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You're One Decision Away From Living Again | Episode 442 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Hi everyone, it's Justin here, Voices for Voices.
• 0:05
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Thank you so much for joining us on yet another episode of the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 0:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're grateful to have you.
• 0:15
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're thankful to have you with us.
• 0:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We are over 440 episodes total.
• 0:22
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So it's uh uh what I would actually call a miracle that uh that we're here, that we've made it this far.
• 0:30
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um and it's uh only because of your help, your demand of uh wanting more content to watch, to listen.
• 0:39
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh we're grateful to have you with us.
• 0:42
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Help us get to reach 3,000 cities and 300 countries worldwide.
• 0:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're well over a hundred countries, well over a thousand cities.
• 0:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh we just broke a uh a goal for uh the last uh the last year uh download-wise.
• 1:06
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh so it's just incredible.
• 1:10
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're we're knocking out goals with a basically a zero dollar budget, and we have that big, huge monumental goal of helping reach uh at least three billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 1:33
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And we uh we're we're gonna do it.
• 1:37
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I know we are, and it is uh it's incredible to have seen the growth from the beginning of our endeavor, uh endeavor together here with Voices for Voices, and then here with our Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 2:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If you can do us a big favor, give us the big thumbs up, like, follow, subscribe, share, all those great things.
• 2:08
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: They're easy to do.
• 2:10
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, we would greatly appreciate it.
• 2:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And if you would do us another huge favor is to reach out to 25-year contacts, 50, 7,500 contacts, let them know about the voices for voices, TV show, and podcasts.
• 2:29
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, it's because of you again that we're we're at this point, and that would be awesome if you could do that.
• 2:36
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We know that a lot of you have already, so we want to say thank you uh because we are seeing it in the analytics in the numbers.
• 2:46
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, there's some analytics, some numbers we don't see uh because of different reasons, private servers, all kinds of different uh things that uh don't let us see the full analytics, and that's okay.
• 3:04
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But we know we're helping people, you know we're helping people, and that's all that matters.
• 3:10
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So thank you.
• 3:11
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And if you are able to, uh we are Voices for Voices, we are a 501c3 nonprofit charity organization, and so what that means here in the United States is all donations, uh, all book purchases under the Voices for Voices moniker uh are 100% tax deductible on the federal level.
• 3:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And it's uh it's tax time.
• 3:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If you haven't done your taxes yet, it'd be a great way to uh pad uh your return by helping us out and helping yourself out.
• 3:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So again, thank you for joining us.
• 3:58
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's time to live again.
• 4:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, there's probably a song or maybe several songs that titled that.
• 4:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That's not why we're talking about it's time to live again.
• 4:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh we're talking about it in the way the Voices for Voices talks about it and things.
• 4:22
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um, and that is on the very human level of when we say it's time to live again.
• 4:33
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: The reason we say this and reason why we're going to dedicate a show today, uh, this episode to talk about it is for far too long have so many of us, and I'm included, uh not been living.
• 4:58
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We've been whether it's procrastinating, whether it is just uh just not feeling the best.
• 5:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And that's what weather, I say bad weather, but you know, and the the skies are dreary, there are lots of clouds, it's snow and then raining and and all that, it can cause us as we know the seasonal effect of disorder, which I get every year on top of every all the other things that I have uh with being diagnosed with.
• 5:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I'm okay with that because I have a team behind me that's with me every step of this way.
• 5:47
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh and I hope and pray and send good vibes that if you need a team behind you, that you're able to find that one by one.
• 5:59
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Don't look at don't look at the whole situation as oh my gosh, I got to do all these things.
• 6:06
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Do one thing at a time.
• 6:08
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That's the only way we get things done, at least for me.
• 6:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so that's that's what I would would say um to to someone who looks at, oh my gosh, I have to go see a psychiatrist, I have to go see a therapist, I have to look.
• 6:29
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We only get one shot at this life.
• 6:32
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, and that's part of the reason why I did what I did in 2017.
• 6:39
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And uh maybe that's something that that you you want to explore doing.
• 6:46
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh I can't make decisions for you, I'm not giving medical advice, just sharing my experience.
• 6:52
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so living again means doing what we love, doing what we want to do.
• 7:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh for me, voices for voices is really to use voices as many times as I can.
• 7:16
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, voices for voices is really helping and has helped give me a voice back that I had, but it was all in my head.
• 7:33
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It was all in my head.
• 7:35
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, I wasn't talking about things, I wasn't um, yeah.
• 7:40
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I mean, that's a big thing, is just talking through it.
• 7:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um, and I wasn't doing that, and so I really wasn't living.
• 7:49
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Yes, I was alive, my heart was beating, my brain was I'm not talking like that.
• 7:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: What I'm talking about is what you do on a daily basis.
• 8:03
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Is it what you want to do?
• 8:06
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: For the most part, not everything is up to us, but if you have a couple of things you want to work on or do in a particular week, are you able to work on maybe one of those for a little bit of time?
• 8:22
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Or are you not?
• 8:24
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If you're not able to, that's what we're talking about living again.
• 8:28
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That let's get back, if we can, to living again, to work on and do things that make us feel feel good.
