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How Did This City Become Home? · Ok But Are You Good?

• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Hi there, I'm your host, Corinne, and this is Okay But Are You Good?
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Where we check in ourselves on a weekly basis to see how we're doing.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: Are we living our best lives or we're just trying to get vibe?
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: We're mid-October, vibes are high, it's spooky season.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: What more could we ask for, right?
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: Vibes are going good and I'm feeling happy, but I've been a little nostalgic lately.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: And it made me think about how much I miss San Francisco, and I was thinking about how I moved away.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't move states, it wasn't anything crazy, but I left LA to go to San Francisco, and they are two totally different vibes.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe I've been thinking about it because I got my two little cousins in college and they're living their best lives.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: I kind of miss being in college.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm probably like, I don't miss the homework and studying all the time, but I miss being in the city.
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  SPEAKER_00: I miss having like my routine and my schedule there and the coffee shops and the restaurants.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I genuinely miss the people a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: In San Francisco, I stayed for almost 10 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think when I first moved there to go to school, I I didn't plan on staying there after college, but I'm really glad I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of people do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I guess it just depends on where you go to school and what you're trying to do for your career.
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  SPEAKER_00: But for me, when I graduated high school, I knew I wasn't gonna stay local.
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  SPEAKER_00: I knew I wanted to get out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was either San Francisco or Hawaii.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I checked out Hawaii, loved it, knew it wasn't my vibe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And funnily enough, my best friend ended up going there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she's been there for almost, she's she hasn't left.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, I got I got the best of both worlds.
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  SPEAKER_00: I lived in one and I could still visit the other city.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: But I think there's something so special about having the opportunity to leave your hometown and go explore something else because I don't think you can grow and learn if you're in the same place for your whole life.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're surrounded by the same community and the same people and this people that think the same way as you do, you're never gonna learn or be exposed to new and different things, and you don't grow as a person.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's so good to put yourself out there and just like be uncomfortable and try new things and get out of your comfort zone, really.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll never forget that first night in the dorm.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: I was so scared.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you're sleeping in a room with strangers, and this is what everyone does every year, all day, every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we just hope for the best.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my roommate journey was interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in a triple, and my one roommate left first semester, and I was devastated.
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  SPEAKER_00: She was like one of my first friends there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, it was cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, we just have a double.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, like midway through second semester, we got another roommate, and it ended up being good.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: It was I got lucky with my roommates, but it was such an adjustment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you're just sleeping in a room with strangers, and I've never I never had a shared room my whole life, and that was my first time doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm I'm glad it worked out good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know, I learned a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I learned a lot about how other people live their life and how like I live my life and people's habits, and it's interesting, but I'm so grateful I left LA.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I didn't go far like super far, but I wanted to at least be able to fly back and be there for family events and birthday parties, the ones I could.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_00: So it was convenient that it was only an hour flight, versus if I went to Hawaii, it'd be like five or six hours, and then I probably would never come home.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: And San Francisco is great because it's a small city, but there's still so much to do, and there's so many different communities and people and restaurants, and just vibes are good.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna get so sad talking about it, but it's crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Little Corinne at 18 and where I am now is just like I wouldn't be who I am today if I didn't leave and go move to San Francisco.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't think I'd like who I was if I just stayed.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'd be really boring.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm happy I left.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think about the friends I made.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I met so many people.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, one of my best friends, he's from Vietnam.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I haven't seen him since we graduated, but I'll see him again one day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like, where else would I have met people at school from a different country?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's so cool and so fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, I met my husband there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, if I didn't go to school, I don't, I wouldn't have met my husband.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I owe a lot to San Francisco and my college.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I made so many long-term friends there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And luckily enough, one of my best friends, coincidentally, in it since kindergarten, ended up going to, we went to the same school together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I still had a piece of home away from home.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was good.
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  SPEAKER_00: We used to go to Chair Joe's all the time together because that was the closest grocery store when we got sick of cafeteria food.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: And the cool thing, when you're in a new city, you're in a new school, you can be whoever you want to be, you can start fresh, make new friends, join whatever clubs, and you meet so many new people.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: It was so fun being in class with people that were studying the same thing I wanted to study, and you learn from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like I miss that, you know, psych, psychology, like it's cool being around people that like the same stuff you do and want to learn more.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I wow, I actually think I really do miss school.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'd go back again.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll see.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I feel so lucky that I met my husband and I have so many like longtime friends there that I still hang out with on an annual basis.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because we all don't live in the same city, so it's a little difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: But another thing, you know, I had to build my own routine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to build my own life while I'm out there, and that looking back is probably really scary, but I did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like obviously I had to, right?
