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Trauma & Marriage (Part 2) · Apostle Lazarus Femi

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  Speaker 1: Apostle Fermi Lazarus is a man raised by God to
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  Speaker 1: demonstrate his wisdom and authority to the last day church.
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  Speaker 1: He is the lead pastor of Sphere of Light Church
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  Speaker 1: and God told him years ago that a time will
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  Speaker 1: come where my wisdom will be needed to navigate tough
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  Speaker 1: times in the body of Christ.
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  Speaker 2: Then I will cause your voice to be heard.
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  Speaker 1: And all who pay attention to my word on your
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  Speaker 1: lips will not lack light and direction. He's a man
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  Speaker 1: sent from God, sent to raise God's end time armies.
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  Speaker 1: With Apostle Fermi Lazarus, every minute counts as you listen attentively.
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  Speaker 2: I want to show you a few things that possibly
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  Speaker 2: many believers don't understand. And I want us to listen attentively.
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  Speaker 2: Now some may want to ask, why is the Lord
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  Speaker 2: trying to bring His children to the state of health
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  Speaker 2: and healing? Particularly as touching their minds. As touching their mind.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe I should not use there now. She used the
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  Speaker 2: word house. Let me show you a scripture. I'll show
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  Speaker 2: you two scriptures. I showed the workers one on Sunday.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to show you another one. And I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to have to lay some very strong foundations so that
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  Speaker 2: we do not trivialize what's going on. Amen. Now turn
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  Speaker 2: your Bibles please to the book of Luke chapter number
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  Speaker 2: 4 Luke chapter number 4. Luke 4 verse 18. Luke
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  Speaker 2: 4 verse 18. Amen. If you are there, say Amen. Alright.
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  Speaker 2: Let me read from here. Now, this was Jesus speaking.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe for the sake of contextual understanding, we need to
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  Speaker 2: start from verse 14. The church must embrace the culture
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  Speaker 2: of diligent reading of the Bible. Is that okay? Very important.
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  Speaker 2: Now look from verse 14. And Jesus returned in the
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  Speaker 2: power of the Spirit into Galilee. And there went out
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  Speaker 2: a fame of Him through all the region around about.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody is announced suddenly in the spirit realm. Every announcement
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  Speaker 2: is a product of a breakthrough in the spirit. Is
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  Speaker 2: that clear? Verse 15 now, And he taught in their synagogues,
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  Speaker 2: being glorified of all. And he came to Nazareth, where
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  Speaker 2: he had been brought up. And as his custom was,
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  Speaker 2: he went into the synagogue on the Sabbath day, and
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  Speaker 2: stood up for to read. And there was delivered unto
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  Speaker 2: him the book of the prophet Isaiah. That's the word
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  Speaker 2: that says there. And when he had opened the book,
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  Speaker 2: he found the place where it was written. It was
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  Speaker 2: quoting Isaiah now. The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,
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  Speaker 2: because he has anointed me to preach the gospel to
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  Speaker 2: the poor. He has sent me to heal The broken hearted.
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  Speaker 2: To preach deliverance. To the captives. And recovering of sight.
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  Speaker 2: To the blind. And to set at liberty. Them that
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  Speaker 2: are bruised. Now that's the dimension. Of the anointing. That
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  Speaker 2: the Bible referred to. Upon Jesus. One to preach the
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  Speaker 2: good news. To the poor. The second is to heal.
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  Speaker 2: The broken hearted. And particularly, please listen to what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to have to use some very strong emphasis.
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  Speaker 2: In this part of the world where we care little
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  Speaker 2: or not at all about the mind, about subjects like joy,
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  Speaker 2: like love work. And I've said it, that an average Nigerian,
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  Speaker 2: by extension African, He's already traumatized. So we don't really
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  Speaker 2: see importance to subject like to heal the brokenhearted. So
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  Speaker 2: we tend to approach subject like this like, if I'm
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  Speaker 2: not happy, who should be happy? Are you following me?
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  Speaker 2: And because we tend to pay little or no attention
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  Speaker 2: to subject like this, we keep on hurting ourselves. with words,
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  Speaker 2: with our actions. We seem not to understand the significance.
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  Speaker 2: I want to link this subject with operating in power.
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  Speaker 2: You know, some people just believe that maybe Apostle is
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  Speaker 2: just teaching some friendly subject. You have no idea. We
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  Speaker 2: are dealing with the roots. The reason why there's powerlessness
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  Speaker 2: in the first place. In homes, in churches, in ministries.
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  Speaker 2: That's the root. Follow me. Are you with me? Are
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  Speaker 2: you being blessed? We're getting somewhere. So Jesus said, He
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  Speaker 2: has anointed me. Now there were two forms of anointing
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  Speaker 2: referred to as touching healing. Let's look at the second
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  Speaker 2: one so we can compare. The book of Acts of
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  Speaker 2: the Apostles, chapter number 10, said, How God anointed Jesus
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  Speaker 2: Christ of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with power,
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  Speaker 2: who went about doing good and healing all that were oppressed,
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  Speaker 2: of who? The devil, for God was with him. So
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  Speaker 2: this kind of healing is talking about healing in the
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  Speaker 2: body through oppression. Now, people don't know that sometimes some
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  Speaker 2: sicknesses are not just like that because of the malfunctioning
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  Speaker 2: of the body. Behind many sicknesses are the spirit of infirmities.
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  Speaker 2: So sometimes people pray for the sick to be healed
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  Speaker 2: and they don't get healed because it is not healing.
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  Speaker 2: It is casting out of a devil. And when you
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  Speaker 2: check out the spirit, the body goes back to normal.
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  Speaker 2: So evil spirit can manipulate the functioning of the body.
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  Speaker 2: Behind sickness is like cancer. I shared this story. It
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  Speaker 2: is amazing how we trivialize teaching. That's the place of deliverance.
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  Speaker 2: If you fall under the anointing ignorant, you rise up ignorant.
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  Speaker 2: A woman came. to my teaching in Lagos. I was teaching.
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  Speaker 2: I've always been teaching for a long time. I teach first.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't matter what will happen. I will teach first.
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  Speaker 2: Came to the meeting I was ministering. Had high blood pressure.
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  Speaker 2: Had diabetes. Was obese. Sat down in the meeting. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not sure she even came trusting God to be healed.
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  Speaker 2: She just came to be blessed. We've not met. We've
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  Speaker 2: only spoken online. So she I thought since I was
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  Speaker 2: ministering in that part of the country, she would be there. And,
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  Speaker 2: you know, somewhere along the line, I noticed she got up.
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  Speaker 2: But I noticed some people quickly gathered around her because
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  Speaker 2: a wrapper fell. So she never came back. And after
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  Speaker 2: the meeting, she called me. I said, do you know
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  Speaker 2: what happened? She said, no. She said she shrank. Just
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  Speaker 2: sitting under the word, shrank. She went home to check.
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  Speaker 2: She had lost 14 kg. No doctor. No depositor. Are
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  Speaker 2: you following what I'm saying here? Guess what? Diabetes left.
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  Speaker 2: High blood pressure. The word of God is powerful. And
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  Speaker 2: I can tell you stories from morning till night. About
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  Speaker 2: simple things that the word got done. So there is
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  Speaker 2: the anointing for healing our bodies, but there is the
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  Speaker 2: dimension of anointing for healing the brokenhearted. Why? Why are
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  Speaker 2: people in pain? We seem to focus on the aspect
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  Speaker 2: of the devil operating from what we have seen in Hollywood.
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  Speaker 2: Some witches trying to flood night and drink blood. We
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  Speaker 2: forget that behind pain, behind trauma, behind afflictions in the mind,
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  Speaker 2: that's where the devil is. And why does it look
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  Speaker 2: like the devil seems to be interested in believers going
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  Speaker 2: through pain? Because as long as you are in pain,
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  Speaker 2: it will be difficult to walk in love. it will.
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  Speaker 2: It will be difficult to walk in love. So what
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  Speaker 2: is after? Is your love walk? That's why we can
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  Speaker 2: be fasting. And the time of fasting is the time
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  Speaker 2: everybody wants to annoy you. Everything irritates you. Somebody at work,
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  Speaker 2: wants to do something that will make you angry. Why
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  Speaker 2: is everything after your heart? Because the devil is after
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  Speaker 2: your love walk. And that's why, see, are you with me?
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  Speaker 2: Can I step a bit deeper? That's why you must
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  Speaker 2: get the home front right. Because if you don't get
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  Speaker 2: that part right, it means your attack won't be far away.
