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Autistic You Definitely Do This! Signs Of Autism In Adulthood · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  OK, so if you're autistic, then you definitely do this and you
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  understand what I'm about to say to you.
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  Here are two really weird traits of autism and adults.
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  And yeah, let's go. A lot of the time I'm thinking
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  like outwardly about different things that I do.
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  And I become more aware of those things that I do, right.
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  And some of the quirks and some of the the weird things that I
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  do. But a lot of time people say to
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  me, hey, autism comes with OCD, right?
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  I'm like, yeah. And then a lot of people confuse
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  OCD with autism rituals and routines.
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  Now they are two different things.
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  And there's this like crazy constant battle, but I'm going
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  to explain them now. And then you're going to be
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  like, oh, yeah, this is me. Look at people would say, hey,
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  autistic people have OCD, which means that they like to are they
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  get enjoyment out of routines. They do the same thing every
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  day. That's an OCD and they enjoy
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  autistic routines and rituals is an OCD that is presented through
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  autism. So it's a compulsion for
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  obsession in that area to do that thing multiple times
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  because autistic individuals have a compulsive way of
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  thinking, right? And they have compulsive
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  behavioural bits and pieces. Now by the way, guys, my name is
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  Dan Jones and I'm autistic and ADHD.
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  So I do videos like this all the time.
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  If you want to learn more than make sure to hit the subscribe
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  button down below by clicking the notification bar.
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  So in terms of OCD on its own, OCD can be a diagnosis, a mental
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  health condition on its own, OCD in autism can be something that
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  happens for the autistic person experiencing life.
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  Now, what's the difference and how do they interact?
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  And you're going to know this OCD when it's just autistic OCD
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  or autistic compulsions for obsessive doing something, the
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  same routines and rituals, those things bring you joy.
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  Having the same food everyday, seeing the same spot everyday,
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  having the same thing for lunch everyday, watching the same TV
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  shows, reading the same books, doing the things that bring you
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  joy repeatedly. Is the OCD of the compulsion for
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  autistic intervals, like wearing the same clothes, like sit in
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  the same spot, like listen to the same music and even even the
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  same part of the song and rewind it constantly, That's an OCD.
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  But it gives you dopamine, means you enjoy doing that, that gives
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  you joy, it brings you joy. So what's the difference to
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  between that and normal OCD? Well, I have both right?
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  And most autistic people, I'd say autistic people have both
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  because we have compulsive tendencies.
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  Now OCD in the mental health space, on its own, it's a
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  diagnosis. Just OCD works like this.
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  The things that I do that I'm compelled to do with OCD, I do
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  because I feel like if I don't do those things, something bad
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  will happen. I actually don't like doing
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  those things, but feel like I have to.
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  So I'm compelled to do those things like washing my hands a
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  certain way, wiping my hands on the towel a certain way, putting
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  the towel back on the rack a certain way.
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  I had to do it many times until I get it right because I'm
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  fearful that the end of days is going to come off someone,
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  something bad's going to happen to my family or, you know,
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  someone's going to die. Like I can't listen to music or
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  sing in the shower or any entertainment when I'm in the
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  shower, like podcasts and stuff because I believe that something
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  bad will happen if I do that. And that's a compulsion and
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  obsession towards being obsessedly compulsive with doing
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  the same thing to stop negative things happening.
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  Now that's a mental health condition.
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  And it's quite interesting actually, when you talk about,
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  because autistic people will tell you this and then you'll be
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  like, hey, I thought you like doing things that are OCD.
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  He's like, yeah, I do, but I also don't like doing OCD.
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  And so you get confused, the autistic person, we're like,
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  wait, I like doing things repetitively, obsessively, but
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  then also I don't like doing these things obsessively.
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  And This is why we have two things going on.
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  We have two types of OCD. Nobody talked about this.
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  It's it's clearly separated. 1 is a compulsion to do something
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  for fear of something else, which you don't like to do.
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  It doesn't bring you joy. It brings you harm and pain.
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  And the other one is a compulsion to do things that
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  bring you joy and you love it and it brings you happiness.
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  And so we experienced both of these simultaneously.
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  And so it's such an interesting kind of like a coalition between
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  the two types of OCD. Now, on top of that, autistic
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  adults are constantly battling with this, wanting to be social,
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  but then also liking time on their own.
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  But when you've got time on your own, you'll feel lonely.
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  It's an interesting experience being an autistic adult because
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  you want friends and you want to be social, you want to have
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  friends, you want to feel part of the group, but being part of
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  the group is kind of sometimes detrimental, makes you feel it
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  drags on you, right. And then On the contrary, when
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  you say, oh, I'll just be at home on my own because I feel
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  safer. But yes, you do feel safer, but
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  then you also feel lonely. And then we're like, oh, we're
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  super lonely. Like what are we doing?
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  And again, this is an interesting kind of push and
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  pull in the mind of autistic person.
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  So when you see an autistic person melting down or when
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  we're having meltdowns, it's not because we're not getting our
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  own way of being bratty or, or, you know, the, I don't know,
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  some, someone said something, something like the alphabetti
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  spaghetti isn't, you know, alphabet alphabetized or your
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  toothpicks aren't lined up when you're eating your food, which
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  is a horrible thing, But it's nothing like that.
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  It's this battle for your brain for, for stability or normality
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  in a wave function, not normality isn't like that's
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  normal a wave function, you know, like a wave function.
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  When a wave function normalises, it flattens out.
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  And so when you're looking for a flat function to, to gain a, a
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  grasp or a control or a normality in that situation,
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  it's hard because your brain is pulling you in many different
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  directions. Just those two examples.
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  I've told you, you've got OCD and OCD pulling you and then
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  you've got socializing versus being alone pulling you in
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  different directions. And on top of that, it causes
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  mental health because you're observing this and confronting
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  it as in like seeing head on or observing it.
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  And now you're like, Oh my goodness, it's so interesting,
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  It's fascinating. And I'd love to support autistic
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  individuals. And in fact, I have created a
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  program called the Confidence Catapult for Autistic Adults,
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  which is how to build a bulletproof autistic brain in
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  seven days. And I go through seven steps of
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  it. But if you're interested, you
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  can actually download the first part of it completely for free
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  from www.bulletproofbrain.org. You go there right now or click
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  the link in my description or bio.
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  What you can do is start this journey of understanding those
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  things and taking control of those situations so that the the
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  OCD and the being alone and the other 79 pieces of information
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  that I know about don't control your life.
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  You control those and then you are now in control.
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  And it's so interesting. I find that autistic individuals
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  have other areas like this where they feel deeply about the
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  opinions of others and they also don't care about the opinions of
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  others, which is really interesting.
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  And the rejection sensitivity dysphoria.
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  Well, that's another video. If you'd like to see a video on
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  rejection sensitivity dysphoria, pop in a comment down below and
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  a thumbs up and say yes, Dan rejection sensitivity before I
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  want to see it. But in the meantime, click
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  subscribe on this video and I'll see you in the next one.
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  Peace.