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GHEALEAD (Part 2) · Apostle Lazarus Femi

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  Speaker 1: Apostle Family, Lazarus is a man raised by God to
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  Speaker 1: demonstrate his wisdom and authority to the Last day Church.
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  Speaker 1: He is the lead pastor of like nature, and God
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  Speaker 1: told him years ago that a time will come where
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  Speaker 1: my wisdom will be needed to navigate tough times in
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  Speaker 1: the body of Christ.
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  Speaker 2: Then I will.
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  Speaker 1: Cause your voice to be heard, and all who pay
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  Speaker 1: attention to my word on your lips will not lack
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  Speaker 1: light and direction. He is a man sent from God,
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  Speaker 1: sent to raise kingdom minded, culture shapers.
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  Speaker 2: And global leaders.
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  Speaker 1: With Apostle Family Lazarus, every minute counts.
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  Speaker 2: As you listen attentively, we thank you, love, and we
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  Speaker 2: bless your holy name. You are awarded to be praised,
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  Speaker 2: and there is none like you, Lord.
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  Speaker 3: Who is like unto the Lord, and all the earth
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  Speaker 3: who is like.
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  Speaker 2: Come to the your glorious in holiness. You're fearful in praise.
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  Speaker 2: You do wonders, you perform miracles. You are yeahweh the
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  Speaker 2: Lord's strong and mighty, the Lord mighty in battle, the
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  Speaker 2: beginning and the end. The yes and Amen. We bless you, Lord,
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  Speaker 2: We thank you, We give you all the praise. We
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  Speaker 2: cast all our cares and burnings before you. We give
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  Speaker 2: you praise Lord and Jesus mighty name. We're praise Amen.
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  Speaker 2: What a mighty God. With hallelujah. Let's give Jesus a big, big, big,
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  Speaker 2: bigger you may please bessited.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you amen. So I'm just going to.
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  Speaker 2: Continue right from where I stopped, and I want to
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  Speaker 2: believe that you were blessed? Were you all right? So
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  Speaker 2: today you will be much more blessed. Praise God. So
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  Speaker 2: some of the things I mentioned, I will be taking
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  Speaker 2: my time to talk about them, all right, and get
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  Speaker 2: in debtly into them. Let's sturt our Bibles to the
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  Speaker 2: Book of Proverbs, Proverbs chapter one, by eighteen we read
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  Speaker 2: verse fourteen Proverbs eighteen, verse fourteen. If you're dare, say, man,
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  Speaker 2: the spirit of a man will sustain is infirmity, but
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  Speaker 2: a wounded spirit.
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  Speaker 3: Who can be the amplified.
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  Speaker 2: Rendition says, the strong spirit of a man sustains sustains
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  Speaker 2: him in bodily pain or trouble. But a weak and
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  Speaker 2: broken spirit who can raise up or bear. Now message
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  Speaker 2: carries a very vital message. And that's where I'm going.
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  Speaker 2: Perhaps eighteen verse fourteen, look at it. A healthy spirit
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  Speaker 2: conquers what adversity but what can you do when the
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  Speaker 2: spirit is crushed? As a very serious word, then what
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  Speaker 2: can you do when your.
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  Speaker 3: Spirit is crossed? Now?
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  Speaker 2: Turn your bible is again the Book of Duel, chapter
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  Speaker 2: number one, Duel one. We start the reading, or it's
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  Speaker 2: a scripture you ought to be familiar with in this church.
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  Speaker 2: From verse eleven, verse ten talks about there's been adversity,
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  Speaker 2: things are bad, things are dry, says be ashamed of
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  Speaker 2: your husband. Men, how oh yevine dress as for the
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  Speaker 2: wheat and for the balley, because the adverst of the
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  Speaker 2: field is perished. The vine is dried up, and the
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  Speaker 2: fig tree languageed, the promagane tree, the palm tree also,
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  Speaker 2: and the apple tree, even all the trees of the
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  Speaker 2: field with because what joy is weed away from the
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  Speaker 2: sons of men. So when the spirit of a man
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  Speaker 2: is crushed, one of the things that will now be
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  Speaker 2: missing in that spirit is the fruit of joy.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that's what is missing.
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  Speaker 2: So the idea of crushing a person spirit is to
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  Speaker 2: almost put the person in a state where there is
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  Speaker 2: almost no possibility for joy. And when the persons spirit
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  Speaker 2: is crushed, when people become suicidal. One of the questions
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  Speaker 2: you hear them ask is will I ever be joyful again?
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  Speaker 2: Because it looks like the ability to read joys is
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  Speaker 2: not for coming. Okay, So what the devil wants to do,
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  Speaker 2: and we need to understand this, is to attack the
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  Speaker 2: health of your spirit, and to attack the health of
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  Speaker 2: your spirit in needs situations that gives them.
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  Speaker 3: For that.
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  Speaker 2: If you want to break a society, break the families.
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  Speaker 2: As much as we keep turning broken people from family systems,
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  Speaker 2: the society will break.
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  Speaker 3: So it's a very simple strategy.
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  Speaker 2: When we weaken the qualities of families that are then.
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  Speaker 3: You weaken the quality of product.
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  Speaker 2: And permit me to use this word not in a
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  Speaker 2: deregative way. This dysfunctional product will go on to form
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  Speaker 2: a dysfunctional society. The church must not take a gaze
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  Speaker 2: away from families because that's where the devil is looking at.
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  Speaker 2: So the real place where many people's spirits get crushed
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  Speaker 2: is at the foundational.
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  Speaker 3: Level of their lives.
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  Speaker 2: Many of the things people go on to believe where
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  Speaker 2: things that were fixed On Sunday, I showed you a scripture.
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  Speaker 2: Train up your child and the way it should go
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  Speaker 2: when it grows, it will not depart from it. Now,
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  Speaker 2: whether good or bad. It is very difficult to depart
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  Speaker 2: from our bringing. Yeah, it is so when you see
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  Speaker 2: people do things, they only do what has a mirrored
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  Speaker 2: to them. I remember one time I was on the flight.
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  Speaker 2: Then they brought the menu, and then I didn't understand.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, the stuff's there.
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  Speaker 2: I was trying to maintain my steeze, but the steeze
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  Speaker 2: wasn't sneezing. So when I looked through, I thought one
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  Speaker 2: I could okay, I could relate to it. And what
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  Speaker 2: was there was a roasted smoked salmon smoke fish. I felt,
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  Speaker 2: at least now from campus days, who buy smoke fish,
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  Speaker 2: So bring it on.
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  Speaker 3: Bring it.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know. When they brought the stuff and the
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  Speaker 2: woman was about to drop it. I said, no, no,
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  Speaker 2: this is not my word. He said, no, this this.
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  Speaker 3: Is what you ask for.
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  Speaker 2: I said, no, I can't take rawfish.
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  Speaker 3: This is raw fish, all right? She said, try try,
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  Speaker 3: I said, sister, I know me, are you all right?
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  Speaker 3: So why is that?
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  Speaker 2: Because I didn't grow up in the culture where that
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  Speaker 2: was mirror to me? Ah? Amen, I know her eyes, true,
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  Speaker 2: I know yam ah. If you want to go local,
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  Speaker 2: I know those stuffs well. Which one is rowfish as
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  Speaker 2: this guy I follow online. They do food adventure. Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 2: That's one thing I know I can never join anyone
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  Speaker 2: to do. So they went to I think Taiwan or Indonesia.
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  Speaker 3: And they were to pick live fish.
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  Speaker 2: And the way they eat that fish is that you
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  Speaker 2: pick it, then you put it in your mouth and
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  Speaker 2: chew it on time.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yes, So when I saw it, I said.
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  Speaker 2: No, me, are you all right? So there's there's a
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  Speaker 2: culture in a place in China that you will be
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  Speaker 2: eating this fish a fish.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, they'll they.
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  Speaker 2: Will put it on something to smoke it while the
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  Speaker 2: fish is still struggling.
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  Speaker 3: You'll be that's why you have to travel. Let me.
