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- 1:56Speaker 3: This one is a little wild, so before getting into it,
- 2:00Speaker 3: there is someone who wrote in and wanted to share
- 2:03Speaker 3: that they recently had one of the same experiences as they've.
- 2:07Speaker 1: Heard on the pod.
- 2:08Speaker 3: Okay, I wanted to quickly read this real quick. It
- 2:11Speaker 3: says new fan, same experience. Hi, ladies, I'm a new fan,
- 2:15Speaker 3: so I started at the beginning and I'm slowly trying
- 2:18Speaker 3: to catch up. Love y'all and I love that y'all
- 2:21Speaker 3: make freaky feel normal, but unintended, I wanted to share
- 2:27Speaker 3: that you popped in my head during a recent sexual adventure.
- 2:30Speaker 3: I did anal the first time with the guy I've
- 2:33Speaker 3: been seeing for a few months. We gotta do other
- 2:36Speaker 3: stuff before and they got to earn anal. Well, this
- 2:42Speaker 3: freaky fucker was in my ass.
- 2:44Speaker 1: Not a freaky fucker, a freaky fucker. Well, this freaky
- 2:48Speaker 1: fucker was in my ass. And what did he ask? Oh?
- 2:52Speaker 3: Where am I right now? And Oh, I wanted me
- 2:57Speaker 3: to say that he was in fact in my Oh
- 3:02Speaker 3: I thought, bitch, it was sad loose that he couldn't
- 3:04Speaker 3: tell I about that. No, I think I shared this
- 3:08Speaker 3: about me like Nigga's love for you to just tell
- 3:11Speaker 3: them that.
- 3:12Speaker 1: You're in my ass, bitch, because that was funny. It's
- 3:15Speaker 1: not that it's loose, it's that like they like to
- 3:18Speaker 1: hear that.
- 3:18Speaker 3: Shit after hearing on the podcast that you had the
- 3:21Speaker 3: same experience I about died sending love from a good girl. Yeah, no,
- 3:28Speaker 3: I think that literally that happened with me in twenty
- 3:31Speaker 3: four to seven. But yeah, I've definitely shared that a
- 3:36Speaker 3: guy wanted me to let him know.
- 3:40Speaker 1: Which hole he was in because it was so dirty.
- 3:44Speaker 3: Not that it was dirty literally I know it was
- 3:46Speaker 3: my asshole, but no, just the fact that, yeah, Nigga,
- 3:49Speaker 3: your whole dick is in my ass.
- 3:51Speaker 1: You're in there, babe. Anyway.
- 3:56Speaker 3: This next one is quite funny, quite sad, and I
- 3:59Speaker 3: don't know to go with this one, but let's get
- 4:02Speaker 3: into it. The subject line is is this nigga selling Dick?
- 4:06Speaker 2: Hot bit y'all are funniest part with the subject line
- 4:10Speaker 2: blin what was last week block?
- 4:12Speaker 1: Her black No? Last week was black girl girl that
- 4:16Speaker 1: wants to threesome.
- 4:17Speaker 3: The other one the one before that, was spin the
- 4:20Speaker 3: block or back to being block?
- 4:23Speaker 1: But this this.
- 4:24Speaker 3: Girl is writing in to ask if we believe her
- 4:30Speaker 3: partner is selling dick.
- 4:32Speaker 1: So here we go.
- 4:34Speaker 3: Hey, we the Amandy, longtime fan, love y'all down to
- 4:38Speaker 3: make this short. I met this nigga at Soho Fine
- 4:42Speaker 3: Chocolate dress, good smell, good all that. He says he
- 4:46Speaker 3: works in insurance and wants to take me out by
- 4:49Speaker 3: flowers all of the good shit. We're texting, and he
- 4:53Speaker 3: asked to exchange instagrams, which we do now. He has
- 4:58Speaker 3: over six thousand followers and only follows about seven hundred
- 5:03Speaker 3: people and they are all nobody what.
- 5:09Speaker 1: I am a light skinned black, so.
- 5:11Speaker 3: Maybe he's a coloriss, but I'm also very much slim
- 5:16Speaker 3: thin and with the exception of Lebron James. He follows
- 5:20Speaker 3: mostly BBL big Pamela Anderson, titty type white bitches. Some
- 5:25Speaker 3: have only fans, some don't, and most of his followers
- 5:29Speaker 3: are the same type of girls. He claims to be
- 5:33Speaker 3: living between two states, with most of his quote unquote
- 5:37Speaker 3: insurance business in Phoenix, Arizona. Okay, says things like, oh,
- 5:43Speaker 3: I don't have the schedule.