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  Speaker 2: It won't. Anything can happen and you are so close
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  Speaker 2: to where the devil can manipulate you and sift you
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  Speaker 2: off major seasons through offense. Check. It is when people
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  Speaker 2: are at the helm of breakthrough that those who are
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  Speaker 2: the closest misbehave. Get the person tripped off. Get off
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  Speaker 2: walking in love. Anything you see is like sounding cymbals.
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  Speaker 2: You can't really command things. Then a season is missed.
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  Speaker 2: You repeat the cycle and keep going on and on
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  Speaker 2: and on Love work. That's one secret of power. We've
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  Speaker 2: not come to really embrace. To any result. We have
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  Speaker 2: seen in Nigerian church. It can be hundred times more.
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  Speaker 2: If we understand love work. Oh God. Hundred times more.
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  Speaker 2: The kind of authority we carry. When we get this
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  Speaker 2: part right. There are things that we call authority in
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  Speaker 2: the Nigerian church that are not the way God will
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  Speaker 2: expect us to manifest authority. Sometimes they are a reflection
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  Speaker 2: of the fact that we are broken on the inside.
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  Speaker 2: Are you with me? So what do you say? Love walk.
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  Speaker 2: Say it again. Say love walk. Say it again. Love walk.
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  Speaker 2: Say it again. Love walk. It's powerful. That's by far,
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  Speaker 2: if not the most important subject to be discussed. Because
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  Speaker 2: even faith, look at what the Bible says. Hebrews 11,
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  Speaker 2: start reading from verse 1. Hebrews 11, turn your Bibles there.
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  Speaker 2: Hebrews 11, let's start reading from verse 1. Hebrews 11. Now,
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  Speaker 2: faith is the substance of things, hope for the evidence
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  Speaker 2: of things not seen. Yes, continue. Look at it. For
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  Speaker 2: by it, the elders obtained a good report.
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Good. Through faith, we understand that the world were framed
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  Speaker 2: by the word of God. So that the things which
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  Speaker 2: I hope you know that verse 2 already contradict many
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  Speaker 2: of our philosophies about faith. That the elders did not
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  Speaker 2: obtain results by faith. They obtained report by faith. Report
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  Speaker 2: is higher than result. You may not touch it, but
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  Speaker 2: it has done something to you. That's report. Faith is
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  Speaker 2: not faith just because you got what you are asking for.
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  Speaker 2: Faith is faith when the process changes you. Is that
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  Speaker 2: okay now? What is happening to you while you are waiting?
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  Speaker 2: What is happening while you are trusting God? That is faith.
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  Speaker 2: By it, we got what? Report. What was the report
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  Speaker 2: of Heber? Because he was among the elders. Now, go
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  Speaker 2: to verse 3 please. Through faith we understand that the
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  Speaker 2: worlds were framed by the word of God. So the
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  Speaker 2: things which are seen were not made from the things
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  Speaker 2: which do appear. Yes. By faith Abel offered unto God
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  Speaker 2: a more excellent sacrifice than Cain, by which he obtained
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  Speaker 2: a witness that he was righteous. God testifying of his
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  Speaker 2: gift and by it he being dead yet speaketh. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: By faith Enoch was translated that he should not see
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  Speaker 2: death and he was not found. Because God had translated him.
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  Speaker 2: For before his translation he had this testimony that he
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  Speaker 2: pleased God. Yes. Let's read this together. One, two, three, go.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. Can we take it in unison again two
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  Speaker 2: more times? One, two, three, go. One last time. So
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  Speaker 2: without faith... It is impossible to do what? To please God. Why?
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  Speaker 2: For he that comes to God must first believe that
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  Speaker 2: he what?
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  Speaker 4: He is.
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  Speaker 2: So it means that if something is wrong with your
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  Speaker 2: faith life, you can't please God. It doesn't matter how
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  Speaker 2: holy you think you are. Now look at it.
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  Speaker 5: Galatians 5.6 Galatians 5.6 Let's link this together because I
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  Speaker 5: noticed I have to give you this background today.
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  Speaker 2: Galatians 5, 6. Are you there? Alright, can you give
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  Speaker 2: us some of this? Can you look at it? For
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  Speaker 2: in Jesus Christ, neither circumcision availeth anything, nor uncircumcision, but what? Faith,
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  Speaker 2: which worketh by love. If without faith, it is impossible
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  Speaker 2: to please God. The Bible is saying that faith is
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  Speaker 2: activated by what?
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  Speaker 4: Love.
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  Speaker 2: Why? Why? Look up. Let me just tie this up, okay?
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  Speaker 2: Why does faith function through what? Does it make sense?
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  Speaker 2: If I'm believing God for something, and in the process
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  Speaker 2: I'm hating on somebody, your faith is empty. It's empty.
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  Speaker 2: We must get to that point. Listen to what I'm saying. Now,
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  Speaker 2: this may sound tough. That's why I said I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to use some strong word. We will have to get
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  Speaker 2: to that point. Where we check our lives as believers.
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  Speaker 2: There is no human being you are keeping malice with.
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  Speaker 2: That doesn't mean you expose your heart to associate with everybody.
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  Speaker 2: But that when you see there is no ill feeling.
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  Speaker 2: You settle every matter and leave no stone unturned. You
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  Speaker 2: can get there. When you are away, please God, you
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  Speaker 2: will make even your enemies to be at peace. Are
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  Speaker 2: you with me? Let's link this up and allow you
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  Speaker 2: to go. Now, look at it. Let me show you
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  Speaker 2: a scripture. 1 Corinthians chapter number 13. 1 Corinthians chapter
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  Speaker 2: number 13. 1 Corinthians 13. If you are there, say Amen.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Let's start the reading from verse 1. 1 Corinthians 13
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  Speaker 2: verse 1. Though I speak with the tongues of men
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  Speaker 2: and of angels and have not love, I become what?
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  Speaker 2: A sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. That's what. Can
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  Speaker 2: you give me the... I think I gave this illustration.
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  Speaker 2: I need somebody who does not play the drum because
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  Speaker 2: they will not be organized. You understand? Yes. Louder. The two.
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  Speaker 2: Use the two. Yeah. Yeah. Do you understand what he's saying?
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  Speaker 2: Make it louder and louder. Speak it better and stronger.
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  Speaker 2: Can you hear me at the back? Can you hear me?
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  Speaker 1: Huh?
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  Speaker 2: Now let's say something. Can you hear me? At the back,
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  Speaker 2: can you hear me? You hear what I said? Okay.
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  Speaker 4: Louder.
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  Speaker 2: Louder. Louder. Can you hear me at the back now?
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  Speaker 2: The things I'm speaking, the things I'm saying. When I
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  Speaker 2: say get up, do you understand what I'm saying? I
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  Speaker 2: say stand up, do you understand what I'm saying? You
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  Speaker 2: don't understand what I'm saying. That is how you sound
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  Speaker 2: when there's no love. You will speak to mountains, they
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  Speaker 2: won't move. They can't hear you. You are a sounding simba.
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  Speaker 2: There's no clarity in what you are saying. Just by
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  Speaker 2: lack of love. If I say, please don't worry about it,
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  Speaker 2: please stand up, they will. Everything responds to clarity. You
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  Speaker 2: will look at a case in front of you. You
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  Speaker 2: are telling, be moved now. Smallest demons will stand and say,
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  Speaker 2: where are you? Not because you are not anointed, but
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  Speaker 2: because you are a sounding, you are a clanging cymbal.
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  Speaker 2: You have the anointing, but you are not clear. Do
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  Speaker 2: you understand what I'm saying? You have the anointing. Doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mean you don't have the anointing, but you are not what?
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  Speaker 2: You are far away. You are far away. Giving you
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  Speaker 2: an illustration here. And that's why you see on the
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  Speaker 2: day of Pentecost. When the Holy Ghost came down. The
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  Speaker 2: Bible said. There was a sound from heaven. And it
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  Speaker 2: filled the room where they were seated. And there appeared.
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  Speaker 2: On all of them. Clothing what? Not eyes. Tongues. Because
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  Speaker 2: the tongue will be the most important instrument for the
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  Speaker 2: new generation church. New Testament church. That is where your
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  Speaker 2: faith walk is seen. Faith has the remote in the heart.
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  Speaker 2: The destination is on the lips. If your love walk
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  Speaker 2: is affected, you are a sounding cymbal. You can't have faith.
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  Speaker 2: Check what I'm saying. Get walking in love right with
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  Speaker 2: all men. I'm telling you, the kind of doors you
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  Speaker 2: see open, you will not believe it. Because now we See,
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  Speaker 2: the last idol man will worship is self. Paul said it.
