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How then, ladies, shall we live? | Titus 2 · Quiet Time Conversations | Practical Discipleship

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SPEAKER_00: Good morning.
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SPEAKER_00: It's been a while, but here we are again.
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SPEAKER_00: Today let's talk about how we should live.
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SPEAKER_00: How are we supposed to live?
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SPEAKER_00: Now I've I became a Christian when I was 27, and I am now 54.
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SPEAKER_00: So I've had a few years.
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SPEAKER_00: I've been very, very immature.
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SPEAKER_00: And now as I've grown in the Lord, I've become more mature than I was.
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SPEAKER_00: So I can look back and see some things that I think I would have done differently.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's what we're going to talk about this morning is how shall we live?
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm coming at this from a 54-year-old married for 23 years, have children who are uh 20 and 21 years old, plus special needs.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's that's who I am, and that's I'm coming at it from there.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's go to Titus.
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SPEAKER_00: Now Titus is towards the back of the book.
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SPEAKER_00: He's right behind 1 Timothy, probably, yeah, 2 Timothy, and he's right before Philemon.
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SPEAKER_00: So um he's way back in the book.
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SPEAKER_00: And we're going to be in chapter 2.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is Paul.
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SPEAKER_00: He wrote a letter to Titus, and this is what he said.
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SPEAKER_00: In verse 2, the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience.
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SPEAKER_00: That's great for our older men.
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SPEAKER_00: The older women likewise that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's just park there for a minute.
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SPEAKER_00: Not slanderers.
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SPEAKER_00: Slandering means talking bad about someone else.
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SPEAKER_00: It happens all the time in church.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it happens through prayer, you know.
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SPEAKER_00: We joke about it, that somebody is praying for someone, and in the prayer, we're letting everybody know what they did.
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SPEAKER_00: That's slandering.
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SPEAKER_00: He asked us not to do that.
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SPEAKER_00: Can we be women that do not slander other women and other men?
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SPEAKER_00: Gossip is like chocolate.
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SPEAKER_00: It goes down and it feels good and it's wonderful.
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SPEAKER_00: And we have to say, we're just not, we have to make a decision ahead of time.
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SPEAKER_00: We are just not going to because it will be so tempting.
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SPEAKER_00: It is so tempting.
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SPEAKER_00: And then you're walking around with this piece of information that nobody knows because you promised God you wouldn't tell, and you're just dying.
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SPEAKER_00: And at some point, you say it.
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SPEAKER_00: At some point, it is really hard to do.
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SPEAKER_00: So the Lord asks us to be reverent in our behavior, not slanderers, not slanderers, not given to much wine.
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SPEAKER_00: There's a big wine culture in the church today.
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SPEAKER_00: But here in Titus, which the Lord gave us, he is saying, do not be given to much wine.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't even drink it anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't have a thing against it.
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SPEAKER_00: I used to drink too much, and I quit that.
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SPEAKER_00: And I really, I just don't even start.
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SPEAKER_00: I just don't even have it anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: I am so happy having my coffee.
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SPEAKER_00: There are so many wonderful kinds of coffee.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't need the wine.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't miss it either.
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SPEAKER_00: And then teachers of good things, which is what I'm doing right now.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm trying to teach good things to those who may not have heard it, may not know.
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SPEAKER_00: Reverent in behavior.
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SPEAKER_00: Reverent in behavior.
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SPEAKER_00: Can we talk a minute about how women dress?
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SPEAKER_00: It is not, it doesn't please anyone in heaven when our boobs are showing.
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SPEAKER_00: No one's pleased in heaven, not necessary.
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SPEAKER_00: One of the problems is that men are very, very visual.
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SPEAKER_00: And they can't not look.
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SPEAKER_00: And frankly, I can't I can't not look.
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SPEAKER_00: I see a woman walking by and half their boob is hanging out.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm looking because that's just it's odd and it's wrong.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just, why am I looking at your boobs?
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SPEAKER_00: Why do I need to look at your boobs?
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SPEAKER_00: I know this is all over TV, but we don't live in that kingdom.
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SPEAKER_00: We live in the kingdom of God.