• 8:42
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, I am by no stretch, nobody is perfect, and I am by no stretch perfect, and saying, Oh, Justin's doing all these things.
• 8:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, I'm trying, I'm I'm working on on things.
• 9:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh just like you are, just like everybody is.
• 9:09
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, I think we're constantly learning, we're constantly working on things, not just for others, but for ourselves.
• 9:21
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So learning to live again and to live again, we want that to be for us.
• 9:28
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Because if we're not able to do things for us to make that make us feel good, then it's a hard life.
• 9:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If we're doing what somebody else and others want us to do, then we're not living again, we're not living for us, we're living for somebody else, somebody, somebody else's goals, somebody else's projects.
• 10:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, and while that is not a negative all the time, it can be, and it can hold us back.
• 10:14
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We can get caught up in our heads where I've been so many times and still am so many times, the things, ideas, they they just hang out up in my head.
• 10:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: They don't come to fruition, which basically just means they don't come true.
• 10:48
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But let's make them come true, let's help them come true.
• 10:53
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If we're not feeling the greatest, that's okay.
• 10:58
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let's if our body is telling us we need rest, then let's rest.
• 11:06
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And then let's try small itty bitty step at a time.
• 11:14
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Don't have to do big big things, big steps at a time.
• 11:19
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We just do as best as we can.
• 11:25
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That's all we can be.
• 11:27
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's the best as we can.
• 11:30
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And if the best we can that we're doing is what we want to do, what makes us feel good, then that's what that's what I'm talking about is let's learn to live again.
• 11:50
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let's again, for for me, I know some of you are like, oh yeah, that's easy for you to say.
• 11:59
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Look, look at your organization, look at the goals, and look at the things that that you're doing.
• 12:05
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let me tell you, that this thing right here, voices for voices, is a godsend.
• 12:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I didn't know it was gonna happen.
• 12:19
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It came to me one day as an idea, and then for some reason I just kept doing it and kept finding different different ways.
• 12:31
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We've had a Voices for Voices walk before.
• 12:34
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We've had two annual events.
• 12:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We've taken the last couple years off.
• 12:40
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's been uh a lot of movement on uh a lot of different um areas, and so every year it's a little bit different.
• 12:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I like consistency, but it's not what I want.
• 13:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's what for me as a believer, it's what God wants, it's what Jesus wants for me, and so one year we may have an event and a walk or another year, or we may have none of those, and we we just may be working on our shows, our content for things to click and to come into come into perspective and into it to come together.
• 13:37
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And that's okay.
• 13:39
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I've had to accept that myself for that very reason.
• 13:43
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: This very reason.
• 13:47
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: As you know, Voices for Voices started as an event, a once-a-year event before we started with the show.
• 13:57
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so we had a couple years of events, and for one reason or another, we we haven't we haven't had an annual event.
• 14:09
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's been years where we've had awards that we've we've uh we've given out, and there's been years we we haven't.
• 14:20
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It doesn't matter to me.
• 14:23
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Again, I would like consistency, but as I sit here talking to you, as you're watching, as you're listening, that should be a little bit of a moment to look at and to go, oh wow.
• 14:45
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: The one consistency is the show, what you're watching, what you're listening to.
• 14:53
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So we do have consistency, not on every single thing, on every single level, but we do have consistency on the show.
• 15:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We've had times where the the cadence, which is which is basically fancy for saying, you know, the amount of shows we have a week was one.
• 15:25
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so we were doing fifty-two or so shows a year.
• 15:34
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And now, by the grace of God, many times, many weeks, we're doing more than one show a week, and so something clicked somewhere along the way.
• 15:58
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's been things that have been taken away from us, and we've learned to adapt.
• 16:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I think that for me, adapting, we talked we talked about this before, but not at this level.
• 16:25
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: For me, adapting is so so important.
• 16:37
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I think one of the things that I don't always do well.
• 17:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And yet we continued on.
• 18:00
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We could have taken no for an answer.
• 18:05
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We could have taken stop.
• 18:08
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We could have taken don't do it.
• 18:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: All I know is how to be myself and how to be human.
• 18:22
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And there's flaws in all of that.
• 18:26
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's so many flaws of me just being human and being myself.
• 18:39
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But I've learned and I'm still learning how to live again.
• 18:52
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's really remarkable as I take a step back of yet another accomplishment of that other kind of medium-sized goal that we just hit.
• 19:17
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And then over four hundred and forty episodes of our show.
• 19:23
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so I look at that as the positivity of growth, of helping, and just living.
• 19:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So many times seems so hard.
• 19:47
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Seems so hard.
• 19:50
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So hard to get out of bed, so hard to brush our teeth, so hard to take a shower, so hard to do.
• 19:59
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: What a lot of us would say is, oh, that's an easy task to do.
• 20:09
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But for some of us and for some of our days, it is hard to do.
• 20:15
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So we don't do them.
• 20:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We do half of them.
• 20:24
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I'm not expecting and asking every single person to think in terms of of me.
• 20:34
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Just think in terms of yourself.
• 20:36
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Are there are there days and times where you just have to take a step back?
