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Embrace the Pain – It’s Your Path to Growth. · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Embrace the pain. Pain is good for you, It's great
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  Speaker 1: for you. This is no fun. But when you finish
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  Speaker 1: and you go through weeks and months, you feel the
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  Speaker 1: value that you get is much greater than the pain.
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  Speaker 1: That pain, that resistance is good for you.
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  Speaker 2: You need to love pain to be an athlete. And
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  Speaker 2: I know no pain, No, this is whatever or the
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  Speaker 2: you know the crisis. Oh my no, this is real.
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  Speaker 2: You need to love pain, however mentally physically love it.
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  Speaker 2: You need to love it. If not, stay away you
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  Speaker 2: want you guys have no idea.
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  Speaker 3: When you're hurt, how do you feel? You lay down, right,
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  Speaker 3: you take a second, you go, you know, you take
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  Speaker 3: your vitamins, you do your thing. When I'm hurt, I
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  Speaker 3: love it. I love that feeling because it's real. That's
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  Speaker 3: the most real feel that you could ever have, is
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  Speaker 3: being in pain. Because everything else, happiness could be fake,
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  Speaker 3: crime could be fake.
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  Speaker 4: But pain.
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  Speaker 3: That's real.
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  Speaker 5: Tell me one thing, one thing in your life that
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  Speaker 5: is great that came as a result of being comfortable.
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  Speaker 5: Because everywhere I look and everywhere I see in today's society,
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  Speaker 5: everybody's doing everything they can to be more comfortable. Right,
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  Speaker 5: They're looking for the more convenience. They're looking for the quicker,
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  Speaker 5: they're looking for the faster. All the great things in
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  Speaker 5: my life, all the great things in other high achievers' lives,
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  Speaker 5: all the reasons that these successful people that you look
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  Speaker 5: up to, that you aspire to be like are the
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  Speaker 5: way they are, have all come from a place of
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  Speaker 5: being uncomfortable. Okay, So understand that when you're trying to
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  Speaker 5: avoid the pain, when you're trying to avoid the struggle,
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  Speaker 5: when you're trying to avoid the hard things in life,
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  Speaker 5: you are actively choosing to be average. You are actively
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  Speaker 5: choosing to be mediocre, and you are actively choosing to
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  Speaker 5: move further away from what you want in life. Because
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  Speaker 5: that hardship and that pain, and that struggle and that
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  Speaker 5: frustration they give you the skills that will forge you
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  Speaker 5: into a champion.
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  Speaker 6: Every single person who has ever done anything worthwhile or
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  Speaker 6: exceptional or difficult or extraordinary, anyone, whether it's great artists
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  Speaker 6: or authors or mathematicians or whatever it is, everyone encounters difficulties.
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  Speaker 6: There is no easy road, it does not exist. It
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  Speaker 6: is impossible. Everyone has issues.
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  Speaker 7: How can I deal with the fact that this is
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  Speaker 7: painful for me? And the answer is the fact that
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  Speaker 7: it is painful is the reason that it's working that
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  Speaker 7: if it wasn't you stepping out. Everybody else that has
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  Speaker 7: to try and step out into this new life faces
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  Speaker 7: this same thing too, every single person does. That's why
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  Speaker 7: most people don't do it like this is what hard
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  Speaker 7: feels like, and this is why most people don't win.
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  Speaker 7: So continuing to push through and almost seeing that level
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  Speaker 7: of discomfort as a signal it's like a waymarket that's
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  Speaker 7: been planted in the ground. Yes, more this way because
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  Speaker 7: if it was all just super easy, well, how are
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  Speaker 7: you going to get anything different to what everybody else
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  Speaker 7: has got if you do the same thing that everybody
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  Speaker 7: else does. And one of the best selectors for people
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  Speaker 7: not doing a thing is discomfort. So the route that
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  Speaker 7: has a lot of discomfort down it usually on the
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  Speaker 7: other side of that ends up with something which is valuable.
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  Speaker 8: Push through pain enough and there's glory on the other
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  Speaker 8: side of it, but you got to get through it,
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  Speaker 8: and sometimes getting through it is coming out to comfort zone.
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  Speaker 9: The individual who is more pain, more suffering, more obstacles,
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  Speaker 9: more setbacks, more failure, were winning in the end.
