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Kara's Comeback · Mom Wars

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  Speaker 1: From the front lines of the mom Wars. Here's Bethany
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  Speaker 1: Mandel and Kara Kennedy.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, and welcome to your favorite podcast. It's been a minute,
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  Speaker 2: and I apologize, but I was holding out for the return,
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  Speaker 2: the glorious, triumphant return of my co host. My name
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  Speaker 2: is Bethany Mandel and I am joined by the one,
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  Speaker 2: the Only car Kennedy.
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  Speaker 1: She's back, go back, But it's mean so long. I
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  Speaker 1: have one hundred things to tell you, and I'm so
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  Speaker 1: excited because I feel like I lost my weekly gossip
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  Speaker 1: pop no I know, and I had to.
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  Speaker 2: Find people to talk to. I think I did a
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  Speaker 2: good job. I had my good job, wonderful conversations. You
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  Speaker 2: did a really good job, and now I remember why
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  Speaker 2: I needed you so much.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, where did we even stop? Because I was
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  Speaker 1: just thinking the last time that we were done, A
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  Speaker 1: called you were like, hey, can you record on Tuesday?
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, there's a small chance that I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to be induced and that and that was four
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  Speaker 1: weeks early, so I was like, it's probably a small chance.
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  Speaker 1: And then I was actually actually induced the day before.
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  Speaker 2: So what happened? I don't even know this?
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  Speaker 1: Wait? Really, yes, we have no, I don't want to pry.
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  Speaker 1: Uh No, everything went really well. Weirdly, I was so scared.
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  Speaker 1: So I had colistasis. I had itchy palms and feet,
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  Speaker 1: which I don't even think I told you because it
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  Speaker 1: happened so quickly. So on the Friday, I had itchy
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  Speaker 1: palms and feet, and I remembered from my obe she
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  Speaker 1: was like, weird thing to mention, but if you have
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  Speaker 1: itchy palms and feed, come in straight away. And I
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  Speaker 1: was just itching one night and Nick was Nick just
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  Speaker 1: remembered like what she said. So I called and they
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  Speaker 1: were like, you need to come in straight away for
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  Speaker 1: blood tests. So I was like okay. So when in
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  Speaker 1: for blood tests, and then over the weekend, I kind
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  Speaker 1: of carried on echine and I called a couple of
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  Speaker 1: days after and I was like, oh am my results back.
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm getting really worried because I'm really really itchy,
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  Speaker 1: and they were like, oh no, take a bad a job,
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  Speaker 1: You'll probably be fine. So I was like, okay, is
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  Speaker 1: this like an emergence here or is this okay? And
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  Speaker 1: then the Monday morning, I got a phone call at
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  Speaker 1: like nine am. And this feels so long ago.
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  Speaker 3: I got a phone call at nine am and they're like,
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  Speaker 3: you need to come in right now and bring everything
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  Speaker 3: you need because you're going to have this baby. And
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  Speaker 3: I was like what, like no, no, And it was
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  Speaker 3: just the receptionist who was telling me, and I was
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  Speaker 3: so I was asking all these questions and she was like,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, you just have to come in. I've
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  Speaker 3: just been told that you have to come in right
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  Speaker 3: now and like get injuiced and have this baby.
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  Speaker 1: So I went in cried a lot to the obi
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  Speaker 1: and she was like and I was like, look, what
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  Speaker 1: are the risks? I really don't want to go in
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  Speaker 1: this early because I feel like it's gonna like mess
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  Speaker 1: everything up and I'm going to end up having like
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  Speaker 1: an emergency c section, like my body doesn't feel ready.
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  Speaker 1: And she just looked at me and she was like, look,
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  Speaker 1: if you were my daughter, I would be marching you
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  Speaker 1: to labor and delivery right now. So then I was
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  Speaker 1: like okay, okay, and she was like, go and have
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  Speaker 1: a glass of wine. Go to the Italian across the street,
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  Speaker 1: have a glass of wine, and then come back in
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  Speaker 1: and give birth. So that's what I did.
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  Speaker 2: So what did you do with your oldest?
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  Speaker 1: So thank God. The exact time that the hospital called me,
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  Speaker 1: my nanny walked in to look after Daphne as she does,
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  Speaker 1: like ten till five, and she could see me crying
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  Speaker 1: and like hysterical. My mom was to to come seven
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  Speaker 1: days after, no fourteen days after, because she was going
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  Speaker 1: to come a week early. Right, Uh yeah, So my
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  Speaker 1: nanny was like, look, go I will stay until I
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  Speaker 1: need to till I can leave. It doesn't matter if
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  Speaker 1: it's a week, it's fine.
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  Speaker 2: So wow, nanny she had.
