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72. how to be a winter girl.... early morning routine & beating the winter blues · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Hello you guys, and welcome back to another episode of the Hawtgrel Energy Podcast.
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I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is your weekly reminder that it's
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a new day, a new week, a new mindset, and another day
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if you to become the hawtgrel energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
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Happy Tuesday. We are so due for a girl Chat episode. I
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feel like I haven't done one of these in so long, Like I literally
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don't remember the last time I recorded an episode like this. But essentially,
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what I love to do is I love to just like talk about topics that
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have been on my mind lately or just things that I've been doing these past
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few weeks that you know, have really helped me going into the new year.
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I feel like every time we enter a new year, I always feel
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like January is a month where everybody's just trying to better themselves, right,
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like kind of become an entirely new person. Like we don't need to do
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the whole new year, new me. It's more like new year, better
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me, right, Like there's always things we can improve on as a human.
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Nobody's perfect, right, so there's always little things that people can do
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to better themselves, and I feel like twenty twenty four is the year where
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I'm really just trying to work on myself. I'm really just trying to improve
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on, you know, some things that I personally think could be bad habits
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or things that I'm really just trying to prioritize this year and just be better
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at you know what I mean. I feel like everybody is in that era
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right now. So I look back at myself back in twenty twenty three January.
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I literally had the worst January last year. Like I don't know why.
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It was so bad, Like I was seeing a therapist. It was
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just really really bad seasonal depression. And I've opened up about that and how
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I feel going into the winter season. But there's been something really different this
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January. I feel like I've had such a better mindset and so much energy,
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and I try I truly believe that. I don't know, I feel
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like something just has been different this year versus last year. Like I can
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honestly say like I am not struggling this month, Like I feel like I've
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had a really really good month mentally. I've really really stuck to my routine.
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I've just you know, I felt like I've been changing up my content
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a lot too, on like TikTok, just like talking more, you know
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what I mean. Like, I feel like I was so lost last January
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because I think I not like I wasn't loving what I was doing. Like
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I had the podcast, I had my job, and obviously I love my
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job, but I feel like I was putting out content that I honestly didn't
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want to post, if that makes sense. And obviously, when you post
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content just to please other people, but it's not pleasing yourself, it's not
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the best feeling, you know what I mean. So I feel like if
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I look back at myself last month, I think I was forcing content out
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that I truly didn't love doing and it didn't truly make me happy. And
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I think, obviously you need to love what you do, and if you
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don't love what you do, like that's obviously not not a good situation.
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But I don't know. I'm just trying to think back and I'm trying to
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reflect, like what did I do last January that was so bad for my
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mental health? And what have I done this year? I think one thing
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that I've really improved on last year going into this year was keeping up with
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my vitamins and actually being consistent with just taking my greens for an example,
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I feel like my energy levels have been really really good, and I think
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that could play a huge impact, specifically when it comes to the winter season.
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I feel like if you don't have good energy levels, obviously that could
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get to your head and you could feel tired all the time, and obviously
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that can lead to yeah, just like winter blues and just not feeling the
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most energetic and fun self that you usually are. So I don't know,
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I'm just feeling really really good going into twenty twenty four already. I feel
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like last January it was like a really really hard time and I literally don't
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know why, to be honest, Like I feel like that was so long
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ago. Obviously it was a year ago, and I feel like I can't
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remember. But feeling really really good going into January so far, and I'm
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really really happy about it. In this Girl Chat episode, I really wanted
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to focus on things that I'm doing in my morning routine, like really just
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describe everything in detail as to what I do or what I strive to do
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every single morning, as well as how to shift your mindset, So how
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can we shift our negative mindset into a positive one. Like I said,
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going into a winter season, if you're currently you know, from Canada or
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the States, and you're dealing with the winter blues, like these are some
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things that could help you out to really shift your mindset and just like really
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try and stay positive throughout, you know, the difficult times. I feel
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like the colder seasons are always hard, and how are we gonna make it
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better? How are we going to actually have a positive mindset these next few
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months. Before we even get into this episode, I really want to talk
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about what I've seen on my TikTok lately. I don't know if you guys
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have seen the Clean Girl is Out and Mob Wife is in. I love
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the Mob Wife era, not gonna lie, like I think it's really really
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chic. I love the fur coats, I love the Mob Wife like make
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up aesthetic all that, but let's be clean Girl is never out. Like
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I still love the clean Girl aesthetic. I just got my nails down the
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other day and I just did the bubble bath like go to neutral nail color,
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and I'm like, I really hope the clean Girl nail aesthetic never goes
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out of style, Like Let's be honest, there's no better feeling than getting
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a neutral nail color on your nails, just feeling so put together. Like
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I have not done a neutral nail since the summer, like I was experimenting
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for like the past six months, like I was doing the cherry red for
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fall, I was doing like red tip French nails for Christmas, like I
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totally was doing different nail colors, which I love, like I love changing
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it up, but I haven't done my classic bubble bath nails since August.
