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93. OUR DREAM WEDDING... part 1 · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Hello you, guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
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  Speaker 1: Hawkerel Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kaylee, and this is
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  Speaker 1: your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
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  Speaker 1: a new mindset, and another day if you become the
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  Speaker 1: Hawkerel Energy you want to attract. Hello you, guys, welcome
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  Speaker 1: back to another episode. As you can see by this title,
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  Speaker 1: we are officially starting the wedding series. Guys. I literally
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  Speaker 1: leave for my wedding in three frickin' days. Three days.
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  Speaker 1: I cannot believe it. We have been talking about this
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  Speaker 1: for so long and I just can't believe the day
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  Speaker 1: is coming so soon. And yeah, I just I feel
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  Speaker 1: like there's so much going on these past few weeks.
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  Speaker 1: And I want to apologize for not posting an episode
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  Speaker 1: last week because we were in the th of wedding planning.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be fully transparent. There was a lot
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  Speaker 1: of things that were thrown at us, and you know
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  Speaker 1: that obviously had to be a priority, and I had
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  Speaker 1: other things that I had to film for work as well.
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  Speaker 1: I had to film at least I think three to
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  Speaker 1: four brand deals before I left for my trip, which
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  Speaker 1: obviously has been extremely time consuming. And then on top
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  Speaker 1: of that, also filming like personal content and getting wedding
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  Speaker 1: planning stuff done and all that. But I have Zach
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  Speaker 1: here with me.
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  Speaker 2: How's it going, guys?
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  Speaker 1: Zach is back on the podcast because I'm like, you
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  Speaker 1: know what, he needs to be a part of these
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  Speaker 1: next two episodes because obviously, a marriage is a team.
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  Speaker 1: It's not just me as a single wife, it's a
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  Speaker 1: husband and wife. I want him to be a part
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  Speaker 1: of this episode. So we thought we could make this
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  Speaker 1: wedding series a two part series essentially. I think this
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  Speaker 1: first episode here is going to be about just kind
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  Speaker 1: of what's been going on these past few weeks. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like there's been a lot of like behind the
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  Speaker 1: scenes that I haven't really shared on social media that's
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  Speaker 1: been going on here on our end intern of just
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  Speaker 1: like I don't know, just a lot of work in
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  Speaker 1: terms of wedding planning that we'll get into detail about.
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  Speaker 2: You're kind of revealing the curtain or you're revealing what's
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  Speaker 2: behind the curtain for yeah, six months.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, exactly. And then we're also going to talk about
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  Speaker 1: some pros and cons of doing a destination wedding because
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  Speaker 1: I've had a lot of messages just people talking about
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  Speaker 1: and asking me questions about, you know, what it's like
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  Speaker 1: doing a destination wedding. Do we have any tips recommend
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  Speaker 1: our planners all that. So we're going to also spill
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  Speaker 1: the tea on some pros and cons of us planning
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  Speaker 1: a wedding in Italy, as well as maybe some things
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  Speaker 1: that we think might change going into marriage and becoming
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  Speaker 1: husband and wife. So let's get into it. The next
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  Speaker 1: episode is going to be more focused on spilling the
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  Speaker 1: tea of the entire wedding week. We're going to be
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  Speaker 1: telling you guys every detail before the wedding even happens.
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  Speaker 1: You guys are going to hear everything, and that way,
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  Speaker 1: you guys going to know where it's happening, what is happening,
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  Speaker 1: just all the fine details to make it feel like
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  Speaker 1: you guys are actually about to come to the wedding yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And then you'll be able to see all the visuals
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  Speaker 1: on my Instagram, on my TikTok, on my YouTube. It's
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  Speaker 1: all linked down below and you guys will see the
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  Speaker 1: vision come to life. So let's get into this all right.
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  Speaker 1: So let's talk about just our wedding planning process. So
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  Speaker 1: we've been engaged now for a year and a half year,
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  Speaker 1: so we didn't really rush into things in terms of
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  Speaker 1: planning the wedding. Like we took at least six months
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  Speaker 1: I think until we actually officially like reached out to
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  Speaker 1: our planners. We reached out to them in July and
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  Speaker 1: we got engaged in February. February, March, April, May, June, July. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so six months. So we kind of wanted to save
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  Speaker 1: a bit of money, also talk about, okay, what is
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  Speaker 1: our realistic approach for where to go if we want
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  Speaker 1: to do it at home? Did we want to do it?
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  Speaker 1: We actually were considering Mexico. I don't think I've told
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  Speaker 1: them that we considered Mexico in the beginning. We thought
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  Speaker 1: doing Lost Cabos would be a really nice idea. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of weddings have been done there, it's absolutely beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: And then Europe was always on my mind. But financially,
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  Speaker 1: I just assumed it would cost more to do it
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  Speaker 1: there versus anywhere else. And once we were starting to
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  Speaker 1: go on Pinterest and save images of what our vision
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  Speaker 1: was and all that, it wasn't giving Mexico. Let's just
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  Speaker 1: say that wasn't giving the desert vibes it wasn't giving
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  Speaker 1: coastal beach vibes, it was giving more European elegant vibes.
