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The Breakfast Club BEST OF - The Casey Crew, Jess and Rome Interview · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: The program Your Alarm to Power one five point one
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  Speaker 1: on iHeartRadio in USA.
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  Speaker 2: AF.
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  Speaker 1: Your girlfriend turned around. That's crazy if your girlfriend hears
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  Speaker 1: that right now, she started looking around. Ain't nobody calling her?
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  Speaker 1: I was mimick in Santa Claus.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.
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  Speaker 3: Well, today's show is all about family. Hopefully you enjoying
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  Speaker 3: family today. Some of our favorite family episodes like when
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  Speaker 3: Rome stopped through and you know Rome is just as
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  Speaker 3: baby daddy.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, And you know Jess has a book coming out
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  Speaker 1: called Tell Death We Parent. That's right, it'll be out
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  Speaker 1: on my book in print, Black Privilege Publishing, Simon and Schuster,
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  Speaker 1: and it's literally about her time co parenting with Rome.
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  Speaker 2: I mean it's still co parenting now.
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  Speaker 1: But you know how they got through it because they
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  Speaker 1: had a young Ashton when they were young.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: And also my wife would be stopping through. Gia, of course,
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  Speaker 3: Gia Casey. We have a book called Real Life, Real
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  Speaker 3: Family out right now. We talk about raising our kids.
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  Speaker 3: So it's gonna be best with Look to the Casey Crew.
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  Speaker 1: I thought about the Kzy Crew when we was at
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  Speaker 1: Miss Patty Labell house because I was making the waffles
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  Speaker 1: and I was like they're not ready until they're a
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  Speaker 1: complexion of the Casey crew.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, he actually said that out loud like it wasn't
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  Speaker 3: that under his breakfast like he really said, is it
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  Speaker 3: the complexion of the Casey crew?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it is.
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  Speaker 1: When everybody understood exactly what I meant, they was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's right, that's how they're supposed to look.
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  Speaker 3: My goodness, Merry Christmas. Let's get into those interviews in
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  Speaker 3: a little bits. It don't go Anywhere's the Breakfast Club
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  Speaker 3: for morning?
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  Speaker 2: It's a new day. Is your time to get it
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  Speaker 2: off your chest? Way up, whether you're man or blast,
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  Speaker 2: time to get up and get something. Call up now
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  Speaker 2: eight hundred five eighty five, one oh five to one.
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  Speaker 2: We want to hear from you on the Breakfast Club. Hello,
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  Speaker 2: who's this?
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  Speaker 4: Good morning?
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  Speaker 2: It's Hudson, Hutchson, what's up? Get it off your chest? Brother?
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  Speaker 4: I just want to know when, like at nine to fifty,
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  Speaker 4: when y're wrapping up the show with the administration ever
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  Speaker 4: come down and be like, Yo, that was Jay, But
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  Speaker 4: tomorrow I need you to be a little jagger.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, I don't know who does imagine, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know who this imaginary administration is y'all think, uh, you know,
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  Speaker 1: has his hand on this show.
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  Speaker 2: But no, that doesn't happen, sir. We're mid that's all.
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  Speaker 3: Let's be honest, though, who starts the show? Was like
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  Speaker 3: last night when I went to Dix like that.
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  Speaker 1: I'll talk about Dick Boyden good That was ridiculous.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, that's a little crazy, a little at you know
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  Speaker 4: what I.
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  Speaker 2: Want to know to Hudson, why would they name the
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  Speaker 2: store Dick's? Though? Like this was because there's people named Dick.
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  Speaker 2: Authority Sporting Goods.
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  Speaker 1: Richard came down and we needed a little gear man.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is in gay guys. Now you got me googling.
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  Speaker 1: Why is Dick Sporting good called Dick Boydon Good?
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  Speaker 2: There? You have to have a good man, A good morning.
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  Speaker 2: Dick Borton Goods is named after its founder, Richard Dick Stack.
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  Speaker 2: That's his name.
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  Speaker 3: All right, Well, salute to Richard. All right, Hello, who's this?
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  Speaker 4: Yoe's top of Brooklyn from Brooklyn?
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  Speaker 5: What's up the morning, Charlotte King?
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  Speaker 4: Yah, y'all ever, I just wanted to tell you it
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  Speaker 4: was it was one hey, y'all was up there joking.
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  Speaker 5: Than every little thing you're thinking, like, y'all know how
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  Speaker 5: you got to do it, and then you you say,
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  Speaker 5: get it.
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  Speaker 2: On your chest.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, nah, that's a big four.
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  Speaker 2: I y'all don't make.
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  Speaker 4: Full for everything if they're not for get it off
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  Speaker 4: your touch, to get it off your mind.
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  Speaker 6: I literally said that, Yo, I'm with you.
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  Speaker 7: I said that as soon as I started working there,
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  Speaker 7: telling you everything.
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  Speaker 3: Why you're thinking about men when I think you get
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  Speaker 3: it off your chest, I'm thinking women, what's on your mind?
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  Speaker 5: Trying out?
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  Speaker 4: Stop thinking about it now? Because yeah, y'all was doing
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  Speaker 4: all them jokes. I was doing all them poor jokes.
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  Speaker 4: And then right after you're gonna say all right, get
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  Speaker 4: it up your chest, I'm like, hey, yo, full and.
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  Speaker 6: And who you getting giving that donkey to?
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  Speaker 3: I gotta give it time, no, no, no to everything.
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  Speaker 2: You said, I'm giving it heavy. I'm saying, hello, who's
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  Speaker 2: this from chapter Hey to me? Cause get it off
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  Speaker 2: he chest?
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  Speaker 8: Mama, Okay, good morning, did and be charlsmagne. I'm a fan.
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  Speaker 8: I just wanted to get off my chest to the fact
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  Speaker 8: that I did nothing. And now I'm broken up with
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  Speaker 8: the boyfriend that I've been with for three years because
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  Speaker 8: his girlfriend, his side girlfriend, thinks that I'm her stalker.
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  Speaker 1: Wait a minute, his side girlfriend, did you stalker? All right,
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  Speaker 1: explain this to me a little bit more now, So okay, okay.
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  Speaker 8: So I'm saying with this boy for like almost three years, okay,
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  Speaker 8: and when I came out of my relationship, he came
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  Speaker 8: out of his relationship for a long time, and he
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  Speaker 8: still wanted to explore and all that, and we didn't
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  Speaker 8: know what we was. So he told me like, oh,
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  Speaker 8: I'm talking to this one, I'm talking to that one
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  Speaker 8: and talking that one. So it's like, okay, whatever. But
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  Speaker 8: Tom had passed and he has started moving his stuff
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  Speaker 8: into my apartment, and we started establishing things. I would
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  Speaker 8: for this. I put him on my assurance. We started
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  Speaker 8: establishing an't making plans. I didn't realize how strong of
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  Speaker 8: a connection he was making with other girls. But then
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  Speaker 8: he comes to me one day and tells me that's.
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  Speaker 4: The other girl.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I've heard enough. So you're not his only girl.
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  Speaker 8: No, I'm not his only girl.
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  Speaker 2: No, okay, so what are you calling her to ask?
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  Speaker 3: But she's upset because she put him on insurance.
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  Speaker 2: It was serious.
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  Speaker 8: I wasn't asking anything.
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  Speaker 2: Oh you just you're just mad at yourself for being stupid. Hey, yes,
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  Speaker 2: how old are you?
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  Speaker 8: Thirty four?
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  Speaker 1: Thirty four years old? How many girls does this man got?
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  Speaker 8: Who knows how many?
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  Speaker 1: How many East infections have you had? Since balance is
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  Speaker 1: always fall stop it come on?
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  Speaker 8: No's not?
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay.
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  Speaker 3: I understand though, because you put him on insurance, he
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  Speaker 3: moved in. You thought it was more serious than it
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  Speaker 3: was and he was still playing the field. Well see see,
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  Speaker 3: I want to tell you that that you know you
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  Speaker 3: can do better.
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  Speaker 8: That's not the part that I'm mat at. The part
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  Speaker 8: that I'm mad at is that I have nothing to
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  Speaker 8: do with his other relationships, and I'm being accused of
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  Speaker 8: being a random girl. Saul, Why would you know this girl?
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  Speaker 2: Why would you even care? You shouldn't even speak, wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: even care.
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  Speaker 6: This is what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 8: You've ever been a cue of something who absolutely did
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  Speaker 8: not do yes and just frustrated. But then he's also
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  Speaker 8: super relief because it's like you never trust in the beginning,
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  Speaker 8: but it's just super fussing.
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  Speaker 1: Understand there, upset, but stop cursing, but understand that the
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  Speaker 1: truth don't need no defense and it only needs witnesses.
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  Speaker 1: So as long as you know the truth. That's the
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  Speaker 1: most important thing. But the truth is you just wanted
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  Speaker 1: this man's holes. Now you need to ask yourself, do
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  Speaker 1: you just want to be one of this man's holes
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  Speaker 1: or do you want to be more to somebody? Because
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  Speaker 1: if you want to be more to somebody, then you
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  Speaker 1: need to go find that somebody because it's not gonna
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  Speaker 1: be with him.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry you went through that, mama, but take what
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  Speaker 3: went through it.
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  Speaker 2: He's still going to it. Now, take him off. She
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  Speaker 2: ain't gonna do nothing.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Who that's talking to you in the background.
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  Speaker 8: Nobody that's on the radio?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, man, you just another one of his holes. Man.
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  Speaker 1: And and you know, I think that you deserve better
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  Speaker 1: than that. But you know, he did keep it one
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  Speaker 1: honey with you from the beginning. It's not like he
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  Speaker 1: lied to you.
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  Speaker 2: He didn't lie.
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  Speaker 3: And y'all didn't have a conversation. You just assume because
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  Speaker 3: he moved in. But that was not a great assumption, obviously.
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  Speaker 2: And I know it's hard. I know it's hard.
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  Speaker 1: Three four years of raw sex. Three you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying. Him blowing in your bookie, I know it.
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  Speaker 1: I know it got you a little open man, But
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  Speaker 1: you know you deserve better.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, mama, have a good day.
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  Speaker 2: Damn man, she'ould take him off insurance right now, you know,
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  Speaker 2: get it off your chest.
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  Speaker 3: Eight hundred five eight five one oh five one.
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  Speaker 2: If you need the VIC, call us up right now.
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  Speaker 2: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, it's away. Is your
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  Speaker 2: time to get it off your chest. Way up. Whether
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  Speaker 2: you're man or black, time to get up and get something.
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  Speaker 2: Call up now. Eight hundred five eight five one o
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  Speaker 2: five one. We want to hear from you on the
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  Speaker 2: Breakfast Club. Hello. Who's this y'o? What's up?
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  Speaker 9: Trap?
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  Speaker 3: Hey boo?
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  Speaker 5: What's that?
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  Speaker 4: What's up? Sorry?
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  Speaker 2: Pieces? What's the word?
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  Speaker 5: He ain't ain't nothing, ain't nothing, chilling, chilling. I was
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  Speaker 5: gonna shout out through things number one, shout out to
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  Speaker 5: the dollars cowboys. Make sure y'all tune in. Watch us
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  Speaker 5: get that work for then, you know what I mean
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  Speaker 5: talk to I.
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  Speaker 2: Don't like how you said that. You said, watch us
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  Speaker 2: get that work and me and then we're gonna lose bro.
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  Speaker 5: Oh no, no, no, no no man, watch us put in
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  Speaker 5: that work.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you ain't say that. You said watch us
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  Speaker 1: get that work. You bottomed this out Bro, you turn
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  Speaker 1: this into a bottom and stead of the top.
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  Speaker 2: Bro, don't do that.
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  Speaker 10: You're right, You're right.
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  Speaker 5: Number two, I gotta talk about my man Cole. Y'all
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  Speaker 5: have somebody come on Marco plus I think his name
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  Speaker 5: man shout out to him. I mean a dreams villain
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  Speaker 5: like myself. But Charlomagne.
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  Speaker 4: I want.
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  Speaker 5: I want to tell you that you know nobody you
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  Speaker 5: name it's touching J Cole, all care if it's Big Kurt.
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  Speaker 1: All cameras, Mike, I don't have nothing to do with
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  Speaker 1: your ridiculous hip hop takes. Okay, you cannot hold on,
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  Speaker 1: hold on, Broke. Cole is not the king of the
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  Speaker 1: South in no way shape before.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, he rapped better than anybody you can name.
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  Speaker 1: That's not flows his delivery day one person, Jay colt
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  Speaker 1: On rap better than Scarface. J colt On in T I.
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  Speaker 2: Lit, Wayne, Yes you do.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: When I come to lyrics, lyricism, scarface and t I bro.
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  Speaker 5: Yes said first of all, like none of them see J.
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  Speaker 4: Coble.