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SPEAKER_00: There is no one that should be seeing our boobs.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, our the outline of our nipples should not be showing.
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SPEAKER_00: Why?
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SPEAKER_00: I don't want to look at it.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't want my husband looking at it.
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SPEAKER_00: It's hard for him not to look because men are so visual.
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SPEAKER_00: We can dress wonderfully and tastefully without showing our boobs, or our stomach or a uh a miniskirt that goes way too high.
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SPEAKER_00: Way too high.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't mean I'm 54, miniskirts are out of the question now.
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SPEAKER_00: But and then the yoga pants.
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SPEAKER_00: Can we talk about the yoga pants with the seam up the butt?
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SPEAKER_00: There was a lady one time, and she was wearing the same color as her skin, and she was up ahead of me in the grocery store, and it took me a long stare to figure out that she was not naked because it looked exactly like a naked body walking in front of me.
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SPEAKER_00: Those yoga pants with the seam up the butt.
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SPEAKER_00: Why?
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SPEAKER_00: It's so people will look.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, let's be honest.
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SPEAKER_00: It is just so people will look.
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SPEAKER_00: So men will look.
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SPEAKER_00: Or we're trying to look good in front of other women because we do.
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SPEAKER_00: We try to impress other women with what we're wearing.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not impressed, young Christian.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not impressed.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't need to see your butt.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't need to see it in the grocery store.
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SPEAKER_00: I nobody needs to see your butt.
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SPEAKER_00: Come on.
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SPEAKER_00: And I have a special needs son who has no decorum and can't stop staring.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh, and I really don't want him seeing your butt, and I don't want him seeing your boobs.
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SPEAKER_00: I really don't.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't say that to people in the world because they will do what they do, but we're in the kingdom of God.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you are in the kingdom of God, there is no reason anyone should be seeing your body outside of your husband.
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SPEAKER_00: And you can dress so tastefully and so beautifully and so feminine without showing your body.
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SPEAKER_00: It's so possible and it's so tasteful.
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SPEAKER_00: I just absolutely love that.
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SPEAKER_00: It's tasteful.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, verse four, admonish the young women to love their husbands and love their children.
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SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to admonish you to love your husbands and to love your children.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to, I want you to remember why you married your husband in the first place, because when we get married, we're in love and so excited.
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SPEAKER_00: Remember that.
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SPEAKER_00: And then take that into this season.
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SPEAKER_00: Because in every season, he's different and we're different.
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SPEAKER_00: We turn into different people.
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SPEAKER_00: And I want you to choose again to marry that man again in this season for who he is now.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, he he might not be great right now.
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SPEAKER_00: It's possible because stress, stress and money and financial provision, it it all hits.
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SPEAKER_00: It's very hard.
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SPEAKER_00: So they might not be who they were, but it is just a season.
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SPEAKER_00: Who you married, he's still in there.
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SPEAKER_00: He's in there.
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SPEAKER_00: I married my best, best friend.
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SPEAKER_00: And then when children and special needs hit, he became someone else.
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SPEAKER_00: He became consumed with how do I now provide for my family for the rest of their lives and my son for the rest of his life.
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SPEAKER_00: He will never provide for himself.
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SPEAKER_00: That is a lot to put on a man.
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SPEAKER_00: And he became someone else.
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SPEAKER_00: And he wasn't the same guy I married.
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SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
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SPEAKER_00: I became someone else too.
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SPEAKER_00: So I admonish you to marry him again for who he is right now.
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SPEAKER_00: He's still the same person you married.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just hard right now.
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SPEAKER_00: And then we pray.
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SPEAKER_00: We pray to get through it.
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SPEAKER_00: And then to love your children.
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SPEAKER_00: I admonish you to love your children not codependently, which I did.
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SPEAKER_00: Codependent means they have to be okay, so I'm okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Because I'm not okay if they're not okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, it wasn't healthy.
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SPEAKER_00: So I hope you're not doing that.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you are codependent, get a book.
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SPEAKER_00: Get a book.
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SPEAKER_00: There's a great Christian book out there for codependence.
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SPEAKER_00: Be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of the Lord may not be blasphemed.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's go through that piece by piece.
