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STOP Waiting for PERMISSION! Take CONTROL of Your LIFE NOW! (S5) S42:E2 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well there, hello everyone, it is great to
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  be with you here on Inspirations For Your
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  Life and it's great to have you here
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  and I want to let you know that
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  If this is your very first time, I
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  Make sense?
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  Hopefully, right?
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  So what's everybody doing right now?
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  Are you feeling good today or how are
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  you feeling?
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  And I think that's an important piece, right?
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  I'll try to get one here close right
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  77 Coffee.
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  Is it 706?
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  They open at 7 o'clock in the
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  morning and they close at 7 p.m.
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  But on Sunday, they're open from 8 a
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  .m. to 7 p.m. So yes, guys,
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  if you're from that coffee shop at 77
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  Coffee, please check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for more
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  I think you'll like that.
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  So I hope you guys enjoy.
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  And I hope you guys learned something today.
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  So I think a lot of people today,
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  you know, when we think about things we
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  can do, they get hung up, unfortunately.
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  But let's kick this off, right?
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  So what's really holding you back?
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  The truth you keep avoiding.
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  Series 5, show 42.
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  Yes, guys.
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  And again, it is, when I say great
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  to be with you guys, it is great
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  to be with you.
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  But I think a lot goes on when
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  we think about, you know, the week and
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  we think about, you know, what's happening and
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  all this great stuff.
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  But I think sometimes people, unfortunately, they get
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  a little bit out of whack.
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  And I think that happens because for whatever
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  reason, people just don't seem to understand, like,
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  what goes on in life.
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  I think they don't realize that they have
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  so much potential in their life.
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  I mean, so very, very much potential that
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  you can do so much in your life,
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  right?
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  You can actually do so much in your
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  life if, if, if, if, if you realize
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  what it is you are doing, right?
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  And I think sometimes people get stuck.
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  They get stuck in this doldrum of, you
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  know, where they're going.
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  And I think sometimes people just, for whatever
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  reason, they get a little bit confused.
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  And this happens for a lot of reasons.
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  The main reason it happens is because people
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  out there just, they don't understand what their
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  true potential is.
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  And I think that can be a, I
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  think that can be a huge, huge problem
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  for, you know, for, for a lot of
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  people, you know, for, for a lot of
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  people.
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  So I want to tell you that there
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  is so much you guys can do.
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  I mean, so much you can do, but
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  you first have to believe in who you
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  are.
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  You have to believe in who you are.
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  And, and that's a very, that's an interesting
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  scope or an interesting thing.
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  But for whatever reason, guys, sometimes we get
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  stuck in these doldrums of life, right?
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  We get stuck in the part that, you
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  know, maybe this is what we want.
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  Maybe it's what we're doing.
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  But then on the other hand, it's like,
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  well, wait a minute, what am I actually
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  doing?
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  Right?
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  What am I actually doing?
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  And why am I doing it this way?
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  So I think that can be hard for,
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  for some people to, you know, to understand.
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  But I think it's an important piece that
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  many people here, like they don't realize that
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  they have so much potential in life.
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  Does that make sense?
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  And I know a lot of you are
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  saying, you know, I don't know if I
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  can do this, but I can tell you
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  that it really is different depending on, you
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  know, your focus and what you're talking about.
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  So I know a lot of you out
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  there saying, oh my gosh, I don't know
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  what I'm doing.
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  I don't get it.
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  But again, let, let, let's dive in.
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  Okay, so welcome everyone to the ever popular
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  Inspirations for Your Life show.
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  And it's great to have you here with
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  me.
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  Oh, by the way, I'm John C.
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  Morley.
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  I'm a serial entrepreneur, an engineer, a marketing
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  specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker,
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  passionate lifelong learner, graduate student at Montclair State
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  University.
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  And so grateful now to be a published
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  author.
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  Yes, guys.
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  So this week is all about stop waiting
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  for a sign.
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  Your freedom starts with action.