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  Speaker 2: Let me be honest, Thank God for my people. Will
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  Speaker 2: God a sense to bless my life? Or many times
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  Speaker 2: man let us being food or someone just say possiblylet's
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  Speaker 2: go eat out.
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  Speaker 3: And they serve this and I'm like, can I go
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  Speaker 3: back home? Why is that?
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  Speaker 2: Any culture that is not formed when your life was
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  Speaker 2: being set, it is difficult to bring it.
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  Speaker 3: Let me say this, there's.
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  Speaker 2: No man who raises hand to slap a woman who
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't see it growing up? Are you what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: It's not the culture. What culture shows is what is possible.
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  Speaker 2: Every culture shows you possibilities. Now that I've told you
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  Speaker 2: that people eat rough fish, you know it is possible. True,
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  Speaker 2: But when you see it done in your house, you
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  Speaker 2: know it on a different level.
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  Speaker 3: True. What you have not.
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  Speaker 2: Seen demonstrated again and again, you can't be bold to
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  Speaker 2: do it. And that's one thing I want you to understand.
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  Speaker 2: That's the reason why the church is God's family on heath.
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  Speaker 2: What did I say?
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  Speaker 3: The Church is God's family on earth. So what happens.
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  Speaker 2: Here is that there is a repeer of what has
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  Speaker 2: been done wrongly in our ely family.
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  Speaker 3: I believe many of you can relate to the fact that.
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  Speaker 2: The church is more of a family to many people
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  Speaker 2: than the ely families. True. True, that's the fact. That's
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  Speaker 2: why the devil he hits the church system. He wants
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  Speaker 2: to break it. He wants to break it. Don't worry.
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  Speaker 2: One of the things I want to help you do
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  Speaker 2: today is to help you see why you act the
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  Speaker 2: way you do. When you see it, you'll be able
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  Speaker 2: to take steps away from it because you will repeat
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  Speaker 2: a level of dysfunctionality that you don't even know it's bad.
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  Speaker 2: You have to know it's bad so you can be
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  Speaker 2: separated from it.
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  Speaker 3: Amen. Now let me show you one more scripture Proverb seventeen,
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  Speaker 3: Proverbs seventeen, verse.
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  Speaker 2: Twenty two. Proverbs seventeen, verse twenty two. If I dare say, amen,
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  Speaker 2: let's read this to get a one to three go
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  Speaker 2: A marry has doed good like medicine, but a broken
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  Speaker 2: spirit right of the world bones. So it means once
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  Speaker 2: your spirit is broken, it's as the capacity even to
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  Speaker 2: affect your health. The devil will look at it in
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  Speaker 2: a bid to attack individuals. Has found a way to
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  Speaker 2: use dysfunctional family structure as a trap that even if
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  Speaker 2: you don't have issues, you don't forgiveness anywhere else, you
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  Speaker 2: may have that issue in your families. That, even if
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  Speaker 2: you don't have issue with a tendency to be rude,
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  Speaker 2: if care is not taking, the only place where the
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  Speaker 2: devil will get you to do it again and again
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  Speaker 2: will be that family. That, even if everywhere else you
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  Speaker 2: are winning, if care is not taking, the place where
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  Speaker 2: the devil lockets straight to a defeat is that family.
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  Speaker 2: A broken family system is the graveyard of destiny carriers.
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  Speaker 3: It traps them in there.
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  Speaker 2: There are people who are celebrated everywhere else, but if
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  Speaker 2: people should know about where they are coming from, it
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  Speaker 2: will bring shame.
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  Speaker 3: So the idea is so through the things that are wrong,
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  Speaker 3: attack your heart.
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  Speaker 2: And break your spirit to re engineer the direction of
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  Speaker 2: your life. Now we've got to do some practicals. Amen,
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  Speaker 2: is there anyone here that with a bag? Or may
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  Speaker 2: I request if you don't mind that if you have
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  Speaker 2: a bag, rastop so I can see the one I
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  Speaker 2: can use. Okay, let me just stay with that. Please
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  Speaker 2: can't bring the bag. I don't know how heavy this
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  Speaker 2: bag is. Okay, Please come look at this, pay attention
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  Speaker 2: to what I want to show you.
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  Speaker 3: If you put this back on the ground. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Let's say you know I taught physics at some point,
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  Speaker 2: so that has not left me. Let me have another
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  Speaker 2: guy here, please help me. Okay, thank you. So let's
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  Speaker 2: say this is point A, this is point B. If
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  Speaker 2: I stand here, come and he is standing here. Let's
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  Speaker 2: say it this is a material sustaining or suspending this material.
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  Speaker 2: It is easy to while it is in the air
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  Speaker 2: to move it from point A to point B. You
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  Speaker 2: can just swing and a swing and a swings. But
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  Speaker 2: if you allow this set two, they impart of the
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  Speaker 2: weight will make it quite difficult to lift and move
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  Speaker 2: from point A to point B. While you are still
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  Speaker 2: in your formative years, it is easier to redirect the direction.
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  Speaker 3: Of your life.
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  Speaker 2: By the time you know so much, the devil will
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  Speaker 2: struggle to take you to where he wants to take
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  Speaker 2: you to while you are younger. This is the reason
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  Speaker 2: why the most strategic time to orche straight any from
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  Speaker 2: of this function in anyone is while the fellow is young,
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  Speaker 2: before you even know christ. It wants to at this
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  Speaker 2: point swing the direction of your life the way he
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  Speaker 2: wants it, so that the energy with which you ought
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  Speaker 2: to do destiny you will have to first spend greater
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  Speaker 2: energy to be repaired.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell you this.
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  Speaker 2: I will tell you a serious one and I will
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  Speaker 2: tell you the balance. Many people who ought to start
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  Speaker 2: out to win in life.
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  Speaker 3: Have to first wait to set to the family because
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  Speaker 3: things are bad.
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  Speaker 2: So if imagine if they came from places that things
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  Speaker 2: are superb, they would have gone far ahead of the rest.
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  Speaker 3: That's why you don't rely men by where they are.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes people have.
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  Speaker 2: To go back to repair things before they can catch
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  Speaker 2: up with their equals.
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  Speaker 3: If you are from such a place.
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  Speaker 2: If you old grudges against them, then the pattern of
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  Speaker 2: dysfunction will elongate. It is a great hand that there
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  Speaker 2: is there no eating for eight ship. It is the
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  Speaker 2: grace it takes not just to break.
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  Speaker 3: Through, but to help. Or that's breadthrue.
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  Speaker 2: That you will not just enter the dysfunction in your
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  Speaker 2: own immediate family. You will give your younger ones a chance.
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  Speaker 2: You'll give them an exposure. Some of you after this series,
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  Speaker 2: you are going to make decisions to relocate more of
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  Speaker 2: your younger ones from the village to Canada, because you
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  Speaker 2: will and they will not look at God and the
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  Speaker 2: pattern will continue.
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  Speaker 3: Things will change.
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  Speaker 2: You will look back at that family and you will
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  Speaker 2: not trace the devil you used to see. You are
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  Speaker 2: the one that woul change things, so you will not
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  Speaker 2: see them and saw in sorrow. You're not going to
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  Speaker 2: sit down in self pity. You will not sit down
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  Speaker 2: regretting and say I wish, I wish, don't wish for anything.
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  Speaker 2: The fact that you are there, God is giving them
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  Speaker 2: the answer to their problem, and the answer is you
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  Speaker 2: is that okay. Now you will not sit down and
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  Speaker 2: cans at them. You will change things by the spirit
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  Speaker 2: of grace and.
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  Speaker 3: Then get a meen to that.
