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Inexpensive Ways To Level Up Before 2025 · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.
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  Speaker 2: Hey Jigs, I'm now and I'm sal And.
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  Speaker 1: This is two Broke Chips to show that shares life
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  Speaker 1: lessons and tips to make you rich in life. That
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  Speaker 1: one felt good.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And today we're talking inexpensive ways to level
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  Speaker 3: up before twenty twenty five. I can't believe those ones
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  Speaker 3: just came out of my mouth.
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  Speaker 4: It feels like literally last.
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  Speaker 1: Week that we were doing the vision board episode, literally do.
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  Speaker 4: You want it?
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  Speaker 3: This time of year just always feels like it feels
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  Speaker 3: like that beat and Mary Poppins when he's like.
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  Speaker 4: Ween in the East, Miss coming in.
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  Speaker 1: Ani's brewy gebe gee Biggie.
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  Speaker 3: Like it's like the calm before the storm, but like
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  Speaker 3: I fuck with the storm.
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  Speaker 4: Storm, She's a storm, don't you you do? Yeah? I do.
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  Speaker 4: Christmas we love.
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  Speaker 3: I just love November and December and January. I love
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  Speaker 3: the next three months.
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  Speaker 4: But before we get into.
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  Speaker 1: The episode, we always share our obsession of the week,
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  Speaker 1: and I have a little game basically, you haven't watched
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  Speaker 1: this show, it's tell me lies. I don't even know
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  Speaker 1: what category or genre I would put.
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  Speaker 4: Tell me lies.
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  Speaker 1: In. It's like a fucked up drama that's like started.
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  Speaker 1: You thought it was like a rom com, but it's
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  Speaker 1: like not a rom com.
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  Speaker 3: And the actors like In an interview, the main one
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  Speaker 3: of the main actresses said she watched Vanda Pump Rules
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  Speaker 3: to get inspiration because they all just hate each other
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  Speaker 3: and a mean to each other. Oh my god, so frenemies, yes, yes,
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  Speaker 3: very frenemies vibes. So I'm going to play a little
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  Speaker 3: game that I have coined talking fact or talking smack.
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  Speaker 1: There's spoilers, by the way, if you haven't watched it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you things that happened in the show,
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  Speaker 1: and you have to say whether or not it did
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  Speaker 1: happen in the show or if I'm making it up. Okay, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: are you ready? All right?
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  Speaker 3: A girl's boyfriend actually dated her college roommate secretly, and
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  Speaker 3: he drunk drove while she was giving him head and
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  Speaker 3: he crashed the car, killed her and didn't tell anyone.
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  Speaker 2: Strong fact.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: A girl fucked her professor's husband, who was also a professor,
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  Speaker 3: and started having an affair with him, but he was
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  Speaker 3: secretly in an open marriage and her actual professor knew
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  Speaker 3: about it.
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  Speaker 4: The whole time.
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  Speaker 1: Fact.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, I want them all too true.
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  Speaker 3: A girl pretended to get a bad ELSAT test score
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  Speaker 3: and pretended that her dad cut her off and told
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  Speaker 3: her boyfriend she couldn't pay for his law degree to
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  Speaker 3: manipulate him into breaking up with her.
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna say, smack, okay, okay, tell me. Are you
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  Speaker 4: ready for the reveal?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: They were all fact.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, screaming, screaming, and there's so many other things.
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  Speaker 3: This is my super Bowl, Like, it is the most
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  Speaker 3: cooked show in the world, and I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Fucking eating it. I'm eating it up.
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  Speaker 4: My obsession of the week is also a TV show.
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  Speaker 2: Why we always do there?
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  Speaker 4: We're always a line?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I reckon you might be a bit surprised
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  Speaker 1: because it's the Australian reboot of the Office.
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  Speaker 2: Have you watched it already?
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  Speaker 1: I haven't finished it, but I think I'm like eight
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  Speaker 1: episodes in and.
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  Speaker 4: It's really good.
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  Speaker 1: I've heard really good things about it.
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  Speaker 4: Yea, I've seen like a few things.
