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Late, Frazzled, Stressed And Scattered? How To Get Back In Control Of Your Time | Success | E539 · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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  Speaker 2: I got a little too close to dying, but it
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  Speaker 2: ended up helping me realize, oh my gosh, life is short,
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing it all wrong, and I went on a
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  Speaker 2: journey to figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: For many of us, managing our time can feel like
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  Speaker 1: such a struggle if you can relate to feeling like
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  Speaker 1: you have more stuff to do than time to do it.
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  Speaker 2: Prior to my journey, I was a dumpster fire of
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  Speaker 2: a human struggling to get anything done. And if I
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  Speaker 2: was getting things done, it was at my own detriment.
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  Speaker 1: But there are some strategies, mindsets, and maybe even ways
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  Speaker 1: of operating that can make all of this just a
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  Speaker 1: little bit easier.
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  Speaker 2: How do I balance life and work? And really that
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  Speaker 2: sort of brought me into well the resource we all
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  Speaker 2: have is time. The resource I'm really fighting with and
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  Speaker 2: wrestling with is time.
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  Speaker 1: So by the end of today's episode, I hope you
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  Speaker 1: feel calmer or in control and leave her some actionable
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  Speaker 1: ideas that you can put into practice starting now.
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  Speaker 2: How much will this one thing matter in ten minutes,
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  Speaker 2: how much will it matter in ten days, how much
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  Speaker 2: will it matter in ten years? And that's a really
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  Speaker 2: simple way to sort of reflect on your priorities.
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  Speaker 1: And if this is your first time tuning in, I
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  Speaker 1: am so so glad you're here with us today.
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  Speaker 3: I am your host, doctor Lisa Marie Bobby. My background.
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  Speaker 1: I am a psychologist, a marriage of family therapist. I
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  Speaker 1: am a board certified coach, and here every week with
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  Speaker 1: you to talk about your life, your internal experience, your relationships,
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  Speaker 1: even your career for the purpose of growing and making
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  Speaker 1: it all as strong and great as it can possibly be.
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  Speaker 1: And hey, if you are a therapist tuning into this show,
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  Speaker 1: But without further ado, let's talk about getting in control
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  Speaker 1: of our time and our lives with Samantha Lane. Samantha
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  Speaker 1: is the real deal, you guys. She is the founder
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  Speaker 1: of Origami Day. She is a ted X speaker. Her
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  Speaker 1: like broke the Internet. TEDx talk was called over are
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  Speaker 1: we over complicating time management? I think the answer is
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  Speaker 1: yes in my case. And she has been studying productivity
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  Speaker 1: and balance for the inside out for a long time,
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  Speaker 1: helping everybody to be more present and productive through simple
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  Speaker 1: time management.
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  Speaker 3: Samantha, we have so much to discuss, including my chaos.
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  Speaker 3: Can we just start there?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, we have so much to discuss, Yet we can
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  Speaker 2: start wherever you want. I think we should go ahead
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  Speaker 2: and set the expectation that there is so much we
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  Speaker 2: could talk about. We just won't get to the end
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  Speaker 2: of it today. Wait, so we'll at least start somewhere.
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  Speaker 1: We won't have all the time to do all the
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  Speaker 1: things that we want to, we.
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  Speaker 2: Will have the time to do a lot of the things.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you know what, I think we're already starting to
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  Speaker 1: circle in on the problem. What you know, I have
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  Speaker 1: to I have to share, Samantha. So like I love
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  Speaker 1: I love doing the show for so so many reasons,
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  Speaker 1: especially when I hear from people who listen to the
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  Speaker 1: show get in touch with me, doctor Lisa growingself dot com.
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  Speaker 1: But like, my very favorite thing is that I get
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  Speaker 1: to talk to really smart, well informed, authentic experts like yourself,
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  Speaker 1: and I get to learn new things that I could
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  Speaker 1: sometimes apply to my own life along with our friends
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  Speaker 1: here listening to us, and like I have to share my.
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  Speaker 3: Whole entire life.
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  Speaker 1: Time management has just always been one of those things
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  Speaker 1: for me. And so one of the reasons that I
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  Speaker 1: really resonated with your story I wanted to invite you
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  Speaker 1: on the show is that my perspective of you and
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  Speaker 1: your work is that you're not necessarily coming into this
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  Speaker 1: like just the genre of human who's like super organized
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  Speaker 1: in boxes and like some four dimensional color coded spreadsheet,
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  Speaker 1: that this whole thing actually started with you because you
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  Speaker 1: are one of us, the time challenged is.
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  Speaker 2: I love that you said it. I am one of you,
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  Speaker 2: one of the time challenge I love when people. Sometimes
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  Speaker 2: people be like, well, I mean you're just organized, You're
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  Speaker 2: just on top of it. I'm like, hold up the phone.
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  Speaker 2: I that is not how I began. I learned time
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  Speaker 2: management because I desperately needed time management because prior to,
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  Speaker 2: you know, my journey, I was a dumpster fire of
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  Speaker 2: a human struggling to get anything done. And if I
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  Speaker 2: was getting things done, it was at my own detriment.
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  Speaker 2: So I do always tell people, I'm like, listen, if
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  Speaker 2: I can do it, anyone can, like see, we're in that.
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  Speaker 1: That makes me trust you more honestly, because.
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  Speaker 2: You will know.
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  Speaker 1: And I mean I think there are just people in
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  Speaker 1: the world for whom the stuff comes very easily, right.
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  Speaker 1: You know, they remember things, They always put their stuff
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  Speaker 1: down in the same place, They follow a schedule without
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  Speaker 1: being like, oh, you know what I could do like.
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  Speaker 3: Going off the rails.
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  Speaker 1: So if it's okay, can you take us into this,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, let's do like a before and after, tell
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  Speaker 1: us more about what you'refe was like before you figured
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  Speaker 1: some of this stuff out.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, So, like many people, I sort of subscribed to
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  Speaker 2: this quote unquote American dream where I went to school
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  Speaker 2: and I got a job after college, jed. I was
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  Speaker 2: committed to you know, hustle equals happy. So I was
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  Speaker 2: working long days trying to climb that ladder and I
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  Speaker 2: did that for quite a while and then I had
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  Speaker 2: had to have my chest cut open. Yeah, when I
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  Speaker 2: was twenty nine years old, and it was a planned surgery.
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  Speaker 2: So people would say, oh, it was a hard thing, No,
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  Speaker 2: it was actually I had a chesswell deformity. I was
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  Speaker 2: diagnosed the doctors. I was medically seviely deformed, which is
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  Speaker 2: the distinction every young woman wants to be labeled with.
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  Speaker 2: But that was my situation myself.
