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10 Minutes to Start Your Day Right – Make Today Your Best Day Yet · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: What does it take to be the best? Everything?
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  Speaker 2: Everything you can't You're gonna have self doubts, You're gonna
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  Speaker 2: have tough moments, You're gonna have everything. You know, You're
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  Speaker 2: gonna have people talking bad about you, people putting you down,
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  Speaker 2: getting cut. You know.
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  Speaker 1: It takes getting up in the morning and doing the
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  Speaker 1: same thing.
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  Speaker 2: You know. I understand people talk about a lot of
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  Speaker 2: mental toughness, right, mental toughness you meditating stuff. For me, honestly,
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  Speaker 2: mental toughness is getting up in the morning and doing
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  Speaker 2: the same thing Dane and day out, Dane and they
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  Speaker 2: out for whatever. You take, whatever that goal is, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and by doing that you become the best. You know,
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  Speaker 2: And it takes everything. I mean, you have to. I
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  Speaker 2: mean the three aces that I love. You know, suffer,
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  Speaker 2: you know, a sacrifice, suffer, sacrifice equal success.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta suffer.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's gonna be It's gonna suck, you know,
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  Speaker 2: Like I mean, I worked what fifteen hours a day.
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  Speaker 2: I'll get up, you know, and then trying to stay
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  Speaker 2: in shape. You mightge that as a as a seventeen
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  Speaker 2: year old European in Boston was spekling English. There's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of sufferre a lot of sacrifice. You know, I
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  Speaker 2: don't have any friends or girlfriend or anywhere to go, right,
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  Speaker 2: I was just working, working, working, working, and then success
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  Speaker 2: can be, you know, later, because I build this foundation.
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  Speaker 1: So it takes everything, you know, but it's not for long.
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  Speaker 2: You know. People think that to be great or to
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  Speaker 2: be something really good, it's a lifetime. It's not, you know,
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  Speaker 2: because once you achieve that.
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  Speaker 1: That's another thing.
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  Speaker 2: Right, But by building a right foundation, day in and
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  Speaker 2: day out, you achieve something and that leads to another thing,
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  Speaker 2: opens up two different though. It takes everything, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and what is everything is your mind and your body.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: People are wishful thinkers, you know, I want to be
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  Speaker 2: the best, I want to be rich, I want to
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  Speaker 2: lose weight whatever that, you know, the wishful thinking is,
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 1: But they hate to take the steps or they take
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  Speaker 1: the steps, and it's hard. You know, change is hard,
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  Speaker 1: you know, changing your body, changing your mind is very.
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  Speaker 2: Hard, you know, and people stock and people comes to
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  Speaker 2: a certain point they break. So everything is making up
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  Speaker 2: your mind mentally and not giving up, but also physically
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  Speaker 2: pushing through your hardship.
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  Speaker 1: You know, when it hurt.
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  Speaker 2: To be an Olympian, right, you spent four years for
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  Speaker 2: two weeks or maybe one week because you might lose
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  Speaker 2: and get out. So it's a you know, it's a
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  Speaker 2: crazy workforce and discipline and mindset. Right, So to be
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  Speaker 2: able to play in Greece and then go have a
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  Speaker 2: chance to go to China, I was blown away by
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  Speaker 2: my ability.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: When you call about self doubt, I'm like, there's no
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  Speaker 2: self doubt, and I'm like, man, and now I'm the man,
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  Speaker 2: you know. So I was a captain. I was at
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  Speaker 2: the peak of you know, the peak of my career.
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  Speaker 2: Were just lost in Athens, and as a group, we're
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  Speaker 2: a young group that joined the team in two thousand.
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  Speaker 2: We were young in Athens, and then we made a
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  Speaker 2: pack to ourselves that we're gonna win gold in China.
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  Speaker 1: We actually made a plan. How when, why?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: And we went to work, and.
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  Speaker 2: We went to work and slowly, you know, build that foundation.
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  Speaker 2: In two thousand and seven hours, I was in Italy
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  Speaker 2: playing for the best team. I was a captain, making
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  Speaker 2: a ton of money, and then I turned and then
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  Speaker 2: my achilles snapped. I fall down in tremendous pain. Because
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  Speaker 2: those two ways we are aptually the achilles. One comes out,
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  Speaker 2: you can walk and go to the doctor. Or the
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  Speaker 2: second one is the hardest thing.
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  Speaker 1: It snaps in half.
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  Speaker 2: So I fall down and I see my foot hanging
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  Speaker 2: and I can't move my toys and I mean my toes.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm trying to and I can't. I'm just
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  Speaker 2: crying because it's so much pain and shock. The doctor
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  Speaker 2: comes in, you know, puts his finger in the achilles
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  Speaker 2: and just you know, I mean, it was just harsh
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  Speaker 2: pain and I was like, oh, it's your achilles and
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  Speaker 2: I knew it.