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  Speaker 2: So I've gone through things that not only don't I
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  Speaker 2: want my children to ever go through it, I don't
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  Speaker 2: want anyone around me to ever go to it.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, the difference between the one who break through and
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  Speaker 2: a captain is that a captain breaks or that's true. Also,
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  Speaker 2: it won't just go one steps back. But for the balance,
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  Speaker 2: you can't help everybody mhm, anyone whose lifestyle you can't
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  Speaker 2: change the results. You can't help. Some people are broke
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  Speaker 2: and poor, not because there are no opportunities, because there's
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  Speaker 2: bad character. So there has to be with p first. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'd like to give balance so the devil will not
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  Speaker 2: look behind what I'm saying. Sometimes there are family members
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  Speaker 2: who have to run away from and they should not
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  Speaker 2: know how big you are. Let me give you just
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  Speaker 2: one time someone called me, I've never heard from this
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  Speaker 2: person in my life. I didn't know anybody like this exist.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody told me in the family brunchio that someone like
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  Speaker 2: this is existing. Then we spent time talking, talking for
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  Speaker 2: over two hours. I knew's money, but I would have
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  Speaker 2: preferred let's get straight to it.
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  Speaker 3: My time is more important than the money.
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  Speaker 2: Then the personal told me that my boy, that his
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  Speaker 2: son is a yaoo boy. The boy is lean, the
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  Speaker 2: boy is doing all those things.
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  Speaker 3: I was listening then while he was talking, you said
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  Speaker 3: you're a personal. I said, I said, you're a person.
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  Speaker 2: Now I say, he said, in fact that my boy.
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  Speaker 2: So I want to tell the boy that the boy
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  Speaker 2: should relocate to your place so that you will be
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  Speaker 2: in charge of the chortter.
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  Speaker 4: Friend Ah who is said no, no, no, no, he
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  Speaker 4: has changed.
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  Speaker 2: And it will come from where he said. Just come
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  Speaker 2: and then be charge. Because George is familiar affair. The
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  Speaker 2: devil is a liar. Listen, let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 2: There are different kinds of bad background. There are situations
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  Speaker 2: that the people have entered survival mode. They will even
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  Speaker 2: kill their own to survive from sort. I need to
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  Speaker 2: give you the balance so that your kindness will not
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  Speaker 2: lead you to any grave. That's balance.
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  Speaker 3: Are you there, okay, mm hmm hmm. So on Sunday,
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  Speaker 3: I began showing you a possibility that, because of the
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  Speaker 3: strategic nature of the Devil's operation to attack lives, to
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  Speaker 3: attack individuals, the most strategic time to do it is
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  Speaker 3: when they are young, because that's the foundation lane season,
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  Speaker 3: that's the season where your thoughts, process, your perception, the
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  Speaker 3: way you see life, the way you agree about life.
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  Speaker 2: That's the season that they have been formed. I shared
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  Speaker 2: the story of a boy I can't remember again. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: it was between five and seven or eight, and it's
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  Speaker 2: been suspended from several schools.
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  Speaker 3: Imagine not suspended, expelled.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry, imagine a boy around that age having the experience
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  Speaker 2: of the expulsion. Some of us used to jump friends
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  Speaker 2: and avoid fcs, avoid fellowship.
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  Speaker 3: Me.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, some of you are too kind to do
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  Speaker 2: all that we did. Don't say, go to school. You
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  Speaker 2: go to Gidden Carlo. You don't know what they call.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, you go to where they are playing PS.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody will be sweating like cow press.
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  Speaker 3: No, it's not even ps. It's sega do do do do.
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  Speaker 2: Do do do do do do?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: So boy, even all those hisself with were not the
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  Speaker 2: expect but this boy, he had the track record, and
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  Speaker 2: he doesn't cry. And the teacher now said, while you
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  Speaker 2: are beating him, you notice that your money is gone
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  Speaker 2: in the process of beating him. So he will not
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  Speaker 2: just so far for nothing. He will it will take
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  Speaker 2: sovenir for the beating. I was looking at him. So
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  Speaker 2: they started calling the boy a name. They started calling
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  Speaker 2: the boy equal miss rat, that's recording. Yes, So I
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  Speaker 2: got interested in this case, and I requested to see
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  Speaker 2: his parents, and I went to his house. To the house,
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  Speaker 2: I knocked. No one was responding.
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  Speaker 3: Oh. One of the things the boy used.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: To do was that used to follow girls to the
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: toilet to touch their genitals.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: Yes, at that age. Sometimes he will go to the
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: toilet and stay there and be waiting for a girl
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: to come at that age. So when I went to
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: the house, I got him, and I met his two
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: eldest brothers were watching pornography on their television screen and
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: the apollo and the boy was there. Where is the
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: mom and the dad? They are separated. The dad has
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: followed other women. The mom has a man that they're
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: not trying to get married. But sometimes when the is
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: divided like that, the children are left to hang. We've
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: seen cases that necessitate individuals going separate ways. For a while,
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: I was seen case that necessity some people having too
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: run either ways.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: Plan your children so that they will not bear.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: The scars of your decisions. Some of you grew up
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: as the one hanging in between. Daddy was busy trying
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: to do his family. Mommy was busy trying to do
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: her family.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: And sometimes here you are. And sometimes when.
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: Children are raised like that, they go through things that
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: they can't explain. Many parents don't know ten percent of
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: what their children have survived. Unfortunately, even now, some are
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: still too broken, too law. If you grow up from it,
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: this funking a place, you must understand that it didn't
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: start with you.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: It started with them. If they are what they wanted
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: to be, you won't go through what you went through.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: And if you allow yourself to be trapped in pity,
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: in self pity.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: And thinking, I don't know I'm gonna do.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: It, it's just me. Why if iffered so much? Why
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: arrange me? You are going to raise children in the
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: midst of that, will also try to explain.
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: What do you do? Wake up.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: Now that this thing is facing you, face it, survive,
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: don't die in the process. You must tell yourself I
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: will win. I'm not gonna tell stories. I will win.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: God will help me, it will strengthen me. I will overcome.
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: At the end of the day, my story to end.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: Say again, my story is not permitted to end until
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: I sing songs of victory. My books are not permitted
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: to be closed until the chapters of victory have been written.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: My story are not permitted to end until I sing
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: songs of victory. Amen, these are issues. You go to
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: school and acts teachers. They'll tell you. Teachers in school
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: they are the ones who know what kind of home
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: children are coming from. There are children that there's no
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: one to help them do their assignment un till they
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: go back to school. The teachers will beat them. In
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: schools that they beat, but I'm not there are schools
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: that they beat.
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: Right. Have you really.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Survived Nigeria gone? There's almost nothing to be afraid of again?
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: Have you had all? Did all? Did old? Add all
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: your schedule, your sc mm hmm.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you believe that those things are necessary until you
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: get to places in life where you meet colleagues who
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: are even more successful than you. Wouldn't know that's what
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: your lifestyle exists. You are describing how they will smash
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: your head with the cover of reports. They say, really,
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: did you call Nian saying the idea you will call
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: nawaa will come there and beat you more again.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: M hmm.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Now when I go online and I see cases that
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: people are reporting and saying, look, at how they're abusing
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: this child. Look at how they are doing this. I
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: bet many of you went through things that are worse
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: than that. The internet was this strung, then you would
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: have trended.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: By now.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: You might have been the face for domestic abuse or something.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: Someone like me, I know, I could have been probably.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: The logo what is good that we can see there
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: and laugh at them now because we didn't.
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: Die in the process. Give Jesus a big gun. Let
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: me get into my message. So on Sunday, I began
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: to show you the possibility of because of experience being
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: trapped in your childhood state, that your body futures have increased,
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: but in there you are still that child. You still
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: feel that pain when you remember it is still fresh.
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: You still want the same answers, You still have those emotions,
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: but some has changed about your body, but it's like
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: you are still trapped. There are kinds of situations that
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: break a person spirit. That a person's body will grow,
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: but the mind may be trapped. So I began to
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: show you signs that you are or you may be
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: trapped in the past or in your childhood mind.