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  Speaker 10: It is that simple.
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  Speaker 9: Man, I'll take it on the chin, just like your
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  Speaker 9: ancestors did. This is what you were born for, This
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  Speaker 9: is what you were born to do.
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  Speaker 10: Two thousand and eight was brutal. We had the third
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  Speaker 10: consecutive failure of the Falcone rocket for SpaceX. Tesla almost
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  Speaker 10: went bankrupt. We closed out financing round six pm Christmas
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  Speaker 10: Eve two thousand and eight. It was the last hour
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  Speaker 10: of the last day that it was possible we would
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  Speaker 10: have gone bankrupt two days after Christmas and device and
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  Speaker 10: I got the voice that was like rouugh Man.
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  Speaker 11: Remember I was not always this strong guy. You see,
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  Speaker 11: I went through a lot of hard times in my
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  Speaker 11: life to get here today.
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  Speaker 4: Be the guy who embraces the ugly, the miserable, Be
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  Speaker 4: the guy who embraces hard work, the grind. Don't be
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  Speaker 4: afraid of being hurt, don't be afraid of a sacrifice
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  Speaker 4: of some blood.
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  Speaker 12: Pick up your damn suffering and bear it and try
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  Speaker 12: to be a good person so you don't make it worse. Well,
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  Speaker 12: that's a truth, you know. I read a lot about
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  Speaker 12: the terrible things that people have done to each other.
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  Speaker 12: You just cannot even imagine it so awful. So you
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  Speaker 12: don't want to be someone like that. Now, do you
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  Speaker 12: have a reason to be yes, you have lots of
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  Speaker 12: reasons to be God. There's reasons to be resentful about
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  Speaker 12: your existence. Everyone you know is gonna die, you know
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  Speaker 12: you too, and there's gonna be a fair bit of
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  Speaker 12: pain along the way, and lots of it's gonna be unfair.
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  Speaker 12: It's like, yeah, no, wonder you're resentful. It's like act
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  Speaker 12: it out and see what happens. You make everything you're
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  Speaker 12: complaining about infinitely worse. There's this idea that hell is
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  Speaker 12: a bottomless pit, and that's because no matter how bad
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  Speaker 12: is some stupid son of a like you could figure
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  Speaker 12: out a way to make it a lot worse. So
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  Speaker 12: you think, well, what do you do about that? Well,
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  Speaker 12: you accept it. That's what life is like. It's suffering.
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  Speaker 13: Everybody's asleep, man, or just getting home after a long
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  Speaker 13: night out their parties. Friday night. It's a claus the
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  Speaker 13: three in the morning right now. Now. The thing is, man,
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  Speaker 13: it's always going to be a party. It's always going
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  Speaker 13: to be a time to celebrate and at a time
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  Speaker 13: to join friends and or data. I mean, the bars
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  Speaker 13: are always open, always open, and how old you are,
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  Speaker 13: they're always open. You know what's not always open is
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  Speaker 13: the opportunity to to check the box in life to
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  Speaker 13: achieve your dreams.
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  Speaker 8: That's not always open.
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  Speaker 14: Much harder wi you work in this on season now
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  Speaker 14: to get back to the championship, I'll push myself to exhaustion.
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  Speaker 4: At some point everything's going to go south on you.
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  Speaker 4: Everything's gonna go south, and you're gonna say, this is it,
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  Speaker 4: this is how I end.
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  Speaker 13: Now.
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  Speaker 4: You can either accept that or you can get to work.
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  Speaker 11: That's all it is.
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  Speaker 4: You just begin.
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  Speaker 12: Start with yourself. What good are you? Get yourself together?
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  Speaker 12: For Christ's sakes? So that when your father dies you're
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  Speaker 12: not winding away in the corner, and you can help
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  Speaker 12: plan the funeral and you can stand up solidly so
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  Speaker 12: that people can rely on you. That's better. It will
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  Speaker 12: be a damn victim. Of course you're a victim Jesus obviously,
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  Speaker 12: put yourself together.
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  Speaker 14: Everything worthwhile is uphill. You see every dream that you've
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  Speaker 14: ever had, it's all up hill. If you have a
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  Speaker 14: great relationship with somebody, you had to work on it uphill.