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SPEAKER_00: Discreet.
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SPEAKER_00: There's nothing more beautiful than a woman who you can trust because she's discreet.
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SPEAKER_00: You can talk to her about issues and stuff you don't want anyone else to know because she's discreet.
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SPEAKER_00: Be one of them.
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SPEAKER_00: We need them.
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SPEAKER_00: We need them so bad.
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SPEAKER_00: Be one of them.
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SPEAKER_00: Be discreet.
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SPEAKER_00: Take someone's secret and put it in the vault.
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SPEAKER_00: It does not come back out unless it's to your husband, because you are one through marriage.
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SPEAKER_00: And if he's not given to gossip, most guys are not, then he can keep that secret too.
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SPEAKER_00: But you are one, and um, I I would not vote for keeping a vault outside of your husband because you you're in covenant together.
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SPEAKER_00: But discreet.
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SPEAKER_00: A discreet woman that you can talk to is a treasurer.
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SPEAKER_00: Chaste, I'm not entirely sure what chaste is.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna guess that chaste is dresses modestly, which we already talked about, uh not out, not watching porn, not watching um rated R, blood, murder, guts, sex, violence, drugs, right?
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SPEAKER_00: That's not what I surround myself with in my books or in the shows or the social media that I put into my eyes.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna guess that that is what chaste means.
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SPEAKER_00: And I I struggle with this because I do watch social media and it has its own algorithm.
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SPEAKER_00: So I had to start working with the algorithm, like on I'm only on Facebook, but you can you can hit the three dots and you can say, I'm not interested in this.
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SPEAKER_00: So I there for a time there, things kept coming up with women talking about their husbands' peas, you know.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't I am not interested.
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SPEAKER_00: So I started using the algorithm to my advantage, and I went up and I hit the three dots and I said, I am not interested in this.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's kind of what I'm doing.
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SPEAKER_00: I try to delete it and then I put it right back on my phone.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm weak.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's I'm trying.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what I'm trying to do.
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SPEAKER_00: And and I've whittled down my my shows to just a few, and those few, I'm good with those few.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh, the next one is homemakers.
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SPEAKER_00: I rebelled against this for the longest time.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't tell me what to do.
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SPEAKER_00: But I enjoy having a home.
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SPEAKER_00: Where there's a candle going or some worship music or some soft jazz music.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, it's just a place to relax.
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SPEAKER_00: I enjoy having a home.
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SPEAKER_00: I like that.
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SPEAKER_00: Obedient to their own husbands.
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SPEAKER_00: I'd I'm interested to know why it says their own husbands.
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SPEAKER_00: Was that an issue that they were being obedient to other people's husbands?
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know what that means.
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SPEAKER_00: But obedient to your own husband.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, if my husband says in a serious conversation, um, this friendship that you're seeking, it's not good.
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SPEAKER_00: And I I wish you wouldn't seek that friendship.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes he sees things that I don't see.
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SPEAKER_00: And I can fight that, but I gotta tell you, he's usually right.
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SPEAKER_00: I gotta say, over the years, it's a little annoying.
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SPEAKER_00: He's usually right, he really is.
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SPEAKER_00: So I have come to trust him.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've had to um, I've had to make myself trust him.
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SPEAKER_00: Um coming from an uh um alcoholic family growing up, you don't trust much.
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SPEAKER_00: And so I had to teach myself to trust God and to trust my husband.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, in that order, trust God first and trust my husband.
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SPEAKER_00: So obedient to your own husband, I I do give him a lot of my ear now because he's pretty smart and he he sees things that I don't see.
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SPEAKER_00: That's come from 23 years of fighting it and finally coming around to the to, you know what, he's got some wisdom.
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SPEAKER_00: I've finally come around to that.
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SPEAKER_00: So take a good look at your husband.
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SPEAKER_00: Is he wise?
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SPEAKER_00: Does he see things that you don't see?
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SPEAKER_00: You know, appreciate that in him.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
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SPEAKER_00: Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded.
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SPEAKER_00: In all things, showing yourself to be a pattern of good works.
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SPEAKER_00: I do want to be a pattern of good works.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to leave situations and people better than I found them.
