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The Eds: ’Tis the Season · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: This is the EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin Adoyave.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the EDS podcasts. I'm Eddie and I'm Edwin.
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  Speaker 2: We are the EDS. So Hey, how you doing, Edwin?
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  Speaker 2: How's it going. I know there's a lot going on
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  Speaker 2: in your life and I just want to know how
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  Speaker 2: you're doing.
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  Speaker 3: I'm doing as good as I could be doing, and
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  Speaker 3: just getting ready for the holidays, you know, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: me and focusing on the things that I can control, right,
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  Speaker 3: and all that other stuff kind of figures itself out
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  Speaker 3: as it figures itself out. But I've always been big
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  Speaker 3: on just focusing on what you can control and all
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  Speaker 3: that other stuff you can't control, you just leave that
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  Speaker 3: up to God.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what gives you peace.
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  Speaker 3: I think when you try to control things that you
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  Speaker 3: can't control is when you rob yourself of the inner piece.
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  Speaker 3: So I've been intentional with just with that part and
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  Speaker 3: staying in faith, staying in and focusing on the children
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  Speaker 3: and stuff like that. So are so so. I mean
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  Speaker 3: it's obviously difficult times, but you know, we we do
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  Speaker 3: what we always do, which is you just remain pushing.
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  Speaker 3: You continue to push forward. You know, life's gonna throw
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  Speaker 3: some curveballs at you, and you just gotta continue to
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  Speaker 3: push and things have a way to always figure themselves
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  Speaker 3: out within time, So patience.
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  Speaker 2: We shoot both the best, mostly because it's not an
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  Speaker 2: easy thing to go through, and especially the timing. You know,
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  Speaker 2: it's just it couldn't be any worse because this sucks. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so I really feel bad and I wish you both,
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  Speaker 2: you know, I hope you guys get through this pretty good.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, No, I appreciate it. Okay, so we
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  Speaker 3: got to get show holidays. Let's talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about the holidays for this topic.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to be talking about this time of the year,
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  Speaker 2: from our traditions growing up, our own family, maybe some
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  Speaker 2: gifts ideas and anything we want to talk about with
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  Speaker 2: respect to the holidays. And I'll start it off with
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  Speaker 2: you know, growing up, I really the the only traditions
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  Speaker 2: I had were you know, being from a Latin family,
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  Speaker 2: we can come up with any excuse to celebrate. So
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  Speaker 2: we definitely had parties, We had the gifts, and we
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  Speaker 2: celebrated any any opportunity we got, including Thanksgiving. You know,
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  Speaker 2: it was just we're Americans now, so it was part
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  Speaker 2: of our culture. And frankly, my favorite holiday of the
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  Speaker 2: entire year is Thanksgiving for two reasons. I just love
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  Speaker 2: to be thankful for my life, my family. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I can't I can't emphasize enough how happy I am
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  Speaker 2: with my life, and and of course the meals. I
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  Speaker 2: just love turkey, you know, and stuffing and all the
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  Speaker 2: all the good stuff that comes with Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 1: But do you do you remember growing up and did
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  Speaker 1: you so? It's traditions.
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  Speaker 3: So I grew up in Columbia, so I came to
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  Speaker 3: the US when I was six. But what I do
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  Speaker 3: remember as a kid, my dad would throw like amazing
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  Speaker 3: parties for Christmas. Like we'd have worcus, like we'd have
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  Speaker 3: like bands at the house and it'd be just everyone
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  Speaker 3: partying at the you know, for Christmas. It's like what
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  Speaker 3: they do right, like you eat, but then they'd start
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  Speaker 3: to party late. And then when I came to the US,
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  Speaker 3: sort of you know, that kind of went away the
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  Speaker 3: whole party all night on Christmas. But it was you know,
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  Speaker 3: it was fun seeing all these adults partying and you're
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  Speaker 3: just kind of there, you know, waiting for the for
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  Speaker 3: the gifts and stuff. But what's interesting is in at
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  Speaker 3: least in the land community. For us, we used to
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  Speaker 3: stay up till twelve all the time to open up
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  Speaker 3: our presence and we would open all of them.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and now.