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  Speaker 1: About being like, it's really good. And to remember that
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  Speaker 1: when you first watched The Office, you probably didn't really
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  Speaker 1: like it either, And that was also a reboot of
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  Speaker 1: the UK Office, and like The Office is one of
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  Speaker 1: those kind of slow burned shows that like, if you
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  Speaker 1: don't like it at the start, like some people loved
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  Speaker 1: it from the start, but you don't like it from
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  Speaker 1: the start, you watch a couple and it grows an
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  Speaker 1: you a bit exactly. I think that's the point, because
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  Speaker 1: it's supposed to be awkward and make you feel like
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  Speaker 1: you're seeing on the edge of your seat and crin.
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  Speaker 1: What's your favorite thing about it?
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  Speaker 4: That it's so Australian.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I love that. That's what I love about.
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  Speaker 1: Heartbreak High exactly. So they have all of those really
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  Speaker 1: aussy Easter eggs built into it, lots of Australian humor.
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  Speaker 1: It's really really good. Give it a chance if you
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  Speaker 1: haven't already.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, And I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: Usually the biggest fan of like a reboot or a sequel,
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm feeling pretty over it by now, but I
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  Speaker 1: was pleasantly surprised. And it's really funny and the cast
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  Speaker 1: is amazing.
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  Speaker 4: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm so excited to watch. I really hope they
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  Speaker 1: do more than just one scene.
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  Speaker 4: What does Chris think? He loves it?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, shall we get into the episode.
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  Speaker 4: Let's do it.
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  Speaker 3: The first inexpensive way to level up before twenty twenty
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  Speaker 3: five is to start your twenty five goals early. We
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  Speaker 3: think there's rules surrounding news resolutions, but there's not.
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  Speaker 4: You can cheat, Yeah, you can.
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  Speaker 1: This is the biggest areas way to look at it,
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  Speaker 1: Alex way to look at it early.
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  Speaker 4: Start.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you can start early, and you can literally
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  Speaker 1: start your news resolutions and start your goals now to
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  Speaker 1: set yourself up with like a little run up.
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  Speaker 2: Let's say that give yourself a little.
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  Speaker 3: Run up to twenty twenty five and to what you
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  Speaker 3: want those goals to be, rather than starting January first, Right.
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  Speaker 3: I think what's good with this is it takes you
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  Speaker 3: out of that mindset that goals or new habits or
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  Speaker 3: anything have to start on the first of the month,
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  Speaker 3: or on Monday or when the blue moon comes into
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  Speaker 3: the hawk.
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  Speaker 2: Rise of the silver year.
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  Speaker 3: Right, that you can start a new habit whenever the
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  Speaker 3: fuck you want, And so starting it now gives you
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  Speaker 3: this build up, this run up that makes it a
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  Speaker 3: little bit easier to adopt new habits or adopt new
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  Speaker 3: things that you want to do that are going to
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  Speaker 3: make you feel better or happier or bring you more joy.
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  Speaker 1: These also don't always have to be like health related
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  Speaker 1: or finance related. It can be some really fun, silly,
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  Speaker 1: goofy girl things. And I really want that to be
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  Speaker 1: a thing that's focused on, especially at the end of
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  Speaker 1: the year, because it is when you start feeling a
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  Speaker 1: little bit tired and you're a little bit like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's like prioritize things in this end of year.
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  Speaker 3: Run up, right, that's going to bring you joy and
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  Speaker 3: fun and excitement for twenty twenty five and kickstart that
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  Speaker 3: because you know how like in the first episode of
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  Speaker 3: the year, like our twenty twenty four vision board episode where.
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  Speaker 2: We're like ready to kick your door off its hinges. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: let's pull that energy here.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that. Yeah, draw from some of that inspiration.
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  Speaker 3: One way that you can do this is starting that
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  Speaker 3: whole process of like vision boarding and aligning with what
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  Speaker 3: you want your goals to be, but what you want
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  Speaker 3: to do, like what's the actionable you want? Right, And
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  Speaker 3: we were talking about this in the live show because
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  Speaker 3: it's my new hyperfixation and it's.
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  Speaker 1: About how your brain shapes your reality. So every day
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  Speaker 1: your brain gathers evidence to support its internal beliefs. Bear
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  Speaker 1: with me here, this is sounding of it. Where were
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  Speaker 1: but it makes sense?
