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Stop Giving Your Power Away! + How It's Blocking You From Getting Everything You Want · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, a mentor, energy healer, a cost of reader, intuitive, energetic business mentor, and honestly, so much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: I help you heal on a physical and emotional level so that you can feel delicious in your health, body, relationships, career, and a bank account.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talk about health, trauma healing, energetics, feminine energy, wealth, and magnetism so that you can live a life that feels delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are diving into personal power today.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: But before we dive in, it is November 1st.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know about anyone else, but I'm in full Christmas mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: As soon as Halloween is done, like I'm ready, I'm good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Christmas decorations are being pulled out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen to Christmas music on the way to the gym today.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're just, it's that time of year, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's so underrated how even good this can be for your nervous system is to even just allow your experience, allow yourself to experience, there we go, more joy, more pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, why not stretch it out to be like November and December and not just December?
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  SPEAKER_00: I know it's also easier for Canadians because our Thanksgiving is in October and not end of November.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I know a lot of people are like, well, Thanksgiving hasn't happened yet, but I couldn't imagine waiting till the end of November, like after you know, American Thanksgiving to put up a tree or to have Christmas stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just, it's not enough Christmas time for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So very much excited.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have my salted caramel bloom latte.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's this powder from Bloom, it's caffeine-free, it's so delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: It tastes like salted caramel, it's full festive vibes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also have their nutnog, um, which is like an eggnog flavored one, delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: You put some of that in with like nut milk.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to add coffee, it's caffeine-free by itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I do add it to some like my coffee with some nut milk, but you can definitely do it on its own and it's delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I'm drinking today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, we are getting into one of my favorite topics today, which is personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, oh my god, personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's up there with safety, it's up there with self-worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it is, it is one of the big three.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, if we think about your nervous system, you need safety, you need self-worth, and you need personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are the three things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, if we want to boil down your nervous system to three things, that's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this episode is really going to be about stop giving your power away and how to stop giving your power away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I notice this because it's a common thing that comes up in pretty much every program I run.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's there's an element of personal power that I notice there's an undercurrent.
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  SPEAKER_00: With mindset, there's an element of personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-worth, there's an element of personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: With creating safety in your nervous system, there's an element of personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: With business, there's personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Any kind of relationships, romantic or otherwise, there's always personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if we don't have personal power, like we need to be strengthening this to have rock, solid, uncircumstantial personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is, and personal power, I mean, this not only goes for your nervous system feeling good, but for your nervous system to thrive, we need to get personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna speak to this if you listen to the episode, I think it's right before this, or maybe two episodes ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: We kind of talked about like the health implications.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're also gonna talk about this when it comes to like manifesting in and kind of all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the first thing you want to do is kind of notice where you are playing victim mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, where you believe that you are playing the video game instead of being the coder of the video game, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where you think life is happening to you instead of realizing that like you are the one controlling it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like that can be and the control, better word is create.
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  SPEAKER_00: People can have a weird relationship with the word control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Really, the better word is create, but you are essentially creating your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once you take the power back and you're like, huh, this is all of feedback for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm creating of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I can create what I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am the coder of the video game, not you know, subjected to the video game, your whole life changes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, yes, your nervous system changes for sure, your relationships change, your business changes, the amount of money you receive and make change, your health changes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, everything, everything changes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, there are external circumstances that happen, but acting like you don't have creative control in terms of how you interpret that event and et cetera, is another way you could be giving your power away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And obviously, giving away your personal power shows up in your gut, all right, especially like bloating IBS, fatigue, weight gain, blood sugar issues, cravings slash emotional eating, um, adrenal issues, sluggish liver, all of these things, but especially, especially gut, and also add thyroid, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when we can't speak our truth and we don't have personal power to do so, it all gets kind of like choked up in our thyroid, especially hypothyroid when you feel like life is moving too slow, quote unquote, too slow, or you can't keep up, both of those kind of things, then it'll also affect our thyroid.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we can see how like personal power is not just like an energetic thing, like it's very much a physical thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ultimately, you are craving the power, but you are the one giving it away, which is very frustrating.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like that's why we get caught in these vicious loops and these vicious cycles, because like you really want the power, but you're giving it away, which leaves you frustrated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Possibly if this loop runs for a long time, it can then make you anxious, making you want to gain more control or that illusion of control, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then instead of taking your power back as a creator, not necessarily as a controller in an anxious kind of way.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also really draining, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving our power away is very much draining because it sends our nervous system on a roller coaster of ups and downs, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when our power is in something external to us, you know, be that a job, an amount of money, whether you have a relationship, whether you have this, whether you have that, or don't have this, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: All the external basis, your nervous system then runs on a roller coaster, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a steady source of energy because you need either outside validation, you need that outside hit of dopamine, and that really fries your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: It fries it completely.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then hence the adrenal issues that show up when you give your power away.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, why do we give our power away?
