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When you see a narcissist for who they really are · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about what happens when you see
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  a narcissist for who they really are.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  episode 982 of the Narcissist Code.
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  So welcome back, welcome back, welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, yes, yes. Once you see a narcissist for
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  who they really are. So this is going to be a 2
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  parter, 2 parts in one. The first part I want to talk
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  about what what happens from your perspective once you see
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  who they are. And I'm the second part, I want
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  to talk about who what happens from their perspective once you
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  see who they really are. So first part, when you say a
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  narcissist for who they really are, I tell people when I do my
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  when I'm doing my one on ones over zoom right.
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  Mental hilders.net. I tell people when you see a
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  narcissist for who they really are, you can't go back.
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  Yeah, it's like, it's literally, if you ever seen the movie The
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  Matrix, it's like you take the red pill, you wake up and you
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  see the world differently. You see this person differently.
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  It's just like if you have, you know if you have blurry vision,
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  right when you're driving, you're like, ah, the lights
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  hurt. You know, real life example, the
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  lights hurt my eyes. I can't see.
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  Everything is blurry. But you put these on, the world
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  gets clearer. You you put if you own my
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  podcast, I have, I put some glasses on.
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  You put the glasses on. The world gets clearer, right?
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  The world gets clearer. You see things differently now,
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  right? Like that's what happens.
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  Like, you see this narcissist in a different light, and once you
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  see this person for who they really are, it's.
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  I ain't going to say it's impossible, but it's nearly
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  impossible to see them as any way different.
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  Unless their behavior has changed in a positive way.
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  It's nearly impossible to see them as anything different than
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  who you see them as right now. Like you started to see the
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  manipulation better. You started to see the gas
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  lighting better. You started to see the behaviors
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  better, like the behaviors back in the day before you woke up
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  and saw them for who they really are before you put the glasses
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  on the narc. The narc.
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  We don't call them the narc goggles.
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  Before you put on the narc goggles, like behaviors before
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  that were acceptable or you didn't accept, maybe you didn't
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  necessarily accept them, but you didn't understand them.
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  So you like, oh, that's just them.
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  That's just them being them. That's just Lee.
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  Being Lee, that's just it's old. That's good old Lee.
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  That's how that's how Lee is. We all know that's how Lee is,
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  right? But that's the mindset right
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  there. But when you wake up, you say,
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  oh damn, that's how Lee is. But damn Lee.
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  Toxic leave, manipulative. Like Lee is a dot.
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  Lee is a narcissist. You see what I'm saying?
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  Those old behaviors start to you see them in a different light
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  and you, like I just said, it's almost impossible to see them in
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  any way differently. And sometimes people can view
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  that as a bad thing, right? Some people will view that as,
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  like, I just miss seeing my partner.
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  And you know, some people want to take the glasses off.
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  Like, I don't like seeing them like this.
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  It hurts. It sucks.
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  You feel, I feel dumb. I feel like I've been playing
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  for so long, like, but keep the glasses on.
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  It's not that you've been played for so long.
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  It's just sometimes y'all. You don't know what you don't
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  know. How the hell how are you
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  supposed to know? Y'all stop beating yourself up.
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  How are you supposed to know if this knowledge has not been
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  readily available for you, your grandma or your grandpa didn't
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  know? Your dad or your mom might not
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  have known, but the information is so much readily available
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  now. Now you know.
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  Even if you 3040 fifty, 60-70 years old watching this video
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  now you know now you can choose. Now you have the autonomy to
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  make a decision that you want to make.
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  I'm not telling you to leave you.
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  I think people see my videos and like oh Lee wants us to leave.
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  Yo, I want you to be happy. I want you to be safe.
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  I want you to be empowered. I want you to be the best
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  version. I want you to be the best
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  version of you that you can be. That's what I want.
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  And people don't like, say, I know, I know I have narcissistic
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  personality disorder and it's hard for some people to believe
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  that, but that's why I want y'all to win.
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  I really, really do. You know, I really do.
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  That's why I tell people just like when you wake up and you
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  see them for who they really are, this is what this is
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  literally what my channel is. It's a wake up show.
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  It's literally a wake up show, right?
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  It's to help you wake up and see that this person that you've
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  been dealing with, it might not be the healthiest person for
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  you, right? They might.
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  It might not be the best choice of person to deal with, the best
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  person to be around, you know what I mean?
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  That's what happens right there when you're dealing with toxic,
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  narcissistic people. Like once you wake up, you can't
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  see them again. Y'all.
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  And it's not again. It's not necessarily a bad
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  thing. I can see how people view this
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  as bad sometimes. Like, oh, I'll never see my
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  husband or my wife the same again.
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  But now you have a choice. Now you have autonomy.
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  I'm not telling you to leave, but now you have your glasses or
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  you can see clearer. You can make better
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  conscientious decisions. Like you're woke now.
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  You can't go back to sleep. You know what I mean?
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  You've been good. You've been.
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  You've been Cinderella long enough.
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  You've been Cinderella long enough.
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  Now you walk. Look, it's a Cinderella.
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  No sleeping. It's Sleeping Beauty.
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  Wrong. Wrong.
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  Disney Story. Sleeping.
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  You've been Sleeping Beauty long enough.
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  Now you woke. You can't go back to Sleep
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  Sleeping Beauty or Sleep Sleeping Beauty.
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  You can't go back to sleep. You're awoke.
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  Now I know it's something that can be painful.
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  But once you get through that pain.
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  Once you get through that, that just blaming yourself.