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  Speaker 3: I want I want that T shirt like really.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, lumberstickers. So they said, you know, your your surnam
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  Speaker 2: is sitting on your heart and that's why you have
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  Speaker 2: breathing problems. That's why you have circulation problems, and if
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  Speaker 2: you don't have this corrected, you have a high risk
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  Speaker 2: of heart issues. So I did the research and they
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  Speaker 2: were right, and so I opted in. I agreed to
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  Speaker 2: undergo a five hour surgery where they cut me open
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  Speaker 2: and they put a metal bar in place, and they
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  Speaker 2: said the plan is to be you know, back at
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  Speaker 2: work within four weeks and better than ever but unfortunately,
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  Speaker 2: sometimes plans change, and I had a ton of complications
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  Speaker 2: and I got a little too close to dying. But
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  Speaker 2: it ended up helping me realize, oh my gosh, life
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  Speaker 2: is short, I'm doing it all wrong. And I went
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  Speaker 2: on a journey to figure it out, and what I
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  Speaker 2: found was time management.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing that story, and what an awful
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  Speaker 1: thing to have to go through. I'm sorry that that
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  Speaker 1: all happened. But what was it about that experience that
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  Speaker 1: made you of all the things go to time management
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  Speaker 1: is what I really need to focus on in this
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  Speaker 1: new chapter.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, so let's dig into that a little bit more so.
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  Speaker 2: I remember the day that I was readmitted to the
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  Speaker 2: hospital with staff in my chest and it took them
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  Speaker 2: well over an hour just to get an IV started.
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  Speaker 2: It turned out my body was shutting down. And I
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  Speaker 2: remember sitting in that hospital bed, those godly uncomfortable hospital beds,
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  Speaker 2: and thinking about how I didn't spend enough time with
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  Speaker 2: my mom, I didn't spend enough time with my grandma.
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  Speaker 2: I wish I had spent more times pausing to give
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  Speaker 2: my husband a kiss goodbye instead of rushing at the door.
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  Speaker 2: I just thought about all the things that I just
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  Speaker 2: thought I had to do in all the moments that
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  Speaker 2: I just skimmed past blue past, and it felt wrong.
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  Speaker 2: It felt like a massive, massive misstep. And so I
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  Speaker 2: had this moment and this is sort of what began
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  Speaker 2: my framework that I now teach was I realized, we
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  Speaker 2: have to know what's truly important with our time. Forget
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  Speaker 2: optimizing it, we have to know what's worth optimizing. So
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  Speaker 2: that sort of started this journey of like, I know
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  Speaker 2: what matters. I know what's important to me and my husband.
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  Speaker 2: At the time, I joke all the time I'm married
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  Speaker 2: for love. My husband was working as a firefighter, so
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  Speaker 2: I didn't have the option to just like stop working.
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  Speaker 2: I still had to contribute to our household. And so
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  Speaker 2: that's really what sort of made me realize, well, if
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  Speaker 2: I know what's important and I still have to work,
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  Speaker 2: where's the balance. And so it really began with this
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  Speaker 2: juggle that so many people have of how do I
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  Speaker 2: balance life and work? And really that sort of brought
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  Speaker 2: me into well, the resource we all have is time.
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  Speaker 2: The resource I'm really fighting with and wrestling with is time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, now that's a good point, because what I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna butcher this, I'm gonna do it anyway. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's Annie dul How we spend our days.
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  Speaker 2: How we spend each day is how we are spending
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  Speaker 2: our lives. Yeah, I learned listen to this. I love
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  Speaker 2: that you brought up that quote. After my surgery, when
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  Speaker 2: I was back at work trying to figure it out,
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  Speaker 2: I got to go to a time management workshop. My
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  Speaker 2: boss was like, who wants to go? And I was
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  Speaker 2: like me, let me go please. It's like I went
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  Speaker 2: to this time in net workshop and that was the
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  Speaker 2: third slide. This the guy who's just militating put up
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  Speaker 2: this quote, and I swear to you least I thought
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  Speaker 2: I was gonna follow my chair. I was like, oh
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  Speaker 2: my gosh, that's so true and how awesome do we
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  Speaker 2: skim past zation that what we're doing right now, it's
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  Speaker 2: not just you know, a means to an end. This
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  Speaker 2: is our life. We get to talk to each other today,
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  Speaker 2: we get to do this. This is life. This isn't
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  Speaker 2: a teston, this isn't a practice.
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  Speaker 1: This is yeah, this is this is not a dress rehearsal.
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  Speaker 1: This is actually it well and you know what, like
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  Speaker 1: as you're as you're saying this, like if I could
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  Speaker 1: just share like a personal thing here. So, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: have two kids, and my son, my love child, is
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  Speaker 1: gonna turn eighteen in a couple of months. And I've
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  Speaker 1: just been sitting with this recently, like how did this happen?
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  Speaker 3: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it was so recently that it is
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  Speaker 1: this little, tiny, you know, four year old and now
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  Speaker 1: he's this giant like teenager person, and and just thinking
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  Speaker 1: like and he does have one one year left at home,
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  Speaker 1: but like, oh my gosh, like he's gonna go and
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  Speaker 1: you know, just like that that Cuspand but it's been
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  Speaker 1: making me reflect like that, yeah, all the I mean,
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  Speaker 1: this is so awful, but like all the time I've
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  Speaker 1: spent doing other things and you know, all the stuff
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  Speaker 1: that feels more important in the moment, but like, did
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  Speaker 1: I spend enough time with my kid?
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  Speaker 3: I hope so.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that this it's so real for all
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  Speaker 1: of us, right, the things that are most important, But
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  Speaker 1: then there's this other reality. And this is the other
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  Speaker 1: thing that I'd love to hear you talk more about,
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  Speaker 1: is that, like there is a lot of other stuff,
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  Speaker 1: especially if you're working full time or running a business
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  Speaker 1: or trying to not have a you know, just like
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  Speaker 1: doing the laundry, you know, making sure there's food, like
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  Speaker 1: paying bills, Like it feels like all the stuff is
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  Speaker 1: just hours and hours of time and energy every week,
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  Speaker 1: and it's hard to do it all.
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  Speaker 2: It really is, And that's what that's really what caused
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  Speaker 2: me to start by saying what's important, not just in
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  Speaker 2: my wife. Oftentimes it's easy, like if someone imagined being
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  Speaker 2: in a hospital bed questioning if they were going to die,
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  Speaker 2: it would not be hard. To prioritize family and loved
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  Speaker 2: ones and experiences in life. That's not as hard because
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  Speaker 2: a lot of us are like, you know, we lose
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  Speaker 2: that on a day to day basis. But but if
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  Speaker 2: pushkin is shove and we had to stop and think about, like,
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  Speaker 2: what's what's most important? So many people say relationships. I
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  Speaker 2: do trainings every week with teams, and I say what's important,
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  Speaker 2: and everyone says family, life, faith, love, And it's like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: we know that. But then we step into an office
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  Speaker 2: or we open up our computer and suddenly it's so
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  Speaker 2: much harder to know what's important because every demand feels
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  Speaker 2: like it's the most important thing. And so this is
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  Speaker 2: where I started leaning into tools. There's so much when
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  Speaker 2: I went on this journey of figuring out time management.