- 5:45Speaker 1: I can stop working for a month if I wanted.
- 5:47Speaker 1: He was supposed to be.
- 5:48Speaker 3: In Arizona for another two weeks, and all of a sudden,
- 5:51Speaker 3: he says, he's coming back out of nowhere and this
- 5:54Speaker 3: could very much be business dealings above my pay grade.
- 5:58Speaker 1: But I don't know.
- 5:59Speaker 3: I'm suspicious that with this much money, this much freedom,
- 6:03Speaker 3: and what seems to be nothing but thick ass, half
- 6:06Speaker 3: dressed women on his Instagram, is this really just his type?
- 6:10Speaker 1: Is he selling dick or is there something else going on?
- 6:14Speaker 1: Thank you now? Well, just so you know.
- 6:18Speaker 3: In the email, she does also send screenshots of what
- 6:22Speaker 3: these girls all look like.
- 6:23Speaker 1: She sends like three pages.
- 6:25Speaker 3: Of white Bembo snow bunnies and yeah, they some of
- 6:30Speaker 3: them are only fans girls, some of them just look
- 6:33Speaker 3: like they could be only fans girls, but girl, it's
- 6:37Speaker 3: all he follows again outside of lebron Jack. I have
- 6:44Speaker 3: a thought, need too, I have a thought now could
- 6:48Speaker 3: he be selling dick? Yes, but another suspicion that I
- 6:53Speaker 3: would lean into because depending on how attractive he is,
- 6:57Speaker 3: knowing that he's in Phoenix, which is right next or
- 7:00Speaker 3: the Nevada.
- 7:03Speaker 1: Zoom, they he's.
- 7:04Speaker 3: A pimp, not gonna hold you. I actually when I
- 7:09Speaker 3: read this, I was like, that's maybe a pimp, especially
- 7:12Speaker 3: because that culture is very prevalent on the West Coast.
- 7:18Speaker 1: I would.
- 7:21Speaker 3: If you have his first and last name, bitch director,
- 7:26Speaker 3: see if that niggas on LinkedIn?
- 7:29Speaker 1: See if that nigga say like the police records.
- 7:32Speaker 3: You know, I would say LinkedIn if he's an insurance
- 7:35Speaker 3: and like it seems to be a corporate job and
- 7:38Speaker 3: niggas be fun and bitches on LinkedIn too, Like I
- 7:44Speaker 3: bitch is on LinkedIn, It's crazy, I would get true,
- 7:46Speaker 3: like even with my home. Yes, bro, that is like
- 7:49Speaker 3: the professional, like you know, riots for celebrities.
- 7:52Speaker 1: LinkedIn is for the professionals. Bitch the girl for a second.
- 7:57Speaker 2: I ain't never heard of a bitch meeting a nigga
- 7:58Speaker 2: on LinkedIn hitting me and.
- 8:03Speaker 3: Bitch, yes, they be calling it networking baby, No, like
- 8:10Speaker 3: you know what's crazy too. Even all of my friends
- 8:13Speaker 3: who end up meeting niggas on seeking arrangement, they may
- 8:16Speaker 3: not have an Instagram.
- 8:17Speaker 1: But them niggas got a LinkedIn.
- 8:19Speaker 2: It's now we're talking about two different things.
- 8:22Speaker 1: No, we're not. I'm talking about if there's job.
- 8:27Speaker 3: If niggas have a job, especially a corporate job of
- 8:30Speaker 3: some caliber, they would have a LinkedIn profile before an Instagram.
- 8:35Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, I agree with that.
- 8:37Speaker 2: The way you just said it is that that people
- 8:40Speaker 2: are meeting in a romantic way from.
- 8:42Speaker 3: Me that too, Yes, yes, bitch, you glad to tell
- 8:48Speaker 3: we just had this conversation on podcast. It wasn't with me, No,
- 8:53Speaker 3: I think it was with Killer. Actually I think it
- 8:55Speaker 3: was brought up maybe, but no, this is happening, like bro.
- 8:58Speaker 3: LinkedIn is where the professional people are.
- 9:01Speaker 1: Meeting each other. Yes, very much so.
- 9:06Speaker 2: Wait professional okay, okay.
