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Why So Many Men Feel Left Behind in Dating (and What to Do About It) · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Did you know that over 60% of men under 30
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  Speaker 1: are single? That's according to a 2022 Pew Research Center survey,
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  Speaker 1: and it highlights a growing problem in today's dating world.
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  Speaker 1: Many men feel frustrated, left out, and dissatisfied with their
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  Speaker 1: sex lives and relationships. Social media, dating apps, and a
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  Speaker 1: competitive dating culture only exacerbate the problem for men who
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  Speaker 1: already feel left behind. On top of that, labels like
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  Speaker 1: incel can make men internalize these struggles, feeling like they've failed.
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  Speaker 1: In this video, we'll explore why so many men feel
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  Speaker 1: disillusioned by modern dating and what's driving this growing frustration.
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  Speaker 1: The attractiveness gap. According to a study by dating app, OkCupid,
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  Speaker 1: about 80% of men were rated unattractive or simply below
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  Speaker 1: average by women. This perceived gap in attractiveness is one
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  Speaker 1: of the driving factors behind why young men feel they're
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  Speaker 1: never enough in the dating world. Because if most women
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  Speaker 1: deem them ugly, what chance do they have against the
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  Speaker 1: 20% who are considered attractive? Additionally, men are perceived to
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  Speaker 1: be less selective and pickier about female attractiveness, especially when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to trying to find matches on dating apps
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  Speaker 1: like Tinder and Hinge. Back in 2017, Aviv Goldgeier, an
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  Speaker 1: engineer for the popular app Hinge, analyzed data from the
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  Speaker 1: platform and found that men initiate matches three times more
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  Speaker 1: often than women. Worse, he also discovered that 50% of
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  Speaker 1: attempts by males, such as likes on the app, went
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  Speaker 1: to just 25% of women. If it was this bad
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  Speaker 1: for men on dating apps years ago, can you imagine
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  Speaker 1: how bad it is today? Still, many also argue that
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  Speaker 1: the ratio is off, since the data shows that there
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  Speaker 1: are more men than women on dating apps. For instance,
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  Speaker 1: on Tinder, the ratio of men to women is 3
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  Speaker 1: to 1, and it's reported that 76% of the app
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  Speaker 1: users are male. However, the fact that there are more
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  Speaker 1: men on dating apps actually validates the idea that the
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  Speaker 1: odds seem to be stacked against them, at least in
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  Speaker 1: the online dating world. When in doubt, porn. Are men
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  Speaker 1: turning to porn to cope with a lack of options
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  Speaker 1: in the dating world? In an article for Psychology Today,
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  Speaker 1: psychologist and researcher Dr. Fred Rabinowitz explains that young men
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  Speaker 1: might be developing a dependence on porn to cope with
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  Speaker 1: feelings shut out of real-life relationships. He explains, Young men
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  Speaker 1: are watching a lot of social media, they're watching a
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  Speaker 1: lot of porn, and I think they're getting a lot
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  Speaker 1: of their needs met without having to go out. Dr. Rabinowitz,
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  Speaker 1: along with other experts, notes that this trend isn't new,
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  Speaker 1: but the pandemic appears to have amplified it. Data backs
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  Speaker 1: this up. During COVID-19 lockdowns, major adult platforms saw dramatic
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  Speaker 1: traffic surges. Pornhub, for example, reported a daily average increase
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  Speaker 1: of about 24% compared to pre-pandemic usage. This is a
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  Speaker 1: disturbing trend because it indicates that young men are using
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  Speaker 1: porn to escape reality and substituting porn for real relationships.
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  Speaker 1: And the irony of using porn to cope with loneliness
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  Speaker 1: is that it can worsen the problem and even result
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  Speaker 1: in addiction. For all the men watching who feel afraid
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  Speaker 1: to reach out to someone for support, you're not alone
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  Speaker 1: and you deserve empathy and understanding. De-stigmatizing mental health and
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  Speaker 1: encouraging men to seek support is the first step to
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  Speaker 1: tackling this issue. Digital Burnout Social media and the internet
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  Speaker 1: at large have definitely played a role in the male
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  Speaker 1: dating crisis. Many young men express feelings that they can't
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  Speaker 1: compete with the unrealistic expectations of social media. Doom scrolling
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  Speaker 1: through posts of alpha males who seem to be financially, socially,
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  Speaker 1: and emotionally secure in every way. Of course, a lot
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  Speaker 1: of what we see on social media is smoke and mirrors.
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  Speaker 1: But even with that thought in mind, it's difficult not
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  Speaker 1: to internalize it. So what are your thoughts on the
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  Speaker 1: male dating crisis? Did any of the information in this
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  Speaker 1: video surprise you? We'd love to hear your thoughts in
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  Speaker 1: the comment section. As always, please take care of yourself
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  Speaker 1: and have a wonderful day.