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  Speaker 2: I probably read every book you could find. I listened
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  Speaker 2: to all the podcasts, I tried all the apps I would.
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  Speaker 2: I was like a lunatic in the aisles of Target
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  Speaker 2: and office Depo, looking at every planning tool, and I
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  Speaker 2: realized the issue is that we were chasing the wrong rabbit.
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  Speaker 2: We were going after the wrong thing. And so one
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  Speaker 2: of the things that I settled on over the years,
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  Speaker 2: and I think you'll appreciate this is what I call
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  Speaker 2: the formula for success. And this is something that is
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  Speaker 2: part of There's two things that I teach. I teach
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  Speaker 2: the success formula and I teach the three P framework.
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  Speaker 2: That's pretty much it. Everything I teach falls into one
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  Speaker 2: of those two things, because really, time management isn't always easy,
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  Speaker 2: but it doesn't have to be complicated. It really is simple.
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  Speaker 2: And there's a very huge difference between simple and easy.
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  Speaker 2: But the more simple we make it, the easier it
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  Speaker 2: can be. So I believe that our success in work
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  Speaker 2: and in life comes down to just two parts mindset
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  Speaker 2: plus habits. So I say this to say, for the
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  Speaker 2: people who have babies that are now big boys, those
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  Speaker 2: kids that are growing up and leaving the nest. We
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  Speaker 2: have to begin with the mindset. We have to understand
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  Speaker 2: we can't do everything. We can't do everything all the time,
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  Speaker 2: and our to do list will never end. So utilizing
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  Speaker 2: things like cognitive reframing, utilizing things like mental health, using
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  Speaker 2: things like goals and clarity, how do we get our
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  Speaker 2: mind in a place that we can actually then turn
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  Speaker 2: around and lean on some habits, some good tactical things
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  Speaker 2: like planning, like adjusting notifications on our devices. How can
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  Speaker 2: we do those more tactical things so that those two
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  Speaker 2: pieces work together. Because for a lot of the people
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  Speaker 2: that I help, they may be high achievers and so
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  Speaker 2: maybe their habits are really strong. They'll get this stuff done,
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  Speaker 2: but we kind of speak the mindset a little bit
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  Speaker 2: to keep them from burning out or having regret later.
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  Speaker 2: So I do feel that I owe this to you
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  Speaker 2: and hopefully everyone who's listening, because a client just reminded
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  Speaker 2: me of this tip that I shared with her earlier. Today.
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  Speaker 2: When you think about your son and your other child
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  Speaker 2: and just everyone in your life that you love, and
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  Speaker 2: every decision you're confronted with, there's this this tip I
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  Speaker 2: heard years ago of asking yourself how much will this
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  Speaker 2: one thing matter in ten minutes? How much will it
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  Speaker 2: matter in ten days? How much will it matter in
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  Speaker 2: ten years? And that's a really simple way to sort
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  Speaker 2: of reflect on your priorities. And there's a million tools
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  Speaker 2: that I could go into about reflecting on priorities. And
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  Speaker 2: I mean, this is the stuff at a geek out thought,
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  Speaker 2: which is why I say like, we definitely will never
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  Speaker 2: have enough time to cover time management, because if someone
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  Speaker 2: just press play let me talk about time management, I
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  Speaker 2: could probably go for a whole year.
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  Speaker 3: Oh this is so good. Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: You've shared so many different things that I want to
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  Speaker 1: go into more deeply.
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  Speaker 3: But I think the big idea that.
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  Speaker 1: You're saying is that you do have to make some
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  Speaker 1: choices because and this is the part that's hard for.
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  Speaker 3: Me, Samantha.
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  Speaker 1: I think that this is like what messes me up.
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  Speaker 1: And I wonder from your perspective if this is true
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  Speaker 1: for a lot of people that do struggle with time
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  Speaker 1: in is that.
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  Speaker 3: I want everything.
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  Speaker 1: I want to do everything, I want to get excited
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  Speaker 1: about all kinds of different things.
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  Speaker 3: I don't like having to choose.
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  Speaker 1: I want all the choices, and so I think that
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  Speaker 1: that puts me in a position where I not just
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  Speaker 1: try to do all the things, but actually believe that
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  Speaker 1: I could. And then you know, over and over again,
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  Speaker 1: do you think that that is one of the main
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  Speaker 1: mindset issues for people who are not great at time
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  Speaker 1: management is actually less about time, more about boundaries, boundaries
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  Speaker 1: with the self.
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  Speaker 2: Gosh, there's so much, so much in that Boundaries are
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  Speaker 2: an important part. So we've touched on this framework, but
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  Speaker 2: let's go ahead and name it real quick, if we again,
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  Speaker 2: the framework that I created, that I discovered, if you will,
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  Speaker 2: was given to me by the higher powers. I think
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  Speaker 2: it's prioritize, plan protect, and so obviously I touched on
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  Speaker 2: the importance of knowing what's important than the middle p
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  Speaker 2: being planned is sort of allocating time. I talk a
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  Speaker 2: lot in my work about time as a resources and
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: if we can sort of think about it like a
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: tangible resource like cups of flour or pennies and dollars,
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: that helps us to manage it a little bit differently.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: And then that third part protect, that's where we really
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: talk more about boundaries and saying no. And so I'm
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: going to give you one mindset shift. You know, I
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: mentioned again this mindset plus habits time is a limited resource.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: A lot of us think about it as an infinite
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: concept because time will go on one day, Lisa, you
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: and I will be gone and time will continue on,
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: and that's okay. But in our lifetime, we only have
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: a certain amount of days, we only have a certain
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: amount of hours. We have twenty four hours in a day,
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: one hundred and six eight hours in a week. So
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: if we start to shift our mind and think about
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: time a little more in that sense, it's a resource
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: to be allocated. It's very valuable resource to be allocated,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: because not only is it non renewable, we don't know
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: how much we get, so we really should treat it
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: like the most valuable resource we possess. And so for
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: that reason, when we say yes to something, by default
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: saying no to something else and so to me, that
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: empowered me a lot because I loved saying yes. That's
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: why I was such a frazzled messa. As I said yes,
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: say everything. I saw the potential in everything, and I
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: didn't think I was allowed to say no. But eventually
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: I realized I am saying no. I just wasn't choosing
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: what I was saying no to. I was saying no
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: to things accidentally by saying yes to other things. And
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: so really that choice that you touched on is so key,
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: It is so critical, and that's why I share a
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: lot of what I'm doing is empowering people. I'm educating
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: people on their realities of time. And then my hope
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: is to empower people to say. You know what, Lisa,
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: you are already saying no, So I would encourage you
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: to reframe that and then decide what do you want
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: to say yes to? And that should help you to
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: enforce those boundaries and say no to the other things
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: by starting with priorities, by starting with what's most important
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: to you. Knowing ext your time's finite, now it's a
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: little bit easier to say no to the other things.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just to expand, because I think that this is
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: really important. You know this idea that you're you're always
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: making choices, whether or not you're doing it intentionally. So,
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: but before you had your shift, I'm going to call it, right,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: exactly what was the take in your mind that you
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: were telling yourself or the way that you were thinking
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: about what you did that was creating problems for you
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: that maybe you didn't see that right because we're all
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: sort of swimming in our own broth, right, we don't