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  Speaker 2: He said it will come to pass that perilous times
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  Speaker 2: shall come. Men shall be lovers of what? Themselves. So
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  Speaker 2: we find doctrine that makes us worship our self. The
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  Speaker 2: Bible is the Bible. It can't be broken. Are you
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  Speaker 2: following what I'm saying? Very important. Let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you this. One time somebody just
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  Speaker 2: began to pick on me. I mean, I felt we're good.
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  Speaker 2: Just began to insult me. I said, I can't block
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  Speaker 2: this person. He's my brother. I washed my hands off
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  Speaker 2: this platform. Let somebody else continue. I will keep that
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  Speaker 2: love walk and protect my focus. Because sometimes this source
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  Speaker 2: of arrows to your heart is media. You're always thinking, media. Media.
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  Speaker 2: If we get it right in homes. So this is
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  Speaker 2: what the devil wants to affect. As long as you
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  Speaker 2: are in pain. You can't really walk in the kind
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  Speaker 2: of love you should walk in. You passive everyone and
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  Speaker 2: everything wrong. You can't walk in love. Oh I understand
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  Speaker 2: the place of authority over unclean spirit. And I've seen
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  Speaker 2: that it's not such of much of a deep matter.
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  Speaker 2: If we understand that. The dynamics of love walk. Not
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  Speaker 2: that deep. We're in a location. And that place was.
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  Speaker 2: The place given to us there. Is a forbidden. Forest.
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  Speaker 2: If there's anything like that. Just one house. Standing in
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  Speaker 2: the middle. The closest house to us is one by Anabalis.
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  Speaker 2: That will carry sacrifice. Broad daylight. Are you with me?
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  Speaker 2: This is about 11 years ago. People will come out
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  Speaker 2: at night and be encountering strange spirits. You see people running,
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  Speaker 2: slamming the door, shout mid-door of the night. Do you
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  Speaker 2: know about haunted places? You think they are not real?
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  Speaker 2: Because you stay in Wuse.
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  Speaker 1: Night.
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  Speaker 2: Night. One day I got up. I said, there's no problem.
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  Speaker 2: I will move my prayer time. Every night I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to be outside and I'll pray till dawn. So I'll
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  Speaker 2: wake up in the middle of the night and go
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  Speaker 2: outside and sing songs. Oh, dance, we give you praise.
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  Speaker 4: By the time.
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  Speaker 2: I've done that for over a month, the atmosphere of
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  Speaker 2: that place became electrified. No noise, no shouting, just flooding
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  Speaker 2: the place with love and worshiping Jesus. It became so serious,
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  Speaker 2: strange people step in and begin to shout. You can
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  Speaker 2: flood your place with the presence. Because you cannot live
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  Speaker 2: in these last days without authority. You cannot.
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  Speaker 4: You cannot.
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  Speaker 2: The moment the home front is compromised, your house is
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  Speaker 2: beyond a house. It's a home. The atmosphere becomes porous
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  Speaker 2: and open to strange spirits. Your children will manifest strange
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  Speaker 2: spirits because there's no unity. The gates are open. The
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  Speaker 2: gates are open. There's no watchman. That's why we strive
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  Speaker 2: to get it right. Do you think it is a
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  Speaker 2: small thing that a couple can join hands in prayer?
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  Speaker 2: Even if it is five minutes, you are putting 10,000
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  Speaker 2: to flight. The intention of the devil is to make
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  Speaker 2: sure it never happens. It will. Go and check. Decide
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  Speaker 2: that you are going to start giving yourself to certain practices.
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  Speaker 2: The day you are supposed to start, there will be warfare.
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  Speaker 2: you better weather it and know that it's because you
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  Speaker 2: want to do something right. To now give up. The
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  Speaker 2: Bible says, they that turn aside in the days of adversity,
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  Speaker 2: their strength is small. You must understand, there is a
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  Speaker 2: warfare against families and it begins with you as a single.
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  Speaker 2: You don't say, I'm not married, so this and that.
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  Speaker 2: It starts with you. It takes a bad egg to
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  Speaker 2: have a bad omelette. It begins with the single. You
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  Speaker 2: must understand. The serious warfare I've shared my story. I
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  Speaker 2: was in SS3. A new girl just joined my class.
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  Speaker 2: And part of the local champions in class. I told
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  Speaker 2: the boy, stand down. He's for the boss. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I noticed that the girl's dad would bring her early
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  Speaker 2: to school. So I started coming extra early. Now our
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  Speaker 2: school is around the GRA, so we just stroll, just
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  Speaker 2: looking at the flowers. One day we were having morning devotion.
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  Speaker 2: My dad just closed his eyes. I said, the Lord
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  Speaker 2: said there's somebody here. I said, it's me. Me. I knew.
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  Speaker 2: I said, because it just looked as though God would
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  Speaker 2: not allow me to do what the rest were doing.
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  Speaker 2: He said, you think you are smart. You are going
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  Speaker 2: after a strange lady. The Lord said, you are about
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  Speaker 2: to be embarrassed. I didn't say amen. I got up.
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  Speaker 2: pick my, I can't remember whether it was Sonya or
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  Speaker 2: Rick's phone, and call one boy that used to tease
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  Speaker 2: me with the guy. I say, Idris, that's the boy's name,
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  Speaker 2: for your life. No call me this girl's husband again.
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  Speaker 2: I know they do. But how that he will pick them.
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  Speaker 2: At every slight moment you attempt something, you come to
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  Speaker 2: the house, it's open. That's the kind of homes God
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  Speaker 2: wants us to have. That your children are in school
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  Speaker 2: can call them lady where are.
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  Speaker 4: You i'm not seeing you in your step actually mommy
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  Speaker 4: this this this this when the girl is not going
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  Speaker 4: to pick the chorus and text i'm seeing this i'm
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  Speaker 4: seeing that.
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  Speaker 2: Power of intercession prophetic parenting that's what we are talking
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  Speaker 2: about that's what the devil is after it is pleasant
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  Speaker 2: to him it is pleasant to him he wants to
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  Speaker 2: win and we must know how to fight Look at
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  Speaker 2: what the Bible. So, I'm saying this to let you know.
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  Speaker 2: What I'm teaching is warfare. Forget about the fact that
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  Speaker 2: it's simple. Warfare. 2 Corinthians 10 from verse 3. 2
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  Speaker 2: Corinthians 10 from verse 3. Please, quickly. 2 Corinthians 10
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  Speaker 2: from verse 3. Though we walk in the flesh, we
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  Speaker 2: do not walk according to the flesh. It means that
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  Speaker 2: the people we are fighting, they are not in the flesh. So,
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  Speaker 2: the question is not, why are you fighting me? The
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  Speaker 2: question is, who is trying to fight me through you?
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  Speaker 2: The question is, why are you making me annoyed? The
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  Speaker 2: question is, who is trying to annoy me through you?
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  Speaker 2: Second question, why are you available for the person? That's it.
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  Speaker 2: We walk in the flesh. We do not walk after
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  Speaker 2: the flesh.
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  Speaker 4: Why?
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  Speaker 2: Verse 2 now. Verse 4, thank you. For the weapons
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  Speaker 2: of our warfare are not what?
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  Speaker 6: Carnal.
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  Speaker 2: It means once you slide into carnality, you are not
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  Speaker 2: fighting right. The weapons are not carnal. But they are
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  Speaker 2: mighty through God. If deployed through God. For the pulling
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  Speaker 2: down of what? Strongholds. So stronghold is not just a
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  Speaker 2: thing of the mind. Sometimes the structure of the home
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  Speaker 2: can be a stronghold. That is the devil can hide there. Conveniently.
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  Speaker 2: Do your marathon fast. Come back. You open the door. Say,
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  Speaker 2: are you done? I'm done. Let's start from where we started.
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  Speaker 2: Get it right. Confess your faults one to another. You
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  Speaker 2: offended me and I was not happy. Even if the
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  Speaker 2: person will not apologize for the sake of the spiritual
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  Speaker 2: world over the house, say it. That other day, the
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  Speaker 2: way you spoke to me, I didn't like it. And
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  Speaker 2: then you also look for a good moment to what?
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  Speaker 2: Say it. Are you with me? So the question is,
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  Speaker 2: why are people trying to hurt me? The question is,
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  Speaker 2: why is the devil trying to hurt me through people?
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  Speaker 2: Many of them are not, they are not aware that
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  Speaker 2: they are playing a script. What is the devil after
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  Speaker 2: in my life? Why is he trying to use everyone
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  Speaker 2: to get at me? We must be spiritually vigilant. We
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  Speaker 2: must wake up spiritually. Amen. We must be spiritually what? Vigilant.