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: I said, Number one.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Is what fear or timidity fear of people's remarks and opinions,
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: fear of starting again. Have you seen cases where maybe
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: a mother wants to correct the child and we tell
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: the child come here, or your past, ah or your past.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: They want to beat the child and as the child
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: wants to pass, they smack the child with the hand
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: of Satan power. Yes, the child will cry, you'll feel
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: you have done something, but you're broken trust.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: The child will grow not to trust you.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: And there are mothers who, in a bit to protect
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: your marriage, didn't care about their children that maybe if
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: father was even abusing the child, and the mother will
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: join them to criticize. As they shut up, you can
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: bring shame to this family. But this child is broken.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: This child is broken.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: HM. So there's fear of people's remarks and opinions, you know,
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: particularly if.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Your life was built on that and everyone have to
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: pass their judgment on you and all that. Fear of
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: starting again, fear of being left, fear of being criticized,
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: fear of not being loved, fear of not finding love,
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: fear of rejection, fear.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: Of being seen. I don't want to be seen, I
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: don't want to be known. I just want to be there.
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: Fear of making mistakes, fear of being the object of attention,
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: fear of being the voice in the room, fear of
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: unleashing your potentials, sometimes fear of your known number two.
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: I said, there is the possibility of such an individual
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: growing to become people pleasing, then trying to please people,
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: trying to get people to approve you. It's not a
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: good thing. It's not a sign of humility. People will
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: manipulate you once they see that you crave for their approval.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: They will control you where they are small thinking you
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: can make decisions as led by the spirit. Is that okay?
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: And some of you probably struggled with this in secondary school.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: Maybe you add some set of individuals that were always
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: one kind, and you tried everything to fit into their groups,
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: and they did everything to push you out. You got
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: to the university, you also saw some people you tried
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: everything to fit into.
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: Their groups, they did everything to push you out. And
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: now you are always struggling extra going extra mile to
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: win people's approval of you.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: That's a bad life. You're important. There was this girl
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: while we're on campus. Whenever a new phone comes out,
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: she buys the China version.
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: Apologies.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: So those were in China, but yeah, China means something else,
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: all right, So she's buy and then so when this
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: particular phone is out, then she will all the Chinese
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: version of it, like it's that phone. And what you
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: know is that the phone never rings out when she
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: want to press it, he covers it and all that's well.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: And then you know, we just believe that this girl
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: came from a rich background. She check goes extra mile
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: to look posh or you know where you are forcing
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: bim push it is not giving.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, because somehow we kind of observed that of course
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: this clothes looks clussy, but the cricker. But there's nothing
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: wrong if that's your level. But why are you trying
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: to see that your father is among those that is
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: contesting for the role of president and so anyways, that
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: was the guil for you.
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: We give it to her, but we knew, we all
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: knew that supports fake. One time we're in the library.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: M hmm.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: Probably she forgot to put the phone on silence then
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: the majesty phone rank ah. And I was thinking, even
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: me that my phone will first peak FM before I
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: Yet the call. It's not sounding like this, hm.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: She she quickly.
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: You know there are people that even in situational they
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: know how to come out like they don't have to
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: think to lie. She went out to pick the call
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: and came out and said, oh gosh, gush this this this,
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: and as I mentioned our younger brother that I didn't
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: know how how I forgot his phone in my bag.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: Oh hey, hey, even the devil, say you said it
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: came out of this.
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: Hmm. Hey. They used to pass the results for everyone
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: to go and see. So she went there and then
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: she was rejoicing.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: Me.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: I knew that when you see your result you cry.
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: I knew this gay now. And then so someone said,
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: so now that she has this called the last was
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: here's your years old? And I was like, what's called?
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: What's my matric number?
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: So finally everyone saw there and then the only one
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: that was left there the person failed.
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: But she was dancing.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: You will dance in front of people and still go
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: back to sit down to be right? What kind of
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: life is that when you feel the need to impress
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: by all means something is broken in the soul. You
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: don't have to if this is your levelnits is that?
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: Okay? I need.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: If I tell you some things about us. You won't
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: believe when we're gonna come to a budger. God said
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: to drop my car. So we came here taking boat.
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: We'll come for service, take boat and go back. You
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: will not even know your package. And seven that's it.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: Somebody said I can give you a car, come and
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: borrow so that my help I would not think I'm
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: already blessed. Let me go like this so my APPA
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: identify me as I am like that. There's nothing being
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: wrong in being at your level. When you feel the
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: need to lie about it, something is wrong with the
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: way you perceive yourself. You think those resources are the
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: things that validate you or make you feel loved or important.
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: You are important. Trust the way you are.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: You are. If you're a man, you don't have a
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: car yet, to relax, eh, the your pass will say
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: that the chicken that is still alive will eat corn.
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: You are not dead yet, your day will come. Okay,
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: relax it suits, you'll be tired.
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: I can't sometimes when I want to come to Troche,
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: I'm like suit t.
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: This Nigeria song we won't brought suit on Nigeria, sef
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: I'm thinking what I remember.
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: The first good suit I wore ah.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: The moment I picked that suit like that, I called
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: the photographer to come and snap me, and I used
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: that my profile picture on social media. It was my
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: cousin's suit. He was working in the bank. He had
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: won the suits. They had told him don't bring it
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: to the office again. When I saw that suit angin there,
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: I knew this suits still have extra life in ministry.
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: Manks might have rejected this suit, but this suit can
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: function in ministry. I wore ever out of the life
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: of that suit. Then I gave the resident pastor.
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: I gave you. I gave pity. Let be exposive. It was.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: It was so you could you could imagine that what
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: my size must have been like them. So it's fits
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: both of us the same way I gave him. So
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: Pitty also used this suit for a while. Then give
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: one of our passwords again you two or two oh, yes,
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: three generations till I now called the guy. I said,
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: if you pass this sue to anybody, I also spend
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: you in this churche.
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: Okay mm hmm, it will go. I'm telling you the
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: fact we wore l out of the light ulb.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you, ah, when this ministry started like that
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: everybody's clutes. Everybody's clute. Oh yes, I would just see
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: that my jacket is missing there, I would ask somebody
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: has posted on his status, then me, I should not
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: see it like they said it that lazaros.
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: Then I would ask about this for that? Is it
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: not your target? Looking for personal But we didn't die.
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: That was the left.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: To feel the need to push what you are not
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: is a sign that there's something wrong with the way
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: you perceive yourself.
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: You are important. It is not your nails that defines you.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: Okay, if for now where you can't make those nails
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: is two five? Make the nails and shine it only
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: the women? They say, I don't know what is it
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: with women? And do it to yourself. My wife will
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: tell me that what change about me?
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: What change?
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: Can't can't tell you you're not romantic? What change about me?
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: I look and look and look.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: Ha, the glory of God is more.
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: I always feel it always. And she said, no, now,
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: at least look very aware. I said, your cream, you
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: change it?
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: This is what and she is, I said, can't you see?
• 45:32
  Speaker 3: My NAIs the family I grew up from.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: I didn't see any body fixed nails it's not part
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: of the things.
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: My attention goes to nails. But now I used to observe,
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: because you have to observe, you have to observe, you
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: have to get a new culture. Okay.
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: So and sometimes many of these things began from the
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: days you were writing exams in school and you believed
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: that anybody who was who wears glass is smart.
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: Some of you began to regulasses.
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: Then, I mean, while the yours need something corrected about
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: their sides.
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: Period. Some people are pursuing money to satisfy something that
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: was missing. Years back.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Somebody drove a campus they felt, I'm going to do
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: my own back. Now they are to pursuing that car.
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: I'm saying you are important even without it.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: You are.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: Don't joke with the consistent or two get people's validation.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: It can put you in trouble. Don't let anyone manipulate you.
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: Some of you have calling from God that people around
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: may not understand.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: And it's okay. And that's why we must be careful
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: of how we follow.
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: This thing we call followership, and leaders can be quite
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: delicate because you may want to put yourself in a
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: place where you want to handle leaders.
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: Approver by all means, that's slavery.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: I tell all those who follow me say, I don't
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: believe in controlling people.
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: What did you eat? What did you wear? I don't
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: even have that time. You must begin to make decisions.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: Yes, be accountable, be guided, be led, but not controlled.