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  Speaker 1: She has three kids of brown as well. I mean
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  Speaker 1: they got out but they're grown up. But like, it
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  Speaker 1: was like incredible, really incredible.
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  Speaker 2: So how how long did it take you after you
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  Speaker 2: were induced to actually have a baby.
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  Speaker 1: So I was induced about midday and I gave birth
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  Speaker 1: about twenty four hours after. But most of that what like,
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  Speaker 1: I had no pain, no nothing like I couldn't even
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  Speaker 1: feel like contractions. And then five minutes before I gave birth,
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  Speaker 1: the obi broke my water and then after five minutes
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  Speaker 1: and five pushes, she was out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah that's amazing. When did you get the epidural?
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  Speaker 1: So I got the epiduo. It was weird because I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't going to get it because I was in no pain,
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  Speaker 1: like at all, so I was like, I kind of
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  Speaker 1: don't even want the apertural because I don't feel like
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  Speaker 1: I needed. And then I psyched myself up and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, no, it's gonna be really painful. So I
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  Speaker 1: got the epidural at about I think six centimeters, but
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  Speaker 1: I felt literally nothing, no pain at all. And then
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I have failed epidural because after that
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  Speaker 1: I felt everything, and I think that's why she came
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  Speaker 1: out in five minutes. I think it's because I didn't
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  Speaker 1: have six minutes in me because I don't know, because
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  Speaker 1: my legs were numb and my stomach was numb, but
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  Speaker 1: the rest was not numb. And I felt a head
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  Speaker 1: come out with me and excruciating pain. So I'm confused
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  Speaker 1: because I don't know how I could feel any more
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  Speaker 1: than I felt.
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? Yeah? Yeah, did you
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  Speaker 2: feel any of that the first time? No? Nothing, So
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  Speaker 2: I for background, I've never had an epidurol, so I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what it feels. I mean, I know it
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  Speaker 2: feels like when it's coming out and you can feel it, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: but I don't know what it feels like when you
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  Speaker 2: when you have a working epidural and the head comes out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I didn't feel pressure at anything, really yeah, And
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  Speaker 1: the op was saying and so I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I can feel everything, and she was like, oh no,
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  Speaker 1: you can feel pressure, you can't feel pain. And I
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  Speaker 1: was like and tear, It's like, no, I feel pain.
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  Speaker 1: I can feel ahead like coming out of me. And
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  Speaker 1: then I did like a fifth push and I swear
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  Speaker 1: to God, like I feel like it would have died
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  Speaker 1: if it was really good. Yeah, so I get ready exactly.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm pretty sure it was a failed epidural. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know it was a messed up a duol anyway,
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  Speaker 1: because I stood up after labor. It was kind of hilarious.
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  Speaker 1: I stood up and I was like, oh, my legs
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  Speaker 1: look really swollen. And the nurse was like, oh no,
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  Speaker 1: they're like finding me and they don't like swallow it
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  Speaker 1: at all. And I got up and I hit the
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  Speaker 1: ground because I couldn't feel my legs.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so something went wrong. Yeah, but the baby was perfect, Like,
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  Speaker 1: the labor was amazing. She was seven pounds four a
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  Speaker 1: month early.
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  Speaker 2: That's amazing.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know, that's great. So I tried to
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  Speaker 1: think what she would have been.
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  Speaker 2: So, when are you going to have the next one?
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  Speaker 1: I am so ready. I'm so ready. If Nick would
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  Speaker 1: let me, I would be pregnant right now.
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  Speaker 2: How many how how postpartum are you?
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  Speaker 1: Wait a half months? I would get pregnant tomorrow. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not joking.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to worry. That was after my first
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  Speaker 2: That's how I felt. We we went to Hawaii when
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  Speaker 2: she was four months old and there was a woman
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  Speaker 2: who had twins and I looked at Seth and I
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  Speaker 2: was like that lucky bee has two babies.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and I got pregnant day yeah, at like four
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  Speaker 1: months postposss.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, I wanted to. It wasn't physically possible, but
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  Speaker 2: the first month it was possible.
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  Speaker 1: I did, Oh when you get when you go out
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  Speaker 1: your period back?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it say six months, seven months.
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  Speaker 1: This is how I felt the first time at three
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  Speaker 1: months and everybody was like your hormone, all, don't do
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  Speaker 1: it because you'll regret it. And each month went by
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, no, I want to do this.
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  Speaker 1: So I waited it until nine months and now I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm ready, but next seip now, so.
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  Speaker 2: Keep pushing.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know, but part of it is I
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  Speaker 1: have an extremely easy baby the second time around.
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  Speaker 2: That's great, Like the.
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  Speaker 1: Easiest baby in the world. The first was so difficult.
