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From Pressure to Permission - A Guided Hypnosis to Thrive at Work · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by the hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of the. Hypnotist Hi, it's.
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Adam here. Now you may have found yourself
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feeling very pressured in a work related environment, and that
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might be. Because of deadlines.
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Certain kind of objectives that you have to do now.
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The client that I was working with had those things, but
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mainly it was because they've moved into a new role, into a
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very competitive culture and environment, but it was kind of
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chaotic and they didn't really have the onboarding.
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The structure, the systems, the. Training and yet still expected
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to get results even if the results weren't clearly defined.
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So very ambiguous things like prove yourself and get some
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quick wins, very ambiguous things that didn't really mean
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anything. So they felt the pressure didn't
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really have the clarity in the systems, and most of the
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pressure was not coming from others, it was coming from
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themselves. Because their background was
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that in most environments they could have the resources that
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they need to understand things, and therefore that pressure they
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would put on themselves to thrive was intrinsic rather than
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extrinsic. But this was a different
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situation. They'd moved into a complex
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organization, quite political in many regards, and therefore lots
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of the variables were outside of their controls.
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Sometimes they would have to seek clarity as to what they
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could do or not do or understand systems that they'd never used
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before and therefore it wasn't possible for them to put all
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that pressure. All that pressure they were
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putting on themself wasn't really helping, it was just
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stressing them out and that was leading to more procrastination
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and self doubt. So if you can relate to the idea
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of feeling like an imposter or feeling pressure to succeed but
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not know what you're doing, this session helps because rather
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than going from having the pressure to thrive, it actually
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seeks permission to thrive. And that permission means
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actually doing what's necessary first.
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Now, there's two key metaphors in this session.
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One is the metaphor. Of.
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A foundation. So most people know that if you
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build a house on something which doesn't.
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Have proper foundations. You can build it, but it's going
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to start crumbling down very, very quickly.
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The foundation is crucial. With a strong foundation you
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could build something huge and impactful without.
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That foundation? You can't.
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Really do that. Now the second metaphor is about
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a bridge. If you imagine a very fast
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moving river and on the other side of that river is this
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wonderful place that represents thriving.
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Now if you just go straight into the river, you might be
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sploshing around and not really making much progress.
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You're fighting the currents. But if you take the time to
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build the bridge, then actually not only you can get across, but
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actually you can make it easier for other people to get to the
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same place where you're trying to get to as well.
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So if you can relate to this feeling of feeling pressured but
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without really giving yourself permission to do what's
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necessary to actually. Get good.
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And competent then you might really resonate with this now.
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It was created for a particular client in a particular
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situation, quite a complex global political organization.
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That might not be your context. So if you do want a bespoke
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session created and customized just for you, there will be a
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link in the description but also on my website adamcox.co.uk
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where you can book. A free consultation.
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Call to explore working with me. The other thing to bear in mind
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is that normally most of my sessions are recorded in my
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studio. I was travelling at the point
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where I did this, so you're actually going to see me.
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In. An apartment in Portugal and the
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audio quality was actually recorded on my portable audio
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there rather than this kind of studio mic, so it might sound a
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little bit different than the normal episodes.
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Bear that in. Mind.
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For now though. Find a quiet, comfortable place
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where you won't be distracted or disturbed.
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Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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you breathe in, breathe in a resourceful feeling of calm and
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relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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any feelings of worries, stress, or tension to feel like it's
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leaving your body in your outward breath.
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That's it. Breathing in relaxation and
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exhaling tension. And just notice with your eyes
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closed, how much easier it becomes to focus on the sound of
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my voice. As you continue to breathe in
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that resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation, and as you
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exhale, feeling that every outward breath releases even
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more of that tension. I want you to scan your body for
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any clues of tension in the jaw, the neck, or the shoulders.