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: There's the other side of this that if care is
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: not taking you don't believe anyone is a leader enough
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: ortol they're abusive.
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: You crave for abuse to feel safe.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: That you don't feel anyone is a man enough until
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: they can get you scared. I wrote something here. The
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: once people see that you crave for their approval to
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: be fine, they will taunt you with their rejection. People
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: are not that nice. Number three signs that you are
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: still trapped in your childhood mind.
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: Trauma.
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: Now, we sometimes, as let me use the word Pentecostals,
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: want to think that maybe God is not concerned where
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: the state of our mental health. Of course he is,
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: because the Bible demonstrated that. Let me show you for instance,
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: in First Samuel, chapter number sixteen, after David was annointed
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: as king, the spirit of God came upon him, and
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: there was a spirit that came upon soul and affected
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: his mental health. That soul became irrational inside, giving schizophrenic tendencies,
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: so much so that there was a provision of grace
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: under God that when David placed the hat, the evil
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: spirit that was tormenting him is mental.
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: Health will leave.
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: Trauma is real. There are names you remember, your heart skips.
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: There are faces you remember your heart skips. Many of
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: you can't even go back to the house you lived
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: when you were growing up because of the event. Maybe
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: when you get there you start shaking. Trauma is real.
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: The traumatic feeling that comes with the memory of sexual
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: abuse is real, and one can be trapped in it.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: I showed you that scriptures someday I have to show
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: you again. Look chapter number four. Now we read in
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: message translation. We're gonna read from verse eighteen, and I
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: want you to pay very important attention. Are you getting blessed?
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: God's spirit is on me. It's chosen me to pick
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: the message of good news for the poor. It sent
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: me to announce pad on to prisoners, and recovery of
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: sight to the blind, to set the burden and what's
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: battered free, to announce God's yet to add, to set
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: the burdened.
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: And the battered.
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: So there are people who are carrying burdens and their
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: emotions have been battered. There is a probation of an
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: annoyting to set them free. You won't continue like that,
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: And sometimes we just accept maybe this is my own faith,
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: you know, I just have to just carry this thing
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: all my life.
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: It won't go away to will either. The Son of
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: God has made free, is free.
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: Indeed, you can get to the point that you become
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: so healed that the same thing that makes your heart
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: keep your see it.
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: And you are fine. Trauma is real.
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: Sometimes people think somebody is a bad thing with all
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: forgiveness and that's why the person is not relating with them.
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: But the person might be traumatized, may be traumatized. A
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: daughter can be traumatized about the mom or the father.
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: Sometimes can be the memory of a particular beating that
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: you're received, maybe the way you were kicked, and it
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: won't go away, and you are trapped there. And when
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: your own family events taking place, you remember those things
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: and you have skips and sometimes this traumatic feelings or
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: traumatizing feelings so can so hold you down that you
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: are not able to move on in life. The marriage
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: of your parents can traumatize you so much so you
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: don't want to get married anymore. There are people, sometimes celebrities, footballers,
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: who prefer to have girlfriends and not commit legally to
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: the person because they've seen their friends commit to certain
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: individuals in foreign countries and those women as will up
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: toward divorce and they have to give them certain portion
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: of their world and they go back to square one,
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: and that trauma will keep them in this forawhare. They say,
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: you see, I can work all my life and one
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: woman will take it.
• 54:10
  Speaker 3: Are you there?
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: It is possible to be dealing with trauma in a
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: man and you don't know, and you think it is
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: anger that when you talk he is not hearing you.
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: He's hearing the voice of the past. He's hearing someone
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: you remind him of. Someone once said this and something happened,
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: and really is killing an hand now with sledgehammer because
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: it's not you now, it is the memory of those
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: things that has happened. Trauma is real. Sometimes a girl,
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: a woman can be traumatized. Maybe the odsband reminds her
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: of her father. Maybe something she hates the most in
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: the father is what this guy strand of manifests and
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: she has vowed I won't grow up and dim and
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: take this from you. And sometimes that people might just
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: be doing things innocently and what is make you feel
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: traumatized may not be connected to anything. In fact, sometimes
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: it is not that deep. When you hear people say
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: things like a woman should not knowing what you arn,
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: that's the language of trauma. That's not healing, that's not helped.
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: When you hear women say things like don't trust any
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: man with all your life, that's the language of trauma.
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: That's the language of trauma. There's something that is broken.
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: There, and if you don't deal with it, it becomes
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: a lesson that you're trying to impart to the next generation.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: And you give them fear without an event, and the
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: fear will created event. Some of you are traumatized not
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: because of what you have experienced, but because of what
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: someone will experience. Something told you. Sometimes this is what
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: I'm saying. The counsels some parents are giving their children
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: before they get married is the counsel that will destroy
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: their marriage. They are giving counsels from what they went through,
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: not from their uniqueness.
• 56:16
  Speaker 3: Are you seeing that now?
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: Sometimes from almost began to break when mother in law
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: came to do something for the wife.
• 56:24
  Speaker 3: Maybe the mother of the guy. Let me give you
• 56:28
  Speaker 3: a very.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: Serious example to self traumatized to you are maybe the
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: guy's mother came to.
• 56:37
  Speaker 3: Take care of the child.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: The girls gave beds and saw her son in the
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: bedroom washing the wives on the way.
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: Ah, they have used his head and she's going to
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: push narratives.
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: You know what I've not is particularly for Nigerians in
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: the aspera and I have won as many as I
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: can want that Sometimes if care is not taking, the
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: beginning of your trouble is when you start bringing family
• 57:11
  Speaker 2: members down. Because everyone want to protect their own children
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: stay there even if it means that their own breaks.
• 57:21
  Speaker 3: That's the problem. The mother of the girl.
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: Believes that she's the open door for a family to
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: come abroad. So if this guy would rather let his
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: own break, you just make sure you get what you want.
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: The mother of the guy also believes and they will
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: be engineering the destruction of the family from Nigeria and
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: they will never know peace in that room. And sometimes
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: you can even happen that one is away can happen
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: at home.
• 57:55
  Speaker 3: Two. You are the first one showing signs that you
• 57:57
  Speaker 3: are making it. And the mother. I will fight any
• 58:00
  Speaker 3: woman that comes into your life.
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: And look like while I was soughing with my son,
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: you are you there now that my son is there,
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: you want to come and do this and you will
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: speak words that will affect. Listen to what I'm saying.
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: Love your mom, understand that she has as band. Love
• 58:15
  Speaker 2: your wife. Let me let me say and I know
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: what I want to say with a friend from the
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: moment you say, yes, I do your priority shoe change.
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: Yes, it is dysfunction to see.
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: I cannot love my wife more than I love my mom.
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: Why did you myra your mom has an owners band?
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: How can she win in two places? Young ladies, As
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: you are laughing, you're also becoming a mother. So package
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: plan for that time too.
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: Is that okay?
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: Plan for that time to laugh now, but please plan, please,
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: so that the laughter and be in context.
• 59:05
  Speaker 3: But sometimes that's the issue. I know your family.
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: That the mother in law went to help them take
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: care of baby and said something to a son in
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: law that family broke that day. The guy pat these
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: things and left the house for over twenty years, never
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: returned what he said to him.
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: Till today, nobody knows. Let me tell you something.
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: Sometimes, if you know that there's a problem at tomb
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: You have to outsource ky.
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: Don't say I told you so that you do not
• 59:57
  Speaker 3: feel this is traditional and I must do it.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 2: Then your family dies. There are kinds of backgrounds who
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: be coming from. You must not expose your children to them.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: If you are the first generation to break through, you
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: have more.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: Work to do.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: There are people who wish you well, and they can
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: wish you well to death. You have to protect your
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: own Some of you listen to what I'm saying. You
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: have to start planning for married ten years before you
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: even find the right person, because the kind of place
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: you are coming from requires to prep the ground.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 3: You are married.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: Now, Mother in lak and come and break into the bedroom.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: I say, it's my son's house. Somebody has not done
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: this job. It's not giving no orientation. Men you acquired,
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: I said, Men, you are quiet?