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  Speaker 1: I think, I don't know if I'm just way more
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  Speaker 1: prepared for anything. But she's like an angel.
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  Speaker 2: That's amazing. I think it's probably a little bit of both. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: my second was hell on wheels, really so awful, but
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  Speaker 2: he had like undiagnosed food allergies that took us a
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  Speaker 2: long time to get there.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's the what Like the fact that
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  Speaker 1: my first was terrible and my second is easy is
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  Speaker 1: way better than the first being easy and the second
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  Speaker 1: being terrible.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree as someone who experienced it. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: it is very humbling when you have a baby and
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  Speaker 2: you get really cocky and you're like, baby, what people
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  Speaker 2: are complaining about? And then my second I was like.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, this is what. Yeah, because the bad baby really
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  Speaker 1: does make or break like the whole thing, Like we're definitely,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god. The first three months about like three years.
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  Speaker 1: With this time, it's been three and a half months.
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  Speaker 1: It feels like yesterday, Like it's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: So what is Nick's argument against having another one? He
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  Speaker 2: just doesn't want to have a third so.
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  Speaker 1: My post bossum has been terrible, not because of the baby,
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  Speaker 1: because of Nex's health. He has developed like cluster headaches.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, yeah, and like the first five weeks of
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  Speaker 1: the baby's life. And I'm not joking when I say that,
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  Speaker 1: Like I have a room next door full of oxygen
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  Speaker 1: tanks because it's the only thing that helps these headaches
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  Speaker 1: and all these crazy like solutions that you have to
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  Speaker 1: try to get rid of these, because it's like ten
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  Speaker 1: out tampaign as he had MRIs. Yes, he just had
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  Speaker 1: an MRI last week. He is to go into physical therapy,
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  Speaker 1: like we're throwing the kitchen SyncE. He's a botox.
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  Speaker 2: I actually heard what about acupuncture.
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  Speaker 1: He had this thing that isn't accupuncture, but it's like
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  Speaker 1: when they inject some kind of muscle in the back
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  Speaker 1: of the head with like basically anesthesia, like long term anisthesia. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's it's been a really really and my grandfather died
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  Speaker 1: and so it's been a really really insane four months
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  Speaker 1: and none of it is because of the baby.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you should not have a baby quite yet, I know,
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  Speaker 2: I know. Yeah, don't even push him, give him, give
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  Speaker 2: him a beat your baby still, I.
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  Speaker 1: Know, but she's still and she's huge. She's like saying,
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  Speaker 1: you're still a baby. Oh, I'm still a baby. Even
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  Speaker 1: I want to be done by thirty. I want to
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  Speaker 1: be done, so I will say that.
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  Speaker 2: So I had babies at twenty seven, twenty nine, thirty one,
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  Speaker 2: thirty three, thirty five, thirty seven, my last two three pregnancies,
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  Speaker 2: my last three babies easiest pregnancies reading Yeah, the ones
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  Speaker 2: at thirty seven, thirty five, and thirty three were my
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  Speaker 2: easiest pregnancies. My third was my hardest pregnancy, and if
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  Speaker 2: I had another pregnancy like him, I would have been done,
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  Speaker 2: like my fourth would have been it. I had severe, severe,
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  Speaker 2: severe morning sickness, like I was on constant zofran, still
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  Speaker 2: throwing up five times a day, waking up in the
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  Speaker 2: middle of the night, choking on vomit, like really really bad.
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  Speaker 2: And then when we moved, So that was my third.
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  Speaker 2: So then we moved here and I found out I
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  Speaker 2: was pregnant with our fourth, like the week we moved,
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  Speaker 2: and I didn't have health insurance yet. I didn't have
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  Speaker 2: health insurance for the first twenty weeks of my pregnancy,
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  Speaker 2: so I didn't get a single scan, nothing, and we
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  Speaker 2: had her at home. So I had a home birth
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  Speaker 2: midwife that was like, you know, talking to me, but
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  Speaker 2: I didn't have any scans. But I never threw up
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  Speaker 2: with her, and I felt great, and I was like,
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  Speaker 2: there's something there's got to be something wrong. And then finally, I,
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  Speaker 2: you know, had health insurance and I went for my
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  Speaker 2: twenty week scan. Perfect.
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  Speaker 1: Perfect. Isn't it crazy how different pregnancies and babies can be.
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  Speaker 1: Like my second baby nothing like my first baby. They
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  Speaker 1: look completely different. They're like five shades different.
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  Speaker 2: Have you seen the It's it's wild.
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  Speaker 1: And just completely different temperament.
