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I DISCOVERED my “girlfriend” is happily married with children…so I tracked down her husband! | Reddit Stories | EP3046 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley. And this is Dakota, your favorite
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  Speaker 1: OK Storytime host. And we've got some great stories coming up.
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  Speaker 1: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 1: the sponsors that keep the show alive. I discovered my
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  Speaker 1: girlfriend is happily married with children, so I tracked.
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  Speaker 2: Down her husband. I don't know about happily married.
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  Speaker 3: Five months ago, I, 27 Mel, met this great woman,
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  Speaker 3: 30 female, at a bar. She was with her friends
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  Speaker 3: and I bought drinks for all of them and struck
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  Speaker 3: up a conversation with her. We hit it off instantly
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  Speaker 3: and I took her home that night and had mind-blowing
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  Speaker 3: spicy sleep. She didn't stay the night, though, saying she
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  Speaker 3: had to get up for work early.
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  Speaker 4: Or she had to get her kids up for school.
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  Speaker 3: Over the next five months, we have been in an
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  Speaker 3: awesome relationship. We went on some nice dates and had
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  Speaker 3: spicy sleep at least three times a week, living the
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  Speaker 3: high life.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: She only stayed the night. Apparently, doctors say that that
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  Speaker 1: is a right amount. And if you don't have at
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  Speaker 1: least that much, you're in Hertzville, baby.
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  Speaker 3: Hertzville, baby.
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  Speaker 4: Well, that's just like for yourself.
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be like with a person.
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  Speaker 1: No. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You just got to sort yourself out.
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  Speaker 1: $ 1. 50. No.
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  Speaker 2: $ 1. 50? $ 1. 50.
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  Speaker 1: This is specifically about banging your partner.
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  Speaker 2: You have to, you have to spicy sleep three times
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  Speaker 2: a month with your partner.
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  Speaker 1: Three times a week.
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  Speaker 4: Three times a week with your partner.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently that was the, you're in a healthy relationship level.
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  Speaker 2: I thought that was for healthy. You're healthy.
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  Speaker 4: Cause you just said to be healthy.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, what if you're single?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's fair. I won't charge you another $ 1. 50 for that.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 3: Mom, Dad, it's okay. She only stayed the night very rarely,
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  Speaker 3: but I didn't think much of it as she did
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  Speaker 3: indeed have to get up early for work. Anytime I
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  Speaker 3: tried to suggest possibly living together, she said she wasn't
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  Speaker 3: ready for that yet. Understandable, we did hang out at
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  Speaker 3: her place a few times, but just like her staying
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  Speaker 3: the night, it was very rare. I just chalked this
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  Speaker 3: up for her feeling more comfortable at my apartment since
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  Speaker 3: it was cozier. Silly effing me to not question why
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  Speaker 3: an apparently single woman lived in a big house. Come on. Man,
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  Speaker 3: now you're being misogynistic.
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  Speaker 4: It's like single woman couldn't have big house.
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  Speaker 3: Man must provide big house.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she must be cheating on me because she have
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  Speaker 2: a big house. You were right this time.
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  Speaker 1: Damn you, misogyny. You win for now.
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  Speaker 2: You win one point for you.
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  Speaker 3: I have Facebook, but I don't use it or any
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  Speaker 3: other social media. I think it's a waste of time.
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  Speaker 3: And she told me she doesn't use it either. Well,
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  Speaker 3: last week, I decided to mess around on Facebook for
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  Speaker 3: a bit and found her profile seeing as we have
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  Speaker 3: two mutual friends. Really just acquaintances for me. It's where
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  Speaker 3: it gets weird. Her name was totally different from what
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  Speaker 3: I had known her as. She's seemingly in a happily
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  Speaker 3: married relationship and has two kids around the ages of
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  Speaker 3: six and three.
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  Speaker 2: What? Six and three?
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  Speaker 3: She posts a ton of her pictures and her husband
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  Speaker 3: doing all sorts of couple-y stuff. So I doubt they're
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  Speaker 3: separated or going through a divorce.
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  Speaker 1: Might be her twin.
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  Speaker 2: It could be her twin with her same name.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's a totally different name.
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 3: It's a totally different name. Like her Facebook over here
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  Speaker 3: is totally different than her actual Facebook.
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  Speaker 4: It says that?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, it could be a twin.
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  Speaker 3: Her name was totally different from what I had known
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  Speaker 3: her as.
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  Speaker 4: Or she could be a liar, liar, pants on fire.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Other Man Problems, and
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  Speaker 3: if you want to smear your own stories, go to
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  Speaker 3: the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: And we as a group is going to read this
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  Speaker 3: story goofily. If you have anything you'd like to add,
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  Speaker 3: please add it down below. Opie says, She has never
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  Speaker 3: told me any of this. I figured out pretty quickly
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  Speaker 3: that I was the other man, and honestly, I feel
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  Speaker 3: physically ill knowing that.
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  Speaker 2: Bummer.
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  Speaker 3: More single women in America own their houses than single men.
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  Speaker 3: Loaf of milk.
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  Speaker 1: Yes queens because those men are paying alimony and child
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  Speaker 1: support yeah that's that must.
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  Speaker 2: Be it sorry it's misogyny it's misogyny 2 2.0 hour.
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  Speaker 3: So alissa says one or three times is normal for
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  Speaker 3: me and my husband mama kitty says once a year
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  Speaker 3: is normal for us everyone tell us how often you
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  Speaker 3: have this once a year special occasion you know all
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  Speaker 3: that happens once a year exactly what about the easter
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  Speaker 3: bunny I have visceral hatred for cheaters, and I just
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  Speaker 3: feel gross that I've done this. I feel so stupid
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  Speaker 3: that I never figured this out earlier.
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  Speaker 2: Not on you.
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  Speaker 3: Either I'm just an idiot or she hid this masterfully.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe both.
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  Speaker 3: She's never once mentioned being married with children, saying that
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  Speaker 3: she was single.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you don't go looking for people to be cheaters.
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  Speaker 2: Most people don't. No.
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  Speaker 3: Even when I went to her house, I didn't see
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  Speaker 3: any family pictures or any traces of her family. This
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  Speaker 3: witch actually made the effort to hide any indications that
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  Speaker 3: she was married and had kids. I feel sick just
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  Speaker 3: typing this. I haven't contacted her since I found out.
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  Speaker 3: With the excuse, I need to focus on my job
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  Speaker 3: for a bit. She was cool with it and still
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  Speaker 3: sends me some spicy pics and spicy texts and how
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  Speaker 3: eager she is to see me again.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, and now you have all the things that you
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  Speaker 2: need to send to her husband and say hello. Sorry
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  Speaker 2: to tell you the bad news.
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  Speaker 3: I only responded half-heartedly, but only to stop her from
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  Speaker 3: getting suspicious. Gosh, I feel nauseous. I'm going to tell
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  Speaker 3: her husband. This is just so wrong and it hurts
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  Speaker 3: me to know that this man is being deceived by
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  Speaker 3: his terrible wife. This hits close to home since my
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  Speaker 3: aunt pulled this crap on my uncle and he is
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  Speaker 3: the kindest man alive. Well, you know what?
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  Speaker 4: I really like OP though.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: Because we read a lot of stories where people are like,
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  Speaker 4: should I tell them?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I don't really want to tell them. OP's just like, nah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I'm telling her husband.
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  Speaker 3: Because sometimes if people have the option to cheat, they'll
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  Speaker 3: just do it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Real quick side.
