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Season 3 - Episode 233 - The process of beating ourselves up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today I want to talk to you about not being where you want
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  to be and not beating yourself up for it.
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  You know, so often we get really good at telling ourselves, I'm
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  not where I want to be. I'm not where I want to be.
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  I'm not where I want to be. And we forget that in the
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  process of acknowledging we're not where we want to be, we are
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  doing more damage to ourselves by thinking about it over and
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  over and over again instead of just taking the information from
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  it and saying, OK, I'm not where I want to be.
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  So what should I do about that? How do I want to handle this?
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  How do I want to show up? Who do I want to be in those
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  moments? And the worst part of this, the
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  entire situation, is that in the process of doing this, we
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  obviously forget because I know you've heard me say it before
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  and I have to remind myself of this all the time too, that we
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  are ultimately attracting more of it because we're
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  energetically aligned to it. So let's talk about that for a
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  second and really determine the fact that being energetically
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  aligned to something that's not what you want really does cause
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  more of the problem. Can't not like attracts like.
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  And we're so good at beating ourselves up and we think that
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  the more we beat ourselves up, the more we may pay attention.
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  But the beatings will continue until morale improves.
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  Rarely works. What ends up happening is we get
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  ourselves more aligned to what's wrong, and then the universe
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  provides us with proof that guess what, It's not working.
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  See, I knew it wouldn't work. See, I knew this wouldn't work.
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  See, I knew this would be the case.
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  And as soon as we start saying that all to ourselves once
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  again, we're energetically aligned to it and boom, there we
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  are. It's a vicious circle.
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  And breaking the circle is, is the essence of the work we're
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  here to do as human beings and stop treating ourselves like we
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  would never treat anybody else. You know, I'm a true believer
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  that if you're listening to this podcast, you're the type of
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  person that does not want to hurt anybody else.
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  You're here to improve yourself. You have an attitude of growth.
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  You intend on having a growth mindset.
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  You work towards that piece of it.
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  And you really don't want to go out there and, and destroy
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  energy that other people have. You just want to have a happy
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  great life and all of that. I completely and totally
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  understand. And I'm aligned with where you
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  have to stop and pause and and correct yourself, if you will,
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  is you can't treat yourself that way.
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  Because when you treat yourself that way, it just gets worse.
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  You are actually misaligning at that point in time.
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  And the more you misalign, the more you create what you don't
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  want. And again, vicious circle.
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  So what do you do? How does how does one handle
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  this? What is the thing that one does
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  to get out of this? Well, the very first thing you
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  have to do is recognize you're doing it.
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  So if you feel like you're doing this to yourself, stop, pause
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  and say to yourself, OK, I've been doing that and it's clearly
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  not working. So I need to do something that
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  will work. Something that will work is
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  treating yourself really well in in your head.
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  I'm not saying go out and spoil yourself and do all those
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  things. Of course you can do that.
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  But I'm talking about, I'm really thoughtful about how
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  you're talking to yourself. Talking to yourself kindly.
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  Apparently Dottie has an opinion on this too.
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  Yes, ma'am. And speaking with intent of
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  healing and saying, you know what?
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  I'm not where I want to be right now and I'm going to change
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  that. I'm going to do something about
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  this. I'm moving away from this
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  because it's not working and I'm moving towards this.
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  It's not like you have to pretend you're somewhere you're
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  not, but you're moving towards what you want and away from what
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  you don't want. That is the key.
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  Moving towards what you want and moving away from what you don't
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  want. And the more you do that, the
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  better off you are. The more you decide to change
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  that part of yourself, the better off you are.
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  And I can't stress enough that nobody can help you with this
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  because nobody knows what's going on in your head but you.
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  Nobody understands the connections and conversations
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  that you have with you. Like you.
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  You are the one that's in your head.
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  You are the one that's doing the damage.
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  So you have to be the one that does the healing.
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  We can all point it out, but you've got to be the one that
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  does it if you're the one dishing it out.
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  So I'm going to challenge you to go off and see where you are,
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  not being kind to yourself in this moment.
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  Stop telling yourself you're not where you should be.
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  You are exactly where you're supposed to be.
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  You know how I know that? Because if you were not where
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  you're supposed to be, you wouldn't be there.
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  There is something in you that's keeping you where you are, and
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  it's you. So we have to take
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  responsibility, ownership, shift ourselves and make better
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  choices in how we speak to ourselves and how we align
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  ourselves. I hope this is helpful and I
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  hope you treat yourself well today and I will talk to you
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  tomorrow. Bye.