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41: pro-mote your work · Soul Salon with Ayandastood

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  Hello, precious being hello sunshine. Hello, soul sibling and welcome to today's soul session if you are like me
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  You really struggle to promote your own work when it comes to this aspect of
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  Promoting of putting on blast your own creations your own business your own ideas your own art
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  This is part of your creative process that you struggle with the most
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  Yes, you may be made the episode which involved its own resistance
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  But now you have to tell people about it. That is so bizarre ridiculous and uncalled for it feels embarrassing
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  There's this feeling of the Ick it feels slimy. It feels sleazy
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  It does not feel good right the idea of promoting our own work and knowing that we can't just do that once
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  We have to commit to the path of continuing to tell people that our work is available for them to
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  Receive and again this invitation this offering idea really can help us shift our perspective
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  But what I want to remind us of is first of all
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  Where does this feeling of the struggle to promote our work come from?
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  Well remember we're meant to live as collectivist species in groups of no more than about a hundred people
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  What would this imply that everyone in the tribe in the village naturally knew our gifts and so they were in a sense
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  They spoke for themselves. You were just the person who was a really good teacher
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  You were the person who was just like a singer and loved singing and teaching the young ones how to sing
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  You were just the wise one you were known your natural gifts and talents were known
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  So you didn't have to come and say hey, I'm the village medicine person. Everyone knew
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  Because you grew up being known you grew up in divine community
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  You grew up in intimacy not to glamorize and romanticize and under play
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  You know the challenges that we faced at those times
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  But I think we can tap into a deep knowing that we were meant to know so few people that we didn't have to promote our gifts
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  Because they spoke for themselves
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  Right? Okay, wonderful
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  But now here we are in today's world and here we are grappling with
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  Technology and platforms and all of these online pressures to
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  Share our work with the world and sometimes it's more than pressure
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  It's a calling that we feel so for me for example with this podcast
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  I love making the podcast the part of the process that I feel the most resistance towards is
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  Taking clips from the podcast promoting it on TikTok
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  I did that last week and I was like so proud of myself because I felt a lot of fear and shame
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  I think there's this fear of like what if I disappointed people what if they see the clip and then it's not what they're expecting when they listen to the episode
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  What if I attract the wrong people and they go to my podcast and hate raid me and and give me bad ratings and stuff
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  Not because they genuinely thought it was a bad episode but because they disagree with my political views
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  What if I face backlash? What if it's not safe for me?
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  And then also it's simply embarrassing, you know, it feels like it should just happen for me
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  And then I should be able to share the end result rather than me playing this active role in making sure the podcast grows now
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  That's the ego speaking of course. It's this desire to not be seen trying to not be seen as a beginner because you know
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  It's just more culturally
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  Reinforced to have succeeded or have made it and so at that stage
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  It's no longer embarrassing
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  But in the beginning what I always say is that we're in this really uncomfortable position where we are both on stage and the only person in the audience
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  So the beginning is the part that is the most uncomfortable the most cringe the most just the part where we have to be
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  Cheering ourselves on and being like go girl. You keep speaking you keep posting or you keep creating you've got this because we have to believe in
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  Something and then we have to wait for the world to catch up to what we see as a vision for how we are meant to be
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  Manifesting in the world
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  So what I want to invite you into is a different aspect of
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  Promotion and this came to me and it's such a sexy and divine idea
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  So I hope I can do it justice
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  So I was journaling as I do and I just have an essay on this recently about my practice in the morning of morning pages
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  I was journaling. I was listening to music. I was vibing and I looked at the word promote
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  And I saw it completely differently first. I was like okay pro pro as a prefix meaning move forward
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  Be full instead of against right be with okay, and then moat
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  We think demotion promotion emotion motion motor car, you know
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  Motor right. It's all about motion. So I saw this word entirely differently pro mode pro motion
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  So instead of viewing it as this sleazy scammy thing where we are giving our work and and putting it in this way for other people to consume
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  We can think we'll wait is nature not promotion are we not all around surrounded by motion
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  Are we not nature and therefore do we not have the right for our work for our creation for our gifts to
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  Exist in motion and so when we say hey, I wrote something because you know the internet is a vast place
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  And of course, you know me I come from the perspective of sharing your work on the internet
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  This is not a superior state of being it's just the state of being that I'm in so I speak from that place
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  So when we say I wrote a thing
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  First of all, no one will know we wrote that thing unless we told them
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  So what are we doing in terms of relating to our art as an energy as something with potential energy in the world that can also be
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  Promotion in someone else's life. What do I mean by this?