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: even know what we're thinking most of the time.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: But but after you shifted.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're right, I was swimming in my own broth.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: I couldn't have seen it when it happened. It took that, yeah,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: which is full disclosure. My surgery was twenty fourteen, and
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: I didn't really fully digest everything that happened and start
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: changing my ways. I mean, I kind of started right
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: away in that late summer fall twenty fourteen, but I
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: didn't really fully understand the magnitude of what I had
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: unearthed until almost two years later.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: Oh I believe Yeah, so that helps.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: So part of my goal is to compress time for
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: everyone else and not make you guys have to spend
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: two years figuring out what all this means. But that
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: hindsight really gave me this realization that I was going
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: through my life thinking I had no choice. I was
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: going through my life as a victim. My internal thought
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: was I can't I'm not allowed to. This isn't for me,
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: various versions of that. And what really helped me was
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: after my surgery, I was so emboldened because the perspective
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: had shifted so significantly that I was willing to I
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: don't want to say lose it all because that sounds
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: so dramatic, but there was a part of me that
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, so if I try this different
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: way of managing my time and I get fired, do
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: I care? Nope, Because I had so many days when
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: I woke up and Lisa. All I was trying to
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: do was not die. I was trying to keep my
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: meds down. I had this great morning routine where I
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: like eat a cup of yogurt and watch TV for
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: an hour just to mentally and physically get ready to
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: sit on the couch with my laptop and get some
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: work done before I eventually had to take a nap.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: And I think there's just a perspective that we don't
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: get as readily if we don't have one of those shakeups.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: And so that shakeup just put me in a position
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: where I was willing to say I'm going to give
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: it a try and if it doesn't work, I don't care,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: And that's a borderline crazy. So it was high risks.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: It was high risks that I was willing to just
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: say I'm just going for it. And the good news
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: was what I tried was rooted in research. I'd done
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: all the research. I wasn't just making crazy decisions that
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: weren't backed by how our brain works, what we know
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: about productivity, what we know about efficiency, what we know
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: about time. All of my choices were very rooted in knowledge.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: But also I was like, I'm just gonna do it,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: and if my boss doesn't like it, I'll figure it out.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: The good news was it actually worked tremendously. It made
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: me more successful. And my boss, the boss that I
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: worked for when I went through this whole or deal,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: was one of my first.
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: Customers for your time Management coaching when.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: I started this business. She was one of my first
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: big supporters. And my friend just like it works. I
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: saw it. I saw it work.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: That's incredible.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: So before there was this almost undercurrent, like a subconscious
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: core belief of I have to I can't say no,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: I need to rip. And then because of everything that
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: you went through, there was a shift into now I
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: don't yes, and then it felt a little bit scary
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: and you weren't being reckless, but it was like this
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: actually no and taking a chance. And then though realizing
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: that that whole paradigm wound up paradoxically making you much
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: more effective when it came to how you operated.
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: Absolutely absolutely I was. I shifted from a victim mentality
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: that I couldn't that this was, you know, that I
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: had no control over my life to a place where
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: I realized, no, I do have control. And if I'm
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: making smart decisions and I'm keeping my head up and
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: I'm focused on the right things, then I think these
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: are risks worth taking. And you know, I spent all
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: this time thinking and maybe you can relate to this.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: As I thought, if I could just get to this
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: place where I could be more productive, I would find
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: the bottom of my to do list. I would suddenly
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: run out of things that I had to do, and
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: then and only then could I rest, I could relax.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: I would I would have made it. But what I
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: realized was that's not real. That's not a real location,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: it's not a real goal. And it was in choosing
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: to just say, well, in the meantime, just in case,
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be more present in my life along
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: the way, it turns out that's what actually made me
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: more productive. And I realized that being present is a
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: great productivity hack being president in life, being present in
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: our work, showing up like letting our brain and our
• 25:02
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• 25:03
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• 28:07
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• 28:21
  Speaker 1: talking about your own transformation where you realized, after many
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: life experiences and things that changed you, that previously, when
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: you were not managing time, well, there was a subconscious
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: victim mentality to use your words, where you felt like
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: you had to do all this stuff that when you
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: had this awakening, you realized now I don't, and I
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: think that that was that was very empowering for you.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: And I think that many people who struggle with time
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: probably do have a similar internal belief system, and so
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I hope that everybody there feels very validated. Now, can
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: you also, just for a moment before we move on
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: to strategies, speak to people on the other side of
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: that spectrum That would be somebody like me, which is
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: I don't feel even a little bit victimized. And I
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: think the problem is that I and I think people
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: with adhd I think tend to be this way is
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: really like overconfident in my ability to do a lot
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: of stuff, and also that I want to like it's no,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: I really do actually want all of the dessert choices
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: on the buffet, and so I put ten little desserts
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: on my plate, and the reality is that I can
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: eat about eight bites of any dessert and then I'm like, eh,
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: too much sugar. But I'm going to take all that
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: dessert anyway. And so it's like the thought of doing
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: otherwise it doesn't feel empowering. It sort of feels like, oh,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: I don't get to do everything I want, So it's
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: like and and then combine that with a little bit
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: of impulse control problems and we're like, oh, that looks interesting,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: let's do that instead, right, Like, how how does your
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: system speak to that experience where it's not, you know,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: being made to do something, it's like, no, I really
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: want to try.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that, And I think you you know
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: this as much as I do. We are all different.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: We are all created in our unique ways, with different
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: brains or wired in different ways and different habits that
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: feel more natural. There are different things that we all
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: live with There is a phrase called time blindness, so
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: there are certainly things that yeah, that's that's a whole thing.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: So I and I am so thankful that in my
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: journey I have I have not been labeled as a
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: overly rigid you have to qualify to even work with
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: me or my systems or my friend works. As you mentioned,
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: I am one of you, one of us, like and
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: I think that's because that I've gotten the ability to
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: work over the years with large amounts of people who
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: deal with things like ADHD or define themselves as creative types,
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: or say, you know, I don't want that restricted state.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: I want to have freedom. Like I love when I
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: work with the creatives and they're like, well, I can't
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: manage my time because then I can't create. I'm like, no,
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: it turns out you can. You can manage them and create.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: And for me, the easiest way to answer this question
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: is to say, what if you think about it like
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: a spectrum, because this is how I really think so
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: much of life is. So we have let's just use
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: the example of like the worst foods for us and
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: the healthiest foos for us. You know, there's so many
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: different foods in between, and The goal maybe isn't to