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That's it. And as you breathe in, notice
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you're breathing in a warm colour of relaxation, which is
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finding its way to those parts of your body that contain
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tension. Imagine it melting away any
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tension in your body, and then on the outward breath, just
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allow yourself to feel what it would feel like if that tension
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was melting away and then leaving your body in your
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outward breath. That's in each breath taking you
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deeper and deeper, relaxed. In fact, the deeper you breathe,
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the more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel
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the deeper you breathe. Each breath takes you deeper and
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deeper than the previous breath, and the more relaxed you feel,
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the more your imagination awakens.
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And I want you to imagine what it would feel like to be drawing
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a picture of the Spanish countryside, maybe it's trees
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and grass or beaches. And I want you to imagine you're
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creating a vibrant, colourful picture of Spanish nature.
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And I want you to imagine that how you describe it on that
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canvas or that paper, it doesn't have to be what it actually is
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like. It's just your representation.
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And when you've created something that feels like Spain,
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I want you to imagine what it would feel like to step into the
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picture and imagine what it would feel like if suddenly you
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were there in Spain. And I want you to connect to the
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temperature. Maybe there's blue skies and
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sunshine, but I want you to imagine wide open spaces, no one
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else around, just you. And while you're there, take a
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slow breath in and a much longer breath out.
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And as you breathe out, I wonder if you can imagine releasing
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that subtle pressure that you've been carrying.
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You know the one you've been building up that pressure.
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But imagine every outward breath is now a release valve, that
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every time you breathe out, the pressure is being released.
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And what you're releasing is pressure.
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Not your ambition, not your standards, just the pressure.
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Another breath in. And as you exhale, just imagine
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your shoulders loosening. Because here, in this moment, in
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this artistic Spain where you belong right now, you don't need
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to perform. No KPIs to hit, no objectives,
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no onboarding, just presence, breathing in and breathing out.
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In fact, you don't need to prove anything in this moment, Just
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breathing. Just being in this moment.
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And with each breath, notice how the mind begins to slow down, as
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if the constant internal commentary begins to quiet.
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Because this time isn't about performance, no objectives,
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nothing you need to do, just about connection.
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And I wonder if you can find that voice.
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Not someone else's voice, but your voice that links to that
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pressure. Maybe it says something like you
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should already know this, you shouldn't need to ask for help.
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Thriving means independence. And I want you to observe that
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voice. Maybe it has a location, a
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tonality. Maybe it's pushy, demanding.
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Just notice it. And I want you to be grateful
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for that part because in so many areas of your life, that
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demanding part has served you well.
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In fact, in any environment where you control the majority
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of the variables, that part is an ally.
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But the same part that thrives in one environment may struggle
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in another. Mozart may be a genius on the
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piano but struggle to draw, and Miro could create incredible
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works of art, but maybe playing football or climbing a rock face
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wouldn't play him to his strengths there.
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And what if this part that works so well when you're in control,
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just pals on the pressure in environments where you need
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clarity, you need understanding, you need to know the systems.
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And I want you to ask yourself, where did that voice come from?
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Was it linked to a belief, a time in childhood, a time when
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you had to prove yourself? I want you to get a sense then
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No architect is expected to build without solid foundations,
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and no leader can be expected to govern without structure.
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And no ambassador can thrive without knowing the lay of the
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land and gathering intelligence. And what if what you've been
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calling pressure is actually your high standards, distorted
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by urgency? What if you're not behind?
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You're just laying the foundations in which to thrive.
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And I want you to imagine there in Spain, you're on a large open
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piece of land, maybe fields, but wide open spaces.
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And I want you to get a sense that this land represents your
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role, expansive, important, high stakes.
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You want to build a tower, something that can be seen for
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miles around. But what if, instead of rushing
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to build the tower, you realize that that big tower built on
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weak foundations will crumble very soon, and you'd rather
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build something that lasts, that impacts, that does what you want
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it to do. So imagine kneeling down there
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in that open land, and just imagine what laying foundations
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would feel like. Maybe it's digging deep, maybe
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it's adding cement, maybe foundation stones.
