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THE GREATEST MISTAKE A MAN CAN MAKE – Don't Fall Into This Trap · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Usk is much stronger now than I ever imagined a
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  Speaker 1: human could be. There's no telling what else he might
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  Speaker 1: be capable of.
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  Speaker 2: The greatest mistake a man can make is to be
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  Speaker 2: afraid of making one. Nobody is right all the time.
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  Speaker 2: It is in the nature of things that we progress
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  Speaker 2: by acting, making mistakes and correcting course. You cannot correct
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  Speaker 2: your course. If you are standing still, you cannot change
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  Speaker 2: or correct nothing. You can correct your course as you go.
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  Speaker 1: Little men are never wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Use self esteem for yourself instead of against yourself, by
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  Speaker 2: convincing yourself of this truth. Big men and big personalities
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  Speaker 2: make mistakes and admit them. It is the little man
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  Speaker 2: who is afraid to admit he has been wrong. This,
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  Speaker 2: of course, applies equally to women. We must learn to
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  Speaker 2: embrace the short term uncertainties of the game while staying
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  Speaker 2: connected to the targets we choose. Being wrong holds untold
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  Speaker 2: horrors to the person who tries to conceive himself as perfect.
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  Speaker 2: If he were ever wrong, his picture of a perfect,
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  Speaker 2: all powerful self would crumble. Therefore, decision making becomes a
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  Speaker 2: life or death matter. Reassure yourself that you are not
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  Speaker 2: your mistakes, correct course, and continue moving forward. Many people
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  Speaker 2: get a perverse satisfaction from feeling wrong. The victim of injustice,
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  Speaker 2: the one who has been unfairly treated, is morally superior
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  Speaker 2: to those who cause the injustice. Resentment is a cure
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  Speaker 2: that is worse than the disease. It is a deadly
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  Speaker 2: poison to the spirit, makes happiness impossible and uses a
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  Speaker 2: tremendous energy that could go into accomplishment. You cannot win
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  Speaker 2: because you are attempting to do the impossible change the past. Resentment,
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  Speaker 2: even when based on real injustices and wrongs, is not
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  Speaker 2: the way to win. It soon becomes an emotional habit.
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  Speaker 2: Habitually feeling that you or a victim of injustice, you
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  Speaker 2: begin to picture yourself in the role of a victimized person.
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  Speaker 2: Remember that your resentment is not caused by other persons, events,
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  Speaker 2: or circumstance. It is caused by your own emotional.
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  Speaker 1: Response, your own reaction.
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  Speaker 2: If life owes you a living you become resentful when
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  Speaker 2: it isn't forthcoming. You are the creator. You set your goals,
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  Speaker 2: no one owes you anything. You go out after your
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  Speaker 2: own goals. You become responsible for your own success and happiness.
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  Speaker 2: It is fact that by the very act of birth,
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  Speaker 2: one person is unjustly set out to begin a hard
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  Speaker 2: life in a ghetto filled with street crime, while another
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  Speaker 2: born in a cross town hospital that same moment will
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  Speaker 2: begin life in a safe suburb. In a sense, there
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  Speaker 2: is no justice, but we may manufacture just results for
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  Speaker 2: our Oh, there's no denying injustice. If you intend to
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  Speaker 2: insist on justice in order to live a successful and
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  Speaker 2: happy life, you will not do so in this lifetime
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  Speaker 2: on this planet. You can enjoy the powers of your
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  Speaker 2: automatic success mechanism only if you choose to rise above
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  Speaker 2: injustice small or large. Only the rare individual who manages
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  Speaker 2: to cleanse herself of these resentments and recalibrate is able
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  Speaker 2: to stay straight. Any individual who permits resentment to control
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  Speaker 2: her thoughts locks herself and her potential into a prison
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  Speaker 2: of her own making. She is her own hanging judge,
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  Speaker 2: discompassionate jury, and jailer. Life becomes worthwhile when you have
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  Speaker 2: worthwhile goals. Those who have the capacity to enjoy still
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  Speaker 2: alive within them, find enjoyment in many ordinary and simple
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  Speaker 2: things in life. Those in whom the capacity to enjoy
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  Speaker 2: is dead can find enjoyment in nothing. You can see
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  Speaker 2: these people by the hundreds night after night, knocking themselves
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  Speaker 2: out in nightclubs, trying to convince themselves they are enjoying it.
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  Speaker 2: They travel from place to place, become entangled in a
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  Speaker 2: whirl of parties, hoping to find enjoyment, always finding an
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  Speaker 2: empty shell. It is possible to win a faked success,
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  Speaker 2: but when you do, you are penalized with an empty joy.
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  Speaker 2: Life is worthwhile only when you have firmly fixed in
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  Speaker 2: your sights worthwhile goals. Emptiness is a symptom that you
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  Speaker 2: are not living creatively. You either have no goal that
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  Speaker 2: is important enough to you, or you are not using
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  Speaker 2: your talents and efforts in striving.