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  Speaker 14: If you've if you built a wonderful business, guess what
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  Speaker 14: it was uphill. If you've made the right decisions, they're
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  Speaker 14: they're not easy, are they it's uphill, and the only
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  Speaker 14: way that you can go uphill is to be intentional.
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  Speaker 14: Nobody ever accidentally went uphill. You have never talked to
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  Speaker 14: a successful person and said, how did you get to
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  Speaker 14: the top of the mountain and then look at you
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  Speaker 14: and say, I have no idea. If they're at the
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  Speaker 14: top of the mountain, they know how they got there
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  Speaker 14: because they had to have effort, It took energy, it
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  Speaker 14: took time. Everything worthwhile, everything worthwhile, is up ill.
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  Speaker 13: You know when when you when you say you're gonna
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  Speaker 13: do something, then you follow through and you do it,
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  Speaker 13: not not not at the end when you you know
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  Speaker 13: you cross the marathon, you finish it, or or your
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  Speaker 13: hands raised. I'm talking about right now, the small steps
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  Speaker 13: in between the big successes everyone sees. No one sees this.
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  Speaker 12: You want to have a meaningful life. Everything you do matters.
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  Speaker 12: That's the definition of a meaningful life. But everything you
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  Speaker 12: do matters, it's gonna have to carry that with you.
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  Speaker 12: Or do you want to just forget about the whole
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  Speaker 12: meaning thing and then you don't have any responsibility because
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  Speaker 12: who the hell cares? And you can wander through life
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  Speaker 12: doing whatever you want, gratifying, impulsive, desires for how useful
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  Speaker 12: that's going to be, and you're stuck in meaninglessness, but
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  Speaker 12: you don't have any responsibility. Which one do you want? Well,
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  Speaker 12: ask yourself which one are you pursuing? And you'll find
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  Speaker 12: very rapidly that it isn't the majority of your soul
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  Speaker 12: that's pursuing the whole meaning thing, because well, look what
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  Speaker 12: you have to do. To do that, you have to
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  Speaker 12: take on the fact that life is suffering. You have
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  Speaker 12: to put yourself together in the face of that.
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  Speaker 11: Well, that's hard.
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  Speaker 13: It's the moments in life, the decisions you make on
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  Speaker 13: a moment to moment basis to add up to be
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  Speaker 13: the guy or not the guy tonight I did something,
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  Speaker 13: you know, more of a guy for me? Who I am?
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  Speaker 13: My guy? You know, repeat that over and over and
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  Speaker 13: over again. It's just one.
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  Speaker 6: It's a better life.
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  Speaker 11: You feel like.
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  Speaker 13: More confident, you have a better sense of reality. You know,
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  Speaker 13: the way you go about your day is in a
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  Speaker 13: more productive fashion. You've more goal oriented.
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  Speaker 4: They all just synergetically.
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  Speaker 13: Go together into a movement.
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  Speaker 6: Of course.
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  Speaker 13: That's it's very unstoppable, man. And with that success come
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  Speaker 13: a lot of people there, you know, gonna applaud you,
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  Speaker 13: But the majority will hate you, man, they really will.
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  Speaker 13: They're gonna hate you because you know, your success is
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  Speaker 13: a spotlight shining down their misfortune, and they hate you
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  Speaker 13: for what you're doing, if reminding them of their missed
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  Speaker 13: opportunities and stuff. So you know, that's lonely man, just
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  Speaker 13: like being his only car off the parking lot. But
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  Speaker 13: if you're cool with that, man, if you're cool with
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  Speaker 13: walking in the shop as yourself and you know the
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  Speaker 13: only person you got, the man right there in the
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  Speaker 13: shadow man, how you doing pretty good? How you doing
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  Speaker 13: all right?
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  Speaker 4: Man?
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  Speaker 3: Cool?
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  Speaker 10: Cool?
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  Speaker 13: It's kind of we're having a conversation with you, but
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  Speaker 13: anyone else around because everyone else has faded way back then,
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  Speaker 13: way back then. You know, I feel cool with that
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  Speaker 13: kind of walk of life. I'll tell you, man, the
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  Speaker 13: world did your playground.
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  Speaker 9: You will rewrite the book on it all.
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  Speaker 12: Get yourself together, transcend your suffering. See if you can
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  Speaker 12: be some kind of hero, make the suffering in the
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  Speaker 12: world less.