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So it felt so good just to have this like fresh set on my nails.
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And I'm like, this better never go at a style, Like I
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don't care who says it clean Girl nail aesthetic will never leave. This is
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my holy graal nail color. Like I will always resort back to bubble Bath
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like no matter what. It's just like the perfect neutral nail colors. So
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anyways, I just wanted to highlight that because I feel like I've seen the
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whole clean Girl is out. You know, mob wipe is in all over
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TikTok, and I'm like, hey, depends on the situation, but anyways,
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let's talk about morning routines. If you're the kind of person that doesn't
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have any kind of routine into their current lifestyle. I highly, highly,
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highly recommend building a routine for yourself, whether it's like a little step by
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step routine or a checklist, whatever helps you out to remember to do things
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in the morning or night. I truly think this is something that everybody should
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be having. I just find it's a great way to set your day up
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for success, whether it's in the morning, as I said, or maybe
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doing things at night. That way, when you wake up in the morning,
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everything's ready to go. You feel prepped to take on the day.
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So we're gonna talk about morning. I feel like I could definitely give a
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more in depth night routine as well in terms of what I do at night,
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but we're going to do morning routine for today. So if I were
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to describe my perfect morning, like, this is not something I do every
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single morning, but like if I were to describe, okay, this is
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what I hope to do every single day, this would be it. First
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off, wake up early, So personally for me, I like to wake
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up at six am, Like I love waking up early, not in that
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exact moment, like I really regret it when I have my alarm going off
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at five poin fifty five in the morning. I'm like, why am I
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doing this? I'm exhausted, But I usually have the motivation to get out
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of bed because I book a workout class. If you're the kind of person
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that has such a hard time getting out of bed, there is nothing more
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motivating than pushing your butt out of bed and going to a workout class.
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I'm telling you right now, you will feel so good after that workout class
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and feel so proud of yourself for actually getting out of bed and actually pushing
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yourself to go to the class. So that is the key motivation that I
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can honestly recommend when it comes to waking up early, is book a class
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because you're not gonna want to lose your money from that class. You're not
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gonna want to just fall up sep. You're gonna be like, Okay,
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well, I got to get my clothes on, I got to get my
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water bottle prepped. I got to obviously drive to the class, like everything
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you have to do. The step by step process of getting out of the
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house is honestly so essential. So for me waking up at six am,
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you know, waking up putting on my workout set immediately. I find laying
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out my workout clothes the night before is super helpful as well. That way
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I know what I'm wearing. I don't need to stress out about what I'm
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going to wear for the workout class. I have it all laid out,
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and then I always love to do an ice roll in my face just to
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wake me up, because let's be honest, it's never easy waking up really
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early in the morning. So putting like either cold water in my face or
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doing an ice roll, I feel like that just wakes me up and then
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I head off to my workout class. I've been trying to get into pilates.
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I do pilotates here at the house, but if I want to wake
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up early and actually push myself out the door, I have to leave the
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house. Like I can't wake up at six am and do a workout here.
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It just will not work out for me. I'll just sit in my
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bed knowing that I don't have like a strict timeframe of, you know,
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getting to a place right. The motivation of getting my butt out of bed
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at an early time is because I need to be at my workout class by
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a specific time right, So I'm actually going to a pilate studio in Ottawa.
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It's called Playground. I tried it out this summer and I loved it.
