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Relationships: The Way of Escape by Apostle Joshua Selman · Selah Media House

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  Growing up, I used to see our parents.
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  It was as if every week there was burial.
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  At a point I said, is it that you know everybody who dies or
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  is it that you know everybody who from dedication of a child
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  to burial to someone's wedding and all kinds of things.
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  You see people arguing over the clothes to wear and you are
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  wondering, is it everybody's matter?
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  That is your business. How foolish.
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  You see that when you grow, you find out that they were
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  scattering their seeds. The Bible says in the morning
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  sow your seeds, in the evening do not withhold.
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  You don't know whether this or that or both of them will yield
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  some of you. There is nobody's contact that
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  is worth sending. Happy birthday or God bless you.
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  How was the sermon tonight? It's none of your business and
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  even the one who reaches to you, you just say thanks, don't
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  disturb me. Busy, OK?
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  The day of adversity is coming. The day you send the person, he
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  will forward you a text you sent two years ago that he still has
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  in his phone. And you said this is the
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  harvest, enjoy it. You want to enjoy from the body
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  of Christ. You must first be a sower of
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  good things, a sower of good things, a sower by every
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  definition. A giver, a correct speaker, a
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  binder, a healer. You are the one who hears that
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  two people's heads have been joined together and you become
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  that insulation. No, no, no.
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  It shouldn't be this way. We be brethren.
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  Let's not fight. Are we together?
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  You have. You are noted for being a
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  peacemaker. What did the Bible say about the
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  peacemakers? It says blessed are the
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  peacemakers, for they shall inherit the earth.
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  There is an inheritance for peacemakers.
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  Hallelujah. When you find people left alone,
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  when things go bad in their lives, most times it's because
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  they did not sow that seed. You were never there for
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  anybody. Someone died.
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  You left them. You heard about it.
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  They were your neighbors next door.
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  You saw people coming from afar. You didn't even whisper.
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  Even if it's to write a letter, you left them.
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  And he says it's none of your your business.
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  And you see, time and chance happens to all.
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  So by this someone is receiving wisdom from God to receive from
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  the larger body of believers. You don't just bump into people
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  I have taught you endlessly in this house.
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  Please look up that relationships are investments.
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  See, Remember, it is fraud to want a return over investments
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  that you've not made. It's fraud.
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  So you cannot not be part of people's lives.
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  You're not part of their story of rising.
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  You've never brought a handkerchief to clean their
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  tears. You've not done anything.
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  And then you suddenly show up and you want a slice of your
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  time, a slice of your attention and you want to have the same
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  stake as those who invested in their lives.
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  It wouldn't happen that way. Sir, I'm, I'm honestly telling
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  you it don't happen that way, not even with God.
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  God loves everybody but He deals with us as per our level of
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  relationship. Is someone learning?
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  Yes, be that kind of person that when you are out of another
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  person's life or you are out of a circle, they will feel your
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  absence so much because of the level of contribution.
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  Are you getting what I'm saying now?
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  Yes, they can know to. They may not know your name, but
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  where is that smiling lady we always see during service?
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  Where is that happy gentleman? Where is that man with the well
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  cultured sun, always greeting people, always cautious?
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  If people cannot tie something to you that brings honor, that
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  lives their lives, that blesses them, I am telling you, in the
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  day of adversity you will be left alone.
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  Loneliness has an explanation, Isolation has an explanation.
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  Is someone learning now? Praise God.
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  You can't expect someone who is a lover of God, a giver, a
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  Walker, and all of those. Now I love.
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  I love everybody, and I try to do my best to be nice and kind.
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  But there are people whose impact in the Kingdom and even
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  to me is so significant. If for any reason something
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  happens to them, it's tears up an extra attention for me.
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  It's not bias. It's a seed that they sold.
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  Hallelujah. You don't just jump into
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  somebody and say today's my birthday, call me and wish me
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  happy birthday. Who do you think you are?
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  I'm happy that it's your birthday, but you just get up
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  and say they should call you as what?
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  It's it's not pride. I'm just telling you that life
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  is sea time and harvest. Did you hear what I said?
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  Sea time and harvest. One more time.
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  Sea time and harvest. It's like you go to a restaurant
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  and those who paid for food are waiting for their their food.
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  Then you suddenly jump and push everybody and stand in front and
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  say where's my own? And they say, where's your
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  receipt for payment? You say which payment I didn't
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  pay but I must eat. They call you a Nam robber.
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  They don't call you a a a guest who came to eat.
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  You didn't pay. Nobody paid for you and you are
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  trying to force your way. That's how many people force
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  their way through life. They just bump into church.
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  Are we together? You've not spoken well about
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  anyone. You've not found, you've not
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  brought joy to anyone. Your seed has not improved the
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  life of anyone. You've not bought a cup of water
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  to anyone and yet you want to be given dedicated attention.
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  No Sir, this is the world of men.
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  Don't embarrass yourself. No Sir, it doesn't work that
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  way. I've taught you that when a
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  politician travels from San Lagos to Abuja to celebrate the
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  birthday of a 2 year old child of his friend, is he that
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  passionate about the baby? A baby that cannot talk?
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  You see somebody who is busy with matters on his table, he
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  leaves them and comes and is playing with a toddler and the
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  baby is crying around, fooling around and everybody's still
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  enduring everything and laughing.