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And what if each foundation stone represent something
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powerful, something necessary? Things like clarity, clearly
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defined KPIs, process, understanding, delegation
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structure, strategic reconnaissance, and you notice
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something. Nobody really admires the
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foundations, the biggest skyscrapers and towers and
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structures. Those foundations are ignored.
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But without the strong, deep foundations, that impressive
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structure would not exist. And I want you to congratulate
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yourself on the foundations that you've laid so far.
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And what if, rather than rushing to build the tower, you're keen
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to be diligent, thorough, focused on laying those deep,
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strong foundations? Reminding yourself that
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foundations aren't visible from the outside, but they determine
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everything that stands above. Thriving is not about paddling
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harder in deep water, just staying above the surface.
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It's about building something stable enough that you no longer
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need to paddle. So imagine each stone you place
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in that foundation feels calm, deliberate, intentional.
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You are not reacting and you're not behind.
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You are constructing. And construction requires time.
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It requires sequencing. It requires patience.
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And that patience is not weakness.
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Consider it executive maturity, and I wonder if you can imagine
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the foundations are built. And I want you to imagine
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building a huge tower upon those foundations.
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Imagine it's a tower that could contain a gallery.
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You could admire the gallery and the structure, but only when the
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foundations are solid. And then when you leave the
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gallery there, in that expansive land in Spain, I want you to
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notice something ahead of you. A river.
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A deep, fast running water. And that river?
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That river represents the culture, fast moving,
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competitive, swirling, chaotic, unpredictable.
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And on the other side of that river, we can just call it a
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magical land called thriving. And you can see it clearly.
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You can see that calm authority, confident decision making,
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strategic engagement, not frantic energy, just composed
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leadership. And instead of diving into the
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river, you begin building a bridge.
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Each plank is something practical.
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Maybe part of that bridge is clarifying expectations,
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figuring out what success even looks like.
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Maybe it's about asking intelligent questions from that
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place of curiosity, or treating and learning new systems like
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reconnaissance. And each time a bit more of that
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bridge is built, consider leading your team through
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structure. And what if so many other people
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think they're thriving when they're just splashing around in
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the river? Wouldn't it make sense that when
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you build that bridge, the kind of bridge that means that future
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people in your organization don't have to splash around in
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the water, they could just follow the pathway on the bridge
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that you have built. That is structure, that is
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legacy. And I want you to get a sense of
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what that bridge would look like.
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Is it a creative bridge? Is it a simple bridge?
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Is it mechanical or wooden? Get a sense of what that bridge
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looks like and then imagine crossing the river on that
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bridge and get a feeling of how stable, strong, solid and
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structured it feels. I want you to get a sense that
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too many people in the past were so keen to get to the other
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side, instead of building a bridge, they just jumped
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straight into the river. But that river has got fast
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currents and sometimes, sometimes it isn't sink or swim,
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it's just frantic splashing about that feels like success,
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but the main things don't get done.
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And what if by building a bridge, you avoid the burnout?
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For those people that were so keen to thrive, they never
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figured out how to avoid that wasted energy of fighting the
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currents of the river. Each time you take a step over
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the bridge, the distance between where you are and where you want
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to be becomes smaller. And you don't need to swim and
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you don't need to struggle. You simply build your own way
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across, because giving yourself permission to thrive is not a
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leap, it's a sequence. And every time you choose
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clarity over pressure, you're taking another step across that
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bridge. And I wonder if you could take a
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pause halfway across that bridge, reflect on something
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perhaps that you needed to fully appreciate.
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You were never incapable and never behind.
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You were just navigating ambiguity without the necessary
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structure or clarity. And that's not a character flaw.
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That's an environmental variable.
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So as you stand on the bridge looking out at what thriving
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looks like, but also colleagues splashing about in the fast
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moving river, hear that same voice that was piling on the
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pressure, say these words repeat internally after me.