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I just never kept up a routine with it, just because it's not
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very close to my place, and obviously the convenience of having something super close,
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specifically with the early morning routine is obviously essential. So I have spin
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Coat super close to my place. It's like a five minute drive. Not
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even where is a plate studio, It's about a thirty minute drive so,
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and parking is not the easiest to find in this area. So I'm hoping
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to make it maybe like a Friday or Saturday thing. I also really want
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to try and do it with a friend, whether it's my sister or somebody
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else. I always find going to workout classes with friends has been very very
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helpful as well. So if you know someone that loves to wake up early
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and goes to workout classes, maybe ask if you could join them. For
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example, my best friend Katie, I introduced her to spin Coat in the
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beginning of the year and she absolutely loves it and she goes to all the
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seven am classes now, so she always texts me saying, hey, these
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are the classes I booked this week, like, let me know what day
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you can come, And I'm actually going to the seven am spinco class with
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her tomorrow. So it just kind of shows that going with friends could also
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be a great way to motivate yourself to get out of bed and just do
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what. Workout class with a friend is always fun and just catching up and
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all that. So yeah, that's something I'm trying to do with my sister
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hopefully this year. And then yeah, just keeping up my spin CooA classes
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in the early mornings and then after I do my workout class, I love
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to have a post workout smoothie. This has been my go to these past
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few weeks. I really really enjoy having some protein powder just obviously it's great
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for muscle recovery and just getting your protein intake after a workout. So I've
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been using the protein powder by Ritual. It's actually so good, guys.
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It's a vanilla based protein powder. It's actually dairy free, so if you
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are vegan or dairy sensitive, this is really great protein powder. It actually
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tastes really good and it blends really really well in smoothies. In my current
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go to green smoothie that I've been having in the morning is spinach, mango,
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hempseeds, greek yogurt. I currently use a vanilla cinnamon, greek yogurt,
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coconut water, and then my protein powder and it's actually really really good.
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Guys, try it out, let me know what we think. You
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can also add banana if you want to make it a bit sweeter. Banana
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mango spinach so good. And for people who've never had spinach in their protein
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smoothies, you cannot taste the spinach. I'm telling you right now, you
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will not taste it. And it's just good to get those extra benefits in.
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And then I have my greens in my breakfast. You guys know,
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my favorite greens is athletic greens, so many benefits to it. I'm not
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going to go into it just because I talk about it so much, but
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one breakfast that I've been obsessed with lately is yogurt bowls. I'm going to
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tell you something, Okay, I have been struggling to change up my breakfast
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for like the past six months. I was a huge oatmeal girl. Like
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I had oatmeal not stop every single morning for like a year, not even
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over exaggerating, and then I want to say, like in September of twenty
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twenty three, so literally like six months ago. I don't know what happened,
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but I became not obsessed with that anymore. I'm like, Okay,
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I need to change it up. I need to get more into like savory
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breakfasts. I probably mentioned it here on the podcast that I was trying to
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change up my breakfasts. And you know, I love avocado toast and all
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that, and I love putting egg on it. But I don't know,
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I was just not loving it for every single day because I love sweet breakfasts
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like I just I crave sweet. I don't crave savory in the morning.
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Do I believe that you're either a sweet person or a savory person when it
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comes to breakfast in the morning, Like you're not both. Well, you
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can be both, I guess, But for me, I usually crave something
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sweet. So lately I've been having yogurt bowls. I've been putting this cinnamon
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vanilla yogurt with strawberries, blueberries, granola, cocoa nibs and honey and a
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bit of almond butter as well, And it's been my current obsession I finally
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found something that I really like. I feel like I've been trying so many
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different breakfasts lately and they're just not hitting. But this one is definitely hitting.
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So this is something that I've been having for breakfast. And then after
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I'll usually do a shower or an everything shower, or a no shower at
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all if it's not needed, do my skincare, which is like my daily
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necessity. I love doing my skincare so much. If you do not have
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a skincare routine in your routine, you really really need to try and you
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know, learn from you know, social media or influencers or anything like that,
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Like gain some insight on what products you should be using for your face.
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Obviously the products that I use may not work for you, but do
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your own research right, Like figure out what kind of skin type do you
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have? Do you have oily skin, do you have dry skin? Look
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into a toner, look into a cleanser, look into you know, a
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moist dizer. I cream lip bomb, Like you will feel so good and
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see such great results when you're actually consistent with a skincare routine. It's truly
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been the biggest game changer in my face and just how I feel, so
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that my makeup routine. I actually filmed this for TikTok not long ago,
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so if you want to see that video, I just showed how I did,
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like my everyday bronze look, just to like, you know, boost
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my confidence. I feel like when you do makeup every single day, it
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just you know, just boost your confidence a bit. You feel good going
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into the day, you feel put together. So it's a really quick and
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easy one. No foundation, just concealer and bronzer and then other little makeup
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products that I use, and then putting on a cute outfit. Like there's
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no better feeling than putting on a matching set. That's always the best feeling.