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: only eat the healthiest foods or to only stay away
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: from the worst foods. It's to just figure out where
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: are you on the spectrum. I think mental health is
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: this spectrum. Here I am on my worst, here I
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: am at my best, and like, how do I stay
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: as frequently as I can on the positive side, the
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: healthy side of that spectrum for me? And what does
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: that look like? And I know for me at least,
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: I'm going to bounce up and down that spectrum multiple
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: times throughout a day, a month, a year. Because mental
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: health isn't a black and white thing. So time is
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: like that. It's not a black and white thing. So
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: you think about on one end of the spectrum, you
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: have your most rigid plans, We're planning down to the
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: fifteen seconds. And then on the other side, you have
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: no plan at all. You just blow with the wind
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: and you hope things work out. My goal for everyone
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: is to find their place on the spectrum, you know,
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: find your happy place and know that in different seasons
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: of life will be in different places on that spectrum.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: There is no magic bullet for time management. I looked
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: for it, but I think the other piece of that
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: out though, is I have found some very real truths
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: and realities about time. So if we can if we
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: think about time as this, where are we comfortable and
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: also embrace some of the truths about time. So one
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: of the realities that I've already touched on is that
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: our time is a finite resource. So I think that
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: goes into that mindset. Peace is accepting that, you know,
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: like your dessert analogy, we may not be able to
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: do every single thing. A really tough lesson that I
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: have accepted in my life is that I will die
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: before I read every single book. And that's sad, but
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: that's okay. What two in the meantime is keep drying.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Oh see, is however many I can read before I go.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: But it's accepting that reality. Let me give you another example.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: One of the things that really hit me after my surgery.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: I loved working out, and I had a friend who
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: loved working out at like five o'clock in the morning,
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: and she would always be like, come with me to
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: the gym, and I would set my alarm and then
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: I would hit snooze and snooze and snooze until the
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: very last minute. And I eventually accepted the reality, which
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: was I am not someone who works out at five
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning. And so then instead of hitting
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: that snooze button, I just said, you know what, it's
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: not for me, love you, supporting you from here, and
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: I continue to work out at six o'clock at night.
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: And so it was in that reality of not hitting
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: snooze and hoping I would suddenly wake up a different
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: version of me, but accept who I really was and
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: say it's okay for me to never be a five
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: am workout person. And maybe it's a silly story, but
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: that helped me to sort of accept a reality of time,
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: accept a reality of how I was going to show
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: up and manage my time. So to take it full
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: circle to your point of like, you know, you want
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: to say yes to all the things you want to
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: have freedom, there's probably, you know, some neurodivergent components we
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: want to keep in mind. All that is great, where
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: are you on the spectrum. Let's be real with you.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: What is going to set Lisa up for success? And
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: let's embrace that and not try to make you a
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: version of you that you aren't.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you for saying that, Allah, because I think
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: when I've certainly, you know, read time manager books and apps,
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: but but that's always sort of one of the things
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: is like you really should be different in like some
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: fundamental ways that it's just it's never going to work
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: for me. And so I think that's also probably why
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: I've continued to struggle so well.
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: So that take us into the shift. So you're saying
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: that some of the big pieces.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: That I'm hearing so far and that I'm imagining that
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: are a big part of your your model and your
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: way of thinking about this is that first there does
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: need to be a acceptance of the fact that we
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: cannot read all the books ever written in the history
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: of the world, we cannot eat all the dessert, we
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: do not have all the time as a finite resource,
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: that we do need to make choices, that these choices
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: should be based on the things that are actually important
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: to us, and they should be intentional choices. And I'm
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: also hearing that in your system there's a maybe this
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: idea of balance that is that one of the other.
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: Tenants absolutely and I have think a lot. Someone used
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: a phrasing with me early on of it's less balance,
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: that's more blend. And I really like that because balance
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: sort of implies to me an equal librium of equal pieces,
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: and it's not that black and white as we talked about.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: It's a little bit of that spectrum. So you know,
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: if we've got let's go back to that spectrum, because
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: a lot of spectrums. If on one end we've got
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: work and one end we've got life, we're bopping up
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: and down that spectrum all day long, and so all week,
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: all every year, there's always going to be seasons where
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: life needs more and then work needs more. And I
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: think again accepting that and saying that's okay, Like this,
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: I'm just gonna embrace what's real, what's what's happening, is
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: what's happening, and I'm going to find a way to
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: then survive and thrive within that. So that's absolutely part
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: of it. And I think too, this is why a
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: lot of the things that I teach people, even within
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: the planning tools that I created and the three P
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: framework that I teach, it's all really tactical, really tangible,
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: while also giving space for people to embrace it in
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: a way that's in alignment with you. And I think too,
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: so much of the way I approach time management is
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: rooted in human behavior. When I went into the Internet
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: whole and all the books about time management, I did
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: not skip the part about the human brain. I did
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: not skip the parts about how we're wired. I found
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: that to be the most empowering and illuminating part, because
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: why would we fight against ourselves? Why wouldn't we just
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: embrace how we really are? And I think it was
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: in that journey that I realized, wait a minute, I
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: can decide what's important. Here's some frameworks that help me.
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: I can make a plan to allocate this resource that's helpful,
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: and I can then protect that plan in a way
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: that's in alignment with me. And understanding those realities just
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: it made all the difference in the world. And you know,
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: we could definitely talk strategy, and there's recommendations that I
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: have for people. There's things that I say common things
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: that work with the masses, or best practices. We can
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: definitely talk about all of that. Yeah, and also take
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: everything I say and run it through the Lisa filter.
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: Everyone should run it through their own filter.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: Well, okay, so let's start cracking into this a little bit,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: a little bit more deeply. I mean, okay, so hypothetically,
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: I'm your time management, personal productivity coaching client, and I
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: arrived to our first meeting at your office ten minutes
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: late with wet hair. You know, I've lost my phone
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: somewhere between my card and anyways, Like, where where would
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: you start? With somebody like me, like us the rest
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: of our imaginary friends standing.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: Behind me right now, being like, yeah, where do we start?
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: Like how do you even beget to get this dialed?
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: Well?
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: And that's a little tougher because what I would probably
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: start with, honestly, is asking you more questions because you
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: may have shown up to our imaginary session with wet
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: hair and you've lost your phone, but you still showed up.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: I did, That's right, I maybe five minutes late, not
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: ten minutes late.