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  Speaker 3: So your brain will seek out circumstances that back up
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  Speaker 3: the things that you say or that you believe. So,
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  Speaker 3: for example, if you think dating is shit and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: dating is so shit, I hate dating, men suck, you
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  Speaker 3: will then your brain will then seek all the evidence
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  Speaker 3: to support that. So we'll pull in every single bad date,
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  Speaker 3: every single shitty ex boyfriend. If you're always saying I'm
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  Speaker 3: always late, your brain is gonna then pull in all
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  Speaker 3: the times that you were late. It's not going to
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  Speaker 3: remember the times that you actually did get there ten
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  Speaker 3: minutes earlier.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, no, no, no, remember when you were late here?
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  Speaker 1: Remember when you were late here? Yeah, well, we're always
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  Speaker 1: late or procrastinator, whatever that belief system is.
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  Speaker 3: You're telling your brain being like, go on the filing
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  Speaker 3: cabinet and get every shitty thing that I did so
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  Speaker 3: that I can feel like shit about myself. And it's
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  Speaker 3: like the reason why you feel like shit is because
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  Speaker 3: you're telling yourself you feel like shit. The reason why
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  Speaker 3: you're not achieving goals is because you're.
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  Speaker 1: Telling yourself you can't achieve those goals, and then your
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  Speaker 1: brain is fun in the evidence to support it.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, hald on On, I'm in the matrix. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: we can hack this.
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  Speaker 1: Hack the main we can hack the main frame.
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  Speaker 3: Whenever I pull my email in and I click forget
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  Speaker 3: password and I reset it, I feel like a hacker. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, you tried to keep me out,
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  Speaker 3: and they're like, you've already used that password.
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  Speaker 2: Let me use it again.
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  Speaker 1: So the power lies in the fact that you can
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  Speaker 1: change your perceived reality. So I'll link where I read
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  Speaker 1: this from as well, because it was a really really
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  Speaker 1: interesting article.
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  Speaker 2: I'll also leave a link in.
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  Speaker 1: The show notes of where I read this from because
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  Speaker 1: I obviously didn't pluck this.
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  Speaker 2: From thin air.
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  Speaker 1: And so when you rewire your thoughts and beliefs and
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  Speaker 1: purposely find or create evidence to give your brain, that's
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  Speaker 1: when you start changing it. For so long, I was
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  Speaker 1: like I can't run, Like I would always say that
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  Speaker 1: I can't run, and then I literally just one day
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  Speaker 1: I was like, this sucks, So I'm just going to
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  Speaker 1: go for a run.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm telling you couldn't even run for one minute.
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  Speaker 1: But I ran, So I just then was like, wait,
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  Speaker 1: you said you can't run, but you just ran, So
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  Speaker 1: my brain was like, hold on, that's actually not true.
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  Speaker 2: You can run. And then it just it flows on
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  Speaker 2: from that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So whatever it is that you want to do, it's
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  Speaker 1: the fake it till you make it mentality. It's go
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  Speaker 1: and create evidence to give your brain to restructure your
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  Speaker 1: internal beliefs of what you can do and what you
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  Speaker 1: want to do in twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 2: Five, and you can start that now.
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  Speaker 3: That way of thinking has really really changed my outlook
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  Speaker 3: and a lot of things. And it's not an overnight
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  Speaker 3: thing either. I think when we have a habit of
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  Speaker 3: certain beliefs.
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  Speaker 1: Especially negative ones, those are really really hard to like
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  Speaker 1: get out.
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  Speaker 4: Of our brains.
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  Speaker 3: Like even the way that we will say that like
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  Speaker 3: we're anxious, you know, like oh I'm anxious, I'm anxious.
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  Speaker 3: You're not anxious, You're feeling anxious. Like it's rewiring those
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  Speaker 3: and be like okay, what does that actually mean and
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  Speaker 3: is it true?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: It makes it less finite, yeah, which I like, it's
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  Speaker 1: not fact love.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. My first one is kind of like the.
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  Speaker 1: Reverse of that, or perhaps the other side of that,
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  Speaker 1: and it's to round up your twenty twenty four goals.
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  Speaker 1: I think at this time of the year, we're like, oh, well,
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  Speaker 1: the year's over. Like dust their hands off, it's all done.
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  Speaker 1: I may as well give up. In between now when
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  Speaker 1: the episode drops and the first of January, there are
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  Speaker 1: sixty four days until the new year.
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  Speaker 4: That's plenty of time.