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  Speaker 3: It's the flip side of that, you know, being with
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  Speaker 3: Teddy for as long as I was, it you open
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  Speaker 3: one present if you could make it to midnight and
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  Speaker 3: which most can't, and then you open all of them
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  Speaker 3: the next morning. So definitely two different worlds.
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  Speaker 1: I kind of like to stay till staying up till twelve.
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  Speaker 3: Well not anymore because I'm once it's o'clock, I'm like dad.
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  Speaker 3: But back in the day, I used to love waiting
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  Speaker 3: until twelve and opening up all the gifts.
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  Speaker 2: So how do you how did you do it before?
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  Speaker 2: Did everybody come to your house? Did you go to
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  Speaker 2: Teddy's family's house? I mean it gets partically.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, So typically we would do you know, if it's
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  Speaker 3: Thanksgiving out our dad's house, we'd have Christmas at our
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  Speaker 3: house and then vice versa. If it's Christmas or if
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  Speaker 3: it's Thanksgiving at our house, then we're going with our
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  Speaker 3: dad on Christmas.
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  Speaker 1: So that's always been sort of the back and forth.
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  Speaker 2: Huh. So, yeah, so you share the okay and he
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  Speaker 2: would come to share the house and.
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  Speaker 1: Then they'll come to the house.
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  Speaker 3: I think last year we celebrated Christmas at our house
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  Speaker 3: and then this year Thanksgiving will be at at John's house.
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  Speaker 1: So it's cool.
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  Speaker 2: So has John and your family been at the same
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  Speaker 2: sell it festivities?
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  Speaker 3: No, because when when it's when we're here, it's rare
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  Speaker 3: that John comes. So it's typically if John comes because
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  Speaker 3: we're going to him. Although last year was sort of different.
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  Speaker 3: I think it was like the first time that he
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  Speaker 3: that he was with us at our house. We're typically
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  Speaker 3: going to his house. But you know, it's it's always
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  Speaker 3: a fun time going to his houses and stuff. And yeah,
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  Speaker 3: kids get to play and do all their things. We
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  Speaker 3: have this great football for Thanksgiving. We have this great
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  Speaker 3: tradition where we played. You know, it's got a nice
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  Speaker 3: little football field and we'll go you know, eight on eight.
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  Speaker 1: Ten on ten. Fun. Yeah. I remember one year Cruz
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  Speaker 1: just got ran over and he's.
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  Speaker 3: Just like crying, poor thing. I mean he just got
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  Speaker 3: completely ran over and there is no Yeah, there is
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  Speaker 3: no safety.
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  Speaker 1: You're in that football game. If you're five years old
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  Speaker 1: and you're in the way, you're getting run over. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but it's fine.
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  Speaker 2: You know, so your family met John, your your mom
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  Speaker 2: and dad, and that's out of your family met My.
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  Speaker 3: Mom has, My entire family has except for my dad.
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  Speaker 3: And we met John when we first got married thirteen
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  Speaker 3: years ago in Paris. That's when they met him, because
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  Speaker 3: everybody flew to Paris and that's when we got married.
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  Speaker 3: And then that's when my mom siblings all met John
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  Speaker 3: and it was.
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  Speaker 1: A great, great day as well. But yeah, and then
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  Speaker 1: you know, in regards to Thanksgiving, you know, I like the.
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  Speaker 3: Tradition of the football right that we play all the time,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, the food's great. It's just it's I
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  Speaker 3: definitely like Christmas more than Thanksgiving. I know you said
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  Speaker 3: you're a Thanksgiving guy. I'm more of a of Christmas guy.
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  Speaker 2: So for Thanksgiving, do you do the traditional thirty turkey
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  Speaker 2: meal or do you infuse it with some if.
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  Speaker 3: We go to John's house, Okay, our house, I'll ish,
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  Speaker 3: you know, we'll mix in some Tamali's, we'll mix in
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  Speaker 3: some Colombian food, We'll mix in a little bit of everything.
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  Speaker 2: Ah. So yeah, I just always love that there's this
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  Speaker 2: sweet rice with with grapes, not grapes those dried up
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  Speaker 2: what's a dried up grape? It was my favorite dish.