- 9:14Speaker 3: So if he's telling you that he's an insurance get
- 9:17Speaker 3: his first and last name and see if he has
- 9:20Speaker 3: a LinkedIn, because at least as LinkedIn would have his education,
- 9:24Speaker 3: it would have his previous work experience. Something to let
- 9:28Speaker 3: you know that he really is even in that field
- 9:31Speaker 3: or has ever even had a job, or like Weezy said,
- 9:34Speaker 3: if you do have the first and last name, y'all know,
- 9:37Speaker 3: I found out my homegirl was dating a married nigga girl.
- 9:40Speaker 3: Spend the nine ninety nine and get your ass on
- 9:42Speaker 3: white pages. You can see where niggas live, their phone numbers,
- 9:45Speaker 3: their arrest records.
- 9:47Speaker 1: And I would say do that. But let's go back
- 9:54Speaker 1: to a few things.
- 9:55Speaker 2: Yes, he brought up this snow bunny thing, so you
- 9:57Speaker 2: think he's of him because basically saying he could be,
- 10:00Speaker 2: he's saying he's taking time off bla blah blah. Okay,
- 10:02Speaker 2: so that could be a red flag, right, or he
- 10:04Speaker 2: could take a month off if he wanted to.
- 10:06Speaker 3: It is a red flag for a guy with a
- 10:09Speaker 3: corporate job to say that.
- 10:11Speaker 1: Insurance isn't corporate.
- 10:13Speaker 3: Corporate though it's corporate, it's a nine to five or no, no, no,
- 10:17Speaker 3: no's not it's blue collar.
- 10:18Speaker 1: It can be white collar, yes it is. No, no, no,
- 10:20Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, insurance isn't. This can be.
- 10:24Speaker 3: It can be remote. It could be remote. But you
- 10:27Speaker 3: can't just take a month off.
- 10:28Speaker 1: And be good. Okay.
- 10:30Speaker 2: So one of my friends sells insurance. I didn't know
- 10:33Speaker 2: that they make so much money, but like, she'd be
- 10:35Speaker 2: bouncing around like a motherfucker too. It's one of those
- 10:38Speaker 2: like you gotta like scout it like B to B
- 10:40Speaker 2: type shit. So that's why that part is believable to me.
- 10:44Speaker 2: But the following white girls wouldn't make me think he's
- 10:46Speaker 2: selling dick or pimping more than it would make me
- 10:48Speaker 2: think like because he follows the same type of girls.
- 10:53Speaker 2: It's in his algorithm because you said it the same type, right, Okay,
- 10:56Speaker 2: I g batty white girls. Whatever, let's just say so
- 11:00Speaker 2: he has a type that he's interested in. It that
- 11:02Speaker 2: to me is actually the only alarming thing that ain't
- 11:05Speaker 2: the insurance thing. It ain't anything I I don't know
- 11:10Speaker 2: if I could date someone that had exclusively or ninety
- 11:13Speaker 2: percent of their dating history was white women.
- 11:17Speaker 1: I have a lot of strong.
- 11:19Speaker 2: Opinions about interracial dating, as you guys know if you
- 11:25Speaker 2: listen to this show. But for me, the strongest opinions
- 11:29Speaker 2: from in racial dating come from when someone makes that
- 11:31Speaker 2: a trend. There's a girl that gets very like or
- 11:35Speaker 2: that's very popular, the court side less girl. We just
- 11:38Speaker 2: saw her on Paul and AARs Pod talking about or
- 11:43Speaker 2: was a clip. Yeah, I only date black men. I
- 11:45Speaker 2: feel like it's weird. I feel weird. I feel like
- 11:48Speaker 2: it's fetishy.
- 11:49Speaker 1: I feel like.
- 11:52Speaker 2: I don't know even though I get it, Like there
- 11:54Speaker 2: are certain white people that cross over into certain spaces.
- 11:57Speaker 1: For example, Adam twenty two.
- 11:59Speaker 2: Right, if Adam was dating or married to a black
- 12:02Speaker 2: woman and doing this show, it would kind of almost
- 12:05Speaker 2: feel inauthentic as to this connection to hip hop.
- 12:08Speaker 1: Right, Oh, she gets me more blah blah blah blah.
- 12:10Speaker 2: Like I think some people align themselves with what they
- 12:13Speaker 2: want to be like or want to do.