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  Speaker 1: Don tong that Beijing is done. I mean when he
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  Speaker 1: said that.
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  Speaker 2: I was like no, and I just burst in tears,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, man, seven years to build this and
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  Speaker 2: you know, truly American dream and the hardship, it's over
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  Speaker 2: in a matter.
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  Speaker 1: Of one minute. Myself, DOT was like I'm down with
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  Speaker 1: USA team.
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  Speaker 2: And that scared me, you know, because for me that
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  Speaker 2: was more important thing, not professionally, not the money, you know,
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  Speaker 2: being part of the USA team and that group of
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  Speaker 2: guys and that you know, that amazing tournament is just
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  Speaker 2: you know, there's nothing like that in life, you know,
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  Speaker 2: because I already experienced it in Greece and now I'm
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  Speaker 2: the capital of the team. So there was the number
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  Speaker 2: one self doubt and that, you know, kind of stroke
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  Speaker 2: of fear.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I add to.
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  Speaker 2: Sit twenty six days with a leg up above your heart,
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  Speaker 2: not move anything, and a lot of thoughts came to
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  Speaker 2: my mind, you know, I mean, thoughts about quitting out
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  Speaker 2: thirty two. Thank god it was on social media back then,
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  Speaker 2: so you know, it can be good, you know, good
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  Speaker 2: and bad, right, but you know, friends were supportive, but
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  Speaker 2: they're like, you know, man, thirty two, you know, maybe
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  Speaker 2: take the real estate test, you know, maybe think about
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  Speaker 2: the future.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe think about that.
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  Speaker 2: And then once all these people start doubting and start
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  Speaker 2: pushing me away, you know, even my parents, you know,
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  Speaker 2: my my parents were still conservative and working on a
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  Speaker 2: small job, you know, in a small town and saying
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  Speaker 2: you all of a sudden, I mean, awesome, man, you
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  Speaker 2: made it, Like what else do you want?
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  Speaker 1: You know, like you're the man like you know for
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  Speaker 1: Albanion that your god.
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  Speaker 2: I said, but I want to be the best player
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  Speaker 2: in the world, and I didn't achieve that dream. You know,
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  Speaker 2: since eleven, since nine, I'm like my dream has been
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  Speaker 2: to be the best in.
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  Speaker 1: The world, So why this.
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  Speaker 2: Injury will stop? So I started research. I said, what
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  Speaker 2: is the comeback time for Achilles? I start doing a
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  Speaker 2: lot of research, and I start I made a bet
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  Speaker 2: with myself.
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  Speaker 1: Was weird one of these nights.
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  Speaker 2: You know, immediately as I got better, I to wait
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  Speaker 2: two or three months to fly back to the USA. I
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  Speaker 2: was drinking wine, you know, and I couldn't walk, you know,
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  Speaker 2: still with crutches, and I said, you know what, it's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be a test between me and Achilles. Honestly, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I made a bet with myself.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, who's gonna win?
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  Speaker 2: So my mind start working on that moment, on the
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  Speaker 2: moment of like, okay.
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  Speaker 1: How long does it take?
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  Speaker 2: What work do I have to do, how to do
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  Speaker 2: it where? And then once I had the plan, I
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  Speaker 2: just wake up every morning. I was the first one
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  Speaker 2: at the USA team and ice and stretch and the
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  Speaker 2: last one to go.
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  Speaker 1: So it was just a simple bet me me or
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  Speaker 1: the leg, and I won.
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  Speaker 2: At the Olympic team every four years the summer of Olympics,
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  Speaker 2: the coach comes in. It brings all the guys, about
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  Speaker 2: thirty forty guys that try out for you know, four
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  Speaker 2: years and then he sits down and tells the team
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  Speaker 2: who makes it or not. It's a very very ruthless decision, right,
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  Speaker 2: And the coach comes in and he said, you know,
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  Speaker 2: put the list of a team. And I got upset
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  Speaker 2: the first time Tom that I became Albanian man. I
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  Speaker 2: the Albania of me came out and I was just
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  Speaker 2: became angry and loud. I'm like, what you know, Like
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  Speaker 2: why do you know? Why cutting me? Like you know
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  Speaker 2: you are you stupid? Are you crazy? And I'm casting
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  Speaker 2: at the coach. He's like he gets it. Thank god,
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  Speaker 2: you know, he took the high road, you know, just
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  Speaker 2: calming down and we're just talking for two hours. And
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  Speaker 2: I was crushed, you know, like I kind of went
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  Speaker 2: back to that old mentality, you know, and that summer
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  Speaker 2: I kind of gave up.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: At that summer, I was just drinking, playing vich volleyball
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  Speaker 2: for fun.
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  Speaker 1: It was weird.