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  Speaker 2: And then that's I discovered yuka from going to the
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  Speaker 2: Columbian Dinner. Yeah, and it was good. So yeah, we
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  Speaker 2: we always kept it traditional American meals. Even when my
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  Speaker 2: family came over, they might have brought to Molly's one season,
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  Speaker 2: but we're having the whole family coming over this year
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  Speaker 2: for Thanksgiving, so it'll be I don't know what my
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  Speaker 2: wife has upper sleeve, if she's going to do a
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  Speaker 2: traditional Thanksgiving turkey, or if we're going to do prime rip,
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  Speaker 2: or if we're going to do something different, but I
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  Speaker 2: just look forward. I just love turkey on Thanksgiving for
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  Speaker 2: some reason. It's just it brings it makes me happy.
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  Speaker 3: So are you an early decorator guy? Like do you
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  Speaker 3: start decorating your house? Are you like buy the Christmas
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  Speaker 3: tree November first, the day after Halloween?
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'll started with this.
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  Speaker 2: There was a time period, I think it was in
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  Speaker 2: my mid twenties where I just didn't like the holidays.
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  Speaker 2: So when holiday seasons come up, I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's it becomes so stressful, like where are
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  Speaker 2: we going to go to your families? My families? Where
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  Speaker 2: we going to spend time with, and it got so complicated.
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  Speaker 2: I think I've had two years in my entire life
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  Speaker 2: where on holidays I just stayed home by myself. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't want to do anything right, So that kind of
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  Speaker 2: set the pace for me. And then eventually I got
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  Speaker 2: older and I started realizing it's become so commercialized that
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  Speaker 2: Thanksgiving people start decorating for Thanksgiving in the summer. You
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  Speaker 2: go to home depot today and you have, you know,
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  Speaker 2: or two months ago, and you start seeing Christmas stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So to me, it's kind of put a bad taste
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  Speaker 2: in my mouth. It's just everything's become so commercialized and
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  Speaker 2: has taken the magic away from what Christmas and Thanksgiving
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  Speaker 2: really is. So to answer the question, is I wait,
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  Speaker 2: like to wait till the last minute. You know, I
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  Speaker 2: don't have my Christmas lights up yet. I just found
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  Speaker 2: out my wife's gonna want a real Christmas tree this year.
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  Speaker 2: We've always had a fake tree. It's just easier, you know.
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  Speaker 2: So now I'm not looking forward to it, but I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to deal with the mess that real trees make.
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  Speaker 2: But I think that's part of the experience, right.
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  Speaker 3: So are you putting up the decorations or is that
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  Speaker 3: camera when it comes to you?
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  Speaker 1: Or are you paying somebody to do it? No, we
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  Speaker 1: do it.
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  Speaker 2: I did one year when I was single making a
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  Speaker 2: lot of money, and it was.
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  Speaker 1: In this house.
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  Speaker 2: I decided to hire a decorator and paid her like
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  Speaker 2: two grand or twenty five hundred dollars and decorated the
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  Speaker 2: entire house and it looked like Norm Strum in here.
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  Speaker 1: It was beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's worth doing that. I remember it was
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  Speaker 3: funny I gave one day. I'm like when I think
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  Speaker 3: it was when we first started dating. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: if you were married yet. I think it was when
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  Speaker 3: we first started dating. But it's a funny story. I
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  Speaker 3: told Teddy, can you get us like a nice Christmas tree?
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  Speaker 3: And I gave us some money to go do it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not joking. She brings back. I don't know if
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  Speaker 3: it got delivered or she actually got it herself, but
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  Speaker 3: I was expecting like this huge tree because we had
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  Speaker 3: these high high ceilings. Well she brings back a tree
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  Speaker 3: that maybe at most is three feet tall, and that
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  Speaker 3: was our Christmas tree that year. And I'm like, Teddy,
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  Speaker 3: I just gave you a ton of money, Like what
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  Speaker 3: this is the best you came up with, like afoot tree.
