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Season 3 - Episode 315 - Loss is hard · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we are talking about how to handle really hard things
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  when they show up. And reason we're talking about
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  this is this morning I opened the doors to the coop.
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  I had a plan to talk about something completely different
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  and I'd had a chicken that was not well, I mean she was, she
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  was not OK for the last month, but I thought it was because she
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  was molting. She looked like she was not
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  feeling well. I was giving her electrolytes
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  and all kinds of things to try to help her.
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  And lo and behold, yesterday she took a turn for the worse and I
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  wasn't sure how she was going to do, but she ate last night and
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  she I made her some squishy scrambled eggs.
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  Believe it or not, they love scrambled eggs.
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  And she ate them all and she seemed like she was perking up
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  and things were looking good in this morning.
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  When I opened the coop doors, she was gone.
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  And one, you know, this effects how you're going to go into your
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  day if you allow these things to come with you.
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  And of course, I'm incredibly sad, and I can see the other
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  chickens coming in where they're going to lay in the boxes and
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  they're all walking by her and looking at her because she was
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  not somebody that was a lower chicken.
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  She was a higher chicken. So they're all looking at her.
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  And it really got me thinking about how normally I might not
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  talk about something like this just because it was too
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  immediate in the moment and that it was not necessarily something
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  that is, you know, a part to help you out in your day being
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  perked up in the morning. But then I thought, okay, I have
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  to handle this for myself. So I'm going to talk about this
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  because if I talk about it in the moment, it's going to give
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  them insight. And that's exactly what we're
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  going to do. So one, I am incredibly sad that
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  she is gone because she was, she had such a personality.
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  Just like people, when someone, when someone goes and passes, we
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  all feel sad when a person passes.
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  I feel that way for my chickens. I really honestly do.
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  And some of them have more personalities than others.
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  And if you follow us on, you know, social media, you can see
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  that that is the case. And I'm always posting pictures.
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  And this was one of them. That was one of my original hens
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  and she had a big personality and I will miss her antics
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  around here, especially when I open up the garden coming up.
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  And that was one of her favorite things to do.
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  The next thing is to sit there and say, OK, I acknowledge that
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  I am incredibly sad about it. This is just part of it.
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  This is part of having life. Sadness comes with life.
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  Don't say to yourself, all right, I can't be sad.
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  I can be sad. And we've talked before about
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  how two things can be true at the same time, but the reality
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  is multiple things can be true at the same time.
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  And this is one of them. I can still be very happy with
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  all of my chickens and feel very blessed in my life and feel very
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  excited about, you know, the season that's coming up and
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  everything else. I can feel very all those
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  emotions at the same time, but that doesn't preclude me or
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  prohibit me from feeling sad about the situation that just
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  happened with with her. And her name was Ella, by the
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  way. And so this is one of those
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  things where you, you look at it and you say to yourself, yes, I
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  can experience all these emotions at the same time and
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  that is OK. It's more than OK, It's normal.
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  It's human. So first, you know, realize it's
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  that part of it is such a big chunk so that you don't feel
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  like, Oh well, I'm doing her a disservice or I'm doing whatever
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  the situation may be. Because you might be feeling
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  sadness for things in your mind much bigger than a chicken and
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  it, and it probably is, but the reality, you can feel all of it
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  and still be OK. And it's not wrong to feel good.
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  This afternoon I have to go off and do something that's going to
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  be very fun. And I am, I am just going to go
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  and I'm going to have fun even though I'm incredibly sad.
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  So it's it is part of being human to be multi faceted when
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  it comes to emotions. And we can accept that.
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  And the third part of this that I think is not just such a big
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  thing is to recognize that when you're in this process, you will
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  dip in and out. You will feel the moments of
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  sadness and you will feel the moments of forgetting it.
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  And then all of a sudden it comes back and you're like, oh,
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  I forgot. And then you feel bad that you
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  forgot, but don't feel bad that you forgot.
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  It's OK. That's how our brains process
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  things. Just take yourself and go into a
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  headspace of accepting it and things will feel a lot more
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  normalized over time. It just takes time.
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  I mean, I've lost my father when I was in my mid 20s.
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  And I will say this, I still miss them every single day.
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  It does not feel the same way as I always tell people, it's not
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  that they it ever changes in the sense that you know, you ever
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  forget or it just goes away. It just gets different.
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  So it's important to remember that and accept that and be OK
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  with that. So I hope this was helpful.
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  My friends and I will see you all tomorrow and I hope you all
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  have a blessed day. Bye.