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Self-Presentation ... What is it · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Today, we're going to talk about self-presentation. Self-presentation is how
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  Speaker 1: we perceive ourselves, whether that be in front of others
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  Speaker 1: or when we're alone. The fascinating thing about people is
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  Speaker 1: how different our self-presentation can be. How we behave when
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  Speaker 1: we are alone can contrast to how we behave around others.
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  Speaker 1: Why do we behave differently? It's partially due to something
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  Speaker 1: called the comfort zone. While you might make your own
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  Speaker 1: decisions about what comfort zone means to you, Generally, our
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  Speaker 1: comfort zone is the state where we feel as though
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  Speaker 1: we can do whatever we want while not being criticized
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  Speaker 1: or dealing with anxiety. It can be divided into a
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  Speaker 1: zone of privacy or a zone of familiarity. In the
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  Speaker 1: zone of privacy, we feel alone and secure with no
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  Speaker 1: one to judge us or watch us. In the zone
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  Speaker 1: of familiarity, we feel secure and have a sense of
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  Speaker 1: comfort and trust with the people around us. In this zone,
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  Speaker 1: you don't necessarily feel shame or guilt if you do
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  Speaker 1: socially unacceptable things. Often, this zone is full of your
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  Speaker 1: friends and family who have come to accept you for
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  Speaker 1: who you are. Feelings such as embarrassment, anxiety, or shame
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  Speaker 1: come when you're, you guessed it, out of your comfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: These zones like to dictate how we present ourselves. Knowing
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  Speaker 1: which zone you're in is very important when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to physical interactions with another person. People are concerned with
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  Speaker 1: the impression they give to others. For example, even if
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  Speaker 1: a couple were to fight all the time in the
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  Speaker 1: private zone of their own home, they will most likely
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  Speaker 1: not do that in public. This way, it does not
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  Speaker 1: draw unwanted attention to them, and it gives a more
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  Speaker 1: positive impression. This is a form of self-presentation. Self-presentation is
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  Speaker 1: a set of methods and strategies we use selectively to
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  Speaker 1: apply in situations to shape and enhance or change our
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  Speaker 1: self-image to others. This can be conscious or unconscious. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: your personality can be accurate, but sometimes it can be misleading.
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  Speaker 1: We typically have two goals in mind when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to figuring out how to act, dress, and talk. Strategic
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  Speaker 1: self-presentation and self-verification. Strategic self-presentation is when you will manipulate
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  Speaker 1: how you perceive yourself to different people. Many people use
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  Speaker 1: this in order to gain sympathy or even approval from others.
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  Speaker 1: Edward E. Jones coined the term ingratiation, which means we
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  Speaker 1: behave a certain way to be liked or to satisfy
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  Speaker 1: a target audience. just so that we are able to
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  Speaker 1: get praise for our actions later on. Another self-presentation behavior
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  Speaker 1: most people do is self-promotion. This means that you will
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  Speaker 1: boost your rewards of your positive traits and disregard your
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  Speaker 1: failures and negatives. This is a common way people use
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  Speaker 1: self-presentation to their benefit in the job market. However, self-presentation
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  Speaker 1: can't be too in-your-face. When people want to be liked,
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  Speaker 1: they will talk highly about themselves, but if no one
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  Speaker 1: is acknowledging them, then that person might resort to degrading others.
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  Speaker 1: Self-presentation needs to have a tactic to keep it subtle
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  Speaker 1: or else people will think you are arrogant and self-absorbed.
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  Speaker 1: Self-verification is a little different. This means that we want
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  Speaker 1: people to perceive us how we perceive others. Psychologist William
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  Speaker 1: Swan says that we are passionate to prove to others
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  Speaker 1: how we behave. If society labels us one thing and
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  Speaker 1: we believe it, that proves to be an accurate description
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  Speaker 1: of our personality. But if society labels us as something
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  Speaker 1: negative or something that we might not think is true
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  Speaker 1: about our personality, we will go far lengths to prove
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  Speaker 1: it wrong. Most people do not want to know or
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  Speaker 1: learn about their flaws. They would rather reflect and learn
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  Speaker 1: from their positive ones. Even though we want to leave
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  Speaker 1: a good impression, we also want an accurate representation of
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  Speaker 1: our behavior and personality. There's nothing worse than being told
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  Speaker 1: we're something we're not, and there's nothing better than having
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  Speaker 1: people know us for who we really are. This is
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  Speaker 1: why we like to cherish those in our comfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: We don't need to worry about self-presentation or self-verification. Make
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