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  Speaker 5: When it comes to Kat's delivery, flows, lyrics, no matter
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  Speaker 5: what it is, touch there.
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  Speaker 2: All of that. I'm not even arguing. I'm not arguing.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not having we could we can fight right.
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  Speaker 2: You wasn't even outside.
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  Speaker 1: You wasn't even outside when Jake, when when t I
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  Speaker 1: and Wayne and Scarface was killing things.
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  Speaker 2: Said we could fight right. Hello, who's this jo?
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  Speaker 10: It's Comachi? What's good man?
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  Speaker 4: What's something?
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  Speaker 2: Shrimp? What's what's something like? He was going on.
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  Speaker 10: Killing my brother. Man, just want to get off my
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  Speaker 10: chest about the fashion. Dang gun know how I do bro?
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  Speaker 10: This fla Manxi Man I made that hoodie for Angela
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  Speaker 10: ye a long time ago, and Charlo Mane.
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  Speaker 4: Was, hey, you know me, but I love you brother.
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  Speaker 11: Man.
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  Speaker 10: I ain't got no height for you.
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  Speaker 12: Man.
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  Speaker 10: I'm still out here to as so man seven years strong, Bro,
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  Speaker 10: seven years strong.
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  Speaker 2: And I was hating about it. I'd be forgetting.
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  Speaker 10: But back in the day, man I called up there
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  Speaker 10: talking about fast.
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  Speaker 8: She was not that you like.
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  Speaker 13: Man.
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  Speaker 10: You ain't you ain't nothing, man. You was hating back
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  Speaker 10: in the day. But now you're did for the man.
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  Speaker 10: So it's cool man, and also.
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  Speaker 4: One of you off my chaise.
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  Speaker 10: I ain't got no hatred for you, man, I swear
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  Speaker 10: to guard Man.
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  Speaker 4: I used to hate you, but now I don't.
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  Speaker 10: Man, it's cool.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 10: I spot the I'm gonna hate for you, bro, even
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  Speaker 10: he goes, I could have made it. I could have
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  Speaker 10: made it, man, if you would have just been on my.
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  Speaker 2: Side when I was on the lad I don't start
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  Speaker 2: that now. Got nothing to me.
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  Speaker 3: It was probably trash, but like it like people get
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  Speaker 3: mad when you say something is trash.
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  Speaker 2: Remember saying I don't, I've never seen his clothes and
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  Speaker 2: say it was trash.
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  Speaker 3: No, he said you seen it. He said she was
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  Speaker 3: wearing it. You said it was trash. Sounds like damn
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  Speaker 3: told told it was trash, she.
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  Speaker 2: Was wearing it. Does that sound like it? Absolutely? Damn
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  Speaker 2: all right? I got that trash? Sound like I'm damn
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  Speaker 2: like to your chest? Is the Breakfast Club?
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  Speaker 3: Good morning, Good morning everybodyj Env Jesse, Hilarius, Charlamagne, the guy.
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  Speaker 3: We are the Breakfast Club. We got some special legends
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  Speaker 3: and the man. Come on now, this is special one
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  Speaker 3: right here, legends of the building. Come on, it's the
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  Speaker 3: cast of good Times, fifty years of good time.
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  Speaker 1: We got Micha Wholm and JJ Well Carter and Bernadette
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  Speaker 1: Standings and Jimmy Walker.
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  Speaker 2: That's right right, Good morning, guys.
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  Speaker 11: How y'all feeling Good morning, Breakfast Club fifty years a
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  Speaker 11: good time?
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  Speaker 7: Wow, I know, wow.
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  Speaker 2: And we're still going strong. Did y'all know Good Times
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  Speaker 2: were going to make the market? It made well.
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  Speaker 6: I didn't have no idea, No.
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  Speaker 11: We didn't, but we're very grateful it did.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Well from the beginning, let's start, how did it come about?
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  Speaker 3: How did Good Times come about? How did you guys audition?
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  Speaker 3: And how did it make because during that time, there
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  Speaker 3: wasn't too many of us on television, So how did
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  Speaker 3: it come about?
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  Speaker 6: Well, and he is black, you know, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: They joked me all the time and I'm black.
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  Speaker 7: But well, it started with me being in a beauty pageant,
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  Speaker 7: you know. And from there, Uh, there was a manager
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  Speaker 7: watching me in the beauty pageant and gave my mother
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  Speaker 7: a card to say, they're looking for a teenager to
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  Speaker 7: be in this show. And meet Norman Lear at CBS,
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  Speaker 7: you know. So we went up there. But there were
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  Speaker 7: thousands of girls when I opened the door. So, I mean,
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  Speaker 7: but that's how it started with me.
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  Speaker 2: You were a teenager a good huh? Yeah?
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  Speaker 6: Oh you eighteen?
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay, Lord have mercy. Okay, yeah, all right, okay,
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  Speaker 2: he's still beautiful, thank you. Absolutely so.
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  Speaker 7: And then, you know, after a couple of months, I
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  Speaker 7: thought I didn't get it, you know, because I didn't
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  Speaker 7: hear back from them. And then I did get the call.
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  Speaker 7: My mom got the call that I was Thelma, and
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  Speaker 7: so they flew me out to California. That's how it
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  Speaker 7: happened for me.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, what about you, miss card.
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  Speaker 11: By the time I began to work with Norman Lear,
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  Speaker 11: I had been in my sixth Broadway play by that
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  Speaker 11: time during my journey with Miss Jane Murray and also
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  Speaker 11: Pat Kirkland. These were two wonderful women who I auditioned
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  Speaker 11: for when I went there. However, I literally had the
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  Speaker 11: job before I got the job. My contract was brought
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  Speaker 11: from The Raising in the Sun by Lorraine Hansbury. We
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  Speaker 11: did the debt version of the musical play. By that time,
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  Speaker 11: I had won the Tony Award nomination that year in
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  Speaker 11: seventy four. However, as a result of that, Norman would
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  Speaker 11: consistently he came more than twice to see my work
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  Speaker 11: and flew my mother and I out to the state
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  Speaker 11: of California. You know, I was reluctant because they always
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  Speaker 11: said it never rains in California, and I was excited.
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  Speaker 2: It made for three months when I got to.
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  Speaker 11: Right then, and there are any illusions about Hollywood were
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  Speaker 11: always neutralized as far as our concerned. So I'm very
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  Speaker 11: grateful to have not only worked with and still loved
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  Speaker 11: Jimmy Walker and Bernardette. But we give to the spirit
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  Speaker 11: of miss Esther Rowe du Bois, and to Johnny Brown
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  Speaker 11: who played Bookman, to Helen Martin who played Weeping Wonder.
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  Speaker 11: These are wonderful people that helped us along the way.
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  Speaker 11: Of course, to mister Ben Powers as well Albert Reed
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  Speaker 11: who played the older These are the people who accentuated
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  Speaker 11: what we did. Of course, we were working with the
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  Speaker 11: wonderful Debbie Allen and the work that she contributed to
• 14:25
  Speaker 11: our production.
• 14:26
  Speaker 2: So we think you what about you, mister Walker. I'm
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: just a hard core stand up. That's it.
• 14:31
  Speaker 14: That's all I do. I'm just a stand up to
• 14:34
  Speaker 14: the core. So I went to a comedy store, I'm
• 14:36
  Speaker 14: doing shows. I go back to bed at like three
• 14:38
  Speaker 14: o'clock in the morning, get a call JD.
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: Joe.
• 14:41
  Speaker 14: She says, where are you? I said, We're my bed sleeping.
• 14:44
  Speaker 14: She says, well, you belong across the street. We're doing rehearsals.
• 14:48
  Speaker 14: I said, rehearsal for what she says. There's a show
• 14:51
  Speaker 14: called good Times. You signed on to the show? I
• 14:54
  Speaker 14: had signed on to it at the inprov Yeah, because
• 14:58
  Speaker 14: I didn't believe Hi because.
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: He's a liar. So it was a verbal contract.
• 15:02
  Speaker 14: No, they had a contract. Kenny, the drunk, who was
• 15:05
  Speaker 14: a lawyer, was at the bar. I said, Kenny, is
• 15:08
  Speaker 14: this any good? He said, yeah, I think so sign it.
• 15:11
  Speaker 14: I'll send it back for you. And I thought, I said,
• 15:14
  Speaker 14: Kenny's a drunk. He's not going to send He's a lie,
• 15:16
  Speaker 14: he's not going to send this. So then he sent
• 15:18
  Speaker 14: it back. So I was on the show. So I
• 15:21
  Speaker 14: go to the rehearsal and there's a whole bunch of
• 15:24
  Speaker 14: people there at the rehearsal because I didn't even know
• 15:26
  Speaker 14: we had a script, because they said this is script downstairs.
• 15:29
  Speaker 14: I said, I'm going back to bed because I'm not
• 15:31
  Speaker 14: going downstairs to get a script because they're lying.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: I don't have time, but you did. So I went.
• 15:35
  Speaker 14: I got the script and I'm reading the script and
• 15:38
  Speaker 14: I said that guy next to me like you normally.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: I said, man, this sucks. What is this? I said?
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: He said, we're going to do a TV show.
• 15:46
  Speaker 6: I said, really, I said, you're a liar.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: It's not gonna happen. This is terrible.
• 15:51
  Speaker 14: From then on, we did the show, and I was
• 15:52
  Speaker 14: always throwing stuff in and people got upset.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: So when did you stop thinking people?
• 15:56
  Speaker 14: Was like, never, I think it now people, I mean,
• 15:59
  Speaker 14: agent's a lie. They're all liars, No, very few people.
• 16:03
  Speaker 14: People want to be bigger than what they are. And
• 16:06
  Speaker 14: the big people you never meet them.
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: They're in the.
• 16:10
  Speaker 14: Big glass tower upstairs on the ninetieth floor. So you know,
• 16:15
  Speaker 14: even if like Bernian Ellity, even if meet the girl
• 16:18
  Speaker 14: said give me your number, I know she's lying because
• 16:21
  Speaker 14: she's not going to give you the number. And then
• 16:23
  Speaker 14: with the horrible things with the cell phones, they don't answer.
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: You text them, you email them.
• 16:30
  Speaker 14: They just they sit in their room and they sit
• 16:32
  Speaker 14: with their girlfriends guy and they start laughing.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: They go this moron I met at Walmart. He asked
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: for my number. I was busy.
• 16:41
  Speaker 14: I gave him my number because I know I'm never
• 16:43
  Speaker 14: gonna talk to him. I answer as emails ever again,
• 16:51
  Speaker 14: once in a while somebody will come through, but very
• 16:56
  Speaker 14: very rarely, and the girl, the girl will be nice
• 17:01
  Speaker 14: and some girls will go.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: Some girls will go.
• 17:06
  Speaker 14: And I learned this from a friend of mine who
• 17:07
  Speaker 14: happens to be a girl. And she said a very
• 17:09
  Speaker 14: interesting thing. She said, you know, if you want to
• 17:11
  Speaker 14: get rid of a guy, and he asked you to
• 17:14
  Speaker 14: go out, said, you know, like if she's a girl,
• 17:17
  Speaker 14: I asked you to go out.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: I say, hey, Jess, you know, why don't we you know,
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: go to uh, go to the Four Jesus and have dinner.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: That's what they do. Are you serious? Really?
• 17:34
  Speaker 10: Come on?
• 17:36
  Speaker 14: No, it wasn't lucky yet, but it was a girl
• 17:39
  Speaker 14: that showed promise, she answered, she answered, And I was like, really,
• 17:44
  Speaker 14: and sometimes sometimes you're so stupid.
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: One did call back. I was. I was stunned. How
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: many times do you give your number out to these women?
• 17:54
  Speaker 14: I'm available anybody, but see they they and I said
• 17:58
  Speaker 14: the girls, hey, let's go in the Truths together and
• 18:02
  Speaker 14: they just go.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: No, they just start laughing.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: How do how do y'all feel about the Good Times
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: cartoon on Netflix?
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: Well, that's Berniette's thing. She'll tell you it a reboo.
• 18:29
  Speaker 7: But that's not a no, that's not that's not it
• 18:31
  Speaker 7: at all. No, that's not it.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: At all.
• 18:33
  Speaker 7: I think that our audience missed something, you know, they
• 18:37
  Speaker 7: missed what happened to us. It's always they want the
• 18:41
  Speaker 7: completion of it, and it never really happened so far.