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I feel so put together when I have a matching set on. But
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yeah, just actually like putting the effort in yourself is so important, and
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I truly believe that makes a huge difference in your mindset as well. When
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you actually get ready for yourself and put yourself together, you will totally see
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your mindset change just from being and feeling so much better. And then lastly,
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I'll have a coffee two hours later from my breakfast. And some people
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find that so weird. Some people are like, oh my god, you
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have your coffee so late, Like why do you do that? I I
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feel like having a coffee later in the day, Like I'm talking like maybe
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like eleven or ten o'clock, Like I'm not having it past noon, because
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obviously, if I had a pass noon, I honestly think I wouldn't sleep
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at night, just because caffeine really affects me. If I'm gonna have anything
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afternoon, like it would be a decaf. But I truly feel like I
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feel so good like having my food digested in my body before having a coffee.
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And I've mentioned on the podcast in the past, but having coffee with
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no food just really spikes my anxiety levels, Like my anxiety is so bad
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when I have coffee on an empty stomach, Like it just doesn't sit well
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for me. And I truly feel like, if you're having coffee as soon
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as you wake up, you really need to have a snack or something before
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because if you notice that your anxiety is really bad, or you know,
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just something triggers in your body that you don't like the feeling of. I
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truly believe that it's probably from drinking coffee too early before you have your food
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so really try and look into your routine and see if you can push your
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coffee to a later time. Maybe it's right after breakfast, not too out,
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But for me, I just have a coffee later in the day.
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I also just like to have just my coffee and nothing else, Like I
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love the taste of my at home coffee so much that I really don't want
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to mix the taste with like my breakfast. I'd rather just be my coffee,
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if that makes sense. But anyways, I usually I have my coffee
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and I'll just start doing my journaling and planning for the day and then I
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start work. So that's kind of like my ideal morning routine and what I
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strive to do every single day because that's truly what makes me feel good and
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I feel like I go in with a really good mindset throughout the day.
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I feel like I have my shit together basically, And yeah, it's just
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something that I start to do every single day. So now let's talk about
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shifting our mindset. So, as I said, going into the winter season
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is difficult, right, Like, I get it. I feel you.
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Right now, I am craving a beach vacation, Like all I want is
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the sun on my face. I want to be by the ocean and just
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chill on the beach. But you know, you got to push through the
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winter blues. You know, we're already almost done January, so only a
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few more months to go. We will get through it together, don't worry.
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But there is definitely some things that we can do and just things we
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can do ourselves to really help motivate ourselves to just have a better mindset and
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just feel a bit more positive. And I think one thing that I really
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really love to do is finding a new self care activity or hobby. Like
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think is something that you can do in your spare time that you would look
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forward to, whether it's reading a book or coloring or painting or drawing.
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Maybe you don't read that much and you want to start reading more, or
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maybe you want to do a hobby that involves, you know, being active,
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whether it's joining a soccer team or a hockey team, anything like that.
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Like something that you can do in your spare time that will allow you
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to look forward to it is really really important and it also just kind of
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gives you a distraction. And what I love about joining sports specifically is that
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you're in that social environment, and there's either people who love to be in
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social environments or you don't. I personally thrive when I'm in a social setting,
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Like I love talking. I love talking to people. Like Zach comes
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home from his workday and I'm like, oh my god, how are you.
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How is your day? Like I'm ready to chat up a store and
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He's like, holy shit, you need to talk to people. And I'm
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like, I know, I thrive in social environment. So for me,
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taking on soccer was actually a really really good thing for my mental health.
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I think because I'm seeing people, I'm talking with people, I'm still being
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active. I'm getting back into an activity that you know, I haven't done
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in years, So it's been nice to get back into that. Right.
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So that's something that I did for myself and it's really really helped me,
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to be honest, But it could be as simple as as I said,
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just getting into reading, paining or drawing. I'm not gonna lie like I've
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thought about getting to painting so many times, and I suck at painting,
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like I literally suck. But if it makes you happy and it gives you
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something to do, even a puzzle, like if you love to do puzzles.