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  Speaker 1: So obviously I don't want to share my Pinterest board yet,
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  Speaker 1: but I will share it once the wedding is over,
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  Speaker 1: just because I'm happy to give anybody inspo for their wedding,
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  Speaker 1: but I wanted to give it a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: a surprise obviously since we're getting so close to the date.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm happy to share that after the wedding. But
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  Speaker 1: from saving Pinterest images and all that, that really helped
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  Speaker 1: us determine where we were going to get married, and
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  Speaker 1: so we decided to do our own investigation in terms
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  Speaker 1: of like, okay, like does this financially make sense? Can
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  Speaker 1: we do it? And realize that we could do it,
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  Speaker 1: and we thought it was kind of crazy that we're like,
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  Speaker 1: so we're just going to get on a flight to
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  Speaker 1: Europe and go book a wedding venue, Like what, like,
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  Speaker 1: what do you mean we're going to do that? It
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  Speaker 1: was so crazy and that's what we did.
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  Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I mean there's a lot of legwork before that, though, Yes,
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  Speaker 2: talking the planners, what kind of vision did you want? What?
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  Speaker 2: What did you want in the venue, what did you want?
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  Speaker 1: In the true? True? So we found our planners through Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: That was the way we found them. Like, I think
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  Speaker 1: we just searched Italy wedding planners.
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  Speaker 2: I think No, I think they did a wedding of
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  Speaker 2: somebody that you followed. No, oh, okay, No, there's.
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  Speaker 1: No one that I saw that. There was a planner
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  Speaker 1: that we reached out to, but we ended up not
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  Speaker 1: going with her because she was She's done a few
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  Speaker 1: weddings in Italy. I'm not going to say like who
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  Speaker 1: the influencers are, but I actually had one influencer who's
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  Speaker 1: a pretty big influencer. I messaged her and I said, hey, like,
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  Speaker 1: how was your planner? Like do you recommend her? Do
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  Speaker 1: you not? She said some things that didn't sit well
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  Speaker 1: with me that made me not want to go with
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  Speaker 1: this planner specifically, And she's actually working with a lot
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  Speaker 1: of other other influencers as well. I just honestly wasn't
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  Speaker 1: on board with working with someone that was going to,
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  Speaker 1: i don't know, just not execute everything professionally, if that
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  Speaker 1: makes sense. So we ended up not working with a planner.
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  Speaker 1: We ended up obviously paying our own money for it
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  Speaker 1: and everything, and I think that was the right decision
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  Speaker 1: because our planners, they are a team of four, and
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  Speaker 1: I just think it's very well managed in terms of
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  Speaker 1: everyone has a position in terms of how they execute
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  Speaker 1: the wedding planning process, whereas the other planning where we
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  Speaker 1: were looking at was just a one team person like
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  Speaker 1: she had no one else. We actually had a situation
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  Speaker 1: with our planners that one of them had a passing
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  Speaker 1: in their family recently, which obviously that is a huge
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  Speaker 1: disappointment and a huge situation where she can't work right,
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  Speaker 1: like she had to take a step aside from work
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  Speaker 1: and all that. So I couldn't imagine having a one
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  Speaker 1: person planner having to step aside from a parent passing
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  Speaker 1: when your wedding is literally three weeks away, like to
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  Speaker 1: be fully transparent, like it's hard to work alone in
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  Speaker 1: that type of circumstance when there's a passing in your family, right.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm happy that we were able to press forward
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  Speaker 1: with a team of four and they've been so great.
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  Speaker 1: Their planner's names are Rosini Weddings. If you're looking to
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  Speaker 1: get married in Italy, I highly highly recommend them. They've
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  Speaker 1: been so great, And yeah, I think obviously every wedding
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  Speaker 1: comes with pros and cons and that's what I think
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  Speaker 1: we're going to talk about. And yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I just think they've been super great throughout the process
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  Speaker 1: so far, and yeah, we're excited to see how everything
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  Speaker 1: comes together. So once we found our planners in July,
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  Speaker 1: that's when we kind of discussed different venues. They did
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  Speaker 1: all of the research in terms of what venues to
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  Speaker 1: secure and all that, like to go visit sorry, not secure.
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  Speaker 1: So we nailed it down to three different areas in Italy,
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  Speaker 1: which was Lake Como, Rome Verona in te for Sorry. Originally,
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  Speaker 1: originally we did not go with any of those four.
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  Speaker 1: So if you think that we're getting married in Tuscany,
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  Speaker 1: we're not. If you think you're getting married and home,
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  Speaker 1: we're not, Like Como, we're not. So think of other
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  Speaker 1: places in Italy. I feel like people definitely know at this,
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  Speaker 1: but we're not sharing.
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  Speaker 2: But we went. We went, We went in and originally
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  Speaker 2: they had like thirty something venues they wanted us to
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  Speaker 2: narrow it down to. We narrowed it down to I
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  Speaker 2: want to say ten, maybe to go look at what
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  Speaker 2: we're there. Yeah, we had a great trip in Italy.
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  Speaker 2: We went. We went over in the fall September.
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  Speaker 1: I think it was actually perfect though, because there wasn't
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  Speaker 1: too many tourists, Like, it was not too hot, not
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  Speaker 1: too cold, it was still actually really warm. To be honest,
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  Speaker 1: it was.
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  Speaker 2: It was actually a great trip. It was it was
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  Speaker 2: really good. It was really fun trip. But we didn't
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  Speaker 2: find our wedding.
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  Speaker 1: Venue, which was extremely stressful. Like when we got home,
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  Speaker 1: there was actually a lot of tears because I think
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  Speaker 1: we felt really lost and we felt like we actually
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  Speaker 1: I think at one point went back to Mexico.
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  Speaker 2: We went back to Mexico and we went back to.
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  Speaker 1: Mexico because we were like, I don't think Italy is
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  Speaker 1: going to be it like. And it wasn't about the
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  Speaker 1: finances or the visuals or anything like that. It was
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  Speaker 1: more so the rules.
