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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just - Holiness Through Separation 6.3.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Yeah, let me see. Yeah, the last left last level
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  is chapter 26 in the book, page five O 4 in the Saint insighted
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  show him, and it's really the last level and this is 1 very
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  clearly all to attain. And he warns us to that and he
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  warns us in a negative way. He tells us I'm talking about
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  signets above us, but there's aspects of it that we all want
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  to get and that is called kid. You show Kiru Shah is a word for
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  holiness. That's what it means and it
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  means a person living in an elevated state.
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  Now I tell you like this, you ever see some people, you look
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  at them and they look like they're just living a different
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  life. And you say to yourself, I want
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  some of that, which means I don't know if he's travelling to
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  his real seeing old rabbi here or even senior regulator over
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  here from the old days. And there's something about
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  them. They're just different.
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  They're calmer, they're more peaceful, they're less
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  connected. They're.
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  Living in another. World exactly and they're less
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  what's the word am I use the word they're not just not so
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  dependent on anything. They're just happy they're just
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  calling them a lot of that is an element that's including an
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  elevation and kadosh. Let's see how it works in Yana.
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  Kadusha isn't. Kadosh separated, Yeah.
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  It means it means holy and separate.
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  Holy and separate is the exact same thing.
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  When something is holy, that thing is unique.
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  When it's unique, it's considered on its own.
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  It's on its own, it becomes elevated.
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  And the theme over here will be all of us want to attain some
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  degree of, of separation, which means something.
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  I'm being able to say I am not so dependent on anything.
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  You find me somewhere. I'm good without the proper
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  where the best food, without the best bait, without the best
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  temperature, without the best whatever surroundings, I'm good
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  regardless. That comes from a level of
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  kedusha, as we'll see in a second.
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  Inyana Kedusha Kafu. When it comes to this topic, The
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  topic is described as a dual one, which means the Heinen.
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  I start doing a little work and Shem sends the rest right on top
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  of 504. I put in a little effort and God
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  delivers the rest. In this topic specifically, I
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  cannot expect of myself to create complete holiness.
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  I have to see how this works all together.
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  Like I I, I rely on the fact that Hashem will deliver vinyl.
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  I try my best to be able to live a life a little elevated so far,
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  and I rely on the fact that at the end, Mashimi Kachimoto
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  Hashem will help me make me the holier person.
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  You make yourself a little bit sanctified, makes you very
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  sanctified. You, you do it down here.
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  God helps you from our night. Hi Shalu, how do you make
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  yourself sanctified? What is this Shi Adam Nidal To
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  allow yourself to make yourself somewhat independent and
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  somewhat separated In the attack when a home riot, the government
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  Umitabek Tamid Baho ETA Baho Shah Bilakov, someone tries to
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  connect himself to God example. He's not so dependent on
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  anything, not on a certain food, not on a certain drink, not on a
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  certain temperature, not on a certain compliment, not on a
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  certain surroundings. I'm always good.
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  I'm never depending on the certain plugs that we have in
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  this life. This is how you become elevated
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  and you don't see that as direct relation to elevation.
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  One is 1 is with the other, so I don't care what drink I have, I
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  don't care what food I eat, I don't care what bed is.
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  Sleeping doesn't matter to me so much.
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  I don't go to a hotel and flip out because the bed is a little
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  hard or because the room is not perfect.
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  I don't get crazy, I just have to make me whole.
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  Let's see. Valdez zenikuana V malachim.
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  This is the theme that the prophets are referred to as
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  angels. Kenyan Shen marbelle Aron
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  kissitae ko hanishmu. Doctor today.
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  Vacuum appeal kimala Hashem savakotu.
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  We refer to our own as amala lomer by you malivik malache
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  lakim hakomer, which means this is the same theme.
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  And you sometimes refer to people as angels.
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  That fellow will be shot. Hit a scoob masima Kashmir.
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  It doesn't mean a person is not materialistic, does not have to
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  live, does not need to function. Of course he does.