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: There's this episode, or there's this YouTuber that'll get people
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  Speaker 3: together and say, hey, do you mind if I test
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  Speaker 3: your partner real quick?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So they get like two girls. Did you know her boyfriend?
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  Speaker 3: Can you call her boyfriend?
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  Speaker 2: Seen these.
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  Speaker 3: And ask her, will you come and have Netflix and
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  Speaker 3: chill with me?
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: And dude, it just crumbles right in front of them.
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  Speaker 2: It crumbles.
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  Speaker 3: And they do it. They're like, yeah, I'll swing by
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  Speaker 3: later tonight.
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  Speaker 2: And they make it happen.
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  Speaker 1: That guy's doing the Lord's work.
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  Speaker 3: He is.
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  Speaker 1: Setting free the young man.
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  Speaker 4: The opposite too.
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  Speaker 1: No, there's no women.
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 1: No, it's just for men. It's just the men being betrayed.
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  Speaker 1: It's like I said, it's misogyny hour on the OK
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  Speaker 1: Storytime podcast.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, it's the men doing the bad things.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, and that's deep fake. That's fake. Yeah, I know
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  Speaker 1: that guy. It's all generated. It's fine.
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  Speaker 2: Deep fake.
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  Speaker 3: Thankfully, I have a habit of not deleting any texts manually,
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  Speaker 3: so I still have the majority of her texts. I
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  Speaker 3: screenshotted everything so I could show them to her husband.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if proof of infidelity will help him out,
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  Speaker 3: but I feel like it's the least I can do.
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  Speaker 3: I'm still sickened that she could lie to her family
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  Speaker 3: like this, so I hope she gets what's coming for her.
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  Speaker 3: Some of you might suggest that he has a spicy
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  Speaker 3: preference or fetish, or maybe they have an open relationship
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  Speaker 3: or some garbage like that. Really? What are the chances? Besides,
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  Speaker 3: if he really had a fetish, I'm sure she would
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  Speaker 3: have either mentioned it or took pics and videos of
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  Speaker 3: us having spicy sleep so she could show it to
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  Speaker 3: him or maybe even have a spicy sleep in his presence.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, if yeah, like any of that could be true,
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  Speaker 2: but you would find out really quickly when you ask him.
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  Speaker 3: And if they were in an open relationship, I'm certain
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  Speaker 3: she would have told me that. No, I'm pretty sure
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  Speaker 3: she's cheating on her husband. So what should I do?
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  Speaker 3: Should I try and request to meet up online? Or
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  Speaker 3: should I try and find him in person? To those
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  Speaker 3: of you who might recommend telling her, either you tell
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  Speaker 3: him or I will. Heck, effing no. I'm not going
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  Speaker 3: to give her an opportunity to weave some BS tale
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  Speaker 3: of how she had an emotional affair with me in
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  Speaker 3: some moment of weakness or some crap. And to those
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  Speaker 3: of you who champion breaking up with her and just
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  Speaker 3: staying out of it entirely, go F off. I'm not
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  Speaker 3: going to let her continue to lie and betray him
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  Speaker 3: under the excuse that it's not my problem anymore. I'm
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  Speaker 3: not a crappy person. I won't give her a free
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  Speaker 3: pass for cheating.
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  Speaker 4: Good on you, OP.
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  Speaker 1: I like this.
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  Speaker 4: OP's like, I stand on business.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to call her out on this.
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  Speaker 3: So the first thing that comes to my mind is
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  Speaker 3: if she has a house and there's no pictures up
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  Speaker 3: of her family.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Is it an Airbnb?
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 3: She renting out an Airbnb because one guy would get
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  Speaker 3: an Airbnb for the weekend.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, good question.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Like he's been to the house. Good point.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, the kids are gone with my husband. Let me
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  Speaker 3: go change every single photo in my house.
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  Speaker 4: Also like six and three, you would notice that she
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  Speaker 4: had kids.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, yes.
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  Speaker 3: There's toys everywhere.
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  Speaker 2: Everywhere.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, I think you're on it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I bet you did get an Airbnb.
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  Speaker 1: I think she's got a rental.
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  Speaker 3: Dakota, do you like how he wants to meet up
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  Speaker 3: with the husband in person?
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  Speaker 1: I do. In person?
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  Speaker 2: I don't think we need to do all that. I
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  Speaker 2: think we just send like the proof and then we
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  Speaker 2: leave it to him.
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  Speaker 1: You're in deep.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think it'd be better over email though? I
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  Speaker 3: think it's better over email.
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  Speaker 1: What do you guys think?
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  Speaker 2: Chat?
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  Speaker 4: I think OP doesn't need to be more into this,
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  Speaker 4: you know, safety wise.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think he's a big, strong man. He can
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  Speaker 1: defend himself.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. Imagine someone outside over there and they
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  Speaker 3: meet you in the parking lot and say, hey, Dakota,
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  Speaker 3: real quick, I got to tell you something.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Like face to face. Isn't that like, I'd rather get
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  Speaker 3: it just DM me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm scared.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not meeting anyone out in the parking lot.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you're right. But I like it. Either way, I
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  Speaker 1: like it.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it's more interesting.
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  Speaker 3: It is more interesting.
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  Speaker 1: I think you kind of have to, like, I need
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  Speaker 1: to just to get it off my chest. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: I thought this was my girlfriend. She's your wife and
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  Speaker 1: you have two kids. I had to tell you so
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  Speaker 1: you could see me with your eyes.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we're eating croissants, drinking our tea.
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  Speaker 3: Where would you invite him out to, though?
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  Speaker 2: Coffee shop.
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  Speaker 3: In a coffee shop?
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  Speaker 2: Croissants and tea.
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  Speaker 3: Wouldn't you think this is more of a dive bar conversation?
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  Speaker 2: No, my God. He just like drinks afterwards.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, my wife. This is a, you know what?
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  Speaker 1: This is a Joe's Crab Shack type situation.
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  Speaker 2: Crazy.
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  Speaker 3: Come on.
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  Speaker 4: I've never been to.
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  Speaker 1: Joe's Crab Shack.
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  Speaker 3: At a coffee shop and you're seeing two men. I
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  Speaker 3: could see like two women like doing it at a
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  Speaker 3: coffee shop.
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  Speaker 2: You've never been to a coffee shop with another man?
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 3: I don't, I don't like talking to men.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, dude. Didn't you know Riley's straight, Sophia?
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  Speaker 4: He doesn't talk to other men or drink coffee with them.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to tell John.
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  Speaker 3: Because me and Mike are going to hit up three
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  Speaker 3: open mics tonight later. I got to open mics.
• 10:21
  Speaker 2: You need an open mic.
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  Speaker 3: I will open mic.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my.
• 10:26
  Speaker 3: We have an update three days later.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, boy.
• 10:29
  Speaker 3: Predictions go.
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  Speaker 2: Break up.
• 10:32
  Speaker 4: Everyone breaks up.
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  Speaker 3: Well, he's already breaking up, but what do you think
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  Speaker 3: will happen?
• 10:35
  Speaker 2: Everyone breaks up. He tells the husband. The husband goes,
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  Speaker 2: turns into a dinosaur.
• 10:42
  Speaker 3: Animorphs into a dinosaur, right?
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: Dinomorph. Dinomorph. I can't really comment. I saw the first sentence, so. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Something happens. Dr.
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  Speaker 3: Katie says, but like some people share social media access.
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  Speaker 3: What if he sends it and she intercepts it in person?