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  SPEAKER_00: Very good question.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, we give our power away out of fear of rejection and abandonment, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because ultimately we give the power away in hopes that we're then going to not be rejected, not be abandoned.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you put that power in your parents, you know, mom and dad, you give your power away because you don't want to be rejected by them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is like a very primal thing, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're young, you don't want to be abandoned by your parents.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need them to survive.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is like a primal instinct, survival mechanism of your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you put it there and then you get rejected and you get abandoned, it creates obviously a trauma loop, a wounding that is very hard to escape from.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because then you go through your life trying to correct it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you keep giving your power away in hopes of getting that thing that you didn't get that one time.
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  SPEAKER_00: But unfortunately, that's never gonna happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But it is then a loop that you get stuck in, a pattern that you get stuck in because you don't want that to happen, which kind of loops into craving love and affection, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When we give our power away, it's because we really want love and affection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Power that other people can make maybe better decisions than us, power away to let them dictate what we do or don't do in life, power away because we're unsure of ourselves, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When that kind of loops in some low self-worth and self-esteem, which makes us a people pleaser.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, people pleasing is because you've given your power away.
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  SPEAKER_00: So remember that your life is a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you take that power back, that it's a choice, your entire life is based on what you choose for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And everything is a direct reflection of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so even when, you know, you feel like, oh, but I I I hear this sometimes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have no choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bob, there's always a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have all the power, they don't have all the power.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can actually take your power back.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's always a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have the choice to remain where you are, you have the choice for something different, you have the choice for more, you have the choice for new.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you are constantly giving your personal power to something outside of yourself, well, then you're gonna stack and you're gonna stay stagnant.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're giving, you know, the power to whether you're in a relationship about, you know, your self-worth, that's gonna affect your relationship status.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's gonna affect the way you feel in relationships, how magnetic you feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you find a relationship, you're gonna be anxious in it because you don't have the power because you've given it to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see this a lot in business.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, people give power to their stripe month today.
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  SPEAKER_00: People give power, you know, to whether people are liking or clicking or sending DMs or this or that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very circumstantial.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, it's these highs of ups and downs and ups and downs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even the validation of something outside of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like you need a dopamine hit for something outside of yourself, maybe something especially material outside of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't have that, then you crash.
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  SPEAKER_00: Big sign we have circumstantial power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Really start to audit all the different areas of your life and really see where you have personal power and where you have circumstantial personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And start making different choices because how you respond to life is a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you take back your personal power and realize everything in this world is created by it, then magic happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: The health, relationships, home, travel, wealth, business, whatever it is, you have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every moment of every day is a choice for something different.
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  SPEAKER_00: A choice for something that will expand you and evolve you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you take your power back, all it takes is a moment of refocus.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I noticed I was giving a personal power away then.
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  SPEAKER_00: Perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's just take it back and make a different choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll have more energy then to create the life you desire.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll feel more magnetic, you'll feel less exhausted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, the bloating and gut issues will go away, your energy levels will come back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Up-leveling actually gets more difficult when you latch on, stay in victim mode, and give away your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And power also goes with like setting boundaries, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because in order to set boundaries, you need personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or especially in order to hold them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Setting them, you need self-worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Holding them, you need personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you feel like, oh, I say a boundary, but I don't actually hold it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was actually discussing this with a one-on-one yesterday.
