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The Hypnotic Circle of Social Confidence · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session called The Hypnotic Circle of Social Confidence.
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  Now this is going to be really useful for anyone that would
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  like to feel more confident in social situations.
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  Now, although confidence doesn't actually exclusively apply to
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  social situations, many people link that to its meaning for
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  them. So someone could be confident at
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  speaking a language, or they could be confident at doing
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  certain physical things like climbing or juggling.
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  But when most people say they're either confident or not
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  confident. What they really?
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  Mean is that they're confident in social situations.
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  So this is all about social confidence and it uses certain
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  metaphors. It also uses an element of
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  future pacing so that it can activate that part that knows
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  what it would be like to have more confidence in what that
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  would actually mean and the beliefs connected to that.
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  And I'm speaking from the perspective not only as a
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  therapist, but part of the reason why I'm a therapist is
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  when I was 19 years old, I had such severe social anxiety that
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  I became a recluse, completely avoiding people wherever I could
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  and actually self hypnosis. Me being a hypnotist to myself
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  actually enabled me to go from being very shy, very introverted
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  and a very timid person terrified of social situations.
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  Now I'm actually very confident in social situations and it all
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  started with me doing self hypnosis on myself.
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  So this particular session, even though it was created for
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  someone else, might be useful for you.
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  But if you do want to work on the area of social confidence
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  and maybe you feel anxious in certain situations, there will
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  be a link in the description where you can schedule a
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  completely free consultation call to explore working with me.
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  And there's also some free downloads in the description as
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  well. So if you want different types
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  of hypnotherapy rather than just the podcast or the YouTube, then
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  definitely check out the description because there's lots
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  of freebies there that might be useful for you.
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  For now, though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be. Disturbed, relax and.
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  Enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful sense of release that any tension, any worries, any
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  insecurities start to feel like they're leaving your body.
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  Every time you exhale, breathing in that resourceful feeling of
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  calm and relaxation and that's it.
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  Releasing any feelings of tension, just allowing it breath
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  by breath to feel like it's leaving your body
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  and just scan your body for any clues of that stress or tension.
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  And sometimes it's there in the neck and the shoulders and
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  sometimes the jaw. And as you breathe in that
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  resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation, just imagine that
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  tension melting away. Feel it loosen and relax.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  And I want you to scan your inner dialogue now for a voice,
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  a voice that has this wonderful intention to protect you from
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  judgement, from embarrassment, from awkwardness.
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  And maybe you can hear that voice echoing words that have
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  been said before. Don't be bad.
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  Don't embarrass yourself. Don't be awkward.
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  And I want you to thank that part because it cares deeply for
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  you. It's holding you to high
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  standards, protecting you from emotional pain.
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  But what if this part was contributing to feelings of
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  being self-conscious? That the very intention to
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  protect creates the very state that is holding you back?
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  Because there's been many times that you felt confident in flow,
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  quick witted, and then that voice wasn't there.
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  Everyone has someone in their life where their heart is in the
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  right place, but when they try and help, they make things worse
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  and I wonder if this part is willing to adapt to help you in
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  the way you want to be helped. You can be grateful for the
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  intention, even if the way that intention is executed is the
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  very cause of the self consciousness that is time to be
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  released. But for now, with each breath,
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  feel yourself drifting deeper and more relaxed, as if your
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  unconscious mind is beginning to awaken and evolve.
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  What if today you're going to rediscover something powerful
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  within you, an evolution to a part that already knows how to
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  align with fun, playful confidence?
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  I want you to think back to a memory.
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  I want you to imagine seeing yourself at a time when you lose
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  this social confidence. And maybe it's because you knew
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  the people, or maybe it's because you were out with
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  friends, but I want you to see a time where it was easy and fun
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  for you to have such social confidence that you could
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  approach someone you liked with ease.
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  A looseness of flow. And when you can recall that
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  memory, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to imagine you're back there wherever you were,
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  but you're seeing yourself. You're seeing yourself like a
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  stranger, but you know that that version of you was confident and
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  calm, relaxed. I want you to see that version
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  of you. Introduce yourself to someone
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  that you liked and notice the communication was effortless and
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  easy. Everything just seemed to flow.
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  But I want you to imagine that underneath the feet of that
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  version of you, with all of those resources, is a glowing
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  circle. And wherever you walk, the
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  circle walks with you almost like a spotlight, but it's
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  glowing from beneath. And I want you to imagine that
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  this, this is a circle of powerful confidence.
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  I want you to imagine stepping into that version of you,
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  feeling how good it feels to playfully, confidently approach
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  a woman you like. Say hello, flirt, or get to know
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  them. Feel how easy it is.
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  Notice the absence of any awkwardness, nervousness.
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  Notice an absence of a inner dialogue.
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  It's not there. That when you're in that state
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  of confidently, charismatically communicating in that engaging
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  way, it feels like fun. It feels.
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  You don't have to think of what to say and what's going to
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  happen. It's just intuitive.
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  See that glowing circle beneath your feet?
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  Notice how you breathe. Notice how relaxed your muscles
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  are. I want you to get a feeling that
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  this is what it feels like to be in a state of self-confidence.
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  I want you to connect it to a new inner dialogue now, not the
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  inner dialogue of don't be bad, don't be awkward.
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  Maybe the voice is the same but the tonality is different.
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  Imagine now hearing you've got this.
