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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just The Divine Origin of Talent and True Humility 2.26.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  The overall theme is that humility is a state of mind,
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  which means the number one source of making you humble will
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  not be a situation in life. Although you people think that's
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  going to humble them, it won't work on arrogant guy.
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  Hopefully our way to remain arrogant.
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  Even if his life situation should prove to him he hasn't
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  really deserved the arrogance, it's still remain arrogant and a
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  humble person will be in a perfect life situation and
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  they'll figure out a way to remain humble.
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  So he says one of the biggest things that a person has to be
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  aware when it comes to creating humility in the mind is when it
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  comes to the gifts. The first gift was wisdom.
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  People think that wisdom is their own talent.
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  They think it's like a self-made talent.
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  It's coming from your own personal mind.
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  It's the most related to you of all your gifts that you have
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  because it's you. Every idea you think of
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  literally feels like it's an extension of you.
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  You thought it off, you came up with it, it came from you.
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  And that's a major pathway to arrogance, that sense that I
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  came up with this idea and it came from me.
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  So therefore person has to realize the opposite is true.
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  Person has to notice and say to themselves, where did my wisdom
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  come from? It's a God-given gift.
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  You know, he's saying it to Vila TA hornen, la damdat Hashem, you
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  gift man. Wisdom hornen is a word for a
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  complete gift. It totally from your mind.
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  It's hard to imagine that my thoughts and I'm thinking right
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  now these are functions I'm they're my own body they're my
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  own mind. They have my own thoughts and
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  the reality is it's all just like Shem's creation and a
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  person needs to see that that way and not allow himself when
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  he comes up with a great idea and a major business move or
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  makes it comes up with a great thought has something very
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  creative to say has a very funny joke.
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  These things make you feel good because you believe it's coming
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  from you. First has to realize it's not
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  his own gifts. And then he has to realize that
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  if God gave him these things and he's utilizing them, that's like
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  a bird flying with his wings. Are wings impressive?
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  They are. They're not impressive for a
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  bird. If I were to have wings, they'd
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  be very impressive for a bird that's part of his basic
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  physical makeup. A person who has thoughts, who
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  comes up with good ideas, who even has a good shot in learning
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  right, who has a very smart thing to say in a conversation,
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  who always knows good advice, right?
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  All these things can lead to major arrogance.
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  And at the same time they can be, if you look at it the right
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  way, they can be a realization. Hashem gave you gifts and all
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  you're doing is expressing your gifts.
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  That's all. That's the mindset.
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  It's a God-given talent. It's a God-given talent, Not
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  what people think, man. People think that it's a man
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  created. Everyone thinks and you have a
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  thought, you think that you know what's the combination of?
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  It's a combination of your experiences.
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  It's a combination of your learning, your upbringing, your
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  own hard work. You came up with this idea.
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  So you think that you, you developed and nurtured a certain
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  specific thought. Next slide, something comes up
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  in business and you say buy that.
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  Don't buy the other item in your mind.
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  You're thinking to yourself, where do I get that idea from?
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  It's because of all that I know and it's my thoughts.
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  That's the wrong approach. Approach apartment approaches.
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  It's God and gave you that talent.
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  Part 1 And secondly, all you're doing is developing and flexing
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  your own physical muscles that Hashem gave you the same way.
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  It's, it's nothing more than a person moving his hand and
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  moving his arm and kicking his leg.
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  His thoughts are just you flexing with the gifts that
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  Hashem gave you. And you have to see it that way.
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  All right, Keena, where are you from?
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  443 me Shu Baal said a person smart enough to realize this,
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  he's very smart guy in all say Ella should be hooked to all our
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  sort. All he's doing when he comes up
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  with a good thought and a good shot in the camera and good
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  piece of advice, all that all he's doing is utilizing his
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  nature that Shang gave him Kehof shemagh be allahuf Vishuddha
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  bobbak like a bird who lives up his wings to fly because that's
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  the nature via short of Moshebakho and like an accident
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  pulls with power. The Vishu Hokho came because
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  that's his strength, Mishu Hakamu that he should have.
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  All my Viola is that when someone is wise, it's the nature
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  that God gave him that he's expressing, and he shouldn't
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  therefore feel very good about himself, as if he's doing
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  something that's out of the ordinary.
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  He's doing something that's for him, and his current situation
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  is ordinary. What's wrong with feeling good
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  about the fact that you have a good idea?
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  What is wrong with feeling very proud of the fact that he came
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  up with a good shot? The problem is that you think
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  that you're doing more than what's normal.
