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Season 2 - Episode 10 - Listen to your gut! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Boop. The girls are out here, digging
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  around. They got some trees cut down
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  their Coop yesterday and they're all excited to go digging around
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  them and everybody's like busy busy and I don't even know they
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  seem really quiet right now, but there's Raven can hear him but
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  the girls are like really into digging bugs out of where these
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  trees were very exciting stuff in the chicken world.
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  So today we are talking about taking instruction From people
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  and you know it's not working for you but you feel compelled
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  to do it because you don't want to confront them with the
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  feedback that it's not working. It is okay when someone tells
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  you something and it doesn't work for you and you know, it's
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  not working for you to go back and say, you know what, I really
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  appreciate this. However, it's not working and
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  trying to brainstorm with this person over it or whoever it
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  might be, oftentimes what we do to ourselves and we how we
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  torture ourselves, trying to make us fit into their box is
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  absolutely unhealthy, arduous. It puts you in a position.
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  Ian, where you take what, you know about yourself information
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  that you're clearly getting and you're not you're not taking
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  that information on and allowing it to give you feedback which
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  says this is not working for me. So I've had a lot of people over
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  the course of my tenure, as a coach where I have had them say,
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  oh well this person told me to do this.
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  And I'm like, well, did you like doing that?
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  Did it work? And they say, well, no, it never
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  felt. Like I was in rhythm with it, it
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  always felt off and you know this comes back to this whole
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  thing about trusting your gut and saying if it's not working
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  in something's off I need to look at the reason it's off.
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  I need to figure something out with this because ultimately if
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  it's if it's off it's not going to work.
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  So what's the point in doing it now, this could be coming from
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  someone who's trying to help you you know gain knowledge in your
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  career. It could be somebody.
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  That's you know you're working with to get your With on a
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  different track. It could be anything.
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  Even in school learning methods. I mean, how many people have
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  myself included went to school? And we knew that what we were
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  dealing with with teachers didn't work the way the teachers
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  were teaching us didn't work. I mean I have never been a
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  person who does well under the guise of the beatings will
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  continue until morale improves. I can't stand people who try to
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  influence you through being mean or yelling at You.
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  And when I, there was a point in my life where I worked for
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  someone who thought that it was awesome to demean you and to say
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  things and to put this pressure on you as you know, they tried
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  to quote unquote, make you better at what you did.
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  And let me tell you my gut told me every single time I saw this
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  person that I did not want to be there every single time I wasn't
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  getting value from it, my gut was telling me to run my gut was
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  telling me To get away. And for some reason I just felt
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  like oh I can't say anything. I have to suck it up.
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  I don't want to be the one that calls it.
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  Oh I don't want to do this but you know what happened?
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  I ended up breaking out in hives head to toe every time I had to
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  work with this person and he would show up at an event and I
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  would be like, oh no, I am covered in hives and it was
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  every single time this person was there.
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  And I learned that, you know what?
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  No, I got to stand up. For myself.
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  I've got to do things differently.
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  I've got to take the responsibility for this, and I'm
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  going to just not go to these events.
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  I'm going to change my schedule. I'm going to back out.
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  I'm not going to do it. I'll find something else to do.
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  Because the way I'm doing it is not working for me and and no
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  matter how much I tried to force the round peg, into that little
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  pocket, it wasn't going to work. So as you go into the new year
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  and you select ideas, you select your goals, you sir.
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  Select your people. You select what you're doing
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  please be cautious about paying attention to your gut instinct
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  to say this feels right. This does not feel right?
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  If something feels off, say something about it, work on it
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  with the other person if they're not open to it, then you're in a
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  position where it's probably not the right person and you should
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  look at that and say well I don't know if this is the right
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  person to help me or this is the right place to help me.
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  Because ultimately isn't that what it's all about?
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  I mean when you boil the ocean down and it comes right down to
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  it. It's a if you're going to take
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  on having somebody help you, don't you want them to actually
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  help you and not do it through an abusive manner.
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  I mean, granted my coaching style has always been to lift
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  people up and love them into success.
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  Not to torture them into success, not to push them to the
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  point. That doesn't mean I don't push
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  my clients, but I don't do it in a mean way.
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  And I always will look at saying what's working and And what's
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  not working. So take care of yourself.
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  Don't take on the bullshit that doesn't work, and be honest
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  about what's in your gut, all right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow
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  morning. Bye.
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  And what's not working. So take care of yourself.
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  Don't take on the bullshit that doesn't work, and be honest
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  about what's in your gut, all right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow
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  morning. Bye.