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  Once you get through that beating yourself up.
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  Now you can choose. Once you see them, who they
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  really are. Now you have a choice.
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  Now you can choose what you want to do.
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  Now you can choose how you want to react.
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  Now you can choose how you want to behave.
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  The choice is yours. You've been waking up.
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  Now the guy like you can fight. Gas lighter.
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  You've seen the Matrix. You see the movie The Matrix,
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  right? If you haven't seen The Matrix,
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  remember the end. The end.
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  When Neo was fighting and he just thought his arm started
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  moving, he was like, oh damn, my arm is blocking on.
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  Like I'm blocking all the licks. I'm not even trying anymore.
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  That's you blocking gas lighting.
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  That's you blocking manipulation.
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  That's you blocking the word salad.
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  Like he's like, he wasn't even looking.
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  He's like, damn. And then he finally grabbed the
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  hand and he punched him. You have the choice now.
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  You can take action now. Now that you see them for who
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  they really are, you can take action.
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  That's where it goes right there.
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  Y'all and Part 2 of it. When a narcissist thinks that
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  you see them for who they really are, they will try to switch it
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  up. They will, once they realize
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  that you got those narc goggles on.
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  Once you realize that, you see, once the narcissist realized you
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  have those goggles on, they're going to try to take those damn
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  goggles off of you. They're going to try to make you
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  seem like those goggles are beer goggles, like you're seeing the
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  world through. You're drunk.
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  Now they're going to try to convince you that those glasses
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  that help you see 2020 Vision help you have 2020 narc vision
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  are actually beer goggles and are distorting you.
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  They're going to try to, they're going to try to gaslight.
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  They're either they're going to try to take the glasses off by
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  force, or they're going to try to manipulate you to take them
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  off willfully. Hey, go back to being willfully
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  dense. Hey, now that you know, now that
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  you know who I am, don't act up on me.
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  You know? Don't do that.
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  That's how it happens, though. Y'all like narcissistic people
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  hate when other people see them for who they really are.
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  We hate, yeah, we hate that. And that's me telling you from
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  my perspective. Like we hate when people see us
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  for who we really are. So we try to get them to see us
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  for who we want to. We try to get them to see us as
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  we want them to see us. So I know who you are.
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  If you tell the narcissist I know who you are, they might
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  switch up their personality. They might switch up their their
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  likes and dislikes. They might switch up how they
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  treat you. They might switch up how they
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  behave just to throw you off. Believe.
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  That sounds exhausting. It is.
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  It sounds like an unhappy way to live.
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  It is. And I'm not saying it is.
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  They get you to feel sorry for them.
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  I'm not trying. I'm not trying to, you know,
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  activate your empathy center. I'm literally just trying to
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  help wake you up. So you understand this.
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  You understand what you're going through right now.
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  You have a choice. Now you have autonomy.
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  Now you have the power to choose.
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  It's just the way it is right there.
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  Y'all I was going to say. That's why I'm trying my hardest
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  to help people wake up and understand what they're going
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  through and who they're dealing with.
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  Because once that narcissist sees it, they might like say
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  again, once you see them for who they really are, they actually
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  might become dangerous. It's crazy.
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  I I know who you are. Oh my goodness.
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  If you tell a narcissist, I have a longer video on that, on that
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  exact statement. If you what happens if you say
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  tell a narcissist, you know who they are.
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  Oh my goodness, they lose. They can lose their minds.
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  Y'all. You know who I am.
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  If they've done some dirty, dirty, shameful stuff, they
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  think that you know that. If you tell them that, they
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  automatically assume that you know all The Dirty, shameful,
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  scandalous things that they have done.
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  They think that you know that, right?
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  So they keep doing it. There's a different space to be
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  in right there. That's what I'm just telling
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  you. If you're dealing with a
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  narcissist or a toxic person or whoever, that's the mindset
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  right there. That's the dynamic.
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  That's the part that's part of the flow right there.
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  Yeah, I was like, seriously, like, that's why I want as many
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  people to win as possible because that helps you out right
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  there. You know, once they wait, once
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  you wake up, you have a choice. Once you wake up, they have a
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  choice too. And they're going to keep,
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  they're going to keep changing their choices up to something
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  that benefits them. It doesn't benefit a narcissist
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  that is not trying to change their behaviors.
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  That doesn't work, want to work on themselves.
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  It doesn't benefit that type of narcissist for you to know who
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  they are. So they're going to try to
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  eliminate what you know. They're going to try to change
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  up what you know. They'll change their behaviors
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  up you. You'll come in house one day
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  and, you know, they like country music.
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  They'll be there listening to some Lil Wayne.
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  They'll be listening to some. I got the good cushion.
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  Alcohol. Yeah.
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  I got something down. You're like, what the hell are
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  you listening to? Oh, I love Lil Wayne.
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  You didn't know I love Lil Wayne.
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  No, you don't love Lil Wayne. You love country music.
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  You're crazy. You don't know.
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  You must not know me at all. See.
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  Even little stuff like that. It sounds silly, it sounds
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  unbelievable, but it's how it goes right there.
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  We're dealing with a narcissistic person.
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  You really never know what to expect, so expect the
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  unexpected. I know it sounds like a lot to
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  deal with a narcissist, but once you see them for who they really
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  are, y'all things could train. Things could change dramatically
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  in your relationship space. They may start treating you
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  differently, they may start becoming dangerous, they may
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  start to attack you or try to harm you or whatnot.
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  But that's All in all things that could absolutely happen.
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  Y'all so if you don't know y'all.
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