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  You have to do certain physical things.
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  How Mohinov and political form he has two sorry things for the
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  sake of his body, but still at the same time in the Lord tells
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  who's not for sure. He's too will not not be
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  separate or he will not be You know, ruined by the fact that he
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  needs to become materialistic. He doesn't he remains separate.
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  Now his reason is difficult because this entire thing with
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  this chapter time, a theme of this level is a theme that
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  fights this world. Everything in this world pushes
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  against us. You're a man, you're a human
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  being, you're on this earth. You're physically inclined to
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  require food, to require a drink, to care about your
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  surroundings, to care about your temperature, to like everything
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  that this world has to offer. Our body, our human nature, our
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  body is 1000% wired to enjoy this world and to be more into
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  this world. That is actually the reason that
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  all addictive activities are so powerful, because if they're
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  feeding on our and feeding on this world more than every form
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  of addiction out there are forms of more physical, materialistic
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  concepts. You name the addiction, you name
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  the drive, whatever it may be, all of one same characteristics.
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  It's more down here, it's more this world, all right?
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  Every addict has that fight and every human being, even not an
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  addict, is built and wired to fight that fight.
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  And therefore that's what makes this topic so difficult.
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  Because what we're asking of ourselves is to live here and to
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  be like upstairs, to be fully part of this world and yet have
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  aspects to say to myself. I'm not so connected and plugged
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  in. You name the addiction to make
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  it even as a cell phone addiction, right?
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  I heard that it's not very, not really a Sam addiction, maybe a
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  gambling bot, even sports to some degree.
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  Yeah, I heard that even some very observant areas of fighting
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  certain cell phone addictions and even creeping into the
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  Shabbat and it doesn't fit at all with their level of religion
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  at all. And you say to yourself, how is
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  that possible? How is it possible?
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  Because what happens is, is that the phone, for example, it's an
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  easy example, the phone plays on our physical mind.
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  And if give this certain adrenaline, whatever it does,
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  some energy to the mind that we get, we have to look at the
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  phone and whatever it may be, whatever the logic of that
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  addiction is. Same with gambling, drinking,
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  drugs, etcetera, etcetera. They're all one thing.
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  They're all themes of this world, this world, this world,
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  my body, my mind, myself being connected to this world.
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  And now the fight is to unplug. When I tell you unplug, that
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  means, and we want to get to a point that we're less dependent.
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  You find yourself and we all find ourselves in different
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  ways. If you find yourself without
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  your phone for a few minutes and it bothers you and you say
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  yourself unite yourself. What that means is besides being
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  addicted, it also means that in that area, I'm very this world,
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  right? A person finds themselves in a
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  place where they don't have the right drink or the right food
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  and they're not functioning properly.
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  They don't have their lunch that they usually have.
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  They're not functioning. Probably that means in certain
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  areas, in areas of lunch on various worlds.
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  Isn't that dangerous? Like every one of these.
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  People on vacation, they're flipping out, they're in the
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  best place, and they're complaining about every luxury
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  item that they're missing because it's not what they have
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  at all. Yeah, but on the same, on the
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  same token, right? Hashem gives you, right?
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  Aren't, aren't you not like, like it's like a catch 22
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  because you're not supposed to overindulge, right?
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  Yet Hashem gives you right. Like there's things like you're
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  not allowed to be cheap and you know to do this.
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  Well, the example to that one literally is this passage
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  Pradasha we're talking about a Nazir and the Camara said with
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  says Nazir brings a Quran sin offering sin offering.
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  What's in did he do? He's a great guy who just
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  separated from wine and he's, you know, become more careful.
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  So the logic is, is that president supposed to benefit
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  from Hashem's world, this person needed to separate himself to
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  get himself under control. For a person supposed to some
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  degree, enjoy God's world. It's a very interesting balance,
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  right? Shabbat holidays, you have a
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  good time. Yeah, you have a good time.