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  So later I write an essay and I tell no one. I tell no one. I just write it
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  Then if I don't tell anyone I'm blocking not only amplifying the love and the energy I put into that work
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  But I'm also blocking that works energy from
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  influencing and I mean that in a beautiful way in the sense that we are all influenced all the time
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  Not just in the capitalist sense. I mean in the artistic sense
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  Let me use a different word because it's hard to separate that word from its cultural connotations and let's say we are all moved
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  Works perfectly. We are all moved by other artists by the music we listen to the books we read the poems we read
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  The thing that we watch as a kid the movie that shaped our perspective the conversations we have the idea that the person
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  Decided to risk bringing into the conversation not knowing how we would judge them for it the tick-tocks
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  We've watched okay the podcast we've seen so if we don't tell anyone about the essay we wrote
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  We are blocking off that works motion from moving the person who it's meant to move. Oh my goodness
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  It makes so much sense. It's never been described to me as such a wow
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  Oh wow, so when we are deciding to reframe and reimagine
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  How we are choosing to relate to our work we are saying you know what I am pro motion
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  I am pro the motion of the vision that I'm trying to bring to life because for me I'm a dreamer
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  I have big dreams. I'm not saying that's better
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  I know there's a lot of cultural baggage that comes with how our ambition is
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  Manipulated and weaponized against us and used to really justify capitalism and elitism all these things
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  I know that and at the same time. I'm a person. I got visions. Okay. I have visions for what I want to create
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  I am I see things that I'm not yet here and I'm working towards that vision
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  But if I am not going to be pro the motion
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  How am I going to move towards that vision if I'm going to say okay? I made this episode
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  But I'm not going to tell TikTok. I'm not going to tell you know what I mean then the work cannot be
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  In motion moving towards what it could be and the vision that I have for it
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  You know what I'm saying?
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  So we need to heal our relationship with the idea of promoting our own work
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  We need to say this is not sleazy. This is not disgusting. This is not shameful. Let's talk about that
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  I didn't use that word, but that is the word. It's not shameful to say you know
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  I wrote something and it really matters to me. I wish you would go read it
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  I created an artwork. It really took me like I love it
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  It you know, I don't even have to love it. I created this artwork. It means a lot to me
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  It would mean so much to me if you considered
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  Sharing it with your community buying it supporting me
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  I'm an energy healer from that example in our last episode
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  And it would mean the world to me if you considered becoming one of my clients
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  This is how we are in motion
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  And I just want to say to you babes that we need to we need rest that is absolutely true
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  We are people who need rest we need to hibernate
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  But when we also look at nation and when we also look at nature
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  We see that she is in divine celebration of motion
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  She is in motion and some of that motion is slow motion
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  And some of that motion is fast motion and think of the cheetah
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  It's either the cheetah or the leopard. I don't know both sexy both wonderful
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  Not in the predatory sense but just in the sense that they're divine beings to watch
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  But what we see with those animals. I think it's the leopard. I think so but I could be wrong
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  They rest and then they sprint forward into the future and they didn't go for their prey and they eat the prey and they go
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  You know what I mean? So they are very aware of the dance they are doing with motion
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  And if we look at the tree the tree from a distance it looks like it's still go closer. What is happening?
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  It's floating with the wind
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  It's in motion. You know what I mean? And the trees underneath their root systems
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  I'll communicating to each other or sending things to each other things are happening in my body right now
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  Is my heart not beating? Is that not the rhythm of my life force? And I don't even understand it
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  Okay, you know what I mean?
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  So there's all of this motion around us and in us through us and between us that is going on a friend sends you
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  Something and says oh wow, you have to read this
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  Motion they are not only moving the work towards you, but they are moving towards you
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  They're saying I want to be closer to you and this is a portal through which we can become closer or when I saw this
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  I saw it as a mirror of our relationship enough how you see the world or how I see the world with you
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  Oh my goodness beautiful. So they are in motion with us
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  Okay, they are moving towards us and is art not a moving towards my darlings
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  So when we are making things we are moving towards ourselves. We are moving deeper towards truth. We are moving deeper towards
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  To the divine because there's something so weird about creating things and I'm so fascinated by it before this
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  Soul session. I had the energy, but I didn't know exactly what was going to come up, right?