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  Speaker 11: Pain is temporary. It may last for a minute or
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  Speaker 11: an hour, or a day or even a year, but
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  Speaker 11: eventually it will subside and something else will take its place.
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  Speaker 11: If I quit, however, it will last forever.
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  Speaker 8: There's two sides of pain that I don't think a
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  Speaker 8: lot of people really understand. There's one side of pain,
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  Speaker 8: that's the suffering and the discomfort side of pain. But
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  Speaker 8: then there's another sign of pain.
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  Speaker 2: That's called effort.
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  Speaker 8: It's called glory, it's called it. You can find a
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  Speaker 8: way to push through pain. There's something fred on the
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  Speaker 8: other side of it.
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  Speaker 11: I dare you to take a little pain, go through it.
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  Speaker 11: You ain't gonna die at the end of pain and success.
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  Speaker 11: You're not gonna die because you call a little.
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  Speaker 15: Pain experiencing pain in your muscles and aching, and just think,
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  Speaker 15: go on and go on, and then go on and
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  Speaker 15: just last two or three or four repetitions. That's what
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  Speaker 15: makes actually the muscle then grow, and that divides them
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  Speaker 15: one from a champion and one from not being a champion.
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  Speaker 15: If you can't go through this pain barrier, you make
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  Speaker 15: it to be a champion. If you can't go through,
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  Speaker 15: forget it. And that's what most people like is on
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  Speaker 15: this having the gods, the gods to go in and
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  Speaker 15: just say I go through, and I don't care what happens.
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  Speaker 15: You know it aches, and if I four down, I
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  Speaker 15: have no fear of fainting in the gym because I
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  Speaker 15: know it's it could happen. I threw up many times
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  Speaker 15: while it was working out, But it doesn't matter because
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  Speaker 15: it's all worth it.
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  Speaker 13: That pain you feel, that's a payment success. You must
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  Speaker 13: be willing shoulder of that pain to get success. And
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  Speaker 13: success is something that's a very lonely path in this
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  Speaker 13: world because few are willing to make that down payment
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  Speaker 13: of pain for that future minute success the.
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  Speaker 16: Better than life. Very few are failure. It's part of
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  Speaker 16: the recipes for success. You fail a thousand times for succeed.
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  Speaker 16: Every single person has. It's a loser that fail once
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  Speaker 16: and quick. Every winner has done failed. The loser and
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  Speaker 16: the winner both failed. It's just that the winner gets
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  Speaker 16: back up and does it again.
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  Speaker 6: Very lonely rose success lives know.
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  Speaker 13: That going is working, but it's the only road that
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  Speaker 13: will lead to a life for memberance.
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  Speaker 17: Pain is a beautiful thing. Challenge is what like if
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  Speaker 17: it's about a life without challenge. A life without pain
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  Speaker 17: is a life without growth. And where there is no growth,
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  Speaker 17: there's stale, stagnant energy, and that's where most people live.
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  Speaker 17: Because most people's lives are designed around treading a path
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  Speaker 17: that is void of challenge. The minute they recognize challenge
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  Speaker 17: or pain, they move the other way. This is a
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  Speaker 17: primal instinct and normal and natural, but a weak perspective.
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  Speaker 17: Your likeness is found in your pain. Embrace it, love it,
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  Speaker 17: and grow from it.
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  Speaker 9: Life is not always about conquering.
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  Speaker 18: Often it's simply about enduring two forms of pain. A
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  Speaker 18: pain that breaks you and the pain that changes you.
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  Speaker 18: That's the pain of a change right there. That's a
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  Speaker 18: pain of progress. The pain that destroys you isn't this.
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  Speaker 18: It's later in life knowing you could.
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  Speaker 16: Have been more and all that's let does you, and
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  Speaker 16: the fear and tears of a possible ability left that
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  Speaker 16: you allowed to die.
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  Speaker 5: Own your life, guys, you get every opportunity.
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  Speaker 6: There's no excuse not to be the hardest worker in
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  Speaker 6: the room.
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  Speaker 18: In all your endeavorent schoolwork, the gym, your career, your relationship,
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  Speaker 18: your needs attached to it.
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  Speaker 16: It's got to mean more than anything.
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  Speaker 11: That's your name, it's all you got.
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  Speaker 16: Don't sell out.