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  Speaker 2: For like and the feeling of the venue.
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  Speaker 1: The feeling of the venue was like smaller than we
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  Speaker 1: anticipated and just like not what we envisioned. The rules
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  Speaker 1: for certain venues are like you can't play music outside
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  Speaker 1: past nine pm. It's got to be indoors. It's like, okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: if I'm paying to have a wedding in Italy, I
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  Speaker 1: want to be under the star stars in Italy dancing
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  Speaker 1: my ass off. I'm not gonna want to be thrown
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  Speaker 1: into a small little cave. Remember that one that had
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  Speaker 1: you could barely you could barely fit thirty people in there,
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  Speaker 1: and we have like fifty. Imagine if we said yesterday
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  Speaker 1: we threw fifty five people in there.
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  Speaker 2: There was five people on our tour, and we asked
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  Speaker 2: the person showing us the venue, Oh, how many people
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  Speaker 2: can we fit in here? They said sixty, And our
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  Speaker 2: planners turned and looked at us and said, there's no way.
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  Speaker 1: It was so tight it would have been awful, like
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  Speaker 1: it just everyone would have been sweating. There wasn't even
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  Speaker 1: enough room for dancing. Like imagine like an old rustic
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  Speaker 1: wine cellar in the basement, Like that's exactly what it was,
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  Speaker 1: giving that cave vibe, and it, Yeah, it just wasn't it.
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  Speaker 1: So we thought, you know, with the rules that way.
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  Speaker 1: That was in Lake Como. To be honest, a lot
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  Speaker 1: of the Lake Como venues had some pretty strict rules, which, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: I think that kind of was a meant to be
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  Speaker 1: situation because I feel like I don't know. I was
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  Speaker 1: also that kind of person where I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to overdo it in either the same venue that
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  Speaker 1: everybody does or the same location. I kind of wanted
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  Speaker 1: to do a different part of Italy that I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I haven't seen too many weddings at. However, there
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  Speaker 1: was one influencer that I follow She just got married
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  Speaker 1: recently at our wedding venue, which got me so excited.
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  Speaker 1: When I actually saw her wedding there, it made me
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  Speaker 1: feel ten times more secure about our wedding. Like I
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  Speaker 1: already felt secure, but like seeing kind of her vision
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  Speaker 1: on our venue made me ten times more excited to
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  Speaker 1: see how our wedding turned out. But I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like that helps when you see another wedding
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  Speaker 1: like happen at your venue. I feel like if you're
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  Speaker 1: a bride, you get it. But yeah, it's hard to
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  Speaker 1: really visualize everything too right because when you go to
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  Speaker 1: these venue visits, there's no wedding setup. You really have
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  Speaker 1: to visualize, Okay, what would this area look like with
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  Speaker 1: a ceremony setup, what would this area look like with
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  Speaker 1: a dinner table setup? Like you're going to see a
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  Speaker 1: blank canvas with no florals, nothing right, So it's really
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  Speaker 1: hard to make a decision based off that I find
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  Speaker 1: I think that was one thing that we kind of
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  Speaker 1: struggled with. We were like, okay, like we got to
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  Speaker 1: imagine this here and then this here. But it did
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  Speaker 1: also help us determine what to say no to because
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  Speaker 1: we're like, this feels crammed, like we can't fit you know,
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  Speaker 1: everybody here for the ceremony.
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  Speaker 2: I else feel like when it came to visualizing the venues,
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  Speaker 2: it got tough because you're almost over anticipating what you
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  Speaker 2: can do. For all, we can put flowers here, we
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  Speaker 2: can do we can do drapes and curtains over here,
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  Speaker 2: we can do all this. We can do lights here,
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  Speaker 2: we can do this, but you don't know the cost
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  Speaker 2: of anything.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know the cost anything. You also don't know. Again,
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  Speaker 1: it goes back to the rules. There's certain things that
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  Speaker 1: they're like, yeah, you can't put flowers on this, like
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  Speaker 1: that is you're not allowed to do that.
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  Speaker 2: So can open up those windows.
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  Speaker 1: You can't do this, yeah, Or it's like, oh, we'd
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  Speaker 1: love to have the ceremony here versus over there, and
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  Speaker 1: it's like, well, no, Like you have to have the
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  Speaker 1: ceremony there and you have to have the perception here.
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  Speaker 1: So there's little things that you don't think about that
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  Speaker 1: plays a huge factor in your venue selection and costs exactly.
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  Speaker 1: So it does. It truly does add up, guys.
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  Speaker 2: The trip was good because it taught.
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  Speaker 1: Us what to ask, But there was a lot of
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  Speaker 1: places that we saw on Instagram and then we saw
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  Speaker 1: it in person and we're like, whoa, Thank god we
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  Speaker 1: saw this in person before we just assumed right.
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  Speaker 2: Difference.
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  Speaker 1: And again, angles are important for photos for sure for
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  Speaker 1: the wedding day, but you also want to be there
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  Speaker 1: and feel like you're not crammed. Like a lot of
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  Speaker 1: these places were a lot smaller than we anticipated. When
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  Speaker 1: we went to go see some of the venues in
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  Speaker 1: Lake Como, we thought they were way bigger, and then
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  Speaker 1: when you got there, we're like, whoa, this is pretty small.
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  Speaker 1: So going back to our wedding venue, we took the
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  Speaker 1: risk and fully booked the wedding venue based off of
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  Speaker 1: pictures we saw on Instagram, and when I went to
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  Speaker 1: go visit it in May, it totally exceeded my expectations.