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  but I allowed that
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  That feeling that calling to move me into the motion of the creation. So now it's not
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  against any sort of
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  Value system. I don't know the words, but you'll fill them in to promote your own work
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  My love because that's how you move your work into the motion into the collective consciousness where it belongs
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  Because the experiences that you've had that made you make this work or this offering that called you to make it
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  Let's say you created a business to support small business owners right in a more
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  You know in a more beautiful way. I don't know why I give that example
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  Let me give you something with more soul actually should I give you an example from me? Oh my word yes
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  But then it's going to put okay, I'll just do it
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  So I have started coaching people and I'm coaching them on sharing their voice really
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  I'm really a creative coach a creativity coach supporting you getting through the blocks that you have
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  But the specific pain that I'm really focusing on to begin with as I start this path because I think in the beginning
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  Sometimes we need to be specific so people understand how we can help them and then from there we can breath and
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  Breath and we can branch out like a tree like a divine tree of knowledge and wisdom and love that I have to offer
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  Yes, it is true
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  But I'm starting to coach people on sharing their voice online
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  Because they feel called to serve the collective consciousness in that way
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  Maybe they have a voice that they've always felt called to share
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  Maybe they have perspectives that people are always like oh my goodness
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  You move me and they're like oh wow. I want to share that with more people
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  Maybe they've tried to share themselves online
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  Maybe you have I'm not speaking to you. Maybe you've tried to share yourself online
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  But you felt blocked by perfectionism by fear by self doubt
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  And I'm supporting them in a one-on-one basis in order to support that process that motion of sharing that voice that you feel so
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  Knowing needs to be more in the collective consciousness with the world and the internet is therefore a portal towards that end
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  And also a portal towards your own in a child healing because the internet makes you face yourself
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  And makes you say oh my god, I'm so ashamed that they'll say this thing that same thing that you're saying about yourself
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  So it's a very interesting projection. It's a mirror
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  It's a way that we can also reach a deeper level of authenticity which is a paradox
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  Yes, it is but it is the case anyway, so I'm starting to do that
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  But now what do I feel when it comes to telling people about that?
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  I feel ashamed
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  I'm like you know what a lot of people think that coaching is a scam a lot of people think that it's just like a sleazy thing that people are trying to do
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  What if people reject me what if no one shows up this all that fear this fears around promoting
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  What I'm trying to do and again as I said in the beginning when we really are promotion
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  We don't just do that once is that promotion?
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  This motion motion is quite literally the opposite of doing something once because if the the
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  Animal moves from point A to B and then stops. They're no longer in motion
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  now again
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  I affirm rest and and restoration and
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  Hybernation, but what I mean is promotion is not just a single decision. It's a commitment to a process
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  Of allowing you to be one of the vessels of the motion of your work as you grow
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  Obviously there's going to be more people who are pro the motion of your creation because they feel the energy of what you're doing
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  And so now they suddenly want to be like you know what you should listen to this book
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  You should watch the story you should follow this person
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  So what do we have promotion?
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  But we have that more village sense of promotion that we feel more aligned with that other people are supporting us or amplifying what we are trying to do
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  But in the beginning in the beginning there's only us right not literally because we are always the collective and we are always drawing from different
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  Moving sources and people but in the beginning of a specifically internet journey
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  You are kind of you feel like you're speaking into a void that can be a feeling we feel
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  So that's again that image of picture and auditorium you're on the stage
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  You're speaking your poetry, but you're also in the in the audience cheering on the poetry and saying bars
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  You know what I mean, which is unnatural, but it is just how the beginning works in this process
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  So when it comes to my coaching, I'm nervous to promote it
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  But then what am I blocking all people from first of all, I'm not honoring my gifts because if you honor gift
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  You celebrate them and you say these are my gifts. This is what I can do
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  I listen. I love being in deep touch and connection with people's truth and helping them and asking them questions and receiving them
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  Remember tantra meaning weave I can weave the practical and the
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  spiritual and all of it together the business and the creativity and the spirituality
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  I can blend that all and the content strategy. I can blend that all and the inner child healing
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  So if I don't say listen guys, I'm a coach
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  Like I can coach you then I'm blocking off all the people who may be seeking an exact
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  Person in their life like me to work with them. I'm blocking their motion
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  Not entirely. They're not dependent on me. They are a wonderful divining of themselves
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  But there may be a specific motion that we can co-create that they some specifically will receive most profoundly and especially from me
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  Okay, so now I'm blocking their motion
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  And I'm not honoring my gifts because I refuse to put them in motion. I refuse to
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  support and help them move in nature just as the rivers move
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  Just as the clouds move just as the sun shines rays move onto my skin like literally
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  It's so natural. We need to reclaim how natural it is vibes because it's this weird thing
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  We're like sometimes you read like my friend bought me this book one of my best friend's tabs bought me this book for my birthday
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  Motion right he said I read this book. I want you to read this book. I think that will support you
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  A year later my best other best friend started reading the book and then he was like you really need to read this book
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  And I was like oh my word. I really need to read this book
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  You know, we receive all these recommendations. It's hard to keep up. Sorry. So then I finally I started reading the book
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  It's called Bluets by Maggie Nielsen. It's excellent