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Buy yourself a puzzle, put it on your dining room table, and
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you know, take the next few days to do it. But my sister
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loves to do that, like she has done so many puzzles and it's been
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such a great distraction and just something to get away from, you know,
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technology and just off her phone and all that. So I don't know,
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just find a little self care activity that you could do that really helps you,
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just to distract yourself and just as I said, just having something to
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look forward to. Another great thing to help your mindset is getting out of
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the house. You have no idea how good it feels just to step outside,
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even if it is just for ten to fifteen minutes. I know it's
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cold when I'm walking Freddy. Sometimes I'm literally freezing my ass off, but
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I do it for my mental health and for my dog obviously because he needs
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a walk. But every time I do that, like fifteen to twenty minute
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walk every single day, I feel so much better and I feel like I
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almost like need that break where I'm just stepping outside, I'm enjoying the fresh
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air. So going on walks is so important. But it's also like you
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know, going to run errands and just get out of the house. Go
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to your grocery store, go get your necessities that you need every single week.
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Like, doing those little errands will make you f feel so good.
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So if you feel like you've been in a slump or a funk, and
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you feel like you've been having a hard time getting out of that, push
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yourself to go outside or honestly push yourself to go get in your car,
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go to your favorite coffee shop or to your favorite coffee and maybe a treat.
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Just do little things like that. Maybe it's going, you know,
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shopping and get a little retail therapy out, or maybe it's going to buy
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a book for yourself going to the bookstore, like, just do little things
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that make you feel good. So push yourself out of the house. You
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need to push yourself out of the house if you're truly feeling like you're just
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in a funk or just not feeling yourself. I truly believe that getting out
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of the house makes you feel so so much better. So that's definitely something
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that I would recommend. Just get out of the house. You'll feel so
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much better. I already said this, but getting ready every single day truly
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makes me feel so much better putting on a cue outfit. It changes your
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entire mood whenever you're feeling low or anything like that. It makes you feel
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so much more put together. And then another thing that I really think helps
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boost your mindset is trying something new. It's something that you can look forward
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to each week. So one thing for me at night that I've been including
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into my night routine currently is the Sleepy Girl mocktail. If you guys don't
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know what that is, you guys can go on my Instagram. But basically,
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it's this drink that really helps you relax. And I've been having a
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really hard time falling asleep, which I think I talked about this. I
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don't know if it was in the last podcast episode of the Night before,
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and I probably have it maybe three times a week, and my goodness,
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does it ever relax you. I always have the best sleeps whenever I take
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it. But that has been something that I've been trying to get into as
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well as meditation. Form actually has meditations now, so I've tried two of
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their meditation classes at night. I think they're about five to ten minutes long,
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and it's been pretty good. I've been trying to like set the mood
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by like lighting a candle, just really feeling the relax like tone of the
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room, if that makes sense. So that's something I've also been trying to
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get into. And then something in the morning that I really, really,
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really lee want to get into is in Fred's sauna. I have been trying
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to figure out a sauna situation here at my house. Zach thinks I'm crazy
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for wanting a large sauna in my basement just because there's nowhere close by for
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me to go into a sauna. It's just so good for muscle recovery and
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honestly just for your mental health in general. But there is a brand it's
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called Higher Dose, and they have a sauna blanket where apparently it's almost like
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a sleeping bag, but it's a sauna for your body, which I have
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never heard about until I saw it on TikTok the other day and I'm like,
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interesting, So we'll see, maybe I'll look into that more. I
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don't know much information about the blanket, but that was something that I've never
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seen before, and I'm like, this could be something that I could look
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into because I really don't want to include a sauna in my basement at least
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at this house. So yeah, I'm trying to figure out a different alternative.