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So share it with understanding what's working first, and
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: we're gonna build off of successes, because everything I've learned
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: in the coaching space is let's build off of what's
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: already working. I'm not gonna throw it all away and
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: scrap everything. We're gonna start with what works, and then
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: we're going to understand what's not working. Because what I
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: have also learned is people love solving problems, and you
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: don't need me to tell you what to do. You
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: I need you to tell me what's not working, and
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: then I help you understand how to address that piece. Now,
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: as I mentioned, typically everything that I see with my clients,
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: whether it's individuals or teams or you know, business owners, pastors,
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: anyone in between, what I see most frequently is there
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: is some component of the success formula. There's a mindset
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: piece we have to address, or there's habits that we
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: need to tweak. And then also it comes down to
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: some version of we need to prioritize a little bit differently.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: We need to learn some planning strategies and tactics, and
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: we need to understand and how to protect our plans
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: and our ability to execute them, which touches a little
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: bit into self care and maintaining a position as an
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: asset versus slipping into a liability type state.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So then starting with the strengths and taking
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: a look at what's working, and then so the next
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: place that you try to take people is to is
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: to what Because there's a multi dimensional system there. So like,
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: after we get clear on strengths, what would you recommend
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: next as being something that maybe somebody could start doing
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: or thinking about to apply some of these ideas.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: Nine times out of ten, everyone starts with the same
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: first step. And it was a step that changed my life.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: And it is taking time once a week to make
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: a plan for the next seven days. And I created
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: planning tools. When I in lieu of ones that worked,
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: I created my own. And the signature thing that I
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: created is a folding weekly planning sheet. Hence the name
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: org on Me day. Org on me as the word
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: the Japanese were for folding paper. I grew up in
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: a Japanese American home, so it just seemed again divinely given.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: So what I encourage people is to take this piece
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: of paper and we can give everyone a link. Actually
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: if anyone was a free oh yeah.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: Dot com freeweekly sheet dot com. Wait, let's all do
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: this together right now. Because I saw this, you, you
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: and I have the opportunity to connect live and I
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: think I said something. I was like, hey, Samantha, we
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: should do a podcast together. And you like pulled out
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: this this tiny little sheet of paper and you were like,
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: I thought it, yeah, there's a right, And I was like,
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: wait a minute, how is it possible that you keep
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: all your stuff on that one little sheet of paper.
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: So okay, so free weekly what was it?
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: Weekly sheet?
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: Okay, all right, let's all do this together, you guys.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: And so actually, you know what, here's another perfect opportunity.
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: Let's take a very short break while we all go
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: to freeweekly sheet dot com to obtain our free weekly sheet,
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: and then we'll reconnect with Samantha and on the other
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: side of the break, you're gonna show us all what
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: to do with us.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: Okay, we're back with Samantha Lane of ted X, speaker
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: of We're over Complicating Time Management and founder of Origami
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: Day and Samantha, just before the break, we talked about
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: this really nifty tool that you use.
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: Your weekly sheet.
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: Over the break, I went out and I printed my
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: weekly sheet from say the url again.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: Just freeweekly sheet dot com.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: Okay, simple enough, And so then talk us through like
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: how you use this, but also like you know, not
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: not just what we put on the paper, but how
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: does this tie in to the system that you teach?
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: Yes, so okay, we so much. Well you gover, let's
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: stick to the high points here, Okay, so we remember
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: more when we write it down and we accomplish more
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: when we cross it off, and we live in a
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: world of hyperconnectivity, which has its blessings and it also
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: has its difficulties. So what I've found after my surgery
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: was I had this clarity of what was important. I
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: started to understand how to discern what was important in
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: my life and in my work. But I still understood
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: that there was a scheduling component that I needed to
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: better master because again the realities of time, it is
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: a finite resource, and I have not figured out how
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: to make more time. So what I learned was I
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: needed to figure out how to be more effective and
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: efficient with the time that I had in order to
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: accomplish what was taking me forty five and fifty hours
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: a week at work. I wanted to get that down
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: to forty hours so that I could create a surplus
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: of time, or at least not work more than I
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: needed to. So what that created in me was this
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: drive of maximizing the time that I had and figuring
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: out how to essentially get ten hours of work done
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: in eight hours. And so what I found in that
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: was planning. So then I started taking time once a week.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: For me, it was Friday and there's a lot of
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: reasons why I love Friday, but the goal was pick
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: one day a week create a positive environment for me.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: I'd go into my office, I'd turn on fun music,
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: I'd pour my cup of coffee, and I would fill
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: out this piece of paper. And we can talk about
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: the three steps of filling out that piece of paper
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: in a moment. But what would happen is I mapped
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: out my week and then I was able to then
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: go through. I'd go into my weekend feeling good. I
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: closed the mental loops. So the reason I like Fridays
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: is because it gives us an opportunity for those of
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: us who work Monday through Friday to sit down and
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: sort of book end our week, to close loops mentally
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: to anything we said we were going to do, let's
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: follow up and do it. Let's kind of like get
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: the ducks in a row to go into the weekend
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: in a place where we could mentally rest. Because what
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: I realized is I wasn't ever resting my brain, and
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: so it was creating drag. If you think about apps
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: on a phone, and if you leave those apps open
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: all the time, it's going to drain your battery. That's
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: what happens to our brain sometimes when we don't close
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: these loops. Again, I'm talking to someone who understands human
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: behavior and how we work, but this is what's happening
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: in our brains. And so what I realized is I
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: needed to take that time on Friday to close the
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: mental loops. And so that's part of what that weekly
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: planning practice did for me. What it also did for
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: me was it gave me a roadmap for Monday morning,
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: so Sunday, instead of having the crushing Sunday scaries that
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: I had all the time, I started having a full
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: weekend where I could actually enjoy my life. You know,
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: you know it's Funday scaries, right, Like I imagine your
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: listeners know, but maybe we should ye find it.
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, people definitely experienced dread on Sunday night. But
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: you know what's appealing to me though, with what you're saying,
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: is like just this idea that closing the loop on Friday,
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: like you will have more fun on your weekend. It
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: just like even just shut some taps on the cognitive load.
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was, it was it was liberating. I
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: feel like I started leaving my office on Friday like
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: twenty pounds flighter. It was like because I started taking
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: all the things scrolling around my brain and I put
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: them onto this piece of paper, and then it was
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: the Then there was a surprise benefit of waking up
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: Sunday morning and not having crushing anxiety. And then Monday morning,
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: all I had to do was look at what my
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: piece of paper told me to do, and that was
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: That was like the beginning of the beauty of this.
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: But then the other part that's great is you just
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: have a simple list and all you have to do
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: is instead of stopping and thinking every time you complete
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: a task or leave a meeting, you just follow your plan,
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: you know. So it's almost like you predecide, you preload
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: your week. And of course you know, plans change, and
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: that's why God made racers. But but we have it's
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: better to shift a plan than having a plan at all.