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  But how many people are fighting different addictions because
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  they got too drunk on Shabbat? Caduceus?
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  How many people have that problem?
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  How many people have messed up Shabbat heels because of that?
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  Same thing. You could take and tell me, have
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  a good time here tomorrow. It could ruin people's lives.
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  It's a very delicious balance. Same thing over and over and
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  over again. Our lives are walking down this
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  this road and we have all this to offer everything available to
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  us. And a lot of it is fun.
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  A lot of a lot of it to a small degree is enjoyable.
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  But at the same time, it's all destructive and it's all pulling
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  us up against the holier element that we want to have this Angel
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  like aspect. What's Angel like?
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  I'm not so dependent on anything you put me anywhere.
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  I'm good. I heard someone who went on
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  vacation a couple weeks ago and they went to a top hotel and
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  they flipped out. I set the beds.
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  They flipped out about the beds and I couldn't understand.
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  I went to the same hotel. They're telling me you're going
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  there, you have to switch to disaster.
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  The beds are hard. I went to the same hotel.
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  I never asked you the beds in my life, right?
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  I don't know what's going on. And people get like this and you
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  say to yourself, and they almost went like it was a mitzvah and
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  to figure out a way out. Like I said, they did like some
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  great holy yacht. Oh, you're revealing the fact
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  and you're way too dependent and the less we can.
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  Now there are a lot of things that we just can't get around.
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  You can't get around where you go for the summer and you can't
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  get around the enjoyment of of the good weather and you can't
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  get around certain things that you need.
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  And you could shoot out a meal and it's hard to eat not could
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  you about food, certain basics like with you.
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  But the more you get dependent on these things, the less
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  kedusha and this is, and then the person becomes more mundane
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  and more dependent and more mundane and more dependent, and
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  they become less and less connected to God.
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  The way Hashem works is if you're connected to this world,
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  you're not connected to Him. If you're connected to him, you
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  want to be connected to him. You have to separate from this
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  world. That's why I'm the same.
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  So you can't. So this is this is this is a you
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  can't live spiritual and physical.
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  No joke at 100%. It's a very big joke.
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  There are a lot of people out there, a lot there are a lot of
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  people out there who try it. They're very spiritual minded
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  people and they're extremely indulgent, extremely indulgent
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  issues. They could have time as if their
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  mind is there. It's a beautiful thing.
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  But overall it's of constant fight.
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  It's a steady fight and it and it bumps into each other very
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  they're very fighting back and forth because it's, it's direct
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  contradiction. You see what I mean?
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  I'm a very religious guy. I have to like nice things.
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  You could like nice things. When you're depending on nice
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  things. What you're saying to yourself
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  is, is that you're separated from God and that's he's telling
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  you over here. Well, now, however, the reason
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  it's a big fight if Shala Adam, she has seen who that's more of
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  a person. It's hard for him to place
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  himself in a position of completely separate from this
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  world. The fight is bigger than him.
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  It's not a natural fight to say I'm not going to care what I
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  eat. When I drink, away I go.
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  It's not true. You can't be that way naturally.
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  But let's say you work at, let's say a guy likes nice cars, but
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  he says I'm not going to get sucked into the loin and the
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  travel, the cigars. Well, a guy says, I want to have
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  a nice house, but I'm not going to get sucked into like, is that
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  a guy who's trying to control the fight?
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  Yeah, He needs to have a certain aspect of control every area,
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  which means even in the car, even in the car, he needs to
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  say, listen, I want that car, a number one car round, all right?
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  So I take it down a notch, it's a notch, and get this number 2
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  car round or even in the home. He has to go to say, listen, I
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  want a beautiful home. We all want a beautiful home,
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  but I'm going to accept the fact that one thing didn't work out
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  properly. I'm not getting the exact size
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  of my identity and I wanted or not getting whatever it is.