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  Speaker 3: Make sure that the information gets to him. But I'm
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  Speaker 3: just afraid he's going to get hit in the face
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  Speaker 3: or something.
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  Speaker 2: Me too, man.
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  Speaker 4: Or get eaten by a dinosaur.
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  Speaker 3: There are options out there.
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  Speaker 2: You never know.
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  Speaker 3: I would prefer someone to find me in person. I've
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  Speaker 3: gotten like 1,200 unread text messages and don't answer calls.
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  Speaker 3: What about meeting at a pub? That's the same as
• 11:15
  Speaker 3: a bar. Here we go, update. Three days later, currently
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  Speaker 3: typing this from my hospital bed because he beat the
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  Speaker 3: crap out of me?
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  Speaker 2: You freaking liar.
• 11:23
  Speaker 1: Just kidding. You got us. You know they're besties now.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, he's like, ah, he's sitting right next to me
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  Speaker 4: while I type this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we're actually planning a camping trip next month.
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  Speaker 4: We're actually going to go get coffee.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to meet the kids.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm their new father.
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  Speaker 3: Some posters tried to tell me not to tell him,
• 11:40
  Speaker 3: but F that. Most of you told me to go
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  Speaker 3: through with it, but through email slash a letter, basically
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  Speaker 3: without physical interaction. Because if she gets away with it
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  Speaker 3: now and you don't do anything, she's going to find
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  Speaker 3: someone else to put them in this situation.
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  Speaker 2: She is.
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  Speaker 1: She's going to get a new Airbnb.
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  Speaker 3: Even though it was a massive risk, I thought it
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  Speaker 3: would be better for me to explain this crap to
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  Speaker 3: him in person. So I decided to meet him. I
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  Speaker 3: called work, explaining I'd be late, and then drove over
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  Speaker 3: to his workplace around 7.20 a.m. Then I just went
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  Speaker 3: inside and waited in the lobby, watching for the door
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  Speaker 3: for him to appear. He came in around 8 a.m.,
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  Speaker 3: and immediately I walked up to him, told him by
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  Speaker 3: name I have something important to tell him, and asked
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  Speaker 3: if he could meet me after work at a nearby Starbucks.
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  Speaker 3: We did went to get coffee with him.
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  Speaker 2: Knew it.
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  Speaker 3: He was perplexed, but I convinced him that it's very
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  Speaker 3: important and told him to not tell anyone. He agreed, thankfully.
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  Speaker 3: So I went to my job and went about the
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  Speaker 3: day as usual. At 5.30, I was waiting at Starbucks
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  Speaker 3: and he came in shortly after. Then the conversation began.
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  Speaker 1: Hmm.
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  Speaker 3: I explained to him that what I was going to
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  Speaker 3: say would crush him, and I requested a chance to
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  Speaker 3: say my piece without interruption. He allowed this, so I
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: told him everything. About how I met his wife, how
• 12:53
  Speaker 3: she used a fake name, five-month affair, the link she
• 12:55
  Speaker 3: went to to conceal it, everything. For my own safety.
• 12:59
  Speaker 3: I emphasized how I didn't know she was married, how
• 13:02
  Speaker 3: I found out about her secret, and how I decided
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: to tell him as soon as I found out. I
• 13:06
  Speaker 3: then handed him a folder containing all of the screenshots.
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: He looked through all of it and then just stared
• 13:11
  Speaker 3: at his coffee in total silence for a minute or two.
• 13:14
  Speaker 2: He's just looking at his coffee, swirling.
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: Oh, I've got the perfect photo.
• 13:21
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's tough. That's tough.
• 13:23
  Speaker 3: I don't, I wouldn't even know what to say.
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: No, I mean, either. I'm like, do you want to,
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: do you want an egg bite?
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: I want to make a joke about how the minions
• 13:30
  Speaker 3: are confirmed. They didn't work for Hitler.
• 13:31
  Speaker 2: You probably could.
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: And you'd be like, They're not fooling me. I know
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: where they were.
• 13:35
  Speaker 3: He then replied, firstly thanking me for coming to him
• 13:38
  Speaker 3: with this information and for doing the right thing. He
• 13:41
  Speaker 3: said if he were in my position, he would have
• 13:43
  Speaker 3: done the same thing. Then he told me how he
• 13:45
  Speaker 3: had suspected his wife was cheating, but then his wife
• 13:48
  Speaker 3: lied to him, assuring him nothing was going on. Then
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: for the next 10 minutes, he asked questions about the affair,
• 13:54
  Speaker 3: like about the dates we went on, the spicy sleep.
• 13:56
  Speaker 3: She never did butt stuff with him, but did often
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: with me.
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, what? You told him this?
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: I think at that point you can just go, no, no,
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: we didn't. No, we didn't do that.
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: We didn't. No, bud, no.
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: The conversations we had, etc. I told him the complete truth.
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: By the end of this, he was enraged, but didn't
• 14:15
  Speaker 3: attack me or anything. Instead, he thanked me once again
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: for telling him and told me I'm a good man.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: Oh, bud.
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: He then said that although he appreciates me telling him,
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: he told me to never contact him again for obvious reasons.
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: I was totally understandable and was cool with it. We
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: got a little bit left here.
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: This is them saying goodbye.
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: When I see you again.
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, which is never.
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: That was the song that we walked to at graduation.
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: I didn't want that. I wanted friends.
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: I wanted congratulations.
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: Specifically in eighth grade.
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. Specifically eighth grade graduation. I, me and my
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: friend Isabella voted for the friends theme song. Apparently everyone
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: else was like, we want to see you again.
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: Sean Mendez. At this point, he was getting up to leave,
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: so I asked him what he plans to do. He
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: said he would definitely divorce her and that the screenshots
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: would help him out since they apparently have an infidelity
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: clause in their prenup.
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: Ayo.
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: Cheated on him in the early stages of their relationship. Oh, man.
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to do that again, girl. Come on.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: He's a prenup. He's a prenup on you.
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: I was elated to hear this, wished him the best
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: of luck, and we parted ways. Cue the picture.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: Blue eyes.
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: I paid for his coffee.
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: At least you can know.
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: F'ing his wife, yeah.
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, at least you can know.
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: You did butt stuff with his wife.
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: So there it is.
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: Thankfully, I escaped unharmed. No injuries, no wounds, nothing. I
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: deleted the cheating witch's number and cleared my phone of
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: all traces of this crap storm. I am proud of
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: what I did, and I pray that the cheating witch
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: faces harsh justice. Good night. Reddit Hero signing off.
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: Good night.
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: Thanks, Batman.
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: Sleep well.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: I will catch more cheaters out there.
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: Aw, look at you go, OP.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: We'll catch more cheaters by accidentally dating them for six months.
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: Five months, and then on the sixth, I decide to
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: tell the husband.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: And I tell him I did butt stuff with his wife.
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: Just such a total, like, just a layup of just don't,
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: just be like.
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: Why did you have to tell him that?
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, right?
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Maybe that has something to do with why he was
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: suspecting she was cheating. She's like doing a lot of,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: you know, she's cleaning herself out quite a bit. She's
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: eating a lot of fiber. You know, a lot more
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: fiber recently. Y'all doing butt stuff?
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: Doesn't make sense.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: It doesn't make sense.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: Out of all that, why did you tell him that?
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: Did he ask? He must have asked though. When you're
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: asked that, hey, while you're cheating on my wife, were
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: you doing butt stuff?
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: He goes, he goes, Opie, did you do butt stuff?