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SPEAKER_00: I really want that.
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SPEAKER_00: In doctrine, showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility.
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SPEAKER_00: Boy, would I love to be incorruptible.
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SPEAKER_00: But I'll keep trying.
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SPEAKER_00: Sound speech that cannot be condemned.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I would love that.
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SPEAKER_00: Sound speech that no one else can come in and say, that is so wrong, what she said.
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SPEAKER_00: That is absolutely wrong, or she gossiped.
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SPEAKER_00: And you know, when you gossip about someone to someone, you have just taught that person that you're not trustworthy.
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SPEAKER_00: Because if you gossiped about them to her, then she knows you're gonna gossip about her to them.
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SPEAKER_00: And you've now given her silent permission to gossip about you.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't end.
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SPEAKER_00: Gossip just keeps going, and it's not good.
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SPEAKER_00: It is a snake.
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SPEAKER_00: It is a snake.
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SPEAKER_00: Um that one who is an opponent may be ashamed that you've got nothing on me.
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SPEAKER_00: You've got nothing on me.
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SPEAKER_00: I I strive for that, you know, I still sin, but I I strive for that someone would not be able to find anything against me.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh, because my I was discreet, my speech was sound, and then having nothing evil to say of you.
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SPEAKER_00: That would be absolutely wonderful.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh, and then we skip up to 11.
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SPEAKER_00: So we're in Titus 2, 11.
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SPEAKER_00: For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age.
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SPEAKER_00: What does that look like?
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SPEAKER_00: How do we live soberly?
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SPEAKER_00: First of all, not drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: That would be the first thing, not high and not drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: And I don't I don't care if if uh marijuana is legal, you're not thinking soberly when you're on it.
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SPEAKER_00: Soberly.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, when you're listening to, I'm gonna call out rap music.
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SPEAKER_00: Um I can't listen to that and think soberly in my life.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't watch these shows on TV like uh I heard about Game of Thrones, uh, that's pretty almost pretty much porn in some in some scenes.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't watch that and then think soberly and think righteously the rest of the day.
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SPEAKER_00: The two just don't go together.
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SPEAKER_00: They don't go.
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SPEAKER_00: So I believe that living soberly is also about what we listen to and what we watch and who we surround ourselves with.
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SPEAKER_00: That also helps us live soberly.
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SPEAKER_00: To live righteously is we are trying to do the right thing.
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SPEAKER_00: Not the me thing, the right thing.
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SPEAKER_00: And the right thing might be to my own detriment, and I'm still gonna choose the right thing.
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SPEAKER_00: Let us be women who strive to do the right thing, and that is living righteously and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from every lawless deed, and purify for himself his own special people, zealous for good works.
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SPEAKER_00: That's who I want to be.
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SPEAKER_00: Let us all strive to be that.
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SPEAKER_00: And then let's skip down to three.
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SPEAKER_00: Remind them to be subject to rulers and authorities.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's talk about this one.
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SPEAKER_00: As I'll get flack for this, although no one really knows who I am.
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SPEAKER_00: I was praying one day, and the Lord showed me as a believer and as someone who lives in the kingdom and who wants what he wants.
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SPEAKER_00: It is not about Republican and it is not about Democrat.
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SPEAKER_00: It's about his will, it's about his church, it's about living godly and righteous lives here.
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SPEAKER_00: And this isn't the only place in the New Testament, and I wish I knew it off the top of my head, where it says, obey who God has put in charge.
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SPEAKER_00: You have to understand that if a bad leader is in charge, God did that.
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SPEAKER_00: Scripture does say that the heart of a king is like a river in the hand of God.
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SPEAKER_00: God's doing this.
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SPEAKER_00: God is in control.
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SPEAKER_00: And maybe he needs to get his church's attention so things aren't going so well.
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SPEAKER_00: God's in charge.
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SPEAKER_00: He has put authorities into place, and we are to pray for those authorities that we may live peaceable lives.
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SPEAKER_00: We are to pray for them.
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SPEAKER_00: We are not to hate them.
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SPEAKER_00: Can I tell you, Christian woman, that the hate that comes out of your mouth has authority?