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 3: It are you here? Say I hear you? No, you
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 3: can't sleep, now, say I hear you.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: There are men who are married who ought to still
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: be a tomb taking man. Any literal issues, Mommy, is
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: what you at this thing? Now? They've reported the wife
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: to their family members and they've destroyed our image there.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: They will not let her come back and want them
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 2: to honor the same woman.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 3: You saw that cheap.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: Matter's between husband and wife can be easily settled when
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 2: you take it to family members. Everyone will defend their own.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 2: No family is a new trackground except maybe their pastor
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: their exceptional case. That's maturity.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: But I le exceptional. Are you feel saying?
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: Now?
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 3: Listening to it? Because I hear this thing the Lord say,
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 3: my mother suffered with me, this this one woman.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: Now you you married this girl, say one woman knows
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: come and come.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: And enjoy everything. Where you were pursuing this girl, you
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 3: didn't say one woman. I like you. You are saying
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 3: you are the sugary in my tea. They sit in
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 3: my this You didn't call that one woman.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: Now, what affected your heart this much towards your wife?
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: Don't laugh about this matter like it is not happening.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: What affected your mind towards your wife? That's your wife?
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: He said nobody?
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 2: Your mama said usband, that was bandy here, that's polygue
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: at me. And once you pressed on remote, your family
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 2: were spot I think having bids is what makes anybody
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: a man. Goods have bid?
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 3: Sorry, yeah, but.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 2: Well I've seen many cases. But if there were someone
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: who taught the men now to be men. The families
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 2: will not go like that. There are mothers who they
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 2: start prepping their son's minds on how to know that
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: one woman cannot entire life. Now, and you think I'm done,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: there's withcrafts, I said, that's withcrafts. He marries, lose him
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 2: and letting him go, there's withcraft Many of you there
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: may tell you you have not recovered. I am here
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: to tell you, as your pastor, that they were wrong.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: And if you, if you will change your mind, may
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: all the girls who meet that God's sound is upon
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: their life not give you a yes?
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 3: For this reason?
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: Said a man leave his father and his mother and
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 2: cleave to his wife.
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 3: Cleave? Are you there?
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: Stop this mentality of seeing women as gold diggers. Every
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: woman wants a man who is actually going somewhere that
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: is predictable, to trust her life in his hands. So
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: it's okay. If you have made money before she came,
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: it's not bad. It's had that advantage. It's okay.
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 3: I'm coming to women too, Gus told them, of course,
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 3: is that okay? Now?
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: Let me beg you, ladies, marry a man, not a
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: mummy's boy. Don't married a mommy's boy. It will make
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: you cheap. In the hands of his sisters, they will
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: dictate that we should treat you. Many of your men
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: still believe that the proof that you have married a
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: virtuous woman is that when you have family functions, his
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 2: carrying bucket on her head and going to Oh, he's there,
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 2: let's deal with that one too. I guess so it
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 2: is there. So you have believed in your heart that
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: go will not bless There are things that can be outsourced.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: You grew up going to the village. But he's carrying fire.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: Would you just believe that once this girl this is
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 2: it before we won't say this. Let's take out to
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 2: the bridge so they can test her out. And the
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 2: unfortuna thing is that this mentality can You can wear
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: a tan on it and look posh, but inside you
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: are still a bushboy. And many women what they have
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: not forgiving them for is what happened when the same
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 2: girl went to meet visuals family members. Nobody treated them
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: like that when they wanted to marry, But they would
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: treat this girl like that. Why that's wicked less. Any
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 2: man who can stand this ground, to defend this territory
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 2: is not a man. When they are talking you down,
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: he's folding his arms and looking and he's blinking.
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 3: Just that's not a man.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: Every man tells people how to treat his queen. Stands
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 2: his ground, stands his ground, stand up. Anyone would disrespect
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: your spouse, has disrespected.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 3: Your con stand your ground on a beal amen. So
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 3: let's do the balance. Let me tell you something.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: If your question is if I meet my mother in law,
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: should I knel down to a glitter, He's already a
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: sign that you're a problem.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 3: Waiting to happen.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: If if, if you feel what I'm saying now, if
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: that's a question on your mind, and the family I
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 2: came from, we don't.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 3: We don't. We don't really need them.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 2: About your boss in the office, you owe them? Or no,
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 2: let's say where I came from is not really a
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 2: teen or no, is a lifestyle that is learned. If
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: they didn't give you, you learn it, you learn it.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 3: There.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: I've said this again and again. You will have tried
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: to drag me. I've said there are women who have
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: no capacity for peace. Every body they have ever lived
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: to it.
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 3: They thought.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: Every roommate, everybody, every friend ever in their life the
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: thought you are the one that thinks blessed is a peacemaker.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 3: You think you can really survive this one, she will
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 3: kill you.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: There are women who if I would say, it's better
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 2: to dwell in the corner of the house than to
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: be with a contentious woman. I went to greet a
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: family that year, towards Christmas. They were making chicken and.
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 3: Rice. We taught that the only thing that all all
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 3: tho stuff.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: I don't know what that means, you know, I mean
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 2: it was They told me to go great and then
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 2: but to my greatest surpris when food was to be saide,
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 2: it was ever and egg.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 3: I shocked, like maybe this.
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 2: Have you seen women? They are where they are. The
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: mentality that raised them is ghetto. They listen, let me
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: deal with the root of this vicious nature. They will
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: buy chicken and count on more for those who are
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 2: staying with them. They are pretty about everything. They have
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: no cap passes to treat people right. They will make
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 2: sure nobody feels welcomed in their house. When they marry
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 2: a man, they will strip him of all important relationship.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 2: They will strip him naked. They don't know anyone. They're
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: asking girls, will you eat no will it will dream.
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 2: There are girls who are badly brought up and someone
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 2: needs to tell them they're not ready for marriage. Build
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 2: character fairs, God do you mean.
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: Contentious patty? No, no hospitality, ditty children will be smelly?
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: School if I'm not lost, and it's scoring a movie
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: money till night one did that? They are small ansets
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: no Laptople's funy one died download the season did the
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 2: other season? Somebody must say it, somebody must say it.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: Praise God in all I see, I'm not sorry about
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 2: anything I've said. I tell you, I tell you after
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: I don't even know what's going on anyway, that's my own.
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 2: I'm a neutral. Do you see like this series? Or
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: should I leave? There are men that helpers would have
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: still been around them, but the wife who size everyone
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 2: up have sent all of them away. Who sized them
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 2: up well, are not the one that has money and
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 2: despise the ones that comes to their house maybe needing something.
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: And when God bless people, they run from their families.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: How spitable look are you?
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 3: You know, when you go to a.
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: Person's house, the feeling you have in the house is
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: determined by the woman because you are the one who
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: keeps the home. Are you aware? How speedable are you?
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 3: You know? Sometimes we're in church, some men are waving
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 3: their hands doing worship, and the wife is surprised.
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 2: And sometimes the women who are raised you has doing
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 2: ship and the husband is surprised. Or sometimes maybe the
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 2: cousin of someone living with them is wondering. You will
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: think some of the things that I've described don't happen.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: There are people that when they want to stop those
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 2: living with them, they will dilute the soup. You see,
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: you don't understand I'm telling you life. They will dilute it.
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 2: The some of your grop people who did all these nonsense,
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: then they have churches, they belong to societies, and all that.
• 1:12:33
  Speaker 3: They will dilute.
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: They will cook soup for their children separately, and the
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 2: one for those with them separately, and mix down plenty
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 2: of water. The one for those ones doesn't get spoils,
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: they will warm it. There is a god in heaven
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 2: who sees. And sometimes families are struggling for the way
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 2: they threade people. It's a bad thing and it's a
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: product of bad orp bringing Stop it, stop it.
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 3: Our places have gone.
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 2: And I told them the dire ever step back here, legies,
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 2: what's coming, I will not anywhere the blessing is on.
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 2: No is a culture there. No, Abraham didn't know that
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 2: the many entertained were angelous. It did it out of
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: honor when they were going to get wife for Isaac.