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  Speaker 2: So this is why you have to have six because
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  Speaker 2: you can see the whole range of the people you
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  Speaker 2: can make. And it's really cool.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, when I first met you and everybody was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: she has six kids, crazy, I thought, absolutely crazy. I
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  Speaker 1: can so see how you got to six, right, I
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent. And this is from somebody who like
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: when we first started, we were like one or two,
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  Speaker 1: like two, Max met like any more than two is crazy,
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  Speaker 1: Like for placement, you know, now I'm like three, no
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  Speaker 1: questions asked, but probably a fourth, you know, like probably
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  Speaker 1: a fourth.
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  Speaker 2: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I watched we watched the Nancy Meyers film last night,
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  Speaker 1: Father of the Bride. Have you seen it? Yes, of course,
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  Speaker 1: have you seen the They made a second? Yeah, so
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  Speaker 1: we watched that last night. And what's her name? Diane
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  Speaker 1: Keaton has a baby the same time that has a baby.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm like, Now, I'm like, okay, so if Daphne
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  Speaker 1: has a baby at twenty five, can I have a
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  Speaker 1: baby with her?
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  Speaker 2: I love?
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  Speaker 1: You're crazy, crazy, crazy crazy. But now I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: so we have three babies in a row before I'm thirty,
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  Speaker 1: and then maybe at like forty two, I have like
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  Speaker 1: a hail Mary pregnancy. You know. Hi, I'm Ben Sad
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: and I'm Chris Steierwaldt. And this is not dead yet.
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  Speaker 1: We're all dying, but some of us have been brought
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  Speaker 1: face to face.
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  Speaker 2: With that reality. However long each of us have to
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  Speaker 2: So that's kind of what we're So. I just turned
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  Speaker 2: forty a couple weeks ago.
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  Speaker 1: What do you do I'm a baby.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't think so. I mean the problem is
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  Speaker 2: ultimately the car, like this is our biggest Like we
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: would have to go to a sprinter van. We have
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  Speaker 2: an eight seater. I hate my car. I want to
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  Speaker 2: go to a minivan, but if we had a seventh
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  Speaker 2: we would have to. But it's really sweet to hear
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  Speaker 2: my older kids talk about it because my youngest is
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  Speaker 2: three and a half and my older three kids kind
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  Speaker 2: of my fourth as well, they all have baby fever.
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  Speaker 2: They're all like, what is this. We've never gone this
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  Speaker 2: long without a baby. And my son's my oldest son,
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  Speaker 2: he's eleven. His best friend just had a baby in
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  Speaker 2: his family a couple of weeks ago, and they go
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  Speaker 2: over and look at that baby and then look at
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  Speaker 2: me with puppy eyes and they're like mommy, please please,
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't want to try a van van.
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  Speaker 2: I can't ride they're cool. No, I can't park anywhere.
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: I can't like no more Trader Joe's, No more Costco.
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  Speaker 2: We go to Costco like once a week to buy
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  Speaker 2: ice cream in the the food court. They sell ice
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  Speaker 2: cream like soft serve, and it's like one of our
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  Speaker 2: favorite activities is to just go to Costco and get
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  Speaker 2: ice cream. But I couldn't fit in the parking garage
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  Speaker 2: if I had a van van Wait hang on.
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  Speaker 1: So if so you have an eight seats, can you
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  Speaker 1: fit six car seats in it?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: That's cool.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I the amount of research that I had
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  Speaker 2: to do to find an eight seater because my oldest
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  Speaker 2: is still in a booster, she's twelve. We got another
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  Speaker 2: year in that bad bay and like one of my
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  Speaker 2: best friends, her son's best friend was paralyzed because he
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  Speaker 2: wasn't in a booster. And so like physics doesn't like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: physics doesn't lie. Like kids at that age and that size,
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  Speaker 2: My kids are all really small. They still need to
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  Speaker 2: be in a booster. And so I make my kids
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  Speaker 2: be in a booster at twelve and a half. And
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  Speaker 2: I'm not really sorry about it, but all six of
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  Speaker 2: my kids are still My older three are in boosters,
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  Speaker 2: then my fourth, my fifth are, and my fourth, fifth
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  Speaker 2: and sixth are still in like car seats straps my
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  Speaker 2: old my my fourth is still in a car seat
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  Speaker 2: at seven. And I'm like, yeah, that's safer. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: not the best drip, that's.
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  Speaker 1: Just yeah, me too, Me too. But it's really I
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  Speaker 1: live on America's most dangerous road. I'm pretty sure it's
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  Speaker 1: like literally the most dangerous road I've I was saying,
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  Speaker 1: people die that all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, there's like a terrible like blind turn when you
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  Speaker 1: pull into my house. It's like it's really bad.