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SPEAKER_00: And don't you know Satan uses it to make life even worse?
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SPEAKER_00: We have authority in our mouths because we are Christians.
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SPEAKER_00: And the things that come out of our mouths have spiritual authority.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't use it for evil.
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SPEAKER_00: Use it for good.
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SPEAKER_00: Pray for the authorities that are in charge.
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SPEAKER_00: Pray that God would use the authorities that are in charge.
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SPEAKER_00: God is so much bigger than all of this.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, Trump is in right now.
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SPEAKER_00: Some people love him, some people hate him.
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SPEAKER_00: I love to laugh at him.
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SPEAKER_00: I just laugh at what he says.
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SPEAKER_00: But my trust and hope is in the Lord, not in Trump.
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SPEAKER_00: He's a person.
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SPEAKER_00: He's gonna make good decisions and he's not gonna make good decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: He's gonna try his best, and I don't know if his best, where that was on a scale of one to ten.
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SPEAKER_00: I have no idea.
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SPEAKER_00: And then I have no idea the next person that's gonna come in.
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SPEAKER_00: I gotta trust the Lord, and I'm gonna pray to the Lord for this person.
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SPEAKER_00: This person is making rules and regs that determine how my life goes.
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SPEAKER_00: The people, the senators and the Congress and the House, and all the different people, they're making rules that affect my life.
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SPEAKER_00: Why would I not pray for them?
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SPEAKER_00: My hatred of them, my judgment of them is only hurting me and my family and my and the place where I live.
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SPEAKER_00: It makes no sense to hate anyone, um, miss Christian.
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SPEAKER_00: It makes no sense to hate anyone.
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SPEAKER_00: We must not use Satan's tools to try to get God's way.
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SPEAKER_00: Why do we think that would work?
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SPEAKER_00: Why do we think hate, judgment, gossip would cause God's wonderful, peaceable kingdom to show up?
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SPEAKER_00: Why are we thinking that?
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SPEAKER_00: We are creating with our own authority.
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SPEAKER_00: We are creating, we are creative beings, just like the Lord, and we are creating with our words.
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SPEAKER_00: And don't you know that demons sit right outside your mouth waiting for something evil to come out so they can grab it and use it and go do something with it?
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SPEAKER_00: Let's starve them and try to start saying only good and righteous and godly things.
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SPEAKER_00: And oh how and and I don't know, but maybe there are angels that sit outside our mouths waiting to grab something righteous.
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SPEAKER_00: Grab it and run with it and go.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's change the world around us for good and not for evil with our words and attitudes.
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SPEAKER_00: Attitudes are there too.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Remind them to be subject to rulers and authorities, to obey, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one.
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SPEAKER_00: I just said that.
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SPEAKER_00: Look at that.
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SPEAKER_00: Me and Paul agree to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, bring peace wherever you go.
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SPEAKER_00: Gentle, showing all humility to all men.
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SPEAKER_00: I just heard this uh quote, and I'm not sure who said it, but I heard this quote You have no right to judge anyone you would not die for.
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SPEAKER_00: You have no right, you are not permitted to judge anyone that you would not die for.
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SPEAKER_00: Wow.
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SPEAKER_00: So verse three, for we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another.
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SPEAKER_00: See, we've all been there.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a process to not be there anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: It's effort.
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SPEAKER_00: We've all been there.
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SPEAKER_00: We're just at different degrees of getting out of that.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's start today.
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SPEAKER_00: Verse four, but when the kindness and the love of God, our Savior, toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness, which we have done, but according to his mercy, he saved us through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior, that having been justified by His grace, we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
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SPEAKER_00: This is a faithful saying, and these things I want you to affirm constantly that those who believe who have believed in God should be careful to maintain good works.
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SPEAKER_00: These things are good and profitable to men.
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SPEAKER_00: So how then, ladies, should we live?
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SPEAKER_00: How should we live this day?
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SPEAKER_00: Let's be discreet so people can trust us and say things to us that won't be gossiped back out.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's be trustworthy.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's dress sharply and beautifully, very feminine and gorgeous without showing skin, shorts up to our butt.
