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Dirty Little Secret:The Confession That Could Ruin Two Marriages · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Get it off your test to promise you'll feel better.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to the dirty Little Secret. Makes one of two
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  Speaker 2: point nine, let's do it. It's failing. The kid canvases here,
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  Speaker 2: and so is Pooh. And your secret today three to
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  Speaker 2: three seven eight seven, one oh two nine if you
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  Speaker 2: have one. It's a no judgment zone for the most part.
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  Speaker 2: We might say our opinions and you know whatever, but
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  Speaker 2: we'll try. We got to talk it through. You got
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  Speaker 2: to stay open minded when it comes to these steps, right,
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  Speaker 2: So get it off your chest and you got one.
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  Speaker 1: Well, my husband and I went to a huge Fourth
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  Speaker 1: of July party with our group of friends, and we've
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  Speaker 1: all known each other since college, and we're talking about
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  Speaker 1: a big party. There were maybe sixty seventy people there. Well,
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  Speaker 1: at one point, my husband was inside and I was
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  Speaker 1: just sitting by the fire when my friend's husband came
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  Speaker 1: over and sat down next to me, which seemed normal, right.
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  Speaker 1: I've known him forever, he's been married for years. He's
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  Speaker 1: one of those guys you would never ever expect to
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  Speaker 1: cross a line. Oh god, Yeah, he wasn't stumbling around
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  Speaker 1: drunk either, So he sits down next to me like
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  Speaker 1: flops himself down, and he looked at me and said,
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  Speaker 1: I know this is coming out of nowhere, but I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I got to say it. I've always been
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  Speaker 1: in love with you.
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  Speaker 2: What He's always been in love with you?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, in love. I thought he was joking.
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  Speaker 2: I really did, But how do you know he wasn't.
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  Speaker 2: He wasn't for sure, he wasn't, and he wasn't drunk.
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  Speaker 2: So he's just coming out of nowhere and saying this.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just just what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: I was flabb or, like, what do you even say?
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  Speaker 2: How do you react when this happens? I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what I would do.
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  Speaker 1: My words just got caught in my throat. But he continued,
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  Speaker 1: so I didn't have to say anything yet. He told
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  Speaker 1: me that he'd always felt this like special connection and
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  Speaker 1: that sometimes he wonders if he married the wrong woman.
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  Speaker 2: Oh god, oh come on man, you two never had
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  Speaker 2: anything like any kind of weird things beforehand or in
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  Speaker 2: the past. It's because you said you've known each other
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  Speaker 2: not at all.
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  Speaker 1: That's the crazy part. There was never some secret romance
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  Speaker 1: or almost relationship. We've just known each other forever. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and we're all in the same friend group period. That's it, right,
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  Speaker 1: So I keep replaying this moment because I wish I
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  Speaker 1: had shut it down immediately. I wish i'd said stop,
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  Speaker 1: don't say that. Instead, all I could get out was
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what to say.
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  Speaker 2: So you said so, you said, I don't So you
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  Speaker 2: told him after he says this, you say, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what to say, you know, because.
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  Speaker 1: It was just so shocking, you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 1: like you either have a lot to say or nothing.
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  Speaker 1: It's like fight or flight, you know, and I just
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  Speaker 1: growze instead.
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  Speaker 2: I get that. I get it you kind of shut
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  Speaker 2: down in the moment in shock, But I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what you do after this is never had to me.
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  Speaker 1: No, That's what I feel guilty about because I walked
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  Speaker 1: back inside because they didn't say anything, you know, not
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  Speaker 1: because I encouraged him. I absolutely didn't. But the hardest
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  Speaker 1: part to admit is I do understand what he meant.
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  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
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  Speaker 1: I love my husband with everything I have. I would
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  Speaker 1: never do anything to jeopardize my marriage. But over the
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  Speaker 1: past few years him and I have become closer friends,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm one of the only people that knows his
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  Speaker 1: wife had an affair with a coworker.
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  Speaker 2: A while back.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, one of the people that knows. They went
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  Speaker 1: to counseling and they stayed together. Ever since that happened,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I've never noticed him, but I noticed it
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  Speaker 1: on my end. He's looked at me just a little
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  Speaker 1: bit differently, and he's treated me a little bit differently.
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  Speaker 1: I always thought he was an incredible husband, a great dad,
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  Speaker 1: and just an all around good guy. Yeah, I'd be
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  Speaker 1: lying if I said I didn't feel that connection to well,
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  Speaker 1: you do not enough.
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  Speaker 2: You do feel.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I do, but but let me not in a
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  Speaker 1: romantic way. Just something that was different. Something Okay, So
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  Speaker 1: I didn't. I wasn't even sure he knew, you know.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why this scares me.
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  Speaker 2: Have you told your husband.
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  Speaker 1: No, an, okay you. I haven't told any of my friends.
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  Speaker 2: Has he followed up as he texts, you called, you
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  Speaker 2: pulled your side again, or it's nothing. It's been just
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  Speaker 2: ever since then, there's been no contact.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I haven't really reached he hasn't reached out. We
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  Speaker 1: haven't really talked.
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  Speaker 2: This is kind of what happens, though, when you open
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  Speaker 2: yourself up emotionally to anybody who's vulnerable. And I'm not
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  Speaker 2: saying you did anything wrong, because you know, especially if
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  Speaker 2: your husband's aware that he was cheated on and he
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  Speaker 2: knows the situation, then it feels like, well, we're just
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  Speaker 2: being good friends. You can't help being shocked by that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: but that would but you got to tell your husband.
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  Speaker 2: There's I just don't see away around it. If I
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  Speaker 2: found out that, you know, my girlfriend or wife, that
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  Speaker 2: one of my friends went to her and said this,
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  Speaker 2: I would be so devastated if she didn't tell me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but like I said, I would do nothing to
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  Speaker 1: jeopardize my relate I know, and I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Not saying you would, but it is kind of I
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  Speaker 2: would be nervous if you were. If you were my
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  Speaker 2: wife and you told me, I mean, I do notice
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  Speaker 2: that we did have a connection of some sort of
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  Speaker 2: not romantic way. I don't like that. I'd be like, wait,
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  Speaker 2: you can't tell me, what do you mean a connection?
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  Speaker 1: We definitely ain't going to the Labor Day party, right.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you've got to let us know what happens and
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  Speaker 2: if anything else does go down and let us know.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, thank you. I will thank you guys so much.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, I just feel like there's got to be
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  Speaker 2: some sort of something going on, if there's a connection.
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  Speaker 2: But maybe I'm wrong. But see, I do feel and
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  Speaker 2: I got a lot of hate for saying this from men,
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  Speaker 2: but I do feel like when a guy cheats it's
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  Speaker 2: different because when a guy cheats or gets cheated on,
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  Speaker 2: I mean like, if the guy I get cheated on,
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  Speaker 2: he feels like then he's got a free pass to
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  Speaker 2: go cheat.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I don't feel like it's like that with women. No.
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  Speaker 2: You know, if a guy cheat, she's devastating, right, she's devastated,
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  Speaker 2: but she's not like, well now I get to hook up, right. No,
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  Speaker 2: not all women, Yeah, I mean not all women. Very
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  Speaker 2: few who's looking at me all far? Not all women.
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  Speaker 1: But I know some women out there who do that.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I know Candace Scandalous, Like you said, Candace, No, No,
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  Speaker 2: Canda candal is like that, yeah, Scandace, some SI girls