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  Speaker 1: It was beyond perfect. It was exactly what I envisioned
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  Speaker 1: for our wedding, So I was really really happy to
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  Speaker 1: see it in person. Zach actually hasn't seen him person yet,
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  Speaker 1: So I literally I'm so giddy about you seeing it.
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  Speaker 1: It's insane, Like it's literally one of the most beautiful
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  Speaker 1: places I've ever seen. I'm not even over exaggerating.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, Oh, I'm literally going to be the TikTok
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  Speaker 2: of well my fiance sees what I've been planning for
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  Speaker 2: the last nine months. Yeah, that's literally gonna be.
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  Speaker 1: But I will say Zach has been very involved in
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  Speaker 1: the wedding planning process, and I would say more than
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  Speaker 1: most guys, Like, he has been very involved, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: very grateful for that because I am a stress nut
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to this kind of stuff, and he's
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  Speaker 1: been very, very helpful, Like he's been managing all the
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  Speaker 1: like banking details, He's been helping a lot with the emails.
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  Speaker 1: He's been helping just like paying vendors find details. However,
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  Speaker 1: you have been helping.
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  Speaker 2: With you have the look I have the I feel
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  Speaker 2: like I'm more on the organizational side in the schedule,
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  Speaker 2: that kind of thing.
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  Speaker 1: I think we're going to film a TikTok before we
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  Speaker 1: leave of me asking Zach questions like things that are
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  Speaker 1: happening at the wedding that he may or may not dress. No,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna well, I do want to ask what
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  Speaker 1: the dress? The dress I am, it has we have
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  Speaker 1: to do it. It's just something that you have to
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  Speaker 1: do to be offended offended. Now, I would not be offended.
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  Speaker 1: I would not be offended at all. Like you. This
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  Speaker 1: is again, you're not supposed to talk about like what
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  Speaker 1: you think is the perfect dress. You're supposed to talk
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  Speaker 1: about like what you think I would have picked? Okay, okay,
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  Speaker 1: and then you'll see on the wedding day if you
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  Speaker 1: think my mind was correct in terms of what I
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  Speaker 1: think like flatters me. It's not about like, so don't
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  Speaker 1: think about oh no, I want to see her in this.
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  Speaker 1: That's not how you're supposed to You're supposed to think, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: what would Cally go for? And that's how you describe it.
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  Speaker 1: I do think we should film a TikTok of us
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  Speaker 1: talking about things that you may or may not know
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  Speaker 1: that's happening at the wedding, Like what color of flowers
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  Speaker 1: did we do? Like what like just kind of like
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  Speaker 1: give little sneak peaks away that I mean, I think
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna know a lot of the answers because Zach's
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  Speaker 1: very involved. We've been honestly planning wedding planning meetings around
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  Speaker 1: Zach's work schedule before it even starts work. So you
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  Speaker 1: can imagine me waking up at five am taking these
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  Speaker 1: wedding calls so Zach and I can do this wedding
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  Speaker 1: planning meeting together. Because Zach's like, I want to be
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  Speaker 1: part of it. I want to be a part of it,
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  Speaker 1: which I really appreciate. So that's made the process more fun.
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  Speaker 1: I think, being able to have you involved and not
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  Speaker 1: just me, because I feel like a lot of my
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  Speaker 1: friends have had just like them plan at all, which
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  Speaker 1: I mean is totally fine whatever works within your relationship,
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: I guess, but I think for us, I need I
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: needed him, like I really needed his help. And yeah,
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: I think there were certain things where he was like,
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: we don't need that, and I was like, no, no,
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: like we need that, so I kind of pushed certain things.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: But anyways, other than that, he's been very involved and
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: I think we did a good job planning. So for
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: the past few weeks, we've definitely been focusing a lot
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: on the wedding for obvious reasons. Majority of the time
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: We've been sitting on our laptops answering emails and I'm
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: talking like paragraphs on paragraphs of emails, sending it back
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: and forth with our planners when it comes to like
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: the seating chart, paying vendors, you know, negotiating our budget.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Like obviously the budget fluctuates when you want to add
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: flowers or remove flowers, or you know, just certain details
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: that you don't think about.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Budget changes when you add extra events that you weren't playing.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: Now, yeah, we weren't expecting to have any decor for
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: our rehearsal dinner, and then last minutely I'm like, let's
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: try and find an affordable way of tying you know,
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: very minimal decor into our rehearsal dinner for an example.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: So I didn't want to just put too much effort
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: towards the wedding. I did want to have, you know,
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: some stuff happening with the welcome party and rehearsal dinner.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't know, that was something that we
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: really had to focus on these past few days. And
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: I will say it has been extremely stressful. We've been
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: staying up to like some night's eleven pm, some nights midnight,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: like just answering emails. Getting seating chart took us four hours.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: Seating chart I thought would be so easy. It was
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: beyond the most difficult thing ever. Just trying to pair
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: up your friends and making sure that your.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: Friends that give away what we're doing for a table
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: right now, Oh yeah.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: I've given it away. We're doing one long imperial material table.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: And yeah, it was just kind of hard because it
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: was one table. We really had to figure out, Okay,
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: we'll put our friends at the ends of each table,
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: and then family members. We had to be like, okay,
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: what friends would be okay with sitting beside family members.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: It was more of a social butterfly for someone who's
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: a bit more quiet and like I don't know, or
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: who interacts well with each other. Where should be putting
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: the bridesmaids and the groomsmen near us? And I don't know,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: it's just different like when you look at other weddings,
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: usually like the bridesmaids and groomsmen sit on the bride
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: and groom side, And I don't know. It's just all
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: a very difficult decision to make. But I think we
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: nailed it down. I think we did a really a
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: good job.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Then there's seating plan for or the reversal.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: Dinner, the seating for the ceremony, song choices for the ceremony.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: Like the list goes on, like you do not think
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: of these little details until you get closer and you're like,
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: oh shit, I need to do this. Or let's talk about
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: how many orders I've done on Amazon, Like I've never
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: spent so much money on Amazon in my life, just