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  Yesterday, we learned to recognize what's holding us
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  back.
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  Today, we choose a different path.
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  You can understand a problem perfectly and still
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  remain stuck if you never make a decision.
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  We're exploring 30 ways now to stop waiting
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  for permission and start directing your life.
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  So let's get going, guys.
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  All right.
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  Number one, recognize that every meaningful change begins
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  with a choice.
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  Awareness opens your eyes.
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  But a decision gives your next step a
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  direction.
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  What are you choosing today?
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  Number two, stop waiting for everyone to agree
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  with your direction.
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  People can care about you and still see
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  things differently.
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  Agreement isn't a requirement for responsible action.
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  Number three, and I think that's an important
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  one to understand.
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  And so that is your decision, okay?
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  Your decision deserves more influence than outside opinions.
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  Listen carefully to people you respect.
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  But remember that you're the one who must
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  live with your choices, not anyone else.
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  I think that's a very important one for
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  all of us to understand.
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  Number four, separate advice from permission.
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  Advice can offer, well, perspective.
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  And warn you about risks.
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  Permission hands someone else authority over a decision
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  that may belong to you, okay?
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  And I think that's an important one to
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  know.
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  Number five, understand that uncertainty does not eliminate
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  your ability to choose.
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  You rarely get every answer in advance.
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  Make a thoughtful, okay?
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  Yes, make a thoughtful decision using what you
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  know.
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  Number six, stop treating indecision as a harmless
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  delay.
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  Doing nothing is still a choice, and it
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  can quietly shape your future while you wait.
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  Does that make sense?
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  Yes or no?
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  And number seven, recognize the hidden costs of
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  postponing decisions.
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  Delays just consume time, attention, confidence, and opportunities.
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  Ask what waiting is costing you right now.
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  And I know that's hard for a lot
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  of people.
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  Number eight, choose according to your values rather
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  than your fears.
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  Fear deserves a way to realize fear is
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  not real.
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  It's false and it's appearing real.
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  And examine it, not automatic control.
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  Let what matters most guide your responses.
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  Does that make sense?
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  And hopefully that gets you to understand some
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  things, right?
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  Number nine, accept that meaningful choices may involve
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  discomfort.
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  Growth can feel unfamiliar.
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  Discomfort alone doesn't prove that your direction is
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  wrong.
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  No.
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  Number 10, stop searching endlessly for the perfect
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  option.
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  Compare realistic choices, understand the trade-offs, and
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  select a sound path instead of chasing an
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  imagery flawless one.
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  I think that could be a problem for
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  some people.
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  Number 11, learn to make decisions with the
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  information available to you.
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  Research what matters and ask useful questions and
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  recognize when you've gathered enough to actually act.
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  Number 12, understand that choosing one direction may
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  require releasing another.
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  Every meaningful yes can involve a no.
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  That's not always loss.
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  Sometimes it's focus.
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  I mean, that's hard for us to understand.
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  And hopefully, and
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  so, so understanding this can be huge for
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  you guys, okay?
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  Number 13, stop allowing other people's disappointment to
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  control you.
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  Don't let it control you because you have
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  more power than you think.
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  Be considerate, but don't sacrifice an important, healthy
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  decision simply to avoid upsetting someone.
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  Number 14, recognize when approval seeks a time
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  to weaken your confidence.
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  If you need applause before every step, your
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  direction will change whenever the audience does.
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  I think that's important.
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  Does that make sense?
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  And that's important.
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  Number 15, take ownership of decisions without demanding
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  guarantees.
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  You can act responsibly and still face surprises.
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  Ownership means responding honestly to outcomes.
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  Number 16, choose commitments that reflect who you
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  want to become.
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  Your schedule and your promises should support your
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  values, not just your old habits.
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  I think that's something that a lot of
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  people today don't realize, but it's truth, guys.
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  It is absolutely true.
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  That's something that we, as people, need to
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  understand.
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  It's something that we need to be aware
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  of, right?
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  It's not something that we can just push
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  under the carpet, right?