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I give myself permission to build, I give myself permission
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to learn, I give myself permission to ask, and I give
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myself permission to thrive on my timeline.
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And maybe you can already notice how different that feels
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compared to I must prove myself because pressure contracts and
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permission expands. And what if expansion is the
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very place where leadership lives?
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If you wanted something predictable and known, you would
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have stained, stayed where you were before.
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You wanted this challenge and you have found the challenge.
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But let's shift from feeling a pressure to thrive to giving
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yourself permission to thrive. So now continue walking across
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the bridge and finally step onto the other side.
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And I want you to get a feeling that thriving doesn't feel
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dramatic. No balloons and a round of
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applause. Just notice that when you're
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thriving, it actually feels stable.
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It feels clear. You notice that you still ask
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questions, but from a position of refinement, clarifying
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distinctions. You're still learning, but most
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of the learning has been done. Now it's the icing on the cake
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and not the cake itself. You still face unknowns, but
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they're no longer a threat that blindsides you.
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They feel like something manageable that enhances your
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ability to become even more valuable and resilient.
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I want you to get a sense that even if you're travelling
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halfway across the world, consider it as reconnaissance
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rather than a do or die high stakes situation.
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You can treat the KPIs as architecture, that blueprint of
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what it would take to build that structure, that tower.
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And you can treat micromanagement as information
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about system instability. Not your worth.
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What if the person you're learning from is still splashing
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around in the river because they never built the bridge or laid
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the foundations to give themself permission to thrive?
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Because thriving was never about not needing support.
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Thriving is about knowing what to build and building it
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deliberately. You're not paddling or splashing
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around in the water anymore. You are laying the foundations,
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building the bridge. You are designing that future.
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So let's think about that future.
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Imagine a moment in the near future, maybe days, weeks, or
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months away. Think about speaking to that
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boss, that management, calm, clear, structured.
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Imagine having conversations where you're discussing
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objectives and outcomes not from insecurity, but from authority,
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clarity. Imagine yourself meeting
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important people in different parts of the world.
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Curious, observant, strategic. You're not trying to prove you
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belong. You're finding those synergistic
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strategic relationships. You are opening doors.
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See that future version of you? Comfortable in your own skin,
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knowing your worth, knowing you belong because you are building
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something valuable and valuable things need to be built right on
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strong foundations. So as you breathe in and breathe
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out, just allow the foundations, the bridge and the other side to
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integrate. Maybe you can feel shifts,
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changes in energy, posture, movement in your body.
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Give permission for your nervous system to align with this new
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timeline. You build the foundations first
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and then you build something impressive on top.
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You build the bridge 1st and then on the other side, that's
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where you thrive and maybe you can feel that sense of less
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urgency, more steadiness. Pressure is optional,
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Construction is intentional and thriving.
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That is architectural. You can only thrive when you've
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built those foundations that are strong and you are allowed to
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build and you are allowed to thrive.
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So take 1 deep slow breath in and as you exhale, release any
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remaining pressure and just get a sense that it feels winnable.
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Get a sense of what building that bridge and laying those
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foundations mean in your world. What do you need to know that
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you don't know yet? What questions does it make
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sense to ask? And how can you find shortcuts
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to learn what you would benefit from knowing?
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And all of those things are achievable.
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And all of those things take place 1 brick or one step at a
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time. And when your unconscious has
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integrated these new concepts, timelines, and ways of thinking
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into your life and your reality, let me know about nodding your
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head. That's it.
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And notice you still have permission to thrive.
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But it works on your timelines now.
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So take a deep breath in and exhale, then an even deeper
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breath in through your nose and out through your nose.
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Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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awaken you. You will return from the other
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side, from the bridge, from the open land of Spain, back through
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the picture, back into your reality, taking all these
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changes with you starting to count. 123 waking up. 456 more
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alert. 7-8 open your eyes, open your eyes. 910 wide awake, wide
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awake, wide awake. Thank you.
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