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  Speaker 2: We must wake up. Once we understand where things are
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  Speaker 2: coming from, you will know how to approach it with
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  Speaker 2: the intelligence of the Spirit. You'll know how to approach it.
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  Speaker 2: It was not Judas trying to kill Jesus. It was
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  Speaker 2: the devil walking through Judas. It was not Judas. It
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  Speaker 2: was Judas. Judas was just that guy that wanted to
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  Speaker 2: make his own money. He felt Jesus, don't forget that
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  Speaker 2: he was the one that was from Jesus' village. He
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  Speaker 2: felt he was going to disappear as usual. So, let
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  Speaker 2: me make money off these guys and bounce. But he
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  Speaker 2: didn't know. There was acting a script. And this time around,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: he won't disappear. And he was shocked. He was so
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  Speaker 2: caught to his heart when they were kneeling Jesus to
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  Speaker 2: the cross and they were slapping him and nothing was happening.
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  Speaker 2: And they stripped him naked. He went to kill himself.
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  Speaker 2: He couldn't bear it. That's not some bad guy. True.
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  Speaker 2: That's not a bad guy. He just wanted to make
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  Speaker 2: his money. So many of the people you are reacting.
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  Speaker 2: You know. Hard. You are leaving the enemy. To face them.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why. Let me say this. If God has
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  Speaker 2: called you to do ministry. You want to make sure
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  Speaker 2: that the people in your immediate sphere are praying. The
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  Speaker 2: one who is not praying will be the access point
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  Speaker 2: to bring you down. Never say anyone is in your
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  Speaker 2: inner space if they are not praying. They will be
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  Speaker 2: the one vulnerable to put food on the fire till
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  Speaker 2: the house will get burnt. The idea is anything to
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  Speaker 2: stop him from doing what he is doing. Oh God.
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  Speaker 2: I might go in too far now. These are still basic.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I could be a photographer in a meeting. Person
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  Speaker 2: is snapping. You notice, virtue is living. You don't know
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying. Only to find out the person's heart
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  Speaker 2: is not right. And that's why, you know, people will
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  Speaker 2: have sat under my teachings here. When I come to
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  Speaker 2: a prophetic meeting, I select who sing, who stand there,
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  Speaker 2: who do this. The first, I select everything. Once I'm
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  Speaker 2: moving in the prophetically, Whoever will say, we'll back up this, this, this.
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  Speaker 2: Everyone selected. And this is their routine. Because one slight
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  Speaker 2: thing can tip you off. And you have missed the
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  Speaker 2: inheritance of a church. Seriously. That's why there's protocol around prophets.
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  Speaker 2: People don't understand. Why are they like this? Don't mind them.
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  Speaker 2: Men of God or God of men. If you don't
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  Speaker 2: know what it is. Why do you think Jesus had
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  Speaker 2: 12 and not 3? And when the grain gets tough,
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  Speaker 2: it goes with those three to pray more than the rest.
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  Speaker 2: And you have your own three, but your spouse is
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  Speaker 2: not among them. You wonder Abraham will come from the
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  Speaker 2: mountain and Sarah will say, go and sleep with my
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  Speaker 2: house girl. Because you are not speaking from the same plane.
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  Speaker 2: You are far apart spiritually. Don't leave your spouse behind.
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  Speaker 2: Carry them. Do you understand what I'm saying? If not,
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  Speaker 2: all the things you have received, it will be leaking there.
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  Speaker 2: That's where everything will come from. Pray. I sense we
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: should take some few minutes to arrive in tongues. And
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: shake off certain dust. Just shake off certain things. So
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  Speaker 2: you can come to a place where you can receive better.
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  Speaker 4: Come on.
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  Speaker 2: Let's do so. Let's do so. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge. I want everybody to pray.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 5: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 5: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 1: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 1: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 3: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 3: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 5: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 5: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 6: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge. Charge. Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Charge.
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  Speaker 4: Charge.
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  Speaker 2: Let's pray. Hear us now, O God, upon the air
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  Speaker 2: as we pray, as we pray.
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  Speaker 6: Hear us now, O God, Of all the earth.
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  Speaker 3: As we pray. As we pray. Hear us now, O God.
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  Speaker 3: Of all the earth.
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  Speaker 2: As we pray. As we pray. As we pray.
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  Speaker 6: As we pray.
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  Speaker 2: As we pray.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 2: In Jesus' mighty name we pray. Amen. Please be seated
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  Speaker 2: for a few moments. This is holy ground. Hear me now.
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  Speaker 2: This is holy ground, my friend. Open your eyes. Open
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  Speaker 2: your ears. Till you understand that the Lord is here.
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  Speaker 2: Open your eyes.
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  Speaker 6: Open your ears.
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  Speaker 2: So you understand that the Lord is with you. Oh, Lord.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, Lord. Amen. Amen. So, listen. Let me tell
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  Speaker 2: you so I've linked back now so here's what the
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: devil is going to do the areas of pain and
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  Speaker 2: injury that you didn't get healed from they are consistent
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  Speaker 2: access way to your life such that it doesn't matter
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  Speaker 2: what anyone is doing to get at you the one
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  Speaker 2: that will get the job done is the one that
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  Speaker 2: touches the area where you have not been healed It
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  Speaker 2: could be a question. It could be something that reminds
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  Speaker 2: you of that area. As long as there is no healing,
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: the devil knows he can draw you with that rope
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  Speaker 2: again and again. Maybe a pain in the heart from
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: a rape. A rape piece is doing more than just
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  Speaker 2: breaking a girl's eye, man. Or sleeping with a girl.
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  Speaker 2: A rapist is causing internal injury. And what the devil
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  Speaker 2: wants to do is to use that injury, number one,
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  Speaker 2: to destroy the person's perspective towards the opposite sex. Number two,
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: to destroy the idea of sex in marriage. That's what
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  Speaker 2: he wants to do. That the fellow can no longer
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  Speaker 2: perceive it right. So, As long as that pain is there,
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  Speaker 2: it is a consistent contact point. And the devil understands this.
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  Speaker 2: That anything you are not healed from, he can use it. Anything.
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  Speaker 2: He can use it at any time. He will come
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  Speaker 2: in gallantly and just flip that card. And there you go,
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  Speaker 2: you respond. You respond. Look at the number of times
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  Speaker 2: the devil has tried to get you angry and offended.
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  Speaker 2: What gets the job done always? What gets the job
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  Speaker 2: done always? Lift your hands. Say, I release all pains.
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  Speaker 2: Let's take it a step further. Say, I forgive. And
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  Speaker 2: I let go. Is there anyone that you need to
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: forgive and just put their picture in your mind? Somebody said,
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  Speaker 2: how do you know you are forgiven when there's no
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: more healed feeling towards the person? When there's no more
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: pain every time they come across your mind? When all
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  Speaker 2: you have is love. Do you want to mention names
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  Speaker 2: to God? And say, I let go. Just take a
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  Speaker 2: minute and do that. Maybe an ex. Maybe someone, an uncle,
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: would try to take advantage of you. Maybe a pastor. Yeah. Say,
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  Speaker 2: I let go. I will not allow you to live
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  Speaker 2: rent-free in my mind, in my life, in my destiny.
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  Speaker 2: I forgive you. And you should move from the point
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  Speaker 2: of doing that to blessing the person now. Release blessings.
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  Speaker 2: I bless you. I bless you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I release you from my mind. You are no longer
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  Speaker 2: imprisoned in my mind. I forgive you. In Jesus' mighty
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: name we pray. And let me give you this clue.
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  Speaker 2: I understand that it's difficult to forgive some people because
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  Speaker 2: they have not changed. And they are still entitled in
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  Speaker 2: what they are doing wrong. But you forgive, not for
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  Speaker 2: the sake of the person, but for your own sake.
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  Speaker 2: It is until then that pure oil will flow from
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  Speaker 2: I saw this video. This guy had just killed this
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  Speaker 2: guy's only brother. And he was in the court. All
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  Speaker 2: the things the judge was saying, the guy was just looking.
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  Speaker 2: Talk about people who are already dead. They are inside.
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  Speaker 2: They are already in pain too. But when the guy
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  Speaker 2: stood up, whose brother was killed, he said, I just
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  Speaker 2: want you to know that Jesus loves you. And I
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  Speaker 2: have nothing against you. I know the devil has moved
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  Speaker 2: you to do this, but I forgive you from my heart.
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  Speaker 2: And he asked him, can I hug you? And he
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: went to hug the guy who killed his brother. It
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  Speaker 2: was until then that that guy broke into tears. The
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  Speaker 2: world just needs to see Jesus through our eyes. Let
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  Speaker 2: me tell you my story. That's why I had deep breath.
