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Season 4 - Episode 56 - The Band-aid Effect · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Let's talk about the Band-Aid
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  effect. What exactly is the Band-Aid
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  effect? Well, it's often referred to in
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  Buddhism as you know, you're, you're not really fixing the
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  problem. What you're doing is you're
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  putting a Band-Aid on it. So you stop the suffering, but
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  you don't really fix the problem.
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  But the suffering still exists because it's still going on
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  underneath the Band-Aid. So when you decide that you have
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  a real challenge with something and that you really need to look
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  at it from a different perspective, you have to include
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  that perspective of suffering. You have to look at it and say,
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  okay, we've all heard that little phrase.
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  Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional and, and I
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  actually do agree with that because suffering is US inducing
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  an attachment to something that we choose to have a point of
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  view and we can't get past or we choose not to get past.
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  I, I don't even say can't get past.
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  It's like you really choose not to get past it.
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  So we will all experience pain. We will all experience pain.
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  Pain is part of life. It's just part of being human.
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  If you're a human, you experience pain, physical pain,
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  mental pain, spiritual pain. We all go through it and it's
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  just part of our experience and whether you like it or not, it's
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  irrelevant. It will happen.
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  And first thing is accepting it and recognizing that you're not
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  just going to throw a Band-Aid on things.
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  You're going to have to, you know, suck it up and fix it.
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  Now, this often comes up out here for me working with
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  animals, the farm, all of it. I have to come up with
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  alternative solutions because I'll be doing something like
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  last year's tomato plague, the the dreaded tomato plague.
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  This year I have to come up with something.
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  Last year was it was very painful.
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  I had done so many amazing tomatoes.
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  They were all growing so well. I was super excited.
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  And then I came out one morning and they were half like dead on
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  the plant. Not the tomato part, but the
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  actual plant itself, which was nourishing.
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  It was dying off and I was devastated.
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  I tried to figure out right away what could it be.
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  I was frantic and that just jumped from plant to plant to
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  plant to plant and to watch your hard work going down the tubes.
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  It, it very much was like that scene in A Christmas Story when
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  the dog, the bumpus dogs eat their Turkey on the table and
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  the kids are going no Turkey, no, no Turkey this, no Turkey
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  that, no Turkey Ala King, no Turkey sandwiches.
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  And, and that's how I felt in my head because I was going through
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  all the things that I could not make because I wouldn't have my
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  tomatoes. And I was in my head so much.
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  I was definitely suffering. And I thought about it for days
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  and days. And then I moved from suffering
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  to pain and said, OK, I have to come up with a solution.
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  And this year we're trying a completely different solution as
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  opposed to growing tomatoes in the ground.
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  We are going to do them in grow bags and see if that will help.
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  They'll be above the ground. The roots will not be able to
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  get into where the virus exists. And then we'll be able to see if
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  that will generate some great tomatoes, which is what we're
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  shooting for. But this year, rather than just
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  waiting and getting myself into the suffering state, I will not
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  put a Band-Aid on it. We're doing it multiple
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  different ways. So we'll do the bags.
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  I'm also going to pot some and I'm going to grow them right
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  outside my studio door so I can see them every day and make sure
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  I'm taking care of them. No mistakes on this one, my
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  friends. So Needless to say, the Band-Aid
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  is often when we just want a quick fix, a small fix,
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  something that can be, you know, temporary.
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  And we say, well, this is good enough for now.
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  And sometimes it's OK to do that.
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  Just like when you have a paper cut, it's OK to put a Band-Aid
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  on it. But often times we do use the
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  Band-Aid when we should actually be using something a hell of a
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  lot bigger. And we just have to figure out,
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  OK, am I, is it because I genuinely have to wait?
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  Maybe for financial reasons, you have to wait for something or
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  for another person, you have to wait.
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  Or is it just that you're, you're just trying to avoid it?
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  And that's the one that where it comes into play in the big, big
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  way. So avoiding things does not get
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  us where we want to go. It just causes more suffering.
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  So if you look at it from that perspective and you just say,
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  OK, I'm not going to allow myself to suffer with this.
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  I'm going to choose something different.
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  I'm going to choose something different.
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  I'm going to choose to make this a different situation overall by
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  making a different choice. Then all of a sudden things are
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  going to move in a different direction and everything's going
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  to come back around and you won't need the Band-Aid.
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  But you have to somehow start yourself off by taking in.
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  Am I suffering for real? Is this just painful?
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  Is it the Band-Aid I need? Or is it do I need more than the
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  Band-Aid you have? Because if you don't know where
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  you're starting, you can never know where you're finishing.
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  So go find out about that and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Bye.