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  Small thing we all have to do with small things and use that
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  to his advantage. Use the fact that he's dealing
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  with a little bit of control as a means of becoming a little bit
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  more Angel like and therefore a little bit less can to this
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  world. We are wired against this fight.
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  We are starting off in a losing battle.
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  That's the that's the uniqueness of this topic.
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  You start him off losing, you're wired.
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  And that's why to the point of addiction before, that's why
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  it's so not fair to put kids in these predicaments where
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  addictions are available to them.
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  Why? Because you're playing on their
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  physical side, you're playing on the human side and they're
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  coming into it. You know, kids see smoking in 17
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  or 15 years or whatever is they see gambling, they're playing
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  with fantasy in 12 years old and they see all these different
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  things at an early age and they're more involved in the
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  physical side and they are ready for the storage side and
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  therefore they're losing. They're starting off a losing
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  battle. And now you play them to wean
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  themselves off. That's a lot, a lot of work.
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  That's just the wire. We never have.
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  We have no choice. But he's telling you recognize
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  the fact that you are in this fight and you're starting off a
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  losing battle. And what you need to do is make
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  moves, small moves, whatever it is, some degree of control in
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  every area to the house example, maybe to the car example, to
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  every example to see if I'm OK with something not being perfect
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  in any way. It's not going to be perfect.
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  The guy was the most perfect vacation in his life, was not
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  perfect. So anyway, the whole position
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  not going to be 1000% the way you like it.
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  Therefore you better off just coming in and saying, I'm in the
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  beginning. I accept some degree of
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  separation from dependency. That's.
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  It. That's what it is.
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  It's the mindset of being content.
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  You want to get there and for the levels of being Kadosh to be
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  like an Angel you know, close to God you need.
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  That I don't nothing really. You're mad to me.
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  I'm not. I'm satisfied with good.
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  Shame gives me good. The only thing everything that I
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  do really is to satisfy my wife. There you go.
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  No. OK, great.
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  That's a part of me you send happy.
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  Wife happy A. Lot yeah a lot of things as part
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  do OK, thank you of. Course, as part of the Making
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  life work, it's really. That's the way it is, but make.
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  In this position right now, 1000% you're in a position with
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  the kids and the Dragons. And that was I have.
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  I don't look at what other people have.
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  It doesn't matter to me. Good.
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  I guess with experience you you start to figure out what the
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  secret is. Why?
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  Because the other one's a joke. The guy could have the sharpest
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  car in the world. He hasn't put two and two
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  together, but his life every day has challenges and he's anyway
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  not fully happy because no one is.
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  So you might as well just rewire the whole thing and say to
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  yourself, if I can simply have a nice Tuesday in January, In
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  other words, if I could simply have a basic good day regardless
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  of anything, I'm good. We all get to the point in life
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  where we have challenges that are so much that we say to
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  ourselves, all I want is a regular life.
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  What that means, that means you're no longer dependent on
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  all these physical things that are originally in your mind.
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  Those were the sources of happiness, and those are the
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  sources of the rush. And those are just that you're
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  going to feel good. You no longer care about that.
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  You simply care about things flowing and life being good.
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  And that allows you to separate yourself from dependency and
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  allows you to become a more elevated and more spiritual.
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  And it helps in your relationship with God because
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  your relationship with God. God is saying there's a tug of
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  warrior, it's me or the world you choose.
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  And we have to constantly fight this drive, this physical,
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  natural human nature drive of enjoying this world or being
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  dependent on things. And let's fight a little bit.
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  Save yourself. Whatever it is that I have, that
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  I'm blessed with, that I can enjoy, that's great for me.
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  All great. But there's some degree of
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  control. You put in that control.
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  God helps you, lifts you literally up to become like an
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  Angel. That's how it works.
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  You cannot expect this up to fight the fight alone.
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  All you need to do is make a move as Sham.
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  Does the rest in this topic specifically stop with this
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  right but. Society is like this.
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  Causation. Roadblock, let's say.
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  Well, we were young, right?