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  Speaker 2: Because sometimes people feel, maybe you don't know what you
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: are talking about as a pastor. What makes you feel
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  Speaker 2: when you are holding the mic? You can't talk to us.
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  Speaker 2: Hold on. The person who had hurt me the most
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  Speaker 2: in my life, this woman told me, if I can't
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  Speaker 2: kill you, I will make sure you kill yourself. And
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  Speaker 2: she was walking at it gallantly. That by yourself, I
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  Speaker 2: will frustrate your life, you will die. And several times
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  Speaker 2: she would tell me, you know you die young. face
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: to face this one is not somebody telling you a
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  Speaker 2: dream and one day she called me I was raining
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: courses saying things and for over 16 minutes she was
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  Speaker 2: talking non-stop so I said to her I said are
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  Speaker 2: you done so I said to her I know you
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  Speaker 2: are afraid of me that's why you are doing what
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  Speaker 2: you are doing I said what did you say I
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  Speaker 2: said I know you are afraid of me I said
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  Speaker 2: I know you know that God is going to lift
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  Speaker 2: me And you feel I'm going to maltreat your children.
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  Speaker 2: In vengeance. If only you know how much I love you.
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  Speaker 2: That was when she. Broke in tears. On Sunday. We
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: had that conversation on Saturday. Sunday she came out for
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: altar call as a pastor's wife. She said she was
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: still practicing Islam. And the husband didn't know. Talking about
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: let the world see Jesus. Jesus. Vengeance is mine, says
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  Speaker 2: the Lord. And he knows how to appropriate it. But
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: forgive in such a way that you don't even need
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  Speaker 2: the vengeance. Let go. After all, all the things that
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  Speaker 2: were done against you have built you. You have become stronger.
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  Speaker 2: I know the pain is there, but God has done
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  Speaker 2: some things through those pains. Amen. Say it again, I
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  Speaker 2: forgive you. You know the person now. That one. That
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  Speaker 2: one sitting at that throne in your mind. Forgive. Sometimes
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  Speaker 2: you just have to call people and say, you know what?
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: I'm not forgiving you. Guess what the person will say? Nonsense.
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  Speaker 2: What's my business? Get off my phone! True. I hope
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  Speaker 2: your maturity would have gone beyond that. That you have
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  Speaker 2: shifted it. People have not moved. See forgiveness. Not because
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  Speaker 2: the fellow has changed. But because you have grown. Amen. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: You can practice it. You can practice it. You become stronger.
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  Speaker 2: You become stronger. So. When we teach this. They are
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  Speaker 2: not emotional topics. We are not sensitizing people emotionally. We
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  Speaker 2: are going to the roots where the devil is hanging.
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  Speaker 2: When we get this right, the church will walk in
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: unbelievable level of authority. Do you know the reason why
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: the Nigerian church seems powerless despite the graces? Lack of unity.
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: There is an authority that only comes as a body.
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  Speaker 1: As a.
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  Speaker 2: Body. As a body. There is nothing deep in Nigeria
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  Speaker 2: that the authority of the church cannot uproot. But it
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: is amazing how that people now believe. Not that this
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  Speaker 2: man of God has been caught in any immorality, any
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  Speaker 2: sin or his fetish. That once we don't agree, we
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  Speaker 2: must never meet. Unity is not uniformity. It's not uniformity.
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  Speaker 2: Everyone with their unique graces. Now let me show you something.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: Why will God have to give the body of Christ
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: different dimensions of graces? Because the devil is not doing
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: the same thing. There are people that no matter what
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: I teach, they will not listen. They feel what you
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: are teaching is for those who are baby Christians. No problem.
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: And I know it's not for baby Christians. But that's
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: where they are. They will listen to another man of
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: God and sit down and bless me more. There are
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  Speaker 2: people that will not listen to those ones. They say,
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: we stick with the fathers. Anything the devil is trying
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  Speaker 2: to do, God has sons to attack it. That's the idea. Okay?
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: There are people that will come to Swell of Light
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  Speaker 2: and say, this is my home.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: I want a place where they will gyrate. It tells
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  Speaker 2: where they are coming from and where they are. It
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  Speaker 2: doesn't mean they are bad people. If you say this
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  Speaker 2: is what you want, God says, I have a son
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  Speaker 2: who is there. Follow me, let's go. Do you understand
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? And we must understand that there is
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  Speaker 2: a meeting point for all our works. And the meeting
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: point is the cross. That's the meeting point. That if
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: we step in that place of our highest authority through unity,
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: not uniformity, through unity, we put the enemy on the flight.
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: Send him out. Send him back out of the country.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if that day will ever come. Where
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: the entire Nigerian church will say, let's do three days.
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  Speaker 2: The first question is, the person who is calling for it,
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  Speaker 2: which church is he from? What is their doctrine? Ah,
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  Speaker 2: see the pastor's wife. You know, tie a calf. A tie.
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  Speaker 2: That's it though. What God wants to do with throwing
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: it away? Because of scoff. They are church. They wear trouser.
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: That's it. An entire gender. That's why they don't take
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: us serious. Occultic people are united. That's why they don't
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  Speaker 2: take us. We look like a joke. We preach it
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: but we don't do it. People who are drinking palm
• 48:48
  Speaker 2: wine together. If somebody makes a mistake, can I tell
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: the person? Last night, this happened. They will counsel the person.
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: There are a few pastors you can tell, I made
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: a mistake. That you will not become a Sam on
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: the following Sunday. Sometimes somebody was saying that, Apostle Lazarus,
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  Speaker 2: you are preaching with that friendly message. I said, listen,
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  Speaker 2: we are the ones counseling your members. If you know.
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  Speaker 2: You see, all these people, when people live in sin.
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  Speaker 2: I have sons who have come to meet me and say, Apostle,
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: I kissed the girl. I said, is that so? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: let's talk. I'm glad at least they can tell me.
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: So it's not like every time, call me, Apostle, I kiss.
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  Speaker 2: Go and use that mouth to pray. But in the
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  Speaker 2: place where people pretend, that's where you have the worst atrocities.
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: And people are dying in silence. And come out. And
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: still criticize those whose own have come out publicly. Get
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: with it. It's called a pot plant. The one masturbating
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: is calling out a fornicator. You see? You see? You
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: are sanctifying the body of Christ. You don't even know
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  Speaker 2: the body of Christ. you know let me tell you
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  Speaker 2: by divine privilege I am close to fathers and I'm
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  Speaker 2: close to younger ministers too I think one of the
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  Speaker 2: things God has done for me in the body of
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  Speaker 2: Christ is that I don't actually belong to any sect
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  Speaker 2: I just do my stuff. And once you are an
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  Speaker 2: enemy of a person, that doesn't mean I should be
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  Speaker 2: the enemy of the person.
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  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 2: Enemies should not be inherited. No. Okay? I believe that
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: day will come in my lifetime that the fathers and
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  Speaker 2: the children will unite. Let me show you what will
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  Speaker 2: happen when that happens. Malachi chapter number 4, is it?
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  Speaker 2: The last verse now. Second to the last verse and
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: the last verse. Let me show you what will happen
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  Speaker 2: according to scripture. When that will happen. Now it's an
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: apostolic movement that should bring that. But unfortunately we believe
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  Speaker 2: the apostolic movement now is to divide. He said, I
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  Speaker 2: will send Elijah the prophet. Okay? Before the coming of
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  Speaker 2: the great and dreadful day of the Lord. Yes, verse
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  Speaker 2: 6 now. He will turn the heart of the fathers
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: to the children. And the heart of the children to
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  Speaker 2: the fathers. He said, lest I come and strike the
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: head with a cross. Whenever there is that division, what
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: you will see is a curse. You want to see healing.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: Bring the heart back. Many church members are walking in pain.
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: Pastors too are in pain. Fathers too are in pain.
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: Who is now causing the pain? People share their stories.
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: Everybody have their own stories. So who is behind all this?
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: The devil causing confusions. The devil is causing. And the
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: reason why we are not patient for many to be
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: said to be cursed. It is not a deal breaker
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: until it strikes an area of your injury. I know
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying. I know the devil doesn't like what
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  Speaker 2: I'm teaching. And I know he's going to raise many
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  Speaker 2: people against it. But we have not come this far
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: to teach what people want to hear. This is where
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: the devil is hiding. You will walk in authority when
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: you begin to walk in love. Powerful authority. Unbelievable level
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: of authority. Are you with me? Are you learning something? Okay.
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: So let's look at the possible cause of traumas that
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: cause pain. Possible causes of trauma that cause pain. Number one,
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: bad experience. Bad experience. Bad experience with an ex. Bad
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: experience with a friend. Bad experience with someone. Past relationship.