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  Number 17, stop revisiting decisions without new information.
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  Constantly reopening a settled choice can drain energy
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  like crazy.
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  Reconsider when something meaningful changes in your life.
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  Number 18, understand that mistakes can become valuable
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  feedback.
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  An imperfect result can teach you how to
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  improve.
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  Learning is different from declaring yourself a failure.
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  Number 19, make room for thoughtful changes in
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  direction.
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  Commitment isn't a prison.
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  New evidence can justify a better route without
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  erasing earlier progress.
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  That's hard for a lot of people to
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  realize.
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  Does that make sense?
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  But some people get lost in this, and
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  then they wonder why they can't go anywhere.
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  Number 20, guys, recognize the difference between commitment
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  and stubbornness.
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  Commitment serves a meaningful purpose.
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  Stubbornness can keep defending a method that no
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  longer works.
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  Number 21, choose progress over endless comparison.
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  Someone else's timeline isn't your instruction manual.
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  Measure your next step against your own priorities.
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  Number 22, stop allowing fear to take over
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  with you and give you regret to prevent
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  action.
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  You can't eliminate every possible regret.
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  You can make a considered choice and learn
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  from what follows.
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  Does that make sense?
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  And what follows can hurt some people because
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  they don't know where they're going.
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  Number 23, give yourself permission to pursue meaningful
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  opportunities.
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  You don't need a standing ovation to learn,
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  grow, apply, create, or begin again.
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  Number 24, make one decision you've been unnecessarily
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  delaying.
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  Name it clearly.
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  A specific choice is easier to act on
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  than a vague wish for change.
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  Yeah, when we have a certain pattern, it
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  becomes a lot easier.
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  Number 25, turn the decision into a clear
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  next step.
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  Decide what you'll do when you'll do it
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  and what finishing that step will look like.
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  And that's hard for a lot of people.
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  But once you get going, it becomes a
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  lot easier, guys.
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  Number 26, communicate your choice with confidence and
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  respect.
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  You can be firm without being dismissive.
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  Explain what matters without turning every conversation into
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  a debate.
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  Number 27, accept that not everyone will understand
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  your journey.
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  Different people have different experiences.
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  Their confusion doesn't automatically invalidate your direction.
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  Does that make sense or not?
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  Because we have to realize what this means.
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  Number 28, strengthen trust in your own judgment
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  through experience.
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  Make reasonable choices, observe the results, and adjust
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  confidence.
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  And it will grow through patience.
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  Patience.
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  Number 29, remember that choosing is an ongoing
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  responsibility.
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  One big decision isn't enough.
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  Your daily actions keep confirming or changing the
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  direction you've selected.
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  And that's hard for a lot of people.
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  30, decide that your future deserves intentional direction.
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  Don't leave every important choice to habit, fear,
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  or someone else's expectations.
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  Participate in shaping your life.
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  And that's hard.
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  I think sometimes people don't get certain things.
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  But then they blame other people for why
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  they don't get them.
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  But really, it's themselves that aren't getting them.
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  Right?
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  It's themselves.
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  And I think sometimes people want answers, but
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  then they don't know where to go.
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  And maybe you're going to say something and
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  maybe you're not.
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  But maybe you're going to go down a
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  pathway that's going to confuse you.
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  That's going to get you to say, wait
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  a minute.
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  I don't know if I can do this.
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  And the reason you're saying that is for
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  one reason.
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  Because you don't really have confidence in yourself.
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  Does that make sense?
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  I think sometimes we want an answer.
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  But then we're not really ready for the
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  answer that comes.
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  So we play the denial game.
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  We play the denial game.
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  And sometimes the denial game makes us feel
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  like we don't have confidence, but we really
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  do.
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  Confidence is hard.
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  Because when something doesn't go your way, you're
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  like, well, how do I do it?
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  Make sense?
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  And I think if we can understand these
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  things, we can say to ourselves, OK, this
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  is where I want to go.
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  This is what I can do.