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So we'll see. But that's something that I've been really wanting to try
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to include into my morning routine. Another thing I've really been wanting to get
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into is running. I haven't gone running since the summer, and I feel
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like if I actually invested in proper winter gear to go running, I feel
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like I would actually go running outside, you know what I mean. So
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I don't know. I'll keep you guys updated on that, but I really
23:12
do miss running. Another thing I talked about that I was going to get
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I'm just waiting for my office to be set up because I don't have the
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space for it right now, is a walking pad. Those walking pads on
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Amazon. I've been really wanting to invest in one of those. I've talked
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about it here on the podcast before, but I truly think just walking and
23:30
getting work done at the same time would make me feel so good, just
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getting my steps in and all that. So hopefully once my office is done,
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that will happen. We just ordered our flooring and yeah, I'll make
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sure to film all that transformation. We're doing. One of our bedrooms upstairs
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and we're turning it into an office. And yes, I literally have no
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other bedrooms in my house. It's my glamor room, my office, and
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me and Zach's bedroom. But the reason why we have no guest bedroom is
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because we don't have any guests that come here. I've had one guess stay
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at our house, which was Trenimbrody, and that was for my engagement party
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and that was it. We've been here for almost two years and I've never
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had a single guest at my house. So like, why would I have
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a guest bedroom that's going to collect dust. I'd rather like invest in a
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space that I can work in for my work, so in office and then
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the other room being my closet. So I mean that's a bit extra.
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I probably didn't have to do that, but you know, I work from
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home, so being able to utilize the space and do it for things that
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I actually I can get used out of is more important to me than just
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a guest bedroom that's going to collect dust. Right, So, the last
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thing I'm going to talk about when it comes to shifting your mindset is when
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you're feeling super low and you feel like you're just like in a dark space
24:44
and you really don't know how to let your emotions out. When it comes
24:48
to those dark times, talk to a friend. If you're feeling down,
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talk to someone that you're super close with, whether it's your sister, or
24:56
your boyfriend or fiance or husband, or your mom, where your dad,
25:00
or maybe if it's to that point where you need to look into therapy,
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that's okay. Everyone should have a therapist, not even joking. If everybody
25:07
had the funds to invest in a therapist, like, I would have a
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therapist all the freaking time if it wasn't so freakin expensive. But I truly
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find talking to my mom and sister whenever I'm feeling low or down really really
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helps me out. I feel like venting and letting my feelings out feels so
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much better. If you're the kind of person that you know doesn't know how
25:26
to let your emotions out, maybe it's good to get a journal and write
25:30
down how you're feeling in that exact moment, to let your feelings out,
25:33
like how how am I feeling in this current moment? Like, write everything
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out that you're feeling. It might feel so good just to let it out
25:40
on a piece of paper. If you're the kind of person that doesn't like
25:41
to open up to family members or friends, just find ways to talk out
25:47
your feelings because it will feel so much better to just let it out.
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You don't want to hold in emotions like that, You really just need to
25:53
let it out and talk to someone. Another thing I find that's really really
25:56
helpful is I always send voice note to my sister, so I'll like,
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I'll hold it and I'll like talk for three minutes and I'll send her the
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voice note just on how I'm feeling, and just like, I want to
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get it out right because letting it out will make you feel so good,
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and I feel like it it brings you back to that positive mindset versus the
26:14
negativity because you let it out, you didn't hold it in right. So
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just those little things, I feel like really really helps shift your mindset.
26:22
On another note, when it comes to this Girl Chat episode, I have
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some updates on the wedding. I'm currently trying to plan my baucherette and I'm
26:30
so lost on what i want to do for my bacheorette. I've been trying
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to go on social media trying to find, you know, theme ideas on
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what I want to do. But if you ever had a bacherette or you've
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been to any bacherettes, let me know any locations that you recommend on where
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we should do it. I am thinking Vegas right now, but like I'm
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also not a Vegas girl. Like I feel like, you know, I
26:53
don't really enjoy getting blackout drunk and all that, but you know, the
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Vegas life in the night life is really fun, so we'll see. I
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also want to find a location that is not too expensive. Like Vegas,
27:07
you don't really pay much. I feel like they're looking for girls to promote
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like clubs all the time, so we don't have to pay for anything.
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I don't know if Miami's like that. I don't know if anyone's been to
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Miami for bacherettes. Let me know if it's you know, more affordable or
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if it's more expensive. Anywhere in Canada that you've done bacherettes like I've done.
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I did Alyssa's batcherette last summer at Prince Edburgh County and it was beautiful
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and I did love it. I just feel like I don't know. I
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don't know if I'm a Prince Edward County girl, I don't know if that's
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the vibe I'm going for, So let me know if you have any ideas
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or any bacherettes you've done in the past, just some location wise, because
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I feel like that's the one thing I'm struggling to plan right now. But
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I know it'll all work out at the end and it'll all be fun.