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: Did you do butt stuff.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: With my wife?
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: I'm going to be real with you.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: Tell me honest. A lot. Tell me honest.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: Three times a week.
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: Be honest.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: Every time we met.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: He was very butt centric.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: OP is a green flag.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 16:54
  Speaker 3: The second he found out, he made a plan.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: He really did. Good job, OP.
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: Some people stick with it.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Will not be made it to you, I'm sure.
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: Chad, do you know anyone that's cheated? Please let us
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: know down below. Do you guys know anyone that's cheated?
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: Like friends or?
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: Like any of your friends that have cheated on their partners? Dakota,
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: who's yours?
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I mean, nobody that y'all know, but I know somebody
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: who cheated on her fiancee. That was quite a mess.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Yikes. Yeah, I don't think I know anyone that cheated
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: on anyone else.
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: None of my friends.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: This one chick in high school, but that was... I
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: also think she got married and cheated on her husband.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: Now they're not together anymore. No more pictures of them
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: on Instagram.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: My ex on me. Lovely.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: I don't think I know anybody.
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: That's good.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Okay. Well, like a friend's friends. I know there is
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: this guy in college who I was friends with. I
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: thought we were close or not like close, close, but
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: I thought we were like, I did a show with
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: him and I found out later that he cheated on
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: his girlfriend. He was awesome. Like so nice with this
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: girl who was a terrible actor.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: That was her only trait.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: Bad actor. And he cheated on her. And also she
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: was like a lot younger than him. He cheated on her.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: And then I found this out. So I like stopped being,
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: we were supposed to hang out and just kind of stop. Like,
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, I don't know. I can't do
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: it anymore.
• 18:06
  Speaker 4: I was like, oh, I'm busy.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: I don't want to hang out with this guy.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: Because he might try to.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: Well, he did.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Because so in the brief time that I had like
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: a dating app, he tried to match with me twice.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: I said no the first time. And then somehow he
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: came back. I'm like, dude, it was so weird. I
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: was like, no, sir.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Somehow Palpatine returned.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I was bummed because he was cool until that.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: So hot.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: Hot?
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Was he hot?
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: I mean, I wasn't interested in him.
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: He was just cool?
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he was just like a cool guy. Like, I
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: saw him as like a friend.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: He was hot.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: Well, that sucks. I'm sorry, Sophia.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Apparently he was interested in me so much that
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: he tried to match with me twice. It wasn't even
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: a friend group. Someone said Sophia was likely working his
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: way through the friend group. It wasn't a friend group.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: This was like our entire theater, like the major. It
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: was like all of the people in the major. Yeah,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: I just did a play with him and then he
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: hooked up with like this other girl in a different play.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: A stranger texted me weeks before my wedding claiming he's
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: my fiance's boyfriend.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: That's complicated.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: Hi, I need to know if I'm right to be
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: losing it right now. My fiance and I are due
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: to get married in less than two months. We met
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: each other at a mutual's wedding. The wedding was gender segregated,
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: so she and her mom had met my mom, who
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: then introduced us later.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: Isn't that all weddings?
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: No, like in some cultures, they will have like a
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: women's area and a men's area, which don't interact during
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: the wedding.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. Fun. And this guy, he doesn't have a wingman,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: he has a wingmom.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, good job, mom.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: We then went out for a couple of months where
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: I'd pick her up from her place. She lived with
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: her parents and we'd have dinner and a movie or
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: go painting or the lake. We'd go to the lake, blah, blah, blah.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: We're both Muslim immigrants. family so it was understood that
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: we had to stay within some boundaries but we genuinely
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: really liked each other She was the one who at
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: one point said we could bring our kids here one
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: day and told me she was going to tell her
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: parents she wanted to marry me and that she wanted
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: to say yes to my proposal.
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: Aww.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: Aww at the lake. It's so cute.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: We'll take our kids to the lake and it'll be
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: so nice.
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: Painting this beautiful picture.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: And nothing bad will ever happen. We got engaged at
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: a low-key family event in February.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: It is relevant to mention that during that time, I
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: had respectfully asked her about her past relationships. I said
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: that I know it's personal and there's absolutely no judgment
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: from me. But as someone who, despite not being a
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: great Muslim in a lot of respects, did abstain and
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: save myself for marriage, I would like a partner who
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: has done the same. It was a compatibility thing and
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: not a judgmental thing. She didn't seem to mind and
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: said no. She hadn't been with anyone, and I believed her.
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: And I believe this story comes from FeelLikeAnIdiot0. If you
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: slash OKStoryTime subreddit. OP says, Since then, the wedding prep
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: has been in full swing, and the two of us
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: have gotten the chance to get closer. She's the one
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: who's made more of the effort in our communication, because unfortunately,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I work from home with an employer in the morning.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: and have my cybersecurity business too, so time can be scarce.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: Our only argument has been her complaint that I don't
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: make enough time for us. Some guy, claiming to be
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: her boyfriend, texted me last night.
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: Oh, wait, that's where she's been spending her time.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: I guess, yeah. When she's not with you, she's with
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: boyfriend too.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: Sorry, I want to make a joke. Do it. I
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: feel like it might be a little, not like racy,
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: but like that it's Muslim is named Muhammad.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: Everyone? Not everyone.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: I think that is the rule.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: For like the guys, most Muslim men are named Muhammad.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: So it's Muhammad one you're marrying and Muhammad two is
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: your boyfriend. That was the joke.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: There's Muhammad and then there's mad.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: They combine. That's the guy that she told you not
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: to worry about.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: And even sent me pictures where they're together. He claimed
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: they were in a relationship for the last two years,
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: that they have been having the spicy sleep, and that
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: they were in love, and I've.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: Been losing my mind. Did you ask if they did
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: butt stuff too?
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: It's an important question to ask.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: You never know.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: That's why they call it the loophole. Trademark. I never
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: put any pressure on her. Yes, I really liked her,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: but I let her make decisions at her own pace.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: If she wanted to be with some other guy, all
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: she had to do was say so. In fact, it
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: was none of my business. She didn't even owe me
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: any reasons. Just a straight no would be fine. I
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: haven't picked up her call this morning. I've genuinely been
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: feeling sick at the duplicity.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: Advice, please.
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: Yes, what does duplicity mean?
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: Uh, lying.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: He's been deceived.
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: Duplication, like she was dating me and then also dating
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: someone else, so it's like dating two people.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: It's trickery. I mean, yeah, that is duplicitous to date
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: two people.
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: Multifaceted. Or multi, um, what's the word?
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Not multifaceted. Multi.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Like that one dude in Harry Potter.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: One face lies, the other tells the truth.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: We have the texts.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: Oh, man.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: Oh, of them going back and forth?
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Uh, yeah, of the guy who texted. Let's, uh.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: Oh, boy.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: Let's see what's going on here.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: 12.05 a.m. Guy. Is this Abby's fiance? 12.14 a.m. O.P.
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: Who are you?
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: 12.15 a.m. Guy. Are you Abby's fiance? 12.18. Guy. Question mark. 12.19. Guy.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I'm her boyfriend, so you can't marry her. 12.20. Please
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: tell her and her family you're not interested. Abby has
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: been my girlfriend for two years. She only wants to
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: be with me. We have been dating for the past
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: two years in secret. We have been having spicy sleep
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: at my place for the past two years.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go out on a limb and say
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: this guy's lying to you.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: It might not be legit.
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: Might be someone he has a crush on.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Or it could be like her family and they don't
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: like you or something.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: I don't know. It could be anything.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: But this is so not real.