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  Speaker 1: Take sixty six days to turn a micro habit into
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  Speaker 1: an autopilot habit. Okay, so that's order.
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  Speaker 3: I like that, yeah, because that's when things get easy,
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  Speaker 3: when that's subconscious and what's become like an autopilot habit
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  Speaker 3: for you this year.
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  Speaker 1: One thing that I've introduced recently that I wasn't doing
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  Speaker 1: all year is reading one page of a book before bed. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: an autopilot habit that I've built, which I think is
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  Speaker 1: really good because it just gives me a chance to
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  Speaker 1: switch off. But also because I've already read one page.
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  Speaker 1: It's very unlikely that I only read one page.
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  Speaker 4: I usually end up reading a chapter or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But I think just making that the micro habit is
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  Speaker 1: so achievable, and then it's helped, you know, ladder up
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  Speaker 1: to that goal of reading more, but the larger goal,
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  Speaker 1: which is, you know, having some more time to myself
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  Speaker 1: or giving myself a chance to switch my brain off.
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  Speaker 4: But I think that's the thing, Like, look back.
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  Speaker 1: On what your goals were at the beginning of the year.
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  Speaker 1: Have a look at your vision board. What were the
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  Speaker 1: pictures that were on it? How has your year reflected
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  Speaker 1: it or not reflected it. What things could you potentially
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  Speaker 1: introduce into the last two months of the year that
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  Speaker 1: we're on that vision board? Or what was your goal
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  Speaker 1: that you had for the year or one of your goals.
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  Speaker 1: What's one micro habit you could introduce for the next
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  Speaker 1: two months and how could you do that to feel
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  Speaker 1: a little bit more accomplished by the end of the year. So,
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  Speaker 1: like we were saying, it takes sixty six days to
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  Speaker 1: turn a micro habit into an autopilot habit. There are
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  Speaker 1: sixty four days in between now and the new year.
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  Speaker 1: If you start today, by the time the first of
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  Speaker 1: January rolls around, you'll almost be at that autopilot stage.
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  Speaker 4: Like how amazing is that?
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  Speaker 1: So, whether it is something that relates to a goal
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  Speaker 1: that you had for yourself at the beginning of the year,
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  Speaker 1: or if it's a goal that you have for yourself
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  Speaker 1: in the new.
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  Speaker 4: Year, start now.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to wait until the first of January,
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  Speaker 1: and it's not too late. You've still got plenty of
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  Speaker 1: time to achieve your goals for the year.
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  Speaker 4: Love it.
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  Speaker 1: My next inexpensive way to level up before the end
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  Speaker 1: of the year is to embrace a pm So a
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  Speaker 1: PMA is something that was on RuPaul's drag race which
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  Speaker 1: stayed with sould I forever four years later, and it
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  Speaker 1: was was it Bimini or was it it was bmi
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  Speaker 1: bombulash to Lawrence changing, Yes, that's right, and basically they
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  Speaker 1: were getting ready and they said, oh, you've got an
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  Speaker 1: embrace of PMA and it's a positive mental attitude.
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  Speaker 4: And so when we enter.
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  Speaker 3: The end of the year, it is kind of like
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  Speaker 3: the petrol gauge light has come on. We don't really
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  Speaker 3: have as much energy anymore, and we're sleepy, we don't
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  Speaker 3: really have the social battery. But we've got so many
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  Speaker 3: things to go on, and I think it can be
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  Speaker 3: really easy to fall into a bit of a neg
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  Speaker 3: energy because you just want to get to the end
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  Speaker 3: of the year. But there are so many things to
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  Speaker 3: look forward to at the end of the year and
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  Speaker 3: to rewire your brain and to reframe things to have
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  Speaker 3: a positive mental and one of our favorite things that
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  Speaker 3: Sally and I are even talking about this week is
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  Speaker 3: just the way that we look at our interactions with
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  Speaker 3: other people, whether it's people that we know or whether
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  Speaker 3: they're strangers. And the crab theory from Florence's book, So
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  Speaker 3: if you haven't read Florence Given's new book, it was
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  Speaker 3: this theory that I just have really kept in the
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  Speaker 3: front of my mind for whenever I'm being an egg,
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  Speaker 3: not even necessarily with other people, but even when I'm
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  Speaker 3: being like neg to myself.