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  When a person believes that he came up with some crazy wild
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  idea and it's all him and it's something that's supernatural,
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  right? The problem is it leads him to
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  believe that he's an extraordinary person.
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  And the moment a person starts to believe that they're
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  extraordinary, they are. They're very gifted.
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  They have a lot of gifts. That's all I should have given.
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  But the moment you start thinking you're extraordinary in
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  any area, that's when it gets to your head and that's you lose
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  touch and you lose being grounded to reality if you want
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  to remain. There's a very interesting fact
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  that I notice with people, a lot of the biggest celebrities out
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  there in the world, right when you see them in an interview,
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  you seem very personable. They reveal to you the food that
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  they eat and the relationships that they have and the things,
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  the thoughts that go through their mind.
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  They seem very personable. Then if you would ever meet them
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  in person, you know, meet them in person.
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  I gave you an example of one of the best basketball players of
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  all time as a good example of this.
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  I recently saw an interview of him and he seems very relatable
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  relatively, you know, cute and light and normal.
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  However, if anyone's ever met this man in person, and I've
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  heard of people who have met him, he's as distant as distant
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  gets. So how does that work, that when
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  they are interviewed and when they're sitting and talking,
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  they have personal things going on in their life.
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  They seem like they're normal, they seem grounded, and then in
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  actual reality, they're on a cloud.
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  They have nothing to do with reality.
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  How does that work, right? In fact, the only way they're
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  able to give an interview is if they are relatable.
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  Otherwise no one would be interested.
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  So they're very relatable, but they're also very distant.
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  The answer is very simple. They have the ability to be
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  relatable like anybody else. That's the ability.
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  But they start to think that these gifts that they have,
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  whatever the gifts are, their physical ability, their wealth,
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  whatever it may be, they start to think that that makes them a
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  random day and makes them elevated, different, more than
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  normal. Therefore, they can't talk to
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  regular people. When they sit down for an
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  interview to be a human being, they can step into the human
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  role, but on a regular day of life, they are living in their
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  minds, they're above human and that's how they carry
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  themselves. So you can be a person like you.
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  You could be a person who has great advice.
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  You're a person who has life experience, you have great
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  wisdom, but at the same time, you think that you're smart with
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  your wisdom and you can be both very relatable with your wisdom.
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  When I talk to you one-on-one and I ask you your opinion and
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  at the same time you're aloof, you're gone, you're above the
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  clouds because you don't, because you're, you're
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  arrogance. A person's arrogance by his
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  belief that he has these gifts makes him above normal.
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  And that's the danger. This is how life is what any
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  person who's gifted, whether it be wisdom, Hohmann Torah,
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  whether it be he's very gifted with wealth, very gifted with
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  physical talent. He's a very quick guy, he's a
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  smart guy, he's a connected guy. All these things can make this
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  person that's sometimes extreme relatable if he brings it to you
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  and if he's not interested in delivering it to you because he
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  wants to think that these are his gifts and he's not really
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  doesn't know you that all of a sudden he becomes a person who's
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  so much above the way he carries himself and he's not even down
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  to earth. He's not here.
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  This is the the trop that any person with gifts falls into,
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  but a person should realize that whenever they have those gifts,
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  you're just flexing your muscles and the same way you can walk
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  with your two legs and you can move something with your hands.
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  You couldn't come up with a great idea of advice with the
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  might that God gave you. You see that you remain exactly
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  as human as any person. The whole idea of a person thing
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  into themselves and I am above somebody else because the
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  talents that I have is silly, because those talents that
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  God-given, like God gave him an arm, God gave him a mind, God
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  gave him the money, God gave him the wisdom, and he's just
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  flexing the muscles that Hashem gave him.
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  Where is the room for our rhythm?
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  There is no room. That's the idea.
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  He says like this. If your friend had your wisdom,
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  I gave, your friend had right there.
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  If your friend had your mental gifts, he'd be thinking the
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  exact same way. So where your talent came from,
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  it came from the gifts. Hashem gave another person a
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  gift if your friend had that gift to be in the exact same
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  ability to think the exact same thoughts.
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  So where is the area to be proud of yourself?
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  Hayalo sekhrotivi kamu hayam, it's kahim.
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  Kamoshin, it's kahimu. He would act as wise as you're
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  acting in Ken and Khan let nassve let go out.
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  There's no room to be elevated and arrogant.
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  El I'm Yeshmar ABBA. If you have a lot of wisdom, he
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  needs to utilize that wisdom to help other people.
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  Says if you if you learned a lot of don't be proud of yourself.