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: And so so the I can't speak enough about the
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: power of what this weekly practice can do for people.
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: If everyone wants to ignore everything else we've talked about,
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: they're welcome to do that kinda and should not ignore
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: this taking time once a week to map out your
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: your life on this simple eight and half by eleven
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: piece of paper is life changing life.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: Gee okay, okay, let's change my life, Samantha.
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: So what would you what do you do when you
• 47:45
  Speaker 3: fold it to first?
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: You leave it first, you leave it to plan. So
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: and there's two versions of the sheet. You it looks
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: like you got the vertical version, which is awesome. Yeah.
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: So when the vertical is folded down, it sort of
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: fits a lot of cell phone holders or shirt pockets.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: Also a version of the horizontal, which when you fold
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: it down as the size of a post it. But
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: we're not gonna fold yet. Ok. We'll get a fightter
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: for that. There's three steps to going out your weekly
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: planning sheet. And this might be too much for us
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: to fully do on this call, we're gonna we're gonna walk.
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: We're gonna walk through what we can. So step one
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: is what you know is going to happen. So this
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: is the time that you've already given away. So typically
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: we'd be doing this on a Friday, and we'd be
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: planning for the next seven days. So this coming Friday,
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: Like imagine you're this Friday coming up and you're making
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: your plan starting next Monday. Yeah, so you'd first write out,
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: imagine each of these boxes represents your day. So if
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: you have something Monday morning, it's gonna go towards the
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: top of the box. With something Monday evening, it's gonna
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: go towards the bottom of your box. So you start
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: by simply writing out in your full sheet what you
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: know you've already given away, what time is already allocated.
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: So this is a meeting, this is a podcast interview,
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: this could be you know, if your son's doing any sports,
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: this might be one of his gains. And I advocate
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: for personal professional all on the same sheet because managing
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: less is better for us. So one sheet all of
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: your your commitments. Okay, do your's appointments, anything like that.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: And I'm noticing, like one of the things that striking
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: me about this is how simple it is.
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: And there's no like like.
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: Time slots, like so I mean, do you do you
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: put down times or are you just really not that
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: hyper about the times?
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: What I like to do is I'll note time. So like,
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: for example, when I made my sheet last Friday, I
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: noticed at the time that you and I were meeting
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: was three o'clock Central time, because I wanted to make
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: sure that I showed up on time. But then before
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: that and after that, I have a task that doesn't
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: have a time, and I'll and tasks are typically step two,
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: but typically step one is like, when something occurs at
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: a set time, let's go ahead and note that because
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: this sheet we saw, this represents your weak So starting
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: with what we know is going to happen is essentially
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: a way of saying, what of our one hundred and
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: sixty eight hours have we already given away? And then
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: we want to plot.
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: But you know what, I just even hearing you say that, like,
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: it's only one hundred and sixty eight hours, just here
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: already say.
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: That out loud. I was like, only one hundred and
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: sixty eight hours. Okay, I'm going to write that down
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: on the top of my sheet.
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and we could even there's so much we
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: can talk about the time on it.
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: I'm telling you this is fixty eight hours.
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: I've I've made a whole career out of time in yeah,
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: it's amazing. Okay, Okay, so that's step one. What do
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: you know is going to happen? So then step two
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: is what do you hope is going to happen?
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: Okay, this might be things.
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: Like tasks to do list, items. Is it swing by
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: the bank, is it you know, call your cousin, is
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: it you know, like go to the go, maybe sign
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: up for the yoga class? Like what what things do
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: you hope you'll do? And so these are things that
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: aren't typically time bound, but they're things that maybe you
• 50:55
  Speaker 2: want to ensure they're accounted for, You want to ensure
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: they show up on your to do list. And the
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: thing about this is this is typically once you map
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: out all of your time that you've already given away
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: step one, you should theoretically have white space on your
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: sheet for the week. So that's where we want to
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: schedule those things you hope to do is in that
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: white space. Because logically, if you've got a block of
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: time between two meetings, well that's probably time that you
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: could get something done. So what is the real realistic
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: task or activity or whatever reminder that makes sense in
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: that block of time. And I've got some videos about
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: this on the YouTube page that I could always share
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: if we wanted to include something like that and show notes.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: But for for your listeners, we autely we could see
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: this in real time. But it's really, you know, it's
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: that simple to begin with step number one is what
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: you know is going to happen. Step number two is
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: what you hope will happen. Now we have so much
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: nuance we could go into in terms of like when
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: is your performance time? Do you are you an introvert
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: extrovert tendency? Do we need to think about deep work
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: versus people work versus surface work. There's lots of that,
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: and that's usually like the two point oh three point
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: oh of course, for the sake of just getting started.
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: It's just that symbol of like, what do you know
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: is going to happen? What do you hope is going
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: to happen? Map that out and you do those two things,
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: and that should mostly fill up your sheet for the week.
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: And then we get to step three. Step three yes,
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: because at this point people are usually like, but this
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: is paper and it's twenty twenty six, so it's not
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: going to work for me. And this is where step
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: three comes in digital reinforcement, because I've already told you
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: there's benefits to using paper, but I also have not
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: anti technology, even though I'm very pro paper. We do
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: live in a very connected world and other people sometimes
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: need to know where to find us or details for
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: a meeting So step three is digital reinforcement. Then you
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: take your sheet and you say, what on this sheet
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  Speaker 2: needs a calendar invite? Do I need to send an
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: email with an agenda? Do I need to shoot a
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: text message over my friend and say, yeah, I'm in
• 52:57
  Speaker 2: for dinner on Thursday?
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: Like, so what is that third piece of digital reinforcement
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  Speaker 2: that you want to go ahead and layer onto this
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: paper plan to ensure that everyone is on the same
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: page and that everyone is set up for success. And
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: it's insanely so how easy those three steps are and
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: how life changing that process is.
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so this this and I could understand, you know,
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: to the routine and it makes so much sense, and like,
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  Speaker 1: here's what you've committed to.
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  Speaker 3: Here are the other things that you would like to do.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: Put that in there, Communicate with people, put stuff on
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: the calendar after that. Now, okay, So for people who
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: will make this beautiful, plant perfect plan on Friday and
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: then by I don't know, one o'clock on Saturday, have
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: other things that have you know, come in or or
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: you know, their kind of cruise and something that they
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: thought would take an hour actually takes four hours, and
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: everything else is messed up like downstream of that, like
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: how how do you stick to the plan or is
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: that just something that you you you master with with practice.
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: Great question, and that's reality. So first of all that mindset,
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: we accept that plans are going to change. So I'll
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: tell you the way my sheet looks in the beginning
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: versus the way it looks on the end.
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: Of the week, like just spelled coffee on it.
