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Golf Hypnosis for Performance Anxiety - Play With Calm Confidence Under Pressure · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, Adam here. If you play golf, or for that
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  matter any competitive sport, you probably know what it feels
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  like to feel anxious in certain situations.
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  And maybe it's playing with someone that you've never played
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  with before, or maybe it's. People watching you or?
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  Joining a group where there is certain expectations.
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  On how well. You're going to do.
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  Well. In this particular session that
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  you're about to listen to, I was working with a client that we're
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  fine when they were playing with their.
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  Friends but. If they were playing some kind
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  of competition, or if in particular they were.
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  Playing with men. They felt that they had to
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  either play at a higher level or if they were better than someone
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  else, almost reduce how good they were to not make the other
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  person feel bad. So whatever was happening, they
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  either felt an expectation they had to play really well or lower
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  their. Performance either.
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  Way they're not really playing their own game, this hypnosis
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  session enables them to. Break.
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  Free of all of the limiting beliefs and mainly expectations
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  that they had. That was.
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  Really interfering because these beliefs put more pressure on
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  themselves and when there was pressure they paid worse.
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  And then it became a a cycle, a self fulfilling prophecy.
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  So if you can relate to the idea of feeling anxious.
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  Or pressured. When you're playing golf or any
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  other sport, you might get some value from this.
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  You'll get more value if you're a golfer.
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  But I think at its core, it's about releasing unuseful beliefs
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  and unuseful expectations of how well you have to play.
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  It was created for an individual.
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  Some of the suggestions are going to be entirely calibrated
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  to them. So therefore, if you like the
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  idea of having a bespoke session, check out the link in
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  the description and you'll see that you can book a free
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  consultation call to explore Working with me.
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  You might get some value from this session though, even though
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  it was created for someone else to find a quiet, comfortable
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  place. The kind of place where you
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  won't be distracted or interrupted.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe. In that long.
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  Slow relaxing breath and as you. Exhale just.
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  Allow your eyelids to close and as they close, position your
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  body. In such a.
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  Way that makes it easier to relax deeply.
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  That's it. Breathing in, relaxation,
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  exhaling tension. Each breath takes you deeper and
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  deeper. Relaxed.
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  That's it. And I don't know how soon you
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  notice that the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed.
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  You become and the more relaxed you become.
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  The deeper you breathe and the more relaxed you become.
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  The more you can feel your body slowing down.
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  Thoughts, a breath, a heartbeat. That's it.
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  Notice the weight. Of your body.
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  And the rhythm of that breathing slowing it down.
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  Longer and deeper. And maybe.
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  You notice that subtle shift? The one that happens when your
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  mind begins to relax and settle. Because right now you're
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  entering a space where that in a chatter and noise, quietens.
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  And certain truths become easier to see.
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  And I wonder if you. Could imagine stepping out.
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  Onto a long. Beautifully maintained path.
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  A path. That leads.
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  Towards a golf course at sunrise.
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  Those sunrise colours are. Softer.
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  Here, the air crisp, gentle, and the light stretching across the
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  grass like a colorful invitation.
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  With each step, each stride forward, give permission to let
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  go of tension. Take that step and release
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  another step and release each step, perhaps synchronizing with
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  each outward breath, taking you deeper and deeper, relaxed until
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  your body feels lighter and your mind clearer and that part
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  within you that performs at your.
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  Best. The calm, confident, elegant
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  part starts to rise to the surface.
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  Maybe you could imagine standing in front of a tee and feel a
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  subtle shift in your perspective.
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  You've been thinking the pressure has come from other
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  people, situations, audiences. But now.
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  You know the truth, the pressure you.
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  Feel has never been coming from other people.
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  You're the source. Of that pressure, it was always
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  manufactured inside your mind as a habit and not a fact, and
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  habits can dissolve. Because there's habits.
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  Used to have as a child that you don't have any more.
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  So you know that's true. And as you breathe gently, just
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  imagine exhaling that. Old pressure.
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  That's it. Each.
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  Breath. Makes the mind even more relaxed
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  and each breath separates. What's?
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  Truly important. From what never was.
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  There's a phrase that pops into your mind.
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  Your brain process over outcome. I don't want you to imagine one
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  of those large scales like the. Scales of Justice.
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  A mechanical scale with two sides.
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  On one. Side of the scales is outcome
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  scores, numbers, judgements, trophies, imagined opinions.
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  And on the other side is. Process your stance, your
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  rhythm, your breath. Your.
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  Swing your own evaluations and how you feel and I wonder if you
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  can. Watch as the weight.
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  Shifts. Imagine outcome becoming light,
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  feather light, almost irrelevant.
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  Consider the outcome, the icing or the.
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  Cherry on the. Cake, but not the cake itself.