• 18:44
  Speaker 7: My thing about the animation was this that you know,
• 18:49
  Speaker 7: I know that Jimmy Walker came to them and he
• 18:52
  Speaker 7: presented a cartoon about five years before this, before this one,
• 18:57
  Speaker 7: and it was it was the really the all of us,
• 19:00
  Speaker 7: the way we are in an animation and we have
• 19:03
  Speaker 7: our same voices and everything like that. They didn't bite that,
• 19:06
  Speaker 7: but later on came up with they're gonna do an animation,
• 19:10
  Speaker 7: and I remember my manager called them and said, well,
• 19:13
  Speaker 7: what are they gonna Are we gonna be in it
• 19:14
  Speaker 7: or not. So the way they describe the animation to
• 19:19
  Speaker 7: us was this, it was going to be a modern day,
• 19:22
  Speaker 7: you know, progression of what everything is going to be
• 19:25
  Speaker 7: for the Good Times family.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 19:27
  Speaker 7: Fine, But they asked Jimmy and I to do a
• 19:30
  Speaker 7: tiny little part.
• 19:31
  Speaker 6: But it sounded.
• 19:32
  Speaker 7: Okay, you know, we didn't see the scripts. So Jimmy
• 19:35
  Speaker 7: did a part. I did a little part. My character's
• 19:37
  Speaker 7: name is Peaches. You know, she's like a project lady.
• 19:39
  Speaker 7: That's whatever. But when Nick trailer came out. We saw
• 19:42
  Speaker 7: it and everybody was like, no, you know, you don't
• 19:45
  Speaker 7: have a crack baby in somebody in the mother's arms.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: You don't do that.
• 19:48
  Speaker 7: So and I remember having an interview with the singer Gilstrap,
• 19:53
  Speaker 7: Jim Gilstrap, and he was saying, you know, there are
• 19:56
  Speaker 7: some lyrics that they took out. So I said, we're
• 19:58
  Speaker 7: the lyrics and he's said, well, you know they say
• 20:01
  Speaker 7: roaches roaming the hallway and the landlord lives on the
• 20:05
  Speaker 7: other side of town or something like that. He said
• 20:07
  Speaker 7: that they took it out because fifty years ago now
• 20:12
  Speaker 7: they thought that that would be offensive to black people. Okay,
• 20:16
  Speaker 7: but fifty years later, you have two roaches singing in
• 20:19
  Speaker 7: the shower whatever they sing in the song good time.
• 20:22
  Speaker 7: So I'm like, this is not it.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: I haven't watched it, mister Carter.
• 20:26
  Speaker 11: I actually was quite disappointed with the actors who took
• 20:29
  Speaker 11: the time to sign on to that project. These are
• 20:32
  Speaker 11: actors and artists and comedian that I really had a
• 20:34
  Speaker 11: high regard for. I won't use the past tense with
• 20:37
  Speaker 11: them right now, but I'm disappointed at the fact that
• 20:39
  Speaker 11: they did that. When I did take a quick review
• 20:43
  Speaker 11: of this particular rubbish that I saw. I was contacted
• 20:48
  Speaker 11: by some media outlets from my point of view, but
• 20:51
  Speaker 11: I refused to dignify with a response. And I'm just
• 20:54
  Speaker 11: pretty much disappointed with the artists who signed on to it.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: Y'all don't like the Good Times reboot.
• 20:59
  Speaker 6: To say that, yeah.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: Fifty years a good Times.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I'm talking like nobody did a documentary or some type
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: of you know, reunion show like y'all didn't get approached aout.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: None of that.
• 21:11
  Speaker 11: Now, the anthology that I did, right, it wouldn't be
• 21:14
  Speaker 11: a product commercially right now again because of.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: The losses that we had. They but we didn't have
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: people that we worked.
• 21:22
  Speaker 6: That we're going to put together, and we had all
• 21:23
  Speaker 6: the characters.
• 21:24
  Speaker 11: It's just this is there now ancestors.
• 21:27
  Speaker 14: So this is Brett Miller, who works with Norman, and
• 21:32
  Speaker 14: that's the guy who kind of kind of gebashed us,
• 21:35
  Speaker 14: and that that was it.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's the way because when I took it around.
• 21:39
  Speaker 14: Everybody I talked to says, well, do you own the rights?
• 21:42
  Speaker 14: We go no, and they said, well, nothing we could
• 21:45
  Speaker 14: do for you. And these are all friends of mine.
• 21:47
  Speaker 14: So that's the way it was. I just think that
• 21:49
  Speaker 14: they didn't want us involved and they achieved their goal.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, we love y'all.
• 21:57
  Speaker 7: Yes, our fans really writing us and telling us how
• 22:01
  Speaker 7: much they loved us, and we did. They did not
• 22:03
  Speaker 7: like the animation, you know, they respect us in so
• 22:06
  Speaker 7: many different ways, so we still got our satisfaction out
• 22:09
  Speaker 7: of it, you.
• 22:09
  Speaker 11: Know, absolutely, and when the people don't like it, watch out.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Well, we appreciate you guys for joining us.
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: Fifteen the lyrics to the theme song. Y'all all know that.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: No, I don't know. I think Ralph knows it.
• 22:23
  Speaker 11: Keeping your head above water, making a way when you can,
• 22:27
  Speaker 11: temporary layoffs, good times, easy credited, rift fall, good time,
• 22:32
  Speaker 11: scratching in surviving good good times, hanging in a child line.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: That's how I interpret I have the living.
• 22:41
  Speaker 6: Yes, it is hanging and versions, hanging in and making
• 22:45
  Speaker 6: it and driving.
• 22:46
  Speaker 11: But also I have on document in my archive hanging
• 22:50
  Speaker 11: in the child and something.
• 22:51
  Speaker 6: So they have they said it that way, so long.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Versions of it.
• 22:55
  Speaker 11: However, it really caught on the way that the wonderful
• 23:00
  Speaker 11: jar wrote the soundtrack for Moving On Up for the Jeffersons. Wise,
• 23:05
  Speaker 11: there is the writer and the musician and the vocalist
• 23:08
  Speaker 11: that sings that song, so that in itself when you
• 23:12
  Speaker 11: deal with themed songs, and when we were coming on,
• 23:15
  Speaker 11: y'all were gracious enough to play for us. So it
• 23:18
  Speaker 11: was a nice way to walk into your sound studio,
• 23:21
  Speaker 11: and we thank you.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: So the mystery continues. We still don't know if it's
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: hanging in the child.
• 23:27
  Speaker 7: It's hanging in and giving.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: That's what it is, and.
• 23:32
  Speaker 11: That's not going to have this going on for a while.
• 23:37
  Speaker 7: Jim Jim Gillsdraft, the one who sung it, told me
• 23:40
  Speaker 7: he said it was hanging in and giving.
• 23:42
  Speaker 6: That's what it was.
• 23:43
  Speaker 7: But it came off I don't know if it was
• 23:45
  Speaker 7: the enunciation of it or not, but it came off
• 23:48
  Speaker 7: as hanging in a child line. It sounds that way,
• 23:51
  Speaker 7: but it really was hanging in a giant.
• 23:53
  Speaker 11: And there's a second verse that people have never heard
• 23:55
  Speaker 11: that goes to the same song. So the information that
• 23:59
  Speaker 11: I do have had, I'm saying, so you guys have
• 24:06
  Speaker 11: been wonderful. I thank you for thinking enough of us
• 24:10
  Speaker 11: get into your listening audience. We thank you again for
• 24:14
  Speaker 11: wonderful fifty years. May you be blessed by every breath
• 24:17
  Speaker 11: you breath and every beat of your heart.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: Thank you very much. That's right, it's the breakfast club.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: Good morning, thank you all right? Dangerous wanting to go
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: to breakfast club? Charlamagne to God. Lauren lo Ross is here?
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: Just hilarious? Is here?
• 24:30
  Speaker 8: Uh?
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: Who's feeling in for? Envy? Laura l Rose is feeling
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: in for? Isn't feeling in? He's ill? I'm here she's
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: feeling in Yeah.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's a guest today though, because his new book
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Real Life, Real Family with the Queen of the House
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Get a Katy is out right now.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: How do you feeling?
• 24:45
  Speaker 9: You come by being given the opportunity to write a
• 24:49
  Speaker 9: book about something that is the most important thing for me,
• 24:53
  Speaker 9: the thing I'm the most passionate about, the thing that
• 24:56
  Speaker 9: brings me the most joy, family, parenting, my household, our home.
• 25:02
  Speaker 15: So yeah, I'm very humbled.
• 25:03
  Speaker 6: This is the second book. Yes, it's amazing, you know what.
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: Let's just rewind a bit for those who don't know.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: Who is the K. C.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: Crewe?
• 25:12
  Speaker 6: Where did that name come from? How did y'all get started?
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Do you remember the carew? Yes? Our last name? What
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: do you mean?
• 25:18
  Speaker 16: No?
• 25:19
  Speaker 15: No, no, But do you remember how we came up
• 25:20
  Speaker 15: with a name?
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Come up? With the name.
• 25:21
  Speaker 12: We were doing our first podcast, and it was before
• 25:25
  Speaker 12: we were doing like the audio version of the video version.
• 25:28
  Speaker 12: It was just the audio version, and we started the
• 25:30
  Speaker 12: podcast without a name, and we sat there and we
• 25:34
  Speaker 12: kind of was coming up with like different names, and one.
• 25:37
  Speaker 15: Of us said, well, how about the k CY crew.
• 25:39
  Speaker 15: You know, our last name is Casey. We have a
• 25:40
  Speaker 15: whole crew of kids, a whole gaggle. What about the
• 25:43
  Speaker 15: k C crew.
• 25:43
  Speaker 12: And then people you know, DMed us and emailed and whatnot,
• 25:47
  Speaker 12: and they said, yeah, we love that name.
• 25:48
  Speaker 15: We love that name. So we decided to call ourselves
• 25:51
  Speaker 15: the KC Crew.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Amazing that's where it came about.
• 25:54
  Speaker 17: And whenever you post on social you always hashtag the
• 25:57
  Speaker 17: KSEY Crew.
• 25:58
  Speaker 6: Yes, and he does as well.
• 25:59
  Speaker 15: But wanted it.
• 26:00
  Speaker 17: Things that you guys do really good from the podcast
• 26:02
  Speaker 17: to bringing it online, is you pay attention to the
• 26:04
  Speaker 17: comments and the responses Ki. Yeah, and you guys bring
• 26:08
  Speaker 17: them into the podcast, but you also like reflect on
• 26:10
  Speaker 17: them on social media. So I want to read one
• 26:12
  Speaker 17: of the posts that we pulled and I thought that
• 26:16
  Speaker 17: this was great. You inspired me. This is someone commenting
• 26:18
  Speaker 17: to you guys. You inspired me. I wish all parents
• 26:21
  Speaker 17: had this level of intention, planning, and vibe. Truth is,
• 26:24
  Speaker 17: most parents, moms are stressed, over worked by trying to
• 26:28
  Speaker 17: make ends meet, in harboring trauma. Therefore, it's passed down
• 26:31
  Speaker 17: to the children. You've passed down light and love because
• 26:33
  Speaker 17: of that and because of what you are, high five
• 26:35
  Speaker 17: to all of the parents doing their best, and you
• 26:38
  Speaker 17: use that as a moment to talk about like, no,
• 26:40
  Speaker 17: it gets a little crazy over here, but oh yeah,
• 26:43
  Speaker 17: but it's important because when you if you've ever been
• 26:45
  Speaker 17: around your family, it is a lot of love and
• 26:46
  Speaker 17: a lot of light. But I'm sure on the inside
• 26:48
  Speaker 17: things get crazy.
• 26:49
  Speaker 12: Well, you know, that's a big misconception. People assume that
• 26:53
  Speaker 12: because you live a certain lifestyle or because you've earned
• 26:56
  Speaker 12: a certain financial status, that you don't have the same
• 27:00
  Speaker 12: problems that they have. You know. So that comment really
• 27:04
  Speaker 12: really stood out to me because she spoke on the
• 27:08
  Speaker 12: troubles and the trauma, the word trauma that she used,
• 27:11
  Speaker 12: and Rashan will speak on the word trauma sometimes he
• 27:13
  Speaker 12: feels as though it's a word that's overused, but it's
• 27:16
  Speaker 12: a word that represents something that so many people endure.
• 27:21
  Speaker 12: The difference now is that we have words to identify
• 27:25
  Speaker 12: how we feel and what we go through, and it's articulated.
• 27:29
  Speaker 12: Because when our feelings and our experiences are articulated, then
• 27:33
  Speaker 12: you're able to communicate. People are able to understand you,
• 27:37
  Speaker 12: You're able to understand other people. You're able to have
• 27:39
  Speaker 12: empathy and compassion for other people because now we're all
• 27:42
  Speaker 12: speaking a universal language. Like the word triggered, like the
• 27:46
  Speaker 12: word trauma, like the word of gaslin. You know, these
• 27:49
  Speaker 12: are things that some may think are overused now, but yes,
• 27:54
  Speaker 12: but there is value there. There is value there because
• 27:57
  Speaker 12: now we can see each other, we under stand each other.