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  Speaker 3: So we're not the best decorators. I think last year
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  Speaker 3: we paid somebody to kind of do it. I'm just
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  Speaker 3: like the worst freaking handy man of all time. So
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  Speaker 3: oh really, Oh, I don't even know how to change
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  Speaker 3: a tire. I'm I'm not a handy dude. Big Mama's
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  Speaker 3: Mama's boy. Mama did everything for me, and that's just
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  Speaker 3: never been my strength. So with decorating, we're we're not
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  Speaker 3: the best. Yeah, Teddy's at least a little bit better
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  Speaker 3: than I am, but definitely I am the worst.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'll tell you when when we first got together,
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  Speaker 2: Tara and I made sure that we started doing those
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  Speaker 2: holiday traditions ourselves, you know, because we wanted to keep
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  Speaker 2: it as normal as possible for our kids. So we decorated,
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  Speaker 2: and we prepared and I did. I am in charge
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  Speaker 2: of the outside. I used to help her more on
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  Speaker 2: the inside as well, like hanging. I put the tree
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  Speaker 2: up and she would put the decorations up right.
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  Speaker 3: But I have a lot of injuries happen outside. It's
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  Speaker 3: another reason I'm scared to do it. I'm like, I'd
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  Speaker 3: rather pay someone. Yeah, me and me on a on.
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  Speaker 1: Some stairs outside. Yeah, that's a recipe for disaster. Have
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  Speaker 1: you did you ever fall.
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  Speaker 2: I've never fallen, but I think it was two years
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  Speaker 2: ago that I decided to hang up the hanging of
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  Speaker 2: the lights outside because I went and I rented a
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  Speaker 2: twenty foot ladder because you know, we're two story house
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  Speaker 2: and just getting the damn ladder up to work it
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  Speaker 2: was everything. And I'm strong, I work out, I'm pretty fit,
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  Speaker 2: and it took everything in my power to get that
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  Speaker 2: ladder up. And of course I climb up the ladder
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  Speaker 2: to put the lights up, and suddenly, I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if it's an age thing, but suddenly I got this
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  Speaker 2: fear of heights. I'm like, okay, ladder's going back.
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  Speaker 1: I'm hiring people. I can't do this anymore. So I
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  Speaker 1: do hire.
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  Speaker 2: People to put the lights up now, and I'm responsible
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  Speaker 2: for getting all the stuff out of storage and putting
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  Speaker 2: it in the house. And we've created a new kind
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  Speaker 2: of tradition because Sophia is our last kid that still
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  Speaker 2: live with does and if it wasn't for her, we
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't put anything up for Thanksgiving. We wouldn't put anything up,
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  Speaker 2: especially for Halloween. She loved Halloween, and so she took
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  Speaker 2: it upon herself to do all the decorations and everything,
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  Speaker 2: and so she took the lead and we followed and
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  Speaker 2: we still do that and for Christmas we're going to
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  Speaker 2: decorate again. But she's she's doing it herself, like it's
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  Speaker 2: kind of like it stuck with her, Like she really
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  Speaker 2: is excited to do the holidays, which is really rewarding
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  Speaker 2: for us, because that's the ultimate reason why we did
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  Speaker 2: it when when we were together and we were going
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  Speaker 2: through you know, those hard times with transitioning from the divorce,
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  Speaker 2: you know. So it's it's it's paid off and we
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  Speaker 2: still have to decorate. And I say have to because
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  Speaker 2: if we didn't have Sophia here, I don't think Cameron
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  Speaker 2: and I would be.
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  Speaker 1: Decorating that right.
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  Speaker 2: So that's funny. What about let's see New Year's do
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  Speaker 2: you guys still when was the last time you partied
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  Speaker 2: on New Year's Eve?
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  Speaker 3: We haven't in a while because it's it's been about
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  Speaker 3: the kids, and you know, they're at that age too
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  Speaker 3: where it's kind of hard.