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  So there's an example of how now this is all in motion and what's really interesting
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  There are these ways that things move us that they tug on our consciousness
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  We read a sentence suddenly we can't stop thinking about it, you know
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  But if we don't let ourselves our own art our own creativity our own services be part of that process
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  We are blocking the collective consciousness from all of the chain reactions that could result
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  You actually don't know what impact you can have on people. That's the thing
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  I don't know what what what what is the what is the ripple effect of this video
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  I have no clue, but I'm gonna throw my pebble
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  I'm gonna throw my people because I have pebbles to throw that's one thing I know about myself
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  So essentially I cannot dictate control nor do I intend to and say this is the impact I will have on you or on the collective
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  But what I can say I'm coming from a loving place
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  I'm coming from a wise place. I have things to share and if I just trust that I not only must share them
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  But promote the sharing of them then I can actually be in the fullest alignment because I'm aligning the vision
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  I see for how I could exist
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  It with the actions that I'm taking to make that and bring that into movement and motion
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  So my goal for this episode was to keep it short so that you can actually feel something in motion within you
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  Something you feel called to do next or call to share or call to say to yourself or to someone else
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  Something you feel called to journal anything any action you feel called to take and I think we kind of a mean to action
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  We pretend it's like a lower state of spirituality or to lower state of being it's very much in the material world
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  No, no, no, no, no aligned action is beautiful and aligned action could be I really need to call my dad
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  That's my aligned action. I've been putting that off. I really need to call my dad
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  I really need to call my cousin, you know, she's someone who I consider one of my deepest soul siblings on earth
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  I need to call her. I owe her a call. So that's something I need to put into motion
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  You know what I mean? So let this be a catalyst for you my love
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  Let this be something that sparks the motion within you let this be something that moves you up to the next step
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  Okay, because if you feel called no one has to create in public no one has to do that
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  I'm never gonna be saying that that's more important or but babes
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  If you feel called to do it
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  It also feels called for you to do yourself through it whatever
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  If you feel called to it there is there are other people and other
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  Processes that beyond our understanding and control that are also calling
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  calling for you to honor their calling
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  What you seek is seeking you if you desire to be seen there are people who desire to see you. I'm telling you right now
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  Just as water exists equally as we desire and need to be replenished by water
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  Everything in nature is part of a complex interaction
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  We need to allow ourselves to be part of that process to be part of this moving and alive
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  Planet of creation especially as we try to usher a new world a new consciousness a new way of being into being
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  A new way of relating a new way of seeing being feeling creating in loving community
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  There is so much to be done
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  There is so much to be created there are people who feel called to listen to what you feel called to say. I'm telling you this
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  Keep the faith
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  Keep the belief and keep the energy of possibility within you
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  Feel full of possibility
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  That this thing that you see this vision you have if you I'm clear
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  Voyant I see visions. I also feel things. I feel sensations of rooms and things and ways
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  I want to be in connection with people and what I want to add that but if you feel that juicy calling please
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  Understand that it is seeking you back. It's just waiting to catch up with what you see
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  So you as the creator you say listen, I want to write then you start writing then you say you know what?
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  No one read this no one read this no one read this eventually what happens?
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  Suddenly you have an old a whole archive one person finds your writing says oh my word now. I read this one
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  Now I'm gonna read this one now. I need to read this one. Suddenly you have an archive
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  Body of work minds it. So I'm telling you sometimes we have to be the ones to say
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  I see a reality that is not yet manifest
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  But I am going to honor that reality that I see work towards it and let other people catch up with me
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  You know what I mean because the collective we want to support you
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  I promise you even if it doesn't seem that obvious right now. I love you so much. Okay, go and promote your work
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  It is not shameful. It is not disgusting. It is not sleazy. It is not scammy
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  It is how we allow our consciousness to be shifted by one another's by the collective consciousness
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  It is how we allow our work to take on a kind of energy that is beyond us and through us
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  This is the process of creation. It's offering ourselves up to others as an invitation to receive what we have to offer in the flea market of life
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  Which is this beautiful metaphor that I use in order to convey that as artists as creatives as people call to create
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  We are here to offer something. It is not about how it is taken up. It is not about judgment
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  It is not about embarrassment. It is about the fact that we can't have a flea market unless we are all making offerings
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  And those of us who have voices that have been marginalized we really need to be offering ourselves in this vulnerable way
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  Because that is how we shift the whole flea market
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  By sharing our perspectives and our ideas
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  By querying whose men to be heard and seen and felt
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  We change the world. I really believe that. Okay. I love you so much. Go promote your own work. Go be promotion
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  I love you. I hope you have a beautiful day week Monday here time is an illusion
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  But it's also a dimension of reality that allows us to continue to experience ourselves and each other. So thank you time
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  Thank you my love
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  Not thank you to the colonial and capitalist constructions around and
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  Dominance of how we understand and feel are not able to feel and share time
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  No, thank you to that. But anyways, what are you going to move towards what are you going to move through what are you going to move with this week my darling
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  I love you so much. I hope you have a wonderful wonderful day. I'll see you next all session
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  Bye. I hope some paradigms have been shifted for you in today's conversation
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  Okay, love you so much love you bye