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: from doing last minute orders of like oh we need this,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: Oh we need this. Like I don't know about you,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: but I feel like I've never paid so much, like
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: on orders alone. I'm not even talking about like the
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: wedding budget, just like I've never done so many transactions
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: when it comes to bridal outfits, honeymoon outfits, anything related
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: to the wedding for last minute things. It's just been yeah,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: a lot of money spent. Let's just say that. But
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: let's talk about some of the pros and cons to
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: a destination wedding, because, as I said, I feel like
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: a lot of people ask me questions about like, hey,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: was it difficult to find planners? Has been difficult to
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: plan a wedding in Italy? All that I think? One,
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: let's talk about the cons first versus the pros. I
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: think one con that I can think of right now
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: has been the time difference. Oh my god, it definitely
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: is hard to book meetings around people who are six
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: hours ahead. So all of our meetings have been honestly
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: pretty early in the morning. Yeah, like sometimes we've met
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: at like nine or ten am, but it's on the
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: very rare case of them doing that. And I get it, like,
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: they obviously have a eight to four or a nine
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: to five, so they don't work late hours, and I
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: totally get that, but it definitely makes it difficult for
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Zach and I, especially because Zach's obviously at work by
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: ten am, and not.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: Just the scheduling the meetings for early in the morning,
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: trying to meet deadlines and trying to get things done
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: with them six hours ahead of us. When they say, oh,
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: we need something by end of day, they're not talking
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: end of day here for us. They're talking end of
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: day for them, which is noon one o'clock Eastern. Like, yeah,
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: it's it's tough to try and bang this stuff out
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: when we're getting it right. We wake up, I'm I'm
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: up waterly and Caleb with Kayley's up and moving you know,
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: seven thirty eight am. Finally checks the emails eight thirty
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: and it's eight thirty nine, maybe ten o'clock before we
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: can talk about something, and we have to have it
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: done by one PM or New Eastern. It's very tough.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: And like a lot of the decisions we do make together, right,
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: So a lot of the time is we're answering all
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the emails at night when we're finished dinner and we're
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: like shooting the shit from you know, Okay, can we
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: do this instead? You know, can we cut this? Like
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: because I don't want to cut something intact to be like,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: oh well I really wanted that, or you know, if
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: he wanted me to cut something, or whatever the case
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: may be, to remove from the budget for an example,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Like I don't know, it's just been difficult, I think
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: in that sense, but we've been able to manage it. It's
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: not the end of the world. I think. Again, that's
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: something that's easily manageable that we've been able to manage.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: And I wouldn't say that it's been like I still
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: don't like I don't regret doing a destination wedding. I
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: still think it was the right decision to do for
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: our case scenario, I like, am so so happy we
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: decided to get married in Italy and I couldn't imagine
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: getting married anywhere else. To be honest, like, I truly
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: think that even though that was one con, I wouldn't
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: say it was a con enough to like, you know,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: I not do it exactly, Like, I don't have any
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: regrets doing a destination wedding at all so far. I mean,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: we haven't had the wedding yet, so I can't say that,
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: but in terms of right now, like, I still am
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: happy that we made the decision doing a destination wedding
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: versus getting married in Ottawa.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: Another con that doesn't necessarily affect us, but it affects
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: everyone else is the cost of getting to our wedding. Yeah,
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: the cost of coming data, the cost of accommodation, Like
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: is your your plane ticket to whatever major airport you're
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: transferred to, wherever our wedding is, wherever our destination is,
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: and your accommodation, and you know the city you're landing in,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: the city you're staying in, how long are you going
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: to stay in room? People are taking time off work
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: to come. Everyone's taking at least ten days off work, right.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: That's there's also some wedding venues that require like your
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: guests to stay at which has That's something that we
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: actually were really struggling with when we were planning our
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: wedding because I didn't want my guests to have to
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: pay a specific amount at a you know, villa in
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Tuscany or whatever.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: I somebody's can get quite expensive.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Oh extremely do you think just because.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Of a commodation on site for the wedding. Okay, well,
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: your wedding costs no xyz amount, but then the accommodation
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: for per person, not just per room but per person
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: is you know, CD amount, and it costs even more
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: than you were expecting.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so, and then of course you want to pay
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: for your guests. But once you add that in, then
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: the most go was all towards your wedding budget basically,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: and then you have no money to put towards florals
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: or the dinner or whatever. So we were trying to
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: really find places that were small towns that we airbnbs
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: were close by. Everything was just close in proximity and
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: all that. So I think that's obviously a huge factor
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: is costs for our guests. But I'm like, again, really
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: shocked that we had fifty five people interested in coming.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: It's crazy, it's a crazy number.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: We were not expecting that, to be honest, we were
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: expecting maybe thirty five to forty. Based on our research
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: it said fifty percent of your guests will come to
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: your wedding, especially a destination wedding.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: I think we ended up closer to eighty percent.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Eighty percent. We invited seventy five people, and fifty five
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: people are coming to our wedding.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: It's oh, and I'm curious.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: I think it was eighty two sty No, we don't
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: need to do that. No, I'm talking about seventy five
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: people and fifty It was like eighty two to seventy.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: We invide seventy five people. I thought we invited sixty five.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, we invited more than sixty five.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: So I think that's another big con is just obviously
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: asking guests to pay a lot of money. But I
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: think let's talk about a pro in this. You're getting
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: a built in vacation. I think that was one thing
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: that really sold it for a lot of our guests,
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: whether it's you know, going to different parts of Italy