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: The person is gone, but the effect is still there.
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  Speaker 2: Number two, possible cause of trauma is dysfunctional background. Dysfunctional background.
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  Speaker 2: When the background is compromised, a lot of things will
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: go wrong. When the background is compromised, a lot of
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: things will go wrong. A lot of things. Sometimes it
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: could be a hateful father or hateful mother or missing
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: father or missing mother or wayward father or wayward mother.
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: Talk about when those who should give you a sense
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: of identity get it wrong themselves. How can the father
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: of a child hate the child and hate to see
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  Speaker 2: the child? The mother of a child hates the child.
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: How about children? Can a woman give birth to a
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: child for sake of her second child? It looks like
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: the answer was no. But is the answer still no?
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: People are giving birth and will dump the baby in
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: a polybag outside. People are giving birth and will sell
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: their own children. When such a child grows up to
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: hear the story that his or her mother sold her
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: for 250,000 Naira. And the mother is still there. Say,
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: now that you are working, send money home. Every time
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: the child remembers, what do you think will happen? Talk
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: to me. These are people's reality. A child grew up
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: seeing different people come to embarrass the father. See people
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  Speaker 2: that are like your age mate And your father is
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: with them And we'll call him name We won't give
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  Speaker 2: birth to you You are wondering is there still hope
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: That's why the fall of a man of God is
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  Speaker 2: very loud Because it communicates to a generation That is
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: there still hope The higher you go the louder you
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: fall May you stand forever These are issues So when
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  Speaker 2: there are experiences like this, bad dysfunctional background, it settles
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: in the heart. And the person keeps wondering, will I
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: do better? And unfortunately some parents are so cruel, they
• 55:39
  Speaker 2: will tell the child, you will repeat the same pattern.
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: Out of anger. Say you think you are better than us.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: You think you are better than us. Okay, you too,
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: you are doing your own. You will see where you end.
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: And that child will never forget. Some people are waiting
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: for their own children to fail. So that they can
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: be vindicated. And say that. So you think you know
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: better than us. Now you have seen it. You will
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  Speaker 2: not fail. You didn't say the amen well enough. Those
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  Speaker 2: who are waiting for you to fail. Will wait in vain.
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: They will wait in vain. You will not fail. Unto
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: him that is able to keep you from falling. Unto him.
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: That is able to keep from falling. And present you
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: spotless before the Father. Listen. God will not take you high.
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  Speaker 2: And leave you to fall. The hand taking you up
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: will keep you.
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  Speaker 6: Listen.
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: Don't be afraid. That maybe as I'm climbing. One day
• 56:43
  Speaker 2: you'll just die. You are not going anywhere. The one
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: who is taking you up will keep you. No sickness
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: is coming. I said no sickness is coming. No sickness
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: will scatter your home.
• 56:54
  Speaker 4: You will not fail.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: You will not fail. Don't be afraid of greatness because
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: you may suddenly drop. Never. It's your right. Step in there.
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: Is that clear? Never be afraid. Maybe you think God
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: is giving you speed. That you are moving too fast.
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: Run when he gives you the scepter early. Take it early.
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: Early will not satisfy you with mercy. That is his word.
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: The devil brings intimidation to harass your mind. Make you
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: feel that it's too early for you. Postpone it for
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: another 10 years so you can miss seasons. Now lie.
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: Take it early. If God is giving you early, take
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: it early. Amen. Thank you, Lord. It's unfortunate, but that's
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: the case. Many people are waiting for their family members
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: to come back with reproach. Say you are the one
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: serving Jesus. You are the one going to church. You
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: think you are holier than us. We have kept your
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: room in the village. You are coming back there, but
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: now lying. And sometimes the fear of this statement also
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: makes people stay under abusive marriage where they die. We
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: must get the balance. Are you following what I'm saying here?
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: One time I'm going to take it as a subject.
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: Abuse in marriage. It's a subject. It's better to be
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: alive and make up than to die. There's a place
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  Speaker 2: it gets to. People separate and say, you know what,
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: this thing will take my life. Are you following what
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: I'm saying here? Balance, oh. Balance. So we don't demonize people. Balance.
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: It's functional background. When some people just remember their family,
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: they hate the idea of marriage. Just remember, a guy
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: is talking and the guy making sense and just the
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: moment she remembers, Just tell the guy. Just start ghosting
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: the guy. You know what? I will talk to him
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: another time. Every time he talks, he's feeling irritated from inside.
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: It's not the guy. It's the pain that is not healed.
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: And that's what the devil likes. So he can control
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: and manipulate your life. with that pain. It's part of
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: the causes or the sources of trauma. Number three. Rape.
• 59:25
  Speaker 5: Rape.
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: Rape. rape and it is amazing now that in this
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: part of the world we shame rape victims when somebody
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: is raped you don't tell the person who is raped
• 59:47
  Speaker 2: to bring evidence was the person moving who sees the
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: camera knowing that he will be raped he or she
• 59:57
  Speaker 2: because now our world is getting more serious there are
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: guys they rape demos Cling, cling.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 6: Ah.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: It happens. But the most common one is the female. Right?
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: And sometimes when these things happen and they happen in
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: places that are so sensitive, you know, some parents will
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: prefer they say they are covering the girl. So people
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: will not know. And they will now cover the person
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: who has done it. And say don't tell anybody. Some
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: will even call their daughter. A seductress. You are the
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: one seducing men. Look at you. You walk like a prostitute.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: An uncle has raped a girl. You will cover the uncle.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: Because people should not hear. I don't think there is
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: any rule. That is more lonely. Than the rape victim.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: We don't seem to have structure. Societal structure. Family structure.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: We don't seem to cover all those things. And that's
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: a very, very serious matter. There are pastors that abuse girls. Yes.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: In discriminating, they will touch them. You and the man
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: of God are chatting. You started chatting. I just like
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: your shape. Run.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 3: Run.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 2: You too, you are enjoying it. Hey, Papa. Ah, Papa,
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: what are you saying like this? What will Mama say
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: if she sees this in our chat? Sefini, you like it?
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 4: Run.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: And I consider it the highest bridge of trust for
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: a man of God to descend that low. The highest
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: Don't let anything God has placed under you die. Who
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: are seeking refuge in church? You know, in Nigeria, we
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: are very quick to say, I stand with pastor. And
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 2: you wonder, where should the person go to? Somebody has
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: been abused there. We are not even asking questions. Oh,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: the ministry is under attack. They are trying to attack
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 2: These are sensitive matters. They are only sensitive because we
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 2: don't like truth. We don't like truth. Maybe some pastors
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: can't preach it because they are afraid that what if
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: it is their turn? It will never be your turn
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: in Jesus' name. Rape. Sexual abuse. A very serious matter.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 2: It takes people years, if ever they recover, to recover
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: from it. You must wake up, smell the coffee. Number four, disappointment.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: Imagine dating for six years, only to leave the person
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: in the month of introduction. When that guy is dropping
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 2: his own proposal, he's looking at his mom, saying to them,
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: I like you when he's done talking can we talk
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 2: some other time disappointment is deep.
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 4: It's deep.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: And that's why let me give you two secrets are
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: you with me Are you sure? It's getting quiet. Are
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: you sure you're with me? Two secrets. Number one, never
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 2: see any human being as the proof of God's love.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: The highest expression of God's love is that he has
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 2: given his only begotten son. That's the highest. Number two,
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 2: never see any human being as the doorway to the
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 2: fulfillment of your destiny. That's why breakup looks like destiny
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: is gone. Maybe God told a girl that you would
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: marry a pastor. And you were dating a pastor. Then
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: the pastor broke up. And all the guys coming are
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 2: no longer pastors. And you see yourself as a pastor's
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: wife for a long time. What do you do? You
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: take what God is giving you. God can call people
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: at any time. And that person's dimension of ministry may
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: never be holding the microphone. And the person will be
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: stronger than the so-called pastors. And sometimes you didn't hear well.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: You only fantasized. Childhood dreams can be deep. You understand?