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  Speaker 4: And the crab theory is basically this theory of like.
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  Speaker 1: Crabs in a bucket, and when crabs are in a bucket,
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  Speaker 1: they help each other to get out of the bucket,
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  Speaker 1: but as soon as the crab is about to get out,
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  Speaker 1: one crab or some crabs then sabotage their little crab tower.
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  Speaker 2: And then none of them get out of the bucket.
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  Speaker 1: And I also kind of use this example for myself
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  Speaker 1: as well of if I'm being really hard on myself,
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  Speaker 1: or if I'm looking at something or I'm annoyed at
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  Speaker 1: something or whatever, just keep up.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, am I being a crab?
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm like, am I sabotaging myself from getting out
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  Speaker 1: of the bucket right now. And I think, like, I
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  Speaker 1: just loved that example because it was such a great
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  Speaker 1: example for the context that she put it in. But
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  Speaker 1: I think like I just keep being like, are you
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  Speaker 1: being a crab? No crabs, That's something that you can
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  Speaker 1: have in your brain from now until the end of
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  Speaker 1: the year for all those moments, like even if you're
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  Speaker 1: being at Christmas lunch right that's far away or whatever
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  Speaker 1: social thing it is, and maybe someone's grading on you
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  Speaker 1: a little.
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  Speaker 2: Bit, but are you being a crab?
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  Speaker 1: Could you actually just think, yeah, okay, that's fine, no
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  Speaker 1: crab vibes.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. My next tip, do an annoying audit. I love
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  Speaker 4: this tip. So you know, all of.
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  Speaker 1: Those little things on the daily that frustrate you and
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  Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I need to do this, I need
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  Speaker 1: to do that.
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  Speaker 4: Pick at least one of them and tackle it.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of the time these things
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  Speaker 1: take like between five minutes to an hour to do,
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  Speaker 1: but we just never make time to do them because
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  Speaker 1: they are annoying, they're not or they stressed you to
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  Speaker 1: stress builds and then you do it and then you're
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  Speaker 1: not stressed. Anymoe and you're like, ash, shit, yeah, they
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: were right exactly. But one thing recently that I did
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: that's an example of this was I was feeling really
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: overwhelmed by my email in box and I kept getting
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: notifications like every time I got an email being like
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: you're ninety eight percent full of your storage, like you
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: won't be able to send or receive emails soon, and
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: I delete, like emails.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: Are you getting like all the like newsletter vibes?
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I would like delete you know, like ten
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: as they came through, But obviously that's not managed, Like,
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: that's not helping the problem. So I just like sat
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: down and spent you know, like half an hour tackling
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: this problem. And I still got more to do, but
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: it's gotten to the point that I no longer have
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: the notification and that's not stressing me out. But also
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: as I went through, I then unsubscribed from all the
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: emails that I no longer want, and then I would
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: just like type in the name of the brand or
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: whatever that I was subscribed to and then.
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: Do delete all love that.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: So I like built a little system for myself. But
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: whatever that thing is for you, whether it's you know,
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: doing your taxes, finding where your birth certificate is, setting
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: up your auto transfers.
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: Pick one thing and do your annoying audit.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's about finding what your avoidance coping with. Which
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: is this new psychological term that i'mvering.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: And so this was from a clinical psychologist from Atlanta, Georgia. Wow,
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: And she said, and this is going to be really
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: annoying for us to fucking hears. Now. The problem with
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: avoidance coping is that it doesn't solve the issue.
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: Rude.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I know, Jess, come on, she's doctor Jess.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Goodnight, great name. I like that great name.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: She says.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: If you're avoiding something that scares you because it feels
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: like too much, you never learned to overcome your fear
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: and live more freely. Some forms of avoid it's coping
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: cause additional problems.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: Also, this is feeling personally.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: I was like, doctor good night, left right, good night?
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: I said good night.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: I said good night.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: But I did see another cute little stats from Cornell University,
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: and it's that eighty five percent of the things we
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: worry about never happen.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: How Good's that?
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: It's amazing?
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: Amazing?
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Is that to keep in your mind because brains and stress,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: and Worri's just like.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Hook you in and they just run away and you.