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: But this is fake.
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: Scam call. Scam text.
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: I don't think he said it enough.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: So this is just back to back text from 1215
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: to now 1223 with no response. And he just keeps
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: sending more.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: He continues, she didn't tell you? Well, she'll deny if
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: you ask her. And then he sends photos of a
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: seemingly close couple redacted by OP. Uh, OP says, who
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: are you? What's your name? The guy says, tell her
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: and her family you're not interested, please, and end it.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Guy says, Sam. Ask her face to face about Sam,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you'll know.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: Just said don't ask her. Was it actually a couple
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: of you guys or just a random photo?
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, or was it just like generated, right? Because
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: that can be done now very easily. Were there any
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: watermarks at the bottom.
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: Right of the photo?
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: How many fingers did they have?
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: The guy sends a double question mark. The guy says, look,
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: you seem like a good guy. You'll find someone better.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Me and Abby love each other. Again, she's only marrying
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: you because her family wants that question mark, question mark.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: OP says, how did you get my number? Guy says,
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Abby gave it.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Abby gave what?
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, very likely.
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: Why would she do that?
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: What is happening?
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: What is going on right now?
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: Someone is an entire bottle deep and they are trying
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: to blow up your wedding.
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, honestly.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: Guy says, even if you marry her, we'll still see
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: each other. I don't want to hurt you like that.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: You seem like a good guy. The sooner you end it,
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: the less drama there will be. 10 minutes later, question mark,
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: question mark. 1.10 in the morning, guys has, look, bro,
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: I get this is tough, but ask her face to face.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: You'll know from her face. Question mark. Now 2 a.m. Look,
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: I have more photos, but you understand. I don't want
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: to share because as someone who loves her, I don't
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: want to have another guy see those private, intimate pictures
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: of us.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, so I was wrong.
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: This is her boyfriend. Yeah, same movie.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Wrong, wrong guy.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: I know exactly. Remember that dynamic in the movie?
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yes.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: No, that's perfect, Sophia. Are we just reading Megamind?
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: We're just reading Megamind.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: And he didn't get powers. He got injected with something
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: that makes him very stupid.
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: Basically.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Got injected with stupid juice. We got an update. Clearly,
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: this is the fakest thing.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: I would bring this up to my fiance. Hey, you
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: know a guy named Sam? Ring a manny bells?
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I guess, but I wouldn't even go with
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: the trickery first. I'd go, hey, I got these really
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: weird messages. This guy is saying he's in love with you.
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: So if you got texts like messages like this, you
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: wouldn't believe them?
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: If they were like that, I don't know. That was,
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: that's insane. That feels like such a scam. It feels
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: like a guy who wants that to be true and
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: is saying this so that I'll break up with her
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: and then he can be like, I am your boyfriend.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: I'll be your husband.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: I see. I just want to see that photo. You
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: could have blurred your fiance's face out and kept his.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: I just want to see what it looks like.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah. This is mega meth? Yeah, he zapped up on something, dude.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: He texted you nonstop for two hours in the middle
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: of the night.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: Yikes, dude.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: What?
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: It's got to be fake. Sophia, do you think it's fake?
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I think it's really fake.
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: I feel like there's some truth behind it. I don't
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: know why.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: Who's it coming from? Is it coming from within the
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: family or is it coming from another love interest?
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: I thought love interest.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: Coming from another love interest and it's real.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: Or ex-boyfriend. Maybe this is an ex. Mm-hmm. This is
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: X territory.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: I don't know why, but I feel like it's 30% true.
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: Enough to do some investigating. Enough to do investigating. That's
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: where I'm at. You have to investigate it.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: Let's see what path OP chooses here.
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: Would you investigate it?
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I'd talk to my partner about it
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: for sure.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: Okay, okay.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: Update. A lot of people asked for an update, so
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I thought I'd give one. I can't talk about it
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: with anyone else because somehow I'm the one who ended
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: up responsible for keeping her secret. My own crisis be damned. Oh.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I asked her if she knew who Sam was and
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: he was right. I could immediately tell the guy wasn't lying.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: She definitely knew. She said he was a guy she
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: used to know, and I told her he had contacted
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: me and showed her the texts. She said he was lying,
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: that she ended things with him before we met, and
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: that they'd never had spicy sleep. I asked if there
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: was any overlap between our relationships, and she said only
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: when she went to meet him one last time to
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: tell him it was over because he wasn't taking note
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: for an answer.
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: I believe her.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: So now this is an ex that's a stalker now.
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: Well, that's what I thought. I thought it was like
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: an ex-stalker.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: I'm on that train as well.
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: Egg stalker.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah. This is like, and that's why it was also
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: middle of the night.
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Like frantic, repetitive text messages because he's inebriated on something
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: and he's like, this is my master plan. This is
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: how I'm going to get her back.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: It's adding up.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: I asked if the photos were real and they were.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: I asked her to be honest with me. Did she
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: really have spicy sleep with him? Like he was saying.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: She was crying and swearing they didn't, that they were intimate,
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: and she regrets everything with him, but they didn't. She
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: gave me her phone and basically forced me to confirm
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: that there were no recent messages between them while we've
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: been together. His number was in her blocked list. She
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: asked me to block his number, and so I asked
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: if he was being honest about having way more intimate pictures.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: She said there were a lot more compromising pictures of
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: her that she thinks he has, but swore that they
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: hadn't had the spicy time. She was crying and I
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: blocked him in that moment. What else could I do
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: looking at her? She was pleading with me not to
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: reach out to him, freaking out that he'd post them
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: somewhere public before our wedding. I was trying to keep
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: her calm. I told her that would be illegal and
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: he wouldn't do that. And so in the moment, I
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: just stupidly promised not to contact him. I told her
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: that if there's any kind of pressure, there's any number
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: of excuses she could use regarding me to end this.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: That would save face for everyone, and she could be
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: with whoever, and I'll get over it eventually. Yeah, I'll
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: be sad for a while, and we'll have lost some money,
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: especially if the venue doesn't get rebooked at short notice,
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: but just have some mercy on both of us and
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: end this now. She swore there was no pressure, that
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: she had been counting the days until the wedding, and
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: that she hadn't even thought of his name until I
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: brought it up. She kept saying he's doing this to
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: prevent our Does he though? Does he really? I think
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: I can see pretty clearly what's going on What's going on?
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: I think she's telling the truth about not being with
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: him Yeah I don't know if she's telling the truth
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: about not doing the spicy tango.
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: Ah, because I would end her relationship with him.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: That's important to Opie.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: Everybody has their thoughts and feelings about that, but yeah,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: that's a tough one. You gonna blow up your marriage now?
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: Married and then tell him or just tell him right now? Yeah. Also,
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: we don't know how long they've been.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: Together, do we?
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: We don't have an exact timeline, but it seems like
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: it's been relatively soon, like relatively recent. Yeah.