- 12:15Speaker 3: Do you think just a man following that indicates.
- 12:18Speaker 2: That, yes, yes, why wouldn't he be following a mixture
- 12:24Speaker 2: of different types of women.
- 12:26Speaker 1: He's only following snow buddies. That's alarming. Okay, man only
- 12:32Speaker 1: following white women isn't alarming to you?
- 12:35Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, again, maybe if he's a pimpy black woman.
- 12:41Speaker 1: But the following, like.
- 12:43Speaker 3: Act think he's talking to her and they're like dating
- 12:47Speaker 3: or engaging to me, doesn't make me feel like he
- 12:50Speaker 3: only likes white women because he's clearly talking to her,
- 12:54Speaker 3: which is why the fact that if it bothers her,
- 12:56Speaker 3: I don't think she should talk to him, because she
- 12:58Speaker 3: clearly said maybe then he's a colorist. She brought it
- 13:01Speaker 3: up though she thought the thing. She brought it up
- 13:03Speaker 3: that maybe he's a colorist then, so it's not that
- 13:06Speaker 3: he's only exclusive to.
- 13:08Speaker 2: You will see some badass light skinned girls then, But
- 13:10Speaker 2: you don't, do you see?
- 13:12Speaker 1: I mean they're talking. I don't know.
- 13:14Speaker 3: I think that if you've already deep dove into.
- 13:20Speaker 1: His followers and now you're looking.
- 13:22Speaker 3: Into that, I think that there's other red flags that
- 13:26Speaker 3: you have. There's other red flags that you see, and
- 13:31Speaker 3: this is just something you are pointing out to make
- 13:37Speaker 3: everything else for sure, for sure, But Ei, there's other
- 13:40Speaker 3: red flags. You don't just say this man is following
- 13:43Speaker 3: nothing but white women.
- 13:44Speaker 1: Is he's selling dick?
- 13:46Speaker 3: Girl, you have other reasons why you think this nigga's
- 13:51Speaker 3: selling dick. By the way, I'm looking through the screenshots.
- 13:56Speaker 3: There are four here that are on this screenshot. By
- 14:02Speaker 3: the way, he's also following someone named Micah Jones, which
- 14:04Speaker 3: is a black man, and a nigga that's a doctor. So, bitch,
- 14:09Speaker 3: looking through your screenshots that you sent, these women are
- 14:13Speaker 3: all white snow bunnies. There's three other men that I've
- 14:15Speaker 3: seen other than Lebron James, and there are some that
- 14:18Speaker 3: look Latina. Now this is a screenshot, so I can't
- 14:21Speaker 3: click on each one, but yeah, they do look like.
- 14:25Speaker 1: Bimbo Wie. But they're also all not white.
- 14:29Speaker 3: So me looking at your own screenshots, babe, I think
- 14:33Speaker 3: you're looking too far in it. And I think there's
- 14:35Speaker 3: a little bit of insecurity here.
- 14:37Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, I don't think you have to
- 14:39Speaker 2: be insecure if you are trying to like gauge who
- 14:42Speaker 2: a man is following. I think wait when you if
- 14:46Speaker 2: you start dating a guy going through his followers is
- 14:49Speaker 2: a thing that doesn't think it makes you insecure.
- 14:52Speaker 1: I think you just are curious.
- 14:54Speaker 2: Why insecure is like, why are you angry and wanting
- 14:58Speaker 2: him to unswallow if you want him to unfollow models
- 15:02Speaker 2: or influencers, Like one of my homegirls doesn't like her
- 15:04Speaker 2: man following like only fans girls, And I think.
- 15:07Speaker 1: That's weird, but just it's very weird that it is
- 15:09Speaker 1: not weird. Who cares weird weird?
- 15:15Speaker 3: I couldn't imagine being someone who when I start talking
- 15:18Speaker 3: to someone that I'm going through who they're following on Instagram.
- 15:23Speaker 1: I don't think it's weird to look most times, Like I.
- 15:27Speaker 3: Mean, it's weird to look and then screenshot and then
- 15:29Speaker 3: write into a podcast. There's like, what are we talking about?
- 15:32Speaker 3: Like that's that's a little bit like there's other red flags.
- 15:35Speaker 3: There's no way you're just thinking this nigga selling dick
- 15:39Speaker 3: because of who he's following.
