Being Chosen Is Overrated: Flattery, Boundaries, and Choosing Yourself First
Being picked feels like proof you’re worth something. It isn’t. A story about flattery, people-pleasing, and what happens when you say no to an offer you were supposed to be grateful for.
For most of my life, if someone told me I was the right person for something and said it warmly, I said yes.
In this episode of Growing Up Late, I take apart the idea that being chosen is the same as being valued. I start with a too-fitted outfit and a salesgirl who said I looked amazing, move through a promotion I turned down three times before the division president made it personal, and into a marriage…
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