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  That's why you were created. You learned a lot of you feel
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  like you did it all. Come on.
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  I went to class, I put a lot of effort in.
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  I sat there, I learned. I told no, no, no, you, you did
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  your job. That's all it is all it is.
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  You did your job. And a person has to realize
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  this. The reason, right?
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  That's not even a bound environment, right?
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  The reason the person has to realize this is because a lot of
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  times people in their mind get confused to believe and they
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  created this certain specific gift.
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  If I asked you, you have a certain talent where they come
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  from, of course you'll attempt to be humble and say it came
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  from my teachers and my parents, etcetera.
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  People that effort into it, right?
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  You put in the time, you did the work, you learned to trade, you
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  spoke to people, you slipped and fell, you created, you went
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  through some mistakes until you figured it out.
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  Now you know what to do because you got used to it, but in your
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  mind, you're thinking to yourself, how can I be expected
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  to believe that's a God-given talent when it's a personal
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  talent? I did so much work.
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  And his point is everything that you did to get you to that
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  point, we're all different gifts of Hashem.
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  They were all different moves that Hashem was making to lead
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  you to this point. So for example, let's say you
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  have a, a wisdom in Toronto in a certain area, right?
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  So you think to yourself, 25 years of learning, 10 years of
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  learning. That's why I have this wisdom.
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  That's why I know the that's why I know how to answer that
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  question. My learning, OK, now it's very
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  good. And if you feel very good about
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  yourself that you learned that that's a true point, but play it
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  up. God gave you those parents how
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  to learn. He gave you those teachers.
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  He gave you those schools. He gave you those schools.
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  He gave you connect to this community gave you thank to that
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  Rabbi that this that the other thing so as gifted as you may be
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  in your wisdom, every single step of the way was Hashem
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  guiding you to make you this wise.
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  And if you look at it the wrong way you think to yourself, I
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  have 25 steps of greatness. They all were man made.
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  You look at the right way you honestly yourself and you say I
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  have 25 steps of greatness. They all God made and if a
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  person sees the wrong way, it can be an elevated arrogant and
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  distant. He sees the right way, humble,
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  relatable and connected because he knows where it came from.
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  And if you can look at your life and look at your past and look
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  at your upbringing and look at everything that you have and you
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  could see one of two ways you can see it like I put in all
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  that effort. I created this right.
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  The term man made wealth. People love to use the term.
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  He's a self-made man, right? self-made is the biggest joke
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  there is. self-made means yes, he made a move.
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  He took a risk clear. He didn't make a decision.
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  My brook very nice. Hashem created that decision.
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  Hashem gave him that opportunity to be.
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  God put him in that position. God gave him the idea to make
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  that commitment. God gave him the comfort to not
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  be nervous, to take that leap of faith.
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  God put him in a financial position to have some bad,
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  something bad to fall back on, just in case it falters.
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  All those things that you're placed in, you can see it like
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  you created the world or you can see it like you're just walking
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  along Hashem's path. It can be that clear of a
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  difference and the difference in the outcome of who you are is
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  major. Because if you want to remain
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  grounded and relatable and normal to the next guy and be
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  able to look at the next person in the face and talk, and I'm
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  like a regular person, recognize that you're walking along God's
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  path. That's all it is.
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  You have to see it this way. Otherwise you can't be a normal
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  parent. Otherwise you can't be there for
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  a person when they're struggling because they're going to come to
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  you and they're going to say business is rough, right?
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  And the business that for you one time was rough too, right
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  now, thank God your mind is not. And you're going to try to tell
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  them, listen, the ups and downs, the heaven flows.
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  Life has its things, right? You want to talk to, to look at
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  you like you're talking from Mars.
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  What do you, what do you know about ups and downs and absent
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  flows? You kidding me, right?
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  You, you thank God, you're blessed, you talking to me if
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  you talking to me, if you realize and you carry yourself
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  with the true reality of the fact that you are just someone
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  swinging, swimming alone. And Hashem's if you're really
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  honest with yourself and thank God, you're talking to them in a
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  situation you're right now you're up, but you realize it's
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  only up because Hashem put me in a position and you could talk to
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  them. You can be relatable.
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  You can be blessed 10 times and they could have nothing.
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  But you can talk at that wavelength because you know that
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  you and them are the same. You are handling it in a certain
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  way, Thank God. And yes, you made the right
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  decisions with Hashem leading you down that road, but it's all
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  gone if you perceive it that way.