- 15:40Speaker 2: I think screenshotting the girls and sending them could be weird,
- 15:43Speaker 2: but I don't think looking is weird because it's also
- 15:45Speaker 2: things he means find out more about people all the
- 15:49Speaker 2: time through your own screenshots.
- 15:51Speaker 3: I just saw two other niggas and Latina bitch. I
- 15:56Speaker 3: will say I didn't see one black girl, but you
- 15:58Speaker 3: only sent three screenshots. But there were other people besides
- 16:01Speaker 3: goddamn Lebron and white girls.
- 16:03Speaker 1: So also six seven you're talking about, I don't even
- 16:11Speaker 1: know what that means. But here's the thing.
- 16:13Speaker 2: He just seems like someone you don't trust overall. That's
- 16:16Speaker 2: all this really seems like, right, Like the insurance thing
- 16:19Speaker 2: to me isn't crazy. I think you could ask someone
- 16:22Speaker 2: more about their work so you could feel like it's trustworthy,
- 16:25Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
- 16:25Speaker 1: But your.
- 16:29Speaker 2: Concerns to me, don't really match up with the follower part,
- 16:34Speaker 2: you know what I mean, because you were like, oh,
- 16:36Speaker 2: he was supposed to be somewhere, and then he's saying
- 16:39Speaker 2: he's coming back out of nowhere. It could be dealing
- 16:41Speaker 2: business dealings, but in reality he could just be with
- 16:45Speaker 2: another bitch.
- 16:46Speaker 1: He might be dating someone else. Why does that not
- 16:49Speaker 1: where our brains went to? To me? When a man
- 16:51Speaker 1: is unavailable and available and like it's a bitch.
- 16:54Speaker 3: Well, I think the reason why she thought he was
- 16:57Speaker 3: selling dick most is that a job doesn't seem to
- 17:01Speaker 3: be a job he really has, So I think she's
- 17:03Speaker 3: questioning his free time and the amount of money he has.
- 17:07Speaker 3: And then the women that he follows.
- 17:09Speaker 2: Now, the thing about her saying that as much he's
- 17:16Speaker 2: he's got a bunch of half naked women on his Instagram,
- 17:18Speaker 2: I just want to say, that's normal guy behavior to me,
- 17:22Speaker 2: like following hot girls.
- 17:24Speaker 1: So what now I was following all hot white girls. Okay,
- 17:26Speaker 1: I could see ni I follow hot hot girls.
- 17:30Speaker 2: Him following bad bitshes that are half naked, Like, so I.
- 17:35Speaker 1: Follow hot girls and a whole bunch of fine niggas.
- 17:38Speaker 2: Necessarily clock too much behavior until you spend a bit
- 17:41Speaker 2: of time together.
- 17:42Speaker 1: Right, that's the other thing.
- 17:44Speaker 2: Yeah, you met a nigga in person, and now you're
- 17:50Speaker 2: just having an Instagram chat and trying to meet up again,
- 17:52Speaker 2: like you haven't really had a date yet.
- 17:54Speaker 1: Like he may not be selling date. Girl.
- 17:58Speaker 3: Let me see if she got the dick. No, she
- 18:01Speaker 3: just said fine, chocolate dress, good, smell good. Yeah, girl,
- 18:04Speaker 3: you see if the dick is good before you think
- 18:07Speaker 3: he's selling it.
- 18:08Speaker 1: Goddamn, he got to look real good. You went through
- 18:11Speaker 1: the followers, bitch, been there, sister.
- 18:13Speaker 3: Let me see if I could see Now, I can't
- 18:16Speaker 3: see his name through these screenshots.
- 18:18Speaker 1: Because I want to see the nigga be tripping back.
- 18:20Speaker 3: I can just see who he's following. I'm gonna look
- 18:23Speaker 3: it up. I'm gona find a nigga. I am fuck that.
- 18:25Speaker 1: I'm gonna look anyways. Good luck.
- 18:30Speaker 3: Hopefully you just you know, have enough conversation with this
- 18:33Speaker 3: man to actually figure out what he's doing. And yeah, again,
- 18:40Speaker 3: good luck. But also I will say, even if you
- 18:44Speaker 3: are a light skinned black woman, the idea that you
- 18:48Speaker 3: could even question whether a man was colorist or not
- 18:52Speaker 3: is still be attracted to him. Girl, Come on, Yeah,
- 18:57Speaker 3: I know, come on, come on, let's not give these
- 19:00Speaker 3: niggas no fucking passes.
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