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  Speaker 2: Hey. Yeah, I gotten an accident, like a fender bender
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  Speaker 2: a couple months ago. We were at the Museum of
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: the Bible and I was getting onto the Beltway. This
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: is like Instarder for people who live here. And I
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: was getting onto the Beltway and I had a yield
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: and it's like lanes of really fast traffic that you
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: have to just like merge onto and you have to
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: like when you have that window, you just hit the gas.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: And so we had it.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: It's like mine.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So we had a window, and the car in
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: front of me started going, and I was looking at
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: oncoming traffic waiting to merge, and we had the ability
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: to go, and so I assumed that he was gunning
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: it in front of me, but I didn't take my
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: eyes off of oncoming traffic, and so he didn't gun it.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: He was going, and then he stopped and I didn't see,
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: and so I slammed into him.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: How fast were you going?
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: I mean I wasn't going fast, but I had hit
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: the gas to get that window, and I thought that
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: he was going and he stopped for some reason, and
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: I was I had my eyes on traffic instead of
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: in front of me. But it's a really hard turn
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: to make, and I wasn't like, I don't feel like
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: I was distracted. Like it's just a really hard maneuver
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: and I was at fault. But I also kind of
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: feel like you got a gun it, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: you gotta go. And so I drive a tank. I
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: drive a Ford Expedition Max. Like people think that I
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: have like the vice president in my car because it's
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: like it looks like it's a car service of a VIP.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: And so I really did some damage to his car,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: fifteen thousand dollars of you know, no insurance went up,
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: which I was bummed about.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: With anybody hurt everybody, No my car, like not a scratch.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: That's good about that's a good thing about having a tank,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Like I drive a fold off on fifty Like, yeah, nothing,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: nothing has happened in to my car.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: And this this was my second accident in this car,
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: and I've never had it repaired, and like I total
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: the first accident, I totaled the other car, and this accident.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, your kids need to be in boosted.
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: This is what I'm saying. This is what I'm saying.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: So that first accident, let me just explain, because I'm
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: not a reckless driver. So I was pregnant with our
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: sixth and we had just gotten this car and we
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: had sold our minivan, and it was disgusting, like kids
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: had spilled something and then like there was a pile
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: of sweatshirts that accumulated over the spill, and so it
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: was like no, no, no, this was okay. So we
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: had like a we had a layer of mold in
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: the back row on a floor and so I told,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: when we get a new car, we're going to get
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: these like heavy, heavy duty plastic mats so that we
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: don't have that ever again. And so he installed all
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: the mats. I'm like eight months pregnant, and he installed
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: my floor mat on top of my gas pedal and
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: like screwed it in. So he did that in our
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: driveway and then I hit reverse to pull out of
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: our driveway and it was the gas pedal was to
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: the floor and I couldn't override it with the brake
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: or or the parking and so I'm doing I'm doing
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: donuts in front of my It was horrible and I
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: couldn't control it. I couldn't stop it. And then I
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: hit a car and it stopped me and I was
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: able to shift it into park because the force of
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: me hitting that car, you know, I was I was
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: able to put it into park. And I was like
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: eight months pregnant, and my entire neighborhood ran out of
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: their houses because they heard it. And I pulled out
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: of my I get out of my car and I
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: have my like fifteen month old in the back and
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: I get out just start bombing, striking because it was
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: so draagic and I was so pregnant, and so I
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: just like, I slam into this truck and it's totaled,
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: and then I could just get out of you in
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: the trunk. No, thank god, it was parked. It was
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: parked on the side of the road. And I get
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: out of my car in front of my entire block,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: and I'm just like, oh, it's just Bethany.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: It's just Bethany again.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: Just vomiting my guts out on the middle of the street,
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: and I'm like trying to talk because my son is
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: in the back fifteenth, my fifteen month old is still
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: in my car, and I'm worried about him, but I
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: can't stop bombing. And so the neighbors who I told
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: their car like saw all of it, and they like,
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: we're not mad, not mad at you at all. And
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: then I went into premature labor because of this, and
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: thank god, so like fast forward, my cervix didn't dilate
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: and so the contractions stopped, but I was I was
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: hospitalized overnight because I was having contractions, and thank god,
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: my cervix just didn't cooperate and I didn't Actually I
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: got the baby that night.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Wait, hang on, this takes me back to just going
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: into labory, right. It is a It is a hack.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: I was so scared of being induced, dude, I had
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: four weeks less of being pregnant, and my recovery was
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: so easy, so easy. I was like hopping about going
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: to like music class with my toddler, go into blah
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: blah blah. And then when everybody found out, like how
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: post possum I well, I was like two weeks POSTPOSM,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: like doing all this stuff. They were like, what is
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: wrong with you? Like you should be in bad. I
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: was like, no, I feel great, Like I feel amazing.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: Can I say what I think the hack was? What
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: I think it wasn't having the baby early. I think
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: it was the failed epidural, because that's me when I
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: have a baby. I'm out of the house, like twenty
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: five hours later.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: I went to do you think it's because you don't
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: have the AFPA jural?