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  Speaker 1: To leave them.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, four ten twelve, So really I want
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  Speaker 3: to say the last time I'm getting confused. But maybe
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  Speaker 3: it was an Aspen three years ago and I think
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  Speaker 3: we had just a blast. Yeah, but it's I think
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  Speaker 3: that was two three years ago and we I mean
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  Speaker 3: we partied. It was fun, but I might be getting
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if that was Christmas. I think it
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  Speaker 3: was New Year's but we had a blast. No, it
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  Speaker 3: was new you know what, it was New Year's? What
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  Speaker 3: am I talking about? We had a blast. But mostly,
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  Speaker 3: you know, we just don't like leaving the kids. I
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  Speaker 3: personally don't like leaving the kids because I'm such a
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  Speaker 3: special day to like being able to say Happy New
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  Speaker 3: Year to them.
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  Speaker 1: So we usually do the nine o'clock New yorka we do.
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  Speaker 1: We do the New York Quadrop and then we go
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  Speaker 1: to bed.
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  Speaker 3: So but it's interesting, you know, I you know, it's
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  Speaker 3: different when you're single, right when you're single.
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  Speaker 1: Shoot, what are you gonna do on New Year's Eve?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 3: But in fact, when I first met Teddy, I was
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  Speaker 3: obviously single at the time I met her December twenty sixth,
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  Speaker 3: Like who goes out December twenty sixth?
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  Speaker 1: But ingo, people, what else are you.
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  Speaker 3: Gonna do on December twenty sixth? There's nothing to do
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  Speaker 3: and you have some free time, yeah, because you know,
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  Speaker 3: work's not that heavy at the time, so it's like
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  Speaker 3: the holidays.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I was saying earlier, I've worked my ass off
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  Speaker 2: so much when I was younger that holidays were just
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  Speaker 2: the end of the day, you know, and then you
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  Speaker 2: find yourself, Okay, well everything's closed, nobody's working. What am
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  Speaker 2: I going to do with myself? Do you guys have
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  Speaker 2: any traditions now, like the elf on the shelf for
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  Speaker 2: anything like that for the kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so we do. So Teddy's really good with that
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  Speaker 1: stuff stocking.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so when they come down, she's got the whole
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  Speaker 3: stocking stuff down.
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  Speaker 1: She's really good.
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  Speaker 3: At that stuff, and the kids would come down and
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  Speaker 3: get their stuff. I never had any of that growing up,
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  Speaker 3: you know. I just had the Hey, your presence open
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  Speaker 3: them up, you know. And I don't know, you know,
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  Speaker 3: maybe because we grew in because I grew up in
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  Speaker 3: Columbia the first six years, there is no Santa Claus
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  Speaker 3: in Columbia really, right, It's more about Nino Dios than
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  Speaker 3: maybe Jesus. Right, So Santa Claus was never a big
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  Speaker 3: thing for me as a kid, and I kind of
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  Speaker 3: knew that it was fake. My kids, Yeah, I want
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  Speaker 3: to say my ten year old still think Santa Claus exists,
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  Speaker 3: and my twelve year old, I know, Bella, which is
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  Speaker 3: my sixteen year old, she knew, like yeah, I think
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  Speaker 3: when when I eight, she's like, Dad, there is no
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  Speaker 3: Santa Claus.
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  Speaker 1: You know what about Dove? Oh yeah, yeah that's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: But what kind of gift giver have you been?
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  Speaker 2: And evolved too?
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  Speaker 1: So I think I'm a great gift giver.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not the best to shop for because I'm very
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  Speaker 3: picky what stuff and I always tell people, hey, you're
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: gonna buy me clothes, just don't do it. I'd rather
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: buy my own clothes, right, Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I love getting socks.
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  Speaker 3: My mom always gives me socks because it's like the
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: one thing I really don't.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: Buy, like like the last thing, like socks.
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: So my mom always gives me socks, which is cool.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: And I just like I like like stuff that, you know,
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: like somebody putting a collage of pictures together for me.
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  Speaker 1: Because that's something I wouldn't do, right, simple sentimental stuff.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: It's the sentimental stuff because the stuff to buy I
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: could buy it myself. And yeah, like usually like when
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: people buy me clothes, it's just like clothes, Like do
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: I need more clothes?
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 3: And then I feel bad because a lot of times
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: I won't even wear it, you know.