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: When you're trying to create a safe space, you know,
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: how is it to venture into an unsafe space like
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: the comment, especially when somebody on the air every day.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: You know, I mean if you have an opinion about.
• 28:10
  Speaker 15: It every day.
• 28:11
  Speaker 12: So I read every single comment.
• 28:17
  Speaker 15: I interact.
• 28:19
  Speaker 12: It started when I had a lower follower account. It
• 28:23
  Speaker 12: started because I always felt that if someone follows me,
• 28:28
  Speaker 12: that's an investment. In a small investment, maybe, but it's
• 28:31
  Speaker 12: an investment that they put into me. And they're looking
• 28:35
  Speaker 12: at my content content, they're looking at my pictures, and
• 28:39
  Speaker 12: you left a comment, I want to respond back to you.
• 28:41
  Speaker 15: I used to respond to almost every.
• 28:43
  Speaker 12: Comment, you know, but then when my followers went up,
• 28:47
  Speaker 12: I wasn't really able to do that, and that was
• 28:49
  Speaker 12: something that you know, I had to take that on
• 28:50
  Speaker 12: the chin.
• 28:51
  Speaker 15: I wasn't able to. But it's a sign of respect, and.
• 28:55
  Speaker 12: You said, why do I do that to myself? Because
• 28:57
  Speaker 12: I'm strong enough to do that. I'm strong enough to
• 29:00
  Speaker 12: do that. The comments don't if they are negative, and
• 29:03
  Speaker 12: I have to say I don't receive a lot of
• 29:05
  Speaker 12: negative comments, thankfully, thank God. But if they are negative,
• 29:09
  Speaker 12: I look at it as insight. I might ask myself, why.
• 29:12
  Speaker 15: Might someone have that perspective?
• 29:14
  Speaker 12: To me? It feeds my mental because I'm a thinker.
• 29:17
  Speaker 12: I'm a deep thinker. I'm all over things. I love
• 29:20
  Speaker 12: to understand people. So for me, the comments are food
• 29:24
  Speaker 12: and they also bring me happiness when they're good. It
• 29:26
  Speaker 12: lets you know that you're reaching someone, you're whatever it
• 29:30
  Speaker 12: is that you're putting out because it's in the sense
• 29:32
  Speaker 12: of sharing. There's a lot of things that I don't share,
• 29:34
  Speaker 12: so if I choose to share and it's well received,
• 29:37
  Speaker 12: then that's a good feeling. I think that's why a lot.
• 29:39
  Speaker 15: Of people are on or part of the reason why
• 29:41
  Speaker 15: a lot of people are on social media, you know
• 29:42
  Speaker 15: what I mean.
• 29:43
  Speaker 12: And I'm strong enough to do so. And that's because
• 29:46
  Speaker 12: of the way that I was raised. I was raised
• 29:48
  Speaker 12: to be a very strong and resilient woman.
• 29:54
  Speaker 15: It comes directly from my parents.
• 29:56
  Speaker 12: I'm fortunate in the sense that I can look back
• 29:58
  Speaker 12: and identif to find things about the way that I
• 30:02
  Speaker 12: was raised that created the individual, the woman, the mother,
• 30:06
  Speaker 12: the wife that I am. And it's for me. It's
• 30:10
  Speaker 12: a very beautiful thing. Both of my parents are no
• 30:12
  Speaker 12: longer here, so to be able to say, wow, when
• 30:15
  Speaker 12: my mother did this every single day, or when she
• 30:19
  Speaker 12: took me here once a week, or when she said
• 30:22
  Speaker 12: this to me, and those compliments, and that the way
• 30:25
  Speaker 12: that she fed me and she fed my soul, and
• 30:27
  Speaker 12: the joy that I experienced, and the amount of fun
• 30:30
  Speaker 12: that I had as a kid, like I loved my life.
• 30:32
  Speaker 15: And it's not because we were wealthy. We were not.
• 30:34
  Speaker 12: We were a middle class family. I'm from Brooklyn, from
• 30:37
  Speaker 12: East Flatbush. We weren't raised, you know, like I'm from
• 30:40
  Speaker 12: an urban area. And it's not had nothing to do
• 30:44
  Speaker 12: with money. It had nothing to do with wealth. It
• 30:47
  Speaker 12: had everything to do with what my parents poured into
• 30:50
  Speaker 12: my home and the love that I felt. And that
• 30:54
  Speaker 12: is what we put into writing this book. There's a
• 30:58
  Speaker 12: lot of books that we could have written, you know,
• 31:00
  Speaker 12: so many ideas came. Oh because Real Life or Love
• 31:02
  Speaker 12: was a huge success. It was a national bestseller. So
• 31:05
  Speaker 12: it's like, I go, you write a book about this. We said,
• 31:07
  Speaker 12: we want to write a book about family. It's what
• 31:09
  Speaker 12: we know best. It's what we know best. We've had
• 31:12
  Speaker 12: so many ups, so many downs, so.
• 31:14
  Speaker 15: Many wins, so many losses, so many things that we
• 31:17
  Speaker 15: thought we were doing right that we weren't.
• 31:19
  Speaker 12: That we had to regroup and make sure that we
• 31:22
  Speaker 12: were balanced, you know, as as a married couple. Because
• 31:26
  Speaker 12: when we didn't agree, it's like my way is better,
• 31:28
  Speaker 12: know what my way is better? And this, you know,
• 31:30
  Speaker 12: we had to come to a meeting of the minds.
• 31:32
  Speaker 12: Yeah you know what I mean. So a relationship, you know,
• 31:35
  Speaker 12: the relationship grew, you know, because we had to learn
• 31:39
  Speaker 12: how to see eye to eye as parents. So there
• 31:41
  Speaker 12: was just there was many many ups and downs, and
• 31:44
  Speaker 12: we wanted to pour that all into a book. You know.
• 31:46
  Speaker 12: We wanted to let everyone know like it's really that
• 31:49
  Speaker 12: village mentality. It's really that like we are a community,
• 31:53
  Speaker 12: especially our black community, because I'm black. Yes, yeah, yeah,
• 31:58
  Speaker 12: for the record, for the record, Spanish.
• 32:09
  Speaker 10: Joy.
• 32:11
  Speaker 12: But I know that you're well aware because you speak
• 32:15
  Speaker 12: to things of this nature often. But our history is
• 32:18
  Speaker 12: being erased in schools and it's being stripped away silently
• 32:25
  Speaker 12: in society. So the foundation starts in our homes. We
• 32:30
  Speaker 12: have to teach children how to identify themselves. We have
• 32:35
  Speaker 12: to teach children that sense of belonging, and they have
• 32:40
  Speaker 12: to understand that they come from something meaningful. And if
• 32:44
  Speaker 12: you leave it up to society to teach them that,
• 32:47
  Speaker 12: you're going to wind up with children that are lost,
• 32:49
  Speaker 12: that are overlooked, that don't know how to identify themselves,
• 32:53
  Speaker 12: that get taken advantage of, and that are susceptible to
• 32:57
  Speaker 12: what society wants for them. So for us, our core,
• 33:02
  Speaker 12: our nucleus, our foundation, our home supersedes anything else in
• 33:07
  Speaker 12: this world.
• 33:07
  Speaker 15: We put our family first.
• 33:09
  Speaker 7: Would you say that you and and we have two
• 33:13
  Speaker 7: different parenting styles, absolutely the more lenient parent.
• 33:16
  Speaker 15: Who was the more lenient parent?
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: It depends what it is like.
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: You know, everybody knows my dad is retired police officer
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: and ex military, So I'm disciplined. I was the yell
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: of the screamer, because I said, so, it is a
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: lot different, like seven hours, Like she wants to know
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: why did you feel like she likes to break down.
• 33:38
  Speaker 6: You don't get it, You're gonna get it by the
• 33:39
  Speaker 6: end of the right.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: Exactly. So you got to think, really think before you
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: speak to U.
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: Because she's like, all right, explain that, like I just
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: said it just because no, no, no, explain this. But so
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: I'm more like, because I said so, she's more like, well,
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: you can't go to the more because of this, because
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: this could happen. Explain your parentsingtole Mine is my dad
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: was like no, and you didn't ask why it was
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: what it was you just figured out later.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: Is a little different. I prefer the explanation.
• 34:06
  Speaker 15: Yeah. So that's how my parents were with me.
• 34:08
  Speaker 12: I knew that my parents were invested in me living
• 34:13
  Speaker 12: a happy, fulfilled and fun life, and we didn't go
• 34:17
  Speaker 12: lightly on the fun. And because I knew that, and
• 34:22
  Speaker 12: my parents never said no just for the sake of
• 34:24
  Speaker 12: saying no. Because parents are overworked and they are stressed,
• 34:28
  Speaker 12: and the last thing they want to hear when they
• 34:29
  Speaker 12: walk through the door is mommy, can.
• 34:31
  Speaker 15: I can you take me here? Can you buy me this?
• 34:33
  Speaker 15: Can we watch this together? Can we go like flow down?
• 34:37
  Speaker 5: No?
• 34:37
  Speaker 15: And sometimes you say no.
• 34:38
  Speaker 12: You don't even know why you're saying no. That's not
• 34:40
  Speaker 12: a good parenting technique. Yeah, you really have to take
• 34:45
  Speaker 12: a moment.
• 34:45
  Speaker 15: You have to take a beat. You all have to
• 34:46
  Speaker 15: take a beat.
• 34:47
  Speaker 12: To listen to our children and be patient. And because
• 34:51
  Speaker 12: I knew that my parents were invested in me that way,
• 34:54
  Speaker 12: I knew that when they said no, there was a
• 34:56
  Speaker 12: good reason.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: How do you make sure you not you're raising the
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: kids out of love and fear?
• 35:00
  Speaker 12: Though that's such a good question, it comes with the explanations,
• 35:04
  Speaker 12: do you know what I mean? I don't tell them
• 35:06
  Speaker 12: you can't do this and you can't do that? Why
• 35:09
  Speaker 12: because I said so? Let me explain to you why.
• 35:12
  Speaker 12: You know, sometimes we'll watch the news together, you know,
• 35:15
  Speaker 12: when they're at an appropriate age at about nine years old.
• 35:18
  Speaker 12: You know, I think that they're mature enough to ingest
• 35:20
  Speaker 12: certain things. So what I do is I would record
• 35:23
  Speaker 12: it on my DVR and then cherry pick different stories
• 35:26
  Speaker 12: that I think that are appropriate, that speak to the
• 35:29
  Speaker 12: protective measures that we take on them, you know what
• 35:32
  Speaker 12: I mean. So it's like, if I see a child
• 35:34
  Speaker 12: abduction that's not too traumatic, I might save that and
• 35:38
  Speaker 12: then show it to a child that's old enough.
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 35:41
  Speaker 15: I did it with.
• 35:41
  Speaker 12: Madison, I did it with Logan, and I find that
• 35:45
  Speaker 12: they take that into their adult lives and they're very,
• 35:48
  Speaker 12: very like. Madison walks around like a police officer. She
• 35:51
  Speaker 12: has a boyfriend. His name is Andrew, and when they
• 35:54
  Speaker 12: go into a restaurant, she's the one that sits facing
• 35:56
  Speaker 12: the door.
• 35:57
  Speaker 15: She feels like the protective in that.
• 36:00
  Speaker 12: Relationship because her head is always on smoke, you know
• 36:04
  Speaker 12: what I mean. She could tell you a car that
• 36:07
  Speaker 12: was driving six cars ahead, you know, and she's always
• 36:10
  Speaker 12: paying attention to license plates. When she was young, I
• 36:14
  Speaker 12: used to go through like in case you get kidnapped
• 36:17
  Speaker 12: scenarios because it's the type of information that can save
• 36:21
  Speaker 12: a life.
• 36:22
  Speaker 15: Girls are being taken.
• 36:25
  Speaker 12: So if you have a young girl, it is very
• 36:28
  Speaker 12: proactive to educate them about the realities and the tricks
• 36:32
  Speaker 12: and the cons that people. You know, because even me
• 36:35
  Speaker 12: as proactive as I try to be, that whole technique,
• 36:38
  Speaker 12: with a baby crying outside your house, I would I
• 36:42
  Speaker 12: would be inclined to open the door if I hear
• 36:44
  Speaker 12: a baby crying and someone that sounds like a mother
• 36:47
  Speaker 12: yelling and screaming outside the house.
• 36:48
  Speaker 15: I am that type of person, but not me.
• 36:51
  Speaker 12: But now I am I am because I would my
• 36:59
  Speaker 12: heart with my eyes, I would be inclined to open
• 37:01
  Speaker 12: that door. But now with all the knowledge and some
• 37:03
  Speaker 12: of the good things about social media is that so
• 37:07
  Speaker 12: much knowledge is being spread, so now we're consuming good
• 37:10
  Speaker 12: information as well. So I heard that, I'm like, wow,
• 37:14
  Speaker 12: that's absolutely right. It jogs your.