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: Can't get them back, and then it's just sitting in
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: your chest like that pit and you're.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Like eighty five percent of the time they never fucking happen.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: But even when Wurri's did come true, seventy nine percent
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: of participants handled the situation better than expected or learned
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: something valuable.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: So even in moments.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Even if the thing that you're stressing about does come true,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: you're better off for it.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: And I love that.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: So basically, nothing bad can happen to me. Ever again, Yeah,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: my life is amazing and everyone else's life is amazing
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: because only fifteen percent of the shit.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: We worry about is actually going to come true and
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: seventy nine percent of us are all going to be
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: better for it.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Okay, my last and final quickie is I surprise I'm
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: sharing this one.
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: I feel like this is a.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: Cell tip, but it's to give a good gut, a
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: good declutter and get that shit out of your space.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Go into the new year with a fresh space without
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: all that shit around, like those weird things that you
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: bought that you've never even used. And I saw this
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: this method. We love a method. So it's called the
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: twelve twelve twelve Challenge, and it's a way to declutter
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: your space. So you locate twelve items to throw away,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: twelve to donate, and twelve to be returned to their
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: proper home. So imagine if you did that, like every
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Sunday from now until the end of the year, how
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: much like more open and decluttered your space would be.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: And that would take not a lot of time. That
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: would take maybe an hour two max. Yeah, without like,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: because the one thing I hate about a declutter is
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I make the mess and then and then I'm sitting
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: there like the little horder woman going and yeah you know,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: and when you like run out of energy, I'm wearing
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: like a cowboy boot, a sparkly hat and an eyepatch. Yeah,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: and I'm like and I'm naked.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, how did we get here?
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's all a blur?
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, what Max playing always? Yeah, I don't know
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: where my cat is. I donated her.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: My last hip is to close the chapter on whatever
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: has been weighing you down in twenty twenty four.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Bye bye, bye bye bye.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: I know that when I said that something popped into
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: each and every one of your heads.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: You know exactly what it is, and.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: It's that one thing that's been weighing you down all year.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Now's the time to cut ties and let it go.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I've read an article earlier this year. I'll link it
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: in the show notes, and there was one line in
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: it that really stuck with me, and that it's your
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: life isn't a waiting room, and that you don't have
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: to sit around waiting for the right time or when
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: it's not going to be so awkward, or you're going
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: to be less busy or things are going to click
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: into place, because that will never happen.
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: And if you do that, life will slip by you
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: without you even realizing it.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: And these things that we've been holding on to that
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: are weighing us down are part of the problem because
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: we think, like, I'll deal with that later, I'll deal
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: with that when I'm less busy. Whether it's like a
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: toxic friendship or a romantic relationship that you know isn't serving.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: You anymore, or your job.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Or perhaps you know, like a confrontation with your manager
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: or something.
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you know exactly what it is. It's in your
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: head right now.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: Make a goal before the end of the year to
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: cut whatever that is so that you're not carrying those
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: bad energies into twenty twenty five.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Dump here and on that note, damp that note. Damp
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: here's eighth.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Well, I love that, all right, so let's get into
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: advice of the ticks.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: Woo.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: My sister and I loved your live show. It was
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: such a bonding experience with such a girlhood atmosphere created
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: by your community. Felt like we were a part of
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: something bigger.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's so sweet. Thank you. I agree.
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: I also felt the same way, but I.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Didn't agree much was also the best, so.
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: I felt like it was a really nice bonding experience.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: I really wanted your advice about a stage in my relationship.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together since we were seventeen.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: We're twenty now. I have moved out of home, have
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: a casual job while studying at university full time. I
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: have recently reached a saving milestone of fifteen thousand for my.
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: Dream of a Europe trip.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's amazing.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: Congrats.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend started UNI and dropped out. He works with
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: his dad a couple days a week mowing lawns and
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: plays rugby. He wants to play professionally. He recently tore
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: his acl and needed surgery, causing him to be in
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: crutches and enduring a year long recovery back to running,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: let alone.
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: Rugby and work. That's awful. I know it's horrible.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: I have a very future and money focused mindset, but
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend doesn't seem to have the same drive with
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: savings and always has an excuse to why he can't.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: I've gotten different opinions from friends, some saying it's a
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: deal break, others saying that I just need to focus
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: on me during this weird twenty stage. I just get
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: anxiety that even though I love him, he won't be
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: able to meet me where I want to be in
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: the future example.