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, my recovery. I do crazy things like after
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: my fifth was born, I was at Costco two days
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: later forty eight hours. Yeah. I was at Trader Joe's
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: four days later.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: And it became like a joke, like what do you
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: do on your fourth day of life in our family?
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: You're at Trader Joe's.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah. But last time, like last time, I kind of
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: felt just as good physically, but I was like puffy,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: like I looked terrible.
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: I was huge.
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: I was like, this doesn't lend credence to your theory.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like so swollen, everything was just like uncomfortable. Well,
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: I just felt like like just sluggish. Next time, I
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: feel it's because I clearly gain a lot of weight
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: in the last four weeks, which I feel like isn't common.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: A lot of people like you look great, by the way,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: thank you, Thanks. I honestly think it's because I went
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: so early. So the last four weeks to me of pregnancy, well,
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: I went a week earlier I guess last time, but
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: the last like threeish weeks, I feel so awful. I
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: just want to all the time. I eat constantly. I
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: gained like fifteen twenty pounds in those last weeks, and
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: because I didn't this time, I just feel like I.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: Just like that is a hack.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And also being induced, people make a big deal
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: about it. Well, I guess every every person is different.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: But it went so well because I was amazing one
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: or two centimeters dilated by the time they induced me.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: I did have maximum potosin and stuff like that, like
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: it I kind of wasn't rolling with it right, actually
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: pumped up my potosi into twenty, which is like literally
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: the highest I could go. I was like shaken and
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: like everything was like really tense. But then as soon
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: as they broke my water gone like five minutes.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: That's amazing. Yeah, you had a great birth. Do it again, man?
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah? So possibly now was like, do I schedule an
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: induction next time?
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: Like I think that I wish I remembered so on
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: a previous show where you weren't here. I spoke to
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: my friend Katie Carney, who also has six and I
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: also thought she was crazy. When I first met her,
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: I was newly pregnant with her fourth and I was like,
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: sound is crazy. That's another level. There's no way, And
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: I think that that's what she does. I think that
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: sheds inductions. I I think I'm not I don't.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: Call me because I so. I'm not crunchy, but there's
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: some stuff that I'm kind of crunchy out and induction
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: was one of them. I was like, wow, it's not natural,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Like the body isn't ready. You know, this is a
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: girl who has dabague or think straight away on tanned.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: But I was like, no, like it's not rady. I
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: was krying so much. I was so upset, but like
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: actually they kind of have it down now. They kind
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: of like know how to do it in a way
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: that like it's so and particularly the place that I
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: go to, it's like kind of crunchy. So you're on
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: your own time frame. You can say no to stuff you.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Everything goes at like your pace and whatever you're comfortable with.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: And it was like amazing, it was so amazing.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: I love it. I'm so happy for you. It was
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: I I have fear that, like so, I mean, I
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: think we're done. I think it's a fair bed that
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: we're done. But I always have fear that, like what
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: if I had had another baby and that baby I
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: had to do it like drastically differently, Yeah.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: Like emergency CE sectional something can Yeah.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, I loved this. I'm so afraid of
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: that because I'm like, what was I doing every other day?
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: I had six amazing boths like that. Well there was
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: one that was like super super Really I don't like.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: Birth, So I had all six natural, no epidural. They're
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: pretty fast, I will say, but like what if I
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: had a seventh then I had an epidural and I.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Was like, this is amazing.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: I don't want that.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: I don't want that.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: If I were to have a seventh and I had
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: to have an epidural, I would want it to be
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: awful because that would just it would rock me.
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: Up because otherwise you would be like why why have
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I done this?
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Why did I Why did I torture myself six times?