• 37:16
  Speaker 15: Thinking, it makes you say, oh, wait a minute.
• 37:19
  Speaker 12: I do have to put myself first, even if someone else,
• 37:22
  Speaker 12: a stranger, seems to be in need. I have to
• 37:24
  Speaker 12: prioritize myself, my home, my family. So you know, it's
• 37:28
  Speaker 12: important to spread information and to teach your kids, even
• 37:31
  Speaker 12: though it may be a little scary, but you do
• 37:33
  Speaker 12: have to do it in a way where it doesn't
• 37:35
  Speaker 12: incite fear.
• 37:36
  Speaker 15: How y'all pick and choose?
• 37:37
  Speaker 17: What do y'all like? What y'all decide to be transparent about,
• 37:39
  Speaker 17: Like it's just so much, and your kids are getting
• 37:42
  Speaker 17: older and they're like, you know, like they're wanting to
• 37:44
  Speaker 17: walk by themselves with their friends.
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: If it was up to me, I'm transparent with everything right,
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: Geea has to hold back a lot, like for instance,
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: like with Logan. Right, Logan, when he was in high school,
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: you used to get picked on all the time.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: But he used to get picked on. Guess for what reason? No,
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: because because Charlamagne. Yes, yes, so.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: When you gave me the ask, that's why he gave
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: me the buck cake, when he gave me the not
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: much better you know what I mean, not about to
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: He used to be getting made fun of it because
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: of that. So but the reason I'm so transparent is
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: there's so many families and people dealing with the same
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: things but never want to talk about it.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: Scared to.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: So that's why I talked about the orgasm thing in
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: the first book. That's why in this in the second book,
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: we talk about, you know, the time from the first.
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: Every view, every you want to do some.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: Even like in this book we talk about the time
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: that that Logan found a bloody condom at one of
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: his friend's house.
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: So he can't, but he's comfortable. Why are you looking
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: at that? It wasn't mine.
• 39:05
  Speaker 12: He's like, oh, he found bloody house a right friend friends,
• 39:14
  Speaker 12: and and he was like maybe nine years old, nine years.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: Old, he was about nine years old, but he was
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: comfortable enough. He was in.
• 39:21
  Speaker 12: The basement, and and the little boy had an older brother.
• 39:25
  Speaker 5: Yeah, when.
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: My gosh, so she had That's what we had the
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: sex talk and had to have the sex talk with
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: Logan and Madison.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: What kind of sex talk though it wasn't a backdoor
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: sex talk that we ain't just birds and bees and
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: wasp and.
• 39:48
  Speaker 15: They got a full blown sex talk. They had to
• 39:53
  Speaker 15: understand because if you leave it back door.
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: Sex to him, That's what I'm really trying to figure out.
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: Why was the condon bloody? I'm really kind when.
• 40:02
  Speaker 6: Yeah, somebody be like a first time thing.
• 40:12
  Speaker 12: Yeah yeah, but no they at that point I found
• 40:15
  Speaker 12: that they were old enough and mature enough, and you're
• 40:17
  Speaker 12: they're encountering things now, these conversations are being had amongst
• 40:21
  Speaker 12: their peers, and I knew that if I didn't set
• 40:24
  Speaker 12: them straight, that they were going to be absorbing all
• 40:27
  Speaker 12: of this wrong information and wrong ideas. So I told
• 40:32
  Speaker 12: them sex feels good, It's a pleasureful experience. God made
• 40:37
  Speaker 12: us that way because God wants us to reproduce, He
• 40:41
  Speaker 12: wants us to create offspring. So he made it something
• 40:44
  Speaker 12: that we would enjoy, but it's meant for someone that
• 40:47
  Speaker 12: you love and that's the reason why. So they're like, oh, okay,
• 40:51
  Speaker 12: so what is it like and what did you say? Okay,
• 40:56
  Speaker 12: if I'm being honest, I told them that there is
• 40:59
  Speaker 12: a penis and there is a vagina. And my son,
• 41:01
  Speaker 12: Logan was like, so like this. I was like, yeah,
• 41:09
  Speaker 12: something like that. I said, you know, some people look
• 41:12
  Speaker 12: at it as a negative thing.
• 41:15
  Speaker 15: No, no, No, he really didn't know.
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: He really didn't.
• 41:18
  Speaker 15: He really didn't.
• 41:19
  Speaker 12: Even like my eleven year old son right now, he
• 41:22
  Speaker 12: does not know. So when they asked me questions that
• 41:24
  Speaker 12: I don't want them to know about.
• 41:27
  Speaker 15: And he's older than Logan was.
• 41:29
  Speaker 12: But now with I have a better grip on his
• 41:32
  Speaker 12: friends and a grip on what he's exposed to on
• 41:34
  Speaker 12: his phone and whatnot in parameters boundaries, so I'm really
• 41:37
  Speaker 12: abreast of what he knows and what he doesn't in
• 41:40
  Speaker 12: our lines of communication.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: Are way better. Yeah, you have.
• 41:45
  Speaker 7: Six kids, So is there anything that you felt like
• 41:48
  Speaker 7: in the beginning got itt know and until y'all got
• 41:51
  Speaker 7: to that six kid, of course, Yeah, Like, what were
• 41:54
  Speaker 7: some of the I'll give you a next timeple?
• 41:56
  Speaker 6: You didn't know? You just was like, man, Rashan winging
• 41:59
  Speaker 6: this like.
• 42:00
  Speaker 12: I'll give you an example. So one of the fails,
• 42:03
  Speaker 12: and this was something that we disagreed on. So it
• 42:05
  Speaker 12: was the explaining everything to the kids. I have the
• 42:09
  Speaker 12: patience to do it. And he really is a because
• 42:12
  Speaker 12: I said so type of guy. And it worked beautifully
• 42:16
  Speaker 12: with Madison, but with Logan from a young age, I
• 42:18
  Speaker 12: would explain everything to him and he's a mama's.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: Boy times thirty, you know what I.
• 42:24
  Speaker 15: Mean, Like we're very, very close.
• 42:26
  Speaker 12: But it kind of went wrong with him because what
• 42:29
  Speaker 12: we found was that we created an environment where he
• 42:32
  Speaker 12: felt that he was entitled to an explanation and he
• 42:37
  Speaker 12: felt as though because we gave him too safe of
• 42:41
  Speaker 12: a space that he could challenge me and he can
• 42:45
  Speaker 12: challenge a decision that I made. So we had to
• 42:50
  Speaker 12: dial that back to the boundaries and then we had
• 42:53
  Speaker 12: to teach boundaries and let him know his place. So
• 42:57
  Speaker 12: that was a fail in a sense. And Rashamoud always
• 43:01
  Speaker 12: look at me like see I told you, Like see
• 43:03
  Speaker 12: I told you.
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: Because he's the bad guy.
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: Because now I got to go discipline that. So now
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: me and Logan get into it.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: Now you can't beat Logan because Logan.
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: So now I got a discipline Logan, and then me
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: and Logan get into it. But one thing about Logan
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: and all of our kids, which is the craziest thing, is.
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: They're very forgiven.
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: Like with Logan, I have to get sometimes so disrespectful
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: for him to understand.
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: And the next day he's like, hey Dad, what's up.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, hey Dad, what's up.
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: But that's how he is, and he just has conversations.
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: But we have those conversations and we understand and we talk.
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: But he's he's the one that just like his mom.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: Did you have a family mission statement?
• 43:36
  Speaker 6: Yes?
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: What is the mission statement? And tell people the importance
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: of that.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: Well, just so we know, we don't have it on
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: our wall and then make the kids read it when
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: they walk in the house. It's not like that. So
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: our mission statement is just something that we, you know,
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: as a family, we all live by, right, And I'll
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: read some of them. And the reason is is we
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: are a close unit. Right, So if you see us together,
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: we're all always out together. You see me the other
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: day with Jackson, You've seen me before, Charlan mane Sei before.
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: So the misterstatement is we are a unit.
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: Right, we all ride together like we are really a unit,
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: a unit. I'm an only child, so I'm heavy into
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: taking care of each other. We respect each other, of course,
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: simple like we make sure that you know, we respect
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: each other's feeling.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: We always have each other's backs.
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: That's one thing that we always do, and it's you know,
• 44:18
  Speaker 3: sometimes when we have conversations up here, I always talk
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: about my kids. So when they see stuff on social media,
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: at times I have to stop them because they will
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: go in, especially Logan Logan, Oh, yeah. We always love
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: uplift each other and pointing out the good in one another.
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: We see that more especially with our girls in dance
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: because they compete against each other a lot, so when
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: they do, we have to make sure that regardless of
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: what happens. Like a couple of weeks ago, London lost
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: and we thought London got jerked. So I told, you know,
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: I had a conversation with Brooklyn, and Brooklyn was like, Dad, don't.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Worry, I'm gonna get first and the second four. And
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: she went out there and busted at the first and second.
• 44:49
  Speaker 15: She got first place, and.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: You know, gave the first place to her sister because
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: that's what it was. We represent each other at all times.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: That's how it always is. So we always tell our
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: kids if we're not there, you make sure that those
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: parents come back and say, oh my gosh, he was
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: such a pleasure. He was polite, he was this even
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: with Jackson at the game. You know, Jackson said thank
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: you a million one time, so you said hello million
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: one times you because that's what he's taught to do
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: it you show respect with that.
• 45:14
  Speaker 12: My goal for my kids is that when they leave
• 45:17
  Speaker 12: our house, I want everyone that they come in contact
• 45:20
  Speaker 12: with to know that they're well loved. What we teach
• 45:23
  Speaker 12: you inside this house you exemplify outside of this house.
• 45:27
  Speaker 12: And these are things that a lot of parents don't
• 45:29
  Speaker 12: put into perspective when raising children.
• 45:32
  Speaker 15: Because what do we usually do.
• 45:33
  Speaker 12: We take, like, you know, an idea, and we throw
• 45:35
  Speaker 12: it up against the wall and we see if it
• 45:36
  Speaker 12: sticks or not.
• 45:37
  Speaker 15: You know what I mean, Oh that worked, Oh that didn't.
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 45:40
  Speaker 12: But a lot of people don't have something tangible that
• 45:44
  Speaker 12: they can go back to and be like, this is
• 45:46
  Speaker 12: a way to create a foundation, This is a way
• 45:48
  Speaker 12: to create a structure. And because we had so many
• 45:51
  Speaker 12: ups and downs, we were able to do that and
• 45:54
  Speaker 12: put it in one place.
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: And I think the biggest story now you hate want
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: to tell a story, was Jackson?
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: So we had a parent teae night a couple of
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: weeks ago and a teacher came up to me. Teacher,
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: I had no idea you know who he was step night.
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: So he walks up to me. He was like, are
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: you Jackson's dad? And I'm like, yeah, what.
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: A teacher usually asked? That's us? This bs right?
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: So I'm like, oh, here we go. What did Jackson do?
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: And he was like, I just want to tell you. You know,
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: Jackson did something that no child or adult has done
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: in my life. The other day, I'm walking down the
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: hall and Jackson comes running up to me and he goes,
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: you know, are you okay?
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: And the teacher was like, what do you mean?
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: He was like, you just don't look as happy as
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: you usually do, or you are right?
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: Is anything bothering you? Would you like to have a
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: conversation with me and just talk it through?
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: Like he was like, now, you just don't seem as
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: happy as you do, but don't let things stress you out.
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: Just pray on it and tomorrow'll be better. Right, And
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: if you need to talk to me, Come talk to me.
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: And he said, Jackson ran off and he was like,
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: I've never had an adult or a child ever do
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: that to me. So he was like, whatever you're doing
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: at home, continue that, and you know, I mean that
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: just shows what the kids are learning at home is
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: worth every and so you need.
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: To report that teacher too. He don't need to be
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: in the school.
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: You got some time.
• 47:09
  Speaker 6: Such a beautiful family.
• 47:11
  Speaker 15: Thank you, you know.
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: Have you, Thank you for pulling up and for everybody else.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: We just want to add this last part. We actually
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: wrote it with somebody that helped us out with terms
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: and helped us with different phrases and helped us with
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: made sure that we were actually doing the right thing
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: when it came to raising our kids.
• 47:28
  Speaker 12: Yes, so we wrote it alongside a psychologist because yes,
• 47:33
  Speaker 12: because we wanted to make sure that our outlooks were
• 47:38
  Speaker 12: were on the level that I would want to put
• 47:41
  Speaker 12: it out to the public. I wanted the psychological research
• 47:46
  Speaker 12: and quarterbacking behind the way that we parent to pretty.
• 47:50
  Speaker 15: Much put a stamp on it, to know that what we're.
