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How Do Narcissists Spy On You? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So how do narcissists spy on you?
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  How do they keep that ever, ever wondering, watching eye on you
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  even when they're not around? When a relationship has ended,
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  when it, when it's over, when they have discarded you, or when
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  you have broken up with them? How the hell did they go about
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  doing that? That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and I
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  give you an inside look at the mind of a narcissist and we're
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  going to hop right into it. Y'all narcissistic people?
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  Love. Love to spy on you.
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  One way they spy on you is with a telescope.
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  You see my telescope right here? That's one way they do it,
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  y'all. They use telescopes to spy on
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  you from long distances. They like a little.
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  Instead, they tell the new supply that they're looking at
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  the moon when they're really watching you.
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  They really watching their ex, right?
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  It's just like, oh, I'm not trust me, I'm not looking at my
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  ex. I'm looking at the.
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  I'm trying to see the dark side of the moon.
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  I'm trying to see. I'm trying to see if there's
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  actually life on the moon. Don't worry about me.
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  And they use this telescope. But no, no, seriously, a lot of
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  some of them might use a telescope.
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  Yeah. But seriously, I would say that
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  most narcissists in this space right here would actually use
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  different methods to spy on you when a relationship ends.
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  Now, I wrote down a few different ways.
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  We're going to go through them methodically.
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  Look, and if you're a narcissist watching this, do not use these
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  methods to spy on anybody. You sick bastard, Don't you
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  dare. Don't you dare.
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  The first thing I got down right here is how narcissist spies on
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  you is through family and friends.
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  Now, when I say family and friends, I'm not just talking
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  about their family and friends. I'm talking about your family
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  and friends as well. Like a lot of narcissists will
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  absolutely use your family and friends as a way to stay in your
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  life. They absolutely will.
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  This happens. They as a way to spy on you, as
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  a way to try to keep tabs on you.
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  They will use your family and friends as a way to stay
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  involved with you. And this happens to so many
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  people. It really does.
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  So many people like like your family and friends can end up
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  being flying monkeys for that narcissist or that toxic person,
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  right? Your family and friends can end
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  up like literally being a flying monkey bat.
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  I call them flying monkey bats for your narcissistic ex or your
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  current narcissistic partner. This is how they do it, y'all.
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  They will reach out to your family and friends under the
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  guise of worry. They'll they'll reach out to
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  your family and friends or their family and friends, anybody's
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  family and friends, right, and act like that word, Hey.
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  Hey, this is Lee. I know me, me and my ex are not.
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  Me and your family member are not together anymore, but they
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  don't pick up my phone calls anymore.
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  I haven't talked to them in a long time.
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  I just want to make sure that they're safe.
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  So can you give me their whereabouts please?
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  Name. Can you give me their address if
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  they're living under a different name, their new phone number,
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  their new e-mail address, just talking contact with them
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  because. I'm worried about him.
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  You want to make sure that they're safe.
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  Y'all y'all know that's how it goes?
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  I think a lot of people will get a test today right there.
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  Did y'all know exactly that's how it goes?
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  We deal with a narcissist right? Some of them will act like they
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  they worried about you and that's the reason why they
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  reached out to your family and friends.
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  They would just be like, well, I'm just worried about them.
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  So can you please just let them know I asked about them.
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  Can you please have them call me or just text me or e-mail me
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  just to let them know? This is just to let me know that
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  they're still alive. Please.
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  I don't ask for much. I'll never reach out to you
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  again. You you'll never hear from me
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  again, I swear. And then guess what happens.
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  If this works, they will keep doing it.
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  If this works, why? Look, that's your second
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  question right there. If it works, why would they stop
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  doing it? Well, damn it, Lee, you got a
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  point right there. If it does work, why would they
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  stop reaching out if it does work to get in contact with me?
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  You see? You see, it's crazy, ain't it?
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  It's literally the mind of a lot of narcissists.
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  How the minds of a lot of narcissists work.
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  If it works, if your family and friends or whoever, whoever's
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  family and friends it is, if this works to get you to reach
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  back out to them, they'll keep doing it over and over again.
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  It is not always going to be under the guise of worry about
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  you, right? They're not always going to be
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  worried about you. Sometimes they'll be under the
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  guise of just them, just it. Sometimes it would just
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  literally just be them just begging, acting like they're
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  hurting. I'm just.
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  Hurting. Please have them call me.
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  Please give me their new number. They can't be blocked
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  everywhere. Can I call them from your phone?