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: or if it's staying longer in the area that we're
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: getting married in, like make a trip out of it.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of people that have never
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: been to Italy or Europe that are coming and they're
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: so so excited. So it was almost like our wedding
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: was the perfect excuse for people to come to Europe
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: and just enjoy Italy. But I think this just made
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: it ten times more exciting because we've never traveled to
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: Europe with our friends. We're with a big group of
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: our friends. I think there's six see of our friends
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: actually coming, so it just feels like a big group
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: trip and being able to have our wedding at the
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: same time just makes it even more exciting and more
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: looking forward to doing that together. And a lot of
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: my friends are in their thirties, so I think this
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: is going to be a lot of people's last big
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: trip before people start to get pretty serious in you know,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: starting a family or getting a house or anything like that.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: So I don't know. I just think it was the
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: perfect timing to do this, and I don't think there's
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: ever gonna be another time where we can say we
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: all went to Europe together as a big group. So
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: I think it's just going to be a fun experience
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: to do together. I think another huge pro to doing
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: a destination wedding is just the views and the photos.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: Like I think, no matter what angle the photo is taken,
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: I think, no matter what, it's going to be insanely beautiful.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: And I think that's what really sold us on doing
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: a destination wedding, is that we knew that being in
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: one of the most beautiful places in the world, Like,
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: the photos are going to be so beautiful to look at,
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: and no matter, honestly, no matter what venue you went for,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: there was something beautiful about it, and I think in
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: the beginning it was hard to make a decision when
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: there were so many nice venues. However, the rules and
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: all that that we talked about earlier was kind of
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: what made us narrow our decision down to the right
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: one that fit us. So I think the pros are
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: definitely going to be the photos and video and just
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: the overall aesthetic of the wedding is going to be
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: beautiful because of the location that we picked and just
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: having like an epic backdrop I think.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: Is I don't know, not only are just great photos
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: for us and great videos for us and everything you do.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: But it's a great photo. The memories for our friends
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: who are going people are always going to look at
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: this like that was one of the most all that
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: wedding we went. Can you remember this wedding that we
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: went to was Italy? We went here, like, people are
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: going to talk with this for for a long time.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: I think, Yeah, yeah, I agree.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: Another big pro is how intimate the wedding is. Right,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: it's a smaller wedding where fifty five people or fifty
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: four people.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Or whatever it is. Yeah, everyone kind of knows each other, Like, yeah,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: the majority of people actually do.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Really. Yeah. A lot of the people have met each
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: other in passing or one of our an event. Kelley
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: and I've had something like that. So a lot of
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: people have they know each other a little bit. They hey,
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: how's it going, They have small talk. Yeah, there's nobody
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: coming to the wedding that are going to be coming
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: up to Kailey and I saying oh, it's so glad
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: to meet you. Oh what are you doing for work now?
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: Oh I haven't seen you since you were ten years old. Oh.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I freaking hate that when I go to weddings and
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I haven't seen you since
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: you were four, and I'm looking at them, I'm like,
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: I have no idea who you are, but so great
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Seeing you like that is not what we wanted. We
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: fully wanted a small, intimate wedding. If we both easily
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: could have had a wedding with over two hundred and
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: fifty people easily. Family's not huge.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: It's not that we're not appreciative that our family wants
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: to celebrate with us. It's that we didn't want to
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: be taken away from the day.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: Yes, it's exactly.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Yes, we are putting on an event for all of
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: our guests and all these people are here to celebrate us,
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: but we also want to be a part of it.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: We want to be there. We want to be involved
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: and participating and everything that's going on, whether it's you know,
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: dancing to the DJ or you know during the appartiefer,
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: being able to mingle with everyone a little bit in
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: a bigger group. We were not taking away to have
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: small side conversations.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I just think, yeah, it just made more sense to
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: do more intimate. And I think that's one thing that
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: a lot of people also talk about as well. That
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: is just something that they don't regret is doing a
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: smaller wedding, and we did a big engagement party. We
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: had almost one hundred people there and it was so
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: fun and we had a great time. However, it was
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: quite big, Like we were like, oh, we could have
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: done a bit smaller, you know what I mean, Like, yeah,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: could and.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: Then that's definitely we were taken away. We were talking
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: to you know, we're going to go talk to this
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: family or we're gonna talk to these people.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: We had a hard time connecting, Like we were like,
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: I haven't seen you all night. You're like, I know,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: I know, I'm trying to connect with our guests, but
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I also want to spend time with you. So I'm
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: hoping for the wedding, like we're going to be with
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: all of our guests for three to four days straight.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: So I think we'll be able to connect more on
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: the wedding, you and I because we've talked with everybody
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: throughout other events, right, So I really want the wedding
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: to be about him and I and for us to
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: really enjoy just being in this new era together of
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: husband and wife. And yeah, I think the last call
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: I would say would just be the language barrier. I
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: mean it hasn't been a huge issue for us. I
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: think there's only been two circumstances with our florists and
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: another vendor. I can't think of the vendor, but there's
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: been a little bit of difficulty with the language barrier,
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: just to make sure they understand what we're trying to
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: say and what we're trying to execute for the vision
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: of the wedding day. But other than that, our planners