• 47:52
  Speaker 12: Doing not just from our personal experience driven point of
• 47:55
  Speaker 12: view is sound, but from a psychological point of view
• 47:59
  Speaker 12: is also sound. Wanted to make sure that alongside the
• 48:02
  Speaker 12: truth and the transparency and the experience that we had
• 48:05
  Speaker 12: that backing to the book as well. I wanted that
• 48:08
  Speaker 12: level of value in the book as well.
• 48:10
  Speaker 15: So and also you.
• 48:12
  Speaker 12: Know, if you have a child with anxiety, add ADHD,
• 48:16
  Speaker 12: other setbacks, other disabilities, you know, we speak to you
• 48:19
  Speaker 12: in this book as well, because those people are very like.
• 48:22
  Speaker 15: They don't have that many resources.
• 48:23
  Speaker 12: This book is for anyone who is a parent, a
• 48:26
  Speaker 12: single parent, a parent that is married.
• 48:29
  Speaker 15: Maybe about to have kids next, someone that wants to
• 48:32
  Speaker 15: have a child. Wow, you look over here, thank you,
• 48:39
  Speaker 15: it's it's it's it's forever.
• 48:40
  Speaker 12: It's a very relatable book and there's a lot of
• 48:42
  Speaker 12: exercises in the book. We kind of also created it
• 48:45
  Speaker 12: in like a workbook.
• 48:46
  Speaker 15: Style, so there's a lot of reflections.
• 48:48
  Speaker 12: There's a lot of places in there for you to
• 48:50
  Speaker 12: answer questions, so you can kind of analyze yourself and
• 48:53
  Speaker 12: understand your own point of view in a way of
• 48:55
  Speaker 12: like articulation, where if you haven't really thought about certain things,
• 48:58
  Speaker 12: it'll jog you to think about things. And even if
• 49:01
  Speaker 12: you don't duke, don't take on take it encourages you
• 49:03
  Speaker 12: and helps you to come up with your own takes
• 49:05
  Speaker 12: on parenting.
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: So you have to my real family, the Casey Crews,
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: the Breakfast club gave.
• 49:12
  Speaker 6: Me donkey other day, and I deserve that. You need
• 49:14
  Speaker 6: to know what you need to tell them.
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: I am you have the boy.
• 49:17
  Speaker 6: Tell them it's time for don't give the day.
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: It's a read.
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: But you're so good at your charlamage.
• 49:25
  Speaker 5: Sure you wants Charlomagne to go.
• 49:28
  Speaker 6: Yeah, Solomon, who do you give the dusk the other day?
• 49:31
  Speaker 5: Sooner?
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Well, sexy rad Donkey of to day goes to Robert
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: Langleiss in Tunisia, eBay. They had thirty three and thirty
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: two years old, respectively, and they was trying to duck
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: the law. Okay, just like you did last night. It's okay,
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: all right. Somebody out there listening to me right now.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: Ran from the police late last night, early this morning.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: It happens, I understand, all right. One of the best
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: feelings in the world is running from police and getting away.
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: Trust me, I know, I sold crack ones. Okay, when
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: the police are coming to raise your spot and you
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: hit the woods and get away, what an exilt feeling. Now,
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: you shouldn't be doing illegal things that would make the
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: police come after you. I am not encouraging that.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I'm just simply saying that when you are doing illegal
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: things and the police come for you and you get away, incredible. Now,
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: Robin and Tania don't know what that feels like. No,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: officers tried to execute a warrant on a property in
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: Fall River, Massachusetts, and Robin and Tania tried to get away,
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: but it didn't work. Let's go to NBC ten Boston
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: for the report.
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: Police. No, that's not Santa Claus.
• 50:24
  Speaker 16: You're looking at police body camera video from Fall River.
• 50:28
  Speaker 16: It shows a man there stuck in a chimney where
• 50:31
  Speaker 16: told officers executed a search warrant at a home on
• 50:35
  Speaker 16: Canal Street last night. That's when thirty three year old
• 50:37
  Speaker 16: Robert Langleace tried to evade arrest by hiding in a chimney.
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: It didn't work.
• 50:42
  Speaker 16: He got stuck. Police had to call in the fire
• 50:45
  Speaker 16: department to get him out. Langlace is facing drug charges.
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: See this is what happens when you believe in Santa Claus.
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: Every year, you all get mad at me for telling
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: the truth. No, Santa Claus is not real, Okayanta.
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: Clause is not real. Clause is not real.
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: Number one, reindeers don't fly they Number two, you don't
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: even own the chimney, all right. Number three, if you
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: owned the chimney, would Santa Claus be able to fit
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: down it?
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: Have you seen Santa Claus?
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: He's built exactly like former Governor of New Jersey, Chris Christie.
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: All right, there's no way. There's no way his big
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: ass could fit down the chimney. But you humans have
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: convinced yourselves that the story of saying it is real
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: and being that you all think sand is real. You
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: think what Santa does is real, and you thought your
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: dumb ass could just slide down the chimney and end
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: up wear exactly Huh in somebody's living room eating milk
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: and cookies.
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: Huh.
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: Now, Robin and Tania will both charged with possession of
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: class A and B drugs. I had to look that up.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: Class A drugs in Massachusetts are heroin, morphine, meth, ecstasy,
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: and ketamine. All right, Class B drugs, somebody tell what.
• 51:49
  Speaker 15: You think.
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: Nick's ready for vacation drug tests up? My god?
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: Class B drugs of cocaine, crack, lsd an, ecstasy. Okay, Listen,
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: none of this is surprising in light of the circumstances.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: Whoever made up the story of Santa Claus.
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: Was high as hell. Okay, it's the only explanation.
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: And the fact we created this one size fitch sauce
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: story that doesn't even make no damn sense hasn't even
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: really stood the test of time if you think about it.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: We live in the era of Amazon fed x ups
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: dropping packages off all types today, all times a night.
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: But all Santa God is a.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: Bag, one bag, like he a hole who just stayed
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: over for the night, and he got something for everybody
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: in the world, and just one bag dressed in all red.
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: So he don't go to crip neighborhoods. Huh.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: Not to mention, Nobody ever questions who exactly are the elves.
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: I don't think they are else at all. I think
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: Santa Claus is engaging in child labor. Okay, if he's real,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: he got a bunch of kids in the know poll
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: treating him like slaves either that are they are desperate
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: migrants from Mexico and Santa Claus has benefiting from cheap
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: illegal labor. Now, some of y'all out there are saying yourself.
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: Charlamage is on the radio making up things about Santa Claus.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: If you feel that way, then you two are on
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: Class A class be drugs. I'm making up things about
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: a made up thing.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: The morrow of the story is police described Robert's antics
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: ass Santa like, well, this deseason, please give Robert Langlish
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: the sweet sounds of the Hamilton.
• 53:12
  Speaker 18: So you oh the day, oh the day, ye.
• 53:34
  Speaker 3: Becauseta, Santa Claus is real.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know why you your ass all year long
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: to give a fat white man the credit for taking
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: care of your family.
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: I did say Santa was white. I just said Sada's real.
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: Well, either way giving another man credit, but that is
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: crazy though, exactly what type of man gives another man
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: credit for taking care of his fami?
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: He grew up Jehovah witness.
• 53:56
  Speaker 6: I mean, oh my god, it is the whole community
• 54:01
  Speaker 6: dealing with reality.
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: So yeah, so Santa Israel and Shelter being good out there.
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: So that's right, thank you so much.
• 54:10
  Speaker 3: So so Santa could get you toys and the Elvisanta
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: watching you guys to make sure you guys are doing
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: the right thing, so you can get more toys from Santa.
• 54:19
  Speaker 6: He has children, young children, Charlotte.
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: N okayhole, who laugh at us because they're like, why
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: are you trying to convince us that this entity is real?
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: But suit it for levels?
• 54:34
  Speaker 7: Your kids know more about civil rights and everything.
• 54:39
  Speaker 6: He hasn't introduced that to them.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: Yet, so you re all right, jesus.
• 54:49
  Speaker 6: I don't know the last time I seen the chimney?
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: What is the chimbley? What's stretched out? Stressed? When you
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: when you make up your words? And I know because
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: you got your list for going on. But I it's
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: always been chimney for me.
• 55:01
  Speaker 6: I'm sorry.
• 55:01
  Speaker 3: You got a five place. I have a five place,
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: but I don't have a chimney. If you have a
• 55:07
  Speaker 3: five place, you have a chimney.
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: Oh so when is it?
• 55:09
  Speaker 6: Where is that in the attics?
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: You know what?
• 55:11
  Speaker 3: I've never seen the chimney, John, If I got a chimney,
• 55:15
  Speaker 3: youth exactly?
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: An electric five place?
• 55:17
  Speaker 4: Though?
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: Oh see, now how you do that? You have a chimney, sir?
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: What an electric five place? Yes? I don't know.
• 55:24
  Speaker 6: And we know about houses.
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: I know when we don't got Santa Claus. Okay, I
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: know we ain't got that. I know that much.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: I hate this place, man, all right, it's the Breakfast Club.
• 55:32
  Speaker 3: Good morning morning everybody in stej n V, Jess, Hilarious,
• 55:36
  Speaker 3: Charlamagne and the God.
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: We are the Breakfast Club. You got a special guests.
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: In the bat Man, who I feel like him and
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: Jess have one of the best co parenting relationships I've
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: ever seen.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: Room is Hell, Room is here. I got already Room
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: you Wow, what happened?
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: Just saying I want to know who gave Room some
• 55:53
  Speaker 3: liquid this morning? And I was like, I ain't give
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: it to abody, just told them where the ball was. Yes,
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: help you help yourself.
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: That's fine.
• 56:00
  Speaker 7: You said it was apple juice, and so I was
• 56:03
  Speaker 7: about to take a step and I was like, I
• 56:04
  Speaker 7: was not.
• 56:05
  Speaker 13: You already knew it one apple juice. I just ain't
• 56:07
  Speaker 13: thank you. Was gonna pick the cup up?
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: You and just have the best parents in situation I've
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: ever witnessed. How did y'all get to this point?
• 56:13
  Speaker 4: There?
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: And she thinks she's my mother first and foremost, But
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: it took time. I felt like when you take the.
• 56:19
  Speaker 13: Feelings out of it and you realize that the child
• 56:23
  Speaker 13: is the most important part of the relationship, because it's
• 56:26
  Speaker 13: still a reallyship.
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: Whether you're intimate or not, you can do magical things.
• 56:31
  Speaker 13: Magical things, And I think that me being a dad
• 56:34
  Speaker 13: that I was and that I am still today, I
• 56:37
  Speaker 13: wanted that.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: I felt like if.
• 56:38
  Speaker 13: We wasn't gonna be together, it was more need for
• 56:40
  Speaker 13: us to be. We've created over time. Whereas now she's
• 56:44
  Speaker 13: my best friend, she's my safe space. I feel like
• 56:47
  Speaker 13: when I convent to her because sometimes all the time
• 56:50
  Speaker 13: I need it. But I feel like when I was
• 56:52
  Speaker 13: pouring into these other women, they would use against me.
• 56:56
  Speaker 13: Whereas though now now that she's pregnant, I don't really
• 57:00
  Speaker 13: call it and say certain things because I know she's
• 57:02
  Speaker 13: going through certain things mentally now. So Ess is always
• 57:05
  Speaker 13: with my safe space though, so it's like she's always
• 57:07
  Speaker 13: been a person that I go to a call give
• 57:10
  Speaker 13: me advice, some advice I don't take, but just to hear,
• 57:13
  Speaker 13: but just to hear her give it to you, just
• 57:15
  Speaker 13: to know that she cared, because.
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: Like, man, I don't really have nobody. How did y'all,
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: how did y'all meet? How did you meet Jesson? How
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: did y'all start dating? Back then? Did you see it
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: when it was.
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: Like, oh, this is this is somebody I want to
• 57:25
  Speaker 3: it's crazy because we grew up on the he'starting to smile.
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: He goes back, No, because my mom, my mom was alive.
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: My mom down was a tenth. My mom was alive.
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: We went to the same church. My mom died.
• 57:36
  Speaker 13: My father like really took me away from everybody. So
• 57:39
  Speaker 13: now it was like fast forward. I'm like seventeen Facebook
• 57:43
  Speaker 13: and she came across my timeline. I was like, okay,
• 57:47
  Speaker 13: so I did a dot dot dot and I put
• 57:50
  Speaker 13: a basketball.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: Emoses you thought she was a w just shut up.
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: He played with you, but she bid on a tick.
• 58:00
  Speaker 13: I think I was like, I'm just coming to get
• 58:02
  Speaker 13: my ball. Coming to get was mine something?
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: And you wat a basketball room. I needed to know.
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: I've seen it somewhere. Basketball. No, I seen somebody do that. Like,
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: I don't know what I seen. Basketball is eleven year,
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: twelve years ago. So I'm like, I don't know.