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: Because it is torture.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: It is torture. Yeah, it is. Well, you'll you're one
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: of the only people I know who has so many
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: kids and doesn't fattistize burths in some way, because the
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: other people I know are like super super crunchy and
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: eighty years about births is like this kind of orgasmic experience,
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, you're loren, I've even bit twice. You're
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: a liar.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: No, No, it's awful. I mean I always joke, but
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: it's not a joke that I knew. I was in transition,
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: like the end stage of labor, and I was going
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: when I thought I was gonna die. Well, And so
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: my oldest kid, I remember standing in the hospital like
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: hugging Seth and talking about how much I loved him
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: and I had I had really really really good midwives
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: every single time, and my first midwife that I had
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: was really really like experienced, and so the nurses who
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: were young and don't see natural birth that often were
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: like this is weird, Like isn't it weird how she's
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: so nice to him right now? And like the normally
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: aren't the yelling at the husband, and my brilliant midwife
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: was like, she thinks she's dying and she's saying goodbye
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: to him. She's in transition. And I wasn't functional enough
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: to like talk, but I could hear her in the
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: background saying, like the baby's coming right now, Like she's
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: saying goodbye. This is this is her coming, like making
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: making her final goodbye to her husband, and we should
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: get ready for the baby.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: So this happened to me this time, and I think
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: it's because failed out all. So I had this moment
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: of such emotion and my dula was like just holding
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: my hand and she was like, I know what is happening.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: I know what you're going through. I was bawling, crying.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: I was just like I couldn't speak. I was just
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: like so emotional. I was thinking about my first berth
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: with a baby, got taken straight away and sent off
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: to the neck here. And it was just like I
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: think I like processed my traulla. It's very like very
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: therapy seek, but I think I was actually like processing
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: the trauma during the birth because I had never really
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: thought about it before. And yeah, less than five minutes
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: she came out, Oh my God, can I talk about
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: having two under two for a second. It's crazy. It
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: is crazy, it's so fun. It's not that hard. It's
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: nowhere near as hard as I thought it was going
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: to be. But there are moments if she is chaos,
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: particularly when both approved at the same time.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: I was literally just about to say, when you have
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: two divers, you have to change. Yep.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: That is the only time when Nick and I look
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: at each other, we just like stopped laughing and we're like,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: what the hell? This is so chaotic. But I can
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: definitely see why you and the other moms I know
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: of multiple kids say that two is hardest, Yes, because
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: I think you still have this semblance of like everything's
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: like together just enough. But I feel like with three
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: you would just have to let that go. Yeah, you know,
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: you would just have to have like no expectation for
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: yourself almost and it's like you have man cover.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: But yeah, you definitely stop caring. I went to the playground.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: That was actually why I was late, So funny when
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: you started recording like five minutes, eight minutes late, and
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: it was because my kid that's still in diaper's pooped
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: and I had one diaper in my bag. And no wipes,
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: and I was like, and so I asked another mom
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: on the playground. Actually I had my old my son
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: with me, and I was like, go ask them for
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: their dipe, for their wipes, and he the game of
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: telephone of like where the wipes were. I actually stole
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: wipes from a random nanny because I thought it was
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: my friend's stroller and it wasn't. And I used up
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: the rest of this nanny's wipes. He was like covered
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: in it, and so I'm like seeing it off his sighs,
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: and this is the problem. I've like, I've had a
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: kid in diapers for twelve years and I'm just kind
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: of like I'm mentally over it. Yeah, but I'm not. Yeah,
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: I'm not over it. I still need to come prepared.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Well, I was just gonna say this, it's funny as
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: soon as you have more than one kid, you look
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: down on parents once much. Can I say this because
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: I do? Now I'm like, what do you do with
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: your time? Why are you so organized? Why would you
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: have a full diaper bag with like all of the
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: little stuff, like you have one kid, just stick a
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: diaper and like back.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: So I will say, actually, it's so hard I every
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: summer for the last two summers, and this will be
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: my last summer. I've had just one kid at home
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: for six weeks while my older five kids are at
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: a camp. And when I only have one kid, I'm like,
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: what do I do with you? And I signed us
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: up for a music class yesterday because I was like,
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: that'll take care of Thursdays. And it was funny because
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: I was like walking around the library with him and
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: I signed up for the music class and I just
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: had him yesterday at the library and I ran into
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: a woman who was like the mom of a friend
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: of mine, and so I recognized the kid and I
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: was like, oh, you must be grandma whatever. And I
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: always loved telling people I have six kids because very
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: different reactions. And so she asked, She's like, oh, is
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: this your only and I was like, no, he's actually
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: my youngest of six and she was like, I'm sorry,
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: what what did you just say? While I met a
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: new mom today at the playground who was a friend
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: of my friends, and I said I had six and
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: she's like, oh, that's great.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: God wait does she oh does she she too?
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: But it was not crazy.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: It was like yes, so okay, So this must be
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: the difference between having two and having six, because when
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I have one baby now, it's it's so easy. It's
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: like I have none. Yes, Like what was I doing
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: with my time? I look at parents of one now
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, what do you complain? What are you coming?
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: Then when I was at the library, Will, when I
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: was at the library with just my three year old,
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: I was like, this is like having nothing.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: Like it's like having a handbag. It's like it's an
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: acassery kid, you know.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: It's like I feel that way too. One of my
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: frustrations with myself was I one of my best friends,
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Mary Catherine Ham, was co hosting The View and our
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: oldest kids are the same age, and so I was
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: going to go into New York. I was living in
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: New Jersey at the time, and I was going to
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: go into New York and watch one of my best
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: friend's co hosts of You. And I got scared to
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: take her into the city by myself, and so I
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: bailed and I didn't go and sit in the audience
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: with her. And like I was able to take the
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: baby everything, like, and it was so easy to just
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: take the train and like, but I was just now
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: paralyzed and I couldn't do it.