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: It feels like less than a year or around a year.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I think so. Probably less.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: That's a tough one too. Cause they're not something, the
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: sunk cost fallacy doesn't come into it. Well, it's, I mean,
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: like if my girlfriend said I was dead on, Hey,
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: you can't have spicy sleep before you met me. And
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: she said she didn't. And then we date for three years.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: And then she said she did. Okay. We can still
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: get married.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: There's an amount of time that that goes.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: It seems like it hasn't hit that time for him.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: This guy is pretty set on it. Cause he's like,
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: I did it. I need my partner to Makes sense. Okay,
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: I really wouldn't have cared if I'd learned all this
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: yesterday from her. Yeah, it would have meant she lied initially,
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: but we loved each other beyond that stuff, and this
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: was just her being okay with keeping me in a
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: forever lie, which was wrong. I started feeling sick, so
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: I just said I wasn't feeling well, and we cut
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: it short. During the drive back to her place, she
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: was almost talking like a coach, saying, Let's please forget
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: about this. We're so happy together. We've discussed so many plans.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: Don't let him screw up our relationship. She kept asking
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: me whether I was fine, and I said I was,
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: though I don't even know if that's a lie. I
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: wasn't thinking at all. What will happen next? The finale's
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: coming up.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: Hey, this is Riley, the new Californian here. We're going
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: to get back to these stories, but here's three minutes
• 31:30
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• 31:32
  Speaker 1: I think he breaks it off. Yeah, and I think
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: that's silly.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: I agree. Unless I've been completely bamboozled, I don't think
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: she's lying about not having... I don't think she has cheated.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I think the text guy is lying.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I don't think there's cheating. I just think
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: she probably lied about whether or not she's done the dirty.
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: I think that is more possible, yeah.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: And, you know... Every day you wake up, you're a
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: brand new person. So you know what?
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: Who's to say?
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: Who's to say? Maybe she's never done it because she
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: hasn't done it the way she is right now.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: Well, everything you do have in your house, one day
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: you decided to take it into your house.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: Unless it was put there by someone else.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: Well, then someone one day decided to put it in there.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: That is true.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: Think about that today.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I will actually. I will think about that.
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: One day you decided to bring that to your house
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: and it's been there since.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: I think that's strangely poetic about this story. Okay, well,
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: let's just let's finish it. I've been going over the
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: texts and I don't know how I can go into
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: the wedding not knowing the answer. It's so easily doable.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: I just need to ask him to meet up and
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: have one conversation if he would. Honestly, it's more about
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: whether she's still lying. It's not about the spicy sleep.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: It's about the trust. I know he's also lied because
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: she clearly hasn't been meeting with him of late and
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: she really hadn't given me any reason to think of
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: her as a liar this far. It's sincerely about the
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: respect of having been honest and not about the boundary itself.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: But it feels sick to contact him like that and
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: I don't want to have to talk to someone who'd
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: speak the way he was. I think I'll decide by
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: myself tomorrow morning about the future of our relationship. My
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: mind is not going to work today. I probably won't
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: give further updates. I don't know how much more help
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: I can ask for here due to some immigrant cultural
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: context that might be missing. I don't want to be stupid,
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: but I don't want to be walked over either. Thanks.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: My friend, is there an update?
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, there's a bunch of comments that weren't included.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, what else you got?
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: They took out like all of the comments.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: I just want to know if he like stuck with
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: it or not. She seems like a nice girl.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: You know, when you're talking about something like, hey, I
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: have never slept with anybody and I don't want to
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: date somebody who has. Have you done that? If it's
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: not like the first date and you've like connected with them,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: it makes sense that you go.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: I just hit my elbow.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: Because it's like, I don't know.
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: It's a hard question to ask. Hard thing to do.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: But I mean, it's a part of his culture, part
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: of something he... He wants to stick with Christians and everything.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: That's a big thing, too, is saving yourself until marriage.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: And if that's super important to you, that's super important
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: to you. But if you've got a cool chick who's
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: a baddie, awesome and hot, you've got to make some compromises.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: If it is really good, if everything's been great, like,
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: is this worth maybe never having that again?
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: You know what he didn't say? He didn't say, oh,
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: this is my love of my life. Oh, this is
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: someone I can spend forever with. It just seems like
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: it's an option, and he can get another option if
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: he wants. That's kind of the vibe I'm.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Getting with this story. He did get wing-mommed. This was
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: a mom-mager. Mommy manager.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: That is true.
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: But I guess it went well.
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: Uh, Sophia, find any relevant information?
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't, you don't need to read it. Basically,
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: it was just like comments asking him more specifics. He
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: said that he put the pictures into like an AI
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: detector and he got one that was like 2% and
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: then one that was like 30% AI. I don't think
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: he really knows. And then the other thing was that
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: he decided that he was not going to go see
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: the guy.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's, that was the dumbest idea that you could
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: have possibly had.
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: BS'd on your throat.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: He was going to shove it down there like Cersei
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: the witch.
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: He just said, I'm going to try and see and
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: work through this in my mind.
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: That's it?
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: What?
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: Nothing else on his profile?
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: Keeping that locked up.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: We got pictures of the text messages, but we don't
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: need to see those. Yeah, every Swamp Mystic. Okay, maybe
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: this guy sounds like he could have been harmful, if
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: not outright dangerous. S. Anger? Oh, it could be that
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: kind of situation. There's a possibility she seems like a
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: nice girl. How do you actually feel about her is
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: the biggest question, OP. Do you love her more, more
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: than the obstacles that come in between you guys? Yeah,
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: I think that's all the information we have.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: Eight days ago. Eight days?
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: Wow. Freshie.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: I remember what happened last week.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: That hurts. What happened last week?
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: Oh, I just remember my life last week. Sometimes we
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: get an update and it's like four months ago and
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: it's like, I don't remember what happened four months ago.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: Eight days ago?
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was there. I can remember.
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: I was like, Riley, what happened last week?
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: What happened?
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: Do you remember?
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: Last Tuesday, I didn't have a basketball game and I
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: was peeved. And we went to John's birthday dinner.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: Oh, wow.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: That was last week? That was eight days ago. That's crazy.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: Almost August. What happened in June and July?
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. June, July. Dropped something. Shoot. What
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: was that? I had something in my noodle and it's gone.
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: He's noodling.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: I'm noodled out.
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: He doesn't seem to trust her anymore. And trust is
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: the main ingredient in a relationship. That is what we're
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: seeing too, Ming Ming.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: So that story. Oh, he found it.
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this story reminds me of the drama.
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: I watched it.
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: No spoilers. I will watch it. I will watch it.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: So no spoilers.
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: I had a very interesting conversation with Angie about it.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: What would you do?
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: No, don't say.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Just with a yes or no. I think I would too.
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: Even my girlfriend herself, yeah.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: We live in the present, right?
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: She was a better person.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: We're all different people every day.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: I don't want to know. I don't want to know.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: My family's money made my boyfriend insecure, and he's determined
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: to prove himself. He's going to heist your family's fortune.
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: My family is fairly wealthy. We're not insanely rich or anything,
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: but there's enough money for our family to live very
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: comfortably for the next couple of generations without working.
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: That's extremely wealthy.
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: Next, sorry, next couple of generations?
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's, that's, that's really.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: You have a hundred plus years of wealth.
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: Uh, we're not upper, upper class. We're upper middle-ish upper class.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: We're not the 1% of the 1%, but we're just
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: in the 1%.
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: We're up there.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: This is OP.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: You think he's rich?
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: Love that movie.
• 37:14
  Speaker 4: I'd love that movie too.
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: I try to make sure that my family's money does
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: not affect who I am or my relationships. Because of this,
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: I usually try to hide my financial situation until I'm
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: extremely close with someone. When I, 28 female, told my
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: current boyfriend, 30 male, about it, he told me that
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: he was really intimidated. How many zeros have to be
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: in your partner's bank account for you to be intimidated?
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, none.
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: Six.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I'm not intimidated. I'm like, hey, party time.