• 58:18
  Speaker 13: I I did it because I thought it was it
• 58:20
  Speaker 13: was corny, but I thought it was you know, but
• 58:22
  Speaker 13: it worked.
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: It got our test. What do you think just when
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: you saw the basketball, I just.
• 58:26
  Speaker 7: Said I just typed that back and like he said,
• 58:30
  Speaker 7: it was my ball, it's my ball, and I'm coming
• 58:32
  Speaker 7: to get I'm coming to get it or something like
• 58:34
  Speaker 7: I'm coming to get.
• 58:35
  Speaker 6: With mine And I was like, okay, what's up.
• 58:37
  Speaker 7: I knew what that was, giving what it was about it,
• 58:41
  Speaker 7: but it worked.
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: It worked. So you started talking, Where was your first date?
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: What was your first when you started first talking?
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: What was your honest? Man, jas did a lot.
• 58:50
  Speaker 13: I'm gonna say this, before a lot of these young
• 58:53
  Speaker 13: guys became Jody, I was Jody and that first date,
• 59:02
  Speaker 13: big date. I'm gonna say it was six flags.
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, doing it big.
• 59:08
  Speaker 13: But before that we did a lot of other things.
• 59:10
  Speaker 13: But after that it was we did a lot. Like
• 59:12
  Speaker 13: she introduced me to a lot. Actually we both it
• 59:15
  Speaker 13: was the same age, but she helped make me become God,
• 59:19
  Speaker 13: you're becoming a man, feming the man and then yeah,
• 59:22
  Speaker 13: then boom.
• 59:23
  Speaker 3: I just always says that you are you were overprotective,
• 59:26
  Speaker 3: make sure she was good.
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: But she always said, you can't fight. Oh my god, no,
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: she never seen me fight. Had we thought?
• 59:33
  Speaker 6: I got that from.
• 59:37
  Speaker 13: I'm not want to fight her. Bro Oh, it's crazy
• 59:39
  Speaker 13: because I just got a picture from the window.
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: You bust the minds one window? Would I fist What
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: what happened? You can't be her? And if she could
• 59:49
  Speaker 2: break a window from a fist out when you're trying
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: to fight, what happened?
• 59:52
  Speaker 14: Wrong?
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: To take a sip thinking about that?
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 13: My step like, Jessica pull up, mindu eate together. Jessica
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 13: pulls up. I had a girl in the house. So
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 13: my brother like, come to the top of the steps.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: Like just at the door. I'm like, all right here
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: I come. You don't even wait for me to come.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: He let her, He let her in. Oh boy, I
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: walked right past him and his friends with the girl.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: That's the good end step.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 13: But what did I see when I walked down the steps? Jerne,
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 13: you didn't see so and then she tries to passage
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 13: this story.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: Ashton, I had a portable.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 13: Rocking bashing that where I could put it in the trunk,
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 13: send it to her, bring it back. Ashton was in
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 13: a portable rocking joint. Me and the girl was on
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 13: the on the bed. I had on basketball short, she
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 13: had on her uniform pasts. She gonna say, she's been
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 13: saying this.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 6: Is correct.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: She's a correctional officer.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 13: So like she's sitting she's facing me, but her legs
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 13: is like, you know how that goes to come down and.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 2: Says she keeps she gonna say, oh, we was naked.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: We was not naked. It been happening. I don't get
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: when she topped it up. Oh my gosh. She's never
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: gonna tell anyway, she banged the girl, beat up the girl.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: She didn't beat up, bang popped and I picked up
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: and walked up stairs and through outside.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 6: You could never lift me.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: You never see what I'm saying. He never wants to.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: She never wants to admit the truth. On the field.
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: Couldn't fight. No, I ain't.
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  Speaker 6: Fight or not.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 7: But she the one time and then she she put
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 7: on her uniform and went unless went upstairs. I promise you,
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 7: I wish it was the cat that that. No, my
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 7: son was not in no portable nothing. He was on
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 7: the floor on a blanket and the cat was looking
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 7: at him like he wanted.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: To eat him.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 13: Yes, under the carpet. So I will never lay my
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 13: I wouldn't even lay on the floor.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: About this eleven. She never want to tell you. She
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: was drunk out of her mind. And I'm trying to
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 2: figure out whoever was just getting off work. Just damn
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 2: a joke. You didn't.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 7: Damn you didn't just get off where he was fired
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 7: at that time. So I got fired right after that.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 7: I was working at McDonald's. That's when I was stealing
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 7: this is and then if I was drinking, okay, I
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 7: was rinking on the joe, but I was at work.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 7: So and then I came to get my son and
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 7: did not.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: Come get your son because it was my weekend. So
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: what I was getting until Monday from day kid? Why
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: would you coming now? He was coming to be nosy.
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 6: I didn't have to come to you.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 2: Was looking at a passinger with you to get.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 13: She because go home eleven, old man, that's my job.
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 13: How did you break the women shut off her hand?
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 13: You walked out this car? No, I threw ass out.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 6: Not that you was not that strong.
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: You did not. Yeah, I mean I had you and
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: it was steps right then.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 6: Had never ever eaten right now, could not do that
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 6: the window.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 7: I was just really really because he wouldn't give me
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 7: my son. Don't give me my son. You called the police.
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: I'm the police.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 6: Call the police.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: Never called the police. Yeah, I call the police.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 6: I went to jail that night.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: Everybody everybody here is well, I'm from the jailer.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 6: Is right there, right around the corner.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: You can walk. It's they walked to. I don't know
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: how they came.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 7: He called the police on me and then going, and
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 7: then when the police came, I was I just sat
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 7: in my car.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: I was mad.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 7: I was like, no, I can't move here to get
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 7: my son. And Nicole did tell me your come on
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 7: is pull off. He's not giving you the baby. He
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 7: not giving you the baby.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 6: I was like, all right, cool, but I was mad,
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 6: so I didn't pull off.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 7: Police paddy wagon pulled up and got out, and you
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 7: was like, she right there.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 13: I try to get you. How did I try to
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 13: get you locked up? When I'm the same one call
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 13: try to bail you out with no money?
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 6: I don't know why you ever thought you could bild
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 6: somebody out with sleep that night trying to.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 2: Check this out. You have a bit you ever went
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: through a woman phone? Of course? Could you eat after that?
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 15: Yes?
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: You could?
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 13: Well I couldn't. I'm comparing that to when she went
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 13: to jail. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, you know,
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 13: and thick I was sick.
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: I didn't I didn't want jail. I call the.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: Police, so Now when you hear this story and you
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: say to yourself, why they there on national co parenting
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: because they are like the best of friends. Now they
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: call each other. Jeff calls you her brother. How do
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: you feel about that?
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: How did y'all get there? Do you look at her
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: like your sister?
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 7: You said, Mama, I was going to say what she
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 7: said created that like my mother.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: Like when we are out of town, like my main't
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 2: gonna disclose too much, but thanks she my mam.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 13: No, I just know like the control like she know
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 13: how I am though, like me and alone, I think
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 13: part of that controlling pause.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 2: Like she cares.
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 13: And sometimes especially when I'm under the influence, I've done
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 13: dumb ash so as.
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 2: Good as you know that you can, I don't know.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: I just assist in the back.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 13: Everybody like you know, everybody knows, but I hold myself
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 13: accountable to that mind you Now, I ain't gonna say
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 13: you I learned from woman stick cause I can die
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 13: a dumbash over and over again. But I think in
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 13: that aspect, that's when the mother of the mother with
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 13: the v coming but the.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: Brother called me brother and sister. We're like honestly without
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: the child like it's there.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 13: It seemed like Amazon camera's off, like you can't fake this,
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 13: will make this up?
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 7: Oh yeah, Rome started that room started calling me sis first,
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 7: and then I started calling him bro. I you know,
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 7: I'm like, yeah, we do have like a sibling dynamic
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 7: in some way. You know, he's still confides in my mom.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 7: He like, my mom is our mother? Like it's not
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 7: it ain't nothing crazy, it's nothing intimate. Like seriously, I
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 7: always say this. People be like, yeah, right, I can
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 7: literally walk past and I don't do this, but what
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 7: I'm saying, I can walk past this man nigked and
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 7: he does. They be like, girl, what like pick that out?
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 7: I'm talking about seriously, like.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 2: How do y'all know each other's spouse's or each other's
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: boyfriend and girlfriend? Like how do you deal with his girl?
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 2: And how do you deal with five?
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 7: I never told you always try.
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 13: It's cool though, it's cool, but this is this and
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 13: now this was the friction part. Now we got over that,
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 13: but this the fric The friction part was I my Betdess.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: I don't getting her.
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 13: But the friction part was her getting into minds. But
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 13: she's still a woman. I'm still a man, So women
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 13: tend to do that.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 2: And this is not no shame of women.
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 13: I don't mean no disrespect by saying it, but I
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 13: think women tend to do that, especially a woman that.
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 2: Care about you.
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 3: She said, sometimes you make bad decisions and she's there
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 3: as your sister to make sure you're good, regardless if
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 3: it's life relationship or whatever.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: Correct said that.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 13: With me personally, I never really like I talked to
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 13: about certain things, but I never really liked my family
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 13: to get into no intimate situation. Yeah, because guess what,
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 13: y'all feel a way about this person. However, I want
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 13: whether it's negative of good. If I'm gonna deal with
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 13: this person, I'm gonna deal with like mal can smash
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 13: it out me yesterday, mm hmmm, I might get over them.
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 13: But it's like that's why I always That's how I
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 13: was always able to distinguish the two. Like when Jessica
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 13: will have men when she comes to me, like I
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 13: don't know, like I ain't never pillow talking or sneak
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 13: dish or nothing like I don't really care for Like,
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 13: it ain't nothing that I don't if you put it
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 13: in that sense. But when she come to me with
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 13: a man, I tell her ain't right.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: But both of y'all got because you're gonna want to
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: know who around your son.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 13: I never did, yeah, I never so in the beginning stage, yeah,
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 13: don't have my summer.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: But I grew out of that.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 13: So now it's I trust my child mom enough to
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 13: she won't bring no fast around my child. So I
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 13: don't say, oh, don't have this. That's never been a problem.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 13: It has been a problem was because envy me.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: Except for my last.
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 13: Doge my dogs.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 2: Who who's the dog? My dog, Chris, Chris, Chris my dog,
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 2: my dog. I ain't gonna hold he.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 13: I think he's the I think like man, honestly me
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 13: and jesss man like. I think it's in times where
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 13: a woman didn't like me and her situation.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 7: But guess what, bye, Yeah more so on and yeah
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 7: it'll be more so on his end because it's much
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 7: more of them. But the thing is, the thing is
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 7: like I don't like when because I even tell him
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 7: what he's doing wrong too, Like, yo, don't cheer her
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 7: like that?
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 6: This is how how how you going to introduce me
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 6: to it?
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 2: Now?
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 7: I done got to know where you know, and whether
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 7: she had a kid or not. Most of the time.
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 7: It's the ones that have the kids. But it's like, yo,
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 7: you gotta do right or just be single, Like, don't
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 7: keep hurting women in the process of trying to find
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 7: what you're looking for. I mean, I know that's all
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 7: a part of dating, but when you have kids, it's different,
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 7: you know.
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 6: And then he be like, oh, that's why I don't
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 6: like you to be getting into it, you know.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 7: And then I don't like he attracts a lot of
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 7: toxic women to like abusive relationships where women will put
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 7: their hands on them. I'm like, what, all right, you know,
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 7: but he don't. He's like, no, but I might be
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 7: of the mom what she just blacks your eye?
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 6: What are you talking about? You know what I'm saying, like, no,
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 6: we're not doing it.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: But Claire, I never had a black guy.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 6: Okay, well she busts her nose whatever.
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 7: Women have put their hands on you, and that's why.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 13: And that's why she's my dog, Like I think she's
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 13: the only one really honestly, the one to get the
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 13: under my skin. Like it's a certain wordplace she used
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 13: and I don't care what tone she used it in,
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 13: but to say that, it's like I was really never
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 13: tolt how to love.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 2: When I moved my dad, my dad moved.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 13: My dad and my step mom, which is my mom
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 13: now and my mom have a great relationship.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 2: That's my step mom and my dad was married.
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 13: But my dad was cheating, like saying, like my dad,
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 13: my dad showing me that I'm thinking cool. So like
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 13: when even when I started dealing with women and stuff
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 13: like that, multiple women and all that, my dad was like, yeah, absolutely,
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 13: and I'm thinking it's cool because that's how you're being
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 13: That's that's what I'm saying. I'm being taught like and
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 13: every man in my life that I looked at as
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 13: a role model to me was the same way.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 2: So it's like what you expect.
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 13: But the good thing is now it's like I'm old
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 13: enough now in mind you I ain't perfect.