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: But you are, You're so paradized. And then when you
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: have more than one, it's like a really, it's like, but.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: I actually like to do this. How did you bring
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  Speaker 2: five children by yourself to London? And I was like, I.
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  Speaker 1: Can so see why I have how now? Yes, when
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  Speaker 1: I was like one kid, I was like Beth and
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  Speaker 1: he's crazy. But now but now, I.
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  Speaker 2: Mean, my kids are also much older now, but I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: but I was also a mom who was afraid to
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  Speaker 2: like get on a commuter train and go into New
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  Speaker 2: York to see my best friend co host.
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  Speaker 1: Now I look back to the to the glory days
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  Speaker 1: when I had fun kid three and a half months ago,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, why didn't I go to Japan? Why
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  Speaker 1: didn't I go to you know, like I couldn't have
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  Speaker 1: done all of this stuff when I was so paralyzed.
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  Speaker 1: I sat in my household day like it was crazy yep.
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  Speaker 1: And now it's like because especially with two under two,
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  Speaker 1: now I have a todd that like I can't say
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  Speaker 1: how multi she has to do stuff? So now I
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  Speaker 1: have to like push myself and it's yeah, it's like
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  Speaker 1: amazing yep, why didn't I do this? But it was
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  Speaker 1: sometimes easier.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, because you didn't know it was easy.
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  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I.
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  Speaker 2: Mean I feel the same when I went to I
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  Speaker 2: So two years ago, I went to Paris with my
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  Speaker 2: older three kids and that was like I had a handbag. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it was so easy. But it's also just like by
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  Speaker 2: virtual of the fact that like my kids were older too.
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  Speaker 2: But no, it was funny because I when I went
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  Speaker 2: to London. Actually, yeah, when I went to London, I
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: was on antibiotics and it was like the first day
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: I was on antibiotics. No Paris, it was Paris, and
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  Speaker 2: I puked the whole second flight from from Iceland to Paris.
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  Speaker 2: I was barfing my guts out, and the stortesses were
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  Speaker 2: really scared for me. They were like, you're here by
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  Speaker 2: yourself with no family and you're about to get off
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  Speaker 2: the plane with three kids. And I was like, this
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  Speaker 2: is easy and I'm fine.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, don't worry about I love how in one podcast
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  Speaker 1: we've had three different Bethany throws up story a lot.
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  Speaker 1: It's it's kind of concerned. I haven't throw it up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a significant amount. When people ask me when
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: people ask me about my my zet bound because I'm
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: on like one of the gop ones. When people ask
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: me about my zet bound side effects, I'm like, well,
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  Speaker 2: I peaked a little bit, but I don't even think
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  Speaker 2: of it as a side effect because I'm like, that's fine.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: I like, that's like, that's exactly the same. He throws
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  Speaker 1: up all the time. I if I throw up, it's
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  Speaker 1: like a monu. I have done two pregnancies without throwing up.
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  Speaker 1: What Yeah, well no, I throw one time in my
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: first pregnancy from a bad oyster.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, are you allowed to eat oysters you're pregnant? No?
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  Speaker 2: I mean I don't care, but.
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  Speaker 1: No, right yeah. And then and then this is why
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  Speaker 1: I threw up.
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  Speaker 2: Probably it was God, I don't listen to any of
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  Speaker 2: those things.
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  Speaker 1: Why would you? But like, oh my god, it's it's
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  Speaker 1: so annoying. So I was like, yeah, I'm not like
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  Speaker 1: following any of the rules. Then I eat this oyster
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's the most violent vomits in you
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  Speaker 1: have ever seen. Nick was like really worried for me.
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  Speaker 1: It was it was like it was like five minutes long,
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  Speaker 1: but it was like the most violent thing. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that told me. That really told me I love it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think on that note, welcome back.
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  Speaker 1: We just oh my god, we have so much, so much, so.
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  Speaker 2: Let's do this again. In a few days. We'll keep going. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I love it all right, So we're hoping to be
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  Speaker 2: back on a regular schedule. Listeners, friends, friends that are listeners.
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  Speaker 1: I have an angel baby, so it's going to be easy.
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  Speaker 2: I love it all right. Well I'm about to send
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  Speaker 2: my kids to camp, so it's going to be very easy.
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  Speaker 1: And I am amazing. There we got Okay, great next.
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