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  Speaker 1: Toward an important goal.
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  Speaker 2: The person who has no purpose of her own pessimistically
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  Speaker 2: concludes life has no purpose. The person who has no
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  Speaker 2: goal worth working for concludes life is not worthwhile. The
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  Speaker 2: person with no important job to do complains there is
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  Speaker 2: nothing to do. The individual who is actively engaged in
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  Speaker 2: striving toward an important goal or goals does not come
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  Speaker 2: up with pessimistic philosophies concerning the meaninglessness or the futility
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  Speaker 2: of life in general or his life in specific.
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  Speaker 1: A liveness is.
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  Speaker 2: Based on constant, least setting new goals. Emptiness is not
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  Speaker 2: a way that wins.
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  Speaker 1: Why bother? Why try? If life is just a treadmill.
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  Speaker 2: If we work eight hours a day so that we
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  Speaker 2: can afford a house to sleep in, so that we
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  Speaker 2: can sleep eight hours to become rested for another day's work,
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  Speaker 2: why get excited about it? All these intellectual reasons vanish, however,
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  Speaker 2: and we experience joy and satisfaction once we get off
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  Speaker 2: the treadmill. Stop going around and around in circles, and
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  Speaker 2: select a goal worth striving for and go after it.
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  Speaker 2: Emptiness and an inadequate self image go together.
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  Speaker 1: Only.
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  Speaker 2: Striving for goals that are important to you, not as
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  Speaker 2: status symbols, but because they are consistent with your own
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  Speaker 2: deep inner wants is healthful. Striving for real success, for
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  Speaker 2: your success through creative acculture brings a deep inner satisfaction.
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  Speaker 2: Striving for phony success to please others brings a phony satisfaction.
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  Speaker 2: Glance at negatives, but focus on positives. Automobiles come equipped
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  Speaker 2: with negative indicators placed directly in front of the driver
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  Speaker 2: to tell you when the battery is not charging, when
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  Speaker 2: the engine is becoming too hot, when the oil pressure
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  Speaker 2: is becoming too low, etc. The negative signal does not
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  Speaker 2: mean the car is no good. All cars overheat at times. However,
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  Speaker 2: the driver of the automobile does not look at the
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  Speaker 2: control panel exclusively and continuously. To do so might be disastrous.
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  Speaker 2: She must focus her gaze through the windshield, look where
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  Speaker 2: she is going, and keep her primary attention on her
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  Speaker 2: goal where she wants to go. She merely glances at
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  Speaker 2: the negative indicators from time to time. When she does,
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  Speaker 2: she does not fix on or dwell on. She quickly
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  Speaker 2: focuses her side ahead again and concentrates on the positive
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  Speaker 2: goal of where she wants to go. We should adopt
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  Speaker 2: a similar attitude about our own negative serials. The first
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  Speaker 2: step to getting out of a hole is to stop digging.
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  Speaker 2: A self reliant, responsible attitude makes you less vulnerable. A big,
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  Speaker 2: strong person does not feel threatened by a small danger
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  Speaker 2: a weak little person does. When you habitually personalize every slight,
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  Speaker 2: every overheard conversation, even things you read or hear in media,
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  Speaker 2: you reveal a very thin skinned image with the weakest
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  Speaker 2: of immunities.
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  Speaker 1: Be bigger than such things.
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  Speaker 2: The person in hot pursuit of meaningful, rewarding goals and
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  Speaker 2: a calendar of important things to do has little time
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  Speaker 2: to obsess over trivial slights and defenses. When someone hurts
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  Speaker 2: us or rubs us the wrong way, we form emotional
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  Speaker 2: or spiritual scars for self protection. We are very apt
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  Speaker 2: to become hardened of heart and to withdraw within a
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  Speaker 2: protective emotional shell of one kind or another in forming
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  Speaker 2: scar tissue. It is nature's intention to be helpful. Do
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  Speaker 2: not overprotect yourself. No one is ever too old, too jaded,
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  Speaker 2: too frightened, or too traumatized to wet the clay and
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  Speaker 2: begin remaking it as they imagine and desire. Build up
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  Speaker 2: emotional scars, one atop the other. Make the self image
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  Speaker 2: a threat and vulnerable entity that triggers survival mode behavior,
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  Speaker 2: flee or fight, fear, or pugnacious aggressiveness. Whenever confronted with
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  Speaker 2: a situation, its senses might harm it in the same
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  Speaker 2: way as the past incidents that left scar. Don't underestimate
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  Speaker 2: the power of emotional scars. The emotional wall that we
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  Speaker 2: build as protection against one person or one situation cuts
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  Speaker 2: us off from all other human beings, from many opportunities,
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  Speaker 2: even from our real selves. Acceptance of the new by
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  Speaker 2: the self image will automatically remove the old scar.