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  This is fun. There isn't anything you have to
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  do. There's just stuff you get to do
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  because you want to do it. Feel that playfulness somewhere
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  in your torso, perhaps your chest, with your gut feel that
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  playful, fun feeling. I want you to imagine leaving
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  that place, but keeping those feelings with you.
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  And then I want you to imagine what it would be like to see a
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  future version of you. A future version of you, but
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  this time you're going out solo, just on your own to a busy bar.
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  I want you to see that version of you getting ready to go out,
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  seeing that glowing circle beneath your feet even before
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  you've left your home. There's a smile, there's a
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  playful energy and demeanour. You're intending to go out solo
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  to interact, but there is a relaxed flow to your mannerisms.
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  Maybe see yourself getting to that bar and you know you're in
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  a playful state because of the music you're playing and your
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  facial expressions. This is fun.
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  Observe that version of you arriving at the bar and see that
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  glowing circle still underneath your feet.
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  But there is a confidence in how you walk, a playfulness in how
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  you smile. Just imagine going into that bar
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  in a very relaxed way, and for the first few minutes just see
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  that that version of you is assessing the dynamics of the
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  bar, figuring out what groups are together, who's in couples.
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  That version of you is just figuring out the lay of the
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  land. And then see that version of you
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  still with that relaxed demeanour, confident look, the
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  glowing circle beneath you. And then you see a woman that
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  you like as part of a group, and in that group is other women and
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  men. But you've assessed that the
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  woman that you like isn't with anyone.
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  And just imagine seeing that calm, confident, charismatic
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  version of you with that glowing circle, making eye contact,
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  smiling, waiting for some kind of a signal, even if it's just
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  holding eye contact for a second or two or a subtle smile.
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  And then see that version of you with the glowing circle beneath
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  your feet, confidently approaching the group.
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  See yourself introducing yourself.
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  There is a calm, confident, playful demeanour.
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  See how effortless you interact? The fact that there's other
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  people there doesn't make any difference at all.
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  That version of you is immune to judgement.
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  That version of you is oozing confidence.
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  And the fact that that version of you approach solo to a group
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  positions you as even more confident, comfortable in your
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  own skin, with high levels of self worth.
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  The fact that it's challenging is exactly what means that it's
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  powerful and you get to see what's happening here in every
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  different scenario. You can see it going well.
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  You can even see the group looking annoyed that you even
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  approached. None of it matters.
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  The important thing is that your demeanour is still confident and
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  playful, and you leave at the time You decide to leave, still
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  with that glowing circle beneath your feet, almost like there is
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  a force field around you, making you immune to judgement or any
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  evaluations that you don't like. But you can see that your
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  sensory acuity is high, picking up on facial expressions and
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  smiles, not to deter you, but to give you valuable information to
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  be discerning with your time. See yourself as you look,
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  composed and calm and fun and playful.
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  And then see yourself leaving that group when you decide to.
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  And if you feel that version of you.
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  As the very quality is that you would find useful, let me know
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  by nodding your head to just rewind everything.
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  Now see that version of you getting ready to leave the
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  glowing circle beneath your feet?
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  But now step into that version of you.
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  Feel that confident, playful energy.
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  Imagine choosing the clothing, any accessories, the shoes that
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  put you in that confident, playful state.
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  Imagine thinking of a bar that you're going to go to and making
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  arrangements, driving or catching an Uber to get to that
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  bar. On the way there, you just feel
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  like this is fun. Your inner dialogue is saying
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  they're proud of you for even just doing this.
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  You'll be fine, you'll be great, this is fun, you've got this.
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  And when they say that, you believe them.
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  And then imagine arriving, seeing those golden circle
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  beneath your feet, walking into the bar, and now in a first
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  person perspective, imagine just evaluating the bar, the
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  dynamics, figuring out who's with who.
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  And then imagine seeing someone you'd like to talk to, and maybe
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  they're in a group. And just imagine smiling and
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  making eye contact, waiting for that subtle invitation.
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  And when you get the invitation, let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  When you get that green light, just feel like it's effortless
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  to say hello. And if they're in a group, who
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  cares? People are just people.
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  Whatever happens, happens. But I want you to feel that
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  confidence, feel that playfulness, feel that wonderful
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  sense of calm relaxation. Imagine introducing yourself,
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  interacting, but still feeling that wonderful feeling of
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  confidence where you make the evaluation that you don't need
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  to be there with anyone else. You can be confident, bold,
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  courageous, but most of all playful.
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  All of this is just a shot to nothing.
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  If it works out, then that's fine.
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  If it doesn't, that's fine too. This is low stakes fun and the
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  only judgement you're making is that you're proud of yourself
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  for going about things in the state and a way that aligns with
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  you being confident, playful, and charismatic.
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  I imagine the night has gone well, and maybe there were many
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  conversations, or just one or two, but imagine leaving that
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  bar with a spring in your step, with a clear evaluation that
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  you've broken an invisible barrier, that you've gone out
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  and interacted completely solo and you enjoyed yourself.
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  It was fun. No awkwardness, no nerves, just
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  fun and confidence. And if you can do it here, then
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  you can do it in any context, anywhere.
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  So it's time to leave this place, but keep all those
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  wonderful feelings with you and notice that in a dialogue that
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  was once protective is now protecting you with
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  encouragement, support, a sense of hyping you up, telling you
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  you've got this time to return to the presence, to take a deep
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  breath in through on O's and out through on O's.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  That's it. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. Starting to count. 123 waking up
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  456 more alert. 7-8 open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you for listening to The
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