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Ep. 8 – How to Connect with a Loved One Who Has Passed (Without Waiting for a Sign) · The Liminal Lounge Mediums

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  SPEAKER_00: Today we're going to talk about how to connect with a loved one who has passed without having to wait for a sign.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five years ago, my sister, 13-year-old niece, and brother-in-law were killed tragically in an automobile accident.
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  SPEAKER_00: It left me feeling absolutely devastated.
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  SPEAKER_00: My daughter and I had just spent five days with them while we were looking at colleges near their hometown.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was absolutely lost.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had no idea how to pick up the pieces, and I was left feeling absolutely numb for about a month.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I remembered that I'm a medium and I speak with the dead for a living.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I knew I would be able to find a way to continue our relationship and to continue communicating with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Western culture, we disconnect from our dead.
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  SPEAKER_00: We erase them.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do not believe the soul lives on near us.
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  SPEAKER_00: We believe that they're somewhere else in a disconnected place, not close by at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we know different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Their energy lives on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today I want to talk to you about ways that you can begin connecting with your loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of them may be very unexpected to you and new, but the main thing is I want you to have an open mind and also to believe in the possibility that there is a way to communicate with them without having to wait a long time for signs.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first thing is we need to actually believe that they are still present and with us and that we can communicate with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we can do that by asking them to come in close to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean really close to us, close to our energy field, close to our hearts, our bodies, and in our spaces, close enough so you can feel them.
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  SPEAKER_00: This will help ease the huge chasm that exists between you and your loved one.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we no longer are connected to their bodies, we often think that they're gone and we cannot really grab a hold of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But having done hundreds of ship readings and having been on my spiritual path as a medium for many, many years, I know and believe in the existence of having loved ones' presence in our physical reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: We may not have them with their flesh and blood, but we have them in our emotions through our senses.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can feel them, smell them, we can hear them, and we can sense them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we can see them in our mind's eye.
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  SPEAKER_00: When my sister passed away and I was waiting so desperately for a sign, one day I was sitting and meditating, and I got a sudden image of her foot right in front of me, and I could see her butterfly tattoo, and I knew it was her.
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  SPEAKER_00: I knew it was her because it wasn't even something I'd asked for.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was very unexpected, and I could feel her presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: I could smell her perfume.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I also felt emotionally her sense of dry, sarcastic humor.
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  SPEAKER_00: Their energy can help us when we're at our deepest times of grief and loss, and we need help, guidance, and to connect with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we need to keep very open about how that arrives.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next thing that has helped myself and my clients a lot is to actually have a place in your home where you have an ancestor altar.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is done in many cultures.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do not do this in Western culture.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one of the primary reasons why many cultures continue venerating their dead is because they know that their ancestors are still alive.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so they never close the door between the spirit world and their physical reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: The veil for them is very thin.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we just have to have a different opinion about this and open up the energy of our home to our loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would suggest picking a place in your home that is very lively and active: a den, a living room, or even in the kitchen.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you can have there is some things that will remind you of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Physical items such as photos, plants, flowers, jewelry, watches, anything that draws your energy close to them and invites their frequency into your physical space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anything that draws their energy close to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like to call this having a vessel for them to be able to land their energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: As a medium, I cannot tell you how many times that loved ones come through and tell me specifically about the location of these sacred items to them in someone's home, a favorite family photo that's on a shelf, or something very specific that reminds you of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: It gives their energy a place to land.
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  SPEAKER_00: The third way that is absolutely my favorite way is something called a talking tool.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is something that I have done with my spirit guides for many years.
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  SPEAKER_00: And recently I had a meditation where my own father, who's in the spirit world, gave me a specific talking tool that he recommended that can connect me with his energy regularly.
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  SPEAKER_00: The meditation started out by me entering into my childhood living room.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there my father was seated on one of our favorite couches.
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  SPEAKER_00: He said that he knew that I was spinning in my head a lot, trying to talk to him and the other loved ones in spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes my mind gets in the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so what he suggested was this.
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  SPEAKER_00: He said, I want you to take some wooden chips.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can imagine this would be like a rune, but without any writing on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: He said to put a symbol representing each loved one on these little wooden chips.
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  SPEAKER_00: He also suggested you can put your spirit guide symbols on these chips as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: He then suggested that after clearing the energy of them and inviting each of my loved ones and my guides to choose one of the wooden chips, that I could place them in a bag that looked a lot like this, a small canvas bag.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then I could just say a prayer and ask for them to come forward for whoever wanted to bring me a message.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would put my hand into this canvas bag and then pull out one of the identifying symbols that represented one of my loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is an incredible way to bring your loved ones closer to you in the physical.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also work with items they like in particular, such as photos, shells, jewelry, charms, playing cards, or even a favorite journal that they had.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are all ways, again, that connect us to our loved ones in the spirit world on a very physical level.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever been walking through a store and suddenly you heard your father's favorite music playing, or you were feeling really upset one day, driving in your car, thinking of them, and all of a sudden their favorite song came on.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is no accidents when it comes to music.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spirits love to bring forth their emotion, their personality, and their preferences to connect with you through music.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is something that my dad and my mom have done with me for years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bringing on their favorite music just at the right time, which makes me feel closer to them and connected.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next, I go to some of their favorite locations.
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  SPEAKER_00: If there's a place in the city that I live in that I know that they really liked, I'll go there often and then talk to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: My mother always liked going to the rose garden here where I live in Portland.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I go there every summer when the roses are in bloom and I talk to her because that's a place that I connected with her very deeply.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also, every time I go home back to the Bay Area, I go back to the neighborhood that she lived in.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can look at this too is when you go to your loved one's grave site or wherever they have been laid to rest, you can feel a special connection with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you can take that anywhere and bring it with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't just have to be at the place where they were buried.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another thing you can do is to celebrate their birthday with them, just like they're there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can bake their favorite cake, make their favorite meal, have a favorite drink of theirs, and you can set a place for them at the table with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It brings their essence, their energy very close to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another thing is make sure that you're talking to your loved ones about your family members who've passed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bringing their energy to life gives you that connection with them, also brings through their energy to the loved ones themselves, especially if some of the people that you have in your family or your loved ones aren't as open about connecting with spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a way that they can also feel their energy, even if they aren't aware of it or have a harder time with this concept.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next is I have a deck of tarot cards specifically for talking to my loved ones in the spirit world.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't use that deck for anything else.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is a way that I can bring forth messages from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can connect with their energy, I can get wisdom and clarity and guidance from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just interviewed Jenna Matlin, one of my tarot mentors, who just wrote a book called Tarot Book of the Dead.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it really goes through this beautiful illustration of how you can connect with your loved ones and the grief process in the spirit world.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a beautiful example of how we can use divination and these different tools to help us not only with our grief and the loss of our loved ones, but also to invite them into our lives, into our story and into our experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult things we will ever go through in our entire lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, you can create ritual and different practices to bring them in close and to help you reach through the veil and continue your relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take care.