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you didn't hear well. It's not true that people
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 2: don't like pastors. People like pastors. Your silence is the
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: proof that I'm right. It's psychological. Number five. Possible cause
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: of trauma.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 3: Divorce.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 6: Divorce.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 2: Divorce. Divorce is synonymous to your spouse dying but he's
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 2: still resurrecting and you're seeing the person everywhere. But there's
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: no more connection. Someone who has died but won't leave
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: the earth. Everywhere you turn, you see the person there.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: Matters around children, the person will resurrect again. Matters around school,
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: this person will resurrect again. God hates it. He doesn't
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: hate the divorcee. He hates what he does to you.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: So you've gone separate ways with your spouse. Gone separate ways.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: That doesn't mean God wants to kill you. Okay? This
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: is a sensitive matter we can't teach in five minutes.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 2: So I'd recommend the book by Kenneth Egan, Marriage, Divorce,
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: and Remarriage. I recommend that book. Solid biblical perspective about it. Doctrinal.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: Can a divorced person remarry? Read that book. So let
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: me just list here. Let me say this. If for
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 2: any reason you've had to go through a divorce with
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 2: somebody and you have separated officially, always remember the reason
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: why it was necessary. so you'll not be living in regret.
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: Because the more distant people are, the more attractive they become.
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 2: Because you may be feeling, that woman is enjoying what
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: I should have been enjoying. Are you sure it's enjoyment?
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: Because when it came close, you know what you saw.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 4: Okay?
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: Everything is attractive when it is far. When there's proximity,
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 2: there's what? Clarity. Is this simple enough? Every matter. Let
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 2: me just leave it. Okay. These issues of trauma can
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: affect your marriage in the following ways.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 4: Number one.
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 2: Number two. can affect your marriage in the following way.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: Number one, lead to a no interest in the subject
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: of marriage. It will get to a point where they
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: are not interested. It's not for me. Just leave me.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: I want to be a baby mama. That's all. Why
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: do you think most footballers don't even want to get married?
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 2: It's trauma. Because they've seen how that one of their
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: colleagues fell in love, married the girl. The girl will come,
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 2: I say, divorced. They will say they will share the
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: wealth Ain't told you. Whenever that happens, here we ring
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: through their camp. And say, you see why I will
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: not marry yet. Even your idol, football idol. Little or
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 2: no interest in the subject of marriage. Number two, love.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 2: Lack of emotional connection or loss of emotional connection towards
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 2: your spouse. Lack that is not at all, not there.
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: Or loss, it's left now. Of emotional attraction or connection
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: towards your spouse. Again, I want to reiterate. Don't marry
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: somebody you don't love. Love will not meet you inside.
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: Agape is different from this one. See, I love him
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 2: as my brother in the Lord. Israel is no brother
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: in the Lord. See, I don't love him. I'm not attracted.
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 2: In fact, when he talks, I feel irritated. But since
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: it is God, which God? Which God? Amadi or Haor, Shango,
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: which God? No, we need to get it right. Every
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: relationship that will last, stand on three legs. Number one, attraction.
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: Number one, sorry, conviction. Number two, purpose. Conviction in the
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: sense that you heard God and you know this is God.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: Number two, purpose. In the sense that you are going
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 2: to similar direction. Okay? Not necessarily the same place, but similar.
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: That is, my vision does not have to die for
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 2: yours to survive. That's the connection. Number three, attraction. You
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  Speaker 2: must be physically attracted. If you look at the person
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  Speaker 2: and the fellow just looks like a brother or sister
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  Speaker 2: in the Lord, wait till that thing is repaired before
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  Speaker 2: you say, I do. If not, I do might be
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  Speaker 2: you that have entered into a trap. And because people
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  Speaker 2: who are in that trap can't talk, I'm warning you ahead.
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  Speaker 2: So that you will not take your spouse as a
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  Speaker 2: dealing from the Lord. Nobody's spouse is supposed to be
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  Speaker 2: a dealing. God is not dealing. Do you understand what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying? Say God has seen this in my heart.
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  Speaker 2: So God gave me this place to deal with my heart. Eh?
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  Speaker 2: So number one, I said little or no interest in
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  Speaker 2: the subject of marriage. Number two, lack or loss of
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  Speaker 2: emotional connection to your spouse. Number three, Reactional tendencies towards
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  Speaker 2: issues at home. If once emotional connection is lost, you
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  Speaker 2: will almost be behaving irrationally. Because you will feel that
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  Speaker 2: this person in your life is a mistake. So you
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  Speaker 2: will not be rational. Okay?
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  Speaker 5: Okay?
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  Speaker 2: And if you are married and the emotional connection is lost, check.
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  Speaker 2: Who is taking that emotional space? There is no way
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  Speaker 2: there will be nobody. There will always be somebody that
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  Speaker 2: you allowed. Either intentionally or ignorantly, there will always be somebody.
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  Speaker 2: That space is not usually empty. If you are a
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  Speaker 2: woman and you just lost connection to your husband, then
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  Speaker 2: there is somebody you are liking. There is. Maybe you
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  Speaker 2: have not told yourself the truth as a man. You
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  Speaker 2: just lost control to your wife. There's somebody you are liking.
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  Speaker 2: You've just not told yourself the truth. And once you
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  Speaker 2: tell yourself the truth, copy and contrast. You'll see that
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  Speaker 2: you are wrong. Whatsoever you saw that made you say,
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  Speaker 2: I will marry you, stay with it. Stay with it. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: Are you with me? Are you sure? So, reactional tendencies
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  Speaker 2: towards certain issues at home. Sometimes people overreact. Like killing
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  Speaker 2: an ant with a sledgehammer. When that happens, the person
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  Speaker 2: is not reacting to the issue or the person. The
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  Speaker 2: person is reacting to what the issue or the person
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  Speaker 2: reminds him or her of. So, you need to ask yourself,
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  Speaker 2: why am I reacting? Why am I overreacting? What am
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  Speaker 2: I saying? You must have moment of truth. Where you
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  Speaker 2: internalize matters.
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  Speaker 6: Check.
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  Speaker 2: Introspect. Answer the questions. There will be no healing until
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  Speaker 2: there is truth. Yes. You have to come to that point.
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  Speaker 2: Are you still there? Number four now. The pain of
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  Speaker 2: the past. The traumas of the past. Can make you suspicious. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Become suspicious. Of your spouse's every move. Who is it
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  Speaker 2: talking to? Who is on phone? Who messaged you now?
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  Speaker 2: Whose picture is this? You can't really monitor anybody. Even
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  Speaker 2: God asks Adam, where are thou? God will say, we
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  Speaker 2: are hiding. Give yourself peace. Just advice. Major pharmaceutical companies
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  Speaker 2: are leaving the country now. So major medications for high
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  Speaker 2: blood pressure. They are really, they've increased. Some of them
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  Speaker 2: times three of the price. Okay? So sickness is not
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  Speaker 2: economical now. You can't, are you following what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: Give yourself peace. Don't die for your children. Okay? Now,
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying what I'm saying bluntly. Give yourself peace. That's
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  Speaker 2: my advice. If you have married what you have married
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  Speaker 2: and you have seen what you have seen, find a way.
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  Speaker 2: What's the coping mechanism around this thing? No, you have
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  Speaker 2: to tell yourself that, okay, so let's first accept that
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  Speaker 2: this is de facto. If I face it the way
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  Speaker 2: I want to face it, I will die early. So
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  Speaker 2: how do I cope around this person and this issue?
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  Speaker 2: Tell yourself, sit yourself down. Talk yourself into sense. So
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  Speaker 2: you will have peace of mind. Then you can approach
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  Speaker 2: it from there. Because there are people that if you die,
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  Speaker 2: they are happy that they will marry somebody else. Sharply.
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  Speaker 2: So don't die. When you can live. Tell your neighbor,
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  Speaker 2: don't die. Give yourself peace. Give yourself peace. Give yourself peace. Huh?
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  Speaker 2: You all came out from work. Come, come, come. Let
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  Speaker 2: me smell your clothes. I'm smelling that perfume. It's goat
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  Speaker 2: that has to sniff. Now, now, it's that head sniffing. See,
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  Speaker 2: what perfume is this? This is not your perfume. Who
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  Speaker 2: did you hug? How will you clock 70 with this
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  Speaker 2: kind of mind? Give yourself peace. Let me wrap up
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  Speaker 2: by telling you this. There are three stages in every marriage.
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  Speaker 2: Number one is the should I call it the initial gragra.
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  Speaker 2: Young couples in the blog. Selfie. They peppered you so
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  Speaker 2: you have to pepper somebody. No problem. That's phase one.
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  Speaker 2: That phase one comes with something people don't prepare for.
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  Speaker 2: It's called culture shock. As the thing is sweetening you,
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  Speaker 2: you are admitting something inside. Is this you? And it
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  Speaker 2: happens to everybody. It happens to everybody. When myself and
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  Speaker 2: my wife got married, it took me close to three
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  Speaker 2: months to really now say that. a married man. Because
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  Speaker 2: I thought the feeling would change. I would just now
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  Speaker 2: feel married. I didn't know you would not feel married though.