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: Like you're always coffee on my sheet. There's random notes
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: like it's usually like it's it's a thing, just like
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: but that tells me I'm using it works. So with
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: that said, though, plans do change. And the last piece
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: I do want to say before fully answered question is
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: once we have that digital reinforcement, this is then when
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: we fold and then we think is designed where you
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: only have to look at one day at a time
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: and then you have a flip or a turn to
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: see the next day, so it always gives you a
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: preview of what's coming, and then you can unfold it
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: up the end of the week to see a visual
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: record of accomplishments. What have you not done? What needs
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: to go to next week? And also yay, you worked
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: hard and look you actually got to cross stuff off
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: because when we cross things off, we get that indoor
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: from release. There's lots of science excite me in this
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: piece of paper, but it's exciting. Sometimes we do write
• 55:05
  Speaker 2: something down on a Friday and you're right, by Monday morning,
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: it's already changed. So the short answer to that is
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: buffer time. We don't overbook, we don't put too many
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: things in the small piece of time, and that is
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: a huge life change for a lot of us, especially
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: people I think like you and me. We see the potential,
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: we want to say, yes, we want to be involved,
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: we want to participate in our life. So we're possibly
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: putting too many things on our calendar each day. So
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: what I did is a companion piece to this weekly
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: sheet is actually a month few calendar that I created
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: and use, and it has boxes that are only about
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: a one inch box for each day, and I use
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: that to help force buffer time so that I'm not overbooking.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: And yes, I did just admit that I still plan
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: my life big picture on a paper calendar, and it
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: totally prevents me from overbooking. And so then I have
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: this buffer time so that when plans do change, I
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: have space and I have flexibility and Also over time,
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: the more you do this, the more proactive you become,
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: so you have that breathing room for plans to change.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: So there's there's so much that goes. You can probably
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: see now by the way, the longer we're talking, you're
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: probably realizing, my god, there's so much to this.
• 56:16
  Speaker 3: There really is. Yeah, but it's it's not like a
• 56:21
  Speaker 3: one like do that. It's like it's everything.
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: It is a it's a recognition that this is important.
• 56:30
  Speaker 3: I think is where we start.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: It is mindset shifts around, just like your relationship with time,
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: and then it is a process where almost a ritual,
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: a a planning.
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: A and a system to be able to do this.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: But this, I mean, this feels very This feels different
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: to me, and this is this is cool.
• 56:53
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: So I know that we're coming up on the end
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: of our time, Samantha. This has been I mean, you
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: shared so much so on behalf of all of us,
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: myself and our friends here with us. Thank you for
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: being so generous with all of your different tools and strategies,
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: and I know that you have so much more. I mean,
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: we have scratched the surface and it's the best place
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: for people to get another weekly sheet or look into
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: some of your other things. I know you mentioned videos.
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: Is that the Present and Productive dot com website? Or
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: would you send them somewhere else?
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And before I flew into that question, I do
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: want to make sure and say like, thank you for
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: the opportunity to share us because I never planned to
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: start this business. I accidentally unearthed a way to live
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: better and I felt that it was too valuable not
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: to share. So being able to come here and share
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: this with your audience is really meaningful for me because
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: I believe that if I can do it, anyone can.
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: And I think that we deserve to live better lives,
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: and we deserve to be more president, we deserve to
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: be happier. And it turns out, yes, there's so much
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: depth to what we've talked about today, but that's because
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: I think I'm taking a very different approach. You know,
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: it's not just the tool, it's the philosophy. It's yeah,
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: and it's the tools to maintain the philosophy. So all
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: of that is you know, it's I guess I share
• 58:13
  Speaker 2: that to further validate people who maybe you're like, but
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: I've tried everything cool, try this too. Yeah, And so
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: with that to answer your question.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: Well, but wait, but there you know what I'm hearing
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: between the lines here as it may maybe not now,
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: but that there might be a book coming down the pipeline.
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: Oh you know, we didn't talk about the city. I
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: know working on a book. I knew. I'm in the
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: process of figuring out the best way to get it
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: out to the masses. But it is all. It is
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: sixty percent completed, and it is I hope, something that
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: will really help people. Because again I realized, oh my gosh,
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: people need to hear this. I found something worth sharing.
• 58:52
  Speaker 3: So you'll have to come back.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: You'll have to come back when the book is officially out.
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: We'll do a deeper dive into some of their mindset stuff.
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: But so with that said, so the best way for
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: people to stay in the loop on the book on
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: the planning tools, I send an email once a month,
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: so you have been added to that list when you
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: got your Free Weeklysheet dot com. So like so free
• 59:12
  Speaker 2: Weeklysheet dot com will get you guys. The Weekly Bonding
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: Sheet org on meday dot com is where all of
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: the planning tools are sold. There's also Present and Productive
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: dot Com and then that's more of a space to
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: assess yourself and your team to get into some of
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: the services. So I most of my time is spent
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: doing things like this, or teaching teams or speaking at events.
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: And then I have two coaches who work with me
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: who help implement the framework. For individuals, I do have
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: some group coaching options, so we try to create a
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: community of support. There's tons of free resources. We have
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: a tip library, we have YouTube videos, so there's pretty
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: much I've spent the last almost ten years creating this
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: ecosystem to give this information to people at every journey,
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: at every level. So whether you're an individual or you're
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: part of a team, whether you have budget or you don't,
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: we have a solution for you. The best way to
• 1:00:04
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• 1:00:06
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• 1:00:08
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• 1:00:09
  Speaker 3: Oh that's so awesome. Well, and you know, thank you.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: It sounds like you put so much thoughtfulness and to
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: not just this whole system Samantha, although like there's really
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: a whole thing, but also a lot of entry points
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: and even free resources, like you know, just to watch
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: a YouTube video or download a weekly sheet and start
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: taking baby steps in this direction. Then, of course you
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: know many other ways to support people. But I appreciate
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: that spirit of generosity.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 3: So thank you.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: Well, I believe that I am the conduit. The information
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: was not given to me so that I could take
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: it with me to my grave. It was given to
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: me so I could give it to you and to
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: everyone listening, because we deserve to live a better life.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: Ses Samantha, you have all kinds of different tools, the
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: sheets obviously a lot of free stuff.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 3: You also do planners things like that.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: Yes, planners, e courses, So don't we do this? If
• 1:01:01
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Oregami day dot com website and a code LA
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  Speaker 1: that is so nice of you to do for our
• 1:01:17
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• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: a paid spokesmodel. This is just this is just something
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: that Samantha.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: Is decided to do to be nice to everybody. So
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 3: thank you. Ah, Okay, well let's just.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: Let's just land on that, and so that I mean, no,
• 1:01:31
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• 1:01:33
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• 1:01:36
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• 1:01:39
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• 1:01:43
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• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: use whatever it is that we've been given for our
• 1:01:51
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• 1:01:55
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• 1:01:59
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• 1:02:03
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