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like, and I don't think I ever wanted to come home.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't remember that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't remember being like, I'm not gonna graduate from San Francisco and and I built my own routine.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I used to go to the farmer's market on the weekends and walk Olin Gate Park and go to my favorite shops and my favorite like restaurants, and worked out my schedule and like I just I built a life for myself and I did it on my own, you know, no family out there, and for someone that's super close with their family, like it's scary.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm the only kid that left LA to go to school.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm very proud of that, even though like it wasn't that far of a move.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm the only one, so yay me.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I think it's good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like my cousins that are in school, I'm really excited because they they left their hometowns, they're building their own life for themselves.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like watching myself through the eyes almost of like they gotta go live their best lives, and like freshman year is the absolute best because you have all your friends and you all live in the same address, right?
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: Because you're all in the dorms, most likely.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's so fun, and you're never gonna get that back.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're currently in college living on campus, like enjoy it because this is that one year, maybe even two years, and you're never gonna get it back.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I definitely miss that convenience and just seeing everyone all the time.
• 7:26
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't know, there's something so special about like growing up and having the chance to leave your hometown and try something new, and it's so scary, and just find your own way through it and like finding your a crilling your career out there too.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: I remember too, I never thought I'd get the bus schedule down.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I was like, oh, this is so complicated.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_00: And then I just obviously I figured it out, and it's really not that hard.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_00: Like, there's three buses you can take to get downtown, you just gotta hop on one of them and hope for the best, and you'll get where you're going.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's so easy there.
• 8:03
  SPEAKER_00: But obviously, I didn't feel that way when I first moved it.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I like I drive in LA, so I that was totally new territory for me, and like it's not as convenient as it is there or like New York to take public transport.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it was all new, and I'm glad.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I I missed the bus.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was it was a good time, it was convenient.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: But but 18-year-old me, like, I don't know what she would think of where I am now, not doing what I went to school for, but does I feel like a good chunk of people don't end up doing that?
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's just so funny.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, why did I go to school for this and I'm not doing it?
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, oh yeah, because I didn't want to go to school for another 10 years, and uh teenager me did not think that far ahead, or else maybe I would have picked a different career path.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't I don't regret going to school for psychology and learning what I learned, and I don't regret moving.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: I miss it, you know.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: So there are days where I'm like, should I have just stayed in SF?
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: But I when we went to San Francisco in July, like there's definitely things I missed about it, but it's like I knew I outgrew the city.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: It was a time in my life and it worked really well, and I loved it, and I love the people and the food and the culture, but I can't stay in the same place for too long.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I I hope one day I do move to New York, but you never know what the future holds for ya.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why it's important to take these risks, take these challenges on head on, and just like put yourself out there because you never know what you're gonna be exposed to and what you can learn and who you're gonna meet, and what hobbies or part of your routines you're gonna pick up.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's important to put yourself out there and try new things and be scared to do something new every day because that's how you learn and grow, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I think you can make a home.
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  SPEAKER_00: Home is what you make of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is my home, I'm happiest when I'm not home.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so happy when I'm out and traveling and trying new things.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: So we're working on it.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: I just have to build my life more here in LA.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: And remember, college me, like I had to put myself out there.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_00: I had to grow and like have tough conversations and awkward conversations and like do more things alone.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's what I've haven't been doing as much, doing things alone.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm always doing something with someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's important to try new things.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: And one of those is trying new places and seeing new places.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because home is what you make of it, you don't need some extravagant place to move to or visit.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: It could just be something so simple, some place so simple.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: So if you are deciding if you should move somewhere new or try something new, this is your sign.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you should go do it.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: You should put yourself out there because you'll probably fall in love with it.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't, you just come home, right?
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: But for me, I'm really glad I left and lived in San Francisco for all those years, and I really learned a lot.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: So gosh, I'm getting sad thinking about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But get out there, try new things, explore new cities, move somewhere new, try something new.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: Because you most likely will enjoy it.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I leave you with that.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: So don't forget to ask yourself, okay, but are you good?
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I'll catch you all next week.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: And make sure to like and subscribe.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.