Polite Words, Real Exclusion

The Spectrum · Feb 6, 2026 · 10m

In this episode, Linda shares a recent personal experience as the first episode of the 2026 season. After offering to help test a remote astronomy setup at a friend’s request, she was unexpectedly declined—not because of her skills, but because of discomfort with pronouns and LGBTQ-related links in her email signature.

Through a close reading of the email exchange and her response, Linda reflects on the difference between political disagreement and homophobia, and how politeness can still function as exclusion. She explores what it means to avoid engagement entirely, what gets lost when…