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  When you say you can't, you've already ended
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  your destiny.
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  So you have to stop waiting for permission.
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  People their whole life, they wait for permission,
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  right?
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  And they think that they wait for permission.
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  It's like, wait a minute.
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  I don't know.
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  Right?
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  Do I have the permission or not?
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  So number 30, decide that your future deserves
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  intentional direction.
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  Don't have every important choice.
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  Be a habit, fear, or someone else's expectation.
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  Participate in shaping your own life yourself.
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  Does that make sense?
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  So here's your Sunday challenge if you're ready
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  for it.
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  Make one decision you've been postponing.
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  Write it down.
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  And identify the first action that supports it.
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  Take the action as soon as you reasonably
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  can.
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  Our journey continues.
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  Saturday, we recognized.
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  Today, we actually chose.
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  Monday, we're going to break free together.
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  Tuesday, we're going to stand firm.
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  Wednesday, we're going to trust.
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  Thursday, we'll rise again.
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  And Friday, we're going to live free.
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  Hopefully, this helps you a little bit.
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  But I know a lot of people get
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  concerned about, you know.
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  And I think people, sometimes they get scared.
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  Because they feel that they've never done something
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  like this before.
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  And they don't think they can.
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  Right?
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  See, once you say you can't do something,
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  Henry Ford is right.
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  You can't.
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  If you say you can, then you know
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  what?
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  You are also very right.
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  But I know how this can cause challenges
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  for people.
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  Not because you want it to.
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  It just does.
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  Everybody wants permission.
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  Can I do this?
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  Can I do that?
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  And I get that, right?
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  But we have to ask permission for everything
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  in life.
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  It changes our makeup.
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  And that changes our perspective of life.
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  Because if we have to ask permission for
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  everything we do, how are we ever going
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  to get somewhere?
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  Confidence builds very, very slowly when that happens,
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  guys.
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  Very, very slowly.
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  And I think it's slowly because people just
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  feel like they can't win.
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  They can't win.
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  But they really can.
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  It's just that they have to believe in
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  themselves.
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  They have to believe in themselves.
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  Right?
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  And that's important.
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  Right?
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  So here is your Sunday challenge, Liz Joann.
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  Make one decision, even postponing.
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  Write it down.
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  Then identify the first action that supports it.
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  Take that action as soon as you reasonably
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  can.
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  As soon as you reasonably can.
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  And that'll be amazing for you guys.
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  Really amazing.
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  And I think when we start to think
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  about these things, we start to look at
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  what's happening, right?
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  Right?
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  I think that's an important piece for people
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  to realize.
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  But I think when we start to see
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  these things happen in our life, it's like,
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  oh my gosh, I can actually do this.
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  It changes the whole pathway.
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  Because when we know we can do something,
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  it changes what is possible.
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  Right?
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  Henry Ford said, as I said again, if
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  you believe you can, you're right.
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  If you believe you can't, you're also right.
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  That's powerful, guys.
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  But some people get lost in the...
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  I think sometimes we rush the finish line
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  because we've always had to stop getting permission.
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  And when I say we rush, we're rushing
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  because we're always had to get so much
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  permission.
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  But if we develop that in ourself, we
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  could do a lot more, right?
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  We could do a lot, a lot more.
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  So that's an important piece that I want
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  you to understand.
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  Ladies and gentlemen, I am John Seymour, serial
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  entrepreneur, engineer, author, and so much more.
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  I thank you so much for choosing to
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  join me on Inspirations for Your Life, the
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  ever popular motivational show.
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  Remember, ladies and gentlemen, this is key.
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  You can welcome advice without surrendering your future.
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  And maybe you'll realize another thing that's important.
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  And that is knowing that this advice without
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  surrendering your future.
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  Stop waiting for permission.
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  Make a thoughtful choice and move.
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  Stay driven.
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  Keep growing.
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  And ladies and gentlemen, I'm going to see
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  you on another show real soon.
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  So be well, everyone.