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  Let's be sensible enough to know that it was not about the baby.
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  He's registering his presence. Even if it is selfishly so, it's
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  still an investment. At least tomorrow the photos
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  will show that this one was here when you are appointing
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  positions. OK, this one, I see him play
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  with my child. I see that this one is an ally.
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  I OK you become chairman and then you jump out of nowhere and
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  say where is my share? They say it doesn't work that
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  way. It's only God who loves
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  unconditionally. Men don't love like that.
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  They look at your investments. I hope you are learning wisdom
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  to find a way out. Start investing now.
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  Don't wait until you find a special friend.
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  Be a good person. If you are good to only one
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  person, you are not a good man. You are just a selfish investor
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  looking for somebody to prey on. If you are genuinely good, you
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  scatter your seats abroad. Somebody can make up your mind
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  after service to say you know what, I will do this for two
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  months. I'm not putting you under
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  pressure. I will bring an extra boss and
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  on my way home anybody I can carry even though you do that
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  carefully because we live in a wicked world now.
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  People have overlaid people's kindness and kidnap them.
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  May God forbid it in Jesus name. Is someone getting what I'm
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  saying now? Yes, some of you want children
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  around you. You have never said you know
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  what buy 10 naira OK biscuit Ford.
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  OK, I agree you don't like the adult at least the children you
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  want to receive from the larger body of believers.
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  I am telling you, please listen to me.
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  Listen to me. Invest in people's lives.
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  Scatter your seeds abroad. When you see people rejoicing,
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  sow your seed in their joy. Are we together now?
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  You see someone crying? Sow the seed of compassion.
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  I may not know you, but I heard that you lost your mother.
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  I'm so sorry. So sorry about that.
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  Here is 1000 naira. This is too small.
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  But you may buy recharge card with it.
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  Just to follow up, please insist, they say.
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  Oh, no, no, no, no, no. Insist.
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  Drop it. There they note you and go back
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  and the woman is talking to her husband and say, I've been
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  watching this lady call her. We're looking for someone to
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  head one of our conglomerates. What did you study?
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  And the lady said, well, what is not what I can do.
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  Whatever it is that you want to give me, I can do it.
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  Are we learning? I can do it.
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  OK, come. You will manage this and all of
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  a sudden you will see a supposedly unqualified person in
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  one day. What she was owing in total will
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  be her first salary as they give it, and you're wondering she's
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  come out of that financial condition.
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  Because the way of escape depends on your association with
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  the larger body of believers who believes what I just said.
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  If you offend people, tell them. Sorry Ellie, the earlier the
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  cheaper. It will be more expensive if you
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  allow it to prolong. I'm sorry I shouted at you
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  during Prince and worship. Now that I possibly speaking,
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  you just reach out their hands and say you know what I mean.
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  No offense, it's just a passion to receive.
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  I came with troubles from my house.
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  Swallow your pride now before the person you are looking down
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  on. You will later find out that
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  where you applied for a job that's the owner of the company
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  and then you come and meet us and say Apostle, this is not
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  about binding and casting. The man is not a demon.
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  He's a human being who you have offended.
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  You go and make peace. I hope I'm not wasting your
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  time. So there is an intellectual
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  component to deliverance. I know most of us like the
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  prayer and the word part because it deals with God directly.
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  This is the part that deals with men.
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  You need to leverage on the larger body of believers.
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  If someone does something well, say thank you.
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  If people do something nice to you, say God bless you.
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  I've taught you this, you offend people.
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  Don't wait until the day you act like you're not aware.
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  Just say I'm sorry fast. I mean it sincerely.
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  They may act like they did not receive.
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  Don't worry, you have sown the seed.
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  Is someone learning the way of escape?
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  Let me tell you this, every time you find people who used to help
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  you start declining, tell me two keys that you will use to
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  recover yourself. I'll be disappointed if you've
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  forgotten because I've taught you in this house.
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  Key number 10, no key #2 gratitude.
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  Let's try it again. Key number one.
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  Key number 21, more time. Key number 10, no key #2
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  gratitude. Once you find out that
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  benevolence towards you is shrinking is a sign that number
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  one, either the person giving is not doing well and needs
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  encouragement, or you have done something foolish through the
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  process. So you quickly water down that
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  that impression by lavishing honor and lavishing gratitude.
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  Who is learning? Yes, gratitude is a Redeemer.
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  Honor is a Redeemer, I'm telling you.
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  Hello, my dear uncle. Good afternoon, Sir.
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  This is not one of those days. I'm asking for anything today so
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  they don't delete your text in advance because of the
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  foolishness of always begging and not saying thank you.
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  Listen, listen, Kononia, listen. This is coming from a thoughtful
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  believer saying thank you for what you've done to me, what
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  you've done to my parents, and the way you sponsored me, maybe
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  in school or accommodation or whatever.
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  I want to say thank you. I do not take your generosity
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  for granted. You didn't have to do this.
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  But now that you have done this, please accept my gratitude.
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  Even if you never help me again, I still remain grateful forever.
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  God bless you, Sir. And then you pray on it.
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  You see where prayer comes in. The man will receive it and the
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  Holy Ghost will tell the person why do you want to stop paying
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  the school fees of this child? Pay that person's school fees
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  till PhD and the person will call you and say because you
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  have done this, I will bless you and I will even start paying
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  your accommodation. Very simple things produce
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  supernatural results.