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  You're relatable in every area a guy comes to you from marriage
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  advice, right answer. Your penis are in marriage name
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  and by Al Kashyap, you're in a good position in that area and
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  they are struggling mightily and and you're talking to them and
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  you're making it seem like, oh, what I did was at 25 years old,
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  I made this move and I was 35. I made sure never to say this to
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  my wife. And at 40 I said this and you
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  kind of all the stick and all the planning and all the ideas.
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  If you say it the wrong way, you're 0.
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  You're the effect you're going to have is hollow, zero effect.
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  I know effect. I made moves that were very
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  effective for my marriage. I did a good job.
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  How come we have no effect? He can have no effect because I
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  did this and I did that and I know what to do here.
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  Those are all mistakes of the wording.
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  You do nothing, you can't help with nothing.
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  Hashem gave you an idea to be humble here.
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  God gave you the right wife to accept this or another wife
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  would not accept it. God gave you a certain position
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  that your wife is already calmer in life, she doesn't need as
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  much from you, whatever it may be.
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  You do nothing. You tried, you tried.
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  I would credit you for trying. I'm very impersonal.
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  You're trying, it's good job and you get credit for being a good
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  husband, not taking away from you.
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  But don't believe that you let yourself.
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  Exactly. Don't believe that you created
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  this. The moment a person thinks they
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  created it is a moment they lose the room.
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  That's how it works. They lose the room with advice
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  and business advice and marriage and raising children.
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  When you talk, you could talk to a person who raised the greatest
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  children and you go to them for advice and children.
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  And of course, they raise great children, so they're a great
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  place to go to for advice, right?
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  Wrong. Not at all true.
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  Just because they raised great children, it does not mean they
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  know what they're talking about at all.
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  All right. That's the reality.
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  I've seen it. You could have people who raise
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  the greatest children and they have no clue.
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  Women have no clue. The answer is somewhere along
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  the line, yes, they did a great job and it was God-given and
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  they they did the right things. Somewhere along the line in
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  their mind, they thought, you know why I have this great
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  children? Must be I made that move and
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  that move and that move and that they are doing hindsight 2020.
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  They're seeing in their eyes the shot and their great children,
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  forgetting that the shot really was Hashem and yes, Hashem LED
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  them to make the right decisions for great children.
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  But it was still Hashem when they made that blur and their
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  hindsight are looking back at their great children and saying
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  this is I know why it came Lawson, it's over.
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  I can't hear from you. Nothing to say.
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  What do you mean to have the greatest children?
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  Shouldn't I be able to learn from them?
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  Zero. There's nothing there to learn
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  from. If they believe that they
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  created and there's everything they had to learn from people
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  who have great children, if they absorb the fact that it's
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  God-given, including the fact that Hashem gave them ideas to
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  make the right moves a fit for those children, that too is
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  God-given. And this is to be in the back of
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  your mind, whatever He is saying, a single solitary word
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  to another person. Recognize the fact that
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  everything you've done so far has been Hashem leading you on
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  the way. If you recognize that, you're
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  the greatest source of advice. If you don't, then your
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  experience means zero. That's how far it goes, right?
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  And that creates the difference between being elevated and
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  distant and humble, down to earth, relatable, and a great
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  source of experience. You can be a great source of
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  experience because you do have experience and you didn't make
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  decisions and you did have ebbs and flows and you did make the
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  right moves. You have great experience, but
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  you have great experience because you realize where it
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  came from. Now that you think I did this
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  and I did that, I did the other thing.
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  All right, I'll give you one last example, a sports example
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  which comes on I might some out the greatest players of all time
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  came into the leagues as extremely humble people, let's
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  say undrafted or drafted very late or those examples.
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  And if you would go to them then, if you go to them then and
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  ask them their opinion about things, grounded, light, easy,
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  relatable, cute, nice, all the qualities.
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  Now talk to them. Now I did this and I did that.
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  And when I made that move, when it was the training, it was the
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  what happened when you lose it, you lost the connection when you
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  inserted the word I, when you started to see your success as a
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  reflection of your own making. Let's be very real, Mr. If the
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  other guy doesn't get injured, you never get that chance.
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  You never get that chance. We never heard your name and
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  you're the same 0 instead, now you're worth a billion dollars
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  because the other guy got injured and you got your chance.
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  Did you put in the effort? Sure.
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  But it's all God-given talent. That's all God-given situation.
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  We have to realize that in every area of success, we are as
• 19:25
  distant to our real success as that guy was from becoming the
• 19:30
  greatest player of all time. Needing that injury together.
• 19:34
  All right, let's start with this.