• 20:43
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You just have to have to stop for a minute or two or a day or two.
• 20:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I know I've have and am continuing to work on myself, how I can be a better self, better person.
• 21:20
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I'll tell you what, there's not a whole lot that changes.
• 21:25
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um I'd like to think of when, let's say when we, if we're ever able to go on vacation for any amount of time, whether it's a day, two days, a week, two weeks, and we gotta have our phones next to us.
• 21:45
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Ben there done that.
• 21:48
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Have to do this, have to do that.
• 21:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I you know, can't have a break in the action of well, I I need to try to.
• 22:00
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Find a way to do a show on vacation.
• 22:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And then it's it doesn't seem like a vacation then.
• 22:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I've been there, done that.
• 22:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so there's something that what I'm working on, and I'm continuing to work on, is it's okay to take a day.
• 22:27
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: The world's gonna continue, the earth is gonna continue rotating.
• 22:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's still gonna have four hundred and forty plus shows.
• 22:43
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So to take a day or two or three or seven, it's okay.
• 22:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're living again.
• 22:58
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're not just consumed by one thing or two things or three or four or five.
• 23:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I have been.
• 23:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But it my body needs rest.
• 23:21
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Not just, well, yes, in the evening, I haven't been prioritizing my sleep and my sleep hygiene for years.
• 23:32
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's one of the big things I'm working on now.
• 23:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so if I'm just throwing numbers out, I don't uh I I I've stopped keeping track after uh the 52, you know, the one episode every week um situation when we were just all one episode a week.
• 24:03
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I just work on episodes as they come.
• 24:14
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And more times than not, that's it.
• 24:20
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: At least that was our ice machine if you heard it sound.
• 24:25
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh we at least have one show a week that comes out that we drop.
• 24:40
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so when I pass on from this earth, God's not gonna look at me and say, Oh, you did 400 and whatever amount of shows.
• 24:54
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's not gonna be that at all.
• 24:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's gonna be about how I how I was and a person.
• 25:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Did I did I help my fellow human when I had the opportunity and the ways and the means?
• 25:15
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Were you constantly learning in ways that would help others?
• 25:26
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so for me, that's that's what I'm focusing on.
• 25:31
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: For you, it may be something similar or maybe something totally different, and there's not a problem with any of those at all.
• 25:45
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So as we as we all just learn to live again, maybe you've been blessed and you you haven't had a rough a rough patch.
• 26:04
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You can hear birds too, as well, so you also know that maybe spring time is on its way.
• 26:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And part of the reason I did this show specifically about learning to live again is just that because of the birds, because of the the blue sky, because of the the sunshine that has been gone for so long.
• 26:40
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Each year, we don't have sunshine every day of the year.
• 26:47
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So the weather is kind of like a a renewal of ourselves, and that's part of why I wanted to do is do this particular show on this particular topic or these topics.
• 27:10
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Because if we're alive now and we've made it through, you know, depending on where we live, but maybe where we live it's sunny and 70 degrees every day, and uh I'm a little envious of that, a little jealous of uh of that.
• 27:35
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh but where we live, we go through all the seasons, we go through all seasons.
• 27:49
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Some are easier, some are tougher.
• 27:59
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So let yourself live.
• 28:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let yourself love.
• 28:06
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let yourself work on goals, set goals, easy goals, hard goals.
• 28:21
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And not all of them, you don't have to you don't have to write down every single goal.
• 28:25
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Some of them can be uh, you know, small, small goals where we we don't have to write them down.
• 28:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But whatever goal, whatever thing, whatever experience, whatever event you want to take part in, that you want to host, that you want to work on, do it.
• 28:53
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You can do it.
• 28:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let me be a testament.
• 29:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You go through all our catalog of episodes.
• 29:08
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I talk about myself, my diagnoses.
• 29:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I talk about hot topics, talk about pop culture, uh, talk about easy topics, we talk about hard topics.
• 29:26
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That's probably what makes us one of the top shows, and that we are continuing and have continued to put content out for the world.
• 29:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Thank you so much.
• 29:46
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're grateful, we're thankful to have you with us again.
• 29:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If you can give us big thumbs up, like, follow, subscribe, share.
• 29:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: They're free for you to do, and it helps us reach more people.
• 30:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Help us reach 300 countries, territories, provinces, help us reach 3,000 cities across the world.
• 30:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Help us help at least 3 billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 30:20
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And if you can reach out the 2550, 100 of the contacts in your phone on social media after you follow Voices for Voices, of course.
• 30:33
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: If you can reach out to those 2550, 75, 100 contacts through text, group text, uh, group chat on social media, we'd be very grateful for you to let them know about voices for voices and how raw and authentic and transparent we are.
• 31:00
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And we want to help people.
• 31:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We have helped people, and there's been times where one of those people is right here, is myself.
• 31:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So we love you.
• 31:20
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Thank you for your love and support, sending good vibes your way, whether you're a believer or not.
• 31:26
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And until next time, let's celebrate all the voices in the world and let us be a voice for not only ourselves, but somebody else that needs their needs their voice heard one way or another.
• 31:50
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Take care.
• 31:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Bye for now.