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  They don't know. They're just not involved in
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  their lives. They just see the good parts
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  that are being revealed. That's why sometimes you see
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  these, these documentaries where the parents, they're like we
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  when the parents finally found out what their son had done,
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  they were shocked and they started crying and like, no, we
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  had no idea he was like this. When the parents found out that
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  their daughter had planned to marry, nobody knew what to do.
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  No, you know what I'm saying? It's just in that space right
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  there. They don't know they'd be they'd
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  be super shocked how they are inside different relationships,
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  how they are inside intimate relationships that are outside
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  the scope of the family. Right.
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  Some of them really don't know. Y'all, that's not me trying to
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  make excuses. Well, they should know they
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  raised this demon bastard. They should have took them to
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  church and bathed them holy whatever.
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  They didn't. So they should know they are
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  responsible. I'm not saying that they they
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  I'm not saying that they are not responsible for the person that
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  they raised. I'm not saying that right,
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  because sooner or later the kids got to grow up, but I'm saying
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  that some of them really do not know.
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  But there are a ton that absolutely do know.
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  There are a ton of narcissistic family members and parents and
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  cousins and aunties and uncles that close, you know, blood, not
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  not, you know, Blood Brothers that absolutely do know,
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  siblings that do know who you're dealing with.
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  They absolutely do. They raise them, they're proud
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  of it. They blame you.
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  My baby didn't do nothing. You know the type of it, they,
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  they, you sometimes you get that you, you marry into the type of
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  family that supports their, that narcissistic person.
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  No matter what, no matter what they do to you, no matter what
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  they put you through, no matter what they say, no matter what
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  type of harm they bring to you, they like, no matter what type
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  of harm that they bring to you, you see it like their their
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  family doesn't care. They always find a way to put it
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  on to you. They'll always find a way to
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  blame you. They'll always find a way for
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  this type of stuff to happen. This is the mentality.
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  This is what goes on within these spaces.
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  Y'all. I know some of you were like,
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  well, damn, that's kind of crazy.
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  Yeah, yeah. It can't get crazy when you're
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  dealing with an abuser. They might have an abusive
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  family. Who the hell you think made them
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  like that? Who the hell you think created
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  them? It's like they came off.
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  This narcissistic person came off a damn assembly line of
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  toxicity. They know who they are, they
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  know who they're dealing with. They know who they raised they
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  they know there's no narcissistic bastards out there
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  being a torture to the world. But they like to blame you.
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  They like to contribute. They group gaslighting is real.
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  Like not only does the narcissist pull you into the
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  gaslighting, they'll pull their family and friends into it as
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  well and have them Co signing on horrible stuff that is that is
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  going on within your life. They'll have them Co signing on
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  stuff that that's going on with you, that's happening to you.
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  They'll have them Co signing like they just will.
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  Y'all, I'm just telling you, sometimes they absolutely do
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  know. Sometimes they they they help.
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  They assist in it. They perpetuate the cycle of
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  abuse. They assist in it.
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  They help their they help their son or daughter abuse you.
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  They help manipulate you. They help pick up the lie.
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  Oh, my baby. No, no, no, no, no, no.
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  You don't know you. My baby would never cheat on
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  you. They were they were here with me
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  the whole time. I know you.
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  I know you weren't in here, but I'm telling your partner this so
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  I can help you cheat, OK? No, no, no.
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  You got it all wrong. He was here the whole time she
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  was here. The she was absolutely here the
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  whole time with me, with her dad.
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  So you got it all wrong. You might want to check your
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  sources on that one, bucko buddy.
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  And next time, before you call me and accuse my son or daughter
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  or something, think twice about it.
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  Make sure you had your ducks in the row, OK, buddy, Click.
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  If you're going to cheat, make sure you cover me tracks better,
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  OK? Get them calling me.
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  Make sure you bring my my the affair baby, the baby you had
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  outside your relationship. Make sure you bring them over to
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  see grandpa. OK?
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  I love them. None the same.
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  OK, OK. Just keep it under tabs.
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  They will help. They will help out.
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  You call your part. You call your partner's parents
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  after they put their hands on you.
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  You like your son or daughter? Hit me.
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  Your your child hit me. What did you do?
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  They we didn't raise them like that.
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  You must have, you must have made it.
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  You must have aggravated them to the point where they had to hit
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  you. Maybe you deserved it.
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  Imagine somebody's Mama tell you you deserve to get punched in
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  the mouth by their son. You know what I'm saying?
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  This will be happening, y'all? They will continuously
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  perpetuate the cycle of abuse because sometimes the parents or
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  the family members are themselves narcissists, right?
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  Sometimes they themselves are narcissistic and so they
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  perpetuate the cycle of abuse because they see themselves in
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  their child and the whole narcissistic family dynamics can
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  sometimes run and operate like cults, right?
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  They can run and operate like a damn cult.
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  So you get caught up in it. You're pretty much in a cult
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  with a, with an abusive partner, with an abusive person.
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  You get caught up in this cultish dynamic and it it can
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  drive you crazy. It can make you feel like, it
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  can absolutely make you feel like you're going crazy.
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  And other people are like, well, damn, Lee, what the hell do we
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  do about this? You got a document, document,
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  document. You know, keep, keep
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  documentations of everything, right?
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  And understand that, that if that most time the family is not
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  going to be on your side, regardless of what has happened
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  to you. I know that sucks, but yeah,
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  that's, that's the at the end of the day, you might have married
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  into that family, but you were not born into that family.
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  So most times they're going to take the side of the
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  narcissistic person, regardless of whatever they have done to
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  you, no matter what proof you have, no matter what evidence
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  you have, they're going to take the side of the abuser.
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  And it might hurt somebody. I was feeling to hear that, but
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  that's what's going to happen. I love my mother-in-law.
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  She's so sweet. But then I told her, I told her
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  that her son put put his hands on me and she she hung up on me,
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  told me I deserved it. I never thought she do something
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  like that. I called my I called my
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  girlfriend's dad and told told her told him that she cheated on
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  me and you know what he told me? I mean I need this.
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  I need a man up and step my game up.
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  Be a man she would want to cheat on you.
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  She don't cheat on be alpha, be alpha then.
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  So how like the dad is howling on the phone like an alpha wolf.
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  I know how ignorant that sounds though, y'all.
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  But that's the space that so many people do fall into within
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  the types of relationship because you think that their
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  family is going to take your side sometimes.
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  And they absolutely just will refuse to do that, y'all.
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  They just will refuse to do so. But anyways, y'all, thank y'all
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