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: Buying a house or traveling.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Love your advice on what I should do, how to
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: approach it, and where this leads a relationship. Love you girls,
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: love you too, Yeah, I love you.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: My first thought is.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: You are still so young, and I just don't want
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: you to put so much pressure on yourself. I think
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: it's really really amazing to be where you're at and
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: have a goal and have a saving skull and like
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: you're fucking kicking us in that, and I'm so proud
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: of you for doing that, But there is so so
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: much more time to figure out where you want to
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: be or buying a house, and like, I don't want
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: to take away from that being a goal if that's
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: something that you want now either. But I think I
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: just I feel this pressure that you're putting on yourself
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: through that message, and I just want you even today
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: to just like take a little bit of that off,
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: like even right now, like if you're stressed about something,
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: anyone listening to this, take a little bit of pressure
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: off yourself to also.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: Know all the answers.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: I think your boyfriend is going through a bit of
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: a heartbreak right now. He had a vision of what
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: he wanted his life to be, and very very quickly
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: that got taken away from him, and he's then you know,
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: he's in crutches, he's in physical pain, and he's probably
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: also a mental pain, and he's probably also a bit
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: scared because he was pursuing something and then something out
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: of his control has happened and he probably isn't quite
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: sure what to do and then having questions, which is
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: not your fault. It is so okay to have questions,
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: but having questions like well are you saving?
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: What are you going to do? He's got no fucking clue. Yeah,
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: he's probably.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Really scared of that, and I think it's really amazing
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: that he's got someone like you to help him through that.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: But I think we can like lift a little bit
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: of that at the moment and just like exist. Yeah,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: it takes some of the pressure for yourself but also
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: for him as well. But I think your friend's advice
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: of focus on yourself is a good piece.
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: That's a deal breaker. He's like, I.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: Didn't know how to save when I was twenty. Yeah,
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: And I do think that it is a skill that
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: most of us don't know, and a lot of us
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: do learn in adulthood as we have to. And I
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: think that it is something that you could keep in
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: the back of your mind if it is something that
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: you value in a romantic relationship, like somebody who is
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: future oriented and has you know, a similar money personality
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: and values to you.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: I do think that's important.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: But maybe, like you said, right now, take some of
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: that pressure off both of you and give it a
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: little bit of time, and then you could potentially bring
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: up something that you two could put towards saving together,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: like if that is a holiday, or if you were
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: to move in together and be like, Okay, I've got
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: an idea.
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: I'm thinking, let's go to blah blah together.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Let's have a goal of five thousand dollars each, so
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: that means every week we have to put away X
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: and kind of make it like a group project that
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: you can help keep him accountable and see how.
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: He goes with that.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: But I think that's like a future thing that you
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: can do to maybe try and help him build that habit.
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because okay, to have.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: Different money goals in a relationship.
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: I think it that is okay.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: But I do think that if you're thinking, like when
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: you get older and you're thinking like a future.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: You want someone who can manage their money, I think that's.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, again, you're going to get married or have
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: a house together, because you know, when you get older
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: and you're making some of these money decisions, a lot
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: of the time you are making them with another person.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: So it's good if you're on the same page and
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: you're not always the one doing all of the heavy lifting.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: But you're right, you don't have to be exactly the same,
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: but also again, like you're twenty, the money go. When
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: I was twenty, I was just trying to not get
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: to the end of the month with no money.
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was twenty.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I actually think it's so good that this is forefront
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: and in the front of your mind, and it's really like,
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: I think you're amazing with your money at such a
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: young age, ten out of ten, but you're kind of
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: like ahead of the curve in my professional in my
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: poor professional opinion. Yeah, I think it's just take a
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: little bit of pressure off the situation and just keep
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: an eye on it. Like if this starts really really
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: draining you, and if you start being unhappy, that's when
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: you know you need to maybe put that pressure a
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: little bit back on and really evaluate the situation.
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: Are you doing great, sweetie?
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: That's rap. Thanks very much for writing in Wrapt the
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: Lab show.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: And also, if you want to send in a dilemma
• 28:49
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• 29:00
  Speaker 1: the rest of you chicks, thanks for having us in
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  Speaker 1: the ear holes. We'd love to be here, and thank
• 29:04
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• 29:07
  Speaker 4: I love you chicks. Bye.