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  Speaker 2: In case you don't know, I will give you a
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  Speaker 2: past question. You won't feel married though. It's the same thing.
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  Speaker 2: And it was weird. I will be inside the bed
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  Speaker 2: to my wife and say I want to come. Come
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  Speaker 2: and where? I have locked the door. I have locked
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  Speaker 2: the door. I want to change. I will go to
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  Speaker 2: another room. Visitor's room to change. A girl in my space.
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  Speaker 2: She will come and say, I'm your wife. I'm her wife.
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  Speaker 2: She mounts her space. I am your wife. I say, no.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm still adjusted. So there's culture shock. Many things
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  Speaker 2: are shocking. Let me go into details. Okay. But there's
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  Speaker 2: a second phase. Which is the adjustment phase. having seen
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  Speaker 2: different things, you now start adjusting to your reality. Adjusting
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  Speaker 2: to the fact that this person is not like a generator.
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  Speaker 2: And no amount of prayer can stop it. The higher
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  Speaker 2: you pray, you've never seen, each time you go to,
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  Speaker 2: what's that, all the restaurants, you eat shalama and all.
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  Speaker 4: Shh.
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  Speaker 2: Have you seen when a woman remove wig? Look again
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  Speaker 2: and say, You are shocked. They are married. now when
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  Speaker 2: they start washing the makeup all the eyebrow all the
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  Speaker 2: things you are seeing they remove the contact lens you
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  Speaker 2: better make sure that what brought you is more than
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  Speaker 2: so there's adjustment face when you wake up at night
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  Speaker 2: and say okay So I know that God has created
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  Speaker 2: a strategy for me to pray overnight. And the strategy
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  Speaker 2: is this. Marriage is not like your father's rice. No
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  Speaker 2: matter how hard you try, you go chop stone. So
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  Speaker 2: select your own stone. In peace. You go still chop stone.
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  Speaker 2: If you know there's snow, something has to go happen.
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  Speaker 2: Go chop snow. Don't say, I just like her. She
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  Speaker 2: was like an angel. Angel bola. Okay. There's the adjustment phase.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes it can be tough. There are things that
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  Speaker 2: you have said, I will never adjust to. And later
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  Speaker 2: you say, okay. For the sake of peace, I have
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  Speaker 2: to adjust. Then there's the final phase, which is called
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  Speaker 2: the phase of acceptance. Now, let me tell you, acceptance
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  Speaker 2: phase doesn't mean that this fellow has changed. Acceptance phase is,
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  Speaker 2: now I have agreed, this is what I married. You
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 2: can enter acceptance phase early. You can wait till 60.
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  Speaker 2: Daddy Gio said, the equation one for marriage is that
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  Speaker 2: angels don't eat your love rice. So if this fellow
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  Speaker 2: eat rice, he's not an angel. If you like, start
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 2: the number with angel. This one is here. This angel,
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  Speaker 2: all of us, they say I'm. The day you accept that, see,
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  Speaker 2: this is who my spouse is. My wife. All the
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  Speaker 2: things she was complaining about me. And the things I
• 1:20:55
  Speaker 2: was complaining about her. The one she's complaining about me,
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  Speaker 2: now she's the one doing them. The one she, I'm
• 1:21:00
  Speaker 2: complaining about her. And me, they don't. We crossed She
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  Speaker 2: was learning my way. I was learning. Strange. That's it.
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  Speaker 2: Once you know this, know it and know peace. The
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  Speaker 2: moment you say, I will change my spouse. Frustration mode activated.
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  Speaker 2: The thing that God did not succeed in doing. Before
• 1:21:25
  Speaker 2: you met him. The mother did not succeed in doing.
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  Speaker 2: All the fellowship and the places I sat in, they
• 1:21:29
  Speaker 2: did not succeed. You think?
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  Speaker 1: You.
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  Speaker 2: carry your load as you say I'm coming do you
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  Speaker 2: understand what I'm saying I'm telling you you don't believe
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  Speaker 2: say I know I know I'm going to my wife
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  Speaker 2: say babe I don't eat onions say ah you will
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  Speaker 2: like it I say see even at gump there's nothing
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  Speaker 2: any human being can do I know there's a way
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  Speaker 2: there's no way Now, if onions enter the house, once
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  Speaker 2: I step in, ah, something is here. It's not the salmon.
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  Speaker 2: It's hatred. Ah, what's going on? I made noodles. I
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  Speaker 2: just put some onions in. Don't come close to me.
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  Speaker 2: No pecking to do. Go and brush. Now in our house,
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't enter. See, these things are not deep. You
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  Speaker 2: are the one giving yourself a job that God didn't
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  Speaker 2: give you. It's not deep. Just accept that this one
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  Speaker 2: likes to, when he's playing something on his phone, it's
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 2: very low because he's considering. The other one, loud. Hey babe,
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  Speaker 2: can you please turn it? Don't be getting angry. Your
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 2: blood pressure is rising. Listen, it is difficult to even
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  Speaker 2: be angry at somebody who doesn't know you are angry.
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  Speaker 2: That you are getting angry, you are you are looking
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  Speaker 2: and saying look at the person I am angry at
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  Speaker 2: he doesn't know you have wasted emotions waste so just
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  Speaker 2: communicate it I don't like what you are doing a
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 2: man will understand that one better men we don't know
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  Speaker 2: all the time my wife has tried to give me
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  Speaker 2: non verbal communication I don't know but I know you
• 1:23:26
  Speaker 2: are a sensitive person if this is happening in church
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  Speaker 2: you will know quickly I say this is not church
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  Speaker 2: This is home. The house. If I've done something, tell me.
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  Speaker 2: To say you'll give me action for me to find out,
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  Speaker 2: I will not find out. There's no exam. I will
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  Speaker 2: not know. You know, pray to God. Remind him. Me,
• 1:23:47
  Speaker 2: I'm thinking missions. He's not going to remind me. Or
• 1:23:49
  Speaker 2: he will say it, I won't hear. Tell me yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Once people enter the acceptance phase, this is what I've married.
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  Speaker 2: Your peace has started. That's it though. And every marriage
• 1:24:02
  Speaker 2: goes through this phase. Have you been blessed today? Let's
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 2: give Jesus a big, big, big hand. You want to say, Apostle,
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  Speaker 2: it's deeper than I know. Because there are things that,
• 1:24:17
  Speaker 2: it matters what you are also accepting. So you too,
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  Speaker 2: you have to go and find out, what am I
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  Speaker 2: willing to accept? It's a smoky boat, I accept them.
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  Speaker 2: Ask yourself, can I accept this? Ah, school. I can
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  Speaker 2: do all things through Christ. He get kind. Do you
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  Speaker 2: understand what I'm saying? I'm saying it now because these
• 1:24:47
  Speaker 2: things are very deep. And we have to pay attention.
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  Speaker 2: All the person's bad behavior. They say, I just like it.
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  Speaker 2: It's romantic when he does that. It might not be
• 1:24:58
  Speaker 2: romantic again. To be frustrating you now. So, Just tell
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  Speaker 2: yourself now that even if God gives you clay to
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  Speaker 2: make your own, it could be even bad. You will
• 1:25:09
  Speaker 2: get the nose wrongly, everything. So understand, wherever I marry,
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  Speaker 2: this place exists. There will be culture shock. There will
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 2: be adjustment. And there will be acceptance. But in all
• 1:25:25
  Speaker 2: these things, if you learn friendship from the beginning, it
• 1:25:28
  Speaker 2: will carry you through. It will. People who are better
• 1:25:32
  Speaker 2: friends do better. They talk. Do you get what I'm saying?
• 1:25:35
  Speaker 2: They talk themselves through seasons. Through seasons. You marry somebody
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 2: you can't talk to the way you feel. It's already abusive.
• 1:25:43
  Speaker 2: It's already abusive. Amen. Let's rise on our feet. And
• 1:25:47
  Speaker 2: just give God thanks for the words we've heard. Let's
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  Speaker 2: give Him thanks. Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 2: We give you all the praise. I ask that homes
• 1:26:11
  Speaker 2: are healed. There is supply of wisdom and help in
• 1:26:17
  Speaker 2: the name of Jesus. You go back home knowing what
• 1:26:21
  Speaker 2: to do. And all the singles that are here, God
• 1:26:23
  Speaker 2: will help you stay better prepared. Your hands will not
• 1:26:27
  Speaker 2: be wrongly joined in marriage. You will not miss God's
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 2: will for your life. I rebuke fears and I ask
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 2: that every pain is healed in the name of Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: It is done in Jesus' mighty name. Let's give Jesus
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  Speaker 2: a big, big hand.
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