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  Speaker 1: But I think as far as me giving gifts, I
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: think I've been pretty good with that. I like, you know, uh,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: giving gifts for sure.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: When when it comes to you and Teddy, did you
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: guys struggle giving each other gifts or or or is
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: it an easy thing to do?
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: What's sort of changed?
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  Speaker 3: I think now what I like to do typically is
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: just take her shopping. That way, she gets what she
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: wants and and looks good, and you know, sometimes it's
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: it's just with designer stuff, it's tough, it is buying
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  Speaker 3: stuff if you don't fit into it. Yeah, so because
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: every size is different, right, Like what?
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: So I think I like doing that because I and
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: maybe and maybe in a I don't know, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I just I think with me, i'd like the same
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: way as well, Like I'd rather choose my stuff. Then yeah,
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: you know, you're trying to buy me something that I
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: know I'm not going to wear.
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  Speaker 2: So it's become very challenging sort of you know for
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: us too, because it's not always a holiday that I
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: want to buy my wife something. Right, it's a birth day,
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: it's something else, and we can go anywhere and pick
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  Speaker 2: something up and give to each other because we're thinking
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: about each other.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: But when it comes to gift giving, I think we're
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: at the point in our life where I'll buy my
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: own stuff and she can wrap it. And then she
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: buys her own stuff and sometimes I wrap it, sometimes.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: She wraps it. Yeah. It just makes it.
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  Speaker 2: So much easier, unlike sentimental holidays like I I tried
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: to do this every.
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  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day.
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  Speaker 2: I try to find a photo or something and create
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: a collage or have it printed in a canvas of
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: her and I or her and I and the family,
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: And those are the gifts I like to give her
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: on those holidays. Her birthday, for example, this year, it's
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: hard every year because I asked her what do you want,
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: and she never tells me. But this year for her birthday,
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: she ended up getting that facial thing laser thing, So
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I think she did it intentionally so I wouldn't be
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: surprising her with the birthday party or anything. She just
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: didn't want that, so it made it kind of simple
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: for me because while she's recovering. I ended up going
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: to Cardia and I know she has a few bracelets
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: already and I just had to find one that she
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: didn't have and it was pretty easy. But outside of that,
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: she's so simple, so easy going, it makes it challenging
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: for me, like to buy her or something, I have
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: to ask her like what do you want exactly?
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: You know what's interesting too about that, I feel the
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: same way. Like what I say, I'm a good gift giver,
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: but that's based on how I feel not being forced to.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: So sometimes I feel like Valentine's and Christmas and you know,
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: I just I like giving gifts at random times.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know where sometimes it's just like I'm being
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: forced to just.
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: Because Yeah it's I don't like that.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I hate that. Yeah, I like it when it just
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: comes from me. And that's why I like.
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: My best gifts are always random gifts. And I almost
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: have to remind I used to have to remind Teddy, like, hey,
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: this is a little bit of a Christmas gift. I
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: just you know, bought it a little early, you know,
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: don't forget about this one. And of course she forgets,
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: and you know, I got to get her the actual
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: Christmas one too, but but I like more of that
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: than those are. My best gifts are the ones that
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: just kind of come because I want to versus I got,
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: you know, at people telling me I have.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: To because it's yeah, it's a buying season. So let
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  Speaker 1: me ask you this.
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  Speaker 2: Historically, I've been that typical guy that just waits till
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Christmas Eve and then I'm like, oh shit, I got
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: to go shopping. And I had a tradition with my
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: dad for many years before he stopped drinking, where we
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: would go to the mall on Christmas Eve as soon
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: as it opened. It was literally like that Mervyn's commercial
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: open open. We'd go in early morning because we were
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: just early people and start shopping. And I'll never forget
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: one day we both went to lunch, both had a
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: couple of drinks. We were actually more than a couple
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: of drinks, and poured ourselves into the Apple Store and
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: I walked out with this forty inch monitor. He walked
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: out with a computer, and I don't know, it was
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: like six thousand dollars later we got home like what happened?
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: How did this happen?
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: So we got to stop drinking on Christmas Eve, but
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: it was it was kind of fun to do that,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: not just because I got to spend time with my dad,
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: but it was just like.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, the pressure's on.