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 2: The prayer that the savant prayed was that the culture
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 2: in Abrahm's house will be extended and seen in the
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 2: life of the woman that God will give isi because
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 2: there are seasons that you don't have time to live
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 2: foundation Once again, there must be someboe who is already
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 2: in that direction. I'm saying, there are scenes of your
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 2: life that you don't have time to even wind and repair.
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 2: The person must have been repaired. You don't have time.
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 2: Oh no, when we come to your house, how we
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 2: feel is not timing by what you have. It is
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 2: timing by your heart. That's where graciousness flows from. May
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 2: God bless us and may you not marry people that
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 2: will what are down God's grace upon your life?
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 3: Are you still there? Mm hmm? Number four? Number four.
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 2: Science, you've seen people who are still trappling your childhood
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 2: mind inferiority complex. There is the feeling or the quality
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 2: of not feeling that you measure up to standard. When
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  Speaker 2: people have inferiority complex, they feel they are less than
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  Speaker 2: the required standard. They feel they are not enough, They
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  Speaker 2: feel they don't belong. They feel they are different and
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  Speaker 2: they are inferior. They feel they are less in quality.
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  Speaker 3: You are not a lesser quality. You are a richiner.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes as school systems, so then has not helped
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  Speaker 2: in that area school systems. That's why God is leading
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  Speaker 2: to you. So what's the direction of education you most?
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  Speaker 2: Please read into it? Okay, study into it. When people
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  Speaker 2: have inferiority complex, even when they it looks like they
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  Speaker 2: are feeling among literarily of in their mind, they're asking questions.
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  Speaker 2: They are doubting their every move, They are doubting what
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  Speaker 2: they wear. They are thinking that people can see their
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  Speaker 2: bank account. They are thinking when people see them, they
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  Speaker 2: see their faults. When you have inferrety complex, you're inadequaces,
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  Speaker 2: get more amplified in your side. You're always asking questions
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  Speaker 2: about yourself. You are no original. And one of the
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  Speaker 2: things I will tell you is that those who am
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  Speaker 2: relating also have their struggles. Just so you know, and
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  Speaker 2: you must get out of that box. But you keep thinking, Ah,
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  Speaker 2: when will I. No, it's not by clothes. You can
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  Speaker 2: wear the best things and you still feel low. You
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  Speaker 2: can drive the biggest cars and yet still feel low.
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  Speaker 2: It is dangerous when you are trying to use money
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  Speaker 2: to build their stem. It's dangerous you by you use money.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to buy things you don't need to
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  Speaker 2: impress people you don't like. Let me say it again.
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  Speaker 2: You use the money.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have to buy things you don't need to
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  Speaker 3: impress people you don't like. Be free.
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  Speaker 2: Somebody said to be beautiful is to be you till
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  Speaker 2: you are fool. Just be yourself, Just be yourself. You
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  Speaker 2: know sometimes the feeling that all eyes on me, or
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  Speaker 2: people's eyes are fixed on their problems. Somebody is looking
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  Speaker 2: at you, and you are you are Let me tell
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  Speaker 2: you something. Somebody is looking at you, maybe as the
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  Speaker 2: fellow is staying at you. The look looks bad, but
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  Speaker 2: actually it is like that because the person is thinking
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  Speaker 2: about Sometimes people are looking in the direction, but they
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  Speaker 2: are not seeing you. They are seeing what they are thinking.
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  Speaker 3: Are you following what I'm saying there?
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  Speaker 2: Because if you have lost, everything will matter to you.
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  Speaker 3: Did you see now? I will greet her again? Now?
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  Speaker 2: But you'll responds, and then pass. I said, we act
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  Speaker 2: to man. No one is sitting about the problem. That's
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  Speaker 2: what you see. They don't like me. They don't like me,
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  Speaker 2: they don't like me. I don't know what I've done.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what I've done. And then that there
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  Speaker 2: would be an opportunist. We now begin to bring many
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  Speaker 2: things that are looking in your own soul.
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  Speaker 3: That so the reason why you may feel they should
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  Speaker 3: not like you. And see, that's it, that's it. They
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  Speaker 3: don't like you. They are not people of love. Don't
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  Speaker 3: mind them.
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  Speaker 2: Don't mind them that somebody's day can be spoilt by
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  Speaker 2: one's have startles.
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  Speaker 3: No, let me tell you something anyway, there's no expectations,
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  Speaker 3: there's no frustration. Are you still there? Inferiority complex?
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  Speaker 2: And this is a serious one because it can be masked,
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  Speaker 2: it can be max people can do everything to covert.
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  Speaker 2: What's the solution to the unting feeling of inferiority complex?
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  Speaker 2: You must see yourself the way God sees you. Are
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  Speaker 2: you still there? What did I say? You must see
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  Speaker 2: yourself the way God sees you. You must refuse to
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  Speaker 2: be defined by what you have or what you don't have.
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  Speaker 2: You must accept to be defined by the quality of
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  Speaker 2: who you are in God's plan.
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  Speaker 3: How do you know the words of a thing?
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you know the world by looking at the price
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  Speaker 2: true the pride by you is the blood of Jesus himself.
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  Speaker 2: Now to look at yourself and say you are worthless
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  Speaker 2: is to scorn the death of Jesus.
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  Speaker 3: You are important. You are so important. If you were
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  Speaker 3: the only one Jesus would have still died. Amen. Let
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  Speaker 3: me tell you this.
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  Speaker 2: There are things I wish I have that I don't
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  Speaker 2: have yet. And it's okay, okay, it's okay. You the
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  Speaker 2: life of a man does not consist of one of
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  Speaker 2: the things he possessed. It's okay, I wish I have this.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have it yet. I will have it someday.
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  Speaker 2: Ah okay. I just have to stay in God's will
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  Speaker 2: for my life, okay, and then when the time comes,
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  Speaker 2: will provide. So when I see someone who has that thing,
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  Speaker 2: I celebrate them. It shows me that it is in
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  Speaker 2: the neighborhood. One of the qualities you must have is
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  Speaker 2: the callity to have been resilient. Let life beat you.
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  Speaker 2: You just don't don't be don't don't give up, keep rising. Again,
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  Speaker 2: keep fighting, and of us are quick to give up.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just done. May I been doing this all my life.
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  Speaker 3: I'm done. You can't be done. There are many destinies
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  Speaker 3: are hanging around you. You are not fighting for you alone.
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  Speaker 3: Get up.
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  Speaker 2: A man, so don't wait for wings to validate you.
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  Speaker 2: The kind of clothes, the kind of shoe, the kind
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  Speaker 2: of week we mean so much to women?
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  Speaker 3: Is it true? Uh? No, this week matter? Is it true?
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  Speaker 3: It's true? Yes, the kind of week, this week you
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  Speaker 3: see me as a man, I just.
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  Speaker 2: Have priorities. So me, I didn't know that week is important,
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  Speaker 2: but we we don't. There you get, but we men
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  Speaker 2: need to look sharp, to look okay. But the good
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  Speaker 2: thing is at every level you can be sharp simple.
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  Speaker 2: In fact, if there's no week gone, you can't even
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  Speaker 2: baba and push some style even they even thing you
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  Speaker 2: do controlling world bank. But there's a kind of or
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  Speaker 2: barbe a little balance it. Now, people who know that
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  Speaker 2: there's problem, let me tell you something. Well, I think
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  Speaker 2: in the world of men, we really don't send as
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  Speaker 2: much as women. Any event you go to and you
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  Speaker 2: come back for your osband is not successful with their
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  Speaker 2: wrong events.
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  Speaker 3: Now, women, you are not talking is the wrong event?
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  Speaker 2: You've gone there? Women are doing their stop to God
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  Speaker 2: bid degree.
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  Speaker 3: Thank God for them, so them the things. What do
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  Speaker 3: you mean I tell you.
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  Speaker 2: You go back home and then you are you are
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  Speaker 2: crying and then beat your osband open and say, look
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  Speaker 2: look at what I saw?