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: Six figures. And I'm like, not like scared, but like, oh,
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: you're good.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: I think for me, it's it's less of the number
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: and more of like the vibe of the family unit.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Are they like the old money type or like, oh, yeah, quite.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: I guess I'm only intimidated if they're going to treat
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: me like I'm poor. Really?
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: If you don't see six figures in your partner's savings account,
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: you're not going to be like, whoa. I mean, I'd
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: be like that too, but I'd be like, I didn't
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: even know this about you.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like, wow, dinner on you.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: I was paying this whole time.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: I did have that moment low key when I found
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: out my girlfriend made more than me. I was like.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you pay for everything. The whole time?
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: Things were a little weird after that, but we eventually
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: got back to where we were before. Even though I
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: thought he had accepted my family money, he did change
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: his entire approach to our relationship. Instead of buying me
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: jewelry or clothes, he would plan those spontaneous romantic gestures.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: I think He didn't see the point in showing me
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: his love with money, so he decided to commit time
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: and effort instead. I love that.
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: I love that. Oh, okay. I also love that.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: That's so sweet.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: He's like, well, why would I buy you all this
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: stuff that you could probably just buy yourself when I
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: could spend more time doing stuff that you would appreciate more?
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: Let me make you a custom game.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Everyone loved this.
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: Dude, we had a Fallout reference earlier. You missed it.
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: Someone made a quantum bottle lamp for their... Bought it
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: for their.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: Oh, man.
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: The snowman never set it up and it melted in
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: the box, in the packaging box.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Oh, it melted?
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because it was in the sun.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is neglect.
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: Things got more complicated after he met my parents. We
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: stayed at my parents' beach house for four days.
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: Oh, Richie Rich!
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Beach house! Richie Rich! Beach house!
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: If you don't know, get yourself a friend with a
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: beach house.
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: Are we the friends with a beach house?
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: I'm going to Lake House.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: I guess we almost are.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're close enough to the beach.
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: Close enough, and I've never gone there from here a
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: day in my life.
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: It's a good time.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: I mean, this is not the beach that I would
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: go to if I wanted a beach day.
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: All of a sudden, this smart, confident guy became insanely
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: shy and awkward. By the way, this comes from Hate
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: Social Classes, and if you want to submit your own stories,
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. He commented
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: on the size of our house, my dad's car, even
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: my younger brother's comic book collection. I was a little
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: annoyed because I really wanted him to bond with my parents,
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: but he kept on acting like a scared little kid.
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: After I expressed my concern to him, he told me
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: that he was afraid my parents would think he wasn't
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: good enough for me. Makes sense. I was dating a
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: girl that had middle class money. Her parents would think
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: they were good enough for me. I was good enough
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: for her.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's, yeah, that's the eternal struggle. Anyone dating
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: seriously is like, oh God, the parents, they must like me.
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: I cook for them, so they have to like me.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: I think my boyfriend's parents like me.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: I think your boyfriend's parents like me too.
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: Aw.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: I made them laugh.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: I like your boyfriend.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Really quick. We were looking through a box to find something,
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: and he pulled out a Yale sweater. And he was like, oh,
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: do you want this? I don't think it'll fit Dakota.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: What kind of box?
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: I'll make it fit. He'll crop it.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: What do you mean by that?
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: What kind of box?
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: Like a box of clothes.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: Sure.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: What?
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: Anyone's box in particular?
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we were looking through my box.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Whoa, I thought it was just Harvard sweaters we had
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: in there.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: I bought a Yale sweater. We found a.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: Yale sweater in there.
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: I get so frustrated when I think about how insecure
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: he is about money. Regardless of what he thinks, my
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: parents loved him. He went to a good college, has
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: a PhD, makes $ 200K a year, and treats me like
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: a princess.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: Dude! She's gotta be rich.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: Nine figures.
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: She's gotta be so rich.
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: It is probably nine figures.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: Nine figures. Yeah.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: He's insecure with $ 200, 000?
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: You're doing great. What are you even talking about?
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: I guess we did find the number of zeros is nine.
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: He's funny and charming when he's not insecure and incredibly sweet.
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: I'm completely in love with him, but I don't know
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: how I can get him to move past my family's finances. Anyways,
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: this is the current problem at hand. That stuff, it
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: feels like a TV episode, honestly.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is very sitcom plotline coded for sure.
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, snap out of it!
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: OP, I think you might be falling prey to your own, like,
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: you know, greatest fear. You're like, I don't want the
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: money to dictate how I act, but it's like, in
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: a way, you kind of are.
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: Sometimes the reality you try to avoid becomes true. Yeah, like...
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: I just hope spiders don't start flying.
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: Like, just work on making them more comfortable.
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: Take me to a Subway.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: Family dinner at Subway.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: I have to push my glasses up really quick and
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: actually let you know that spiders do start flying. That
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: is how they start. They start because they go and
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: they fly off. They fly off in the wind. They
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: do not have wings, but they do start. Specifically start. Aww.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: They start off flying.
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: Last week, he sold his BMW and bought a used Toyota.
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: I noticed he had been selling a lot of his stuff, watches, cameras, etc.
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: And each time I asked him about it, he said
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: that he thought the money could be better used elsewhere.
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: I thought he meant in stocks or something. When his
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: sister visited me and told me he was planning on
• 42:45
  Speaker 3: spending more than $ 200, 000 on my engagement ring.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: Oh, boy.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: Whee!
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: I hated that scene. Oh, I hated that scene so much.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: It caused me so much fury in my heart. Okay,
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: $ 200, 000 for an engagement ring?
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: That's too much.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: I'm like, my heart's racing. That's insanity.
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's just a constant, like, OP's boyfriend feels
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: insecure because of her family. You feel insecure because of
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: OP's boyfriend. It's constant.
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: Eat out the rich.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: He's doing the thing. He's doing the year's salary for
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: a ring thing. But that's the wedding ring, not the
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: engagement ring.
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: Wedding ring? No one spends that much money on the
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: wedding ring.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: You spend a year's salary on the engagement ring?
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: I've never heard year's salary, but- I thought it was
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: like a three-month salary.
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: Oh, you know what?
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: Maybe it is that.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: I've never heard year's salary.
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: But you know who came up with that? Probably the
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: company that sells them.
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: You should spend more.
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: But yeah, no, it's definitely engagement ring.
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: The proposal itself wasn't that much of a surprise. We've
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: been discussing marriage for a while now, but I'm shocked
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: that a guy as sensible as he is would pour
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: all of his money into something as arbitrary as a ring.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: I know he wants to give me a ring that
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: I can be proud of, but this is completely ridiculous.
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: Even his sister thought he was being crazy and begged
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: me to talk him out of it. Apparently she had
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: tried and failed. Reddit, what can I do to convince
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: him that he doesn't need to prove anything to me?
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: We've had this discussion so many times, but he always
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: reverts back. How can I bring this up with him
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: in a sensible way?
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: Update.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: Go.
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: The father talks to him.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: Ooh, I would not have thought of that. I mean,
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: it could be. Yeah.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: Be like, hey.
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: I know you have wanted to take my daughter. hand
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: in marriage I thought I should talk to you about
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: our money and what that means and how I want
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: to interact with you and just set a precedence you
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: know yeah I don't expect anything from you I wonder if.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: That would make him feel though like it's like oh
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: he has to do this I mean because I'm brokey
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: over here compared to.
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: Him comparison is a thief of joy if I had
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: this much money I would I would be having this
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: conversation with.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: Him You don't have to have a lot of money.