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  Speaker 2: I got to find something for my wife or my
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: girlfriend or who or my family, and it was like,
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: go go, go, get it done, get it done. And
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: it all worked out. I got everybody at present, but
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: it was under pressure. Now at this day and age,
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: I just go to Amazon.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: So much easier, so much easier. Yeah, I was just saying,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: it's funny.
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: It was the same way for such a long time.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: Just get last minute presence. Yeah twenty four that was me,
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: you know. But yeah, ted Teddy's like the queen of Amazon,
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: so we don't have that problem anymore.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: So do you like to go to the store and
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: shop or is it easier for you to find? Oh?
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: I love, like, personally for me shopping, I love going
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: to a store and to find stuff on and yeah,
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: I hate shopping online because it's just every everything fits different,
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: you know.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so I definitely like going to the store. Yeah.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: I think it brings some nostalgia to like how we
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: grew up. We have to go to the store and
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: buy it.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: We didn't. You can't have it delivered.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: I love taking my kids to shop. I love being
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: able to like take somebody to get.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: Them what they want. Yes, that way, it's like one
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: and it's funny.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: I just took my daughter's shopping last week because she
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: was going to uh Sabrina Carpenter concert.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: I think that's her name, which I should have known better.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: I had a bad feeling about that because I was
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: had a feeling she was going to do some crazy
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: on stage.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, my daughter's twelve. I should have known better.
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: And anyway, but I took a shopping for that, And like,
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: I like to think that I'm pretty stylish, Like, yeah,
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: I know how to dress, and that's always been you know,
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: I was best dressed at my high school. Yeah, so
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: and I've kept I think I've kept up that tradition
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  Speaker 3: pretty well. So I'm taking my daughter and like I
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: was trying to choose outfits for her because I think
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: I know what's cool. Apparently no, yeah, he had she said,
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: and I quote dad, I have my own vision of what.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: I want to wear.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going let him be the How do you
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: do a gift giving for holidays for your spouse? So
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: do you ask the kids what they want to get
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: their mom or do you just buy something and say, hey,
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: this is for.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: You list, They'll they'll do a little wish list and stuff.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: So yeah, and they come up with some pretty good ideas.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: Or are they like, I don't know what to get mom.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: No, they're usually pretty good with the ideas.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, this this teddy. Do the same thing with the kids.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: And do you are you surprised when they give you gifts?
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: Num?
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: Are you that difficult to buy for it? I'm probably
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: not theiest person. That's awesome.
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so funny, Like it's just nowadays it's just
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: like even getting gifts, I don't I'm even opening them
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: is like to get but it's not. It's Yeah, it's
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: definitely changed since I was a kid. Let's pretty do
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: that way now.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I like give.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: I Actually, I think there's a part of me just
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: doesn't you know when people buying stuff, I'm just like,
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: you know, so you you don't have to Like, I'm
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: more like, save your money.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: You don't need to buy me anything.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're more a giver than a receiver. Yeah, yeah, okay,
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: I I have discovered myself being more like that too.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: To the point that, you know, Christmas is here, my
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: wife doesn't know what to get me, and she's wrapping
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: in all these gifts. I'm like, babe, here's one gift,
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: just wrap it. I'll open one gift. I'm cool with that.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: And then the kids have all these gifts they opened,
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: and of course I get her some gifts, and and
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: all of a sudden, I have like seven other gifts.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: I'm like, where do those come from? And it was
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: just little knit knacks that she, you know, buys for
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: for my bike or the garage or something you know,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: or something that the kids come up with that it's creative, exactly,
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: the little thing, and they are so meaningful, so meaningful
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: because I know that the kids really thought it through, right,
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: Like the simple sign that I have in my garage
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: says Harley Parking. Only you know that was my daughter
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: who says, let's get him that. It's it's sentimental.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: I love that. I love it. Yeah, all right, well
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I think that's a wrap. Okay, yeah, awesome.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: I wish you the best for these holidays, and yeah,
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: stay healthy, brother, catching up it's always.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: Great catching up, all right, Happy holidays, you guys. Happy holidays, bro.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: Take care,