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: speak great English. They're able to translate, which is great.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: But I think that's like, really it's very small con.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't say it's a big con, but like, if
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: you're thinking of that, like that's really the only thing.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: But other than that, I don't think it's a deal breaker.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: I think that has been managed well, yeah, it's been manageable.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: That's it's a con. It's definitely something you got to
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: you gotta consider consider. I don't want to say fight
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: with because we're I'm fighting with it, but it's there's
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: definitely a little bit of back and forth between you know, us,
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: the planners, the planners to whoever the vendor is going
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: back and forth and trying to get the messages relayed properly,
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: and even now we're a week out from the wedding
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: and there's still a little bit miscake for some of
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: the vendors are just slow. So it's not honestly the
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: language barriers, just you know, these vendors get busy, especially
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: at the time of the year, and the vendors get
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: busy and they can't answer emails, and our planners are
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: reaching out, but the vendors messaging us on Instagram or something,
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: and now there's just this big triangle of miscommunication going
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: on that no one really has an answer.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I think that's very relatable, though. I don't think that's
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: just us. I think there's a lot of brides out
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: there that are doing you know, last minute things a
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: few days before the wedding.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: Cake.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: I think that's just a conon wedding planning is just
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: the overall wedding stress because you think you're gonna feel
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: so prepared, like, Okay, we got everything nailed down and
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: all that, but there will be hiccups no matter what,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: and that's just kind of the reality. And you know,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I think we're doing a good job, just kind of
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: like going into the wedding knowing that and yeah, I
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: feel like we've done a really good job managing the
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: hiccups so far that we've gone through these past few weeks.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: And yeah, I'm just all I hope for is an
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: amazing day with Zach and to just really enjoy every
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: moment because the day goes by so fast, and I
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: just really want to have the best day and remember
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: this day for the rest of our lives and just yeah,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: truly have the best wedding day. All right, this is
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: the last thing we'll talk about, but let's talk about
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: things we expect after marriage, Like what do we think,
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: Like do we think anything's going to change? Like to
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: put in perspective, like, we've been together for almost twelve years,
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: so I feel like we've we've lived together together for
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: four and a half now, we've lived together for a
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: long time in our house.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: For we've been in our house two years.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Two and a half years, yeah, or two years in
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: a bit, sorry not yeah, two years.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, we've lived for two years.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: That's actually it's literally been exactly two years. What am
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: I saying? Zach and I have lived together for four years.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: Zach moved in into my parents' home in twenty twenty
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: during COVID, and that was kind of like the perfect
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: test to our relationship to see if we could live together,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: and that's when we decided to buy a house and
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: all that. So now I feel like we've definitely been
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: I feel like we I don't want to say I
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: feel like we're already married, but like because we've been
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: together for so long, I just feel like we both have,
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: you know, a big amount of trust for each other.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: We do have a very good, secure relationship, and I
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: think going into marriage, I think one thing that I'm
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: excited about is to feel that sense of security of
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: just like calling him my husband and him calling me
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: his wife. That be so weird. I feel like on
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: our honeymoon we're gonna be I think we need to
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: do a TikTok to him, just be like overly calling
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: everything like my husband my wife.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: It took forever to say, it's gonna take forever.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: No, I don't know. I feel like I feel like.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Wife might be easier to die.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: I feel like fiance is long I prefer husband.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I don't like it either. I'm actually very much excited.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: I'm very much excited to call you who my husband is. Well,
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: I wasn't going to call him my boyfriend when I'm
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: six or twenty five years old and like my by friend,
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: like it sounds so high school, like my partner, what
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: else what I've called you? I feel like partner is
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: the most professional term to use when you're still considered
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: a boyfriend and girlfriend, but like not you know what
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. I feel like you guys
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: get that. But I think it'll be really fun for
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: the first I think the first year honestly just be
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: like my husband my wife, like I don't know. I
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: think will be so giddy, and I'm very excited for
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: our honeymoon. I do think our mindset is also going
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: to change after the wedding. I think we're really going
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: to be talking about future goals. Like we've talked about
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: future goals obviously, but I think once we're married, I
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: think we're gonna be talking about like, Okay, what's next,
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Like what's our next big move? Is it, you know,
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: selling this house and buying a new one?
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: Is it?
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: Start thinking about having kids, like what is the plan?
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: And I think also when it comes to marriage, I
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: think a lot of it is going to be more
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: towards leaning together as a team, like we do that now.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: We're a very team, you know, yeah oriented, we both
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: really lean on each other, support each other. But I
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: feel like once we're married, like everything is gonna be
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: we like we we we for everything moving forward. It's
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: you and I, you know what I mean? Like, I
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: mean I still think we kind of do.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: We're there now, but I think it's more official. Yeah,
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: this can be more long term planning for Okay, how
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: do we how do we now execute this? Okay? Like
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: what like do we want family first? Then a house?
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Do we want a house to have a family grow into.
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: Well, then there's also things to talk about, like when
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: it comes to like finances, like okay, are we combining
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: our finances like that? There's that's a conversation I've seen
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: all over TikTok before too. It's like, okay, do you
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: keep separate bank accounts? Do you keep it together? Like
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: that's not something we but to personally share it. But
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying that, like that's a conversation that I
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: think people don't really think about to talk about when
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: it comes.