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  And process, well, that side of the scales is solid, grounded,
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  heavy in the best possible way. And from now on, every time you
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  approach the ball, your mind automatically.
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  Shifts to process. Almost like a refuge.
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  Your anchor your default starting position, giving you
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  clarity. And what if outcome loses its
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  power because it no longer defines you and your?
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  Performance. Becomes a sequence of elegant
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  processes. 1 after the next. So imagine yourself on that
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  morning golf course, but imagine hundreds of people watching you.
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  Men, women, strangers, friends. And imagine that you can read
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  their mind and you quickly discover they're not thinking
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  about you, they're thinking about themselves.
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  If there are other players, they're thinking about their
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  swing, their. Shot their problems.
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  And if they're an audience, they don't need you to perform well.
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  They're there to watch whatever happens, good, bad or
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  indifferent. That many of them are still in
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  their heads with their insecurities, their life's
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  problems, their plans and intentions.
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  Most people are wrapped. Up in their own worlds and you
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  are never the centre of their thoughts.
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  Just a moment every now and then.
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  And I want you to feel that that realization brings a wave of
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  relief, because there were never any.
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  Expectations on you? A stranger can't know how good
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  you normally are, how can they have any expectations?
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  And a friend they'll be accepting of whatever happens.
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  And anyone that truly knows golf knows just how many variables
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  there are. And even great golfers have bad
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  days. Just feel.
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  All of the pressure drain away and I want you to think of the
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  difference between truly showing off, arrogance, cockiness,
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  desperate to impress, and simply playing nice Golf with elegance,
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  confidence, good posture, nice clothes, good energy, moving
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  with class and competency. They are.
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  Not the same and feel how different they are.
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  Showing off is often loud, insecure, or.
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  Attention seeking. But elegance that's humble,
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  graceful, quiet and grounded. Not trying to impress, but not
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  trying to shrink. Just a natural expression of
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  self respect as you accept that you don't need to dim your light
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  to protect others. Your only obligation is to play
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  your own game in your own way, to do the best you can with what
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  you have, not for attention, but because that's simply who you
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  are. When you're relaxed and centred,
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  you could want to play. Well.
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  But you can influence that by what you do, what you think and
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  how you feel. Pressure.
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  Pressure has been a hindrance, not a help.
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  So let's detach. Play from.
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  Score and just imagine a scorecard.
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  Drifting away into. The distance.
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  Like a leaf. On water, an important
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  background noise. Secondary, I want you to feel
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  that the game itself is its own reward.
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  The rhythm is the pleasure, the stroke is the joy.
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  The score is the side effect of how you play, Not the purpose,
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  just evidence of a journey. And certainly not a definition
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  of your worth. And I wonder if your imagination
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  can imagine you floating upward as if you're.
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  Levitating. Rising above the course, above
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  the clubhouse, perhaps even. Above a nearby.
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  Town looking down with a calm, expanded perspective, and with
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  this wider view you recognise something undeniable.
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  It's. Just golf, just a game, a hobby,
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  perhaps even a privilege. And then just imagine somewhere
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  else in the world, someone is fighting for their life, someone
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  is making life saving decisions, someone is facing true risk,
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  true stakes, true consequences. And compared to that, golf is
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  beautiful, meaningful, challenging.
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  But when it comes to pressure, it's light.
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  Light enough that you can breathe again.
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  Light enough that you can enjoy to a whole new level, and light
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  enough that the pressure melts away completely.
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  I want you to feel all of these changes taking place, like your
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  whole neural pathways that used to lead to pressure suddenly
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  can't get to that pressure anymore.
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  I want you to feel that. Even if someone's watching, it's
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  just a game. Even if someone's behind you
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  impatiently muttering, it's just a game.
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  Allow this to be a superpower to protect you.
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  You want to. Do well, but you don't need to
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  do well. You want to get better, but
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  you'll get better by focusing on what you do, not by focusing on
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  the outcome and when all of these changes have.
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  Clicked into place. You know, by nodding your head
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  and then just imagine floating all the way down to that 18th
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  hole and just imagine the most talented golfers in the world
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  playing that hole with you with a big audience, TV cameras and
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  say to. Yourself.
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  It's just the game. I'm going to play my game.
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  Imagine playing that hole confidently, relaxed almost.
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  Like all the. Pressure has just melted away.
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  No expectations, no requirements, just play.
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  I feel like if you can do this even in your imagination,
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  nothing else will ever reach that level on a golf course.
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  Which means you get to dial down all of the pressure all of the
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  time. And the lower the pressure, the
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  better you play and the more you can enjoy it again to a whole
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  new level. So allow yourself to float all
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  the way back to the here and the now.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your
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  toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you
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  starting to count. 123. Waking up. 4. 5-6 More alert.
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  7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake, wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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