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What do Narcissists really think about you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code and your
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  favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee Hammock, better known as
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  Mental illness across all social media platforms.
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  This is the first time to see my face or hearing my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for NPD.
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  Get more people into therapy like myself?
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  Six years strong. And also help the the thrivers
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  and survivors and the victims of narcissistic toxic abuse and
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  whatnot. Y'all.
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  Today's episode is going to be entitled What Do Narcissists
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  Really Think About You? What Do Narcissists Think About
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  you? What goes on the side of the
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  narcissistic person's head? Y'all so you know, y'all know.
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  Got to shout out these selflove journal that's helping so many
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  people out on Amazon today? Check it out Lee Hammock I love
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  Me a Selflove Journal on Amazon. So y'all, what, what, what?
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  Right? By a narcissistic toxic What's
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  going on? What do narcissists think about
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  you? So really, y'all already know it
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  depends on who you are, what you have going on and you know how
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  your life is affecting that narcissistic person's life.
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  You know what I mean? Because I think like so.
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  Especially it also depends on what role you play in that
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  narcissistic person's life as well.
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  Like if you my girlfriend or my wife or my husband or my, you
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  know, boyfriend, fiance, whatever, or or if you're my
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  mom, my son, my daughter, my whoever.
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  Your role in my life also depends on what I think about
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  you. But overall, narcissists do
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  think hierarchically. Like, narcissists have a, you
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  know, hierarchical mindset. It's hard for me to talk with
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  these crowns and you know, I'm still learning how to talk
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  because I got these crowns in my mouth.
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  But we narcissist the people. Tend to place ourselves at the
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  top of that hierarchy. So initially, no matter what you
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  have going on in your life, that narcissistic person is going to
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  think that they are some way better than you.
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  That's just that we're I just to make myself because I have been
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  such an insecure person to make myself feel better about my
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  current situation, the current state of affairs in my life and
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  whatever I have to like I said I have to find a way.
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  Shape or form that I am better than the person around me.
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  You know what I mean? And that includes the kids, that
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  includes the spouse, that includes the siblings, that
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  includes the friends, the boss, the president of the United
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  States, You know what I mean? The Prime Minister, the queen or
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  king or whoever you're dealing with, whoever is in charge of
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  your country or city, state, whatever, that narcissistic
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  person is going to feel like that they are above them in any
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  way, shape or form. And a lot of times it's not
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  justified. Y'all the delusional mindset of
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  a lot of narcissistic people tends to kick in and we we make
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  moves from that point going forward.
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  We make moves from that perspective right there.
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  You know what I mean? A lot of narcissistic people go
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  about doing it that exact way right there.
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  This is how they do it. Y'all.
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  It's the mindset we have to put ourselves above you in some way,
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  shape or form to damn near to damn near to survive.
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  Damn my fan. Been on this whole week.
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  I just realized this fan has been on this whole week.
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  Y'all my little vortex, my Vornado.
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  Dang it. I ain't been in my office all
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  week. But yeah, y'all.
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  The mindset of a lot of narcissistic people puts us
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  above you in some way, shape or form, whether it's deserved or
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  not. What we think about you.
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  You. Are we somehow, some way or
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  better than you? Even if you are better than us
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  in every single way, shape, or form.
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  I got to be taller, better looking hair, longer clothes,
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  better. Something to make me feel less
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  insecure. Something to plant myself, to
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  stabilize myself, to stabilize the insecurities that run
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  through my blood. I need something from you.
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  You know what I mean. What am I thinking about you?
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  I'm thinking about your flaws and whatever I can use to hurt
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  you. Just in case you tried to hurt
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  me. Just in case you hurt me.
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  I need to have some way to hurt you, just in case you do me
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  wrong. I have to find a way to do you
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  worse. I'm thinking about ways to
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  protect myself. So what I think about you is
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  what I based on what I think or what I feel about myself.
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  And a lot of narcissistic people will feel that way out.
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  Not every single narcissist could you get.
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  I promise you. There is an influx of whining
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  crybaby ass selfaware narcissists.
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  They'd be popping up on my stuff, popping up on TikTok,
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  crying, whining. Lee, not everybody thinks the
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  way you don't speak for all narcissists.
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  Never did I say I spoke for all narcissists.
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  I'm just telling y'all there's some.
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  I called them the Selfaware Victim Squad.
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  Y'all there are selfaware narcissists, victims.
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  This is wildness. Oh, let you play in the street,
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  Morrow, blah, blah. Shut up boy.
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  Nothing is worse than that. And I I said that's why I
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  understand the frustrations that a lot of people have with
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  narcissists. Like, was I this whiny and
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  crybaby and victim blame me like, was I like this?
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  You know, I still can be. I know I can be like a splash of
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  it right now. But damn, I don't speak for all
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  narcissists. Y'all.
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  Never have I claimed to speak for all narcissists or toxic
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  people or whoever we're dealing with.
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  You know what I mean? But that's the that's the crux
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  right there. Y'all.
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  So many narcissisted people think that they are better than
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  what they are. So many narcissisted people have
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  this delusional mindset. So what do I think of you?