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: To Well, there's other things as well.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Like just like bigger responsibility.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Even even like for your work, what are you going
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: to do for your content. Are you gonna, We're gonna
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: do more couple of content? You back to more individualists
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: to content? What would I do family content? Yeah? What
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: are you gonna after the wedding? Like that's a big
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: step for you into the next project. Like, I'm pretty
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: invested into my job as well. Am I gonna have
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: to take a step back? Or am I gonna Or
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: before we get a family and you know, have kids,
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: do I go full bore into it to try and
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: try and get as far as I can before I
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: can't work dex show.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Or having five percent. I think that's important, especially when
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: it comes to each other's jobs. Like with my job,
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: obviously it's a lot of work, but it's very flexible
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: at the same time, because you know, if we decided
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: to start a family right after the wedding, let's say,
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: like I can be home, I can be able to
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: you know, film my content around being pregnant, around having
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: a kid, all that, which is very exciting. But also
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: at the same time, I think about Zach and you know,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: rushing into pregnancy or all that. It's like, does he
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: want to do that with his career? Does he want
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: to jump into that because obviously, like not going to
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: stop him from his career for obvious reasons, but like
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: we need to be able to balance you know, family
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: life as well, right, Like I want to be able
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: to have him at home at a decent time to
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: have dinner together. And you know what I mean, it's
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: those little things that you have to take into a
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: huge factor in sheer relationship. Is that it's going to
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: impact you if you're coming home at eight pm every
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: night and we have a kid and I'm putting him
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: to bed, giving a bath every night and all that,
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: and you're missing those moments, you know what I mean.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: So it's like that is a serious conversation I think
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: that happens when you're married, is talking about those changes
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: and those things that are about to happen. Like, I
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: don't know, that's so crazy you even to talk about
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: that crazy. I think it's I don't know if that's
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: just us because we've been together for so long and
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: it feels like time has not even passed, Like I
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: think about like, yes, high school seems so long ago,
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: but the same time, it doesn't because we've been together
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: for so long, you know what I mean. I know,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: but that's what I don't know if other people feel
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: that way where it's like, oh, my relationship feels so
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: long that like, I don't know, I feel like I
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: don't know if we'll ever be ready to say yeah,
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: I'm ready to get pregnant.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: Sometimes Sometimes sometimes when I'm at work, I still think
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: like I'm a first year apprentice and you're still in college. Yeah.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like I've got imposter syndrome
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: sometimes and I'm like, yeah, I shouldn't be, but I
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: think I shouldn't be, Like are you really like this
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: successful content creator? Am I really like? Am I really?
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: Am I really a foreman on one of the largest
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: jobs in the city, Like what's going on here?
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: I know it feels like I doesn't feel like we're adults,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: that's for sure, And I feel like that's very normal
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: in your twenties. I think it's just such a there's
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: so much that happens in your life from the age
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: of twenty one to the age of twenty eight, Like,
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: so much has changed in seven years. Think about that, Yeah,
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: so much has changed.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: Living home zero response seven years.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: It's really not that long, Like it's really not like
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: changing so much. It just I don't know, it blows
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: my mind But I do think going into marriage, they'll
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: definitely be a mindset shift, but I think in a
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: good and positive way. Like I think it's going to
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: be good to talk about the next steps and how
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: we're going to you know, approach it, how we're going
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: to navigate these changes and all that. But I think
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: all the changes will be good. And it's just something
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: that there's just so much.
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: I'm thinking about now that it's like where do you
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: want the next house to be? Do we want the
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: next house to be, you know, kind of a little
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: bit outside the suburbs. We want to write in the suburbs.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: We want to like a main road, kind of off
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: a main road. Do we want to like do you
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: want to close to the schools?
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, you have to talk about like, okay,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: schools for the kids, sports teams for the kids. Like
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: now it's all about like thinking about Okay, like we
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: obviously clearly want to start a family because we're talking
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: about kids so much here, but like you have to
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: think about those little don't want.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: To be driving, you know, when they're four or five
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: years old. You don't want to be driving thirty minutes
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: into the town in town.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: But that, which is fine, but for us, our preference
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: would be to be able to live.
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: Do you want to you want to be able to
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: drive thirty minutes in the town? Take them the hockey
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: practice or baseball practice or soccer practice. I'll throw soccer
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: in there for you.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: I think at the end of the day, we will
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: make the right decisions in our marriage and just yeah,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: learn to accept change and change together.
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: And I think the biggest thing is to continue to
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: have an open line of communication.
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: Which very very good at and we just need to
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: keep at that. And I think that just builds a
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: lot of trust in the relationship and just truly acting
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: like you're also best friends. I feel like that really
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: helps us out. Like obviously we're like more than friends,
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: but I feel like because we're so like close and
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: because we communicate so much with each other, it like
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: really creates that bond of like trust and relying on
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: each other for everything and being a team. Right again
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: with the team aspect, like we're best friends, Like that's
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: how it's just as well we're best friends. I think
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: the best friends. You're my best friend? Am I your
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: best friend?
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: I think that's all for this episode. I think We're
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: gonna save the rest for the next episode, which will
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: be spilling the tea on the wedding in This episode
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: will be uploaded on the wedding week. So this episode
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: will be uploaded this week and then part two will
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: be uploaded the following week. I'm bringing my laptop to
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: make sure that I get these episodes up, so Zach
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: will be on me to make sure that everything is
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: up on the exact time. So make sure to stay
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: tuned for the episode next week on Tuesday, because that
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: will be the official wedding details of everything that's happening
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: for our wedding. But I hope you guys enjoyed this episode.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: If you're new, definitely make sure to follow me the host, Kayley.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. You can see my
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: social media's link down below. You can also follow our
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: at the hawkrel Energy Podcast Instagram. It is also linked
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: down below. But thank you guys so much for listening.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: Thank you Zach for being on the podcast. You will
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: hear us in the next episode while we talk about
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: our wedding