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  Speaker 3: Imagine it? Do you see out the way?
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  Speaker 2: What do you mean by my marchiney dohm?
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  Speaker 3: Wrong events?
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  Speaker 2: If you have to have I bip you over that
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  Speaker 2: high school, fie wrong school? Do everything at your level, sir?
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  Speaker 2: Is that okay?
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  Speaker 3: Now?
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  Speaker 2: My life is wired with structures, structure for everything that
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  Speaker 2: my wife I know the structure. This is where we are,
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  Speaker 2: This is where we are. I said, you are opposed
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  Speaker 2: to families. I forget about all those things. Apposedly I
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  Speaker 2: didn't give him money for it. The day was for dinner.
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  Speaker 2: They tell me I would take I said, I'm an
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  Speaker 2: opposed to give me for it down. Sometimes he's so stressful.
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  Speaker 2: We are passing in the airport. They want you to
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  Speaker 2: drop something. Are you feeling what I'm saying there? Let
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  Speaker 2: me let me say it again. Any family party or
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  Speaker 2: something that you have to go and part to attend,
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  Speaker 2: don't attend. You come back from that place. It's all
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  Speaker 2: I have enjoyed. You are sad, wrong party, wrong party.
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  Speaker 2: You want to do seremoney. Thank God for the child,
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  Speaker 2: so the child is not born into foolishness. This is
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  Speaker 2: what you have, is what you can afford new child.
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  Speaker 2: Now there's debt. The child is going at one week
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  Speaker 2: almost be happy. You borrow you are borrowed now to
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  Speaker 2: buy a goat, share capping, biscuits and water. Everybody going. Man,
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  Speaker 2: let me say it again. I've said this again and again.
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  Speaker 2: You want to get married, you don't desy about food,
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  Speaker 2: call me. I will join you together. I tell you
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  Speaker 2: this is someone I will preach. Nobody will be able
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  Speaker 2: to eat when I'm done. Pretty, no body will except
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  Speaker 2: they are going to help fire. No body will open
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  Speaker 2: their mouth. And I tell you, are you following? I'm
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  Speaker 2: saying early condition that puts you in tycon and leave
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  Speaker 2: it wedding gon is to expense the rent. It's one day.
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  Speaker 2: It's one day.
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  Speaker 3: There's nothing. What's killing yourself? Over look at this? There
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  Speaker 3: was also time that we were dying for what's it
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  Speaker 3: called now?
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  Speaker 2: BlackBerry? As they give me your pin h BlackBerry bull
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  Speaker 2: one baby of something black You press the thing the
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  Speaker 3: Now is iPhone h.
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  Speaker 2: And in yet they will hold this in the way
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  Speaker 2: you see the camera like somebody is beating up the man.
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  Speaker 2: Now I found sixteen years out.
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  Speaker 3: Now by.
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  Speaker 2: You keep chasing vanity. The Bible calls it to perfluity
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  Speaker 2: of naughtingness. We are not defined by what we have.
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  Speaker 2: We are not defined by what we wear. That's not
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  Speaker 2: our life. If not, what you have will be your idol.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna stop here, and the next one I want
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  Speaker 2: to give you will be addictions. There are addictions. They
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  Speaker 2: will have developed because of the kind of upbringing that
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  Speaker 2: they have. The problem of the next generation is that
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  Speaker 2: when you want to look for the person that is
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  Speaker 2: your arrival on your spouse phone, you're.
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  Speaker 3: Not just looking for female name alone. The world is
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  Speaker 3: in trouble.
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  Speaker 2: M And that's why we need to teach this because
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  Speaker 2: if we are dealing with challenges like this at this level,
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  Speaker 2: when the slave queens and the baddies have become mothers,
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  Speaker 2: are you there, and I know they hear anything, boys
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  Speaker 2: they become fathers, there will be trouble. For the sake
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  Speaker 2: of the next generation. We most rise. Now there's trouble coming.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I ask myself, what if Jesus doesn't coming in
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  Speaker 2: the next fifty years?
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  Speaker 3: Look at the thoughts.
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  Speaker 2: The ideology is flying on internet and God helps you
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  Speaker 2: fellows with the Internet more than your Bible.
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  Speaker 3: Trouble. Let's stop this effort tonight. Have you been blessed?
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  Speaker 3: But I want us to pray? Is that? Okay?
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  Speaker 2: Can I give you a moment if you will go
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  Speaker 2: on your next Please do that whatever way. The things
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  Speaker 2: of the past are still hanging around your soul and
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  Speaker 2: affecting your life and your decision making process. That God
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  Speaker 2: himself will set you free. Don't pray that prayer casually,
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  Speaker 2: don't trivialize it. Pray it to the whole of your heart.
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  Speaker 2: That God himself will set too free. It will help you,
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  Speaker 2: It will help you, It will help you.
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  Speaker 3: Please pray.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe some of you have seen yourself in this teaching
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  Speaker 2: tonight and you want to really pray. Maybe some things
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  Speaker 2: are still locking and hanging around your soul and you're saying, God,
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  Speaker 2: I can see myself, these are things that are concerning
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  Speaker 2: about my life.
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  Speaker 3: I need help. Please cry to God, help me, help me,
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  Speaker 3: help me, help me.
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  Speaker 2: Please pray. Let me tell you this, God, is going
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  Speaker 2: to see you three. It doesn't abandon his wounded soldiers.
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  Speaker 2: It does everything possible to make sure we are all again.
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  Speaker 2: This series is one of his attempts to make sure
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  Speaker 2: now we receive allness again. So tell him, Jesus thou
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  Speaker 2: son of David, help me, help me, help me overcome
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  Speaker 2: these things. Help me recover in this area. Help my heart.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to walk in low self esteem again.
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  Speaker 2: Help me, Lord, deliver me from addictions. Deliver me from
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  Speaker 2: my own thoughts at his aunte me, deliver me from
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  Speaker 2: bitterness around my soul because of the things I've seen.
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  Speaker 3: Help me help me, Oh, Jesus thou son of David.
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  Speaker 3: Just in a moment, I'd like Nachalie to raise that
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  Speaker 3: sound we raise on Sunday again while we pray that prayer.
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  Speaker 2: Just in a moment, you know, before God, we can
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  Speaker 2: be naked and yet unashamed. It's the one that knows
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  Speaker 2: her frame. He sees every part, and it's the eler
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  Speaker 2: heals every It takes it where I were infirmities. Ask
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  Speaker 2: him to help, ask him to help. You gave me hope.
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  Speaker 5: You made me hope.
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  Speaker 3: Other cross.
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  Speaker 2: Uh, you took my shame. You show me.
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  Speaker 3: Gray other cross where you died for me.
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  Speaker 2: And his love?
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  Speaker 5: Bees like glads.
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  Speaker 2: From the song joy he shines to this? Can he
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  Speaker 2: thengel squad singing war.
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  Speaker 3: The Lord.
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  Speaker 5: And is lost?
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  Speaker 3: Bee like live from the song.
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  Speaker 5: Shines scarcelyes?
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  Speaker 3: Amen. Now look up everyone, I many of you know
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  Speaker 3: that some things have been said tonight that.
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  Speaker 2: Reasons why families have been struggling, some for ten years,
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  Speaker 2: some for twenty years, some for thirty years.
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  Speaker 3: And there is deliverance following those words. Are you aware
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  Speaker 3: we speak libration.
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  Speaker 2: That every year that he has this wisdom is impacted,
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  Speaker 2: that families will be killed and healed because of the
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  Speaker 2: wisdom of God.
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  Speaker 3: Going forth every year will hear this.
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  Speaker 2: And there will be like PERSI anyone here we're still
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  Speaker 2: dealing with bitterness, pain on forgiveness. There is healing in
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  Speaker 2: your soul. You will no longer be afraid, you'll no
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  Speaker 2: longer doubt yourself. It is done in Jesus Mighty name.
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  Speaker 2: Let's give Jesus a big, big, big big hand.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you love.
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  Speaker 2: Amen.
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