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  SPEAKER_00: With her parents, not being able to hold a boundary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like she says it, but doesn't hold it, it doesn't follow through.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I invite you, starting now, to stop giving away your power and also look at where you're gonna be giving your power away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because maybe you give it away in relationships, but not at work, or work, but not, you know, with money, or whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And notice the little ways that it's also coming up, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Any way your personal power is showing up is when something external is able to dictate how you feel or how you act.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's circumstantial.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's dependent on circumstance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether someone texts you, whether they don't text you, whether they say this or don't say this, whether this happens in your business or doesn't happen in your business, whether you're in a relationship, you're in all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Building personal power is literally one of the most, I was one of the most powerful, it is one of the most powerful things that you can do for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is truly a game changer when it comes to your nervous system because it creates a more regulated nervous system because the power isn't going up and down and up and down, which fries it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's more steady, it's regulated.
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  SPEAKER_00: I truly believe this is a superpower because like who I am is not circumstantial.
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  SPEAKER_00: My power doesn't shift based on external circumstance.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't only have personal power when it's easy, aka when it's sunshine and rainbows.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my ability to have uncircumstantial personal power is one of the reasons I am where I am today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you build personal power, you no longer waver and you are who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You no longer have trouble speaking your truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: The amount of clients I've had who like we just work on their personal power so they can speak their truth at work and they like make tens of thousands of more money, if not hundreds of thousands, like in a matter of in a short time frame.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you no longer struggle with gut issues, fatigue, anxiety, thyroid, like we touched on.
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  SPEAKER_00: You no longer run on a roller coaster of external circumstance.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is also an important one.
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  SPEAKER_00: You no longer absorb the frequency in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, you emit your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is actually something that we're gonna be really diving into in the power print uh power program and healing this.
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  SPEAKER_00: But a lot of empaths, and I'm an empath, but a lot of empaths sometimes chalk up, like, oh, I'm an empath, so it's just it's hard for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like my energy is like a roller coaster.
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  SPEAKER_00: I absorb things because I'm an empath.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you have personal power, you don't absorb the frequency in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, you admit your own, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so strengthening personal power is essential if you're an empath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you are a big feeler, if you can walk into a room and like feel things deeply, not only like, oh, this energy feels heavy, but maybe you can also, like me, feel people's trauma very quickly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Having personal power means you don't like take that on.
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  SPEAKER_00: You admit you are a stronger frequency in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your power is so strong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about yourself like a lighthouse, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It is so strong that you then don't absorb it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're an empath, personal power is definitely something that you need to work on.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, another reason personal power is so key is also because when you place your value in something external to you, nothing ever feels enough, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your power, you've given the power in that thing to make you feel a certain way.
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  SPEAKER_00: But then it's always the next thing and the next thing and the next thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you drop maybe into fear and doubt, which dysregulates your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then maybe because of that, we peep up please and struggle set boundaries, and then we feel a victim of our life instead of realizing that, oh, there are probably ways that I'm giving away my personal power that are then creating these circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so personal power is really it's about being the woman with the audacity to really like walk into a room and not tell who you are to be like so strong, so solid.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: So that is your little episode on personal power, why it's so important, how it's showing up, and what you're gonna start doing today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say this episode, what you're gonna start doing today, take an audit of your life and start making different choices and taking back your personal power.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, if you really want to build uncircumstantial personal power, join us inside power.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are going to be breaking out of the wounding, the trauma, the conditioning, all of that inner child stuff that really made you give your power away in the first place or makes you feel like you need to in order to be loved, to be accepted, etc.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: We'll be dissolving the physical symptoms that come along with this, releasing the fears and doubts in your nervous system that keep it on that roller coaster, holding boundaries, not people pleasing, not dipping in your power, emitting your own power, and really dissolving that whole loop of being a victim in your life, how to take your power back and truly be the creator so that you can magnetize everything that you desire.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, love you guys so much.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who knows or you know that you want to anchor in personal power or they need to answer anchor in personal power.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: How many times have I said personal power?
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  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, you understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very important.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like the theme of right now personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: So send it to someone you know, send it to someone who would get value out of it, and I will see you in the next episode.