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I'm very excited about it. But that's something I'm currently trying to plan with
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Trend. Actually Trend's helping me out, which is super great. And then
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what else do we have? We met with our planners last week about florals
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and actually like planning out what the ceremony is going to look like, what
28:07
the reception table is going to look like, which is so exciting and so
28:11
weird that we're already talking about that. I'm feeling kind of scared because I
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I'm the kind of person where I am indecisive, like I will change my
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mind. So I'm like, do I wait a bit on this, because
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you know, this is what I want to do now, but maybe three
28:25
months from now, I might change my mind. So my planners are kind
28:29
of aware of that. I said, I'm like, listen, like I
28:30
don't really like whatever I have to put a deposit on. Now, that's
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like you need to set this in before, you know, three months prior
28:38
to the wedding or whatever it is. Like, obviously, I'm going to
28:41
put money down on whatever I need to put down, but if there's anything
28:45
that we can wait on until closer to the wedding, I'm going to wait
28:48
because, as I said, I'm pretty indecisive. Like even buying my wedding
28:51
dress, I'm like, okay, like I had no choice but to buy,
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like I was at the CUSP where it's like, okay, you're going
28:56
to start paying for express shipping if you go past the state for picking your
29:00
wedding dress. So I'm still very happy with it. I'm also trying to
29:03
avoid looking at it because I've heard if you look at your wedding dress too
29:06
many times, then you start looking at other ones, you're gonna almost be
29:10
upset about your decision. So I'm just trying to avoid looking at it because
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I'm still in love with it, but I just don't want to keep looking
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at it. And you know, you know when you look at something for
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too long, just like an Instagram photo, and you get sick, and
29:19
tired of it, and you're like, why did I post that? So
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that's me sometimes, So I'm trying to avoid that with the wedding dress.
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But yeah, and then I'm also just trying to find some wedding fits for
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the other stuff going on within the wedding. So we're doing a welcome party,
29:33
we have the rehearsal dinner, and then we have the wedding day.
29:37
Obviously, still trying to confirm the honeymoon. I think we are going for
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Greece. Thank you to everyone that messaged me about their honest opinion about Greece
29:48
as well as a French riviera. I'm pretty sure Zach and I have decided
29:52
on Greece just based on your feedback, So thank you to everyone that messaged
29:55
us. I really really appreciate that. But yeah, so we're gonna have
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that locked and low, hopefully soon. Outfits for the batchorette, I'm just
30:03
waiting to confirm the themes and where we're going to do it first before I
30:06
start buying outfits. But for any bride out there that's currently in their bridal
30:10
era, Anthropology has such good like bridal outfits. I was so shocked to
30:17
see how many good dresses and outfits that they had there. So if you're
30:21
a bride, check out Anthropology. They have a really really good bridle section
30:23
that was totally new to me that I've never seen before. And they have
30:27
like really cute like after party dresses or rehearsal outfits whatever it is. But
30:33
yeah, that was something new that I came across. But that is all
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I have for wedding updates as of now, but I will keep you guys
30:38
posted once we make more decisions. I have secured my photographer, videographer,
30:45
what else, content creator, I'm gonna have someone like film our wedding.
30:49
That way, I don't have to worry about like posting content. Somebody will
30:52
do it for me of stories and all that. And then what else.
30:59
Oh, makeup, That's something I'm currently still working on. I feel like
31:02
hair and makeup is so hard, Like specifically makeup. I'm so stressed for
31:06
a makeup artist. I don't know why. I feel like I'm like debating
31:08
on you know, doing a makeup course and trying to do my own makeup.
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But that's also like a little stressful. I'm putting a lot of stress
31:18
on myself to rely on myself doing good makeup. But anyways, I'll keep
31:22
you guys posted on that. I think I have a makeup artist. I'm
31:25
in conversation with her. I just have to make sure that she's free on
31:26
my wedding date. So yeah, I'll keep you guys posted on that.
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But that's an update on that. And I'm almost at the one year mark
31:34
of being engaged. How crazy is that? One year of being engaged.
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It's almost time. I can't believe it. I yeah, I can't believe
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I've been engaged frolmless a year. That does not feel like a year.
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But h yeah, we're getting to that point. So yeah, anyways,
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I love you guys so much. Thank you guys for listening to another episode.
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If you guys are new, my name is Kaylee and I'm the host.
31:56
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32:07
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32:12
guys for listening to another episode, and I will see you guys next week.