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, just like that.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: Where's your cigar?
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I got it. And your whiskey.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: You need your old-fashioned whiskey.
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: I got it. I got it. I got it. Son.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: It's okay.
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: What, you have two cigars?
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: This is my cigar.
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: This is my whiskey. Oh, okay.
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: You smoked your whiskey, though.
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: You're poor. That's all right.
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: I'm rich.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: That's what we're for.
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm here for. I'll give you all my money.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: Ugh.
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: Maybe the most effective strategy would be Pavlov's dogging your
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: husband into believing that this thing where he's trying to
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: show he's in the club is actually going to push
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: your family away.
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: Yep. I see that.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: Update.
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host here.
• 45:37
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• 45:42
  Speaker 3: A lot has happened since my last post. My fiance
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: proposed to me before I had a chance to talk
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: to him about the ring. In hindsight, I should have
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: recognized that he was preparing to propose. On Friday, I
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: woke up to him cooking me breakfast. He insisted that
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: I stay in bed so he could spoil me. He
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: told me that he used a vacation day so we
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: could enjoy a longer weekend together.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Aww, that's very nice of him.
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: I don't know why I didn't realize he was planning
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: on proposing, but I honestly didn't expect him to already
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: have the ring. Also, sweet things like this aren't very
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: rare with him. Still, I understand that I should have
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: acted more quickly, but at the same time, I know
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: it's too late to cry over spilled milk. The ring
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: is really beautiful. When he proposed to me, I completely
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: forgot about talking to him about the prize. I was
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: far too excited.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: She went, it's beautiful. It's so totally worth the $ 200, 000.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: Wow, that really is a $ 200, 000 ring. Yes.
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: Hot take.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: You should just buy him a car and other things. Yeah,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: that might open up a whole other thing. Oh, yeah.
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: He's like, I worked so hard to get that and
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: you just sold it?
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: Or you just buy him a new BMW.
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: You can do that, but it should be the agreement
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: of like, hey, you did not need to do this.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: So let's get as much money back as we can
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: for this ring and then figure out what to actually
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: do with that money.
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, you keep the ring, but you just
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: buy him a new BMW. She's rich, bro.
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: No, he forgot. That's like a $ 20 bill.
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: Oh, my God! Get that out of there! Get that
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: out of there!
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: That's going to be my search history. I'm just going
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: to think things.
• 47:10
  Speaker 4: It's in the private browser.
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: Don't show me that. Oh!
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: You're like, I'm ruined. Oh, God, no.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Oh, God. Oh. I didn't like it either. That's crazy
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: to me that that's worth that much money. Zero percent chance. Yeah,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: she doesn't need money.
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: Oh, dang.
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: She just needs to sell the ring. She has money. Agreed.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: Unbelievable.
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: Wait, is that the ring?
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: It's a ring.
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: Looks like an almond.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Does this look like it's worth $ 170, 000?
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: Crazy is you could just get that with like zircon instead.
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: It'd cost like $ 300.
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm going to ask Angie if she wants like
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: a lab diamond or like a blood diamond.
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: Do you want one that has blood all over it
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: and people died for it? Or do you want a
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: lab one? Yeah, you know what?
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: You should get her a pink diamond. Or yeah, a
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: red diamond. Yeah, a red diamond.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: Oh, a pink diamond. I'd have to go through like
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: the whole, go to France and do the whole like
• 47:58
  Speaker 3: Pink Panther thing.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Was it? Yeah, it was, wasn't it? Red diamonds are...
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: Like five million dollars.
• 48:03
  Speaker 3: I like chocolate diamonds.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: Toblerones?
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: You can get one on Etsy.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: Even though I was aware that he was planning on proposing,
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: I still allowed myself to get swept up in the moment. Anyways,
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: most of this information is irrelevant. There's still the issue
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: with the price of the ring. I know I should
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: hate it because it's so expensive and unnecessary, but now
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: that I have it, I really don't want to give
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: it up.
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: This is so funny.
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: It's not the price or anything like that. I love
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: it because it's my engagement ring. I already had a
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: conversation with him about the price and he told me
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: it wasn't about his insecurities.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: I think Avery Swamp Mystic has nailed it here. What
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: is it?
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: What is it?
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: Avery says, I think your fiance wanted to show her
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: how much he appreciates her. Honestly, I don't love the excess,
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: but I can see where he might just want to
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: show her how much he does love her and wants
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: to be a part of her family without expecting their
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: wealth to fund his life. it does yeah it does
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: kind of it lines up i knew about this i
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: would like i'm good for life i mean yeah you
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: think it's like a down payment 200 000 but i'm
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: getting back a lot more than that.
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: I just have to work at my fun youtube job
• 49:12
  Speaker 3: and uh that's life i'm doing good i am.
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: Chilling out yeah they're adding me to the trust fund.
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: And i would dude I'd be such a good house husband.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, yeah. If I'm with somebody and we
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: have nine figures of wealth.
• 49:25
  Speaker 3: I'm cleaning the house.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not working. We're making the money work.
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: He said he wanted to show me how important I
• 49:31
  Speaker 3: am to him and that he's willing to give up
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: anything to make me happy. I don't know if I'm
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: letting my emotions get the best of me, but I
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: really believe him. I know the price discussion isn't really
• 49:42
  Speaker 3: on his mind because he has been trying to get
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: me to go alongside with this prenup. There's no way
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: I'm letting him sign one of those.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 49:51
  Speaker 3: What does Reddit think? Should I keep the ring? My
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: friends want me to keep it, but I'm not sure
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: as it's the right thing to do. I know that
• 49:57
  Speaker 3: when I look at it, I should be thinking about
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: what my fiance had to give up. But in reality,
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: I just think about how much he loves me and
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: how happy it makes me. Yes, the money could be
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: spent on a much more notable cause, but I really
• 50:09
  Speaker 3: feel happy when my fiance only wants to spend his
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: money on me. I say keep it if it makes you.
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: It clearly makes you very happy.
• 50:17
  Speaker 4: And he'll be fine.
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: Oh, he had to sell his car. What else? Yeah,
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: he traded in the Beamer for a Toyota. He's selling watches, jewelry.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: He found some spare change in the couch.
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: And just get him really nice gifts for a couple years.
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: Do what they do in those car commercials. Just get
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: him a car every Christmas.
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: I want this one.
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: Oh, that's cute.
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, wow.
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't imagine the emerald green for you.
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: I love green rings. I'm not a huge diamond person
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: in general.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, you're just a normal person without a skin. Yeah,
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: I'm at love. You're not a big diamond person.
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: Angie told me what kind of ring she wanted in
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: the shower, and I was like, I have no way
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: of remembering that. This is not the place to be
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: telling me about it. We need to be in a
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: public space or got a notebook near me. Not right here,
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: because I'm not paying attention.
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm preoccupied.
• 51:07
  Speaker 4: Sapphire is very hard.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: So this is a good, sapphire is good. Because you
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: have to look, if you're not getting like a diamond,
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: you have to look at like, if it's durable, apparently
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: sapphire is good.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, sapphires and rubies are both corundum. That's nine
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: on the Mohs hardness scale.
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: It's good to know. So I can get a green sapphire.
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: Cool.
• 51:21
  Speaker 3: You can call me corundum.
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: What the hell did you just say to me?
• 51:25
  Speaker 3: Yep. Guys, that's the end of that story. If you
• 51:27
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• 51:29
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• 51:30
  Speaker 2: And see you tomorrow.