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  Can I use your? Phone to call my ex please they
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  can't be blocked everywhere please I'm hurting I'm in pay
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  I'm unlock myself. And it works.
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  It just does. Y'all, the next thing I have
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  down right here is they'll, they'll, they'll just pop about
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  your outside your job, y'all outside your job, outside your
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  house. This is what they do.
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  They will absolutely pop up outside the old fashioned look.
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  They, they spy or stalk the old fashioned way using their, they
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  will literally just pop up at your job, pop up at your house,
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  pop up everywhere just to mess with you.
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  They just will, they just to keep an eye on you.
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  Sometimes they don't even pop up at your job or your house.
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  Sometimes they'll just ride by. Sometimes they'll literally,
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  literally just do a ride by. They'll ride by your job or your
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  house just so you know that they're watching you and that
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  they got eyes on you and just they want, they want you to see
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  them. I have people who have Ring
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  doorbells and the narcissist knows that they have a Ring
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  doorbell they're just right by. So they'll pop up on it.
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  Just to let you know, hey, I'm not doing anything wrong.
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  I'm just driving by. I'm just, I'm just happy to be
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  on the side of town. Even though you live in a total
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  totally different town, even though you live 7 towns over.
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  I just happen to be on your side of town 7 towns over.
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  This happens. So sometimes they'll spy on you
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  the old fashioned way by just popping up and invading your
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  space. Them they're demanding some type
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  of access to you. This happens and I know I think
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  a lot of people can attest to this actually happening and them
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  having to deal with a an abusive manipulative narcissist that
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  acts this way. The third way that I have now
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  right here y'all is social media.
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  They will absolutely spiral you through social media.
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  They will use social media accounts, fake social media
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  accounts. They'll use covert social media
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  accounts just to just badger you and just beat you down until you
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  give in. Now a lot of people have
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  experienced this right here. Now, if you haven't experienced
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  the other ways, a lot of people the social media way is the
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  easiest way, right? A lot of people have experienced
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  the social media stalking, the social media just popping up on
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  you. The social media just eyes on
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  you. A lot of people have experienced
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  exactly this, right? A lot of people this has
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  happened to and a lot of people this will keep happening to.
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  Like if you have a private account and you keep, you keep
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  getting requests from just random pages, or sometimes they
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  want to be a random page. Sometimes your ex will just
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  create another page with their name in it so you know it's
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  them. Just just to let you know, they
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  know where you are just to mess with you, just to bother you.
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  A lot of them will absolutely do this right here.
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  They will do this just to bother you, just to let you know, hey,
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  look, I'm still here. Regardless if whether or not you
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  want me to be still here, I'm still here watching you.
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  I'm still on your social media accounts.
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  They'll get your look. They'll remember the family and
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  friends from the beginning. They'll get the family and
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  friends in on this as well. They'll get their family and
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  friends to help stalk, to help pursue, to help do whatever they
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  need to do as well. They'll reach out to the family
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  or friends. The fly.
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  I'm, I'm just say flying monkeys.
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  Y'all OK, tell the family and friends sound like I'm talking
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  about a T-Mobile plan or Verizon plan or whatever, right?
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  If any of y'all work for T-Mobile or Verizon, shoot me an
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  e-mail. I'm trying to switch over.
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  I got I got T-Mobile. I'm trying to switch over, but
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  e-mail me. Seriously, Y'all got a old
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  mental illness plan in the works.
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  Some data, some 5G. e-mail me info at info@mentalillness.net.
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  I must have got my e-mail address.
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  But yeah, they'll reach out to the fly monkeys and ask them to
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  ask them an update on your stuff.
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  Ask them an update to to peek at your stuff.
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  They will do this. They will absolutely do this,
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  y'all. They will absolutely keep an eye
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  on you, like through flight, like through this, through the
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  social media stuff. The next way right here, y'all,
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  if you have kids, if you have children, they will spy on you
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  through the kids. And I think a lot of people who
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  have children with a narcissist can attest to this right here
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  being true. I know a lot of y'all like damn
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  you Lee, you just hit the nail on the head because my
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  narcissist, the ex always is asking the kids about me.
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  Always asking the kids. Do I, have I had anybody else
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  over to the house always asking the kids?
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  Is there anybody that I need to worry about?
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  Or is mommy seeing someone else? Does Daddy have a girlfriend?
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  Does daddy have a boyfriend? Does mommy have a girlfriend?