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  Speaker 2: It was just very odd mix of feelings and I
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  Speaker 2: didn't know how to control them. I had no idea
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  Speaker 2: Back then. I was engaged and then break up with
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  Speaker 2: my fiance too. I start dotting everything right, and my
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  Speaker 2: Italian team that I was playing had a big contract
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  Speaker 2: for three years, massive amount of money, and they cut me.
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  Speaker 2: They said, we don't want to pay you. You know
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  Speaker 2: you're not ready yet. I'm like, I'm ready. Look at me,
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  Speaker 2: I'm jumping, I'm running. No, you don't.
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  Speaker 1: So that month of August was it was very dark
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  Speaker 1: two thousand and eight. I made the dream.
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  Speaker 2: I was the top of the mountain and then it
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  Speaker 2: was another all the coast and when it took a second,
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  Speaker 2: I was nobody.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to kind of.
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  Speaker 2: Get lost, forget about Europe USA team and everything.
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  Speaker 1: I should be on my own.
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  Speaker 2: It was the best medicine ever, you know, because that's
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  Speaker 2: where you really find yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You got to hit drug bottom when they say it right.
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  Speaker 2: And I realized that I was blaming everybody else by myself.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, man, I'm blamed the coach, my fiance,
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  Speaker 2: the team, the Italian manager, everybody but me. First my
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  Speaker 2: life that I was maybe I'd become too cocky or confident,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, but I realized I was blaming everybody
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  Speaker 2: else by myself.
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  Speaker 1: So I made another bed with myself.
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  Speaker 2: I said, I'll never from this moment on, I'll never
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  Speaker 2: allow anybody or anything else to dictate my life. It's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be my way. And I called the coach and
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  Speaker 2: I want to try out. I was thirty three, thirty four.
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  Speaker 2: The coach like really crazy. I'm like, I want to
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  Speaker 2: try out. You put me at the bottom of the list.
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  Speaker 2: I want to earn it back and went to work.
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  Speaker 2: Instead of getting a crappy contract, I went to Italy,
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  Speaker 2: got a cheap contract and I proved myself again and I.
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  Speaker 1: Became the best sat in the world. You got to
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  Speaker 1: hit that.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's about experience. I think like, if you
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  Speaker 2: don't have that experience, if you're not confident to go
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  Speaker 2: through those experiences, right, people, when the people, when people
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  Speaker 2: go through tough times, they protect themselves.
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  Speaker 1: They go into this show, right because.
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  Speaker 2: We as humans, as you know, you know, our mind,
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  Speaker 2: you know, from back back in the day was to
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  Speaker 2: protect yourself, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, from fire, from fighting.
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  Speaker 2: So human mind is always kind of like being to
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  Speaker 2: you know, risk is not good for you. You know,
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  Speaker 2: to go hike over the mountain, right, it's bad for you.
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  Speaker 1: Right, everything is bad. And I was like no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: I mean I can do. I have to take this reach.
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  Speaker 1: I have to push myself.
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  Speaker 2: I have to suffer you know, I have to sacrifice
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  Speaker 2: in order to achieve that success. Otherwise I will never
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  Speaker 2: be the guy that I wanted to first of all,
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  Speaker 2: to get up every day and outwork others. You know,
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  Speaker 2: being a great teammate, you know, being a great part
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  Speaker 2: of whatever team that is, you know, wherever you are
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  Speaker 2: at school, with your friends, at sports, you know, being
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  Speaker 2: a great person around your teammates. You know. And lastly,
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  Speaker 2: it's like, don't burn bridges. I told my kids, you know,
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  Speaker 2: because I was I went through a lot of ups
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  Speaker 2: and downs. You know, so I you know, I burned
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  Speaker 2: fee bridges by mistake. You know, I have metal those
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  Speaker 2: bridges now.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I went back and apologized, you know, because I was
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  Speaker 2: in a dark space. But you know I said, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's you as good as a person next to you. You know,
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  Speaker 2: you as good as that mentor or business person or
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  Speaker 2: teacher or coach.
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  Speaker 1: You know. You know, alone, it's very hard to make it.
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  Speaker 2: You know, people will actually help you if you ask
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  Speaker 2: for help, but you got to show them that you
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  Speaker 2: are hard working a good person. And then success always comes,
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  Speaker 2: whatever that is monetary or passion or whatever that is
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  Speaker 2: for you. You know, it always comes if you do that work,
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  Speaker 2: but it's not going to come to you. Nobody's going
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  Speaker 2: to give it to you. But you know, when things
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  Speaker 2: are hard, when you're in a dark place, there's still light.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's just a mender of you know, switching
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  Speaker 2: your mentality, you know, switching that thought process and continue
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  Speaker 2: to work for the right thing. And it's not scary
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  Speaker 2: just because they sound scary. They're not scary. You know,
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  Speaker 2: you're just the way you look at them.