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  I think you are less than me, even if you are not, even if you
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  are not in a lot of. And when the narcissist thinks
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  you are less than them, they're going to treat you that way.
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  They're going to treat you like they are better than you.
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  And guess what? And this is what happens right
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  here. A lot of times, y'all.
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  If that narcissistic person cannot find something about you
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  that makes them feel good about themselves, find something about
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  you that makes them feel like they're better than you, they
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  will leave you alone, or they will devalue you.
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  They're going to devalue you. Devalue you.
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  You anyway. But a lot of our statistic
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  people will increase the devaluation.
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  They will just get viscerally mean that you.
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  They would just become super angry at you and frustrated at
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  you because you make me feel so bad about myself, your
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  existence. Y'all.
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  Goodness gracious, it sucks sometimes having this mindset.
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  And just like I'm always how I think about you, what do
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  narcissists think about you? How can I defend myself against
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  you? How can I elevate myself against
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  you? Like some narcissists do think
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  that they love you. Let's go.
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  I'm. I'm.
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  I'm going to talk about the bad stuff all the time.
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  Yeah. But some narcissists do think
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  that they love you. Some narcissists think that
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  they're connected to you. Some narcissistic people might
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  actually think that you are the best thing that ever happened to
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  them. But does all of that go away or
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  flounder or lessen over time? Absolutely.
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  Yes, for most narcissistic people.
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  Because I truly believe. That everybody who is involved
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  with a narcissistic person goes through the discard phase.
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  Maybe not physically getting getting rid of you, but they
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  will emotionally discard you. What I mean by emotionally
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  emotional discard is that they will take literally, break you
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  down emotionally and tell you the piece.
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  They will get rid of you emotionally.
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  They will disconnect from you emotionally.
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  They might not physically get rid of you, but they absolutely
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  will disconnect from you emotionally a lot of times.
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  Y'all. So I try to convey this message
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  to as many people as I possibly can because like, I'm not trying
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  to hurt people's feelings. I think I hope I conveyed it to
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  y'all with my sentiment and how I speak.
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  I'm not trying to hurt y'all's feelings.
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  I'm just trying to be as real as I possibly can while breaking
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  through the barriers that you might have.
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  Even if you are a narcissistic person watching this, to break
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  through the barriers that you might have in your head that
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  makes you think everybody is, everybody is attacking you,
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  everybody is out to get you. That type of mindset right
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  there, because a lot of narcissists do possess that
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  mindset. I think people think I'm making
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  it up. They're like, you're making it
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  up now. What benefit do I get out of
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  making stuff up? Well, you get to follow them
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  around. OK, All right.
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  All right. Narcissist.
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  People are going to think whatever necessarily about you
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  to make them feel better about themselves.
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  And if I can't think that about you, I'm going to think I'm
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  like, if I feel like you are, if if things are going good, I
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  think I think good about you. But I'm always prepared just in
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  case it goes sideways, just in case this blows up.
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  You know what I mean? I'm always wait.
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  I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak, just
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  in case this blows up. I got to be ready, you know?
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  I mean, just in case this goes sideways.
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  I got to have my mind right? Just in case.
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  This thing just selfdestruct. I got to be prepared.
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  Because you never know what's going to happen next.
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  You never know what comes next in these relationship dynamic
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  show. So you have to protect your
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  peace in these relationships. Because if a narcissistic person
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  is feeling bad, they're probably thinking bad.
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  And when they think bad, they're going to behave bad.
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  You see what I'm saying? You see the cycle.
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  If I'm feeling good, I think good, I behave good some most
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  times. If I'm feeling bad, I think bad,
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  I behave badly. And I treat you badly.
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  Because I think that you are the catalyst for me feeling bad.
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  Or I think that you are happy when I'm when I am sad, which
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  makes me angry, which sucks when you have the person that you
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  posted, the person that says they love you and care about you
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  when they get angry and whatnot. When you are happy.
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  When they get like when you are happy or celebrating something,
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  you're celebrating they win. You're celebrating some type of
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  victory and then they get angry and sell at you and just and
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  they just tear you down. Narcissistic people, y'all.
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  They think. A lot of us just think we're
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  better than y'all and most. A lot of these times we just are
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  not. Like I said, there's a lot of
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  people who think they could do this better than I can, but they
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  just are not ready for this, this, this space.
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  And I know that sounds super narcissistic, lady, there you
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  go, leader. Narcissism sliding out.
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  I don't look, I'm working on transitioning from having a
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  higher level of arrogance to having a higher level of
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  confidence. You see what I'm saying?
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  Because Eric, confidence is thinking that no, you know,
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  arrogance is thinking that you are better than everybody else.
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  Confidence is thinking that nobody else is better than me.
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  You see what I'm saying? I'm better than everybody else.
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  But Eric, confidence is nobody's better than me at doing this.
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  You see what I'm saying? But we all have our patterns.
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  Everybody say I'm your favorite self ward nurses.
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  I might not be, but hey, I also might be.
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  OK yeah. But thank y'all for tuning in
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  Everywhere. Y'all Texas.
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