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  You know me. Hey, whoever floats your boat
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  over here, right? We, we all inclusive.
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  I'm here. You'll see.
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  Sure. I'm here.
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  I'm here for all of y'all, regardless who you are.
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  I'm trying to help you out with our toxic relationship,
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  regardless of who you are, who you identify as, right?
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  But yeah, this is what goes on. So many people have dealt with
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  this right here. Like, they will spy on you
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  through the children. And this is a tough cookie
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  thing. It's a tough cookie thing.
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  This is tough to deal with as a parent because you like your
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  kids sometimes they're just very, very young and it's very
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  difficult to talk to them about this.
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  But as your kids get older, you can just straight up ask, tell
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  them like, look, you don't have to tell your mom or dad what
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  what's going on here. You're old enough to take care
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  of yourself. You're pretty much
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  self-sufficient. So telling them what's going on
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  here. If I have a, if I'm dating or
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  seeing somebody else, you don't feel, you don't feel have to
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  feel the need to do that. You don't have to feel pressured
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  to do that, you know, and of course the other parent, the
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  narcissist will just try to make them feel like they they do.
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  You need to tell me who over. I'm just trying to keep you
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  safe. I'm worried about my seed, my
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  seeds. Y'all need to tell me which, if
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  there's multiple kids, they'll try to put the kids against each
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  other. Whichever kid tells me if mommy
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  has a girlfriend or mommy has a boyfriend or daddy has a
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  girlfriend, whatever. Yeah, gets a cookie.
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  You get the narcissist love. Don't you want this?
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  Don't you want this love? Don't you want this love?
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  This is what goes on, y'all. This is what happens to so many
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  people right here. OK, the kids, they will
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  absolutely use the kids to spy on you.
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  So be very wary of that. Be very wary.
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  Like if y'all, the narcissist is just doing FaceTime calls,
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  they'll ask your child to walk around the house.
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  Can you show me? Can you give me a house tour?
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  Go look under mommy's bed. Oh my goodness.
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  Go look at mommy's closet. Please Go look in that ass car
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  and see if you see a hair tie in there or or some some, some some
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  long hair. It's not his.
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  OK. They'll do that type of stuff
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  right there. Yeah.
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  Is this the last way? Right here?
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  The last way. I have y'all.
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  I want to keep these videos short and sweet.
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  Is tracking devices. Absolutely.
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  They will use a tracking device to track your ass.
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  They will they will loot use tracking devices like if you
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  have a life 360 on your phone or turn or Find My iPhone or you
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  just sharing your location with them.
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  Make sure you stop sharing your location with them to let them
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  know exactly where you are, because this is what happens.
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  Like they would absolutely use this against you.
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  They will use you'll Find My iPhone tracking your stuff like
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  that to spy on you to know your whereabouts at all times.
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  But I'll also say this right here.
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  It can go above and beyond this right here.
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  Sometimes they get the really out, sometimes they'll get real
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  stalkerish, real spy like and start using buying stuff on
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  Amazon, using recording devices in your car.
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  Air tags. There's a new thing.
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  There's a new thing like a like a air tag, but it's called like
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  a chocolate tag. They'll use those.
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  They'll find some type of actual devices they'll put onto your
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  car or put on to put onto something to follow you as well.
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  So this happens too. So this is something that you
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  absolutely need to be prepared for as well because they, you
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  know, you can take your car to, there's some mechanics out here
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  who can do a sweep for tracking devices and spy technology and
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  stuff like that on your phones because you want to be safe and
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  you want to protect yourself, y'all?
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  Because narcissists will absolutely try to spy on you.
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  And sometimes, like look up the case of Ali Abu Laban.
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  It's a guy he's in jail for life right now.
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  He literally just he literally was cheating on his wife.
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  His wife decided to leave and it seemed like she was moving on or
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  whatever. This is what the case the court
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  says. Nobody knows they were you
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  actually moved on, but he put a an app on his daughter's iPad,
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  right? He put an app on his daughter's
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  iPad to monitor and like the discord as discord.
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  He put discord on her and he just opened the voice chat up to
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  his to himself and he just listened on it.
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  He left the iPad in her in their house in his ex's house, and he
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  heard his ex, his soon to be ex coming there with another guy
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  and he ran over there and shot them both because he was spying
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  on them. He used he used technology and
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  he used his daughter. You something that he used to
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  right there. That's scary as hell.
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  And he popped up That's three. So you had to be very, very
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  careful. I heard y'all.
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