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SPEAKER_00: Why am I seeing anyone's butt cheeks?
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SPEAKER_00: Why on earth am I looking at someone's butt cheeks?
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SPEAKER_00: It's just not necessary and it's not godly and it's not beautiful.
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SPEAKER_00: It is not beautiful that I'm seeing your butt cheeks.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't, I'm not thinking beauty at all.
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SPEAKER_00: And the attention you're receiving from men by showing your boobs and your butt cheeks, that's not the attention you want anyway.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not the man you want because he's he's wanting you for just that.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not who you really want.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not who's going to treasure you for the next 30 years of your life.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not what you want.
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SPEAKER_00: Dress for the man you want.
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SPEAKER_00: Ladies, dress for the man you want.
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SPEAKER_00: And men do love a beautiful, discreet wife.
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SPEAKER_00: They absolutely do.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't listen to what the world, what the women in the world are saying out there.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, I just watched a video that said we we don't need men anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: We don't need men.
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SPEAKER_00: Let me say this: here's some wisdom.
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SPEAKER_00: We all have the characteristics of the Lord, of God, our father.
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SPEAKER_00: And he gave men this set of characteristics, and he gave women this set of characteristics.
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SPEAKER_00: And when those two sets come together in a covenant of marriage, you have a full picture of God in that.
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SPEAKER_00: Isn't that beautiful?
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SPEAKER_00: We need both sets.
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SPEAKER_00: Men bring leadership and just this thing that only a man can bring.
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SPEAKER_00: They are they're not over-emotional, they make solid decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: And then over here, you've got women who bring love and care and compassion.
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SPEAKER_00: You bring, and so all of this comes together to make this beautiful marriage and covenant.
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SPEAKER_00: We need both.
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SPEAKER_00: We absolutely need both.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's honor the men in our lives and let's pray for what they are lacking.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's pray that the Holy Spirit shows it to them.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's we're we're in a triangle.
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SPEAKER_00: God is at the top of the triangle, your husband is on that side, and you're on this side.
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SPEAKER_00: As you both move towards the Lord, you move closer together.
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SPEAKER_00: And I can tell you, after 23 years of marriage, that is 100% true.
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SPEAKER_00: As you both move towards the Lord, you move together.
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SPEAKER_00: Because in a blood covenant, what's yours is his and what's his is yours.
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SPEAKER_00: So anything you learn from the Lord, he gets it automatically.
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SPEAKER_00: You may not see it show up right away, but he's getting that too.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's vice versa.
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SPEAKER_00: It goes both ways.
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SPEAKER_00: And that goes for negative things as well, because you're sharing everything.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you bring something negative into the marriage, he gets that negativity as well.
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SPEAKER_00: You're sharing everything.
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SPEAKER_00: So our best thing is to put ourselves at the foot of the cross before the Lord and ask the Lord to change both of us and to make both of us bring both of us closer to him.
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SPEAKER_00: And that, that is the marriage you've always wanted.
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SPEAKER_00: Him loving the Lord and learning every day how he can be a better husband, and you loving the Lord and learning every day how you can be a better wife, and you're both doing that at the same time and coming together, that's the marriage you've always wanted.
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SPEAKER_00: It is in the hand of God.
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SPEAKER_00: Ask him for it.
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SPEAKER_00: Go after it.
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SPEAKER_00: Go after it.
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SPEAKER_00: And let's be women that the next generation of women want to be like.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's be that.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's be a generation of women that the next, the younger generation looks at and says, That's I want to be like that.
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SPEAKER_00: That's who I want to be like.
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SPEAKER_00: I love it.
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SPEAKER_00: Lord, do this for us.
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SPEAKER_00: Do this for us.
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SPEAKER_00: As we bring you all of this, change who we are, change how we think, what's important to us and what's not, how to dress and how not to dress, what to watch, what to listen to, how to live righteous lives that you can then, you know, constantly work through us, and Holy Spirit works through us, and we just see the kingdom of God just doing amazing things.
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SPEAKER_00: I love it.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's do it.
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SPEAKER_00: Amen.
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SPEAKER_00: Bye.