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The Daily Mess Cars Don't Define You Plus Living In The Present Doesn't Erase History · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: Have you checked it out yet? Arrow.net. A-R-R-O-E.net. Net as
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  Speaker 1: in network. It's 21 different podcasts. A podcast network. One
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  Speaker 1: of the biggest shows is Vocal Defrag. We've stopped asking
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  Speaker 1: ourselves the questions. And we put so much pressure on
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  Speaker 1: those around us that they have no answers. And yet
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  Speaker 1: we keep trying to march forward. Vocal Defrag. Ask yourself
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  Speaker 1: the questions and then question the answers. You're the only
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  Speaker 1: one that's wearing your pair of tennis shoes. It's only
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  Speaker 1: on Arrow.net. A-R-R-O-E dot net. Enjoy your exploration. Hey, it's me,
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  Speaker 1: that question guy. You know, the dude that's always asking
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  Speaker 1: questions because there's so much fun in doing the research
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  Speaker 1: to locate answers. For instance, why do we allow our
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  Speaker 1: careers in home appliances tell the world, here's who I am? Plus,
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  Speaker 1: if the vow is to live in the present... What
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  Speaker 1: do we have in life to compare things to? My
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  Speaker 1: name is Arrow. I'm a daily writer, a silent wolf.
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  Speaker 1: I stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen, study,
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  Speaker 1: then activate. I happen to call it the daily mess
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  Speaker 1: because it's a chronological walk through my everyday world. It
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  Speaker 1: is my morning writing. As a receiver of thoughts and ideas,
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  Speaker 1: we as people tend to throw things to the side
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  Speaker 1: because we think we're going to deal with it later on.
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  Speaker 1: Not if you don't write it down and deal with
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  Speaker 1: it later on. When a subject arrives inside of me,
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  Speaker 1: I know it's time to dig in. It's still keeping
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  Speaker 1: that daily journal, but by doing the research, the picture
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  Speaker 1: is going to become clearer. This is the daily mess.
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  Speaker 1: Why do we allow our careers, our jobs, and other
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  Speaker 1: things around the house define us? I'm talking about the
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  Speaker 1: cars that we drive and the flat screen TVs that
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  Speaker 1: we have. inside the living room. And isn't that what
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  Speaker 1: our life is all about? We are so guilty of
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  Speaker 1: turning possessions and occupations into physical evidence of, hey, look
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  Speaker 1: at me. Look at my TV. Oh, look at me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's called an external resume. And here's the hard, cold facts.
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  Speaker 1: No matter what your job or what your careers are,
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  Speaker 1: the most important question is unasked. We're stuck on how
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  Speaker 1: do we look? What can we buy? Did anyone notice me? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody likes me, right? I don't know about that. No
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  Speaker 1: matter who you are or where you are in life,
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  Speaker 1: you should always ask the question, am I happy? I
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  Speaker 1: didn't say, are you happy? I said, am I happy?
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  Speaker 1: Number two, do I have a meaningful relationship? Do you
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  Speaker 1: see where you're going? None of this has anything to
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  Speaker 1: do with your job or your career. Number three, do
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  Speaker 1: I respect the person I am? Am I daring enough
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  Speaker 1: to step out there? Do things matter to me? And finally,
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  Speaker 1: can't I be comfortable with somebody that I am and
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  Speaker 1: not what they want me to be?
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  Speaker 1: Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we try and we try and try and all of
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  Speaker 1: a sudden we become hollow, we become silent and very disconnected.
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  Speaker 1: Coming up next, if the vow is to live in
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  Speaker 1: this present place of now, what do we have to
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  Speaker 1: compare with it? Hey, thanks for coming back to The
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  Speaker 1: Daily Mess. If the vow, and I talk about this
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  Speaker 1: so much, if our vow is to live in this
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  Speaker 1: present place of now, what do we have to compare
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  Speaker 1: to our lives? Ooh, that's a big question. Mental health
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  Speaker 1: leaders call it a paradox. When it comes to humans
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  Speaker 1: comparing their lives, there's always going to be three questions.
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  Speaker 1: Am I doing better than what I used to be?
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  Speaker 1: Am I successful, wealthy, and attractive? And the third question,
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  Speaker 1: we endlessly bring this up. Will I finally be happy
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  Speaker 1: when I achieve that? All three of these pull us
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  Speaker 1: away from the present place of now. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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  Speaker 1: Living in the present place of now, doesn't that mean
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  Speaker 1: you don't have a memory? Or does it generate ambition
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  Speaker 1: or setting standards for us? Your past is only information.
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  Speaker 1: It is not a place to live. So what's the
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  Speaker 1: better question that we should be asking ourselves? And is
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  Speaker 1: it the right question? Am I fully experiencing what life
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  Speaker 1: is willing to share with me today? That's a big question.
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  Speaker 1: As tough as it is, the steps that we have
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  Speaker 1: to take usually disappear, you know. Taking the paths that
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  Speaker 1: lead you directly to the people that you think that
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  Speaker 1: you need to be comparing your life with? When you
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  Speaker 1: stop doing that, your real questions will become extremely interesting.
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  Speaker 1: What does a good life feel like to me? Not
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  Speaker 1: to them. Not to this person over here either. What
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  Speaker 1: does a good life feel like to me? Right here
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  Speaker 1: in this right now. Yeah, it is one of the
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  Speaker 1: most heart-wrenching, liberating questions that you're going to face.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Arrow, and that's The Daily Mess.