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#277 | How to Honor Your Baby And Ease Grief on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day While Still Hoping to Get Pregnant on Your Fertility Journey · Finally Get Pregnant Naturally: Holistic Fertility Support To Conceive Naturally and Stay Pregnant After Miscarriage

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  Katie: In this episode, you'll discover how to honor your baby and ease grief on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day
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  Welcome to the Finally Get Pregnant Naturally podcast, the podcast helping women identify the real reasons you haven't conceived or stayed pregnant so you and your partner can finally grow the family of your dreams.
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  I'm your host, Dr.
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  Katie Wood.
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  Let's dive in, shall we?
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  Katie: Today is October 15th, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
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  Katie: And if you have lost a baby, this episode is simply for you.
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  Katie: There's nothing to do here, nothing to fix, nothing to figure out, just a few quiet minutes to honor what you carry and to be reminded that you are not carrying alone If you have experienced a loss, I want
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  Katie: you to hear me say what the world so often does not.
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  Katie: Your baby was real However early, however brief, however much or little the world around you acknowledged it, their life mattered, and your love for them did not end when you had to say goodbye.
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  Katie: You are still their mother, and you always will be.
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  Katie: And I know that today you may be holding two things at once that feel impossible to hold together, the grief of the baby you lost and the hope for the baby you are still trying to bring earthside.
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  Katie: It can feel like holding onto hope is somehow a betrayal of your grief, or that letting yourself fully grieve means you're giving up on hope.
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  Katie: I want you to hear this.
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  Katie: You do not have to choose.
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  Katie: Grief and hope don't have to cancel each other out.
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  Katie: They can live in the same heart at the same time.
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  Katie: The love that you carry for your baby you lost and the love you already carry for the baby you long for are made of the same thing, and you're allowed to hold both.
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  Katie: So I just wanna share a way to honor them today.
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  Katie: Tonight at 7 o'clock in every time zone around the world, there is something called the Wave of Light.
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  Katie: People who have lost babies light a candle at 7 PM and keep it burning for one hour.
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  Katie: And because it happens in each time zone, the light moves around the earth in an unbroken wave.
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  Katie: So somewhere in the world, a candle is always lit for these babies.
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  Katie: If it feels right to you, light a candle tonight for your baby or for your babies.
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  Katie: You can say their name if they had one, or just simply hold them in your mind.
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  Katie: Even if you haven't experienced a loss, you can still do this.
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  Katie: Chances are you know someone who has.
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  Katie: You can sit in silence or speak to them or cry or do nothing but watch the flame.
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  Katie: There is no correct way to grieve and no correct way to remember.
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  Katie: Lighting the candle is a way of saying you existed, you are loved, and you are not forgotten.
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  Katie: And when you look at that frame, I want you to remember that all around the world tonight, there are other mothers lighting candles too.
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  Katie: You are part of something bigger, and you are not alone in this.
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  Katie: And if the grief feels especially heavy today, here's one small thing you can do right now wherever you are.
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  Katie: Place one hand over your heart and take one slow breath And instead of trying to push the grief away or talk yourself out of it, just let it be there.
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  Katie: Say to yourself gently, "This grief is love with nowhere to go, and it is allowed to be here."
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  Katie: You do not have to be strong today.
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  Katie: You do not have to be hopeful today.
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  Katie: You do not have to hold it together for anyone.
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  Katie: You are allowed to simply be a mother missing her baby or babies, and that is enough.
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  Katie: You are enough.
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  Katie: And whatever today holds for you, I am thinking of you, and I am honoring your baby right alongside you.
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  Katie: And if today feels heavy and you just need someone in your corner, my door is always open.
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  Katie: You can reach out to me anytime on Instagram, because sometimes you need someone to hold space and listen to your story, to pray for you, or to gently help point you toward what might support your fertility goals when
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  Katie: you're ready.
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  Katie: Whatever you need, I am here.
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  Katie: You do not have to walk this road alone.
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  Katie: My Instagram link is right in the show notes Your baby was real.
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  Katie: Your love did not end.
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  Katie: And you are allowed to hold grief and hope at the same time.
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  Katie: Light a candle tonight at 7:00 PM if it feels right.
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  Katie: Share this episode with someone you know who maybe has gone through loss and you think that this would be a breath of fresh air, maybe a sigh of relief for them, just to feel seen and like they're not
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  Katie: alone.
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  Katie: Share this episode with them.
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  Katie: And just know that you are not alone, today or any day.
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  Katie: I'm sending you so much love and a virtual hug.
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  Katie: Thank you so much for listening to today's episode.
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  Katie: I am hoping that you have a grounded and nourishing day for yourself, and I'll see you on our next episode, released every Tuesday and Thursday.
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