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: Now I'm seeing it. I'm trying to, you know, change it.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 13: But I've never was taught to love properly. So and
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 13: I never my trust issues up from my dad because
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 13: I'm seeing what he's doing. But I'm saying when it's
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 13: done to him, his reactions like damn, you were just
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 13: doing this, How you're gonna get mad?
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 13: So it's like every relationship I've went into. I had
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 13: an exploration date me, I put an xtray on myself.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 13: I said, she's gonna get, she gonna get get what
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 13: I'm getting.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: I'm gone.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 13: So I've never really gave a woman the commitment, not
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 13: even commitment, but I've never give the woman a chance
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 13: to really love me. But even with the kids, like
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 13: even having kids, No, I haven't. And this is like
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 13: I said, no distrest to my children, moms. A lot
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 13: of my my children came out of vulnerability, explain found
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 13: on that and explaining that. So I will meet a
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 13: woman who I may feel like she's what I need,
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 13: another safe place or whatever the case may be. But
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 13: I'm already vulnerable from a previous relationship. I have a child,
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 13: knowing I don't want to be with this woman, but
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 13: I feel like I'm forced to be with it because
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 13: it's a child.
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 2: MM and I've done that.
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: You know multiple times times you needed a therapist, not
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: another baby, Mam.
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 13: I need correct they at the time of me, at
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 13: the time in vulnerability. You know women, you know women,
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 13: women can they be masked up. But like I never
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 13: really knew how to be alone. Like I feel like
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 13: I got to have somebody laying next to me, because
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 13: even before my mom died, my mom always sleep naked.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: This is a back then thing.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 13: How old were you, I was telling, But I was
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 13: a mommy's boy. Did you ever did you ever really
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 13: properly so grieving?
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 9: No?
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 13: I never really a grieved. All I did was I
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 13: thought it was gonna help me by going to school
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 13: for social work because that's what she was. But I
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 13: never really probably grieve, and that's a that's a process.
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 2: Now. I do want to get, you know, back in
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 2: the gym.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 13: I do want to get a therapist, but don't want
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 13: everything else around me to be intact so that I
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 13: could fully commit, because if I ain't fully committed, it
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 13: ain't gonna work.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: How did y'all that's the most I think, the most
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: I won't say most important, one of the most important things.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: How did y'all realize we don't have feelings for each other?
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 9: No?
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: More?
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: Like? How did that just go away? Like y'all have
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: y'all love each other? But not that way?
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 13: I got my answer, you want to go first, you
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 13: can go first, because I'm still thinking when I stopped
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 13: caring about who she dealt with, when I wouldn't even like.
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't even care, Like how long did that take?
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 4: Oh?
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: Three years? Like when action was like.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 13: Three it was still really yeah, it was like three years.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 13: But at that but honestly that three years, like I
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 13: had caught a big check, so it was like, you know,
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 13: I was almost half a million dollars, So it was
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 13: like the pain that I had. Whatever the case be,
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 13: I would I would pay. I would have like just
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 13: bot block it out. But other than that, like.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 2: You ain't trying to ftund on her a little? No,
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: I never, no, I never, no, I never. I'm waiting
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 2: for that. I never intentionally stunned on her. I never
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 2: did that. Never. I did everything she possibly could ask
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 2: me to do. She said on.
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 13: One of these souls something about a B G. E bill,
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 13: And I'm address that I never wanted. I'm addressed that
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 13: now with the bill. So so i'ma explaining her lights
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 13: got cut off.
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 2: I got a five hundred thousand dollars checking Listen.
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 13: No, it wasn't right then and there, but it's over time,
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 13: mind you, like mind a lot of my places, she
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 13: helped me. She helped me get a lot on the
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 13: back end. But in a time like I helped her.
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 13: Whatever the case, I didn't know she's moving with a man.
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 6: I didn't move with the man.
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 13: Well she moved man in with her. Yeah, all right, okay,
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 13: he had you and the.
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 2: Dog too, no before in my business, so I don't
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 2: know that he's not there.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 13: So boom, here's his So here's here's here's my logic,
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 13: and I'm gonna say what I'm gonna say to her
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 13: after I playing it.
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 2: My logic was, all right, man is in the house. Boom,
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 2: eager cut off. So she like, was wrong. I'm like, well, I.
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 13: Take my son with me. But that wasn't me talking.
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 13: That was the girlfriend I had talking. Oh a, I
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 13: never told you that because as a woman, you ain't
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 13: trying to hear that, and as well as a man
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 13: and you be and me, I.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 2: Don't want to hear that.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 13: So I didn't want to tell you that because I
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 13: have felt less of a man. So yeah, but now.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 2: I understand them.
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 3: If somebody else is smacking the cheeks, listen.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 2: So the girlfriend was So the girlfriend.
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 6: Was like, don't talk about no house ahead.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 2: So the girlfriend was like, I took a certain amount
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 2: of money up the bank. I did.
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  Speaker 13: She was with me, She like, why are you giving
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  Speaker 13: it to Jessica. I'm like, cause she needed and she like,
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  Speaker 13: I never said them here. I never said the reason.
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  Speaker 13: I never said the reason. Yeah, yeah, I never said
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  Speaker 13: the reason though. She was like, what exactly do she needs?
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  Speaker 13: Because I know you ain't giving her. No, she don't
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  Speaker 13: need a bag and nothing like that. I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 13: it's something else. She's like, well, don't she got to
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  Speaker 13: living with her? And mind you, I'm drinking at the time.
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  Speaker 2: You're thinking the same thing. I'm like, we.
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  Speaker 6: Weren't even thinking that till she said it.
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't thinking that, but I'm drinking and I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 2: what You're right?
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  Speaker 1: Why you ain't a just though crazy people phone say
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  Speaker 1: because I was a young emotional boy who had.
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  Speaker 6: Just ran it to a bunch of money and with.
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  Speaker 2: That, I'm hurt. Hurt young man got a lot of money.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody got some money. I'm doing make myself happy, and
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  Speaker 2: that's how.
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  Speaker 7: I broke everybody except me.
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  Speaker 2: That was what I was like, and granted.
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  Speaker 13: Right now on today, I'm gonna say I truly, sincerely
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  Speaker 13: apologized for not taking care of you the way I
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  Speaker 13: should have.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm gonna take my glasses because for a long time.
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  Speaker 13: That hurt me, and it's like I never ever, ever,
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  Speaker 13: especially never ever ever ever meant to do that to you.
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  Speaker 13: And it's like, now, that's why even I worked so
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  Speaker 13: hard today and just try to even just give you something.
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  Speaker 2: But in due time that should come back. I ain't
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 13: I hadn't made that back when broke again, made it
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  Speaker 13: back broke again. But my biggest downfall, the comments denominator,
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  Speaker 13: was alcohol and women. Them two problems never allowed me
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  Speaker 13: to really freach my full potential, even when I seen
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  Speaker 13: it a couple of years ago. You've seen it twenty
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  Speaker 13: nineteen when I was single. When I went moved back
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  Speaker 13: by myself, I ran flourished, but if women holding me back. Man,
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  Speaker 13: I'm sorry that I didn't do what I was supposed
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  Speaker 13: to do and a lot of more. Dude, I wasn't
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  Speaker 13: the job the when you done.
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  Speaker 2: I felt that I was gonna do it, but because
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  Speaker 2: I had certain people.
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  Speaker 13: In my in my ear that I thought had their
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  Speaker 13: best interest in me, but when the bag ran out,
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  Speaker 13: they left.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry. Not a sorry person.
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  Speaker 7: I apologize, Okay, I appreciate that, but listen, I was
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  Speaker 7: not I was talking to you and he moved in
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  Speaker 7: months after. You think he was gonna move into a
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  Speaker 7: dark house. You think you think I wanted to see
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  Speaker 7: how I was living. No, And when you said, I
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  Speaker 7: asked you, like, yo, can you just get my my
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  Speaker 7: lights on? I'll pay you back. That's when I was
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 7: scamming and doing all that shit. That got slow too,
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  Speaker 7: So I'm like, all right, you was like, no, I
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  Speaker 7: take my son. Nobody taking my kid, not even as far.
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 7: Like as long as Asha instead of the dark, we
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  Speaker 7: was good, you know what I'm saying. Like I still
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 7: had candles, we was playing, We was doing all that.
• 1:17:27
  Speaker 7: We would stay outside until it went until it got dark,
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 7: and then we were going in the house. And him
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  Speaker 7: he ain't never asked me why the lights ain't coming on.
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 7: It don't matter. So as long as he was good,
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 7: I was good. I just wanted to be able, you
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  Speaker 7: know what I'm saying, and just be like, yo, get
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  Speaker 7: my life and.
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  Speaker 2: You should have.
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  Speaker 13: Well guess what that made you a demon? And when
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 13: I say demon, I said, in the best way, that
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 13: turned you up. And I got to teach my kid,
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 13: especially my oldest boy, might leve me, yo, bro, like
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 13: I don't want you to go through something bad to
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  Speaker 13: learn a lesson.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think.
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  Speaker 13: Everybody should have to go through something bad and learn
• 1:17:58
  Speaker 13: a lesson. But in your case, I feel like, yeah,
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  Speaker 13: that put that battery in your back. You know, when
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 13: that battery came in your back, you ain't it ain't
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  Speaker 13: treat me no way. It took still a minute for
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  Speaker 13: us to create that.
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  Speaker 2: Bond, but y'all have it now. And I think y'all
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 2: should give each other some grades because y'all yeah, and
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 2: I always was a hurt young man, so right. I
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  Speaker 2: love the story.
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  Speaker 3: It shows the foundation and how and how y'all treat
• 1:18:26
  Speaker 3: each other.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I don't know you, but the way she
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 3: talks about you on the radio, and and like you said,
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 3: she is a mother, She protects you, she holds you down.
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  Speaker 2: I just love to see it.
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  Speaker 12: You know.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll be telling us that I'm talking about room
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  Speaker 1: like that, like why you be talking about But I
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 1: get it.
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  Speaker 2: She don't mean no.
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  Speaker 13: Harm, but she don't, like I said, man, like I
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 13: wish a lot of other people would take from us.
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 13: And that's why to be on TV, that's why you're
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 13: writing a book, book coming, Everything coming, Everything coming.
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  Speaker 1: I think the most important thing because I don't want
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 1: you to save a lot of this, but what's the
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: most important thing.
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  Speaker 2: It takes the cole parents.
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 1: Y'all just leave leaving on that because the National co
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 1: Parenting Day, Yo, I.
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  Speaker 6: Started up communication.
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 7: Like a lot of people be scared to hurt each
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 7: other feelings, and a lot of people be afraid to
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 7: have uncomfortable conversations, whether it's about kids, unhashed differences whatever.
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 7: Like one day me and Rome just literally met up
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 7: and just we just talked about everything that, you.
• 1:19:26
  Speaker 6: Know, he felt like I did him wrong in certain situations, and.
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 7: Then he felt like like I will always try because
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 7: he says I'm controlling a lot, and I do take that,
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 7: you know what I'm saying, Yeah, I own that idea,
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 7: Like I was trying to control how he parents sometimes,
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 7: like how he.
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 6: Would raise Ash and all of that type of stuff.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 7: We just put everything on the table and just it's
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 7: just like all right, you're moving forward, cause it's really
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 7: about Ash, right, And that's really like when we after that,
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 7: it was like no looking back, It's like all right, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Cool.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure it's a discussion that will continue on, not
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 1: even just amongst you know, just in Rome, but this month.
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 1: Anybody out there, you're dealing with coparents and issue. But
• 1:20:03
  Speaker 1: I think Rome, you know, Rome is talking to a
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  Speaker 1: lot of different issues that a lot of us men go.
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  Speaker 2: Through, you know what I mean. So I'm happy that
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  Speaker 2: you was vulnerable this morning. Right, that's right, you know
• 1:20:11
  Speaker 2: what I mean.
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 1: And their book is coming soon, be a black privilege
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  Speaker 1: posa simon the shoes.
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  Speaker 2: All right, well it's wrong.
• 1:20:19
  Speaker 3: Yes, it's the Breakfast Club the morning. It's time for positive.
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 2: Note what we got positive?
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  Speaker 1: Notice simply this man, be careful what you wish for
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 1: uthers because it just might get to you.
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 1: To wish bad things for somebody else is actually like
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 1: looking for something bad to happen to you. Because when
• 1:20:35
  Speaker 1: you wish bad calm on somebody else, you bring bad
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 1: calm on yourself. Okay, you are consuming and bringing in
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 1: negative vibes into your life.
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 2: Instead, be the person you wish they were.
• 1:20:44
  Speaker 1: Be the person who brings only positive thoughts and good
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 1: vibes into their own life, because being negative yourself will
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 1: only bring negative into your life. Don't poison yourself hoping
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 1: somebody else will die. All right, Breakfast Club, finish for y'all,
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 1: Wake you up you quick that ass up program your
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